Let’s chat - buddy colors and amazon wishlist

[@StrawberryBored]

If you don’t feel like doing your buddy colors right now, don’t. I’m positive that if you explain you aren’t into it right now people will understand. This is a hobby first and foremost ❤️😊

[@DaniButtons]

[@rdenee]

I don’t have a YT channel nor really 100% understand buddy coloring, lol, but I think you need to color what makes you happy at the moment. I know as a viewer I love seeing your enjoyment of coloring. While it’s great to do buddy colors to share the love of coloring, if they bring stress it won’t be fun for anyone. What if you did more a group color? Maybe select a book you want to color in and then anyone that wanted could join in a select a page from the same book if they didn’t want to do the same page (not sure all the rules of buddy color). That way you could post the book and a date for the “buddy” color and then anyone that wanted could join in. That way new and old friends could all color along if they wanted, Or something along those lines. I need a KZbin video about how Buddy coloring works. In any case kudos to you for knowing your limits and knowing you need to say something and not suffer in silence.

[@DaniButtons]

I was thinking about that! Maybe a once a month announcing what book I'll color out of if anyone wants to play along! I think that could be a good compromise ( or at least a good start ) Thank you for the suggestion!

[@surroundedbycolors5931]

Everything you said made complete sense. I also suffer from anxiety loops and I end up frozen and not able to do anything. As far as the buddy colors you are such a sweet soul and saying no to any request is gonna hurt but you are only human and not a robot.

[@colorfulcolorist6532]

It does make sense. If you are overwhelmed, surely people can understand that. You should not feel bad at all about wanting to color for yourself. When it becomes something you HAVE to do, instead of something you WANT to do, it loses it's joy. You don't want to lose your joy in your coloring. You SHOULD take a break from buddy colors if you are getting overwhelmed by it.

[@DaniButtons]

Thank you! I should have known the coloring community would be totally supportive!!

[@karizmajade4197]

Have a group buddy color sounds fun, I enjoy watching your videos just hang in there you will figure it out 🤗🦋❤️🌸

[@sarahgreen5475]

What if you put names in a jar and at the beginning of the month and pick your set number like 5. Then draw out 5 names and only with them.

[@PickwickTurtle]

Hugs!!! You are an amazing and beautiful person who cares so deeply for the feelings of everyone here. And we care for your feelings too and nothing should make you feel anxious. 🐢🐢🐢

[@AmberDP100]

It is perfectly okay to say no!! I also have alot of anxiety, and as a people pleaser, I have had to learn to tell myself that the word no is a good thing! Don't feel bad about disappointing anyone else. You need to take care of you. And I would hate for something you love to become more like a chore than a hobby.

[@JojozaHannaHawaii]

Tbh - this is a great video and I’m glad you talked about it. You have such a warm and inviting personality that if people are like me, they like hanging out with you and watch your videos because it feels like coloring with a friend. That’s what it feels like to me. But, like you, as someone who does creative hobbies to destress and deal with anxiety ultimately this hobby shouldn’t hinder you because you are so warm and generous. Saying no or not now is incredibly hard but every yes you say to someone shouldn’t feel like a no or oh-no for yourself. Hopefully this makes sense. Hugs my dear!!

[@DaniButtons]

Thank you so much! I just know so many of us color for anxiety so I would hate to think someone worked up the nerve to ask for a buddy color just for me to say no! And I also wouldn’t want anyone to think “oh she buddy colors with everyone but not me”. Sigh I am hoping if people hear my feelings here they will understand now!

[@tine_dipped_in_colour]

I am a bit behind on watching videos still - sorry - so I can see you already have gotten a lot of support and ideas - this is such an awesome community, like no other I have ever encountered 💪🏻 I just wanted to say that I think it was so awesome that you decided to post the video, and that I know all about loops and thought you explained it spot on - I am sending you lots of hugs and support 👋🏻🤗👋🏻

[@michelles_box_of_hues675]

Oh I am so there with you on the buddy colors. I need to relax with them. Pick a few people and just go back to coloring for fun. I like the motivation buddy colors give me, but I hate the stress of meeting self-imposed deadlines.

