Learn to Not Blame Yourself | Ajahn Brahm | 25 May 2018

[@FallouFitness_NattyEdition]

This man helped me to finally understand my depression and to control it. I thank God that I stumbled across his videos.

[@rudyarmendariz19]

That's great. Buddhism cured my depression as well. Hard to overstate the impact of that

[@charlierobles316]

Thank god really why did god give you depression in the first place?

[@i4nc4]

@@charlierobles316 I can understand why he would thank God. lDepression opened up a new awareness and understanding of the world around me. It was a sign that I was on the wrong path and needed change, therefore I am thankful for it too. Personal and character growth is achieved through hard trials

[@davidbarnes6410]

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[@sarahcymru6855]

I'm still struggling through dark times, but these talks give me a little solid ground among the quick sand. From Wales 🏴󠁧󠁢󠁷󠁬󠁳󠁿

[@red_quinn430]

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[@tomaszcodasz]

Ajahn Brahm thank you, you've changed my life, you've helped me become better person.

[@88tongued]

"It all comes back to this idea of a sense of ego and self and pride and conceit of thinking 'I'm right and everyone else is wrong. No one understands me. No one is hearing me. No one can really empathize with me.' All you're really saying is you're not hearing yourself, you're not empathizing with yourself, you're not understanding yourself, and you're transferring that as a problem to other people." -- 7:55

[@arunimachakraborty6423]

Incredibly profound words. 🌼

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[@iceblue1457]

Ajahn Brahm thank you for your videos. I go to bed watching your videos in my cellphone. I have watched this video several times, took in the lessons and practice them in my life. I even shared your teachings to the younger people in my family.

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Sharing with love one, that's so thoughtful and really a beautiful thing to do! Stayed blessed!

[@Elegance191]

I think I must have done something good to get to know Ajahn Brahm ...am so blessed 😃

[@hulkmania4life]

Thank you so much . Mohammad from Kuwait

[@achemnitz]

I've been listening to Ajahn Brahm since 2007 from Greenland. Sathu Sathu Sathu. You've changed my life.

[@terranhealer]

Do you also listen to talks at www.amaravati.org and/or www.audiodharma.org ?

[@carerforever2118]

My brother is being emotionally abusive to me and my mum again, I can't stop crying😢. I'm so sick of it! 😡 Wish I could leave and live some where else, been putting up with his emotional abuse for 43 years of my life, still living at home, living at my mum's house looking after her because she has Schziophrenia and can't walk 😢 Well, one day, as soon as I have enough money saved up I'm gonna leave, it's not gonna be easy when l'm not working and on the Carer Pension and Carer Allowance from Centrelink (Social Security), I haven't worked in years, and got no car or driver's license either, I had to quit my driving lessons and my hospital job to look after my mum, because my dad passed away and was longer around to look after her. I had to take his place. I hardly ever get to go outside anyway, and haven't been on holiday/vacation since the my dad passed in the 90s. Well, anyway, sorry about my rant, going back to studying French now as usual, and then do the usual housework etc and watch these videos to make myself feel good.😔

[@ericshoff6326]

I love the talk, and I really love how the monk beside him is so thoroughly enjoying himself

[@harrietbrook4100]

I love theses talks they have help me so much . Ajahn Brahm is amazing. 🙏

[@IRG849]

Thank you for your inspiring talks Ajahn Brahm. Happy Wesak to all.

[@sheilagoonasekera]

Ishi G Yeah

[@Ourladyrosaries]

I love ajahn brahm you have saved me. I will come to see you in Australia one day with honour I watch you every day your my hero sir xxxx

[@chrisw9399]

@ 20 mins - I was punched awake by then-husband, full fist to the back, for snoring. Thank you, Ajahn for understanding that people suffering from abuse need a safe place to rest :)

[@imbiriakrzak589]

Alain Brahm, I feel invited, who knows, I may come some day to see you to listen live and thank you for all that great talks.

[@imbiriakrzak589]

This funny device keeps changing my words- Ajahn!

[@Panzer-Geomancer]

I jak? Byłeś/byłaś?

[@Hconn66]

Very light-hearted fun man to listen to.

[@michellecheng6817]

Thank you so much to tell me not blaming myself.

