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[@DylanoTheMage]

“Time to go solo Q for a bit” is wild as fuck lmao

[@deanlister510]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@gabejohnson3522]

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[@ZyDrixxx]

Giving relationship advice with league language is crazy😭

[@johndoee4964]

I'm confused. Why not just take her to see your parents? LOL

[@TheHolyHerb]

I did it bro I bored :(

[@Broken_dish]

Communication is key bro gotta tell her how important his parents are. It doesn't make her less important, but there needs to be a balance if she can't understand, then it's time to dip.

[@vlrsq]

i feel like if he's thinking about breaking up they had already had a talk. The person is just too immature and doesn't truly care about you if they think visiting your old parents somehow threatens your relationship

[@BiqDiqEnagy]

You shouldnt need to tell your partner that your parents are important to you

[@tiddyt6527]

@@vlrsqlol tell me you’ve never had a relationship without having a relationship. is it reasonable for him to visit his parents? yes. is it reasonable for her to want to spend spring break with him? also yes. communication is telling each other what they want and finding a solution to both. who the fuck goes straight to breaking up after 1 fight?

[@tarekmdk8718]

Exactly,if u have to explain yourself to your partner for wanting to spend time with your parents that person is a lost cause imo

[@David-jn1gg]

​@@BiqDiqEnagy I KNOW LIKE IS THE BAR THAT LOW??

[@Zmargo702]

Had a buddy who moved from Japan when he was about 10. We were friends all throughout that time and into high school. He hadnt seen his dad in person since he left Japan, atp about 6 years, and he finally got the opportunity to go see him for spring break. His girlfriend was LIVID when he got back. She was so mad at him for not spending that time with her instead. He broke up with her on the spot LMAO. Shoutout Gianni, you a real one.

[@youteubakount4449]

She has the right to be upset as much as he has the right to want to see his parents. Maybe they didn't plan it out and she expected them to spend time together while he expected to go see his parents but they hadn't communicated about it. Or maybe she's just selfish.

[@Shitstirrer1]

⁠​⁠@@youteubakount4449nah fuck the communication, narcissism and controlling is all this shows, homie hasn’t seen his dad in 6 years and some girl he’s known for a fraction of his life is wanting to make him feel bad for getting the chance to see him? Bruh you really think a girl has the right to do that?

[@ilyasbolat7604]

@@youteubakount4449 shut up. She had no right to be upset for her partner wanting to see his family. If you think relationships is all about forgetting the world exist and pretend it’s just you two. Than your delusional

[@obarich]

@@youteubakount4449He didnt get to see his dad for six fucking years that itself can justify a few weeks of spring break buddy

[@youteubakount4449]

@@ilyasbolat7604 ah yes angry man is totally reasonable. There are two sides to each story. Maybe he cancelled plans with her at the last minute. Maybe she's unreasonable. Fucking child.

[@MrArkAngelz]

Lost my dad in November, 67 years old, always super healthy lifestyle. Spend what time you can with them man. Miss him.

[@lhid]

im sorry dude... ❤

[@joshuaqwertyx]

Take the L bozo 😂

[@causelost47]

@@joshuaqwertyx ik this is just some ragebait, but imma comment so you can reflect on the nasty shit you say

[@MagemO]

@@causelost47 youre doing gods work, what a slimy human being

[@Mohammad-ik6op]

@@joshuaqwertyx what a nice thing to say man.

[@gregharte9050]

As someone that took time away from family, missed my Dad dying to be there for my girl of 7 years. She left me for someone else after 10 years. It’s not worth it bro. Your family will always be there for you, don’t let a demon come take away your most precious moments.

[@1alexnumaiunul848]

you just have to tell them you are not the king of the world to care only about you

[@jan-lk8su]

the porn bots really like what sanch said i guess

[@ayushpatel3822]

i don’t see them anywhere but sanch’s comments lmao what is going on

[@zobekwolf]

They're obsessed because of his Bard's mechanics

[@ymy8412]

you say that like you have some better advice

[@jan-lk8su]

@@ymy8412 my bad u rite

[@MrEpicness1234]

@@ayushpatel3822it’s what happens when you pay a company for views/likes/or comments they use any account they can 😂

[@HerrscherOfDead]

The thing is, as much as we wanna pretend it is relationships are never concrete especially a 6 month old one. Fuck man you could follow what she says and only spend time with her. But, then when ur parents pass on and you guys possibly break up you have no one and only regret

