Lilith in the 7th house - Shunned by Partners

[@BEE-od3li]

Took me two relationships and 25 years to learn to say no I am 35 and I just set my boundaries

[@chenaeM7]

100% correct, omg 5:33 especially. Happened to me in both relationships I’ve had. Mutual friends would shame me and call me names, blame me, they were certain that my partner hadn’t done anything and I was the problem, when behind closed doors I was being emotionally and verbally abused. It really took a long time for me to begin to understand that I need to stand up for myself and leave relationships that are one sided. Thanks for this video! ❤️

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

That's a tough lesson for this placement. Glad you've been able to do that for yourself.

[@BalautaMaricica]

We have now a case on TV a med student 21 years old killed by her boyfriend, very violent! She had Lilith in Aries în 7th house. Be aware People with this placement!

[@samlo9331]

I've had family angry/hold grudges about me being in a relationship with a dirtbag. They weren't directly affected but acted as if I had personally wronged them by being in an abusive relationship. I'm like, "wow, how hard that mustve been for you!" Smh

[@CleoraAleise]

Guys be unapologetically you fuck being nice & ppl pleasing it helps keep the energy drainers away but always be authentic

[@rem672]

This is so true for me! This is the way it was for me for the first part of my life and for a while now I’ve been able to finally overcome these issues I had and actually set healthy boundaries and standards for a partner so I’m glad that means now I could actually get to experience a loving, healthy connection. I was worried having my Lilith in my 7th house would make me forever doomed to only be in this type of relationships or even never actually experience reciprocated love. Very helpful video, thank you!

[@jboogie8932]

My soon to be ex-husband always rejected me, never compromised always shut me down and made me feel like wanting more out of our marriage was wrong. Walked away and set my boundaries and I really don’t care what any of his family let alone friends have to say

[@jerrimenard3092]

I have a friend who has this aspect. She is often the one in her relationship offering love, care and support. Her partners ghost her or have addiction issues and tend to leave when she is asking them for something. I fee bad for her. She has come home a few times to descover they have moved out while she was on a work trip or helping family relocate. I am just learning astrology but nothing is in this house to support her. My suggestion to her was to focus on friends and work till she finds someone with a 7th house full of grounded nurturing planets (venus, moon, perhaps Sun).

[@wilderheartland3920]

Ha! I remember sharing with my mom years ago that my boyfriend was cheating on me (again) and she said, "you must not be giving him what he needs then". Classic of a lifetime of growing through this aspect. ! I have done enough healing now to look back on that and dozens of other examples as reflections of me, betraying my own self. Thank you! Very helpful.

[@TheSevonne]

Sounds like your mom is a narcissist

[@LisaValentine1]

I’m sorry it sounds like your mother is also abusive. She’s probably jealous of you and wants you to suffer.

[@nayatarot777]

@@LisaValentine1 right, because lord knows that if she were to cheat on her boyfriend, her mother would’ve shamed her for it - not made excuses for it.

[@DDD122ATX]

Thank You. Knew something was wrong but couldn’t place where it came from~ I started crying when you explained the scapegoat with endings.

[@samyz9980]

Me too😢❤😊

[@keorabernard7584]

This was incredibly relevant to my experiences in life. I'm finally honoring myself now ♥️

[@Calmerthanyouare17]

I experienced this not only with partners but with family also.

[@lastboyonearth1897]

1:46 My father has Lilith in the 7th house. I have Lilith in the 1st house. I always rejected my father. This same goes for my partner. He has Lilith in the 7th and I've in the 1st. Lilith in the 1st always will reject 7th house people. 7th house will be attracted to 1st house Lilith. Same goes for Lilith synastry. If my Lilith goes into his or her 7th house, I naturally reject him.

[@lastboyonearth1897]

@Iceberg My father's first marriage failed. He got rejected by his first wife and met my mother. He has Jupiter in the 11th house. He was famous in his group of friends. I believe, Lilith in the 7th house is not a lucky placement. Natal and Transit Lilith usually makes troubles. I think you've got Lilith in 8th house or 6th house. Try using whole sign, which house yours in?

[@AleBlast]

Interesting, what makes you feel that way for him?