[@deepthoughts8393]

Happy Vesak!!!! Blessings to all of the Sangha at BSWA😻Your talks bring joy into my life

[@JaylaScousa]

I always enjoy listening to these talks. Thank you from the UK. :)

[@annsilliman6184]

Thank u so much from New York USA

[@harryfong3698]

Enjoy your talks . Thank you from Toronto Canada

[@LoveintheshapeofaPitBull]

Thank you Ajahn for sharing with those of us who can't be there.🙏

[@barbarac15]

Hello from Queens, NY Ajahn Brahm, thank you !!!

[@trishtraynor]

I'd love to be there,but I live in Scotland. I don't watch though, I listen in bed inthedark.

[@kimyunmi452]

Trish Traynor same with me..i listen to ajahn bhram in bed before i sleep everyday 😊

[@nnicollan]

I love to do that too :)

[@lordbyron3603]

Trish Traynor Hahahaha......LOL.... I do that too!

[@thanintupmongkol7955]

EVEN LISTENING in the darkness ..good understanding with your pure mind...EQUAL to... listening in daylight..😊

[@Elegance191]

Haha...I do the same..it is something I look forward to..I will fall asleep half way too 😂

[@hendrikayustine]

This is a gem

[@heat2277]

Ajahn brahm is so happy when i go face to face with him, i should know i went to his retreats and talks and became a 1week anigarika 😁😁😁

[@jipevans9750]

Anumodana Sadhu 🙏🙏🙏

[@wojciechurbanowski6935]

Thank You Ajahn, hugs from Poland :)

[@渥美桂子]

Thank you the most revered Ajan Braham. You restore peace and serenity in me every day as I listen to your great talk.

[@diluted8]

渥美桂子 Namaste

[@namthomson1124]

อนุโมทนาสาธุค่ะท่าน

[@BurksArribaRunningAwareness]

Today is dedicated to Save a Lot!

[@wootwootwoot32]

Embrace mistakes not transferring

[@hannebonielsen3910]

I would love to hear your talk live and to feel the energy there🙏🏼 but I only have a bike🚴🏻‍♀️ an live i Denmark🇩🇰😤🤪

[@Peter-dy3tf]

Let's go together sometime, greetings from Sweden.

[@moiretallegiere794]

I`m with you. Hailing from Norway :)

[@Peter-dy3tf]

Moiret`s Mancorner Nice! Now let me save some money first...

[@andimjustlike5932]

Im coming too, greetings from germany :)

[@Peter-dy3tf]

And I'm just like Next summer! 😁

[@remedyke1]

my stepdad is the same way - loves my mom even though she criticises him so much

[@YellowPineappleHoyas]

I’d totally love to be there, if I didn’t live in Canada!

[@aremedyproject9569]

Liza Butcher There are Theravada monasteries in Perth, Ontario (a hermitage too) and BC. Ajahn Viradhammo gives talks in Ottawa even. He’s a decipel of Ajahn Cha’s as Ajahn Brahm is. Cheers.

[@YellowPineappleHoyas]

Thank you. I do know of the place, but it very far from where I live and due to a chronic pain syndrome, it's very difficult for me to get away. I am grateful for the BSWA because I can learn from home.

[@thanintupmongkol7955]

UNDERSTANDABLE ..LADY..eventhough not reaching there by traveling means...that is just only your body...but...ALREADY YOUR MIND AND SOUL REACHING THERE...SIR!! ..HOPEFULLY your chronicity dissolving itself sooner..😊

[@AnnaIsokoski]

Thank you Ajahn Brahm :)

[@donaldmingojr.8261]

How to go to the retreats? I would like to take my family to see him talk, and learn

[@katienie1075]

Thanks

[@cielore]

Dear Ajahn Brahm, Hodja Nasreddin is from Anatolia Turkiye, a Turkish famous character. He's not from Iran. Just a minor correction. Thank you.

[@lordbyron3603]

The one that’s complaining sounds so much like the concept of “inner child” .

[@wootwootwoot32]

Not blaming others

[@ColbyYadz]

uploaded on my 16th birthday, i stop myself from wondering what might have been if i had found buddhism at that age instead of 20, that is not important. i let it go.