[@S.Fahren]

Yeah, happened to me. Had an ex who were kind of obsessed with me, he would always make sure where I am every 20 minutes, who I was with, what time I'll be going home and would get livid whenever he finds out I have some sort of connection with a guy. One day, my grandma got rushed to the ER and had to go there to take care of her (my parents weren't available at the time). My ex got mad at me because he argued that I wasn't spending any time with him because of my college, so I chose to stay with him and contacted one of my cousins to take care of my grandma instead. Few weeks later, she passed away, and I was the only family member who wasn't there when she passed, so I was so I was understandably devastated, and was emotionally unavailable for a time because of depression. Few days later, I found out from a mutual friend that he cheated on me. When I confronted him about it, he said that it was because apparently, regardless of what I did for him, "You never cared about me," and that "you're the kind of person who doesn't deserve my affection, I know I'm better than this." It's NEVER worth it, guys. Either talk it out and compromise, or just break up.

[@voidroad]

When people try to make you choose etween your family and them they're toxic and they can go fuck themselves. In ten years nobody knows if you even talk to this person anymore gf or not.

[@willay3220]

well he should communicate with her first before he goes about breaking up with her. obviously she shouldnt be getting upset with him for spending time with his parents but you have to tell her that and compromise instead of instantly breaking up. no relationship is gonna be smooth sailing but you cant just break up with them the moment something goes south. talk to her and make a compromise and if shes not willing to compromise and meet you in the middle then yeah, let her go.

[@kingofgrooveness]

Yup. Dudes would rather do everything than have a discussion about wants needs and compromise 😂

[@angellopez5315]

@@kingofgrooveness That’s cause they’re still boys, real men do those things

[@cowsshoulddienooffenceexce1204]

bro they said they have a fight. by that you should infer that he brought up the fact that his parents are important. Sure there are nuances n maybe he didn't communicate it well but neither did the girlfriend then. In a scenario like this where the girlfriends request from our biased perspective is so strange and arrogant, there are only two possible circumstances: they both didn't communicate well or the girl didn't communicate well. In both circumstances I feel it is perfectly rerasonable to leave. Maybe have one last talk if she has a bad attitude about it then leave because it is completely incomprehensible for you to think that just because you're dating someone that you should be placed on a podium above their parents. Equal is fine but what she's asking for appears to be more than that. The parents are dying and this could be the last spring break that the guy can visit his parents, that the guy can return to a warm home during spring break.

[@baunbon]

@@kingofgroovenesshe doesn’t owe her anything. Her not even being willing to see it from his perspective for even a moment is enough of a red flag to not want to continue seeing them. Like the fact that he even has to explain himself is ridiculous. But yeah totally dismiss this guy and make it his fault or whatever.

[@defensivepotato1998]

@@baunbonthat first sentence is so weird, yes he does, that’s how a healthy relationship works. There’s not even a compromise mentioned saying oh we can visit them together and while we’re there we can do stuff. Make a vacation out of it. Or when I get back we’ll do stuff.

[@nunu-iv3mc]

"it's time to go soloq for a little bit"

[@sol2835]

lol whats the background audio i keep hearing it in every short

[@IllIlIllIlIlI]

Qkthr by aphex twin

[@hugannoy4751]

Of course you should spend time with your parents and if your partner is mad about that... talk... you know... like grown ups 😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨😮‍💨 Ask what her issue is and why she doesnt understand that you want to spend time with your parents. And also.. are you really spending time with her??? Like talking? Cuddling??? Cooking together??? Having little dates ORRRR are you just spending time NEXT to her? On your phone sitting together. Because my dude ,my guy...there is a huge difference

[@pinkrocker61401]

Yea, if its not quality time then it doddnt matter if its everyday

[@Crazieyboy15]

Why, in a conversation about his visiting his elderly parents, is the framing shifted to if HE has done enough for her? You don’t get to monopolize your partner’s time away from people like their parents because you want create plans. If she felt like they weren’t spending enough time together, telling him to not visit his elderly parents is NEVER the right answer. That shits toxic and a terrible sign that she’s got to go.

