Life After Divorce: My Divorce Story

Hey y’all!
Whew this was a tough one. My most personal post yet. Fair warning, this is NOT a place to bash anyone but a place to share what I learned. The journey is what matters.
0:00-Vlog Introduction
0:21-Topic Series Introduction
4:30-The beginning
9:33-Trouble in paradise
14:51-Communication, Conclusion, & Confirmation
19:51-The Ending & A New Beginning
Connect with me:
@heyshannonrae-IG
@hey_shannonrae-Twitter
@hey_shannonrae-TikTok
Bible Scriptures:
Isaiah 61:3, Malachi 2:10-16, Matthew 19:8-9, and Exodus 21:10-11
Books:
The Power of a Praying Wife by Stormie Omartian
What’s it Like to be Married to Me? By Linda Dillow
Podcast:
Woman Evolve Podcast by Pastor Sarah Jakes Roberts
#heyshannonrae #divorce #divorcestory #redemption #heartbreak #single

[@stephaniefythm]

I went through a lot of financial crisis during my divorce, I had to raise my two kids alone, Currently I'm living smart and frugal with my money. Bought my second house already. Saving and investing lifestyle made it possible for me; even till now I earn monthly through passive income. I'm planning on retiring when my kids finish college..

[@eadad4371]

I'm a single dad. Not quite long I started investing. I'm very curious and need help on how to enhance and increase my returns. Any good investment tips would be appreciated

[@stephaniefythm]

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[@eadad4371]

@@stephaniefythm That’s great , your investment advisor must be really good,I have seen testimonies of people using the help of investment advisors in making them more financial stable. Do you mind sharing more info on this person?

[@stephaniefythm]

@@eadad4371 look her up on the internet and leave her a message she's quite popular for her services as she was recently featured on cnn. She can work with anyone irrespective of where their located

[@emeldcentor1474]

@@stephaniefythm just got out of my marriage,I have had the intentions of starting investing. But I always thought it was late and I think I need to stop procrastinating. I will definitely 🔍 Regina Louise Collaro and see what she can advise .Thanks a lot . This was of so much help to me .

[@lisarochester2978]

I was divorced too, due my husband infidelity, but it was like a death, I really had to huddle in God's blossom for healing. I'm surprised about you feeling excited, it was so scary for me, I never changed a light bulb before. I'm now remarried to a wonderful person for 8 years, I have no regrets. My kids suffered the most emotionally, they are now adults, but still struggle with alot of issues.

[@LindaKLee]

🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@kieralarkins1294]

Thank you for sharing your story. I don’t know you but I honestly feel like we are sisters in spirit. Your video helped me feel understood, convicted, less of a failure, less alone…just all the things. I am scared in so many ways but I love me and I love you so much.

[@KLashorobi]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I love that you spoke on God’s confirmation because whew! when he gives you his word and you ignore it, he only makes it that much louder when he repeats himself until you hear him. I finally heard him loud and clear. So glad you did too.

[@eyeambicpoet]

Thank you for sharing your story Shannon! I know it wasn't easy to talk about it just like I know it wasn't easy to live through it. However, your strength, perseverance and faith allowed you to see it through and enlighten us. Sending you much and light on this journey!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much, like sincerely! It means more than you know.

[@thepowerofshe5124]

Hi Shannon, I am so glad I found you. I can so relate to so many points you made and it took me 15 years, been divorced 2 years. I had God's confirmation and covering. I did not want to give up but I know the harder I sacrificed the worst it got. God told me himself my ex-husband was not the one he had for me...it was the mess I created. I have had nothing but peace and blessings, you would never believe. Loving myself and knowing I am worthy and deserving has been a journey but its worth it all because nothing I go through is wasted. I have so much peace and excitement about the plans God has for me. My life has transformed and you have to qualify to have access (not arrogant) to my life. The growth is in the journey:) God Bless you:)

[@HeyShannonRae]

I love hearing this! It's such a journey and people should qualify for access. We have to do it every where else...jobs, purchasing a home, it's not arrogance it's purely the facts. God bless you!!

