Lil Scrappy On Parenting: Moms Are “The Emotional Ones”, Dads Teach Their Kids How To Be "Solid"

[@ItzD]

CTG is right here.... both parents need to be teaching kids about how to deal with their emotions and both parents should show affection to their children

[@4cuttime]

I agree 💯

[@LOSTGPS]

Women are generally more neurotic, which means that it’s better for a man to teach the child how to regulate their emotions. I’ve noticed boys raised by single mothers are more impulsive and have less respect for authority, which is a combination for future imprisonment.

[@Stylebuddy101]

🎯🎯🎯

[@ThePizzboy]

Cthagod is talking bs tbh he’s intentionally taking what envy saying the wrong way. What envy is trying to say is different situations call for mom and others for dad. So yes both are teaching you lessons. BUT!!!!! Your daughter goes to mom about her period and the son goes to dad about his little girlfriend. Not saying that a son can’t talk to his mom about his girlfriend but dad is a guy and he’d understand your prospective better “most times”. To say that mom or dad can teach you anything the same is saying men and women are the same. It’s a fact!!! Women are more emotional

[@richardmatthews2807]

@@ThePizzboyagreed

[@jinthehouse3210]

Charlemagne is a girl's dad, so he views it differently than Envy. What Envy is describing is his relationships with his sons. Context matters. Charlemagne has to be more in touch with his feminine side because he has a house full of women. It's all love at the end of the day, but there is a difference.

[@joshuanartey5822]

On point

[@sith145]

Good perspective

[@TheLadyStone007]

I know you hate to hear this, but Charlemagne is where I am from. I know the family, he grew up with his father in the home and because of that he married his high school sweetheart. He grew up in the south, trust me he’s solid on that. Men are emotional, I know plenty or maybe I just brought it out of them. 🥴🤦🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️😂😂

[@phines93]

​@@TheLadyStone007get some help yo

[@TheLadyStone007]

@@phines93 You’re so emotional right now, you gotta chill yo 🤦🏿‍♀️🤷🏿‍♀️😂😂 It’s the irony of your response, I can’t make it up. 😂😂

[@nickiejones1329]

I agree with DJ Envy. There is a healthy balance between mom and dad

[@jazzo800]

He speaking truth. A man's masculinity is like steel sharpening steel. A woman's femininity is like warm shell of love enclosing you. Finding a good balance in your household is beneficial to everybody especially the kids.

[@tedgramz1905]

💎

[@szn1580]

Amen

[@candacecraig8146]

All women and all men are not the same!

[@eulyduran86]

What wrong world u live in🙄

[@toludada_live]

U absolutely need both parents

[@kndli67]

No you don’t

[@Danielle-h8g]

I wish! But just having that 1 good parent that expresses love, care and disciplines will make such a positive difference in their child’s life.

[@nofilter925]

Statistically speaking, you only NEED your pops…

[@TheBasher-_-]

U don’t. You just need one solid parent that’s goal oriented. Thats better that two contradictory parents. Because that when You hate one parent, and it causes a rift in Mom v Dad relationship, like if one is a weed head or alcoholic.

[@Debate_dagame_not_dadebater]

Realistically you fair better with two solid parents but it can be done with less it’s just not best practices

[@skinnyjo9429]

Yes, Envy! Have to agree with you in this debate.👏🏿

[@brandeeblack9622]

CTG really acts as if his word is truth!!! Like his POV is the only one that matters. He does this constantly.

[@Danielle-h8g]

It’s become so annoying! He doesn’t get that his view/ experience isn’t the same as everybody else’s.

[@dearg53]

All the time it’s annoying AF and plus he is raising only girls. His perspective is different so he only caters to what women want to hear

[@Mastirpeace]

Exactly I can’t stand that mf Like his voice should not be heard the loudest

[@geronimopratt7976]

Like Loren

[@jasonharris8099]

How?

[@skittlekearse]

As someone who was raised by a single mother (ages:6-12) and then a single father (ages:12-18) I agree with scrappy. I would have had unregulated emotions if i was to stay with my mom all the way till i was 18. Now i know that there is a time and place for emotions

[@funsizedazzy6708]

Scrappy the most emotional man his baby mama harder than him its depends on the person not their gender .

