10 Reasons Codependents Fall For Narcissists

[@jasonroman77723]

I love how she focus on the males. I thought I was going crazy. This woman is makeing ❤my life understandable.

[@hbkLilLit]

Just found out I’m a Codependent because I was the scapegoat of the family thanks Lisa

[@anthonyskube]

Please keep doing videos for men. We need the help and support

[@Hairyderriere]

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[@ISNTCRAZY]

Yes !!! ❤❤❤ it’s like on this subject men are sometimes over looked. I still understand realize it goes both ways .. however Lisa is the Mom I lost at a young age. I wish I had this insight much earlier in life. Thank you Lisa ❤️

[@justjill4137]

time stamps - no specific order 1:12 #1 Trauma & Abuse 2:50 #2 Narcissistic Parent 3:43 #3 Invalidation & Rejection 4:30 #4 Abandonement 5:25 #5 Sick Parent 5:52 #6 Parent has Addiction or Mental Illness 6:42 #7 Overbearing Parents 7:32 #8 Scapegoat 8:52 #9 Child is an Emotional Crutch 9:27 #10 Parent is Emotionally Unavailable

[@Eaglemadhatter]

What if I have all of them and dependent on my narc?

[@michaelhargrove5930]

Thanks for the list Jill!☺

[@mathews0618]

My mom was terrible growing up. My entire family hated me. I was just a kid. How they could do that to a kid is crazy

[@samm6626]

As a man I really appreciate your videos. Thank you, Lise

[@jordanfry2899]

Watched maybe 50 of your videos on narcissism (I know it’s bad to obsess over this) but now I found this video and I’ve just switched from psychoanalysing her, to picking apart myself. I attributed me falling for narcissists to my good nature, but everything you said in this video applies to myself. I think you’ve changed my life starting today. Thank you!

[@whatevaonyx]

I can't get enough of these videos. It is still hard for me to believe. About 75% of the content I have experienced. The more videos I watch, the more I see these predictable patterns. Wow.

[@PhantomVortex]

This is wild how relevant this is too me. I never understood why I became codependent. You can fight these traits in life, but until you understand and heal the childhood wounds, these traits will continue to linger. This video hit differently with the 2nd listen after spending more time in therapy.

[@metalministershow]

As someone who has finally begun the process of breaking away from an abusive narcissist, your videos have greatly helped me begin to understand why. For far too long, I remained in an extremely toxic marriage because I thought "This is just how relationships are," or "If this is happening, I must deserve it." Now I must begin the long process of healing and trying to rebuild my sense of self and boundaries that were torn down. Your videos have given me a great place to start from, especially this one. I never realized I was codependent, until it was laid out simply and directly like this. So from the bottom of my heart, thank you.

[@chamuuemura5314]

I think a lot of us were. The Silent/Greatest Generation children passed drama to Baby Boomers who passed it on to X/Y kids who are now passing it on to Zoomers. We all need healing and knowing ia half the battle.

[@3DComputing]

replace "family" for the pain and torment In English Primary schools, and wow, did that all fit. and my endless list of narcissistic relationships. THANKS

[@behindthespotlight7983]

Lisa gets more attractive with every beautifully enunciated sentence

[@thewaywardtrio]

You are so knowledgeable and helpfully concise on these topics!!!

[@calgreg2569]

This is very deeply psychological stuff to understand. I think there are ‘natural,genetically born narcissists and of course, all the narcissists that are created..it has been going on in mankind from the beginning.. it’s all about control. I don’t think this was a diagnosis in the 50s and in the movies of old it’s so clear in so many of the characters. It’s so good to know about..but how do you teach a young child about it..to protect from its soul destroying attack? Talk about it is one way, just make sure you aren’t talking to a narcissist..

[@dinab7852]

Thank you for this channel 🙏🙏🙏.

[@kmatviw]

Growing up I had to deal with 1-5, 7, 8 and 10. That explains a lot.

[@kidrosskidrossproductions2906]

First here Lise .. we Love you Godbless all you do ..

[@liquidjackson7172]

So glad I found your channel. Thank you for helping so many men.

[@GringoinPanama]

18 years in recovery and ACOA recently. Yup I check alot of the boxes. Hence reason I love a good fixer upper for validation. Guess it's time to look at past trauma. Currently working out of toxic relationship that I hung onto too long. Intelligent enough to know it was toxic but self will ego codependency allowed me to justify minimize rationalize and deny. And sadly not my first rodeo of this type. Yellow warning lights and I still drive thru at 60 mph. Despite caution lights. Upside avoided marriage And aware enough to say I was test driving relationship. Still would have liked it too work Awareness is one thing but need to follow with acceptance and action. Thanx for what you do

[@paulocesargd2686]

Excellent video!! Thank you so much, Lisa! Paulo Gobert São Paulo, Brazil 🇧🇷

[@rickymartin859]

This was gold. Thank you.

[@Crestearth]

Thank you so much for this video it was really helpful

[@LiseLeblanc]

Thank you!

[@carryonsailing]

another well thought out and clear video. Well done Lise

[@Eaglemadhatter]

Thank you mother 😅

[@danp5767]

Why do I feel like as a co dependent the only way to protect myself is become a narcissit.

[@Crymeareva]

Very insightful video

[@salahbrahim7193]

Thats me always falls for narcissists

[@personneici2595]

Being a tool is the only thing that would please my ex and mother so i don't want anything to do with them anymore

[@brianmaginnis4296]

Lise, I'm convinced BPD is more similar to NPD than we realize, just eliminate the grandiose aspects?

[@jonathanwelter]

Could I be codependent due to previous relationships where I was dumped/broken up with and never given any reason why? I don’t know how else I would be. I guess you don’t have to be a codependent to fall for a narcissist.

[@Cowface]

I have a newfound appreciation for Jim Carey now

[@31416]

Could you talk about people who are HSP (Highly Sensitive Persons as per Elaine N. Aron) and those who are gifted ? If it has an impact vs the cluster B personaly disordered. Thank you.

[@JohnSmith-wo7ns]

If you have low self esteem and the narcissist who's interested in you is very attractive, it's very hard to reject or move on from.

[@GringoinPanama]

All the more if you move to Latin American country and fall for one of the many pretty ladies. Good luck figuring out motives

[@nicholecornes1915]

😂 yeah not anymore!!!!

[@dayveda3736]

Your also describing the over all 'style' of American culture.

[@GringoinPanama]

Sadly much of it Very true

[@jenniferraymond9766]

Alot of it describes Asian culture as well. This shit behavior happens all over the world. The whole world is broken, not just America. If you are disgruntled with Americans, then don't live here. Find somewhere better, where there are no narcissists, borderlines, codependents, or dysfunctional people of any kind 😂

[@paper-chasepublications9433]

Sheesh! Have we met???🎯😢

[@RavnThor]

Your videos saved my life so many times. Thank you so much for speaking about this, and for helping men who experience this too. It's exhausting and scary and it causes so much bad health problems. Thank you, Lise!!

[@awordonawing]

Wow! 😱

[@mapsdot9223]

Codependency = undifferentiated cluster b.