[@eji6585]

my stepmother have lilith sagittarius in first house and I have lilith sagittarius in 7th house,so true.

[@alibee7609]

@@lastboyonearth1897 Hey, thanks for pointing out where Lilith can be found depending on which House system is being used. I've thought my Lilith was always going to be in the 7th in Gemini. However, as a female, I've always experienced sometimes awkward situations with guys like how @IceBerg described his experience. So, I found the setting and realized I was using Placidus all along. I changed it and my Lilith was in the 8th house instead of the 7th! Thanks so much! As a newbie in astrology, this was a revelation. 😅

[@janmarsh5643]

Absolutely hit the button. This was really good news for me as in fact these themes are exactly how they worked out. It was very painful but I learnt a lot about myself and moved into more self love. I have definitely wised up and would watch out for any future red flags. Thank you for your wise words.❤

[@btchc01n15]

i have lilith in this placement and this resonated so much.thank u.

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

You’re welcome.

[@TotallyDudeFun]

This seriously breaks my fucking heart. I’ve been rejected so much in my life I’m 26 and just over everything and seeing and knowing this makes me feel even worse

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

I’m sorry. That’s not ever my intention.

[@pizzadonutaremyfav8515]

Me too i have been rejected many times. It hurts

[@elise8561]

@wow ok you just have to accept this side of yourself! Acknowledge the energy you have and integrate it. I’m dealing with the same stuff, Lilith In 7th

[@CDBAPublishing]

I know I can’t wait for the afterlife! I was told I was crazy and bipolar and BPD MY ENTIRE LIFE! This is not my planet 🌍 I wannaaaa goooo hommmeeeeee 😢😅😂

[@Drostyles7676]

You & I both

[@gabriella438]

Correct! Thank you for helping me to understand myself better! ❤️🙏

[@melk_23]

3:33 when you mention emotional unavailability! This has 1000% be my experience, currently going through this right now with a soon-to-be ex partner. We JUST had this conversation about how much I've given & it's not been reciprocated. I have BML & moon conjunct in the 7th house of Libra, with the transiting BML currently lighting things up. Also have my natal Sun, Rising & NN in Pisces. I've often been ashamed of relationships being the focus of my life, but my Soul's incarnation in this lifetime is meant to heal karma, release contracts & set energetic boundaries, so that beautiful relationships can come forward...and last!

[@Jubilee_BX]

This aspect feels hopeless and it doesn’t matter if you honor yourself and set healthy boundaries.

[@manthesecond]

ooof this is too on point lol thank you

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

Hopefully it wasn't toooo on point. lol

[@lalithakrishnamurthy9663]

Totally resonate with your content and you explain it so well thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@cooloften]

It makes absolute sense, thank you. 🙂

[@janeloder2570]

Wow, this is SO spot on for me. Thankyou 🌟

[@pizzadonutaremyfav8515]

Yes that is true. I have a relationship with this certain guy but he treats me like an outcast treat me bad and i have enough of him. But my mom likes him and wants me to give him a chance although i keep telling her how he treats me bad. But i am so fed up i just can't stand him anymore. I really am done this time. He doesn't understand me at all my needs, he never have time for me so its better i am being single

[@AlvenaNelson]

Wow…does your mum want him in her life regardless of how abused you are in it? Tell her to try being a mother than want what your boyfriends give her?? How selfish? A mother supports her daughter to be treated well..what the hell is this hey? I am triggered..my mum was a selfish sociopath…I want to hug you…and let you know that’s so wrong..and time to call her out..and say no..if you don’t support my happiness and it’s all about you and what you can get out of it..that’s selfish…and if you wish to apologise I will be waiting and moving on to care about myself regardless of how selfish you are. I hope this textual hug..feels like support and love that only represents one % of your souls right to be heard and hugged and told that ‘ he is not good enough’ and make it about what’s going to be reciprocal…and harmonious…that’s what life is about..🙏❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Sorry if I sound angry…but it is ok to be angry , and state your case as …these people are here to learn..and we need to call them out..send them packing what it takes to learn how to be human 🤷🏻‍♀️ 💋💋💋💋

[@pizzadonutaremyfav8515]

@AlvenaNelson Thank you for the kind words ❤️. Sorry to hear about your mom ☹️. My mom is a kind woman sometimes but sometimes she just can say things without even really thinking, but when i kept explaining and saying how i felt hurt she understands me. So she stopped

[@nathamara]

Thank You, K ❤ This is really on point!

