WOMEN WHO FOUND OUT THEY WERE GIVEN 'SHUT UP' RINGS🤦

[@cassandrarobins786]

Oh, hell no! To beg a man to marry you is so sad. Girl, love yourself.

[@cathylake9072]

She has 3 young kids by this man until they are grown no decent man is going to marry her 99% of the time. If she leaves he will probably just move on to another desperate woman and get her pregnant too so that she gets even less, if he does not totally disappear like many have. Love has nothing to do with it... It is survival at this point, can she survive without his financial and physical support or not???

[@tiahnagrace6325]

@@cathylake9072 Two things can be true at once. In these cases the woman is desperate to marry the baby daddy cuz they want to. They’ve already been surviving as a baby momma, and the baby daddy has been doing his part, so marrying for survival is not a main reason here. We really gotta stop making excuses for this behavior, cuz the man is gonna do what he wants married or not.

[@LKauf279]

@@cathylake9072It’s over for her now! She ruined her personal life and it will never be the same.

[@cathylake9072]

@@tiahnagrace6325 in some communities it is still shameful for her and the kids to walk around and go to school never married to the father.

[@RestlessNoMore]

Once that man said I haven’t found anyone to marry I would have snapped.

[@cowoverthemoo]

He most probably always "joking" and doesn't want marry anyone. I've never wanted to get married..my parents put me off together 60 years and arguing for 58 years plus lol

[@mskabue]

@@cowoverthemoowell this man isn't joking at all🌚sis

[@Dawn4j]

Exactly he wasn't joking! But she assumed he was, when he was telling the truth. 🤦🏾‍♀️​@@mskabue

[@beepbopboop7727]

Nah I just would walk out. Public humiliation.

[@LulaMaximeMorales]

I would have LEFT. And nobody would never have seen this.footage.

[@beepbopboop7727]

She chose to be a mother of three to a man that doesn’t care about her. That is on HER.

[@icsharpk]

I’ve lived long enough to say it’s obv easier said than done, baby. Hope it doesn’t happen to you. Unf so many of the women who were regurgitating these rp narratives are now living w regret… you’re right, it is on the woman. Even after being married almost twenty years, ik things can change & ppl change. As they should. As the world turns tho 😆

[@beepbopboop7727]

@@icsharpk Its easier said than done, its its harder done than not done. Make better choices for a better life.

[@sg5720]

Agreed.

[@TNT31414]

No it’s on both of them.

[@icsharpk]

@@beepbopboop7727 reading & comprehension is a better choice than taking one line; one situation; one person… ahh I hope you’re a teen.

[@DJRenee]

Men Will WASTE YOUR TIME.

[@HosCreates]

Bad men will waste your time

[@beepbopboop7727]

Women will waste their own time.

[@2stayweird]

The 1st time I got engaged was a "shut up ring". I think he knew I wasn't happy and wanted to leave, so that was his way to reel me back in. The funny part is when he was proposing I blurted out "shut up!" lmao. We lived together for a year after that, and made zero plans for a wedding. When I finally asked him about it, he was like "I don't care, you can decide all that".... sir I am not marrying myself! I left him shortly after. If you're not happy in your relationship, and they suddenly propose-- RUN.

[@mskabue]

@@2stayweird facts 💯

[@ameliaq.7481]

When she whined, "$128, that's all it takes" she sounded like one of those ads where they plead with you to donate to hungry children. 😔

[@mskabue]

😂😂😂👋🏽

[@microbito66]

😂😂😭😭

[@YourbelleKnits-j6r]

That dude said he hasn’t found anyone to marry.

[@thecalmingspace7242]

This is just sad!!! It's heartbreaking. I know someone who asked her husband to marry her. His response? "May as well..."

[@nena_gz]

Sounds like that Jagged Edge song... 🎼 "We ain't getting no younger, we might as well doooo it."🎵 🙄

[@chinneynz7861]

Damn!!!!!!

