LIFE's NOT FAIR! A LIFE LESSON WE ALL NEED TO LEARN - THE EARLIER, THE BETTER.

[@Cheshirelass]

It is great to see people giving their throughts and ideas on this topic - and responding to others.

[@Rozhan_Fard]

Hey Dee, I came upon your video and I'm in a very difficult part of my life as a 20-year-old and I totally agree with everything you say. Your videos give me so much motivation and I love your personality. Please continue these motivational videos❤❤❤By the way happy birthday 🎂 You are truly a lovely soul💕

[@Cheshirelass]

Thank you so much. D

[@LeeLaverne-d9v]

This made me think of all the motivational speakers out there who tell people 'You can be and do anything you set your mind to as long as you do what you need to do". Wrong! Of course we should do our best but there are no guarantees. Thats reality.

[@Cheshirelass]

I am afraid that strident motivational speakers have always been an instant switch off for me. D

[@i3ka]

Thank you Dee for the reminder to be thankful for what we have, as so many others have so much less. You are right, life is not equitable, but there is always hope.

[@cinnamon-spice]

This brought back a memory from my childhood. I was raised by my nan and we were quite poor. My dad lived locally, and a friend of his suggested he take me to the work's Christmas party. When it was time for Santa to give out the presents, I was so excited and eagerly waited for my name to be called... but it wasn't. My dad hadn't been told you had to buy a present. I always made sure Santa didn't leave out my children at work's parties. I remember one in particular, where we were advised to only spend a certain amount on a little gift for Santa to hand out. All the children got a small toy or selection box. But one little boy got a huge box of Scalextric! Try explaining that to the other children. I thought it was really unfair of his parents, but obviously they wanted their little boy to get the biggest and best present from Santa. As for me, having recently lost my beloved dog, I don't think it's fair that dog's have such short lives. 😢

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

@cinnamon-spice I could not agree more! I know it's probably childish of me, but when my Lab died, aged 11, of cancer, I just sobbed and railed against a universe who would take a being who never hurt a soul or had a mean bone in his body.....and leave some of the folk who do nothing but harm to others. But life is not fair. And there's no use expecting it to be. Imo dogs are angels sent to us to help us get through. And cats. Any animal... but my dog was special. And so was yours.

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

@@cinnamon-spice and yeah....the whole santa thing....fraught with difficulties for kids.

[@Cheshirelass]

I am so sorry for your loss of your furry companion - I agree about their short lives, all we can do is make sure that they are good, happy ones. As for your Christmas story - I really felt for you - how disappointed you must have been. Thank you for sharing your story with us. Take care D

[@Twinklboo]

What a sad story about the child with such an unfair life. I wonder what became of that soul. So beautiful the care you and the others gave. My first grade teacher and school could have learned a few lessons from you. This story brought back my very first memory of how unfair and evil this world can be. Thank you Dee

[@Cheshirelass]

I often wonder about him. One of the far too many. D

[@Malithi-P]

Hi Dee, I’ve got two medical conditions that get in the way of my life. I lost my smell and taste 7 years ago. I love baking and cooking and of course eating so that was not fair. I also have hiatus hernia. Whenever I get an inflammation the pain is unbearable. It triggers my anxiety too. So that stopped me from going to work. And that was not fair. It took a while for me to accept the way it is. Now I just stick to recipes that I know and have a mental note of what it tastes and smells like. And as for work I’m volunteering at a school to help children read for 2 afternoons. And that works for me.

[@Cheshirelass]

Well done for your ways of sorting how you accept your problems! Enjoy your time with those children. D

[@geraldineangelamurray3001]

It's important not to be defeated. Alot of injustice is won by determination not to give in. Eventually good wins out over evil.