[@DaniButtons]

Sometimes we are definitely our own worst enemies!

[@mrscb5303]

Oh I’m so sorry you are feeling stressed about all this stuff. I’m sending relaxing vibes your way!! I’m sure people will understand any thing you need to do. I hope you figure out about the list. I don’t think you needed to feel awkward about either subject, we are all friends here and care about each other. Anyone who doesn’t feel that way can take their toys and go home 😉

[@Elmcolors]

I totally understand what you mean about the buddy colors. I would never want anyone to think I didn’t want to color with them. But, I don’t want to feel guilty if I pick up a page to do just for me. I’m not sure what the answer to all that is, but a place where people could put out a call for buddy colors would be great. Hoping people will be understanding. Take care of yourself, Danielle ❤️

[@DaniButtons]

So far everyone has been super supportive! I shouldn't have worried lol but easier said than done! I am going to come up with a few different ways to do group buddy colors / buddy connections!

[@amyjohns4359]

Ok mam breathe. (My opinion) Im fairly sure the coloring community understands we all get overwhelmed and go through slumps. Give yourself a little TLC it will be ok. I really like the idea of a post on Instagram because I always feel awkward asking someone to buddy color

[@DaniButtons]

💜💜💜 Yes! A “find buddies here” kinda post

[@towalmoore]

@@DaniButtons I am not very IG savvy but couldn't you make a graphic similar to the ones people make for hashtags/coloralongs and post that each month so people could just post under it that they are willing to buddy color

[@DaniButtons]

@@towalmoore I can definitely try !

[@heathers_colorpalooza8789]

Just breathe girl. You take care of you. Just simply explain to your peeps what’s going on and they will understand and if they don’t that’s on them. This should not be a stressful hobby. Please do what you have to do to take care of you. You are way to sweet to make yourself anxious or stressed. 😉

[@ShainaInColorland]

I totally understand how you’re feeling Danielle and I know it probably doesn’t help but you just need to do what is best for you! I’ve gotten to the point where even if it takes me months I’m just upfront about that when I accept buddy colors and see if they still want to color with me. Amazon has been a mess lately! I’ve sent gifts to others lately that haven’t showed up and it is so frustrating not sure what’s going on with that but that could be why! Anyway take care girly and you can always vent to me if you need and want! 💜💜

[@towalmoore]

What if you made a "sign up sheet" with x number of slots which could be posted on the community tab. Once that is filled (first come, first serve would be best, IMO) no more buddy colors for that month. You don't have to be militant about it, of course, if you do all of them and still want to color you can ask people or announce you are accepting x more for the month. Our only "official" buddy color took 6 months to finish and I wasn't stressing over it and I don't think you were either. Most people will understand if you have to put off a page for a month or 6.

[@DaniButtons]

Yes this makes sense. Maybe half community tab and half IG

[@nikkijayne8661]

Danielle hunni.. If people are your true friends they will understand if you don't feel like doing a buddy colour. I've also been the same with buddy colours, I feel like they stop you do from doing other pages. I would colour what you want when you want, otherwise your hobby will become more like a chore. 🤗 Always here if you need to talk to anyone 💜

[@cassyscolors]

Hi Dani 💜 I think that a lot of ppl find you as an inspiration for how many pages your able to color every month, like you mentioned sometimes it’s 70 pages. And I think a lot of us struggle to find the motivation to color as much as we’d like too. And buddy coloring is a way to get you motivated to color more so that’s why you in particular most likely get so many requests. But I don’t think anyone would be upset if you couldn’t get to their pages! I think ppl just like the motivation. But you should always color for yourself and use buddy colors when you want and never feel like “you have too”. Buddy colors stress me out too, so I totally get it. And it wasn’t awkward at all 💜 you’re so sweet ☺️

[@lisabscreativeworld9238]

I think you need a hug!!!

