Lessons from Mom: How to Help a Loved One with a Mental Illness | Sarah Mikulski | TEDxHarperCollege

[@carolinavaldes5483]

No one tells u this. All we here about is US US US protecting our own mental health. But extending compassion for an ill parent is the most compassionate act one can do to give back and not regret it many years down the line. Thank u for this message! ❤

[@bhargavibhat7044]

I wish there was a free support group for people, especially children dealing with this. Its an experience so difficult to endure.

[@yolandacollins4418]

Thank you so much ❤

[@pazley612]

Your local NAMI chapter will have support groups available, you can choose to attend them online or in person

[@nicoleoliver3190]

I pray to God there is one day❤

[@fighterflight]

There are! You guys, please do your research on local resources and support groups. There _are_ free ones.

[@DesNReg]

@@pazley612thank you for providing a name!

[@juliegage6322]

I thoroughly enjoyed your talk, THANK YOU. I have a 42 year old son MIA undiagnosed and spending his life savings causing mayhem. I've given him over to the foot of the cross for redemption. I have no control contact. In and out of jail.

[@lasanchaadventures3567]

Having to co-parent with someone that suffers from mental illness on top of other trauma has been the hardest thing I've gone through. What a roller-coaster ride this has been 😢

[@fullerlifeministryconsulta9126]

This was so helpful for me. I am dealing with that with my mom

[@wellbodisalone]

Mental health is a real concern even though just a few get to talk about it. Great speech!

[@Eurafrican]

What an inspirational speech. Beautiful, eloquent and deeply moving. The message is profound. We can support one another through mental illness, but also have to prioritise taking care of ourselves. I'm glad she was able to help her mother through the devastating condition that is Bipolar Disorder. I'm sure her mother's spirit is watching over her and her family proudly & protectively.

[@dj_spinfire_d-.-b]

Bless your heart Sarah! My mother needs to view this in regards to my Ninny who has dementia. I now feel further compelled to become more involved as well. Compassion & unconditional love are so integral towards fruition of best possible outcomes. Gratitude for your profoundly heartfelt insights in light of these such delicate & unfortunate circumstances. God bless you.

[@MusicIsDivine]

Your voice is so soothing apart from the words you speak Thank you ❤️🙏

[@nickwright4828]

I am finding my outlet now. I try to walk daily. My brother is bipolar and addict/alcoholic. It has been a terrible 17 year storm but I am trying to navigate it all.

[@Dbb27]

My brother as well. I am flying out in three days to help him transition out of the hospital. I’m binge watching these videos to try to get a handle on helping him function again. It’s so difficult.

[@anitalucero65]

My son has Schizophrenia and does drugs everyday...it's a huge challenge. I pray everyday and have little outlets🙏🙏

[@jttb41810]

thank u so so much , there i difference in loving the one with the mental illness , and phyical abuse and unbearable verbal abuse need not be accepted , but if its a mild depression or condition where they dont harm u but are sad , lowly and procrastinated , and u care for them , u can help them. I love that you tried to teach without judging and rather shared your experience while being consciouss that other may be in different or difficult-ier condition

[@mystiemidkiff7674]

Thank you for sharing. This morning marks the first day of me educating myself on how to help my daughter. It started with a phone conversation and her being in a paranoid schizophrenic state. She is in rehab and at first I wanted to be overwhelmed by her calling me when she is high she makes no sense and it upsets me greatly. But now I know the difference at least if she is in a more controlled environment. She doesn't have to be high to sound like that. So I pray I can learn how to best help her and the calming techniques of telling her how much I loved her and creating a safe space really helped our conversation greatly.

[@maricarmenvargas7313]

Thanks for the advice, details and support. God bless you, you are brave and lovely❤

[@sookiesookie9184]

This was so helpful. I thank God I found this video.

[@axenistar]

Beautiful, thank you so much

[@boltonpictures9034]

Another angel in the world . Thank you for sharing your experiences. May God bless you. Not many in the modern world will see their primal responsibility but be affected by stigma and influenced by society. The need of family support cannot be overemphasised in this context. God really needs to send an angel when he dishes this out on humans. ❤

[@Buwan173]

Thank you.

[@stephenkenny7661]

It is a very very very inspiring talk!!! My mom and dad have changed my life hyperbolically I ways I could not verbally describe. I found meditation thru this pain...and also found a job in social work! Which I avoided like the plague my whole life, because...my family was in the social work business!!!!my dad retired early!

[@karenbaird7402]

You so courageous for what you did for your mother We love you for your courage

[@LouisGuagenti]

One of the best most spot on talks about mental illness. Thank you.

[@ericditmer7467]

You left it “all on the field”❤

[@Sanasalmanawan]

can someone pls do a TED talk on its also okay to walk away, when you feel you can no longer deal with a loved one's mental illness.

[@paulrowlands9604]

Wow, complete opposite to what the speaker has just spoke about. No guilt, remorse, empathy, life long regret. That takes strength or having the DNA of a rattlesnake.

[@J-T46]

I know it can be simply maddening dealing with loved ones with mental illness. But abandonment is not love. Just as those suffering from physical illness require pain and recovery medications, those suffering from mental illnesses need a spiritual medicine called Love. Love, Patience, Kindness, Compassion, Forbearance, Mercy and Forgiveness that renews everyday. Now if they pose a danger to your life or physical wellbeing, then that’s clearly another story that requires another type of intervention. But if they’re just negative, stubborn, overly sensitive, quick to feel offended, an overall downer to be around and/ or unreasonable in their thinking, then the antidote to all of these things is LOVE, and all that flows from it.