[@aaliyahwilliams8337]

My ex broke up w me after I officially made him recognize his wrongs in our relationship and stopped taking responsibility for eveything and he dumped me not long after. He upgraded his entire life bc he took my confidence w him and he even has been slowly adjusting his personality to be similar to me. The way him and every loved on around me shamed me for missing him and not understanding where things went left. They made me feel foolish for thinking we had love together. Also the ego battle after break up is so fucking real. It was my first EVER relationship. I didn’t allow myself to entertain men until I was 17. I didn’t know the rules at all. It lowered me even further how he treated me after the breakup.

[@aaliyahwilliams8337]

Literally still having to battle the absolute rage and disgust and hurt I have from the relationship. Unfortunately my father is similar so the wound is deep. Idk how to heal it tho )-: I have mats in my seventh as well. I’m doomed.

[@houssamsalhi]

I have a retrograde scorpio lilith in the 7th

[@Rhapsody09]

This was spot on!

[@liesje.sadonius]

Well, that explains it. My husband and I both have lilith in the 7th house. Boy oh boy, it's spicey!

[@jesslarsen3764]

My partner and I BOTH have Lilith in our 7th houses 🧐

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

Lol how does that work? 🤣

[@jesslarsen3764]

@@SaffronSageAstrology I'm not entirely sure 🤣. We don't stop talking until we both feel heard...there is a LOT of talking lol.

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

@@jesslarsen3764 hahaha 🤣

[@Innana-vw6sv]

@@SaffronSageAstrology Myself and and my soon to be ex-husband both have Lilith tightly conjunct the descendant. His is exact. Mine has an orb of one degree. He supported me through my schooling and I through his. Once that was complete, things fell apart. For brevity's sake, we'll leave it at that. It is just interesting how things work out. On the plus side, we've remained amicable.

[@Mirandaconnection]

Same haha agree on the alot of talking and trying to convince and more talking hahaha been together for 20 years married for 12 years.

[@jw70478]

He has the Black Moon Lillith in the 7th- and I feel like this describes me, not him. Also, though, his Pluto is conjunct my Asc, and squares both my sun and moon. I think he was mistreated in other relationships, but ours doesn't seem to fit this description at all.

[@donnatierney3238]

Oh my word. You described my ex to a tee. That was extremely validating, thank you.

[@anna-wo3st]

I was rejected by someone with a 7th house lilith. But the rejection seemed so reflexive on their part. Almost like...them inflicting pain the only way they know how? Looking back, it's just interesting they played their own specific pain on me. Does this mean they like me? Lol

[@anna-wo3st]

I guess what I'm asking is, is it possible that we inflict our lilith pain on to others? The rejection was painful...but for me it was more confusing why that was the move. I was initially only approaching in a platonic way. Got a little close. Sparks start to fly. Boom, rejected. Like why is the person you would have a lot in common with and takes an interest in you, the person you facepalm?

[@fredifeinkost1985]

Good question, Anna! I am a 7th house lilith (and also a 7th house venus). I had the need to reject a person, simply out of fear, that person would reject me first.... Even if she send clear signs, I could not trust her.... That is strange, isn't it...? But in any case, your story reminds me of that.... Therefor I think, this person may like you, but has some problems within him- or herself.... Maybe trauma or complexes, one can only guess.... How do you know his or her birth chart...? That's quite interessting.... (Please excuse my bad English, for it is not my mother-language.)

[@Camillio]

I have this placement and it’s so horrible haha the worst betrayals ever

[@keikeilocs]

Lauryn Hill has this placement, her boyfriends and husband knew this about her .no wonder she went thru everything she went through, smh

[@carolgeiger7930]

Thank you so much! ❤️

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

❤️❤️❤️

[@lalunagoddesss5852]

Omg this is like you talk about my life!!! All my life my sister and rest of familly are against me and I am the wrong one not the guy who is using and cheating me, I am good enough I have to deserve his love and how I am not worth

[@Luke-Emmanuel]

You say when the wound is healed, how is the wound healed? I’ve experienced horrific rejection and abandonment, please help

[@negarsabuhi1533]

100% correct!!!