[@hugannoy4751]

@@Crazieyboy15 maybe she had plans BECAUSE they dont have quality time together. Their whole communication sucks! Both of them. They are both at fault. But just ending it because of shitty communication is crazy. So many women feel alone WHILE they are in an relationship. So.. even if this relationship fails (i mean its the internet. Maybe it doesnt even exist). There are real relationships that end because of this very reason. So. Yes he should spend time with his parents. And he shouldnt have to explain why. BUT he should also ask himself WHY she gets angry/feels left out/left behind. Maybe the relationship between the parents and her also sucks...maybe its jealousy. Maybe maybe maybe. We dont know. I only know ending it like that... will not lead to better relationships for EITHER of them!

[@Crazieyboy15]

@@hugannoy4751 We have the information enough to tell everything need to know to lay out that she is a problem. This isn’t an relationship going on years, shits been six months. And in this span of time, she feels it’s appropriate to be upset with the guy for wanting to spend time with his parents during spring break? That should really tell you point blank what kind of person she is. SHE is at fault, not both of them. This isn’t a problem of communication, it is her. Don’t believe me? Flip the script and the genders, now tell me a man telling a woman he doesn’t want her to visit her elderly parents is a problem of “communication”. 😑 It tends to be a lot less understandable when it’s a guy doing this kind of thing. Do you think its not a bad sign for the women to stay with a guy like that after its only been SIX months?

[@chuggynation8275]

Insanely para social comment, the guy in the video will not read your comment............ The projecting is so weird.

[@KarmaChameleon3029]

People who live away from old parents forget this too often. Even if you see them twice a year. Imagine they have 10 years left, you are only gunna see them 20 more times. God forbid even less than 10 years.

[@Th0mxs_]

This happened to me just a month ago and i broke up with her. I really loved her in the beginning she was a great loving girl for the first few months and we had hung out every single day, i even stopped hanging out with alot of other people for her. Then my sister tried to commit and it put me in a really dark place, i told her i needed time to myself and for my family so i can get in the right head space. Only a week afterwards and me still spending some hours over the course of the week she told me that she cant do this and it was taking a tole on her mental so i spent more time with her, and even then she said she thought i was cheating and going behind her back for other people and man that really made me upset, i ended up leaving her because after all of that she said that it was to much and i told her i was trying my best, afterwards she tried to make me feel bad for her which what i did was just leave because i have self respect and know my worth and somebody like that isnt worth my time. I always told her that she needs to communicate with me but she never did she always wanted it to be about herself. (My sister is okay now, shes been doing really good)

[@MilkshakeGuruTTV]

Facts time. Seeing someone every day isn't spending time with them. That's just spending time near them. Trust me when I say there is a difference.

[@jinglefoot12]

Yeah bro idk bout anyone else but it generally sounds like communication took a back seat. It’s not whether they should break up rn, rather, when they discuss the situation does the outcome remain negative. If yea, then leave. If no, then stay together because your partner cares about you and understands your emotions

[@FINsoininen]

Going by his wording, he's already had the discussion "she thought" "she felt".

[@bambampewpew32]

​@@FINsoininen yeah the people saying they just need to talk are kinda clueless I'm not gonna lie, they've never been in one of these relationships before, and also don't realize there's just not boundaries or not enough boundaries

[@ThorOdinson1269]

Lol players are either chill or toxic af

[@hecastros]

or idk TALK and COMMUNICATE YOUR FEELINGS. only way a relationship can grow is if you communicate with each other and understand each other. don’t just drop someone just bc they want you to spend a week or two with them instead of with your parents. if you can break up with someone over something as small as that without talking about it, you never really wanted a relationship with them in the first place

[@CondorCap]

Yes, there may always be room to talk things out, and yes, terminating a relationship should not be a hasty decision, but I completely agree with the streamers opinion. The value a partner places on family is a FUNDAMENTAL value and if the other partner cannot grasp that value and/or outright rejects it (if the value has been communicated to them properly), then the relationship will fester and become toxic.

[@deadpoolrocks2654]

the real answer is communicating. Any sane person will completely understand wanting to see your parents if theyre getting old, plus spending a break like that exclusively together requires communication ahead of time.

[@vinceackbar7175]

“My relationship is failing because I have trouble communicating emotions/thoughts, lemme ask the hermit shut in what he would do if he talked to people irl”

[@rainbowGZUS7]

Mr mind reader over here lmao, get a life

[@tmgn7588]

@@rainbowGZUS7 he is not mind reading, he summarized and put it into the first person perspective.

