7 Early Warning Signs of a Narcissistic Partner by Lise Leblanc

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Lise Leblanc

Lise Leblanc

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@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 10 ай бұрын
No one falls in love faster than a narcissist that needs a place to live . 😂. These people are something else.
@mrfake675
@mrfake675 10 ай бұрын
Haha. That was my ex
@Rob5215life
@Rob5215life 10 ай бұрын
Yes! My x covert wife. (Have children with her) Moved in with the new target after knowing him 3 weeks. She's been living in his house 2.5 months now. Won't get a job. These people truly are a suck on others. She did same thing to me. 20 yrs ago. Pheeeew Glad I finally woke up.. Having children and wanting to be with someone will keep you stuck in things you don't like. But I'm here to tell you 15 months later. PEACE is a real thing. Self happiness is a real thing. RUN!
@Godsgirlok777
@Godsgirlok777 9 ай бұрын
My Ex- Husband...
@ElizzzaB
@ElizzzaB 8 ай бұрын
No truer words.....😂😢
@palapalak.8907
@palapalak.8907 8 ай бұрын
​@NarcNmore23
@licmir3663
@licmir3663 11 ай бұрын
If they are married or have a girlfriend/boyfriend, don’t fall for “I never cheat, I’m just unhappy with him/her and I feel you’re the one” speech. He/she’ll cheat on you next.
@alecfoster4413
@alecfoster4413 11 ай бұрын
Orson Wells of all people made that exact observation. Cheating is a pattern of behavior.
@lorishu48103
@lorishu48103 11 ай бұрын
Good one
@marshmallowcereal718
@marshmallowcereal718 11 ай бұрын
Exactly if they left someone for you they’ll leave you for someone else
@pedrosp1985
@pedrosp1985 10 ай бұрын
No shit
@motowngirl5891
@motowngirl5891 10 ай бұрын
Really, are you married to someone who is disabled who can’t have sex, women have needs just like men, there is a rumor that started women DONT NEED ANYTHING, we are just slaves to others, your delusional
@AncientEvolved144
@AncientEvolved144 10 ай бұрын
“Don’t fool yourself into thinking you may be missing out on the greatest romance of all time.” WHEW!!!!!!!!!!! THIS is the advice I needed to hear!!!
@Khaegch-favh
@Khaegch-favh 9 ай бұрын
Same. The idea of seeing him one day with the young, perfect wife’s he’s going to have, is enough to make me feel like I’m not good enough for that “Great romance” someone else is going to have with him :/
@plusone8015
@plusone8015 5 ай бұрын
@@AncientEvolved144 once you are on the other side of the equation the person will no longer be attractive to you and you will be personality disorder proof.
@jamescoburn6789
@jamescoburn6789 2 ай бұрын
​@@Khaegch-favhIt aint gonna happen. Look up Narcissist Destructive Cylcle.
@kathyspaulding5326
@kathyspaulding5326 7 ай бұрын
A narc said to me early on, “You might hear some bad things about me.”
@PoyTroy
@PoyTroy Ай бұрын
That’s never a good sign 😂
@edwong4178
@edwong4178 10 ай бұрын
A lot of covert narcs, the ones I’ve encountered anyway, don’t lovebomb. But one consistent trait is the inability to take responsibility for their circumstances; they will always find someone or something to blame.
@jennifercuddy5663
@jennifercuddy5663 10 ай бұрын
I’ve had to run away from sadly all of my siblings. They aren’t nice to me but expect me to I don’t know put up with abuse and their never ending manipulations. Some siblings I actually fear. It’s terrible. I wish I did have one sibling I could safely have a relationship with. It’s a cycle of offering some fake friendship, I get sucked back in, the abuse starts again, I ruminate about it over and over and over again trying to understand it, I go no contact.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 7 ай бұрын
Me too. My ex didn't love-bomb me.... She sex-bombed me because she couldn't say " I love you". She hated kissing also. She only kissed me one time passionately on our first date to hook me. It worked. But during sex she didn't want kissing.
@plusone8015
@plusone8015 5 ай бұрын
@@jennifercuddy5663 same same my cosmic sister. golden retriever is an excellent family member to adopt. 🙏
@jennifercuddy5663
@jennifercuddy5663 5 ай бұрын
@@plusone8015 I have two small doggies. Latest crazy is one of them refusing to not talk about religion because I didn’t “ have the authority” to ask her not to, regardless we disagree.
@BigWindyVet
@BigWindyVet 2 ай бұрын
Thinking back, my wife definitely love bombed me in the beginning. We got married after a year of dating. It quickly turned to hardly having sex and one of her favorite games was walking around looking upset, but when I asked what was wrong so I could try to address/fix it she would tell me, “You should know!” I know now it was just a way to keep me in emotional turmoil.
@thestoicspath
@thestoicspath 8 ай бұрын
Imagine being in a relationship with someone who wouldn't admit to any mistake. Someone whose apologies are laced with "but you made me do it". Someone who would use suicide threats when she didn't get her way (read, agree with everything I say and do). Someone who doesn't want you being close with your own parents and siblings. Someone who bad mouths you to strangers she met a few days ago. Someone who applies double standards on accountability, none for them but extreme control for you. Someone who leaves you after a petty argument days after you've lost your dad. Someone who insults when you disengage from a senseless argument since you want a sober discussion not a shouting match.
@herrroy4963
@herrroy4963 10 ай бұрын
Know this: What you see is what you get. They will never ever change.
@Thedisgardedoptimist
@Thedisgardedoptimist 10 ай бұрын
Which one are we "seeing" tho, there's at least 4...1. love bomber, 2. Hurt hidey girl, 3 the best thing since sliced bread. And let's not forget 4. The one we are lucky enough to have to live with .. what you see is definitely not what you end up with.
@herrroy4963
@herrroy4963 10 ай бұрын
@@Thedisgardedoptimist It's not easy I know. I mean that if they hurt you once..that's who they are. You saw how they behave and what you saw is exactly what they are and will be.
@Thedisgardedoptimist
@Thedisgardedoptimist 10 ай бұрын
@Herroy... Yep they are like the Duracell bunny, never stop once you flick the switch...hope all goes well for you mate...
@matamba6774
@matamba6774 9 ай бұрын
They may also say things like; 1/ You are too good for me 2/ I'm so broken 3/ I can't imagine a life without you 4/ I can't control my emotions Folks, please plan how to get rid of them asap. Really listen to what they are telling you. Choose yourself over toxic individuals, love yourself and take care; leave them safely and block them if you can.
@Oceansgreen
@Oceansgreen 8 ай бұрын
I was married to one for 34 years, together 36, things never ever got better, toxic relationship caused by him but, he was so good at shifting the blame, people thought it was me who was causing all the drama!! Thing is as well, narcissists are so good at being nice to people outside, everyone thinks they are great🤷🏻‍♀️so when you do tell people what’s been going on, they don’t believe you!!!
