Learning To Be Okay With Uncertainty

[@davidkampenrobinson5648]

Does anyone else look to see how much video is left and is a little excited that there is still another few minutes?

[@LL-pk2uu]

Right here!

[@avamiller2325]

Yes, me all the time😀

[@annemay3897]

Haha actually I do, I enjoy the longer ones. Feeling blessed ❤

[@bevhardman8280]

I have struggled today. I felt like crying so I just let it all out rather than bottling it up as I often do. I don’t experience pain but do have uncomfortable symptoms and some days are tough. I’m 90% sure it’s TMS. Sometimes doubt creeps in and I find it difficult to feel okay at those times. And I find it hard to not react with fear to symptoms. I am hopeful and will keep following Dan’s approach. Wishing everyone all the best.

[@1STLUCKYB]

I just came into my bedroom, digestive issues, sat down and walked up with tears, read your post and they fell. It's a safety valve, we will get there.

[@PainFreeYou]

Bottling up sadness is not required to get well. Allow the tears so the sadness can dissipate. Just do your best to not get lost in rumination on your current situation.

[@bevhardman8280]

@@1STLUCKYB We will 😊

[@sherylmarshall1444]

@@bevhardman8280 crying is therapeutic as long as we doesn’t become chronic.

[@SusieV59]

'I want to be able to find the safety within the changes, or change my idea's about safety!' by Sark. Learning to trust in myself that whatever the day brings I can get through it. I did yesterday and with God's help I will tomorrow. Sending love and blessings to everyone.💞

[@1STLUCKYB]

Maybe drop the "tomorrow" you may be pre feeding fear. Stay in the now. Just my opinion. 🙏

[@michellemoore9030]

I have had a massive mind shift last few days - just accepting !!! This moment, later, tomorrow, next week - it is what it is in that moment . My trust in the process has taken over my panic. So refreshing !! …….. 2 days till book launch ! ❤

[@beamcoiner]

I've had that shift 5 weeks ago and never looked back. It's like it's coming out of nowhere. Wishing you all the best, and I know you will make it!

[@PainFreeYou]

Wonderful!

[@marieleak8731]

Being comfortable with uncertainty is a blessing. 💕

[@fredaclarke3861]

Thanks Dan, I am still a bit scared of the uncertainty of my auras ( migraine). But I am trying to convince my brain I am safe.

[@sherylmarshall1444]

My Gran died last night. So I’m a bit delicate. My Gp has diagnosed me with FND and tells me I just need to keep being active and living life. I bad a crazy number of symptoms since having covid so was diagnosed with long Covid. However, the more I looked into it the more I realised I had some symptoms prior to covid. I’ve believed in TMS for over a year maybe 2 for mind/ body but couldn’t place all my symptoms. However the past few days I’ve realised they all belong to FND which is essentially TMS. I think this is a real lightbulb moment and although I’m struggling with loss I have a good outlook to get through this and get well. Thank you for your continued support. ❤

[@lisaellsmore]

❤

[@coconut3958]

these amazing videos helps so much with anxiety 🙏 ❤

[@nicolar4242]

This is temporary, I can get better. This does apply to me. Thanks Dan ❤ the daily vids.

[@wednesdayschild3627]

We never know, that is reality. I think perfectionism is the biggest problem.

[@joanneslater252]

I love hearing that word " temporary". This message is for me today. Thank you so much.

[@michelefinizio6520]

❤ thank you great topic. I was just talking about this to someone yesterday. I'm finally ok about uncertainty. Its ok not to know everything. Faith in Gods Sovereignty helps me to trust that all will be well and I'm ok and safe.. I let go of controlling everything. One day at a time that's all we have so enjoy it as much as you can knowing this is temporary. Everyone faces the unknown and that is ok

[@tobycederbaum7286]

Neutralized the fear and danger resonates with me. Thankyou always for these videos. Your insights and wisdom is amazing!,,

[@PainFreeYou]

I appreciate you being here.

[@residualroyaltyacademy]

I am looking / scanning for every single possible threat both in and out of the body

[@ReenieCarmack]

I am so appreciative of your wisdom and sharing, it’s helping me a lot! My struggle is certainly most with the uncertain future we are all facing and won’t go into here the reasons for that, but I just lived through 3 massive hurricanes here on the west coast of Florida and the ptsd from those is still alive and well! 🤯. The thought of the next hurricane season and going through that again sends me into panic mode, very REAL threat. I love it here and quite frankly can’t afford another move at 75. Don’t even know where’s safe anymore! 🙀 I’m trying so hard not to think about “next” 🌀season but it creeps up on me on a consistent basis. 😢. I understand how our brains can cause pain with false alarms, but I’m stuggling with how to deal with real dangers like 🌀and other real dangers! 😵‍💫. Thank you for any advice and thank you for all you are doing to help all of us! ❤❤️❤️🙏🏼

[@Askim4110]

i'm so so thankful for your videos, Dan. very excited to be reading your book soon. keep going

[@PainFreeYou]

Thanks so much!