[@jennihj]

Do you mind me asking how god told you he wasn’t the one for you?

[@thepowerofshe5124]

No I don’t mind. Emotional and physical abuse. I had lost myself trying to save him, consistently being disrespected, cheating. He had been cheating for 10 years. I was killing myself, I was at my lowest point and he didn’t care. I had lost so much weight, health went down. I asked God to tell me and Toure Roberts came on KZbin, he said God told him to give this message about not going back to the old. He was going for a ride on his bike. I was fasting and praying. Since divorce and no contact, God has blessed my life beyond words, that’s another way how I know it wasn’t meant to be. It’s painful but it truly was worth it all. I don’t regret it. You have to decide for yourself. God bless you❤️

[@helenjackson708]

Wow, Shannon. Just simply WOW! You’re amazing, you’re beautiful, you’re strength, and you’re hope! I’m so proud of you, and honored to simply have access to you as a friend and sister! Thank you again for this, I cannot wait to see everything God continues to do in your life. ❤️

[@HeyShannonRae]

💜💜💜💜 you!!

[@lasandrahubbard7997]

Whewwww!! This is soooooo good!! Appreciate your vulnerability and transparency!! This series will change lives. ❤️

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much! For real, for everything 💕

[@Shaneka_Kay]

Thank you for sharing. God is such a good Father and so faithful even in the storms. I can relate because I had to leave a long time dating relationship I was in. It was tough, but I prayed about it and others prayed and the answer was clear.

[@akkomplished19]

Thank you for sharing this! Your honesty, transparency, and your faith through it all are truly inspiring. Love you 💕

[@HeyShannonRae]

Love you beauty and thank you so very much!

[@aftansanders6889]

Just wow! 😭A beautiful testimony you are. Continue to let God’s light shine through you. I know your testimony will help so many others. Can’t wait for more ❤️

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank youuuu. I really appreciate it so much.

[@gotamekanicole]

Your smile is so infectious. I haven’t been married and I don’t know if I ever will get married but I find it really beneficial to hear the experiences of others. And you’re gorgeous LOL so I had to click on your video!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Just wanted to say thank you, for watching and for the amazing compliments-made my day 💜

[@franktalkwithfavour]

Thank you for sharing your story. It's helping me in more ways than I can share at the moment. Once again, thank you!

[@HeyShannonRae]

I’m so glad it found you and pray any and everything else you may need finds you too. Thank you so much for watching!

[@abeniofunniyin5906]

Thank you sis! Your transparency has helped someone! Love you for being your most vulnerable self

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much Abeni! I appreciate you girl!!!

[@allthingsicandy2740]

This is beautiful Shannon. I appreciate your transparency because it truly helps and inspires other people.

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you💜 I love you.

[@myeshiasteward8744]

Beautiful testimony Sis!! God is truly shining through you! Love you deep!! ✨🙏🏽❤️

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much sis, love you!

[@kiyenaevans6192]

1. You look amazing!! 2. There is so much purpose that is coming from your pain. May God continue to use you in such a powerful way and allow you to be a helping hand for those in need of these words!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you sis 💜

[@teritaylor3199]

Shannon. Your experience in divorce is somewhat identical to mine. Your emotions are exactly how I felt. Your words of wisdom and transparency is what I wished I had at the time but I just didn’t know how to channel them. I KNOW God is working it all out for you and that you will be even better. Keep shining that Shannon “Ray” of light!!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much for watching Teri! It means so much and I hope your beautiful self is doing well! 💕

[@FertilityFreak]

I am proud of you for stepping out of the prison you felt you were in! So many people stay in that prison and its ok to try to work it out and ok to not. 🙏🏾🙏🏾 Your story really matters. Thanks for sharing.

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much! God is just so good!

[@imanijx]

Thank you for your honesty. I'm 25, never been married, and Christian. This is such a courageous and kind video to share. God bless you as you continue to flourish. xx

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so so much. I really appreciate you watching and especially your comment. God bless you💗

[@Sona77.]