[@kadenprowse4609]

Best!

[@agnesrosalinde]

I could not get there in time from the Netherlands.

[@maryhickey8926]

Fabulous as always!

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i love him x

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Whoops Poem Weeeee!!! Hope Open-your-heart Overcome Patience Smile

[@diluted8]

Sadhu sadhu sadhu

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I need english sub for this video. . plissss

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Arahant I think so!

[@rajangurung4021]

Wanna listen him in Melbourne

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I love buudijam

[@wootwootwoot32]

Embrace suffering

[@doctormaster]

"That's me!"

[@emberkolandawel589]

🙏🏼

[@lolos5502]

I enjoy the talks as well. This one is titled "Learn not to Blame Yourself" but there was more talk about blaming others. I cannot veil the fact that I do blame others. Although, I blame myself much more. I am very critical of myself. I wished he had spoke on this a bit more. I was a bit disappointed that Ajahn Brahm voiced his opinion of Trump leaving the white house. Regardless, of ones view we should do our best to send positive loving thoughts to them. The people we hold the most contempt for need our loving thoughts the most. Perhaps he was only making light of Trump...

[@Emiliapocalypse]

Lori Swan argh. I catch myself blaming others too, but same as you, I blame myself much more. Good luck, I hope you’ve found a solution.

[@terranhealer]

I think he was just joking about the politics. I don't think he holds contempt for anyone. Not blaming yourself or others doesn't mean people shouldn't be held accountable for their actions.

[@SisypheanRoller]

It's been five years since this comment so I hope you've found your middle path, but I just want to add something about blame. Too often the correction to the blame game takes it to the opposite extreme where everything and everyone must be lovey-dovey all the time. I don't think that's the right attitude. You don't send love to someone who is physically assaulting another person, so clearly there are boundaries here. I personally try to maintain an understanding attitude to other people's behaviour, but I don't excuse the consequences of what they do or say. The important difference here is "consequences," not "responsibility" as in "you did this how dare you." Focusing on consequences means you focus on doing better and nudging others to do better. Responsibility is just a toxic abstraction that attributes a badness to this ethereal "inner self" that must be bad because they did or said something that had bad outcomes for themselves or others. It's a thin line to tread, honestly, but I've found that this approach not only keeps me focused and at ease, it also helps me see the conditioning that gives rise to our habitual patterns of behaviour and thought, especially ones that are dysfunctional. I remind myself that I am not immune to that conditionining and neither is anyone else, but we are able to help each other grow whenever possible, and distance ourselves and let go when someone is impervious to our suggestions.

[@frederickstewart6217]

Who's to blame? It's our karma, Doh!

[@Panzer-Geomancer]

Karma isn't a fixed phenomenon.

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Can't get to Australasia.

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19/6/22 5:35 am

[@natushkhan]

7:11, 7:29

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Obtaining 1/2 a wealthy person’s assets is dubious ethics

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Nah

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The teddy bear monk

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😀

[@joycemansfield1108]

This was 2018 holy cow Donald Trump is still a nightmare. The pandemic changed everything.

[@shwe5359]

AB: I love listening to you but quit criticising trump. I like him a lot too. When you criticize him it makes you look shallow and trying too hard to be popular or go along with the crowd. Trump is good and many are sick of the bully cult mentality that you have to dislike him. Brahm you're better than that. Obama, Clinton were just as "bad", if not more so. If you're going to address Trump i would hope it would be a Buddhist method of encouraging people to not go along with the crowd, to prejudge, just because he's "republican".

[@abehaile2659]

sh we it’s great that you like Trump. I commend you for loving a man who publicly stated that a US born Latino judge was incapable of being impartial “because he’s a Mexican”. You’re a much better man than I for favoring a president who referred to Neo-Nazi groups as “good people”. He was recorded saying he grabs women in between their legs because he can, so you are clearly most wise for loving Trump. Thank you for teaching Ajahn Brahm and all of the free world the loving path to piety

[@marillavanbeuren8572]

thank you for standing up for someone so totally maligned by the Press. No one is perfect but no one else could go thru what President Trump has had to endure. The title of this talk, if I am correct is Don't Blame Others.

[@stevemathews9668]

🙏🙏🙏