[@anjakersten]

Thanks Dan, I think I certainly can work more with becoming comfortable with uncertainty. For me it's when new symptoms appear I didn't have before and I have the feeling I can't turn it around but instead am getting more weirdness. When I'm in that space it's very difficult to be unbothered and to stop ruminating what to do next.

[@rosa91052]

Yes I feel the same with new symptoms. 😢

[@KatherineBrant21]

Me too

[@cindygaudet1390]

Dan! Again you are reading my mind right when I needed it. Was doing fine and then this evening my throat started again, nothing I could figure… still sore this morning but not so bad. Anyway right on again!

[@1STLUCKYB]

I get that and when I check tonsils are usually a bit inflamed. I started saying well done immune system you're stopping anything going in further . Try rubbing manuka honey in mouth , far back as poss without gagging. It's brilliant

[@francescam.6999]

My throat also started last night. Was not sure if I could turn it around. But all symptoms went away after one hour and I had a normal day🎉. I am still amazed that I can do it now. Last year I would be ill for weeks

[@meganobrien1019]

Awesome Dan❤😅🦄 definitely something for me to work on. Just tryst the process

[@Oldrockrules]

A friend of mine fell while taking groceries into her house two days after Christmas. She hit her head on the steps and crushed her skull, died the next morning. She was fine right up until her head hit those steps. Now she’s in the ground. I bet she had many uncertainties she was concerned about but taking groceries into the house like she has done many times wasn’t one of them.

[@wordsbloom]

My problem isn't uncertainty, my problem is certainty. My challenge isn't rooted in uncertainty; rather, it’s about grappling with the certainty of my situation. For 40 years, I’ve experienced a hellish existence that feels like an endless loop, reminiscent of the movie Groundhog Day. Each day unfolds in the same way, leading me to feel trapped in a cycle where change seems impossible because nothing I've done has changed anything in 40 years and I've tried EVERYTHING -- therapies of every kind, medication, hypnotherapy, I even consulted with a psychic because desperate times call for desperate measures. After 40 years of same shit different day, I am CERTAIN that each day will mirror the last, and this predictability has become a source of distress. Instead of fearing uncertainty, I find myself needing to confront and accept the certainty that my life is a relentless struggle. Maybe I just need to accept that this is as good as it gets instead of expecting something to change and when it never does, the disappointment just adds to my suffering.

[@1STLUCKYB]

What about just staying in the now, tomorrow is never promised.

[@PainFreeYou]

I understand your despair. Have you done the assessments? Do they indicate a mindbody condition? If yes, things CAN change. IsThisTMS.com What is your pain test score? And on the FIT assessment - how many TRUE answers do you have?

[@LL-pk2uu]

I hear you. I thought I was alone in this. I’m just exhausted. ❤ to you.

[@mkykta9140]

Please don't fuel that belief. You're stuck in neutral. You have one foot on the gas pedal & one foot on the brake. Feeling like it's Ground Hog Day just keeps you stuck. Most of us feel that or have felt that. Start kindly talking to your scared brain. Reassure it that you know what's going on, thank it for trying to help, but at this time you do not need it's help. Get yourself engaged in some other activity. Try to focus on something or someone else. Try to stop ruminating on negative thoughts. Our stuck thoughts just give us more stuck thoughts. I don't mean to sound like a know it all. This struggle is real. This is a journey, not a race. You got this! ☺️

[@d.r.martin6301]

I've been waiting almost two years to get walloped by my TMS. Significant diagnosis 3-23, but not serious. But nothing really happened. Lucky me, no TMS symptoms. Then this past summer something far more serious came up on CT scans; confirmed later on. Still no TMS symptoms. But finally, about a month ago, a minor back twinge blossomed and then exploded. And now I'm a total mess. Why did it wait so long? Why would it warn you about something you clearly already know about? TMS makes no sense.

[@saralawlor780]

So much wisdom and inspiration here.🙏👍😊👏

[@1STLUCKYB]

I'm getting a copy of your book to gift my GP too

[@PainFreeYou]

Wow - thank you.

[@MagicLuke96]

I found something that l use in hard thimes... I recorded a audio of like 5-10min where l teach myself that l am fine and this is temborary. When you record it it must be when you are feeling good that day. You can not fool your voice and your mind. If you aee certan when you record it, it will give you strenght when you are bad. And also faith-ortodox christianity. Hope this helps, somevody can try this method

[@clintsturgill7087]

Awesome

[@Dandelionsandbutterflies]

How did you get better though? It’s hard to ignore this stuff.

[@tbspaving7273]

Great video. Looking forward to getting a copy of book. Feeling emotions is still necessary to do?