[@HosCreates]

Shut up rings are like participation trophies, useless! I dated a man who I really liked and wanted to be with. His ex finace started attending our college. He found out and realized that he wasnt over her he was like" I wanna be with you but i still love her. " I told him "I'm not playing second to her you chose me or her" he chose her and it hurt. But I found my husband after who chose me first.

[@rocio292]

$128 She might as well have begged him to buy a her a ring pop because "it's only 99 cents" but will that make a difference? Oh and his response says-it-ALL ...I HAVEN'T FOUND ANYONE TO MARRY YET!! MEANING YOU'RE NOT THE ONEEEEE!!!!!!!

[@susan-7865]

Insulting!

[@DJRenee]

​@@susan-7865he was telling the truth.

[@HosCreates]

If a man said that to me I'd run away.

[@helenmoss9740]

Yup. He told her who he is. Now, she needs to believe him.

[@Laoriginal718]

The cost of the ring doesn’t matter. The amount you spend on a ring doesn’t determine the success of your marriage.

[@jodiburnett6211]

A woman has a 9 year old daughter and a 6 year old son told me about her live-in baby daddy, “We can’t afford a wedding yet.” Come on.

[@HosCreates]

A piece of paper and a courthouse visit doesn't cost alot. She's wasted her life

[@alomaalber6514]

It could be a nice picnic in a park with a fine dress from a thrift store, dry clean it. That would not cost much and have a pal make the cake and someone bring a camera. It would be lovely. Court house is about $30 for the license, dress $50, dry cleaning $25 or any other dress and picnic food $40. there. priceless.

[@susan-7865]

When I was in my prime years if the guy told me he doesn't want to marry me and have kids, I wouldn't date this guy!

[@sg5720]

EXACTLY- I ghosted so many guys cause they were not serious about their future. I’m a woman I don’t have time to play around. If you don’t see a solid commitment in the near future I don’t want to be your girlfriend.

[@MMAStriking]

I would act like that at any age

[@latuba27]

Fr I let it be known on the beginning I look for long term and marriage if a man says you pressuring me or let's see how this goes gets cut off and I'm 31 going on 32 men can't say I trick or trap them you want me or you dont but dont stand in the way of the man who actually does want me it seems harsh and firm but I had people have me as a placeholder narc ect and I take accountability for being gullible cause men was always romanticized so I learned a lot this the hard way but yet not married no kids have a man I'm alright but I make it clear from jump I want long term and marriage if you dont want that that's fine but dont waste either of our time cause a lot of men i came across wanted a baby wayyyy before marriage that's always the tale sign when he talks about babies(being his bm) more than marriage(wife) get away real shit 💯💯 -Lachelle

[@blaqwabbit]

1-2 months/ weeks just sounds like love bombing and delusion. We barely know each other

[@justanotherjezebeI]

I agree that if they propose in that time frame it's totally love bombing, but a lot of guys I know who are happily married have made the decision about a woman, or have had the "ah ha, she's the one" moment, within that time frame and spent the next year or two proving that he'd be worth saying yes to.

[@earthynomad7160]

In my culture, we dont date so if a man approach a girl. he Better be asking for her dad's number to propose. That's how things are .but i understand how things are different in the west​@justanotherjezebeI

[@nene6415]

@@earthynomad7160based off of looks or ? Can you give a little more information on why things are like that, just curious.

[@goldenlioness868]

Had it happen to me by a woman and I’m a woman. She couldn’t understand why I was put off. I knew I was being love bombed. It was less than two months.

[@candace9560]

Right sometimes he be trolling lol. Weeks or a month is too soon

[@YukaAkemi]

that woman in the car who got proposed to, i feel so bad for her, she was so correct the whole time, i wanna tell her she is so right and im proud of her for rejecting him on the spot, now leave his ass

[@Isnt_She_Lovely4015]

We as women have to start taking accountability. Men do this because we’ve played house for so many years without commitment. That’s on us. 1 child, it happens but 3 kids in yea that’s on us. I too had to learn to stop loving based off of “ potential” and start loving based off what they are truly doing/showing.

[@Laoriginal718]

1 child? It happens? Kids don’t just happen. There’s no excuse for having ANY kids out of wedlock. It’s called abstinence, celibacy, condoms and birth control.