@Jezza640
@Jezza640 7 ай бұрын
Yes man, this is it exactly
@LairdSquared
@LairdSquared 21 күн бұрын
Heard these exact phrases the other week! Thank god it was only 8 months of my life 😔
@TheCallie52809
@TheCallie52809 10 ай бұрын
The "love and sex bombing" started right from the very beginning - first date. Wish I had known about this early sign. It was intense and I remember thinking that this was unlike any other relationship I had been in. It didn't take long after marriage for the extreme opposite to occur. I was completely denied sex and any sense of love. Sex became a tool for her control.
@drradon
@drradon 9 ай бұрын
It was that tool from the beginning.
@almor2445
@almor2445 5 ай бұрын
Same here. She was insanely horny for 6 months then totally abstinent for the last 3 years .. while fking other guys!
@AlexRyan
@AlexRyan 11 ай бұрын
I have found that it is MUCH easier to accurately assess a person's character when there is zero desire to “get something” from them. The more needy and fearful we are, the more difficult it is to see the world the way it actually is. Suffering warps our perception of reality. :(
@HANZELVANDERLAAY
@HANZELVANDERLAAY 10 ай бұрын
Yesssss
@afrolid2127
@afrolid2127 10 ай бұрын
Yes really ❤
@Anton-qc1fk
@Anton-qc1fk 10 ай бұрын
That’s so real. For whatever reason that may be, being aware and conscious of the state of our desire and how our desires pertain to the person in question. Desire is the root of all suffering, truly. Were it not for our own desires, we wouldn’t have had the predisposition to being manipulated like people like this, but rather than place blame on ourselves, I think we need to give ourselves a break.
@AlexRyan
@AlexRyan 10 ай бұрын
@@Anton-qc1fk Re: “Desire is the root of all suffering, truly”. If we choose to extinguish our suffering, we will have the option of sharing this gift with others who are suffering. They, in turn, can do likewise. In this fashion, all suffering in the world can be ended and humanity can ascend to a higher mode of being where we cease seeking to gain at the expense of one another and practice “love thy neighbor as thyself” instead. I have extinguished most (but not all) of suffering and will share what I have learned: It’s not desire, per se, that is “the problem”. Rather, the habitual choice to use desire (1) to meet an unmet need (2) which arises in a specific circumstance that is “the problem”. What unmet need? What circumstance? Using desire as a tool to meet our unmet need for what problem? Using desire as a tool to meet our unmet need for “certainty” is the problem. In what circumstance does the unmet need for certainty arise? The circumstance in which the unmet need for certainty arises is the “arrow here, Hard to see, embedded in the heart”. The Buddha describes this in Snp 4.15 (translation by Gil Fronsdal) “Violence gives birth to fear; [Just] look at people and [their] quarrels. I will speak of my dismay And the way that I was shaken. Seeing people thrashing about Like fish in little water, And seeing them feuding with each other, I became afraid. The world is completely without a core. Everywhere things are changing. Wanting a place of my own, I saw nothing not already taken. I felt discontent at seeing Only conflict to the very end. Then I saw an arrow here, Hard to see, embedded in the heart. Pierced by this arrow, [People] dash about in all directions. When the arrow’s pulled out They don’t run, and they don’t sink” What, precisely, is this “arrow here, Hard to see, embedded in the heart” which is the circumstance in which the unmet need for certainty arises? The sensory motor brain predicts sensory experience. When it predicts sensory experience correctly, we don’t even notice that we are making predictions. When it predicts sensory experience incorrectly, we are suddenly “awakened” to the reality that our sensory motor predictive model contains an error. This error CAUSED us to predict sensory experience incorrectly. The skillful response to “awakening” is to sustain the task-positive network and correct the error in the model so that sensory experience is more correctly predicted in the future. It is easy to respond to the “arrow here, Hard to see, embedded in the heart” by skillfully sustaining the task-positive network and seeking to correct the error in the model when we are awakened by a MINOR misprediction: For example, we absent minded reach for a cup of coffee to take a drink only to discover that we left our coffee cup in another room. It is NOT so easy to respond to the “arrow here, Hard to see, embedded in the heart” by skillfully sustaining the task-positive network and seeking to correct the error in the model when we are awakened by a MAJOR misprediction: For example, we discover that our partner has been cheating on us. It is in THIS circumstance that the unmet need for certainty arises. When the unmet need for certainty arises in this circumstance, we will be tempted to reach for the inappropriate tool of “desire” to restore our certainty. It is THIS context that THIS unmet need arises in which your statement is true: “Desire is the root of all suffering, truly”. Why is it true? Because ALL suffering, without exception, is an inner conflict between 1: The part of us that craves for and clings to immediate gratification of a DESIRED sensory experience and 2: The part of us that desires to see the world the way it actually is so that we might navigate sensory experience more skillfully without being inundated by arrows. “When the arrow’s pulled out They don’t run, and they don’t sink” What does that mean? When we “run away” from the truth … When we LIE to ourselves about how the world actually is … This is called avijjā. AKA “denial” AKA “willful ignorance” It is the root cause of the dependent origination of suffering. AKA paṭiloma-paṭiccasamuppāda It sustains the suffering by sustaining the inner conflict. To end the suffering, the inner conflict must be resolved in favor of seeing the world the way it actually is. “they don’t sink” What does that mean? When we habitually lie to ourselves, the arrows accumulate and the accumulated unresolved inner conflicts weigh us down causing us to sink into depression. Depression serves the function of forcing the microglia to physically eat away the synaptic connections sustaining the web of lies. In this fashion, “running” and “sinking” are metaphors for “anxiety” and “depression”. BOTH are downstream consequences of our choice to respond unskillfully to the “arrow here, Hard to see, embedded in the heart.” “When the arrow’s pulled out We don’t run, and we don’t sink” When we accept the world the way it actually is and orient ourselves to navigate it more skillfully, all anxiety and depression is ENDED FOREVER. IMHO, Marsha Linehan came closest to understanding this but her DBT failed to completely extinguish suffering because her understanding of nature of the dialectic at the root of all suffering remained too fuzzy (too imprecise): ALL suffering, without exception, is an inner conflict between 1: The part of us that craves for and clings to immediate gratification of a DESIRED sensory experience and 2: The part of us that desires to see the world the way it actually is so that we might navigate sensory experience more skillfully without being inundated by arrows. Having imprecisely understood the dialectic, she failed to use the tool of mindfulness to fully resolve the conflict. MN 10 is the Buddha’s sutta on mindfulness. Sally Armstrong does a nice recitation of it on the sutta readings website. The chorus of MN 10, however, has been mistranslated from Pali to English. For the Buddha, “knowing & seeing” and “internally & externally” are both referring to the contrast between “the prediction of sensory experience” and the “observation of sensory experience”. Here is a more precise translation of the chorus of MN 10: “In this way he abides contemplating, in the body, the prediction of sensory experience, or he abides contemplating, in the body, the observation of sensory experience, or he abides contemplating, in the body, the prediction and observation of sensory experience. Or else he abides contemplating, in the body, the nature of dhamma arising, [inner conflict discovered] or he abides contemplating, in the body, the nature of dhamma vanishing, [inner conflict resolved] or he abides contemplating, in the body, the nature of dhamma both arising and vanishing. [inner conflict discovered and resolved] Or else recollecting that ‘the body exists’ is simply established in him to the extent necessary for bare knowledge and recollecting. And he abides independent, not clinging to anything in the world. That is how a bhikkhu dwells contemplating the body in the body.
