let's talk about our fear of posting online

[@Birdohhh]

seeing people actively charge ahead despite the very real pitfalls of failure is nothing short of inspiring. much like yourself, I've wanted to create a space online to share parts of myself with the world but always convince myself otherwise. It's like this internal voice in my head protecting me from all the criticisms that, as you said, feel like an attack on my character. Once I have more to say, ill take a stab at it, for now I root for those willing to take the leap. You got this!

[@yesiamjose]

thank you so much, this is such a nice thing to say!!!!! i definitely had that internal monologue when i was working on this video. even now, a couple of days after it's been up, i still can't believe i didn't listen to it like i always do and not take the leap. it wasn't easy for sure, but it's so rewarding when you see yourself on the other side. i hope you start carving out a place for yourself on the internet; i'll be rooting for you when you do

[@simitvs]

You perfectly encapsulated all my feelings when I started my channel lol

[@yesiamjose]

i’m glad you can relate! i wonder how long it’ll take to stop feeling like this; even when i finished recording, editing and then in the process of uploading, i kept thinking to myself all the reasons not to hit publish. hopefully as i keep consistent i can break away from that mindset, but we’ll see.

[@zachary35]

Good video, I have make no posts on social media and never really have despite growing up consuming so much of it. You made me reflect and realize that a lot of this comes from a place of subconscious fear that I never really even knew was there. Good video, keep it up bro.

[@yesiamjose]

i’m exactly the same! honestly starting this channel is part me trying to accomplish the goals of a younger self and part gaining the confidence to not let other people’s opinions of me dictate my actions. it’s interesting that for you it’s subconscious; i feel that for me it’s on the forefront of my mind what people will think, and that’s what holds me back. thank you for commenting, i really do appreciate your words of encouragement :)

[@wanderandflow]

Loved your video! Literally you spoke all the thoughts I had in my head. I started a faceless channel that was for a specific niche but it didn’t feel right for me anymore. I started this one so I can have more creative flow but I’m working on being on camera more. I’ve come to the point where I just don’t care who sees anymore cause I love making and editing videos and it’s not that deep😂 I just filmed some videos about my journey with tarot journaling and I’m actually excited about it being posted with my face lol. Thanks for your realness in this video and excited to watch more of your content!

[@yesiamjose]

thank you so much! i get you - there is such a pleasant feeling you get when you shift from only having these ideas stay in your head to you giving yourself permission to create what feels right for you. i've only made a handful of videos since this one and i cannot believe how long i've been holding myself back because of my fear of what others would think. fear really does kill more dreams than failure! love that you’re embracing the camera and just going with the flow now. keep having fun with it, and i hope you enjoy seeing where your creative journey takes you :)

[@srmcx]

hey. I'm 13 and I was really inspired by this video. honestly, a few days ago, I wanted to start posting on TikTok but was too afraid to do so because of the embarrassment of my past, irl and online, but I had to realize that at the end of the day, like you said: nobody really cares. I posted this video I thought was kinda funny and got like 150 likes and +25 followers which I'm happy about. people liked my video apparently, (mostly from my school but strangers online commented as well) and the only reason I was able to post it was because I was doing it for MYSELF and not for any other reason. thank you for posting this video.

[@yesiamjose]

i envy that you learned this at such a young age! i hope you internalize this experience so you keep it well into adulthood and for the rest of your life. don't let fear be what keeps you from your dreams. whatever it is that you want to do in life, i hope you give it your absolute best!!!

