Living with Trichotillomania (The Uncontrollable Urge to Pull Out Your Own Hair)

Lauren lives with the uncontrollable urge to pull out her hair, a condition known as trichotillomania. She wants others to know that it's not as easy to stop as one may think.
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[@ninjagriff]

this is the first time I've seen someone with trich that focuses on eyebrows and eyelashes like me. it really helps to see that I'm not alone

[@Synfulz.]

YES I AGREEE i have 3 areas and i see people crying about one that dont even get patches.. im sure i just think its not something to even.. meh angers me lol i wouldnt even be too worried with pulling that little with NO patches ¬_¬

[@chrisjackson6149]

Sorry if I sound ignorant or offensive with this question, I'm coming from a place of pure curiosity. How does the uncontrollable urge of trichotillomania come into play? Would you say it's similar to some people who get the urge to pop their pimples, even if it does more harm than good? Is it possible to have a certain degree of control, or perhaps harder to have control under some circumstances? I'd imagine things like stress make it worse.

[@endeeyah]

Literally me

[@jenniferhalladay6513]

I do the same thing trying to stop would like to be your friend

[@ninjagriff]

@@chrisjackson6149 yes I'd say it's similar, since I do skin pick acne and scabs and other body focused repetitive activities like nail biting, it's compulsive behavior that's very hard to control without some kind of behavioral therapy and substitutes for whatever the behavior provided- in my case it usually helps to relieve stress or boredom, but i do it often without even noticing- my brain has a low key obsession with being perfect, including my body, so if something doesn't look or feel right i can't stop myself from trying to fix it. It's different for every person though, like in this video she has different reasons and ways to deal with it

[@delbaby]

She’s so brave for doing this. I could never publicly talk about my Trich experience. I’m so embarrassed by it and at times it hard to bear the burden of what damage I’ve done to myself.

[@viennagirl9335]

you're not alone, i just want you to know that you are amazing just as you are. sending many hugs

[@ur_local_equestrian_flickr2536]

I agree, its nice to see that most f this community in the comments is just like me. I find it awkward talking about it , but both my friends know about it, and I'm proud that they support and accept me.

[@anniek55112]

Please don’t shame yourself, it’s just hair. Once you can shrug it off and know it’s practically impossible stop, and just accept you are just going to pull, remind yourself it’s just hair. No harm in the hair game. It’s not like you’re using meth. I’ve had this for 45 years. Just let yourself pull. I just wear eyeliner and when it was hair, I wore a hat. Some people deal with much bigger struggles than missing hairs

[@Maya-cq1ww]

I also have trich, really embarrassing when people call you out for it and they don’t understand. Some reason I do not pull out my face hairs like eyebrows and eyelashes I some reason pull out my hands and Leg hairs

[@kristineleblanc2286]

Thankyou for sharing. People don’t understand. I do.

[@pfalzerwald8781]

Since 15 or so, I’ve uncontrollably pulled my leg, pubic, head, arm, and eyebrow hair causing entire portions of my skin to be devoid of hair. The pulling would be especially vamped up during times of stress, anxiety, and boredom. I purposefully wear long pants to cover myself, because it’s super obvious that somethings wrong (since I’m a very hairy guy). I have never seen anyone else with a similar problem before in my life, and never knew it was a recognized disease. This video gives me a tremendous source of relief, and it makes me feel like I could confront a doctor about it at some point. I’m worried that I’ll cause irreparable damage to my skin later in life. Thank you for showing the world that this disease exists and is real ❤️

[@jenniferryersejones9876]

It is SUCH a relief to know that there really is something is wrong and it has a name, isn't it?! I self-diagnosed myself from a letter to Ann Landers in the newspaper I was reading when I was 12 or 13. My pulling was never really talked about in my family, because we just didn't talk about deeply personal issues. The high school nurse I had an un-asked for appt. with didn't pursue it when she asked if I pulled my hair and I said no. I started when I was around 10, and I'm in my early 50's now. Having my eyebrows micro-bladed on 7 or 8 yr.'s ago, courtesy of my sister, has been a tremendous relief! I've not found anything that helps me control trich, but I also have clinical depression and anxiety, which doesn't make things easy. I encourage you get whatever help you can. I'm sure things have changed for the better, since I last actively tried. I wish you all the best.

[@rissadingram4548]

I remember reading an article in a magazine as an early teen I think and just being floored it wasn’t just me and that it has a name but that was about all I heard till a couple years ago and a KZbin video or two

[@EwItsARat]

I'm not trying to be rude, and I hope it doesn't come off that way, but wouldn't it be easier to just shave it off? Ofc it's easier said than done, but just a thought. I'm not sure since I don't personally know what you're feeling, but would it make the sensation go away? Hope this doesn't come off as insensitive, I'm just curious.

[@jenniferryersejones9876]

@@EwItsARat For me, I do end up shaving my head, when it gets looking moth-eaten. In one way, it makes life so much easier, but people often assume you're a cancer patient, which I find rather distressing. You then have to explain that it isn't, and that's embarrassing all around.