Wishing you healing and good things!

[@iammindyj_]

Thank you for sharing your story! ❤️❤️ May God keep you and guide you as you continue.

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much for watching! Amen 🙌🏾

[@bericarobinson3596]

This is impactful and powerful! Thank you for sharing your experience and insight!

[@HeyShannonRae]

All God! Thank you so much for supporting 🙌🏾

[@kford5832]

Godspeed. He is truly using and shining through you. Cheers to you Shannon Rae!! ❤️🌹

[@HeyShannonRae]

💜you!

[@becks2339]

Wow! Your story is so so similar to mine 🥺 I also realised I made a huge mistake as soon as we got married and saw so many signs of infidelity too. Prayed and prayed for a concrete sign before I made a move and it was made so clear last year with evidence. I’m happily at peace now and can’t wait to see where my new life takes me :) Thank you so much for sharing your story! Looking forward to watching more videos of this series x

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much for sharing! I’m so grateful God gave you peace and know that blessings are on the way!!

[@tishlb723]

You are beautiful inside and out and your transparency is beautiful. I just love you and can relate to so much of this. I truly believe you will have your heart’s desires.

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you sis! It’s been quite the season but God has us in his hands!

[@JS-cj2os]

Thank you for sharing! I have a similar story but I’m still waiting on the official divorce decree.

[@latishasteen3520]

Shannon! God is shining all through you! You hit the nail on the head with this one. “Anything that costs you your peace is too expensive!” Thank you for your transparency, vulnerability, and honesty! Love you! And I look forward to seeing more of the blessings God will give you!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much Latisha! I soooo appreciate it beauty 💜

[@LaurenRosetta00]

Thank you for sharing your story Shannon

[@laiicreates3213]

Thanks for sharing your story ! God bless you 💜🙏🏽sis ! Keep on keeping on ! self love 💗is extremely important

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much for watching!!

[@Jesuslover0214]

This is awesome!! My dad passed on the date you mentioned in the beginning. 4/3/20

[@engelnkosi7002]

I am a black woman in my 30 I have 2 kids and I don't think about marriage, does not worry me and I don't loose sleep over it.

[@MPllll.]

It’s crazy how we can go through something, not realizing that, that season happened so that we could not only be free and receive transformation, but also so that someone else - SOMEONE ELSE - could receive that same blessing through Christ. We are literally vessels. Thank you for seeking God and sticking it out. Your courage gives me hope, and you positivity makes me feel loved. Thank you sister ❤️❤️❤️❤️ Glory be to God!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so so much, for watching, for relating, and for supporting. You are so appreciated! 💜

[@missbeby100]

It seems like during covid alot of marriages hit rock bottom. I'm happy I stumbled upon your video. My spouse cheated on me alot during this period while I was hoping it would be the time that we would lean on each other but shock on me it was the other way round. This time I was pregnant and studying for two certificate. I found out all the information a few weeks prior to my due date. I had to hold my breath because I almost dropped down. His family sat him down and we did a couple of counseling sessions n he said they were not helpful. The hustle of taking care of me and the child got into the way, fast forward last year I found out that he still was on to it and doing even more than before. Now I'm so done, I'm now seeking divorce. I'm happy that you shared on the steps you took in going through your divorce prior and after

[@gostrongwill7431]

Beautiful transparency and great video!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much! Appreciate you watching.

[@brittanyalicia7241]

Thank you for sharing your story! ✨ beautiful!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so much for watching!

[@Courtneyluv0307]

Love this!!! I truly can relate! Shoulda made this a panel! Chyyyyy listennnn babbaaay! 😘

[@HeyShannonRae]

Girl yes!!!! And thank you so much for watching!

[@Arsena]

My divorce hasn’t been easy, but I felt the same peace and welcomed closing the chapter for the same exact reasons.. The following year has been the best year of my life. #Greater

[@HeyShannonRae]

I am so so happy to hear that! It is deserved, we were meant for joy. Thank you for watching and I hope for even greater blessings and goodness your way!

