LIFE AFTER SEPARATION/ DIVORCE (MOVING ON) | LATE NIGHT PODCAST

[@maryokine2797]

Hey Dela, name for your new podcast “Straight Talk, Kasa” So emotional to hear Sisters speak about what happened to them. Rough. Dela you are so beautiful. If the Lord wills, he will match you up again. For now focus on the kids, keep working and keep sweet, honest, true and gorgeous and let’s watch this space❤

[@maryokine2797]

To your lovely guest. Sorry about your experience. Sounds like the marriage was not correct from the start. So don’t knock yourself. Life is full of amazing surprises, you’ll see. Keep doing your fantastic business, sounds amazing. Stick with God, he knows how to patch things🙏🏾❤️

[@msama3123]

This was so eye opening. As a woman in her 30s who’s never been married and has been praying to God for a spouse and understanding the pain that myself and my unmarried friends sometimes feel it was so opening to see a different perspective. I had no clue divorce was so painful, praying for healing for you both. Thank you for sharing, I know there are many brighter days ahead for you both. Praise God.

[@moretodela]

I believe marriage can be a great thing but it HAS to be with the right person otherwise it quickly becomes a nightmare

[@elyonrg5062]

The guest’s energy and sentiment is exactly how I’ve felt since my freedom (divorce). ‘How Stella got her groove back’ is also what people have said about me. My glow is coming back and I’m returning back to my regular bubbly self. Toxicity of any form in a relationship is not with it.

[@austinjohn8713]

I'm sure your ex husband has a lot to share about your share of the toxicity- My ex wife has been calling me crying but that was the person that said I was very toxic and controlling when the only thing I kept telling her for 10 year was for her to be a wife and perform her duties and be responsible. When I could not take it anymore I sent her packing and moved back to europe

[@wc4074]

Freedom indeed. Well have fun until no one wants to sleep with you. Dying alone isn’t pretty

[@kishahill9914]

Thank you ladies for keeping it real about your divorce experiences. The truth sets people free. "Life does go on after Divorce".

[@blessings2u264]

I enjoyed your conversation! Breaking up is hard, your experience resonated with me to a certain degree. What I know is that God has got you both. He never leaves you nor forsakes you, and will be with you on your journey. I applaud you for loving yourself and choosing peace. Our father in heaven is a good father and will send the right people in your life as needed. Watch the increase in your blessings unfold! You will surely testify how God is good! Amen 🙏🏿 Congratulations on 40k subs! 🥂🥳💐

[@moretodela]

Thank you 😊

[@elyonrg5062]

Thank you for your vulnerability, Della. You’re strong and will be COMPLETELY fine. Trust and believe that. I just went through my divorce (🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾) after 7 miserable years of marriage. I have 3 young children, and they are doing well, mommy is doing fabulously well, and there is peace in the home. For children, the best transition is if the parents remain amicable. You up your self love and self care, stay positive and prayerful, and that’ll set the foundation for how you feel. Wishing you and your children ALL the best and many blessings, sis.

[@denacundall-holmes876]

I noticed your subscribers have increased, I'm pleased for you. Keep doing what you're doing, adding new and different things on your website I think will definitely get you higher, bless you and your family🙏🙏🙏

[@moretodela]

Thank you 🙏🏾

[@YvonneAllenZayunu]

This really resonated with me having gone through a similar situation, thank you for your bravery and frankness. Both of you are strong, sending love and light to u my sisters.

[@afrog3569]

Something we'll only understand when we experience it.

[@TheAngelaplummer]

Girl you got yourself this is what matters And you are beautiful sisters ❤❤❤❤

[@moretodela]

Thank you 😊

[@afrog3569]

You're looking really nice, Dell. It's hard to believe your age, yet alone 4 kids, you're beautiful and smart.

[@moretodela]

Thank you

[@pharoahmonk50]

@21:30 Amazing discussion with an amazing guest. Yes Dela, children can tell when a mum is hurting inside. Thank God you were told not to be sad by your baby boy. You needed to hear that.