[@missfreda7374]

I concur!

[@EmpressWanderlust]

At this point he knows she’s locked in and he played her out of sharing assets in a divorce settlement, since there’s no marriage. That’s what you get for not having standards!

[@Grandma_Jizzzzzzzard]

I can 100% confirm that you should never, ever, ever buy property with someone you are not married to. Buy it for yourself. My ex and I bought a home together and I ended up losing everything I put into the home because I didn't want Drawn out legal bullshit so I just gave him my half of the house. It all worked out in the end and we are still good friends, but it had the potential to become a very nasty situation.

[@ameliagentle7873]

I'm glad you were able to work everything out!!

[@zoebarbie]

how are you still good friends if he took everything from you???

[@Grandma_Jizzzzzzzard]

@ he didn't take anything from me. I gave it to him. Otherwise, we would have become enemies and spent years and years wasting money in court.

[@obrnc0920]

@@zoebarbieshe’s good friends with him because she’s a better human than him. Because there’s no way anyone should not be able to sell the home and split the money amicably without shenanigans. She chose his friendship over the possession and he obviously would not have done the same. Sounds like it wasn’t that much money to be worth the headache and fight for her. I’m where you are hearing it Zoe but sometimes it’s not worth the L with these men 👎🏾👎🏾

[@tynaangelici3023]

That man is a pos for wasting her time knowing he didn’t want to marry her laid down and had kids with her. I hope she heals and finds some self respect and leaves his ass.

[@Leidyloveslibros]

I was with someone for 6 years and towards the end was miserable but I kept thinking "I already invested this much time, there is going to be a payoff, right?" WRONG. We broke up and he was engaged 6 months later to the woman he told me not to worry about... lesson learned.

[@Ace11113]

This is why you marry before you carry. You avoid the difficulties of leaving a man that’s using you for your labor. Don’t settle for that treatment. If you have no kids and he hasn’t given you a ring after a reasonable amount of time and he acts like this when you bring it up… RUN! He ain’t worth the effort.

[@susan-7865]

Every woman deserves a happy ending with men who wants , not force to marry them!

[@tamekadavis6641]

These guys just didn't put no thought in it. A cheap ring and some waited many years to pop the question. I'm not waiting a long time.💯

[@susan-7865]

12 years for the ring?, he's not going to marry you! Start over he's just going to waste your time further!

[@73cidalia]

I don't need a man to tell me I'm loved or pretty. I need a man to show me through his actions. Any fool can lie to you.

[@Sanderson5CLC]

I love being child-free and single. I love buying my own and every finger is adorned: The left ring finger is bare on purpose!

[@imgrateful7142]

I’ve been calling them that for two decades. I was given one after years together and one kid. 💍👶🏽 Yes, we got married, but it was still a shut up ring. By the time he set up our courthouse wedding (yes he planned it, picked our outfits and made it happen), I did nothing except show up. By this time, I really didn’t want to, but figured I might as well since we had a kid and so many years in. 👀 I grew up seeing many, many women living like this and claiming he was “committed” just because he was there. No virtue in long suffering, just a lot of resentment on both sides believe me.

[@dianabarbara2948]

If you could travel back to that day and meet your old self before you got married, would you tell yourself to get through and marry or would you advise yourself to walk away?

[@Laoriginal718]

You should be married after 2 years of dating and engaged no more than 6 months to a year. End of story. Stop living together before marriage. Stop having kids out of wedlock.

[@createoneself]

Girl what?

[@Aiichuux]

When a man settles for you; he looks down on you

[@ascendednightingale2456]

I have been married twice. About to separate from my current husband now. I’m NEVER marrying again. Something happens to the male brain when they get married that tells them they can just stop putting in effort.

[@Laoriginal718]

Children don’t make a family….MARRIAGE does. Having kids out of wedlock is a situation not a family.