[@JLenox]

I agree with Envy. You need both parents bc the world is tough but they also need the nurturing. As a single parent, I often struggle with this because I’m raising a son and sometimes find it hard to balance both bc I have to make sure he has strong enough/thick skin for the real world yet want him to be able to healthily express his emotions and feel his emotions to ultimately become an emotionally intelligent man. Charlamagne can say what he wants but it is a difference.

[@maliksees]

There is a difference: yin and and :: inner and outer. With emotions, women have an affinity for honing in to the inner self and how it’s moving, especially with external stimuli; men have an affinity for guarding their inner self from external stimuli by expressing emotions. This difference does not mean a man or woman cannot master both aspects

[@Mastirpeace]

U aren’t a man so u can never teach a son how to be that/ only worry about the part you can control

[@TheOfficialMaroBoyz]

CTG always kissing butt to keep his wife happy. You can tell she listens to the show daily based on his responses.

[@flatbkush6]

That's a woman's excuse to be masculine Charlamagne is just a simp😅

[@Humanity4ALL]

You can have emotions, it’s about letting others control your emotions or letting others control your actions/reactions and thoughts.

[@Wehere12]

I really appreciate the balance that comes from both mom and dad. While we’re all human, men and women are naturally different in many ways. I believe children benefit when both parents bring unique strengths to the table. Ultimately, the goal for both parents should be to raise mentally and emotionally healthy kids

[@MazterP28]

It shows a two parent functioning communicating unit work better than a single parent

[@LaVenderlocx]

Both parents are necessary for a well rounded individual. Kids needs the mother AND the father. BOTH PARENTS need to be on the same page. No more responsibility is one nor the other.

[@Only1WithAnE]

That's why you need both parents, but most importantly they gotta both provide a strong positive balance of masculine/feminine in the household

[@keyzbambino3238]

Charlamagne so damn soft n sensitive 😂

[@christine-97]

That stupid mindset is why people end up in therapy because people like you make fun of people for being sensitive and soft. Being seen as sensitive is seen as such a bad thing when it shouldn't.

[@rpullins]

He a weak A.N I teach my daughter is to move on and stop looking for love, my son he love to hard and loose focus on what’s important.

[@rickeymiller8998]

He is very sensitive. Bro done taken this going to counselling too far. He done taken emotions & feelings to the wrong side of the fence....the feminine side. Charlamagne needs to man-up.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

Facts he's on that far left stuff

[@SWOTHDRA]

Facts

[@Prev8ster]

Nahhh man idk CTG made some incredible points! Love how when Envy said he’s not as attentive and patient with his kids as their mom CTG said “you need to work on yourself” 😂 no excuse to settle with your flaws just bc ur the father

[@roxy270]

A lot of men hold in their emotions and this brings out a lot of anger in them

[@KAY-sk6tk]

Anger is an emotion.

[@synthtv5976]

​@KAY-sk6tk Correct, and because men do not know how to process their emotions, it is a real problem. Do you realize how many men are dead or in jail because they have not been taught to process their emotions. For example, the white boy that shot up the high school in Georgia this year, who was also living with his father obviously did not know how to process his emotions.

[@Kurono_Comics]

Facts. And ppl forget anger is an emotion. Men are just as emotional as women

[@paulawalker2780]

Mother's can be good disciplinarians I grew up witnessing that myself.

[@OfficialDamaniScott]

Of course everyone would say their mom was solid all around. But the statistics shows the opposite

[@Star-hg1kt]

🤣

[@paulawalker2780]

@Star-hg1kt What is the joke? elaborate.

[@paulawalker2780]

@OfficialDamaniScott What statistics or is it someone else's opinion.

[@Star-hg1kt]

@@paulawalker2780 Its B.S surely with anyone with common sense knows there's more >peeps in prison from two parent household LOL. Poverty line > Welfare mom > STDs & Hiv > Less Supervision of kids > Financial instability > High dropout rate > ETC ETC ETC If you look at it, two parent households are worse off, thats why the peeps affected by single moms at a higher rate are producing the most STEM graduates & have the most affluent areas SMH

[@heyitstheblackguy]

The parents should teach what they are best suited to teach. Thats why you pick a mate who posses strengths where you may only be average or lack. Its helps make your household more well rounded

[@marqcollins1792]

Parents should always be their for their kids all the time...

[@TheRoyalZoe]

Envy wins this round CTG. It comes from raising a boy to a man....and showing your daughter to be strong enough to stand on her own if needed.