[@dragonfly99blue91]

Wow!!! This is so interesting

[@enalo6261]

I have 5 planets in the 7th house including Lilith

[@melanierose5825]

Wow! You must be very relationship oriented. I have 3 planets in the 7th and definitely feel I’d die without love in my life lol😂

[@enalo6261]

@@melanierose5825 I used to be very dependent, but have become more self centered in the past year or two.I guess it comes with age.I got to say it's so refreshing not to be emotionaly dependent on anyone.

[@melanierose5825]

@@enalo6261 It’s so true, I agree. Every once in a while love comes blasting into my life, and I’m married (20 yrs) but unhappily. I resist but the man that have showed interest was very direct and sweet. It seemed to be a blessing in disguise and now I’ve made plans to leave my marriage as it’s no longer a match for me on many levels. It was an eye opener, not so I can go be with him, but so I can honor my own life and happiness. I have Mars and Venus conjunct as well as mercury and Juno there! 🌕

[@mellowcandle7670]

I have this placement and really tired of it now. I used to always believe I was wrong.

[@LovelySoul33]

I have black moon Lilith in my 7th as well as Saturn and Virgo. 😢

[@auroradeja-vu8763]

I have a male friend with black moon Lilith in Taurus together with mars in 7th house but he's the selfish one actually, emotionally unavailable, he doesn't give anything but he takes, only have one night stand...so...

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

People with mars in the 7th can be demanding sometimes.

[@auroradeja-vu8763]

@@SaffronSageAstrology but in his case he's the Lilith type not the other way around

[@pizzadonutaremyfav8515]

@@auroradeja-vu8763 i think anyone who have taurus in theit chart kinda are selfish. Taurus sun is also very emotionally unavailable. I cant stand those men. I dont like unsensitive men where i have to keep asking myself what have i done wrong? I dont like when they treat me cold. They are so selfish and stupid to hold grudges or hold in everything for themselves.

[@auroradeja-vu8763]

@@pizzadonutaremyfav8515 I'm Taurus moon 1st house and I'm generous, my uncle Taurus Sun and he's another giver, to a point he's been taken advantage of the entire life and now he can't take it anymore. He just couldn't say no to people. The position of the Sun or just one aspect is insufficient in astrology.

[@pizzadonutaremyfav8515]

@@auroradeja-vu8763 oh i dont have experience of someone with moon in taurus. I am moon in scorpio so idk much about taurus moon. But sun in taurus kinda are heartless people where emotions are shutdown. Maybe your uncle is different from the ones i know. My bf he is sun jn taurus and i cant stand him, they do things they like and wont change. I am tired of him

[@Trust788]

My bf has black moon lilith in 7th house, as well as his moon in 7th house, and scorpio in 7th house venus in 8th house, will this be someone i can trust

[@qetsiyah877]

my black moon leo in the 7th house anything specific you can tell me?

[@Rhapsody09]

I have the same placement in Leo 7th house no luck in love.

[@33m_]

Thanks ❤️

[@etcwhatever]

Mine is in libra in the 7th square my Venus exact 😂. On the other hand i have moon conj pluto scorpio in the 8th. Im not a pushover and its better not to anger me. 😂 Although its true some partners tried...

[@littlewave2]

this partner who had this felt wrong and tried to change my identity to join in him in his bondage activities, then cheated on me and lied about it and still is- because he knew I could not tolerate it. refused to talk, just screamed and became more abusive and he was a taker but said I was the taker and the liar.what if wanting to have what you want involves abusing others? can't this go the other way around ? this guy was as close to evil as I have seen

[@HPAkashaReign]

Quite accurate

[@smileagain4333]

What if is the 7th house has venus, moon, lilith, and north node? 7th h is in Virgo

[@Bakedeggplant-y5h]

This placement sucks 😢😂

[@Mirandaconnection]

Both husband and i have lilith in the 7th house 😂😅

[@grimmseti]

How do you know which house your Lilith is in?