[@moretodela]

I really did

[@lita_james114]

You said Bare with me and I think you can call the podacast that. Bare- unfiltered, "not dressed" meaning not rehearsed/raw discussions. But also bare with you as you embark with your new life/journey.

[@julessarp6003]

This is very good podcast 👍🏾👍🏾. I would love see Sakeena on your podcast again

[@skynana10]

Sisters, please please please stay away from these online relationship"gurus". It doesn't matter what "men" look for in a woman. Men are not monolithic and we are all stupid to women. The good ones are the ones who know they are. Focus on what you can put up with in a man but even more so what you love about a man and everything else will fall into place. Put yourself first with a lot of love so it can naturally spread to your man. There is nothing more sexier than a confident woman who sees things exactly for what they are and not into cliches.........

[@WhosThatGirl1]

I been threw a scam relationship met them in person but I couldn’t continue to be in that drainage relationship gave him multiple chances to fix it before it led to a divorce the first few months was amazing but after marriage it was a different person I didn’t know he was Ghanaian too scammer he owe me thousands of dollars biggest mistake of my life. I’m better now.

[@wc4074]

Very silly man pandering to women. Well weak men and masculine women deserve each other

[@kojotwum1656]

Love your energy sisters, I have sisters and will not let guys treat them that way and trust me happy days are ahead

[@frankbediako1372]

Dela, don't discount the times you were together. At that time it was real. Circumstances and people change. I was heartbroken but the relationship was real at that time. Just cherish those moments. I just watched a documentary about a couple who got divorced after 55yrs of marriage amicably. They cherish the time they were together and remain friends.

[@dadnou]

Thank you for sharing it’s a sad reality that happens often these days. Podcast name idea 💡 “Ladies Who Launch”

[@browtolashwithhina]

I love your Podcast❤. You both are so honest and truthful about this whole situation. Stay strong and keep growing😊

[@moretodela]

Thank you 😊

[@TheAngelaplummer]

Yes Della this is fantastic, stupendous, marvellous conversation that will help so many of our sisters that are going through this situation. Whether it be separation or going through a devoice. It is challenging what ever you are going. Thank you for this truth ladies ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@reesieblack9788]

Great interview, L❤️VE her thanks for sharing! 👍

[@fionacampbell7020]

This vid was very good to listen to! Real talk!

[@missmaryofficial]

Suggested Natural Ghana Girl (NGG) Podcast Names 1. A Date With Dela 2. Dela’s Convo 3. NGG Hot Topics 4. Dela and Friends 5. Dialogue with Dela 6. Topics With Dela 7. Delavision 8. NGG Vibes 9. Living Out Loud 10. Course Correct 11. Spoken Views

[@studyandworkbuddy]

Insightful suggestions

[@a.konadu4010]

OMG...i love every single one of them.

[@missmaryofficial]

@@a.konadu4010 Thank you.

[@missmaryofficial]

@@studyandworkbuddy Thank you.

[@AtosKitchen]

Love this new podcast style of video, even the panel of 4 at the kitchen counter. How about Della's Diary along the Agony Aunt line of thought, needs work, Della's Delve, "where we delve into what your going through"? Keep going, your still spring chicken's and looking deadly ladies!

[@moretodela]

Haha thank you

[@Blackcricket100]

Good podcast. How about "Same here." In the context of how we've been through or maybe familiar with a similar experience.

[@heartwillkalephe226]

This must go on as conversation. As, however, is medical to so many out there.

[@princessprincess7708]

You both pretty. And forties these days is very young age your queen was 96. You are not even half her age. Receive a relief.

[@speaker_vibes]

A lot of raw conversation in this video. Strength be upon both of you 🙏🏿

[@moretodela]

Thank you

[@clairephipps1689]

Great podcast. Love the honesty and openness. Dela do you remember the group called De La Soul?. How about naming your podcast ( Soul views)... Because people are expressing what, s in their heart...... Or... ( Heartfelt).