[@onlyest3921]

Being emotional doesn’t mean the parent isn’t tasked with teaching a child how to handle, process & express their emotions

[@danharps7874]

To keep it real Charla don't be listening and end up arguing against points no body made. It low-key be sounding disingenuous and like he takes it personally 😂

[@CoreyTillman-xd9dh]

Yooooooo how folks don’t be seeing when he does this blows my mind. Like nigga do you hear yourself🤦🏾‍♂️

[@deltahodges1375]

He thinks he knows everything!

[@skittlekearse]

Frfr. How many times did envy have to remind him of the original statement by scrappy and the original question. He answer what and how he wants to

[@keeshonocain4832]

This comment on point 💯💯💯💯

[@skabzemortal]

Yeah

[@imSchwaggy]

I disagree with charlamange. Worst thing ive ever done in life was be nice like my mom instead of selfish like my dad. My dad is solid, and very nice to me. But not many other people. And he puts himself first. Ive unfortunately learned to be like my mom and put others first. Theres no way to win in life putting others first.

[@jmo876]

This is the one! I couldn't put it into words.

[@crysismusix5479]

Scrappy didn’t say one thing wrong

[@KK-kv3mz]

I definitely agree with Envy on this.

[@vondongaming]

Never listen to men like Charlemagne who been raising these sassy new men ?

[@kutfromdifferentkloth]

As men we are more likely to not let our emotions control our actions whereas women are more likely to be controlled by their emotions, there are some outliers of course but generally these norms remain true

[@sarahrobinson7983]

I think a boy needs a father when it comes to making sure he keeps busy as a teenager in sports in any kind of school outing, volunteering encouraging him, being behind his goals and his dreams. Having father son conversations let him know that he can come to you with anything any kind of problem. Into someone to hang out with on the weekends home watching the game means a lot to a young man

[@SergioRamos-ir7mi]

Just by reading the title I know Charla bout to pander like a mfr

[@joshuahardnett2869]

I swear any topic about men and women he goes into auntie charla personality

[@TheBasher-_-]

He’s a Kendrick fan. He knows no better. 😂

[@Kurono_Comics]

Yall say someone is pandering just for having a different opinion. 😂

[@Rissaj07]

3:45 jess 😂😂😂

[@jalenrose799]

I like when she say "oh my gawd" 😂

[@jonathanmuldrow8458]

Nothing brings more fear or power than hearing "Wait till I tell your Dad/wait til your Dad gets home"

[@SmartDave60]

@@jonathanmuldrow8458 for the boy or girl child?

[@szn1580]

FACTS

[@geronimopratt7976]

Because you're a son, if you were a daughter it would be the mom you deal with physically

[@SmartDave60]

@@geronimopratt7976 I sic my wife on our daughter when she gets too mouthy with me. She use to spank her but now just removes her technology.

[@jonathanmuldrow8458]

Well it's all different times were living in but still Mothers don't command the respect that a Father's words and actions do. I'm not trying to trigger any mothers out there and get personal, it's just what it is

[@VirgilHawkinsIs]

One of those times where Charlamagne is just being stupid because he has a skewed view of reality. Some things go beyond your personal experiences…

[@TheSpiciestGinger]

CTG right on this one. My mum is the logical one, the clinical one, also a nurturing and wonderfully kind lady but my father is and has always been more likely to understand emotions than she as she has to be resilient to the point she never cones first in her own world. My dad put us first his whole life until her retired and despite suffering mental health issues he's been my rock my whole life and is the most sensitive, loving, loyal person in the whole world. His ability to understand others emotions and to raise a humble yet fierce child considering his parents were severely abusive is astonishing yet normal to me. I've been blessed with a dad who I can cry with and a mum who's not open with her own emotions but will protect me with her life is a balance that's key so my family's success at breaking cycles and becoming my father's carer now he can't take care of her the way he used to her being less likely to break down and cry has become the greatest asset to our family as we'd fold without her. The balance is me and my father's emotional side can be seen as extra, how cold she may appear emotionally can be seen as extra but together we function very well as she and he have blessed me with best parts of them both so they live through me as I do them and while we are all still alive to appreciate being able to do so. If my mum was as emotional as my father the family wouldn't survive, if my father was not as emotional I would not survive, if my mum wasn't logical I wouldn't survive but it's the blend of them both that makes them happily married over 40 years and me as a near 40 year old who's able to work life out because I am both of them embodied ❤