[@Redmemory1]

I agree. I don’t see it as “abandonment” as the one comment mentions. The speaker has a lot of amazing points, but how about a spouse? What if her mom had to live with her? Was her mom medication compliant? There are so many factors.

[@armaniar7584]

Wow!!! I needed this.. my exact situation right now

[@dancegirlhaver3182]

Thank you for this help

[@claudiacarvalho2773]

❤Thank you so much❤

[@lifetime9582]

Thank you for sharing

[@ravina1556]

I have mentally ill sister from 14 years dealing with her gave me panic disorder anxiety issue i forgot living my personal lige that i dont want to live thia life any more

[@supanigra18750]

After years of verbal and physical abuse in front of the kids you get to the point where it’s time to go

[@JenniferKent-b9l]

Do you have a link to the resources you mentioned in the video?

[@vanyasworld6852]

I am also dealing with that with my mom with almost 6 years...now I am 18 and I think now I properly understand what exactly my mom going through....back then when I was young I used to think that why that thing happened with my mom ,am I the most unluckiest child..why my mom is not like other children mom's,why she behave with me like this..why our family is not like other normal happy family...why we don't go to trips...why we don't laugh..why my mom doesn't ask me about my day in school or homework., back then I don't liked family and wanted to run away far from them .. where I can be fearless and free ...I was also very scared that I am gonna endup like my mom....

[@petalisone1397]

Thank you

[@paulinaperez9006]

My mother have so manny undiagnosed mental issues because according to her she is “fine”. But she has no communication with my brother what’s so ever and is very hard for me and my sister to have a relationship with her. She loves to manipulate, she is very toxic and she doesn’t like to listen to us when we try to talk to her about her mental health. She stayed in the victim side and can’t pass that. My brother and sister and even myself we feel orphans because she was never there for us. And now she wants us to be there for her. We can’t do that 😔 She refuses to go therapy or even take meds for her depression so we feel that there is no way out here. Thank you for listening.

[@elviacarranza1088]

Just Pray with her is the only option at this point trust with your heart and Jesus

[@fighterflight]

Look at Xavier Amador’s TED Talk “ I’m not sick, I don’t need help“ it’s a blueprint for how to convince your loved one to get treatment. Abandon the goal of convincing her she’s sick. Work on building trust and respect in the relationship so you can help her accept treatment. It’s called the LEAP method.

[@terirobinson3616]

There is also a NAMI presentation by Xavier Amador (about an hour and fifteen minutes on KZbin) with Dr. Ken Duckworth hosting. It's very helpful for people who want to help a friend or loved one.

[@gojo9442]

What to do with a parent that refuses to seek help, keeps insisting that they are not mentally ill and do not need professional help, while at the same time making life for everyone around them incredibly difficult. I can be there to listen but I am not a professional to give advice. I can be there but it's not enough for them, at the same time they become quiet when I ask what I can do for them. I don't know anymore.

[@Dbb27]

There’s no solution. I think you just have to het a thick skin. I was just writing this and she’s saying the same thing. You can’t emotionally respond to them.

[@maureenjohnson6888]

Seek advice from a professional for tips to assist your parent. If you have an Employee Assistance Program at work, use it for yourself. See if there is a NAMI support group in your area and attend educational classes. Our Mother battled mental illness for decades. Had to hospitalized when she got off her med, but eventually got on injections that helped her stay pretty stable. Then our oldest sister was diagnosed with a mental illness. It is important that you take care of you first. I wished I had learned that decades ago. You can learn coping tools that will help you take care of yourself and provide healthy boundaries with that parent. But, you must seek resources. I wish you well.

[@methatlovescats3602]

All tHat live with her can call for help and get ahold of the cities judge through the police station and explain the situation with them . First off just talking to the non emergency police station would help you immensely. At least you'll get idea what to do. But a judge can order her to get help . The crazy don't know they are crazy. Call a mental hospital and have her committed is also good. Saying there's nothing you can do is too easy. Explore your options people.

[@lisajackson7546]

You can't take care of yourself first and you have to take care of your grandson for her. I've had to take legal actions to get my daughter committed and she's still refuses to take medication. You can't get help for yourself first. I wish people would be more realistic. It's a very tough situation.

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

I endure my mother for very long period of time beside my own problem

[@ItsSoarTime]

THUMBS UP, 'NUFF SAID after the point about helping those who WANT help. no need to really watch the rest of the video. but i will.

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

My mother talk about money and health never love faith hope etc

[@pazley612]

I would love to access Linda’s guide that you put together ❤

[@ChristineHillstead]

If I could effect children and families by telling my story of schizophrenic mother and mental illness i would do it. It also includes ADD in my father and alcholism in relatives at a time when it was as normal as having a cigarette. It was a disaster that only death ended the suffering although there's still the future generations.

[@patrickgallagher9908]

How can we get a copy of Linda's Guide Brochure?

[@SherryMcKinney-hq2co]

Free mental illness help -- NAMI -- National Alliance for Mental Illness.

[@soundsbeyond4263]

Why do u think your parent/ family member struggle with mental illness?

[@jayneelisabet1159]

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[@LinNil-gz3je]

what if a mom itself diagnosed with schizophrenia, if a kid is mentally its okay we can handle that but what if your mom and brother diagnosed schizophrenia . this is my life , i dont blame anyone but the marriage kulture.

[@tracibaby101]

I appreciate her experience, but there is no help to be found unless you have money. Social networks are gone, social support options through states and communities are gone, the mental health care in this country is nothing about care. You're on your own with your family member.

[@blovethompson]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

I got mental problem but l got doctor and other support

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

My mother is mad but no doctor except me

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

I think mother is mad but no doctor except me

[@ivanemmanuel2822]

My mother say l am thief she must be mad