[@sweetxcalibur5319]

Ahh i mean he spends everyday with her and can't go visit his parents is Wiild bro, There's times in relationship where one will not be with with the other be it vacation/family/friends or even time a guy will go away ever 2weeks till end of the month fs 😂

[@FINsoininen]

@@tmgn7588 you dont put your own assumptions in a summary.

[@felonies1600]

fr

[@atlashill6911]

Honestly, I get where they’re both coming from. This looks to be an issue of compatibility. They both have differing priorities and it doesn’t look like either is intending to compromise, which is totally their right. If this is a recurring issue and you all have exhausted communication about it, def break up. Find people with similar priorities to you or who you’re willing to compromise with.

[@bubbaisdead2582]

nah there is no middle any women who does this is insane and its not internet uhh so cute insane its annoying and wierd make you a dog just go next

[@atlashill6911]

Why are people so against punctuation on online forums? But I digress. Neither of them is insane for wanting different things. Both have valid wants. He wants to prioritize spending time with his parents since they are getting older and he won’t have forever with them. She wants to spend time with him as the time becomes available since they seem to be in school due to the mention of Spring Break so I imagine it’s hard to find time otherwise. He mentions that they live together so they see each other everyday but the thing is, I live with my roommates and see them daily. I’m not spending time with them daily though. There’s a difference. Neither is willing to compromise their wants which is fine and well within their rights. However, because of this, they’re simply incompatible. It’s not nonsensical to want to spend time with your aging parents or your current partner. It’s a problem when neither side understands the other and is instead insistent on being “right” in a situation where neither party is necessarily wrong.

[@bubbaisdead2582]

@@atlashill6911 dnr but sems liek you are trying to make this some moral argument when its not dude should just leave dnr

[@atlashill6911]

@@bubbaisdead2582 Is “DNR” do not respond? Because if so, that’s what’s insane here. And no, I’m not making a moral argument. I’m acknowledging what each side is asking of the other in this situation. It’s called being fair.

[@bubbaisdead2582]

@@atlashill6911 bro its not fair also dont know what dnr is

[@kilisiplays7271]

Yeah this is horrible advice, nothing in absolute everything in life requires compromise, bring her to see your parents or spend a couple days with her, just communicate

[@Gyatzilla304]

Idk there is so much context we are missing. He says they “see each other every day” and wanted to have fun over spring break. Compromise is important, but if a gf of only six months can’t respect his reasoning is a red flag. I’m guessing she wanted to go on vacation. If the guy is from the middle of nowhere it is unlikely she would be fine with it. Both sides are justified in wanting what they want based on their individual situations. However, in this case their priorities might be too different. Now why it comes down to possibly breaking up. From the sound of it they argued about this more than once. It is one thing if she decides to go on a trip with some friends while he goes home. Instead she at best can’t empathize why he wants to spend time with his family. At worst she is intentionally isolating him.

[@bambampewpew32]

No that's a bad take I'm ngl, the fact that she's getting mad at that is kinda crazy I mean maybe not actually, maybe she'd listen if they talked and she'd be ok, I think I'm just projecting because I recently broke up with my gf and it was insanely hard and I wasn't even sure if it was the right move But she'd always say 'let's just talk things out' and 'we're just different' about problems and some things are genuinely just problems, and some things actually do matter and some things just can't be "fixed", some people just have core differences that just don't work together in harmony.

[@JewcyJewceXo]

@@bambampewpew32 You made the right choice, King 💪🏼

[@ChodyRay]

I wouldnt break it off immediately. Communication is key. Let her know how you really feel about your parents getting old and if she maintains her current position and wants to keep you away from them, tell her to hit the road

[@Fatfit2]

“Solo q ” is sooooo good 😂

[@x3nnah75]

Communication. Dont give up bc you dont agree on the same come to something together bc thats what you are ONE together. If you cant atleast try then yes end the relationship both are in the wrong.

[@nodruoJ]

I can tell you’re very young ngl

[@irodsalt6490]

People get into one fight and want to end an entire relationship. How can anyone truly say they love their partner when it only takes one disagreement to say fuck all to the whole relationship

[@goofyahhh254]

Yeah, these people obviously haven't been in healthy relationships. They are projecting incompatibility for themselves with the person, but in the confines of their relationship, it's a different matter when she says that. Bad advice for any relationship. That's why marriage vows are so sacred (or used to be more so).. can't just break up for one disagreement. Pathetic advice

[@hamzazar3623]

It depends on how big is the "one disagreement", Some situations are deal breaker for good. Its like u were saying " oh i cheated once and he end an 8 years relationship". Cheating in this example is the deal breaker no matter how much time u spend together. So in this case its hard to stay together when she get angry that u want to spend time with ur family thats a huge red flag right there.