[@DerrickBTV]

Everyone has emotions, it's how you act on them that makes the difference. Men typically teach children how to properly manage the emotions

[@sudana08]

🎯

[@rickeymiller8998]

Exactly! Everyone has emotions. People act like men are emotionless zombies. Women cannot teach boys how to handle their male emotions. They aren't equipped to do so. Sadly, that's a thing that people won't admit to. Children need both parents. They need to see the emotions of both parents. Boys need fathers so that they can learn how to be a man. Girls need dads so that they can see how a man is an actual protector, sustainer, and provider...as well as her support. There's got to be a fair balance in it.

[@Justplayinggames1986]

I think it is a great conversation with my seven-year-old falls down on the floor. My wife is quick to pick him up and dust him off. I’m like are you bleeding? If not get up you’ll be OK if you cry a little bit it’s OK but if it’s not serious, there’s no need to cry. Be a big boy but it’s OK to cry.😅

[@SmartDave60]

@@Justplayinggames1986 would you do the same if your daughter fell?

[@_Sarby1]

Ahhhhh look at you showing your son he's not safe to show you his emotions or pain, he's only safe with his mother that repeated over time assigns emotions and pain as a feminine trait and ignoring/burying/hiding emotions and pain is a male trait. Wonderful 🙄🤦‍♀️ and when he is a grown man and explodes and hurts someone physically or emotionally etc because he can't process his emotions, pain etc you can be so proud SMH 👏 👏👏👏🙄🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@geronimopratt7976]

​@@SmartDave60I definitely wouldn't, women are different. As a father I will always be the hero, with my son I will always be the teacher.

[@SmartDave60]

@@geronimopratt7976 what’s the downside of responding to your daughter in the same way? Letting her know that it’s ok to cry a little but be a big girl?

[@tech_guruLG]

DJ Envy in his feelingsss 😂

[@muzikluvr4343]

Since Loren left the show The Breakfast Club completely fell out of my algorithm. Did that happen to anyone else?

[@tech_guruLG]

@ yes!

[@chefalexander334]

He said with a good dad!

[@tyonaburton7475]

You NEED both parents for different reasons. Mothers by nature / makeup is caring & soft. I definitely understand all sides. The real conversation for me is making sure the parent is stable. Regardless of whatever

[@andersonb8925]

Parents are not perfect, and no matter the outside perspective and others opinion, much like life you make adjustments together or as a single parent. Each child is not the same, and each parent was not raised in a perfect family. Logically what should be done from another perspective is obvious, but it doesn't always work out that way. When Parents work together bettering what they bring to the table what is best for insuring their child is raised in the best way possible that will prepare them to be the best child, individual, person, friend, future parent, and more. It takes a village to raise one child, and when you surround them with the love, caring, examples, etc. they need for physical, mental, spiritual advancement is just a preparatory start; that we as parents can only hope will remain with them when they are older.

[@yourmedicalupdatepodcast7256]

Word salad😅

[@anime-nn9kl]

Just because you don’t cry, doesn’t mean your heart isn’t broken. You might as well get it out. Deal with it so you can live on.

[@mychalbussey4192]

Charlemagne is 100% correct. Emotions are natural. You sad, you cry, You scared you jump, You're anxious your heart beats fast. They're EMOTIONS. How you deal with them is the important part. Not suppressing them.

[@ah92vi]

The first half of this conversation was just all around bad, and I really hope nobody took any of what they said as advice. Envy perpetuating the "macho man" ideals, Charla at the bare bones of it all saying a child doesn't need a father figure in their life (1:30), and Jess enjoying the tough love of her father forcing her to fight after getting beat up. This was chaotic and disappointing as hell to listen to.

[@casynovids]

Nah listen to envy again ... and charla definitely a girl dad..

[@hueyfreeman5509]

It's not "macho man" ideals that's just how men are.

[@ah92vi]

That's literally what it is, we're in 2024 and grown men out here saying pause because they can't fathom being caught saying anything that questions their masculinity. Men don't come out the womb that way, these ideas are developed in boys and young men by these same conversations, it's even evident in what Jess said about her father. And yes, Charla is definitely a girl dad.