@ClusterBombed01
@ClusterBombed01 11 ай бұрын
“I can’t keep a boyfriend, they always run away!”… oh yeah she told me alright. That’s just one out of many, many examples.
@immers2410
@immers2410 10 ай бұрын
“Everyone wants to have sex with me, but no one wants to date me”
@JohnSmith-wo7ns
@JohnSmith-wo7ns 10 ай бұрын
She told me her exs were abusive and she was the victim. Bs!
@felinekaiju4517
@felinekaiju4517 10 ай бұрын
​@@JohnSmith-wo7ns my ex wife was that person, I saw in the end that she deserved what she got from her exes. I had my suspissions she was cheating on me but couldn't prove it. Either way, im glad I left her.
@JohnSmith-wo7ns
@JohnSmith-wo7ns 10 ай бұрын
@felinekaiju4517 i agree but what they told us was bs!! Their exs never abused them, like we never did! Their exs are likely just men like us. I hope you can move on and enjoy your freedom from such lunacy. I'm trying to do the same. Take care dude. 👍
@fruityfriend
@fruityfriend 7 ай бұрын
that's a sentence that applies to pretty much everyone you will ever date except your last wife.
@parkerflyz
@parkerflyz 10 ай бұрын
Was told early on after some argument or emotional breakdown... "Why would you want me? I'm broken and I can't be fixed". I would always say, no way you're broken, everyone can get help or be fixed, etc. I was wrong and realized later in the relationship - don't ignore these flags.
@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 10 ай бұрын
Get rid of your hero complex. Don’t save her she don’t wanna be saved- Joyner
@hcwaytobe1104
@hcwaytobe1104 9 ай бұрын
This EXACT FUCKING SENTENCE has been said to me at least 10 times in our 5 year relationship. It’s my first relationship ever and I’m not sure if this is a guaranteed lose-lose situation or if it’s just because she hasn’t been on her SSRIs in 1.5 years. She was so much better of a person on her SSRI, but now she doesn’t have the strength to get back on them after her prescription accidentally got cancelled. I guess the real test will be if she accepts going to therapy or if she refuses.
@JamesPetroff
@JamesPetroff 8 ай бұрын
I heard the same. I said the same. I should've believed her😂. Dr. LeBlanc is right. They target good guys. "Phils." And they will try to destroy everything, cutting their nose to spite their face. Truly crazy.
@garyrobinson8665
@garyrobinson8665 10 ай бұрын
My girlfriend would want gifts all the time. She ghosted me because i refused to buy her a cd. She had very little interest in my life. She wouldn't ask me any questions about myself for example what's your favourite movie? My friend died recently and she never asked me how i was feeling. When i told her she couldn't wait to change the subject. She had no empathy. That was the biggest red flag. I didn't know it was narcissism. I was blinded by her beauty.
@joeoreo2498
@joeoreo2498 10 ай бұрын
Im in the same boat. Beautiful women are major narcissist. Im sticking to ugly chicks from now on.
@livelife5890
@livelife5890 8 ай бұрын
It wasnt just about empathy. It was that your loss, was an inconvenience for her now to have to deal with. It's time wasted for her.
@AESTHETICCosmopolitan
@AESTHETICCosmopolitan 7 ай бұрын
My ex with both BPD and NPD would be obsessed with gifts too, just two weeks into the relationship, and she would never be satisfied with anything I got for her. ''This is too cheap'' ''this is too childish'' ''this is too old'' ''this is too expensive'' ''this is not my style''. Same thing with a lack of empathy. My grandma broke her leg badly and required surgery. I told my ex I'd cut down on chatting and that I need some time to grieve. The ex went ballistic telling me to stop exaggerating, it's not like my grandma died. Any normal person would have said that they'd be by my side through this. Not to mention a similar complete lack of interest in my life - all she talked about was her and her exes. What a mess. It lasted 1 month but the psychological scars will take me at least a year to heal.
@clintonnagy1662
@clintonnagy1662 7 ай бұрын
I was blinded by beauty also. She was the most beautiful woman I've ever dated. I was smitten, and wanted to keep her but she is too far damaged. I walked away.
@jesusvasquez8531
@jesusvasquez8531 7 ай бұрын
I was blinded by the sex bomb, it was unbelievable, anything I could've wanted.Everthing the Doctor said is true,just takes time to heal.
@Mechanically_Speaking
@Mechanically_Speaking 11 ай бұрын
I left my ex if 3 years at the bar on our first date because i saw the passive aggressiveness, (sarcastic put downs), lack of object constancy (went inside and seemed to forget she left me on the patio), and the weaponization of her sexual prowess. That made her chase me even harder because nobody rejects a narc
@Eire32
@Eire32 10 ай бұрын
I just left her yesterday sent her all these videos she went berserk tried saying I’m a bully she has every symptom
@drradon
@drradon 9 ай бұрын
Stay strong, don’t forget. Move on.@@Eire32
@Mechanically_Speaking
@Mechanically_Speaking 8 ай бұрын
@@Eire32 she reallly does, literally every single one
@Mechanically_Speaking
@Mechanically_Speaking 8 ай бұрын
@@Eire32 wheelman???
@teresacatherine1620
@teresacatherine1620 8 ай бұрын
Listen to how someone says they " Hate " others, Hate is a strong word Narcs even Hate people they've never met ...
@ClusterBombed01
@ClusterBombed01 11 ай бұрын
Yep, walked into the bathroom one night. This was a few weeks after we met. I said to myself “You can handle this Mark, people have just treated her wrong!”…😮 ffs..🤦‍♂️
@steve-adams
@steve-adams 10 ай бұрын
Ironically, you might have thought that way because people have treated you wrong (not trying to be presumptuous, but was definitely the case for me).
@ClusterBombed01
@ClusterBombed01 10 ай бұрын
@@steve-adams no she told me people had treated her wrong. All part of her story I’m afraid. Only to find out she’s been lying through her teeth!