[@goofyahhh254]

@hamzazar3623 absolutely.

[@irodsalt6490]

​@hamzazar3623 I don't get why he doesn't just bring her with. He gets to see his family. Him and his girlfriend can get frisky in their free time. Win win situation

[@RileyTA846]

@@hamzazar3623 fr, my immediate thought was “she will try to isolate him from his loved ones and make him emotionally dependent on her”

[@ItachiUchiha-nb5cv]

Best to talk with her seriously about it before you straight up breakup

[@ohmielevisope4237]

Listen bro your gf can leave break up with you whenever tf she want and leave with someone else with no repercussions but if your parents die of old age, that's it. This is why you gotta be unapologetic when it comes to your parents and visiting them, perents will love you no matter what and are not fickle like you partner.

[@v3ngence138]

I'll be honest. The first red flag that I will notice from people is their relationship with their family. A broken family, will produce a broken person, which I can very much understand on a personal level. Unresolved trauma can cause harm to your future relationships. If you want a good relationship, communicate and work through the problems. Seek professional help if needed. Do some couple counselling if you're really that serious about them too. But this can only be achieved if both parties are willing to work it out, and make it work. Both must be willing to compromise for each other, but at the same time, understand the value your significant other. One more thing, communication is not only about talking, but also listening. Both parties have their own perspective, and in order to reach a middle ground, you must be willing to listen to them, even if you don't agree with it, but you have to understand where they are coming from. That said, some things are definitely unacceptable and you have to put boundaries on certain things. But never controlling.

[@neptune5411]

If you got parents that you feel strong affection for, love and cherish the time you spend every time you get the chance. My gfs parents are trash and as f'd up as it may sound it gave me another level of appreciation for mine. You never know when the time comes until its too late and you dont want that regret. Life is short. You arent invincible. And sadly, neither are our parents. Wish you all the best.

[@kareemadel5555]

I think once u ask that question once you are not sure anymore, that's enough reason to go

[@byEnTaze]

Sanchovies, you're a real one! ❤

[@Eshkanama]

Lol what’s really crazy is knowing that someone goes to the grocery store for a snack, amongst all the good food that’s available for purchase and is like - “… rice cakes👌🏻”.

[@cuturgut1197]

Stteamer advice was basically NEVER SURRENDER

[@Kkell0x]

Yeah that is a red flag If you actually see each other every day but some time with the family apparently is a no go for her Forget clingy. You can talk to clingy and set boundaries. But this seems possessive and alienating

[@rootintootin1947]

if her answer wasn't "lets have fun spending time with your family together" she aint the one.

[@music4meh]

This is a leap, but sounds like she's simply afraid of not being a priority. She needs to get over that insecurity, and a conversation would help. If the conversation does not lead to a resolution and some personal growth towards acknowledging and overcoming some of those insecurities, you're not ready for a relationship together. A lot of internet is immediately ''end it'', and sometimes it's warranted, but a lot of the time it's easy to say from a distance (which can be a positive, some people are so entrenched in their relationships or the idealized idea of it, being in a or that relationship that ending one makes them sick) while sometimes the solution is simple and mutually beneficial: communicate your needs and boundaries and get over your flaws.

[@TheNightcoreForce]

I just wanna say to the people who are saying you have to communicate with her to make her understand I agree to this part 100% but if you've to make someone understands like why your PARENTS are important as well like Idk that is something like a basic human thing that people love their parents like that shouldn't be something you make someone understands like if she get's mad at you for that then idk maybe she don't have good relationship with her parents so she thinks every parents are wrong or something but like talk one time depending on the reaction insta decision.

[@akaiappears]

Talk. Also, seeing each other every day is not spending time together. You can spend time together visiting your parents, maybe do something fun in the area while you're there. "Dump her" is literally every redittor who hasn't touched a relationship with a stick.