[@lgv4065]

My friend bought her own "Shut Up" ring, planned and paid for the wedding herself. He did nothing, but show up. They now have a 10 yr old child and the guy has been sporadically employed the whole time. SMH

[@obrnc0920]

That’s how bad she wanted/wants to be “married”. Literally a single mom with 2 children. Make it make sense

[@Itsmemable]

Me and my fiancé have known each other four years dated for three and has been engaged since December and we will be married in September. 🙌🏾

[@mskabue]

Aah happy for you sis😘😊

[@EmpressWanderlust]

Respectfully, proposing after 2 years, means you’re the best option he had.

[@RedxRiot]

@@EmpressWanderlust, could be cuz of age or smth, my fiance proposed to me after almost 2 years but we were barely 20 and 21 lol any earlier would’ve been a little ridiculous since we would’ve been babies (arguably we still were but at least one of us was old enough to drink)

[@Froshow]

Or find a person on your same timeline. My husband and i dated and moved in together in six months. After that we agreed that at the four/five year mark we would marry or split. For whatever reasons we wanted, we would agree and go on. We also communicated the entire time about how we were feeling about forever.

[@maybemanda2]

When I was 20 I had an older friend being in a relationship with an older man for 7 years and when she broke up with him he said but I was going to propose! And because of seeing that happen I told my now husband that he has five years to make up his mind if he doesn't propose by 5 years that I was going to dump him and move on because I would be 26 by then and I would still have plenty of time to meet somebody because I knew I wanted to get married and because I was dead serious about it, and we've been married 12 years. I wasn't going to wait around 10 years just to throw my twenties out.

[@annehedonia156]

Five years is too long. If a woman wants children, she doesn't have that many five-year chunks of time to hand out to these indecisive men. No, two years for the ring, one year engagement. Tops. He knows by then.

[@tiahnagrace6325]

@@annehedonia156 5 years is not too long, and Ya’ll really need to stop acting like women can only give birth in their 20’s. That’s how married single moms and young divorced women are made. There is no sense in rushing things when you don’t even know who you are in your 20’s. Older women have been saying this, but Ya’ll refuse to listen.

[@LawChatsWithMadeline]

​@@annehedonia156 They were extremely young when they started dating. Ppl also shouldn't rush into marriage prematurely!

[@EmpressWanderlust]

@@tiahnagrace6325I would NEVER let my daughter wait 5 YEARS for a man. 2 years max. Wombs have an expiration. In fact my daughter won’t wait for a young man if he’s 15 minutes late to taking her out. And she has these young men wrapped around her finger and keeps everything platonic. She is 18 years old. Men want what they can’t have.

[@susan-7865]

You want to tell your wedding story- oh, my fiance married me because he loved me he wants to spend the rest of his life with me! Not oh after ten years the only reason he wants to marry me because he felt that he had to!

[@EnergyreaderempathMary]

Hello fellow sisters! Yes, I received one of those rings. In the end, it didn’t make me feel any better.

[@ChefKrisOdom1155]

He there with a receding, almost nonexistent hairline talm bout he ain’t found no one to marry?!?!? Chile…🤦🏾‍♀️

[@mskabue]

😂😂😂they're normally the worst looking ones who say shit like this btw...they're normally so delulu

[@AVibeCalledYes]

Men know what they want and don't want. I'm not begging a man for a ring, especially that cheap one she's trying to get 😂 I don't even tell men my timeline. I have a silent timeline. You have up 2 years to propose to me. After that, you're just playing games, and I'm leaving. This is also a result of women giving men everything BEFORE getting the ring. I'm 33, but I stick to many old school principles that protect women. You won't live with me, have access to my body, or have children with me WITHOUT giving me a ring first & remaining monogamous and consistent 🤷🏾‍♀️ Why would he give her a ring when she's given him everything upfront and no incentive to move to the next stage of commitment?

[@badgyrl310]

All of this. 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯💯👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Some people may call it "old fashioned", but whatever. Don't make yourself too accessible. He should work for it.

[@DJRenee]

It ain't old fashioned. Time and time again it is proven its not worth giving up anything because most are playing. So unless you are playing around yourself, keep ya legs closed and your bank account.