@Fedsies
@Fedsies 9 ай бұрын
Sage, I laughed. FFS. Me too....I seen the bottle of anti depressants....said the exact same thing. Thinking I'm the asshole if I bounce out of this like the others.... Now I'm 2.5months into the break up wondering. How can I handle this. Completely messed with my head. Struggling....
@ClusterBombed01
@ClusterBombed01 9 ай бұрын
@@Fedsies ahh man.. it’s a total mind bending experience. Just know it’s your CNS that needs to calm down. It’s been hijacked, along with your inner critic by them! You’ll get through it. I promise!
@Fedsies
@Fedsies 9 ай бұрын
@@ClusterBombed01 thanks brother. Its so bad, Ive thought maybe I was the narcissist. Thanks for kind words. She destroyed my sense of self and took out every social connection and immediate family member I had who was connected to us. There's a special place in hell for these types. I feel like Dante at the bottom going through layers right now.
@100nation8
@100nation8 10 ай бұрын
OMG! My ex admitted she was a narcissist. But tried to switch her toxic behavior on me. Telling me I'm a narcissist too.
@DerMicha75
@DerMicha75 11 ай бұрын
Thanks for your great videos. After 16 years relationship with a female covert narcissist I can‘t tell you how right you are. Kind regards from Germany.
@216trixie
@216trixie 11 ай бұрын
Are you going for another 16?
@MS-yf9dw
@MS-yf9dw 11 ай бұрын
I believe my wife to be a grandiose narcissist. We've been married for 12 years, and she says we've been together for 15. But I think she is counting from the day we met... Lots of similarities here. Regards from Poland. :)
@manbearpig7950
@manbearpig7950 11 ай бұрын
​@@MS-yf9dwthey can switch between different types depending on the circumstance.
@HANZELVANDERLAAY
@HANZELVANDERLAAY 10 ай бұрын
How u guys survive around a narc so long impressive
@DerMicha75
@DerMicha75 10 ай бұрын
@@216trixie Surely not. I am living alone since more than one year now.
@treydudley
@treydudley 2 ай бұрын
“My ex boyfriends have complained I’m too controlling” that was my warning statement. I didn’t think to much of it
@kylehettinger1201
@kylehettinger1201 Ай бұрын
None of us thought too much about little comments said early that proved to be the important.
@skaziblu
@skaziblu 7 ай бұрын
i experienced this: "you deserve better" "your my knight"
@TomHeavey
@TomHeavey 6 ай бұрын
A couple of months in I tried to have our first emotionally open and sincere conversation. She curled up and hid her her face in hands and said “I’m broken and can’t do relationships”, followed by a bunch of confusing comments that made not much sense. It’s over now, I miss her, but she was telling me something true in that moment.
@MJ-qb5ph
@MJ-qb5ph 10 ай бұрын
‘You’ve got to learn how to communicate’ then hangs up ‘You are the only person I have these problems with’ just fired from their third consecutive career job
@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485
@dr.vonslifeinvesting6485 10 ай бұрын
Yeah they are terrible communicators. Simple test just bring up something they are doing to you that you don’t appreciate it and see how that goes.
@justadream6650
@justadream6650 5 ай бұрын
omg he has said these exact phrases to me 😂 unbelievable
@josmclove4426
@josmclove4426 3 ай бұрын
"You're the only one who hates me.Everybody else loves me""
@Thedisgardedoptimist
@Thedisgardedoptimist 11 ай бұрын
My life with her was a running commentary of all the bad things and people at her job and how they all wronged her, twice a day for over a decade, I quietly called myself the emotional punching bag...trying to find a solution to her problems would be brushed aside, she would not want to talk about it after she spewed for an hour ...oh and that was her happy days.. when she was unhappy she'd gaslight and try to take it directly out on me instead..trying to change the subject or trying to talk about something closer to "us" or me would be ignored...I don't think she ever even asked how "I" was...oh Lise, the early "I Love you" is another one...mine was less than a week in...dammed difficult relationship, one sided and one eyed in getting what she wanted - the onus taken off her (she never did anything wrong) yet getting all the attention she needs and of course I had to agree with everything...once finished with you - you don't exist again till the next session... Damned difficult...haha then to top it all off, disgarded..lucky me eh? ☮️
@alexanderbegossi7437
@alexanderbegossi7437 11 ай бұрын
That songs very familiar to me !
@DoomKid
@DoomKid 11 ай бұрын
Hope you find happiness and moreover a person who values you.
@alexanderbegossi7437
@alexanderbegossi7437 10 ай бұрын
I already did it ! Turn the page 📑 and give your absence to them for life !!! Best of luck 🤞 to you 2 !
@nikkifullwood3440
@nikkifullwood3440 10 ай бұрын
I can definitely relate to this. When I discussed this with a therapist, the therapist said, "well maybe that's all she had to talk about". It came off as dismissive of how I felt and pardoned my ex. It was constant for years and years. A person can only take so much of hearing it constantly. No concern of how draining it was for me. I didn't realize it would and can be considered being an emotional punching bag. That I did endure in other ways, her taking her anger out on me. Now I deal with compassion fatigue and feel depleted when I hear people talk about their issues.
@Thedisgardedoptimist
@Thedisgardedoptimist 10 ай бұрын
Hi Nikki, sounds to me your therapist needs a holiday..not very compassionate to your problem or maybe simply doesn't understand..Being an enduring "supply" for anyone can get tiring but these guys/girls take the cake..When alls said and done you / I were just supply we still are trying to come to terms with that, that these people were simply using us for energy and whatever else they needed us for...So yes, compassion fatigue is a great way to put it..and I understand..
@VioletMcBrideRN
@VioletMcBrideRN 10 ай бұрын
why Why WHY...didn't I know about Narcissistic behaviors before one destroyed our entire family. All 7 Early warning signs and all 5 reasons for accepting their behavior applied to my son and his now wife. But, I am the person who got No 3 reason SO wrong. When my son came to me with crazy stories and concerns for her behavior, I told him to give this poor damaged girl a chance and to show her there are nice people in the world. UGH!!! why oh why?? Had I known I would have told my son to research and follow his gut. Now he is married to her, isolated from friends, estranged from his parents and his family, not able to show any affection to his biological daughter from previous relationship, has anxiety disorder, sees an anger management counselor, has suicidal ideation... etc... your videos are literally life saving @liseleblanc. Thank You
@davefarnsworth3020
@davefarnsworth3020 10 ай бұрын
It sure would have been nice to have learned this before I fell for it. When she told me "I have a tendency to sabotage a relationship", I should have believed her, and run like the 😈 was after me.
@EdfromCanada
@EdfromCanada 11 ай бұрын
Very true. I am now out of it for 1 month. I've ghosted her for 1 month and am so happy I did. I've stopped feeding the monster. What saved me is my strong sense of self.