[@moretodela]

Yes I remember De La soul. I was tortured in school because of it 😂

[@AfroMillennialMomma]

This was great Dela. Your hair looks great by the way!

[@moretodela]

Thank you 😊

[@Hubjoyful]

Thank you for your honesty ❤

[@gladysjohnson2320]

Great coversation Ladys 😍😀

[@eever6545]

Divorce is really hard and you ladies did quite well managing it. However women being upset about splitting 50-50 but men are supposed to dish out assets in a divorce doesn't make sense regardless of how crass the women acted in the marriage. It's a crazy world out there for men! Reason men die early 101.

[@jayjee735]

Great chat but, need some padding/sound insulation on the hard surfaces in that store. It's just a bit too echoey.

[@moretodela]

Yes we had a little issue with the sound this week. Hopefully we have rectified it for the next episode.

[@trainsbury1]

"Making Room" or "And There You Have It."

[@anngore3842]

Someone once tried to play that property trick on me, the one with the assets.Looking back, he was searching for a victim. I put the pieces together and saw through him instantly 😂- such a fool.

[@AtosKitchen]

Where can we find Sakina on the Media's?? Because She Knows!!

[@moretodela]

Haha she’s goes on Instagram as @bysakeena or @simplysakeena

[@watchit16]

You still have it Dela

[@moretodela]

😊😊😊

[@pharoahmonk50]

Titles? How about, "Table Talk w/Dela". Also, "Conversations w/Dela".

[@niiamu3300]

Most people do not need to marry because young people today are not trained/advice in marriage affairs. It is not easy. Most marriage couples are just running in a mode of try and error.

[@niiamu3300]

Please, be aware the other half is not there to share his side of the story.

[@TheKofinyarko]

Eeiii Nii, wo p3 as3m ..... let the ladies have the cake

[@niiamu3300]

@@TheKofinyarko, Not fair. One sided. Men have rights too. Men have feelings. Men are emotional too.

[@brownbabygirl]

The men are also free to air their side on any other platform! It’s a free world. Nothing stopping them. I would watch it equally

[@moretodela]

I would be really happy to have you on the show. Send me an email to [e-mail] and we’ll make it happen.

[@niiamu3300]

@@brownbabygirl It seems war between men and women is being fueled.

[@tinapielou]

Very good 'xxx

[@mobrown7594]

The legal battle should have not taken long, cause anything you own before marriage does not get shared, it’s only Assets you have bought in marriage that get shared.

[@moretodela]

I think that’s only if you have a prenup. Correct me if I’m wrong

[@mobrown7594]

@@moretodela You don’t need a prenup, but it depends if they used it as a family home and he contributed then he will get a cut, but if it was rented out for e.g as an investment property then she would have got to keep it.

[@mobrown7594]

@@moretodela I think there should be an episode, that talks about dealing with assets before and after marriage with a credible lawyer. It’s a very interesting topic

[@do5117]

Hi Dela, I'ld consider letting your friend look into freezing her eggs

[@MrsAsamoah]

Title idea: Straight to the Point 🤷🏾

[@moretodela]

I like that 👌🏾

[@watchit16]

🤣🤣🤣Your guest is too funny

[@princessprincess7708]

Hahahaaa. The poo poo started to come out . Their true selves always comes out .

[@darlinkwawood2296]

D you were doing an intro and then you interrupted yourself lol. It doesn’t work like that. Intros are important it gives the overview of your podcast or whatever you wanna call it

[@moretodela]

I know right…focus! Lol

[@time4advancement244]

In these stories, there are two sides of these divorces. Let's hear from the Men for objectivity

[@Uncommonconversation7220]

Dela, I hope you are not promoting separation of divorce as a way of life...

[@moretodela]

Why would I do that? I believe in marriage but I don’t believe that a person should stay in a marriage where things have broken down BEYOND reconciliation

[@SM-mm3kg]

Kwame go and find yourself a young Ghanaian women without child and start your life fresh. The four kids when they grow they will find you. Enjoy your fresh start Kwame.

[@kyrycool]

Why the choice for a young woman with no children? I’m curious.