[@hueyfreeman5509]

@@ah92vi There wouldn't be a need to say pause if there wasn't such a nefarious push of anti-masculinity in society. It's not in a man's nature to see all this weird stuff, so of course there's going to be pushback. Men come out the womb natural, not all this other stuff they're trying to turn men into

[@hueyfreeman5509]

@@ah92vi There wouldn't be a need to say pause if there wasn't such a push of anti-masculinity. It's not in a man's nature to see all this weird stuff, so of course there's going to be pushback. Men come out the womb natural, not all this other stuff they're trying to turn men into

[@BreakdaBoss]

Scrappy ain't wrong. He explained himself perfectly

[@ivyw2259]

If I got into trouble at school, I begged the principal to call my dad and not my mother. My mother's nickname was the punisher at her work and by family. She is 75+ and is still the same. My pops is rational and understanding, NOT MARY, the mother lol.

[@geronimopratt7976]

But you're a female, so a respectful father wouldn't lay a hand on you. Momma can handle that.

[@lauralee9694]

Emotions are so unreliable and shouldn’t be the only thing you use to dictate your life choices, good balance of mom and dad.

[@AustereEchadh]

Wrong show for gender roles

[@ChelseyLynn._]

tough love is love

[@williamwaters3944]

Keep your kids off Social Media.

[@jalisalisa3907]

Thank you Charla 👏🏾

[@LOSTGPS]

In general we can tell which men were raised by single mothers.

[@theactualfactsofwu-sabat2818]

Facts, and that’s were emotional men are produced, is with our emotional mothers.

[@LOSTGPS]

@ and then CTG said “men are just as emotional” completely ignoring the fact that most black boys are raised largely by their mothers. And him saying men resort to violence more is nugatory because men and women exhibit aggression differently, women spread rumors, gossip, cyber bully and try to destroy a persons reputation and men simply fight.

[@greengrassgrowsallaround]

Envy was raised with both parents and is WAY more emotional than his wife (self admittedly) AND Charlamagne

[@LOSTGPS]

@@greengrassgrowsallaround nah envy just like Will Smith knows their wives hold the keys to the castle. Exceptions don’t negate the rule.

[@TheBlackDorothyZbornak]

Could you tell Barack was? LeBron was? yall kill me with your nonsense

[@berenic90]

A healthy balance is the best. Once they are out in the world, they will not be treated like us parents do and is our job to ensure they are ready for it

[@sas_thedeity1019]

Envy is speaking facts

[@Hotsimone24]

I agree with Envy. Men and women bring different things to the table. Ultimately your emotional/mental journey is a personal one. Being too emotional/vulnerable isn’t beneficial in every setting isn’t safe. Be vulnerable with people who you can trust. Not some boy who’s playing games. Ctg daughter’s gonna get played if he’s teaching them to show a man all their cards.

[@LynPark23]

It is true! Please stop talking about things you have no business talking about. Men need to be in these kids' lives Period!!

[@Chris-dz5tv]

Who gone make these men take care of their kids? yo scary ass definitely not and won’t 😂

[@LynPark23]

@Chris-dz5tv This is about the most ignorant response I've read all day. You thought it added sauce because you threw in your own laughing emoji? Do your research beforehand next time. Black fathers are in their child's life at a higher percentage than others.

[@mansaok7795]

Scrappy is still preaching be involved period

[@cie14j]

That was a great conversation

[@tru1tru]

THANK YOU CHARLA!! What you said!!!

[@ncdiva919]

Emotion is a human behavioral trait that everyone has. And it's your responsibility to manage and regulate them.

[@idjudance]

THAT 2nd DAUGHTER BE GIVIN CHARLEMAGNE HELL 😂😂

[@topdogvids]

Statistically, children raised in single-father households tend to achieve higher levels of success compared to those raised in single-mother households.

[@cthomasbydesign]

Is that because the ratio of single father households is much lower than single mother households?

[@missjones8123]

Where did you get those stats from?

[@MrColdwilliam]

​@@missjones8123I found something under Pew Research Center "the rise of single fathers" from 2013. The article backs the claim.

[@Just-Princess]

Please cite at least 3 peer reviewed sources demonstrating this.

[@geronimopratt7976]

​@Just-Princess Loren Larosa

[@ssimone8331]

3:10 CTG is rude and always has to disagree with Envy.

[@Tameka_White]

1:40 there’s all types of emotions everybody is emotional. Some have more self regulation than others, some have over corrected themselves so that they don’t feel their feelings.