@carpediem6431
@carpediem6431 10 ай бұрын
👍 I really have a hard time sympathizing with posters who write about being screamed at, gas lit, hit, manipulated, defrauded etc. etc. and then go on to say they were in the relationship for 10, 20, 30 years or are still in the relationship.
@HANZELVANDERLAAY
@HANZELVANDERLAAY 10 ай бұрын
U kan do it❤
@ma3alimezo82
@ma3alimezo82 10 ай бұрын
Lucky u didn't have kids with her. She will nearly or actually break you
@ChrisVallom
@ChrisVallom 10 ай бұрын
@@carpediem6431guess you have never heard of a trauma bond!!
@VooDooDaddy46
@VooDooDaddy46 8 ай бұрын
A little over 4 years ago, I wish someone would have literally super-glued my bare hands and butt to a chair, driven spikes through my feet attaching me to the floor, and stapled my eyelids to my forehead, and forced me to watch this video on repeat for a week. It would have saved me from a $hitload of pain!
@MaxBrackett
@MaxBrackett 9 ай бұрын
She said to me within a month… “no matter how bad I get, promise to never let me go.” - complete shocker as she appeared to be an “angel of light”. I never experienced such a roller coaster.
@brothermoto1964
@brothermoto1964 11 ай бұрын
Spot on. I had a marriage just like this and the reasons for staying hit a nerve too.
@viviandevilliers1101
@viviandevilliers1101 2 ай бұрын
My covert narcissist had a carnival of red flags from early on, but she “had me at hello”, and mesmerised I went ahead anyway getting married and now a few years later it ended up with me in tears feeling lost, confused, despair. Looking at this video, all the signs were there. The distancing, undermining, isolation etc was relentless and when I named it as narcissistic and wanted couple counselling the discard was swift and brutal. Unmask at your peril, it’s safer to run.
@OnderHassan
@OnderHassan 10 ай бұрын
Mine literally told me she was crazy and has a hard time getting attached. All of her exes were also somehow toxic and was involved in a string of short-term relationships with her longest being 2 years on and off, that she ended. It takes a lot of discipline and self-control to leave someone like this when they tick your boxes physically. I should have ejected at that moment, but the experience made me stronger and wiser.
@DarthIckus
@DarthIckus 11 ай бұрын
I had a girlfriend many years ago. She ticks several boxes on the NPD checklist. She said to me in the beginning that "it's my way or the high way". An early red flag was that she told me about how she was always helping people, and had gone guarantor for several friends for car loans, but was left paying off their loans after they reneged on payments. That, and she always had to be the subject of discussion; even wanting to know if she had come up in conversation with third parties. We worked with the same people, but not for the same company. Long story short, when she had time for me, she was all over me, figuratively and literally. When she didn't have time for me, I didn't exist. She was always saying "I am advising you for your own good" because I wasn't classy enough apparently, and got angry to the point of threatening to disown me if I didn't do as I was told. (She DID warn me!) But it was the purely heartless things she would say that had me thinking WTF? I had just finished getting her off for the last time and she was floating in the clouds like she always did at such times. Then she started saying "don't tell me father I love you... He would just laugh and laugh and laugh". We never actually broke up. She ghosted me, and I stopped chasing. She was absolutely gorgeous and apparently literally every man she met wanted to bed her, and every woman was jealous of her, but her personality was fake and rotten to the core once she showed her real face. I understand what was going on a lot better now, but Maaaaan, I wish I had watched your videos before I met her... Thank you for putting these evil creatures into perspective so that others don't have to find out the hard way like I did, and so many others have had to...
@punjabishaw3172
@punjabishaw3172 10 ай бұрын
I somehow am finding it more and more relatable to these comments
@CAintransit
@CAintransit 7 ай бұрын
This is like my story
@californiaslastgasp6847
@californiaslastgasp6847 7 ай бұрын
“When she had time for me, she was all over me, figuratively and literally. When she didn’t have time for me, I didn’t exist.” Wow, I felt that. Memories of - and pining for - the former kept me with her during the latter.
@robins3672
@robins3672 9 ай бұрын
Missed so many signs. All phone conversations were focused on him and his life, relationship needed to be on his terms. Early on I kept questioning why I didn’t feel loved even though he would say it often. Invalidated my feelings and opinions. I’d hear you’re too sensitive. But because I had known him years before, I just ignored the signs.
@studiscool88
@studiscool88 10 ай бұрын
The low self-esteem was me. I was abused in many ways through my life. I thought he would provide the peace needed to heal and get away from my toxic and abusive mother. He did like them and now I'm so mad and pissed. Trying to make it through
@Hairyderriere
@Hairyderriere 11 ай бұрын
I now notice this type of presentation from someone and my previous urge to ignore what they're telling me. And as Lise says, if they tell you they're trouble, believe them! Do the self-care you need to ensure you don't walk blindly or willingly into toxic circumstances. Don't gloss over those flags, thinking you're being generous or giving them the benefit of the doubt. You *know* it can't end well. You know it.
@Shortkonner
@Shortkonner 10 ай бұрын
Agree. Any red flag is a BIG deal. These things we pick up on are feelings we shouldn't ignore. I once dated a guy who was literally saying to me, "anything for you," and talking shit about the wait staff (who i've been apart of many times-we are all just people, not less than bc of our job situations), i mean complaining behind her back, to the manager, to her face, i was humiliated!!!!! F that bs. Anyone mean to anyone.... is just mean. Narc or not.
@sazarac28
@sazarac28 11 ай бұрын
Lise you are the voice of reason and the one who helps make sense of the nonsense.
@FlamingManofIron
@FlamingManofIron 4 ай бұрын
I remember my wife was just so... interested in me so effortlessly. Compared to other women who were more cold and reserved and didn't seem interested, it was a breath of fresh air. Even if her affection was obnoxious and a bit smothering, I told myself, "well, at least this is a clear sign of interest" vs women who I never knew where they stood with me.
@Greenwingsgardening
@Greenwingsgardening 8 ай бұрын
I'm not capable of love.......that's what I heard. Now I know....
@Ipdex
@Ipdex 9 ай бұрын
My BPD ex said to me, actually said to me in the 1st 3 weeks or so 'I'm a shit girlfriend & I'm shit at relationships. When the dopamine wears off you'll see what I mean'. Of course, I just jumped on the white stallion and set out to save her by proving I'm better than any of the ex's she had problems with. Even the one who spat in her face, the one who left her with a new born daughter for another woman, and the convicted Hungarian immigrant armed bank robber who'd done 5yrs in prison that she lived with. But no, I could save her. It lasted 2 years until I finally saw the light and left her, but it's taken the next 5yrs to try and get past her.. Tks Lise, great and very true video. 🙂
@DisWldFrk90
@DisWldFrk90 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for pointing out that a narcissist may tell you they're not a good person. That's exactly what happened with the narcissist I dated. I dismissed it as low self-esteem and simply looking down on herself. I don't ignore this red flag anymore.