[@Quiet_Oak]

This is so true. Thank you, Dee❤ I had good grades in school and was good at sports, got my lisence as a wellpaid psychologist, then I got burned out and sick from covid and had a psychosis and ptsd, which was incredibly debilitating. No I have low income and a fragile body. At least I am lucky to have an education 😊 Its hard though -not to compare with successful schoolmates or old friends. I agree its important to aknowledge reality, with all its nuances, as it is a way to honour and validate everyone, both the lucky and the unlucky ones. Everyone deserves to be seen, aknowledged, honoured and supported.❤

[@catturner23]

As a Libra fairness is basically in my bones. It probably wasn’t fair that I grew up with drug addicted parents. It probably wasn’t fair that my dad had to die younger than he should have. It probably isn’t fair that I can’t get pregnant as fast or at all in my mid 40’s and being diagnosed with Endometriosis BUT…in my Libra fairness mind, heart and soul they were/are all lessons. I’m learning to be stronger. To be a better parent. To show gratitude for my body and it’s given me two beautiful children already. And, I’m not sure if I’ve ever heard my kid’s say, it’s not fair because I’ve never said it to them. They will probably learn fairness through negotiations we have. Debates we’ll have and the life lessons they will learn. Thank you for this message because I’ve said it’s not fair to myself a few times but it’s the fact that it didn’t stop me, it made my drive and determination stronger. Bless you lovely. 💐💜

[@Cheshirelass]

Good for you! Know the feeling about endometriosis! Blessings back to you too. D

[@BeTheChange-d5h]

Dee, I agree with you life isn't fair. What I see is the problem is that those who have learned the lesson, in particular those who work with the vulnerable, have not thought deeply enough about how much damage feeling left out can be. How can we use these incidents to bring out the best in us. How can we learn how to express how we feel to others. Unfortunately many people have this " just live with it" type attitude. I think we can all do better to challenge ourselves to confront the issue with grace. Some people, sadly don't know or don't care how they hurt others. They need to hear, when appropriate and in a safe space, how comments , actions can hurt. Thank you for opening this discussion.

[@Cheshirelass]

My pleasure D

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

it's a balance, isn't it? I've come across unbearably privileged people, who are used to getting everything they want, by snapping their fingers. And those who life has dealt a loser hand, and frankly, it's unlikely they're ever going to win the game. Either extreme is undesirable. The former, more undesirable, imho. I do think we can strive to be "fair", kind and thoughtful to others, especially children, without spoiling them.

[@sandylowhorn6091]

That's really some sad stories Dee. I had it happen to my son one Christmas. He didnt receive what the extended family received and he was heartbroken!!! 😢 The little boy that didnt receive an invite, that wasnt fair either! Thank you Dee for sharing. Be blessed everyone!

[@sandylowhorn6091]

😊👍

[@alexandrafrancis4220]

Thanks Dee ❤️🙏 xx

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

As soon as I saw the title, I started to laugh. I remember so clearly, at about 6 years old, whining to my mother, "but it's not fair! " I can't remember what wasn't fair, but I remember her response. She said, Life isn't fair. And the quicker you learn that, the better off you'll be! And although I wasn't mollified by her response, she was, once again, correct. But some people just have a bit too much "not fair". I also worked with children that I washed and changed and fed, and I had a little bed where they slept sometimes. But I wasn't supposed to do that, even though I funded it, the reasoning being that some of the parents would take advantage. So, I would say to a child, Let's do some painting. I was able to more or less, organise my own schedule with those kids. I'd get out the paint, and accidentally drop some paint down them. Oh dear! Silly me! Never mind, I've got a spare uniform. I had a little room, with a shower in it and a big sink. I guess you wouldn't be allowed to do that nowadays, Idk. But very often, the uniform would disappear that afternoon, and I'd never see it again. So, it was a balance. I often wonder where they are now, those kids. All my four grandchildren have birthdays in December and January. I make absolutely certain that they all get a birthday present, AND a Christmas present, of equal value. Because that is one NOT FAIR too far for me. My boys always had the same value of gifts, and when little, the same number of parcels to open. It was never excessive, bc I didn't have the means. But it was scupulously fair. xxx

[@Cheshirelass]

It sounds very much as if our backgrounds are very similar! Thanks for your message - I am always interested to read and grateful that you took the time to write. D

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

@@Cheshirelass similar vintage, aren't we? It's part of my morning routine, now. Cup (or pot) of tea, and Life With Dee. 😃

[@kathyjung3961]

So true Dee…thank you for your stories ❤

[@annlevack8220]

Once again thank you Dee ❤

[@deborahblackwood3629]

Thank you Dee❤

[@spiicedragon]

Only in gratitude can we truly be rich. 💫

[@DanielM.U]

Indeed it isn't. I, at my almost 21 years, just lost my mother due to cancer. I must say I'm doing fine, difficult at times yes but Life is worth living.