[@SM-mm3kg]

@@kyrycool just for him to start fresh again and make more kids by a different woman.

[@SammyNdlovu1212]

I’m going through a separation or divorce after 23years of marriage and 5 children later! Heheheeee let’s do this, it is what it is! Dela l sent you an email via Samantha email

[@moretodela]

Oh wow, that’s a long time. I hope you are ok. 🙏🏾. I haven’t seen an email. When did you send it?

[@watchit16]

Title name could be: The D word The Ending Let It All Out

[@moretodela]

I really like the D word but it has other meanings so…😂

[@watchit16]

@@moretodela Dela watch Chanel Boateng on KZbin, she's been going through something similar it may help

[@moretodela]

Yes I actually watched the video yesterday. It’s a shame she turned the comments off but I also understand why.

[@watchit16]

@@moretodela Sometimes she turns the comments off, becos I think some people don't leave positive comments/questions or it helps her not to read the comments. I don't know. But whatever works for her will do

[@niiamu3300]

Women should keep their maiden names when they get married. No need to change your surname when you get married.

[@austinjohn8713]

You really don't know why a woman take a husband name do you? children should n0t be talking marriage

[@niiamu3300]

@@austinjohn8713 , In some cultures the children take both the woman's and man's surnames. The woman does not have to change her maiden name. Note, your culture or what you practice or believe in is not universal? Do you understand?

[@austinjohn8713]

@@niiamu3300 another stupid comment. marriage is not an invention of any culture. it is a divine establishment with well defined tenets and protocols one of which the woman's name is absorbed by the husband as she comes under his authority. What maiden name are you keeping and for what reason? why even marry in the first place. stay in your father's house. Make a comparative study of the cultures that allow such nonsense and those that understand the covenant of marriage and walk by it. You will see a lot of lapses. the fact a culture is doing something does not make it right. there are cultures where after marrying, the man's uncle must be the first to sleep with the bride before her husband. Is that right Mr culture?

[@niiamu3300]

@@austinjohn8713, Foolish boy! Your ideas are not universal. Moslem can marry more than one. Christians are told to marry one. Which one do you follow? Which one is divine? Your God seems to be confused! What you believe in is not divine. Where is your divine proof? You believe that Jesus is an European? Lol! Abua!

[@niiamu3300]

@@austinjohn8713, It is not divine! Where is your proof? Moslems do not believe in your divine belief (marriage). Who is right?

[@zenahj5526]

Dela, Pls cover your knees it’s swollen

[@yorkeshireprotection7411]

did i hear 9mths of Dela separation? Wow! that's shocker, anyway u not old ,as now chatting me friend wife's 52yrs old just had healthy baby rite now at hospital 24hrs ago. You look beauty cute for 4 kids, common feel comfort mate! also 40yrs old , mate that's when real life begins. As i said just enjoy the kids.\ & look after yourself.

[@moretodela]

52? That.is.amazing! Wow

[@niiamu3300]

In the old testament most of the so called men of God had multiple women. In Islam men can have multiple women. Is God/Allah part of marriages today?

[@vivianneciani3096]

Please keep your legs closed when talking with your guests. Be proper 👌

[@dlssanya15]

You are a user. Your significant other worked hard to help you build your house, and when both of you finished the house you kicked him to the curb. Remember what goes around will come around. I don't watch your podcast anymore like I use to .

[@goldengoodiestv2177]

Now how u know she kicked him out??? How u know he didn’t leave her. Stop accusing her of something u have no idea about. You can’t read between the lines. obviously she’s taking the high road by not telling people what’s the real deal on what happened. Trust. Everything YOU THINK what happened I assure u it’s the complete opposite

[@BeautifulTree]

Stephen Sanya, are you ok here??? do you need a cold drink???? are you lost?

[@lawrettaselormbensah5607]

Please if you don't have anything positive to say then keep your opinion to yourself. You only speak when you have walked in her shoes.