[@NaiSays]

It’s not an incentive. It’s just a dusty deterrent to have old school standards. It helps repel losers who want to use you. Men leave quick when they ain’t getting “benefits”. So they are going to ante up or go away.

[@kimberlyturner820]

Are you married?

[@helenmoss9740]

^^^ YES!!! What @Prismatic9008 said!!! ^^^

[@terjemarken2411]

Trust no men. Don't accept any rings.

[@Bellamysme]

Haha😅 ikr.... Most don't get it. It's literally called "A RING" As in Boxing Ring to Box you in. One word ladies RUNNNN!

[@Laoriginal718]

@@Bellamysmeyall both sound goofy. If you don’t wanna get married just say that. There’s nothing wrong with being single.

[@dumpmail-xz2qp]

you got too high standards they said, you gotta lower your standards if you want any man they said....

[@nullusanxietas2379]

Story time: I realised men will try to f33k anyone. ANYONE. A guy I met at a dogpark, who I exchanged phone numbers with for help with my garden, texted me back afterwards *to hook up.* I was not mentally doing okay and was literally there in my pyjamas and snuggee. I hadn't had a shower that day and had the worst outbreak of acne since I was 16. The same kinda guy who thinks he's a player or an alpha male will take anyone they can get if they think you're there for a good time, not a long time. This encounter made me feel utterly disgusting. The same kind of man who won't make eye-contact with me in public will try and hook up with me if the lights are off and his mates aren't there. So many dudes are lonely, yet behave in such an off-putting and sleazy manner. It was an eye opener. Suffice to say I did not reply.

[@knittingnana2939]

Went on first date in march, he moved in in may and we married in july all the same year. Been married 40 years this year.

[@susan-7865]

The video of a man in the car gave the girl the ring after ten years? He looks like he says to his girl Oh you should be grateful that I proposed to you! You should be grateful! Be serious! Sir, you love the girl take the girl off the market after 1- 2 years!

[@saharkhalili5303]

Marriage isn't the prize

[@Jacee191]

Agreed, been there done that.

[@iaf4454]

Marriage protect children. It is not a prize for women it is a prize for the kids

[@itzyogurlEleanor]

Marrying well is good

[@Sweet_Wild_Life_Art]

@@iaf4454 it's not prize for the women or the children if it's an abusive marriage.

[@RedxRiot]

@@Sweet_Wild_Life_Artthat’s why you get to know someone and pick up on the red flags. People change up after marriage sure, but at that point it would’ve been out of your control, unless there were signs

[@chinneynz7861]

Dang, these men really missed a lot by not having FATHERS. They are sooooooo clueless, OMFG!

[@minahtheweirdo]

Wtf was that ring 😂😂😂😂😂

[@peachesandpoets]

Acha! Don't beg a man for anything ever

[@BENZ_ASMR]

It would’ve been a joke if she was actually married but the fact that she isn’t means that she was dead serious but just changing it up because she’s embarrassed🥴🤦🏽‍♀️, right they don’t listen to none of the advice and turn around and make it as if you’re the jealous one🙄💯

[@traceylennon1204]

If there had to be an ultimatum in place,right there tells you to move on!!

[@KompassOhneNadel]

If you fear you got such a ring. Ask him about details. Planing of the wedding. If he isn’t exited to start planning and to tell the family… leave.

[@alomaalber6514]

education for women is key. In job skills, health skills maybe be a nurse or teacher or something, before all the children happen!

[@cutlyfe]

It should’ve told her everything that she needed to know when he stated that “he hasn’t found anyone to marry”. Because the hotel she was his placeholder.

[@DamnDemi]

Some marriages are awful too so in life, I guess it's a gamble. Some men fly under the radar & play pretend that they're good men, but they're really not. It's a gamble either way...