[@shesvirtuous]

This sound soooo similar to mine, i recently had to move out and he is intent on a divorce, this year made it 5 years together and 2 years marriage. We have 3 kids before marriage with others and a 2 year old together, let me tell you. You are working thus as if otnis my story I relayed to you. God bless you for sharing and I pray God grant me to relay mine in the same honesty and transparency yet honor for my self and experience, down to reading the power of a praying wife. Ohhh the disrespect we ensured and still wanting to be a better wife. I too was reading scripture ensuring that I was seeking God on it through and through, prayed and fasted. I am grateful for my growth in Christ, we met 2 years marriage but it would have been 1 year as well

[@LaTasiaspeaks]

So proud of you !

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you so so much 💜💜💜💜💜💜

[@wanjirukarago9308]

Life after divorce,separation based on many people i have seen is always awesome the women tend to glow more

[@HeyShannonRae]

My friends and I talk about this all of the time!

[@comfortmarthaoginuche806]

Thank you Young lady with ,i got divorce this in 2021 the relationship lasted few yrs of marriage but i contiue to push it up 32yrs becos i was on my own in all this yrs until i finally gather my remaininy life, now am happy that i did divorce from à poligammy marriage

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you for watching and I’m so happy you found the right partnership for you!

[@hi8107]

Thank you for sharing your story!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you for watching💚

[@gameklipz3553]

Be blessed 🙏🏽

[@HeyShannonRae]

💜💜💜

[@ninjasavings]

I love you hair!

[@niese8928]

“Blessed is she who hath believed that he God will fulfill his promises to her”… Luke 1:45… He will give you the desires of your heart sis.. Keep trusting in him.. Thanks for sharing!

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you for this comment, be blessed sis 💜

[@keepitbraidedashleyroachja4055]

Thank you ☺️

[@Jesuslover0214]

Thank you so much!!

[@HeyShannonRae]

I’m so glad you liked it, and I’m so deeply sorry to hear of your Father’s passing such a short time ago. Praying that healing finds you in every step of this journey.

[@lisarochester2978]

Even though, you are celebrating, I still pray for you, that you have peace on your wedding anniversary date, support since you are left with his debt and extra bills, the nightmare of dating again, so many worms out there. May God guide you. May your life be fill with peace and happiness. This is why women need to educate themselves, in case shit like this happens they can survive.

[@HeyShannonRae]

So true, because there are still moments in this process. Thank you so much for watching 💜💜💜

[@mthulisidube5502]

Kindly listen to the below listed presentation on Divorce & Remarriage: 1. Dr Joseph Webb (It's a 6 part presentation, 2. David Pawson (Divorce & Remarriage). These guys will teach you a lot about this subject.

[@HeyShannonRae]

Thank you

[@roro-qx6fr]

Just subscribed. God bless 💕

[@chanelclinton26]

Thank you!

[@HeyShannonRae]

💜💜💜🙌🏾 thank you beauty!

[@ntsakomavunda9018]

Sending you love and hugs dear .. yea our God hates dirvoce by all means But I have come to realise that our God is our Father , a loving father for that matter , we can always run back to Him in any situation. The is no situation that is beyond God mercy and grace ...the mistake that many believers I think do, is to run away from God when faced with hard situation such a dirvoce instead of running to Him . He's God who covers all sorts of shame .

[@melanu2505]

15:17 "Do you like who are when you are there?" this made me burst into tears because my answer is a resounding "Yes" 💯 %. 21:56 Yes to he is expanding my life while making me feel like the best version of myself.He does support me and I feel excited and safe. Shannon, I've forgiven him yet I'm contemplating leaving him for fear of getting hurt should he repeat the "Issue" again which I found out just 3 days ago. The last few days have been an emotional rollercoaster for me. I would really appreciate any thoughts on what do you think I should do.