[@axelsdestiny5206]

Imo, I think the “break up with her instantly” part is terrible advice. Relationships are built on commitment and communication and arguments like this aren’t uncommon. If you think a relationship should be able to go with an argument like this *never* happening, you’re gonna be in for a rude awakening and may as well not try to have anything long term or marriage related with someone. I do agree with saying you should be able to spend time with your old parents especially if you spend time with your partner everyday, but that’s something you can talk out with her. This isn’t an issue that’s big enough to warrant an INSTANT break up over, like cheating for example. But that’s jus me ig 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@dudo4823]

Offer to take her to meet your family on spring break

[@FFXTidus-z5j]

don't take dating advice form people who don't date rule numero uno

[@theludvigmaxis1]

I fight with my wife all the time. You just need to communicate and be patient with each other. You can work through almost everything. We try to compromise when we have disagreements about what we want

[@samuelguevara4663]

That solo queue line was real af

[@NamiRokuFan095]

I wouldve said talk it out. If he’s already expressed the importance of his parents and the situation and she still acts like that, then she’s egotisical and not a good partner. If she doesnt know your feelings theres a possibility that even if you see eschother everyday, maybe you dont do stuff together so she wants reassurance and feel valued and not taken for granted. Communication really is extremely important

[@Crazieyboy15]

I hate the people talk as if communication is the issue. As if there is a misunderstanding of the situation of some sort. The girl is aware of what going to see his elderly parents means to him. She is not blind to the fact that they are old, or the they mean a lot to him, or that he wants to spend time with them because he doesn’t know how long they will be around at this point. I repeat, SHE KNOWS. It’s not a puzzle, or complicated situation. It basic decency towards your partner. The issue is that she doesn’t care. And if she doesn’t care about something like that, what makes you think she actually gives a shit about you in general? 😑

[@qtip4881]

Just invite the parents to spring break

[@TheKoolcatman]

Bruh my ass itches crazy rn

[@WinterBoots15]

What the fuck😂😂😂

[@alexdurette7444]

itch it

[@DrSquillo]

nah thats f*king crazyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy

[@Hisuinara]

Mine itches more

[@Khazorin]

Just scratch it man

[@lazyruntzzz]

well, talk to her and express how important your parents are to you. there’s many more spring breaks to come as long as she plans on staying in the relationship long term. if she still can’t come to terms with the idea that other people can be important in your life too, then she’s not the one, it would make me question her true intentions.

[@shenkk8357]

take her to visit your family and if your family lives out of town, you can show her around there. Now if she doesn’t want that and wants more of a Miami spring break kind of deal… run

[@prototype1.096]

A lot of people are saying to just communicate based off the context they did whether it was good and calm there’s a clear thing where she didn’t accept it. I’m sure the dude isn’t gonna air out more but that’s what I think at least

[@kyleroll95]

Broooo... Family always come first

[@dahc6858]

I feel like she still needs a lot to work on with herself. Ofc there’s a line with communication, but this is his parents we’re talking about. No matter what, when it comes to family and people that are extremely important to them, not being able to hang out during spring break won’t kill you. And he even said they see each other every day, which I feel like is already pretty unhealthy especially if they’re still young. She should learn that being alone is okay and knowing that the world doesn’t revolve around just YOUR relationship will get her through a mere 2-3 weeks of spring break.

[@moontoot333]

The question is, has he talked to her and actually told her that

[@zerohcrows]

If you even asking if you should break up with someone, 80% of the time its a yes

[@piikes2627]

i don’t think breaking up is the answer. i think the lack of communication is super clear, nor do i think she had any toxic or controlling intent. very obvious lack of communication between them

[@carronline1]

just gonna pausa after the first thing he said, if your girlfriend/boyfriends gets into an argument with you visiting family, then absolutely you should leave them, even if they dont like your family they cant expect you to cut off your own family for them

[@dlz5709]

What about talking to her? Communicating how you feel, trying to understand why she feels that way? Maybe ask her if she wants to come with you? You don’t have to spend every waking second with your parents, you guys can have some time alone. Maybe spring break was the first opportunity in a while to spend more time together, and the fact that you told her out of the blue that you’re just gonna go back home hurt her? I don’t know, she’s your girlfriend, maybe try understanding how she feels if you love her.

[@Squidmoto3]

Right, but the fact that he's asking a complete stranger what they think is proof enough he already wanted to break up. He just wants to feel less guilty about doing it because be knows that almost anyone he asks will say yes given that he's only telling it from his side.