[@anngore3842]

@ Stephen Sanya. What a mean nasty thing to say. You don't know what this family went through. It can't have been easy. Divorce never is. Stop being judgemental.

[@kowazzuri3146]

Is funny how the ladies here are fiercely defending D. We all don't know the full story. One we do know and that's according to D herself she asked for the separation. If the shoe had been on the other foot K would have been called all sorts of names. Obviously Senaya was not sensitive about his point, none the less it's become clear most ladies are only on side without the consideration about what K might also be feeling.

[@kuperdee]

I will always say this; Modern women break relationships 70% of the time and 90% if they are college educated. For me once there are children involved then it's not about you anymore. You have to think about the kids first. Children from single parent (especially mother) home are opened up to the statistics. Most people who end up in jail, suicides, not able to keep a relationship or drop out from education, murderers grapist, abusive behaviours and many more tend out to come from mostly single mother home. Abusive relationship is normally 50/50.(both abuse each other). The relationship is DEFINITELY over when a woman cheats, else it could be salvage if there are kids involved.

[@moretodela]

It’s funny how you said it’s all about the children and then back tracked and said “but if the woman cheats then it’s over” lol. What if it’s the other way around? Is it also over?

[@kuperdee]

@@moretodela I don't mean a man cheating is a good idea but most men don't cheat. A woman who cheat has already checked out of the relationship because women are emotional being and are chemically different from men. A man just needs a hole in the wall to be relieved so a man can cheat on the partner and has 100% love for the partner. It could be said that the person being cheated with was the only one available at that time.thats why in history all great men had wives and concubines but I have not heard of any great woman with multiple partners at the same time. A MAN cheating on his partner is sad for the woman but it's up to her to take control of the situation and stay for the kids. Also this saying is true. Empty his balls, belly full and peace of mind will definitely keep a man. I think yo were in the UK and remember Ashly and cherry Cole and the Beckhams. In both relationships the men cheated. There were newspaper headlines with numerous ladies each day. I think you wouldn't want me to go again as cherry Cole left and Victoria Beckham stayed. I think you can guess who is happy now. Please ladies it is not the end of the relationship when your man steps aside. If he disrespect you with someone you know or brings you another kid, then I could understand. There is always a way out.

[@a.konadu4010]

@@moretodela i promised to the Good Lord I'd learn to keep my comments to myself (I'm highly opinionated) but by golly this comment from @Dave has made me nauseous. Have we gone way back in time or what? I thought this was 2023.🤔 Chauvinistic and misogynistic men should be burned at the stake!!!🤣 You shouldn't have even answered him. He's CLEARLY delusional😂. I would have loved to have heard Rochelle's or even Sakeena's response to THIS!!😳😳😳 Much love from an EDUCATED divorced woman in Canada 🇨🇦

[@Hlulizinyanga]

Good discussion

[@kuperdee]

@@a.konadu4010 I would have loved it if we could go back in time. Disagreeing with me doesn't take away the fact. Back in the day women were more agreeable, feminine and in shape. Modern women hates the truth. Most people learn when they hit the wall. To prove my point and if you will be honest as EDUCATED divorced lady, who filled for divorce in your situation? Modern women hate accountability!

[@Nell654]

This is so weird you are just gathering all the divorced women to validate your reasons for leaving Kwame and breaking up your home and leaving those lovely kids without a father at home. This is just pathetic!

[@SammyNdlovu1212]

Would you be saying the same if you knew why her marriage broke down. If you knew that her husband cheated and brought HIV to her home, would you say the same? THIS IS ONLY BUT AN EXAMPLE, l don’t know what her reasons are!!!!

[@py20]

You wanna know what "is just pathetic"? Playing judge over matters you know nothing about.

[@blessings2u264]

What is weird is that you’ve picked a side without the full picture. To outsiders, everything looked great! I used to love the banter that Dela and Kwame had. But what I know is there is a tipping point for toleration! 20 years and 4 children, Dela did not take this decision lightly!

[@princessprincess7708]

Without him? Did he pass away?. Stop emotionalising . Did you ask what was happening to get where they are at?.