[@alibee7609]

You have to look for this symbol 👉 ⚸ on your chart, then see which house it's in. That's your Lilith ⚸

[@grimmseti]

@@alibee7609 If my Lilith is in Libra, does that mean it's in my 7th house?

[@alibee7609]

@@grimmseti That depends. You'll first need a birth chart wheel to know which Sign and house placement your Lilith ⚸ is in. You can find any website that calculates a free birth chart wheel for you using your birth date, time and place. If you're using the Placidus House system and on your birth chart wheel, you see this symbol 👉 ⚸ in the sign of Libra ♎, then that can only mean your Lilith ⚸ is in Libra. And on the natal wheel, you will also see which house Lilith ⚸ is in. But, if you're using the Whole sign House system, then, your Lilith ⚸ can be in Libra but, your Lilith can jump one house forward or backwards. For example, if you use Placidus, your Lilith ⚸ can be in Libra in the 7th House, but, if you calculate using the Whole sign system, then, your Lilith ⚸ might be in Libra ♎ in the 6th House, 8th house or remain in the 7th House.

[@nirvanepodrimqaku4407]

Hello can u help me figure it out. Mine says Lilith in Gemini, but 7 th house! Does this video apply to me or not?

[@alibee7609]

@@nirvanepodrimqaku4407 Yes, this video definitely applies to you because your Lilith is in the 7th House in the sign of Gemini.

[@achrafsifo7802]

That's my husband lilith he is soooo controling ,and always answer's me with a no no no ,Now after 13 years of marriage i learnd to say a fucking big no to him and learnd to make boundaries with him ,he is very obssed with me I've noticed that from the beginning of our relationship but didn't make a Big deal with it and that was my fault this placement make the person so selfish in a family he will want to make his desires first then his wife and kids he will not talk to you if he can't have sex with you he will punish you when you don't do what he wants its an awful placement

[@tamelashafer8852]

💜♾️🙏🏼🕉️

[@user-dd5sn5vl5e]

FACTZ

[@Ye14678]

hey i have one question i have Lilith in Leo and lilith and saturn in 7th house and I'm Capricorn rising what does that mean

[@bhu0019]

Omggg sameee😳

[@Ye14678]

@@bhu0019 how are your relationship in general like mine are so tough i always attract emotionally unavailable partners

[@Maria-wm1mk]

Sameeeeee. I notice that i attract a lot of capricorn moons. People who are very serious in life and sometimes overly rigid. I seem to attract a lot of emotionally unavailable and needy people and this goes to my friendships too.

[@Ye14678]

Same i attract emotionally unavailable partners

[@Maria-wm1mk]

@@Ye14678 omg i hadn't read your comment before replying! Me too!

[@ChilledWhite]

The saffron sage......lmao awesome name

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

was that sarcasm??? 🤔

[@ChilledWhite]

@@SaffronSageAstrology no not at all. it gave me a lot of delight reading it that I had to laugh because its such a good name

[@SaffronSageAstrology]

@@ChilledWhite oh I couldn’t tell what the lmao was for 🤣

[@alibee7609]

Using the Placidus house system, my Lilith ⚸ is in Gemini in the 7th House. I'm a female who's straight as an arrow. I have 3 female best friends. Every time I hang out with one of them, people just have this wrong idea that we might be lesbians lol ⚢ 🥲 And sometimes when I hang out with a guy I like and we're just having a friendly conversation, either his friends would disapprove or random people would make him feel bad for being seen with me. Or my friends would find it amusing and joke about me talking with a guy. Like for them, it's totally fine to talk with a guy they like and not a big deal at all but, not me 😑. Using the Whole sign house system, my Lilith ⚸ is in Gemini in the 8th House. So, in my experience, I've realized that I'm very magnetic to men who have strong Mercury energy. It's usually awkward for me because I can feel them giving off or sending sexual vibes my way and either the guy tells everyone around him that he finds me sexy or attractive or the guy would tell me usually indirectly in a playful chit-chatty way that he'd like to hook up with me 🤢 I've been raised in a strict conservative family and this types of encounters really make me feel like the devil is trying to drag my good reputation through the mud to my utmost mortification 😮‍💨 tsk 🥲