@רבק-ג7ע
@רבק-ג7ע 4 ай бұрын
So true. She told me..."I can't promise more than 10 years, bc I will get bored and jump to the next relationship", "I am not a good person", "I got with my ex bc I thought I could control him." We got engaged, bought a house together, and two years into it, she monkey branched to another victim (man with a lot of money and willing to spend it on her). They married five months thereafter, and three months after I moved out. I was left confused, but I found these resources and it was an "Aha" moment. I understand now, and that has been super powerful to heal from this craziness.
@HM-un4tg
@HM-un4tg 10 ай бұрын
She said rather early on “I’m a moody bitch”. I brushed it off. Over 2 years later, still feeling the hurt of only an 8 month relationship, thinking all I had to do was listen. Sooo glad I escaped though.
@dennyfie
@dennyfie 10 ай бұрын
Good for you, best to run, 14 months for me it was awful.glad you're on your way to be healthy.its brutal.
@i.ehrenfest349
@i.ehrenfest349 10 ай бұрын
That is verbatim what my sister said to me about herself. I wonder if it’s another way of saying “I’m a narcissist”.
@californiaslastgasp6847
@californiaslastgasp6847 7 ай бұрын
My NPD ex-gf referred to herself as a bitch when I never did.
@GoBeavs92
@GoBeavs92 10 ай бұрын
I love that I can use these videos to keep myself safe. I was with a covert narcissist for 5 years until she spit me out. Now I'm learning what to look out for once I heal from this past trauma.
@mkoppguidingforcema
@mkoppguidingforcema 10 ай бұрын
Needed this reminder of who I was dealing with, and to never allow her back into my life
@Rob5215life
@Rob5215life 10 ай бұрын
My x covert wife . Told me nearly our whole 20 yr relationship. "You cant handle the real me". They always tell on themselves in an indirect way. She always made statements that weren't clear in the moment. But they all make sense in the end. When i left the relationship, i got to see the real her she was talking about. The rage fits and meltdowns, physical abuse, neglecting the children , police calls on me for no reason. All while she was rotating about 8 to 10 men still living under my roof because of that marriage paper. Cause you cant legally kick them out . And they know that. These people are disgusting...
@joannedomingo2398
@joannedomingo2398 10 ай бұрын
I was told you will never figure me out. You will have to peel back the layers. Well, after 16 months, I finally peeled all the layers.
@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 10 ай бұрын
Not true. They will never let anyone see all the way under. You may see under the mask . And you will know it… eyes literally go black the rage is beyond words
@MeMe-zq7qd
@MeMe-zq7qd 10 ай бұрын
The “warning” part is a really good point. In hindsight, my sociopathic/narcissistic ex “warned” me about his true nature early on. I specifically remember on one of our first dates he told me he “wasn’t a nice person”. I just thought he was being hyperbolic so I thought nothing of it at the time. He also told me at one point that he doesn’t ever feel remorse and he sees no point in helping the weak. When he said the later, the hairs on my neck stood up. Although, I think he noticed my shock and realized he’d accidentally let some of his mask slip so he followed it up with saying it was a joke. I thought it was a very bizarre thing to say but I ignored my gut sense and decided to believe that it was some weird joke I didn’t understand.
@ChapMeifan
@ChapMeifan 8 ай бұрын
I can’t thank you enough for these videos. I was unfortunate enough to be in a relationship with a narcissist for over two years and almost married her. I broke things off when she showed up at work and said she was pregnant with somebody else’s child. When she was trying to guilt me into marrying her, because I wanted to be a father, I knew I had to walk away. Four years later, I was single again and happened to look her up and she was also single having failed her previous marriage. Just like you described in this video there was the love bombing and sex bombing, and all of the other things in a row. Videos like this helped me realize how I was being taken advantage of and manipulated and helped me to walk away and find better situation in my life. Life is too short to have these horrible women manipulate you and destroy yourself while they are already planning on moving onto the next person. Even though we broke up in December and she said she would never live with anybody or find a true love again. She is already engaged to be married and posts everywhere that she has found her truest and best love and is bombarding social media about how amazing her relationship is. I feel bad for this poor guy, as he will be just another one in a long line of destroyed people.
@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 10 ай бұрын
9:45 if someone gossips to you, they gossip about you
@Doomlord777
@Doomlord777 4 ай бұрын
You literally described perfectly my last relationship. 3 months on and I'm healing and so much more educated with narcs. Still think about her all the time but I don't feel.so sad now. Thanks for your great content.
@aaronm.2718
@aaronm.2718 10 ай бұрын
One of the few non-narc experts that really knows the intricacies of these “people” and relates the info like an intelligent, mature adult woman. Well done👍🏻✌🏻
@mastermind69xable
@mastermind69xable 10 ай бұрын
Love the content, only wish it would have been around when I met my soon to be ex 20 years ago... though her number 1 trait was akin to super gaslighting and lack of self-awareness. She made the statement early on (and fairly often since) that she only spoke truth. I took the meaning to be emphatically honest, but learned the hard way that she meant that reality is whatever comes out of her mouth. Her opinions are irrefutable facts. The day she pointed out how her cousin repeatedly posting that she was a good person was a clear sign that she wasn't since you don't have to tell people if you really are was magical, as that statement was her second favorite followed only by she's a very empathic person. Her only mistakes in life have been trusting people who hurt or betrayed her; mineself now being the worst thing to ever happen to her. I always get a sense that she truly believes what she's saying in any given moment no matter how much evidence to the contrary exists. My situation wasn't helped any by all the moral grandstanding my narcissistic mother filled my head with growing up, trying to make me an actual white knight (full chivalry and self sacrifice), though in a rare moment in her case, after getting to know the girl she told me not to abandon like all the rest had, she told me flat out that she was wrong and I needed to ditch her and work on my own life... the one time I didn't listen, the one time I actually should have🤷‍♂️
@alexanderbegossi7437
@alexanderbegossi7437 11 ай бұрын
Your knowledge on this subject scares me ! In the very beginning, totally out of the blue I heard and I quote “ I’am NOT a nice and innocent person, like u think” wow you are right on !!!
@Ascerian
@Ascerian 24 күн бұрын
these videos are always so fantastic Lise. I wanna double down on what you said here about seeing lack of empathy, insensitive comments and a vindictiveness towards other people who they perceive as having done wrong to them. This is definitely visible in a real narcissist
@fooled_twice4668
@fooled_twice4668 Ай бұрын
They trigger our rescuer response . My ex told me “you are out of my league “ and that i “deserved better” . So many self- fulfilling prophecies that i tried to ignore or disprove! Red flags for sure! He warned me that he was plagued by anxiety and low energy . I thought i could “fix” or help him. Then got addicted to the sex and attention, which later was withdrawn. Breakup was traumatic. I learned a lot, but it was hard at first. Growing happier every day though!