[@michaelka3071]

​@@Squidmoto3 also he did say they spend time daily so im still baffled how the gf got annoyed/mad that his gonna go back to meet his parents, for me listening to that point made me immediately think shes a walking red flag only because ive experienced similar things. rn my current relationship is strong where if i go and say "hey i think im gonna spend time the next weekend with my family" and the response i always get is "always keep your phone's notification on and make sure to call every morning" experiencing all of this already made me believe that this is what a normal and healthy relationship is and listening to this dudes dilemma and sancho's advice makes me agree with him

[@k-fedd]

I'm looking at a whole lot of assumptions. We don't know any context beyond what was provided. There's no need to theory craft or search for blame.

[@onu2488]

i don't think this is the solution. She needs to communicate with HIM and understand how HE feels. If she can't do that for something at base level empathy on this really simple situation, there's nothing left to do but leave. Why is it his job to dive deep when she can't even see him on such a surface level human effect?

[@MERC905]

Lol this hurts, i moved 2000 miles west and my mom is turning 65 this year, who knows how much time we have with them right?

[@nesyk1598]

If you're not open to growth from both parties you'll struggle to have a long term relationship. He still didn't have enough context to give that advice, maybe this is a thing that could be resolved with good communication, maybe he has to leave her - it all depends on the severity and other life circumstances

[@Joey-qv6dr]

Coms are important man. If she doesn’t know that your parents are that important to you then it’s not completely on her. But if you make that known and you try to compromise by including her and she still doesn’t get it then it’s time to go. She just has different priorities than you.

[@yeahyeah3013]

as a girl, im fine with having a bit more distance in my relationship with my boyfriend if it means more time with his family and also still having a relationship with someone i love. it's better than breaking up in my opinion. but also your parents could stay alive for 10 more years, you staying single that whole time?

[@fernandojohnsen7639]

Leave her, break up, leave her behind and f this.

[@aaronalon2532]

No need to break up 😂 she’s clearly frustrated. Here’s the thing; y’all may see each other everyday, but what is the quality of that time spent? He can be around her for countless days but little to no deep connection may happen. I’ve been through this and I’ve learned. It’s the lack-there-of quality of time is what she’s frustrated about.

[@aaustyn5064]

projection projection projection.

[@haqqyyy6768]

​@@aaustyn5064no aaron is right tho, it's about the quality time. If there is to much contact the quality of it is gonna suffer. That's not his problem tho, that's something they both enable

[@cassu6]

@@aaustyn5064yeah but he’s right unless the gf is loco

[@valukkai]

was in that exact situation with my ex during my 1st year of college. while that wasn’t the only thing that caused me to end the relationship, it was most definitely a big factor. since i left i have never been happier and found a girl that treats me way better and i love a ton. getting mad at you for spending time with your family is totally unfair and is no way to treat someone you’re supposed to love and support. imo: get outta there. you’re just saving yourself in the long run edit: typo

[@Weltte]

ey congrats bruder

[@valukkai]

@@Weltte tyty

[@colaphoenix6849]

He should just bring his gf to visit his parents??

[@zehro1571]

why does it matter, just cause she cries doesnt mean she gets what she wants...lifes hard wear a helmet

[@themealmanx]

so now he cant have a moment alone with his own mother and father? yo man, imma be honest with you cola. A person that loves you, will at the very feel the need and want to understand why alr.

[@arnhem5252]

But maybe he just wanted to spend some time with his parents, just like that? Without her, just him, his mom and his dad in their family house, that's completely normal and if she does not understand that, that's her problem. If he would go with her she would not leave him even for a second and he would not spend that time like he wanted to, he wanted to be there for his parents and she would pull him off from them, judging from how she reacted about the idea of him going to visit his parents i assume that's how it would look like. That's the worst type of person to be with, someone that wants you to be only for themselves and keeps you away from other people, from your interests/hobbys. Relationship should never look like that.

[@guardiangorilla]

Great answer.

[@DLGNT]

There’s a big difference between quality of time and quantity of time. Yes you might spend a lot of time together but if you’re both just living your own lives and spending all night on your phones it would just feel like you’re roommates at that point. Your parents might be getting older but if they’re not sick or showing their age she probably doesn’t see the reason to sacrifice (long needed) meaningful time together just to go visit your parents. But on the other hand if you are spending good quality time together and you might not have much time left with your parents then she’s just being selfish and absolutely dump her

[@wwjccsd]

If she’s upset that all they’re doing is “on phones at night” as you stated then why wouldn’t she say anything then. It’s not like one can’t just take 3 day trips or do things on the weekends.