[@kiwisweet5520]

being bullied and stuff really leaves an impact. humans are a social species, so our brains have evolved to fear negative social reactions, which makes sense cuz like back in the day, if you piss off ppl in the village ur dead (think salem witch trials). plus we evolved to feel literal pain when imagining bad outcomes to risky decisions, but we didnt evolve to feel literal pleasure when imagining good potential outcomes, which is why it's sooo hard to change behavior. im struggling w this right now and this is inspiring. i think this video was recommended to me bc this year i identified that the reason why i havent acted upon my social media goals is fear!!! and have been researching how to overcome it. i intend to face this fear and make progress toward overcoming it this summer and it is very fricken scary lol. but thank you, this video is empowering for me to continue :) (btw this is account is *not* my "posting" youtube, in case anyone wonders)

[@yesiamjose]

i never really thought about it like that! it makes a whole lot of sense, though i wish there was a way to trick the mind. i feel as though if i think about it logically the benefits of reaching my goals seem to be significantly greater than the risk of failure, yet i’m more inclined to not act upon what i want. i guess fear is a powerful thing; we really can’t divorce our emotions from the decision making process, which is so annoying. i’m glad you decided to take action and face your fears and i hope you reach the goals that you set!

[@livypanzz]

I really feel u w this. This whole idea has been on my mind a lot lately. Keep it up I see success for you!!

[@yesiamjose]

i’m glad i was able to strike a chord. thank you so much for that!!! it means a lot, you have no idea :)

[@bensergen]

This was great Jose! I've been contemplating about starting a KZbin channel for a couple of years myself. My whole life, I've barely posted on social media but now I feel like I'm ready to take action and leave my comfort zone behind. I know I have things to say but the resistance is still there. I've started recording myself talking to the camera but I still haven't been able to bring myself to upload anything. You are being authentic and that's why you will make it. It's time for me to rip the bandaid off and get this sh*t started!

[@yesiamjose]

i cannot tell you how happy i am for you to have come to this realization. i hope your words manifest themselves to action real soon. you honestly need to start before you're ready. this video you saw was far perfect or even where i wanted it to be before i uploaded, but i told myself if i don't do it now i never will, so i posted it. i hope you can find someway to do the same. RIP THE BANDAID OFF!!!

[@bensergen]

@@yesiamjose thank you for responding. I’ll post my first video before Monday (me manifesting it). I have a deadline now, THAT VIDEO WILL BE POSTED HAHA. keep up the good work!

[@marciieeeee]

this is really insightful. a lot of the times before making my own channel, i think of several what ifs in my head, like what if people talk shit about my video, what if they criticize it, what if the video doesn't get lots of views, etc. but i guess the best thing we can do to overcome those negative thoughts is simply trying to focus on what our intentions are. why did i uploaded that video? what is the purpose of it? once i answered that, i became less anxious and less conscious about uploading that one video.

[@yesiamjose]

i love that for you. it can be terrifying to try something new in front of people (much more the internet of all places, are you kidding me?!) but the first step is the hardest. who cares what others are going to say! do what's right by you, and that should be enough. wish you the best :)

[@graspingreason]

You're not alone in feeling this way ( 2:02 ) for sure. I'm a year in to putting out content and still battling hard against that self-criticism. You've got a great mindset with regards to effort = success though. That silly fear that we might all feel at putting something out in to the world is worth ignoring. Because each time we put something out we're taking a step. A step that isn't otherwise taken. A step that can be judged, sure. But isn't that better than a step that isn't taken at all? Good luck on your journey man. The change in mic quality from before the dead cat to after, is really noticeable, i'm buying some dead cats right now. With enough duct tape I could probably fit 10 or so to my mic arm, and that will hopefully make me sound like a real person.

[@yesiamjose]

i’m glad i’m not the only one that thinks like this and i love the way you put it. honestly this video is something small and menial compared to all the content that’s out there and the creators that make it, but if i want to be like them i need to know that i need to be bad before i’m good, and that it’s a bunch of little efforts that will make a big change. thank you for your kind words and i’m glad you noticed the difference in audio lol.

[@YocedEcoy]

lets talk about our fear of going offline

[@yesiamjose]

haha. that would make for an interesting video. maybe once i become chronically online i’ll speak on that. and i wonder what the people that feel like that think of the people afraid to post???

[@DahliaTheHologram]

We all start at the beginning. ❤Welcome! 😊

[@yesiamjose]

thank’s for the reminder! and thank you for the welcome :)

[@dirtyunclehubert]

damn son, i wish these days WAY MORE people had that fear of sharing themselves online!!!! you not included.

[@yesiamjose]

thank you for making me an exception