@herrroy4963
@herrroy4963 7 күн бұрын
It's quite striking when I hear you say it now..why would ANY healthy person say that they are toxic/impossible/"you will regret getting to know me" and so on...? Never thought of that before..
@grzegorzwiecek7413
@grzegorzwiecek7413 9 ай бұрын
Shocking how all signs I meet in one person! Thank you
@christopheribarra1170
@christopheribarra1170 9 ай бұрын
Damn. She did warn me but I didn't get it.
@adam91919
@adam91919 7 ай бұрын
That's exactly what I experienced with my ex, until one day I said I didn't agree and she lost her mind and left me because of a discussion she didn't agree with. After everything I had done for her. I was actually like a puppy waiting for a reward all the time and was afraid to say somthing wrong. I was walking on eggshell all the time. There where no mistake taken, otherwise she will gaslight, manipulate or use other methods to punish me. It was like a prison. But the crazy thing is that I still love her and cant even let thinking of her one minute. Making me crazy.
@balancer00
@balancer00 11 ай бұрын
All of these warning signs seem cut and dried to determine the narcissist, but, having worked in an architect’s office with a vainglorious, preposterous, infantile, grandiose fool of a human being for a boss, I found it more interesting to examine how my fellow co-workers compensated to accommodate this guy and his behaviors...can you define suppliers behaviors and survival strategies better, Lise?
@manbearpig7950
@manbearpig7950 11 ай бұрын
Sometimes they don't talk trash about people they know. It makes them look bad if you know that they hang around those types of people.
@connorm7064
@connorm7064 10 ай бұрын
I once had a girl quite literally tell he to watch out cause her therapists told her she had narcissistic tendencies, which I brushed off thinking she was just joking around. That relationship lasted about a week longer before I couldn’t stand it 🤣
@LivingwithXXY
@LivingwithXXY Ай бұрын
My cnex broke my back and then stayed with me for 3 more years, making sure I wasnt healing the way I should have been. The PTSD from her is insane.
@michaelking4578
@michaelking4578 3 ай бұрын
I was warned by my covert narc that I married later. "I'm a mess". That's enough for me. If I hear someone say something like that now I just gracefully bow out.
@Dominion.Intelligence
@Dominion.Intelligence 3 ай бұрын
My narcissistic intimate partner told me from the start that he was not a good person. I believed him but I told him he was wrong about him being a bad person and he was fine with me believing that he was not a good person. He said, “I just let you believe that.” Also, he hardly asks much about me. Most times he just tells more about himself. Recently, he went to the ER and told me he was at the ER over a text message and why he was there and I said comforting words to him, but neglected to me he was out of the ER. I also told him that I’ve been mentally ill, but got no comfort from him.
@mannysequeira1182
@mannysequeira1182 11 ай бұрын
Your videos are a Godsend, thanks Lise!
@TulioHopper
@TulioHopper Ай бұрын
I recently had a break up with my ex girlfriend, she was a cover narcissist, she gave me all the red flags from the beginning, she put me in pedestal saying that I was very important to her life even though we were not at that point dating for too long for her to classify me this way. I’d love to discuss my story with someone who has gone through the same experience!
@Shortkonner
@Shortkonner 10 ай бұрын
Thank you. Again, i'm here bc i'm bpd female, treated, in a stable relationship and very stable myself. I feel like you help me see qualities in myself that I DO NOT LIKE.... thank you girl. I find your little cut assays are fun, do more💗
@jonathanclarkin8844
@jonathanclarkin8844 10 ай бұрын
Hi, you have bpd? Do you show narc traits with your favourite person? I've had to block my bpd gf I love her but I couldn't do it any more. 😢
@hurricaneaquatics
@hurricaneaquatics 11 ай бұрын
The KZbin 100k plaque!! First time I've seen it. Congrats!
@kirbyaugustine761
@kirbyaugustine761 5 ай бұрын
I’d never felt so inept at life in general until my narc relationship. Everything I did was wrong and/ or open for critique.
@garyharris4366
@garyharris4366 10 ай бұрын
They definitely have a way of telling on themselves if you listen close enough. My ex would always talk in third person, when she really was just describing herself.
@Thedisgardedoptimist
@Thedisgardedoptimist 10 ай бұрын
Agreed, my observation is in hindsight tho, I was too busy proving myself to take in what I was hearing..
@punjabishaw3172
@punjabishaw3172 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for making me aware of NPD
@SeanOzz
@SeanOzz 6 ай бұрын
Looking back #2 Holy crap. They told me when we were in a deep talk about self healing from past situations and I was the best version of myself and her response was she’s not and she was bad. I defended her from what I knew of her at the time. #4. I was the hero. Told that all the time. I loved that. I still have no clue why it turned to hate towards me when I constantly was there in every way for her. I’ll for sure watch out for that in the future. She ended up being a covert narcissist and the trauma bond and addiction to get over once it was all over has been insane to heal from. Still trying to get it all figured out in my own head as to why.
@Nobelspirit
@Nobelspirit Ай бұрын
Thank you Lise. I wish i knew all of this when i was a boy. It could have saved me a lot of trouble. It makes me laugh and cry.
@plusone8015
@plusone8015 7 ай бұрын
An excellent exercise for boundary setting is to disengage from obnoxious people mid-conversation; particularly in business and social settings. Me: “I’m sorry. You’re harshing my mellow, narcissistic fellow; gotta go.” YMMV
@studiscool88
@studiscool88 10 ай бұрын
This person I am with just don't know, once I say F it I automatically turn cold. Tired of being abandoned and missused. Lifetime abuse is just to taxing.
@ScarlettWard-fz7nq
@ScarlettWard-fz7nq 10 ай бұрын
hello, do you want help in your relationship?
@grace4976
@grace4976 3 ай бұрын
1 year and I’m out. Thank you God for showing what I needed to see to get out!
@stephanied9629
@stephanied9629 Ай бұрын
I needed to hear this, thank you. Going through this now. As I have in the past. Let’s hope I’m smarter about things this time.
@gangGreenthumb
@gangGreenthumb 6 ай бұрын
3:20 The Narc often uses Tina Turner's "Simply The Best" as her theme song in many of her tiktoks which just cycles through photos of herself making pouty duck lips. I mean this quite literally. She literally adds the words "Simply The Best" to her photos and videos. She did not do this (to this degree) when she was with me, but I think she had a bit of a narcissistic breakdown when I ended the relationship, and she is just completely full of herself today.. 50 years old dressing like and acting like a teenager. I feel sad for her, but she made her own bed and now has to live with the bad decisions she made.
@WillemJanWollants
@WillemJanWollants 10 ай бұрын
Shockingly accurate. Never seen someone explain it better.