[@jeanneconnolly8769]

You did fine . Take care of yourself . I liked your video because you are very genuine and kind . Please just tell people you can’t do Buddy colors at this time , they will understand .

[@DaniButtons]

Thank you! You're right everyone is very understanding !

[@ColorMeImpressed]

Thank you for making this video!! I’m sure it was hard for you because I know you haha. So it’s even more cool that you posted this. I am here to confirm that it is totally not awkward and makes complete sense. Also good job on explaining that loop. I never thought to explain it like that but that is SO on point! Anyways, everyone will understand the buddy coloring thing but even so, it is still hard to say no to friends! Did you ever kind of facilitate buddy colors during buddycolorathon? As in finding people others to buddy color with? Maybe you could suggest that as an option for people that you can’t take on as a buddy color that month - just a thought! I also like the idea of a monthly mass buddy color that someone else brought up. Sending you lots of hugs 🤗

[@DaniButtons]

I think through all the suggestions I have a few different ways to set up buddy colors that I hope will work for everyone!! I will tell you all my plans when you recover from being social three days in a row lmao ( almost typed lamo...big yikes )

[@SpiceyCatColors]

HUGS! I think it's ok to take a BC break. Maybe you should just wait until you pick what you want to color and you can reach out to some of your coloring friends you know have that book or would buddy with you. That way YOU initiate the color and have already picked the page. I know if you decided to play in a book we share and messaged me that you want to do page XXX in book XXX, most likely I haven't done it and will jump in! Amazon - I love that people share their lists. I actually have several friends lists saved so I can browse for ideas. I bet it's an honest mistake and people were browsing your list for ideas and clicked to buy it not realizing they were still on your list. Amazon needs to add a big red flashing icon if the shipping address is changed from an item off a wish list. :) Deep breaths and one stessor at a time. You got this! ~💜Cathy😺

[@FeathPymArt]

You tell your friends, you need less stress. You tell them it's not personal. You are canceling all your buddy colors. Then, you cancel all your buddy colors. If they are your friend - or even empathetic to a stranger - it's not going to be a problem. They will send you virtual hugs and reassurances that you are still their friend. They will truly understand. Take a break. Color for yourself. Recharge. Become happy again. it's okay to take some 'me' time. Having a YT channel can get stressful, just by itself. You'll be okay. The wish list thing is weird. Are your packages getting left in a public area (like your front door)? They might be getting stolen. Maybe have it set so they are delivered to a secure box, I forget what they're actually called, where you can pick it up whenever you want.

[@DaniButtons]

Thank you I think saying it an a video has made me feel better because everyone can hear my thoughts at once instead of bits and pieces to different people if that makes sense. And the packages do get delivered to my door but we are in a single family house and my dog is always letting me know if anyone comes anywhere near the area so I dont really know what's happening with that lol. It is very very rare that NO ONE is home, especially this last year and a half !

[@FeathPymArt]

@@DaniButtons I'm a total stranger, and I understand. Your friends will understand. you of course checked your address on amazon and made sure it's correct. Maybe amazon is glitchy and telling you it's been bought, when it hasn't. Maybe move it to a new listing, ie: close the wish list and make a new one and call it 'gift me' or something. Just so everything resets. *shrug* could work.