[@iaf4454]

It is

[@naylisyazwina6836]

A lot of men change after getting married which is why get married after 1 or 2 years and see. Don’t date a nice man for 5 years and then marry and turns out the guy become worse. Same thing vice versa of course

[@jung4020]

He helped you pack the car smh he was just wasting your time

[@christinehancock5995]

Date for no more than a year. if there is no proposal, get gone - he doesn't want to marry you. While you are dating, don't move in, don't combine finances or buy anything expensive together, and DON'T GIVE HIM CHILDREN (in fact, you shouldn't be giving him sex either). If you give a man the kind of relationship that should be conditional upon marriage, you take away his reasons for marrying you. There is nothing to be gained from marrying a live-in girlfriend, but financial and legal risks. Don't be the live-in girlfriend.

[@naylisyazwina6836]

I’m a Muslim but I would say get to know them for a year or two then marry or leave

[@florindagonzalez5700]

I wonder if he only proposed because he was put on social media and shamed for it.

[@LKauf279]

EEEEW!! Opening up and falling for someone is terrifying but even more terrifying is THIS!! UGH!!!

[@ViolaHGlaze]

Younger women listen to advice from an older married woman.......the highest honor woman can bestow on a man is to give birth to his child....require marriage first.

[@sunnydeessa714]

I’ve seen this so many times, thank god people is realising.

[@brl0522]

They want the title of wife, not realizing it doesn’t mean he will treat you any better, sometimes worse

[@PeanutButtaCookie1193]

That ring is ugly. Smh

[@helenmoss9740]

What do you expect for $22.00? And yes, it's HIDEOUS.

[@artbygilik]

My friend was telling me this long story on how she had to give her husband an ultimatum after 4 years and he kept making excuses cause his ex wife cheated on him and he was scared to marry again. She gave him a week to do it so he got nervous and proposed that week. She always tells me how great her husband is and how he’s the only man for her. To each their own

[@tiahnagrace6325]

I’m sure she’s leaving out details. Had a roommate who swore her man was her soulmate and referred to themselves as the “alpha couple”, and proudly said that everyone else was “beta”. She gets drunk and admits that they cheat on each other and things aren’t as “alpha”. I swear people be lying and projecting false images to feel better about themselves.

[@artbygilik]

@@tiahnagrace6325 i don’t need to get involved in her relationship, but I always find it odd when someone needs to repeat out loud so many times how good they have it 🤔

[@AtlasMicha]

My husband went from dating, to engaged, to married within a year. Of course we knew each other since high school but as soon as we were both single, he asked me out. You gotta walk away from anyone who doesn’t wanna lock it down. Maybe this is controversial but Christian values definitely protect the women from giving them more than a man deserves before commitment.

[@womeninhistory-f2r]

You're right. The hardest part isn't knowing he doesn't care; it's accepting that fact and moving on. Having babies with him on top of that is wild. Damage your body for what?? 😂

[@justanotherjezebeI]

This is so true. If a man wants to marry you, and he wants to get you a nice ring, he'll propose and take you freaking shopping for the ring of your dreams. If a man wants you to be his wife, he will make it abundantly clear. For the love of all things good, please stop begging someone to lock you into what will ultimately be a miserable situation. If you have kids with someone you can go after them for child support, even if you aren't married, because the kid is theirs too. (unless they were an anonymous party obv.)

[@HosCreates]

Truth! My husband proposed after 5 months of dating and took me promise ring shopping 3 days later after the engagement so he could save up for a ring . He bought what I wanted and worked elsewhere to save up then came back with official rings 2 months later. We married a month after that. 8 months of dating . He'd dated around, I'd dated around. He wasn't playing and didn't want me to go find someone else.

[@HosCreates]

Married for 12 years

[@Rose-j1q5v]

10 years is insane 😳 tht was heartbreaking to watch 😔

[@susan-7865]

A man looks at the ring I haven't found the person to marry. UH. hello your love is standing next to you! What your love doesn't exist!

[@EmpressWanderlust]

Sad!

[@brl0522]

Not even in a box 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

[@DJRenee]

34:30 that's goofy. He has no intention of marrying her at all. He doesn't think she deserves it either. He has wasted her time and trapped her. Child support is chump change. He knows you can't afford the lifestyle you have on child support. She should be getting education and verifiable skills on his dime. She should also be saving mad money.