[@errolm8313]

Father's are extremely important. So are mothers. But children raised with a good dad in the household, statistically fair better in life

[@sith145]

Charlemagne has a privileged mindset imo

[@CoreyTillman-xd9dh]

Overly privileged 🫡

[@rickeymiller8998]

True. His views are crappy. He speaks in general, but wants to place every man in his category. He needed therapy, but him needing it doesn't speak for the majority.

[@o.f.m8265]

He speaks as a person who has been through therapy and what life should be not the reality of what it is.

[@LynPark23]

Men do not act like that. Young uncontrolled boys who didn't grow up with a father figure do.

[@kelsblair5963]

We should be talking about not creating g broken homes so this can work.

[@lcoleman6046]

SAY IT LOUDER!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@kayekaye08]

When did we start taking advice from Scrappy?

[@AmaniLindsey]

He said no lie

[@lcoleman6046]

THANK YOU SISTAH!!!!!

[@andrewjordan9069]

Take advice from Satan if it's good advice

[@giffondhall9214]

He ain't lying

[@tamikajohnson6910]

I’m the oldest of four. Two boys two girls and my dad was the one more emotional. My mom was the one we were scared of. My dad cry at graduations and holidays. My mom is emotionless. My dad is a man’s man but he was one the one that kissed us more and told us he loved us more.

[@princessk2159]

1000 percent agree with Charla!

[@ldn_vin]

Charles is not equipped for this conversation. He a damn near gay father of all girls. Bro will say all of this half baked half healed mess then be the first one to put you on blast for the behavior.

[@Llama_vet]

Say it again

[@CM-ds2xo]

Facts

[@JayMed-v6q]

💯

[@seemoogaming659]

I agree

[@christianmajor9743]

💯 he def in the closet

[@theqs7289]

He's not lying 🎉

[@THLLC-m8t]

7:58 You can tell Charla getting professional help. Black men think because their dad or pop was tough because of the hood experience that's the healthy and only way.

[@marcusjohnson9243]

13:58 this caller is right

[@cocobosage]

Forget making blanketed statements and following polarizing extremes. Equilibrium, homeostasis, middle ground, ying/yang. These concepts need to be realised so that we can evolve together, not separately

[@Freedumb6]

Charlamagne makes me believe he doesn’t believe God and he is absent of pants in the house

[@brittneyls2675]

I love everything CTG said. 👏🏽

[@jessimarim_m9387]

About the fathers and mothers thing, I think it works best when they pick up the slack as and when needed. When I was born, my mum suffered with some bad ppd, she struggled to bond with me, we just went through the motions from how she told it, she was very much the disciplinarian, because she had to be, since she couldnt be emotional, my dad stepped up, I was his little girl, he'd encourage my antics, my mum thought I was screaming for no reason, but my dad stayed insisting I was learning to talk and sing, with his soft guidance, I was talking at 6 months old, so because my dad was being the emotional heavy weight my mum picked up the discipline, enforcing the rules, beating me when I need it (sadly I didnt take her beats seriously, but thats on her 😅) Anyway, they broke up when I was like 4, me and my mum immigrated and we both struggled 😂 keenly, it took a while for my mum to gain her footing to be there for me emotionally and firmly, but then she got sick, then my dad came back and for a while there my dad didnt know how to show up for me, the dynamics shifted, he knew he had to be the disciplinarian but he had to figure out how to do it, I have core memories of me and my dad clashing and both of us being traumatised by the outcome 😂😂, first time he beat me almost broke both of us, my mum found it hilarious. He figured it out eventually, he saw that with my mum being sick he had to be the one to push me harder because she no longer could. Anyway all this to say, do what you can for your child, the best you can for your child. They will learn from your best and your worst, theres no real controlling that cause they will be the ones to decide what they want to keep and what they want to lose. Give them the foundationals and be there when they need you as they need you. When I got older and lost my mum, i needed my dad to be there in an emotional way, and he just didnt know how, he reverted to what he knew, it cause a rift neither of us knew how to close, it wasnt until Covid almost toook him out that he changed, and i finally saw the man my mum told me about. Children need soft dads too. And tough mums.

[@TedCampbell-u8c]

I think it all depends on the man and the woman, the type of person they are, their family chain, and how they were raised in it. To profile is futile. I agree completely with Charla❣️ Great topic.