@CarMaBear
@CarMaBear 7 ай бұрын
Thank you for your videos! Its helping me retain clarity as i continue extricating myself from a narcissistic family environment.
@StoryloopsThinks
@StoryloopsThinks Ай бұрын
Early on: "You better hope I figure it out". No kidding, her talking about grief. I realized much later that it was her guilt not grief. I think she drove him to over drink and "accidental" death. And so much more after i realized what Covert Narcissm is. And always the victim, even mad at him. Never met a person like this before. Now I know they exist and yes all the stages they do. Mostly done, but honestly, it's still there to process. More than 2 years later.
@brunolanglois691
@brunolanglois691 10 ай бұрын
So helpful to hear you explain so much I have experienced without realizing how it played out. You nailed it 99.99% which is perfection to me! Thanks for your kind support of our « Phil » community.
@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw
@AugustusTiberius-tq1gw 5 ай бұрын
Mrs. LeBlanc is on point 👉 I tried to be the best man that I could be. But it wasn't good enough. I was walking on eggshells. Communication wasn't very good. Manipulation, control, and gaslighting followed. Then came the discard. I can say, My X will never be showered again with all the bells and whistles.
@heshmaxwell
@heshmaxwell 10 ай бұрын
I was with a narcissistic girlfriend for 2.5 months, and she left me when I needed to leave her the most because she was painfully toxic for me. After days and weeks, I finally realized what she had done to me, what kind of red flags I had ignored, and what she was trying to do. Then, a lot of thoughts come to mind-why I ignored those red flags, why I didn't speak about that situation at that time, why I didn't stand up for how she treated me badly at that time. I blame myself, and I feel so ashamed that I was fooled by her. How do I get rid of this? Is this PTSD? Can somebody help me?
@LiseLeblanc
@LiseLeblanc 10 ай бұрын
I’m sorry you went through such a toxic relationship. I would suggest finding a therapist in your area who provides EMDR and also has knowledge of narcissistic abuse. The “psychology today” website is a good way to search
@heshmaxwell
@heshmaxwell 10 ай бұрын
@@LiseLeblanc Thank you for the reply, I'll check for that. ❤️
@pierre931
@pierre931 10 ай бұрын
if before i was telling nothing, now i close definitivly my mouth
@penguinatedthings305
@penguinatedthings305 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for the information. I hope to not be tricked by any more of them. It has happened too many times.
@gazoo7411
@gazoo7411 10 ай бұрын
Straight to the point! Great. No NPD would stand a chance around you. Nice.
@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 10 ай бұрын
They can fool many people. Chameleons
@danl2685
@danl2685 Ай бұрын
My Narc did everything listed. I gave up on trying to communicate. She ran roughshod over the whole house. Dishes sat in the sink for weeks, her clothes were everywhere, she took off with guys from her work on weekend getaways and went out of state numerous times with a "gay" movie producer. Later she texted him about a restaurant we went to that had a lot of girls there saying he'd like this. I said, I thought you said he was gay. Instantly she reminded me of a walk I went on with a coworker years ago, flipping it back on me. I finally got rid of her. Changed my locks on my house and never looking back. She lives at my house rent-free for 5 years and never contributed to anything. Hair supply is now completely shut off I wish I stumbled in this information years ago.
@pambeck324
@pambeck324 10 ай бұрын
Thank you Lise for sharing these videos. I’m in the same boat as most parents are when their son marries a narcissistic woman. I’m a very strong minded person who loves my children dearly and can’t bear to see them hear. I’m also very vocal and protective over them. What will happen if I confront my daughter in law with the way she’s treating my son? And letting her know I’m onto her game? What’s the best way to handle this situation and not lose my son and 7 month old grandson in the process. Please help and thank you again for these videos.
@lesilluminations1
@lesilluminations1 5 ай бұрын
It's hard to see it when you're in the middle of it like your son. Unfortunately, this is one problem you can't solve for him. Any way you can get him to watch some on point videos to get some insight?
@vtmegrad98
@vtmegrad98 8 ай бұрын
i'm divorcing in just a few days, after 2 years of trying to escape. My wife is definitely a narcissist, based on conclusions of our marriage counselors, and my therapist. The woman I was involved with before her probably was as well. I'm not sure how I had decades of decent relationships and then two narcs in a row. But something they both did, related to "Number 2", is that they "used to be bad people". For example "I was a 'mean girl' when I was younger". They also treated it like it was a funny anecdote from their past, not really something they regret.
@Changesforpositive
@Changesforpositive 10 ай бұрын
Thank you for talking about this. I fell for the love bombing but he also had his ex in the picture as a co-worker, neighbour and friend who didn’t want to accept that he met someone else.
@treefrog0826
@treefrog0826 10 ай бұрын
Unfortunately I’m the scapegoat of a very large narcissistic family and unfortunately again I believe that everyone of us has some sort of narcissistic traits that we have to deal with but it is what we do with those traits and how we live our lives that makes us who we are. I would say the biggest red flag out there is a true narcissist can admit to being wrong about a movie or restaurant or something like that but they will never admit they have done something personally wrong. Because if they do, that I’m perfect in every way goes out the window and they would rather throw someone under the bus then have to admit they were personally in the wrong even if the person they are putting under the bus is s significant other or even one of there own kids. Be careful it a narcissistic world out there….
@taom9004
@taom9004 10 ай бұрын
One more reason to stay: Hope. You came from a narcissistic family of origin but this marriage is like that but is not as bad because he's mostly mid-range except when supply is threatened and you make up a narrative explaining/rationalisation the behaviour based on why YOU might behave this way: toxic boss/workplace, death of a family member, hang nail. Fill in the blank. Some of the time it's good. The kids love him even though or maybe because he's not around that much [out gettting supply] and you are fighting for that Norman Rockwell painting. Hope. Deadly.
@salliecuthbert
@salliecuthbert 8 ай бұрын
Thank you for helping me figure out what’s going on in my relationship with this man
@JohanIsraelsson
@JohanIsraelsson 8 ай бұрын
After an argument my npd ex became a bit introspective and said that maybe we shouldn't be together because she tends to make people unhappy. This was the first time I've heard of this as a somewhat common sense. Of course I took pity on her and assured her that this was not at all how she made me feel. Later it sure became that way though.
@DeirdreRawlings
@DeirdreRawlings 10 ай бұрын
Excellent information! Thank you Lise
@rainingpatchouli4476
@rainingpatchouli4476 4 ай бұрын
Your videos are life changing ❤
@mojekino2
@mojekino2 10 ай бұрын
Very true! Unfortunately I learned it after many years of unhappiness with my narcissistic partner 😢
@joaopaulodesouza8239
@joaopaulodesouza8239 10 ай бұрын
Thanks Lise.
@LiseLeblanc
@LiseLeblanc 10 ай бұрын
Thanks so much, I truly appreciate your contribution and support!
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