[@HeyShannonRae]

Hey there, I really just want to say I’m so sorry to read about your pain. Whatever the issue is, it has to cut deeply enough for you to consider leaving and my goodness I know that’s hurtful to even think about. I believe that when two people make a decision to fight, when two people make a decision to prioritize the needs of each other, and two people make a decision to repair what’s broken- it can absolutely be done. Just make sure that in forgiving him you’re allowing yourself to grieve what happened and you’re honoring what you’re going through. You deserve to heal. In forgiving him you also have to be prepared to walk with him through the journey of restoration. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you go back to the relationship you had before, but if you’re both honest and both commit to the process maybe it can mean you build something stronger than before. Only you know if it’s worth the work. Being true to yourself and what you need will be key. Only time will tell if he will repeat the issue. It’s a scary place to be, but not a hopeless one. It’s probably been a draining 3 days so take whatever emotional or physical space you may need to sort through how you feel. Think about what it is that you want and need and if your partner can meet you there. The truth is always there, and if you follow that it will get you to exactly the place you’re meant to be. 💜

[@melanu2505]

@@HeyShannonRae Thank you so much for getting back to me. I took your advice and took the emotional and physical space I needed. The Stress I have been going through was so much that it weakened my immune system and left me susceptible to an illness that took me 3 weeks to recover from. This Break also opened my eyes to issues I had "overlooked" before. At some point I felt like I was grieving our relationship before it had really ended if that makes any sense at all. A few days ago he offered me a solution that really isn't what I need and want from him. My spirit led me to ask specific questions and the answers to these confirmed alot. I have decided to forgive him and to end this relationship, go back to my country where I intend to start over again and work on healing myself through therapy, immerse myself in work while staying away from dating for the moment. I'm hurting, my heart is 💔 but I believe after it rains the sun will shine🌈 . Shannon I thank God for your wisdom and this Channel. Be blessed.🙏🏽

[@HeyShannonRae]

@@melanu2505 I hope you know how beautiful your spirit shines even through such a heartbreak, and huge transition. On the other side of this is going to be something so good, so pure, and so beautiful. That forgiveness you gave him, is the key to your freedom. You’re a testimony and a triumph. I’m rooting for you!

[@sherqueradavidson1764]

I said the same things.

[@clarissa6398]

It sounds like you may have been married to a narcissist. When you have time, take a look at HG Tudor to learn how narcissists behave. Check out Sam Vaknin to understand their inner turmoil. I'm in the middle of a divorce after 23 years of marriage. It is hard but it is necessary. I'm looking forward to brighter days.

[@anthonygomez8338]

I'll advise you to not listen to Mr or miss Jake's. They play with God

[@sarahmbyamukama3312]

Did you do a video when you got married, sharing your story and what God was doing in your lives? Why do a video now, really? I don't get this thing about happily divorced

[@HeyShannonRae]

In this video, I share that I hadn’t started making videos until after our wedding and after the pandemic. I shared my story then and once we found out the truth regarding our relationship I shared that for all those who might be dealing with that type of pain too. Feel free to check out the other videos in the series (in particular Life After Divorce: Reinventing yourself). Thank you for watching!

[@judeayo1806]

Let me educate you....Thats a very basic, child like way to think. A lot of things cost us our peace that are worth fighting for. For example, For God so loved the world that he gave us his only begotten son. Do you think Christ dying for us DIDNT COST HIM HIS PEACE? But he died anyways. If we claim to be christains, lets serve God with our hearts and truly. We cant be Christains only when it is convinient. Marriage is a lot of work and when the value of something is unknown, its abuse is inevitable. Our generation dont know the value of marriage that is why divorce is so common. Marriage will cost you your peace but are you matured enough to fight through it as long as there is no abuse or cheating.

[@HeyShannonRae]

I’d encourage you to watch the video completely before commenting. Also I go on to talk about how we found out our marriage wasn’t legal through the divorce process in this series (God made moves). Thank you for the parts you did watch and the education. God bless you!

[@bonitadavis6060]

Chile…you should prob watch the entire series before making comments because it will keep you from wasting your time and making unnecessary comments like this one… And before you try to “educate” someone …learn how to spell convenient Ok…toodles