[@kenidocleveland4359]

CTG just cant help himself from lookin like a clown

[@theactualfactsofwu-sabat2818]

Facts 😂

[@seansimms6693]

All I will say is… you can tell the men who were raised by their solid fathers, emotions are only one slice of the pie, emotions are only real to individual feeling them, I’ve told my children that, they maybe the most important thing to you but the next person can careless cause they don’t feel them.

[@ericculbersonjr3654]

CTG is just contracting himself left and right! They need both period! And they both bring something different. And naturally one is more nurturing one is more straight to the point! It’s called balance!

[@rayclippers5995]

Kids need both I think that’s what Scrappy was saying

[@AlexisAngelb6n]

Let's not forget who Scrappy Mom is!!!

[@Chase_banz]

I hear so much hurt in Charlemagne, I figured it out, he be talking to us as if we are his daughters. So much bias

[@theactualfactsofwu-sabat2818]

🤡he’s a feminine man

[@sudana08]

Exactly 💯

[@steveholley9394]

CTG was SPITTING!!

[@nkofilanghorne3933]

Well said Envy

[@jaecashjc]

Scrappy told the truth. He said women can be solid too.

[@DivineRainInDarkWater1]

Charlemagne has the most balanced argument from my perspective. Men, particularly Black men, die younger than women for a number of reasons, and I think this is one of them. There’s nothing wrong with projecting strength and teaching your kids how to survive in a sometimes cruel world. However, being able to express yourself properly might save your mind and improve future relationships; otherwise, you may seem disconnected. I’ve seen a lot of older Black men become ‘bombs’ because they weren’t allowed to be ‘kettles’ during their lifetime. To me, being solid means being genuine. Don’t project so much strength that you forget you’re dealing with human beings-your children included. Emotions don’t always make sense. But if someone has to be strong every single day of their life just to survive, that’s not living, and it sure as hell isn’t thriving. People have different needs, kids included. True strength is knowing how to navigate those emotions, even if imperfectly. 💯

[@evelynwalker6670]

Thats the truth. I coddle and love our sons. My husband has taught them how to be men, period. Thats not something that i could do. Yes, my husband loves our sons but no, hes not going to coddle and baby them.

[@Chris-dz5tv]

You’re not a smart mother then.

[@evelynwalker6670]

@Chris-dz5tv I am doing fine in life but thank you.

[@geronimopratt7976]

​@@evelynwalker6670and if you had daughters you would be the tough parent to them. As it should be.

[@LayyRayy]

It’s easier for men to initially think logically than it is for women. Women think emotionally majority of the time and then rationalize afterwards. It’s not if one is always emotional and the other is emotionless. Ultimately both parents working together during tough times is the best thing for children.

[@bigmarshall1058]

I think his main point was kids need balance. Balance usually comes with both parents being active in raising the child.

[@flatbkush6]

CTG you must be catering to a secret society because he is totally wrong😂😂😂😂

[@motivateyodamnself5389]

No these generational men are to emotional at the wrong times. When handling business alot of times you have to be emotionless. But you in personal relationships you teach yourself and your children how to channel your emotions. As you grow up you learn you can't show everyone your hurts or all your joys. Nothing wrong with talking about your emotions but not to everyone. A real man who's developed teaches emotional management.

[@MegaIkb]

You can tell who have been raised by a real Dad and nuclear home and ones who was raised by a supposed to be Dad. How you going to tell your daughter to go back and fight some one till you beat them. As she said her father was raised by his grandmother. CTG you left the best life ever because of the influence of your Dad.

[@crystalmitchell990]

I think Envy and Charla do this argumentative banter for the show

[@sneakn]

If my Dad was a crackhead and a drug dealer and I was closer to my mom I'd probably say the same thing as Charla

[@hanifrichards501]

😂🤣😂🤣😂that’s 🥶😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@MazterP28]

My dad wasn’t a crackhead but he was trash

[@lcoleman6046]

@@MazterP28Same, I came out okay at least I think.

[@sneakn]

@MazterP28 Coke head...my bad

[@danitorres1066]

Envy is correct. You have to raise boys and girls differently because of the different struggles they’ll face in life. Charlemagne is a girl dad and his responses reflect that

[@MikeThaPhilosopher]

People like Charlamagne is the problem. We need men to be the leaders and think more logically and we also need women for the the femininity.. there is a distinct natural difference