[@minnierach9420]

I might sound like a bit of a hypocrite since I also have anxiety. Take a deep breath have a warm drink and chill. Don't worry about the buddy colours if you need time off that's fine. Sometimes you need to step away even from the things you love and that's fine your buddies will always be there when you make that decision to come back. I do agree tho I think your taking up too much in a month (it's up to you how.much you take but I have noticed last couple months most pictures you did were buddy colours) maybe dont set a time cap more a limit cap for example have 5 active ones and then once your done and ready move to the next five it might take longer to get to people but you will probably feel a lot less overwhelmed. Take that rest first tho before thinking about it and then come back to it when your in a better headspace :)

[@cindycolorsforsanity]

I completely understand what you were saying and how you feel! I do not have any great ideas for you, but it seems like others do. I just wanted to let you know you are not alone and not the only one that goes through this. I admire your courage for making this video! Also, this coloring community is so great, so kind and understanding I am sure everyone will understand, at least those who matter. Take care of yourself and do what is best for you!!

[@DaniButtons]

Yes the coloring community is great! It sometimes seems to me like I go through this every few months but I feel good having made a video about it this time. I am just so worried to hurt anyones feelings

[@Shannonconstantlycolors]

💜💜

[@craftingwithkristi6949]

Dani I love you you are human we all need breaks some times it's ok

[@michelled.3849]

If something that you normally enjoy becomes a “chore,” it will no longer be enjoyable. So do what’s best for you. Honestly I don’t really know how you and other you tubers have the time to put out so many videos and juggle going to work, doing household chores, etc. Kuddos!

[@elizabethrector8205]

Oh lady! 🦋💜🦋 You definitely need a break!

[@amandadowney953]

Don't apologize, you had to say what was on your mind genuinely. Try to give myself 5 buddies to color with and that's usually the goal. Take some time to color for yourself and relax. Hugs honey. 🤗

[@DaniButtons]

Thank you so much!

[@emmacolours2020]

You have to find a way that works for you...they definitely shouldn’t feel this stressful....maybe just let new buddies know that it could be a longer period of time before you get to them....or even do buddy colour videos lol...who knows you lol find a way

[@DaniButtons]

Yes! I will definitely work on it! I think its also just the changing seasons. now I'm itching to do other hobbies. I am sure once winter comes I'll be back to a bunch of pages again and ready for all the buddies!

[@sarahgreen5475]

Or what if you picked a page in any book and then said anyone who wanted to colour along this is what I am doing and the book I am doing it in. Then you are picking and others can colour or not. I’m not sure how posting works but then somehow post them all at a later date. So maybe a post at the beginning of the month and set a day to be sent to you and then post them all the next month when you choose your next months colouring page.

[@aliciacolorsandcrafts]

I think it’s becoming a competition to get a lot of pages done. I think that’s ruining things. Give yourself a break. Remember what you always say, coloring is about the process, not the product. Maybe an idea, when you get ready to color a page that YOU want to color, hop on Instagram and tell people what you’re coloring if anyone wants to color along with you. That would be like buddy coloring, but it’s what and when you want. And the Amazon thing, that’s weird! No suggestions there!

[@DaniButtons]

It definitely seems that way, the competitiveness. I think I am going to come up with a few different ways to do group buddy colors or at least pair people up with other buddies so thank you for the suggestion!

[@Abi.Cadaver]

Firstly, and I think from what i've seen of this lovely community, no-one would Ever want you to be feeling so anxious or pressured over buddy colours, or take offence if you can't say yes to them. I think we put so much pressure on ourselves and we forget that this is meant to help us relax and de-stress. I can also understand why you feel awkward mentioning the wishlist issue but please be assured that no-one will take it the wrong way and hopefully if anyone has gifted you and not heard from you they can let you know. I totally understand your anxiety as i know i'd be the same but please know there are many of us that understand. I hope now you've spoken about these things that you can feel calmer :)

[@DaniButtons]

Yes I think making a "statement" has definitely helped because I think I've told different people bits and pieces of my feelings but now they are all out there for everyone

[@debramiller2501]

Don't' do it. I get like that I leave my coloring alone and go onto some other thing. Right now it's stickers for my apartment

[@deniserader545]

Hey Danielle sweetie just checking on you it's ok to step back sometimes it's very understandable just do what feels good to you and don't feel pressured.

[@DaniButtons]

Thank you