[@PainFreeYou]

Feeling emotions is a normal human experience. It's not a tool to end symptoms. The task is to teach the brain that emotions are not dangerous so the pain stops turning on symptoms due to emotions. It all goes way beyond just emotions. The book explains in depth.

[@tbspaving7273]

@ thanks. I just ordered it. Love your videos. Thank you for making them. Dan from Canada

[@cheechcarriero5739]

This is the hard part for me the not knowing if it will go away cause what I have is tms but the medical name I won’t say has so many causes. That I worry about

[@PainFreeYou]

It's TMS. Doubt will delay your recovery. Make a decision. Commit to this work. You can do this.

[@Samsomani77]

I would like to ask you : when we feel anger about someone ans we think a lot about it, can this cause symptoms ? (For me fatigue)

[@kyrrajohnson160]

Will this help with dizziness

[@kivoe]

Amazing Dan. But can the pain be a danger signal that the body is sick and about to fail? Or is it because you have hold on to so much tension and emotion as a safety mechanism, that when you finally let go the body gets temporary pain which will go away?

[@LL-pk2uu]

Great question!

[@PainFreeYou]

Most of what I refer to is chronic pain. The example you gave is about temporary pain prior to illness. Regardless of the situation, if you want to see the cause of pain, the assessments are where I would start. IsThisTMS.com - then watch the fast start playlist. DansFastStart.com

[@francescam.6999]

He has a lot of videos about that topic and you can go his website to gind out what kind of pain you have.

[@kivoe]

@@PainFreeYou I have done the assessments and it said most likely tms/pdp and i have watched the fast start playlist and hundreds of your videos. I'm just confused and frankly scared because i do have chronic pain and a bunch of other symptoms and all i know what is wrong with me is a broken tailbone making it difficult to sit and a tight pelvic floor. But i have pain many places aswell as periods of insomnia, out of breath. Is it because when i got njured i didn't accept it and have lived stuck in the freeze response making muscles hurt aswell as blocking my emotions instead of allowing them to come out to the surface, like repressed emotions? I have learned that from a woman from my country that have been through that and is now teaching it to others. Thanks Dan

[@kivoe]

I'm not breathing correctly i think, i think i'm holding my breath without knowing. Even in my sleep

[@onildilig60]

I have been here for a year now, and it helps reduce my worries about my disc herniations in my neck and back. sarno said these are normal abnormalities, and that's what I want to believe because I took a test, and it showed that it is TMS. Lately, I saw a video about a guy helping others recover from back problems using a back extension machine. I'm giving it a try without thinking that I'm broken. I just want to strengthen my back. Is this good or bad.

[@PainFreeYou]

If it's TMS - your back is not the problem. This video explains my take, which matches Dr. Sarno's beliefs. kzbin.info/www/bejne/oZbFi4dspMdgp8k

[@JanellSailer]

I took LDN for my IC and "think" it helped somewhat but thinking this is TMS so quit LDN and having flares again and wonder if the LDN really did help or going through TMS caused flares.

[@mkykta9140]

LDN gives your immune system a chance to reboot itself & clean things up while you sleep. It can help to titrate down slowly. Going off immediately, may have fueled your brain to think you still need it.

[@JanellSailer]

But can't I continue with TMS and ldn

[@mkykta9140]

@@JanellSailer not sure I understand question.

[@1STLUCKYB]

Don't call the fire brigade when you can just press the reset button. False alarms are in your remit

[@jkdudley7712]

I’ve signed up for Dan’s website and listened to all the videos and 100 % bought into the concepts but struggle with what to actually do when my symptoms are raging…. smile, deep breaths to calm myself down seems to help but how do I actually “talk to my brain” to convey messages of safety? Is there a mantra I can repeat or something like that? I usually do pattern interrupts but Dan calls this a distraction and not really conveying to my mind that I’m safe. Any insights much appreciated!!

[@janecurry752]

I struggled with pain in both of my legs yesterday I emailed Dan and he told me to try and distract myself which is what I did It’s easier said than done but it helped me a bit. Are you in the UK or America ?

[@jkdudley7712]

@@janecurry752CA USA

[@jkdudley7712]

Ok - I’ll distract as well. How do you message Dan? Through his website ? Thanks!

[@janecurry752]

@@jkdudley7712 Do you have his email

[@ConsciousGrowing]

​@@jkdudley7712I find it very important to differentiate between distraction or engage in something. As an example scrolling on your phone wouldn't be a good choice, because after all it will intensify symptoms. Every attempt to run away will make them grow. Engage means shifting your attention to something you want to do, for example cooking a meal, reading a book, doing some gardening etc. You decide what you want to do and allow the symptoms to be there. It's a practice and needs lots of repetition. But that's the sure way to become indifferent to your symptoms. I hope it helps.