[@cassu6]

@@wwjccsddude as if it wasn’t usually the dude’s job the plan stuff to do. She’s probably mad that he doesn’t plan stuff and won’t do it either out of principle

[@kibbit1373]

That is definitely not enough of a reason to break up wtf. Just talk to her. She will accept it eventually, she just hurt.

[@Otubuto]

Watching this actually made me follow and like you. Tells a lot about ones character. My reapects and salutations brother.

[@kianjelogiorgio1713]

What's up with women doing this? It's a common thing, a lot of them like to take the guy completely away from from everything he was doing in his life. Then they proceed to hate him because he's got no balls

[@konradkulaga7183]

I don't think it's as common as you think. Probably more common with younger people (they have a spring break..) because this is immature as fuck

[@oishhh]

they are a person (guys do it too) that manipulates people every single day. so if their partner doesn’t fall in line, it messes with how they perceive whats fair to them. which is an already skewed perspective, because manipulation is taught through example. it might be the only way of communicating that they ever learned too

[@Aguyfrom225]

He wont break up with her

[@everilliem3292]

If you're way if dealing with a relationship and conflict is to talk to people online about it, making her seem unreasonable, as opposed to having a meaningful honest discussion with your partner...... You do NOT deserve her and you shouldn't be in a relationship to begin with.

[@MilesGar]

Unless she’s your wife, don’t put a girl over your parents. Girlfriends can leave at any given moment for the smallest reason. Tell her how you feel (have an argument about your feelings for once). If she understands and is willing to change, move forward. If not, then just dump her. Tell her straight up this isn’t working, say your goodbyes, dust off your shoes, and don’t look back. Focus on God, yourself, and your family with the extra free time.

[@DaggetSWG]

Bro, if you need to ask another person what to do, then you just shouldn't be in a relationship. Not even because of your partner, but because you arent mature enough to know your boundaries and consider your own wants and needs in a relationship

[@Messicanbatman]

heaven lies at your mother's feet ❤

[@Miyo_Kun]

facts spitting

[@Benjamin-ex9pd]

something i’ve heard is: “you will only have 1 dad and 1 mom but you can always replace your girlfriend”

[@vaultboy6911]

Being single is a blessing istg

[@georgepeslis5429]

When did relationship gecko (might have the name wrong) start playing league?

[@Dk-hh3uc]

I don't get it... His reply too his girlfriend should've been then why don't you come along and visit my parents with me and we could do fun stuff too, if she rejects the relationship is not worth it

[@Pizzathyme117]

10/10 advice

[@Mashamazzi]

At the same time, they probably want grandkids

[@No_one448]

True

[@fay8158]

Break up instantly if please, u have no idea how much u will regret not spending time with ur parents. u will never have another chance with ur parents but u will always have another chance with dating and people u meet

[@tylerc3371]

Sounds like miscommunication from her. They may spend every day together but it may just be day to day shit, not quality time. That’s likely what she is looking for, not just going through the routine of the day where you happen to see each other. For all we know she could go to his place everyday and chill while he plays league

[@kira.herself]

how about talking it with your partner out first and then base your decision on that?

[@allxmike8202]

You should give more honest advice it’s why I like your channel

[@vincentw9610]

dont mess with your family.. partents are unique.. chicks come and go

[@Dgk128]

Your fuckin legend

[@tiramisuvodka8353]

nah you have to tell her and if she doesn't understand then yeah breakup

[@pat2frosty495]

Yeah don’t take relationship advice from someone who sits in their room playing video games that’s not a break up thing let her be mad she will get over it

[@bouzz4840]

Bro looks like Shia

[@youssef2366]

Oooor spend time with the parents together If she says no to that THEN break up

[@gabuks1]

Nothing wrong with her getting mad at him for wanting to spend time with his parents

[@hussamibr3625]

Whats his name on twitch

[@puppetscorner5148]

That bagel, that's the true tragedy. That was an everything bagel with nothing on it. Edit: I realize, rice cake.

[@antrakt900]

If she's jealous of your family. Dump her.

[@F4ttym4n]

If someone doesn't understand that you want to spend more time with your parents before they die, you need to stay away from them. No amount of 'communication' can fix that level of brain damage.

[@anthonyg6083]

😂😂😂 great advice