[@Cheshirelass]

Thinking of you and I am so sorry for your loss. you will have your ups and downs - that is 'normal' so allow yourself to grieve for your Mother. Take care D

[@CathyParker-nk5dt]

🙋‍♀️ Hi Dee, Thursday 7.12pm Adelaide, I agree life isn’t fair, or at least it often seems not to be. We are all here to learn lessons about life (in the physical). We aren’t all here to learn the exact same things, at the same time. Life can be unfair, and for so many of us, it is. But for many of us , we are still ‘a lot better off’ than so many others. Maybe we have already lived their life’s, and they are about to live ours. Love your flowers, are they Magnolia’s? 😊❤️🏡🐱💐🌲🙋‍♀️

[@Cheshirelass]

An on-going learning about life is part of being a human - I beleive that some learn, some learn and forget, some don't take on the learning rather complain about how unfair their life is (in their eyes). The flowers are (silk) magnolias D

[@julespritchard]

Good morning Dee. Very true, life isn’t always fair. It seems to be for some people - who just sail on through (or it appears that way). Love hearing your stories. That boy (cake stealer) sounds a delight! Hope you and Myschka have a good day. 🌹🌹🌹

[@Cheshirelass]

Thank you - I often wondered how long it took him to adapt to the reality of the world. Was home educated so no school input. D

[@ma-lu3088]

It's becoming fair, it's becoming just. We have and are outgrowing the creators of human kind. It's time for our parents, or ex managers, to let us go in peace. ✌️

[@Cheshirelass]

We are all entitled to our own opinions. D

[@kimsherlock8969]

Developmental Asynchrony in a childs social interactions Being left with inappropriate behaviour created by no maps of social inclusion To learn how to survive. Life is not fair , we come to this world helpless..not like other mammals that get up and walk soon after birth . We don't get to choose our home or circumstances . We are given life Thats all . From that understanding of having no choice to be alive We always choose to continue living . Life isn't fair but we as humans can be fair in our own individual lives 😊

[@Cheshirelass]

Yes D

[@LoveDiana-qt5ph]

It's 7 Am in Algeria And I'm on KZbin watching my favorite KZbinr

[@Cheshirelass]

Good morning. D

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

sounds like you have some sunshine. Send some our way? ☀☀😎

[@likanweeds8501]

Greetings, Nice to see you again, D. It’s pretty much good to be here. Things can be better, even if things around us can be bad

[@Cheshirelass]

Take care - good to have you here. D

[@juliemetaxa1480]

😮life is not always fair.. i rember being told that at school. How true. Gmorning Dee.

[@InessaRoma]

Dear Dee thanks for this video❣️Pink flowers go v.well with your hoodie 🌺😍 Take care ☕️🍰✨️

[@Cheshirelass]

Thank you! D

[@InessaRoma]

@Cheshirelass 💐✨️

[@kimsherlock8969]

" I want what I cant always get " And sometimes I get what I dont want 😅😊

[@Cheshirelass]

So often the way! D

[@amanitamuscaria7500]

and.....be careful what you wish for! My mother used to say, Have you really thought that through to a logical conclusion? Ummmmmm.....no. Slopes off to think again.

[@ScarletJohansson-t8t]

Good morning Dee

[@sunnythesigma7043]

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[@carolcasey5441]

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[@thatway7616]

🕊💚

[@SONIPOKHAREL]

❤ ☀

[@lunaeee_]

I love your videos... 😊🩷

[@westinghouseforever]

Don't be negative I'm sure you will end up in Heaven

[@samiiahzieglar2148]

Thankyou for sharing today your words have calmed me and put life into a better perspective 😌🫶🏾

[@Cheshirelass]

Happy to help D