[@alomaalber6514]

also the way the system was set up after the LBJ presidency, she looses her food and welfare benefits for her children if she has a husband ( the father of her children in the house) this reined the 2 parent family amongst the poor.

[@ScaryKeri]

My last ex told me in the first month of us dating that he hoped our future kids looked like me. He never wanted to get married in the beginning, and I thought him seeing me as the future mother to his children was enough of a statement to show that he wanted some level of serious commitment with me. I want to believe people who say that men know instantly, but that moment has really changed that belief in me😢

[@mskabue]

They'll want you to be a mother so that it can slow you down and hopefully ruin your life and body (that's how men are usually thinking)and not for you two to raise the kid in a healthy home...plus if a man wants kids without making you his wife please run Sis.. (this means he just wants access to you without any form of commitment or provision)

[@ScaryKeri]

@ you’re 💯 right and thank you for saying it in a way that made it click

[@summerdowlig]

He preposed. Did he though? He doesn't look happy nor excited about it.

[@drowningblonde]

Its sad, she wants him to want it, but he doesn't want her.

[@Brittbrat1000]

That's how Nelly proposed to Ashanti smh... I was just sitting back waiting. X means X for a Reason.

[@susan-7865]

Insulting to the woman

[@princesssmileyface91]

People saying: “shouldn’t be engaged longer than 1yr” Me and my husband who were engaged for 4yrs : 👀

[@mayapucuka5306]

People love to push their timeframes on everyone else. I have seen both couples who did everything “right” (reasonably fast proposals, beautiful weddings, all children in marriage) end up in bitter divorces and couples who had craaazy fast proposals or dated for 10+ years and had multiple children out of wedlock end up happily married 😂 In the end the only thing that matters is you and your partner being on the same page (clearly not true for the people in this video 😅)

[@LarennPBel]

40:58s don’t live with him. Thats what marriage is for.

[@CountessRatsazz]

Nope. I need a test drive.

[@Bellamysme]

Haha😂 ikr.... ❤❤Most don't get it. It's literally called "A RING" As in Boxing Ring to Box you in. One word ladies RUNNNN!🙄

[@cymbolichuman433]

Ask him: "Do you love me?" And if they say "I love you to death" call it a day, if he can't answer, call it a day, and if you don't even have to ask.... awesome.

[@ScaryKeri]

“I haven’t found anyone to marry”…he says to a woman he had MULTIPLE kids with Why are men?

[@YourTerrible340]

Omg 😢😢 I got a headache omggg imagine my reaction when I found out she had 3 of his kids and “the fucking ring” 😖

[@jatashaiglus165]

My ring set cost 60.00. dated for 3 yrs been married for 5.. the only elreason it took that long is cuz we were both single parents and had to give the kids time to get use to it.. but i wasnt gon wait no 5-6 yrs.. baby if im not the one, say that so i can move on to find "the one".. Glad we were on the same page

[@xoxobutterfly]

I once begged a man to be in a relationship with me like give me the title of boyfriend/girlfriend 😮 I will never beg a man to be with me. Never ever again

[@LaDyLuCk909]

My cousin got a shut up ring and got her dress and all and he left her before they ever had a wedding

[@mskabue]

😒 wtf?

[@timeless6464]

I heard this happening a lot with shut up rings. Not surprising at all. A girl I knew got a shut up ring, they were planning the wedding and he up and left for the Philippines to find his bride. He's with a woman there now.

[@kekillavibez9799]

Honestly people should do what feels right to them…. It’s ridiculous to call SOME RINGS shut up rings when you don’t know what tf these people have talked about in their relationship… me and my husband have been knowing each other since we were 12 😂😂 we have both had other relationships & reconnected at 24 and have been engaged for 2 1/2 years now. The man has to want to do it fr. You can’t force shit !!

[@nadiaho-sue6388]

If a woman wants respect go to college, get a degree. Mothers pre heating an oven is not the same as a private chef, knowing what band aids are does not make some one a nurse lol

[@tiahnagrace6325]

I make the same argument when trad-wives wanna act like they do all sorts of jobs in the house. Don’t get me wrong they do, but without a degree and training, they have nothing credible they can put on a resume. Education and legitimate experience are important these days.

[@jodyclark7527]

Some points in the book "The Rules" are real such as men know what they want and don't make yourself too avaiilable to a man.

[@MissPotato444]

Engagement ring after 6 months followed by a 7 year engagement and still not married.

[@DJRenee]

6:24 this is embarrassing and disgusting. On her...she sat around and had a attitude on the wedding 💍 day. Leave

[@SunQueen-d7l]

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[@mskabue]

Thank you so much!! 😊😊

[@YourTerrible340]

“I haven’t found anyone to marry????” Omfggggg 😭😭😭😭 and u birthed his and your 3 kids omfggg

[@tynaangelici3023]

I don’t understand these guys, why would they settle if they’re not happy. they forfeit finding someone in the future They can be truly happy with. They can’t marry because they’re already married to somebody they settled with.

[@NaiSays]

Shoot you’re right, except a man will leave one woman for the next like it’s nothing based on NRE only.

[@kensigregory361]

Men usually benefit from being in relationships more than us! Free home cooked meals ( if you're traditional or nearly traditional), affection, emotional support, and half the bills paid ( sometimes the woman even pays all the bills 😅). Then sometimes even get their girlfriend/wife to bear offsprings ! ( that's something an escort wouldn't do, or they wouldn't want her to do anyways - they want an ideal respectable woman as the mother of their children at least!). Don't forget the respect, admiration and attention men will receive from others from being 'a family man'.

[@iaf4454]

​​@@kensigregory361 and acces to her body- sex... free sex (better than an scort bc they dont have to pay for)

[@EmpressWanderlust]

Men settle because they prefer to avoid confrontation, love the free labor, nurturing, and infusion of cash his non-preference provides and have not plans to be faithful or loyal. The woman is simply supply.

[@yourentrepreneurjourney]

She figured that after doing the wifey thing along with babies, will cause him to love and respect. Nope...a shut up ring...sad.😞

[@traceylennon1204]

These women don't know any other men?? Why do they feel like you have to force that one man to marry you?? I don't get it!!

[@kdeloris2225]

I have never heard of a shut up ring💍🤐

[@alysha_marie_34]

I believe if you just let things happen naturally in relationship and don’t set a deadline for when a man needs to propose to you, then you won’t have to beg for a ring.

[@itzyogurlEleanor]

That woman should have just quietly made plans to leave get her things together and one day he would have came and his whole home would have been going.

[@beautifullyblessedandnatur7457]

She is playing house

[@JosephineSimmons776]

1:51 crazy how she had 3 kids with a man before him committing to her

[@julias2855]

Husband proposed with a $10 Walmart ring. Then we picked out my ring together. Took 2 months to find right one. ❤

[@donuts5710]

At my age I’m not waiting even 2 years for marriage, no 😅 I wasted 5.5 years on one. and 1.5 on another. Never again.

[@alomaalber6514]

High school needs a relationship course since we no longer have a civilization where things are spelled out. I wonder if the Catholic schools do still have rules and structures of how it should go in a nine week course? I bet they do. Society at large does not.

[@endtimeslastdays7777]

NO... She is wrong about that... The next logical step is NOT to move in together. You dont need to move in together or live with your future partner, before your married or have sex until after your married. Studies show MANY MANY people who live together, THEN GET MARRIED, HAVE A MUCH HIGHER DIVORCE RATE. Than people who didnt live together before they were married. Moving in with him, even though you're engaged, is STILL DOING WIFELY DUTIES FOR A BOYFRIEND. IF HE TRULY LOVE YOU, HE CAN TRULY WAIT UNTIL ACFTER YOUR MARRIED. AND THE MOST IMPORTANT, GOD IS NOT PLEASED WITH PEOPLE LIVING TOGETHER

[@parisian1859]

Agreed!

[@shirleydaniels9310]

no sex til marriage if u want marriage date but sex with none of them

[@munchkineatsalotvent9899]

sex is marriage