[@EwItsARat]

@@jenniferryersejones9876 That makes sense. Thanks for taking time to educate me C:

[@angelathompson5620]

As someone with trich, I was really happy to find this video. I wish my mom understood the way yours seems to understand you. To this day she is still judge mental and asks me to stop. Has even told my boyfriend to tell me to stop when I’m doing it which caused him to become more aware and judge mental about it. Personally, it’s one of my less bothersome diagnosis and I’m not even aware I’m doing it most of the time but I wish others would stop paying more attention to it than even I do.

[@Synfulz.]

well shes not just gonna sit crying on camera when shes trying to help people understand we can be happy sometimes :')

[@typhoonf6]

Please correct me if I'm wrong here, but if you are unaware when you are doing it, wouldn't someone telling you to stop prompt you to realise you're doing it? I'm making many assumptions here but that, in particular, seems like more of a way to help rather than judgement.

[@SOURCANDYSODA]

@@typhoonf6 it doesn't really help for me, since I'm already stressed when I'm doing it feeling like someone may be judging me amplifies the stress and just makes me wanna pull it out faster

[@lifewitkassie]

yesss omg my mom tells me to stop as well, but she DONT UNDERSTAND THAT I CANT

[@ditty3293]

Litterally got done crying because my mom thinks this disorder is made up and makes fun of me for it

[@Luvvybubby]

It made me cry when she started talking about her struggle making friends when she was younger💔

[@ruthbindas2039]

Same

[@chanelxoxox]

me too especially when i relate so hard

[@wiart3882]

I love how he smiled when she said "i think I am cute" melted my heart ❤️

[@katepereira6535]

i also have trich (head hair) and derm (skin picking) and other bfrb, I think it’s amazing that they are sharing their experience w it, literally every time I tell someone abt it they never know, thank you for spreading awareness. this is so relatable. also great to see support! yay comments are back :)

[@katybee5339]

I've had trichotillomania since I was 9 years old .For me ,anxiety was not the cause or reason : It was ( and still is ) the heightened feeling of euphoria each time a single hair is pulled ..

[@AParticularlyConcernedCitizen]

Go hairless, get some crazy tattoos and live your life as a nomadic tribal warrior hunting the hairies.

[@thevoidisshining]

I've pulled since 8. Im 31. It is a major dopamine release and dopamine is addictive as heck! I'm on a bunch of supplements to help my neurochemistry and mental health, and I've pulled less on these supplements but I still do it.

[@lifewitkassie]

Same I was only 9

[@tufftuffson]

Same. I was about 9 as well when I started pulling. I'm 21 and currently have a half centimeter gap on my right upper eyelid.

[@wallymarcel1]

Same with me. 9 also.

[@lizco220]

i really appreciate this video being shared. i’ve had trich since i was 9 and i only pull out my eyelashes and eyebrows. i’ve gone through years of embarrassment and i’m at an all time low right now. seeing people go through similar experiences is really validating so thank you ❤️

[@rileyanderson7379]

There is hope. I was a puller from grade 9 to about 25 years old. Since age 25 to now at 37 I have not pulled or struggled at all with wanting to . Good luck.

[@OutstandingBrain123]

Please tell me what did you do?

[@roosaa3337]

What helped you not to pull?

[@mahaawwad7189]

What helped you to stop

[@fit4u679]

I as well.....I started pulling from around grade 2......and then just randomly stopped pulling right before I turned 30....I'll be honest I just few out if it. EXERCISE HELPED ALOT!!! . This is going to sound strange. Just don't be so hard on yourself. Don't stress so much about it. It does go away or at least gets ALOT better.

[@Gigi-ni1cf]

@@fit4u679 same here! I stopped pulling when I started heavy exercise every day, it really changed my life … I stopped pulling at 26 it’s been a whole year now I just don’t really feel like pulling …

[@TigrinStudios]

Thanks for sharing your story Lauren! I've had trichotillomania affecting my eyelashes and eyebrows since I was in middle school, I looked exactly the same at her age... I'm in my 30s now. When people ask I usually just say I have a nervous habit like chewing on nails because it's too complicated to explain trich. Over time I was able to stop pulling my eyelashes and redirect most of the pulling urge to just brushing my eyebrows and not pulling, so everything has mostly grown back in. There's hope for the future! I had a lot of people over the years tell me that if I didn't stop it'd never grow back, or that I'd never be able to get a boyfriend. Of course it grew back, and I'm getting married soon.

[@matildabishops9196]

Congratulations on Both Wonderful Events In Your Life!

[@olhasum4721]

Thank you for your comment! It gave me hope. I was paranoid that at one point my eyebrows will never grow back.

[@wgtails1456]

I remember a couple months ago I was getting out of the car and one of my family members said “you only have lashes on half of your eyelid” and it really hurt my feelings because I knew I couldn’t help it!😕

[@anitachavez]

I don't really like it! I don't understand why people says something that you know. "You look fat", "You've losted hair", etc. It isn't helpful!!!

[@kellianai5985]

Yes, those comments are extremely hurtful! Especially coming from family who loves you and still judges you negatively

[@isabel9031]

@@kellianai5985 yea imagine living with the judge from my mom since it happened when i was a kid with 10 and internet wasnt a big thing... i felt i wasnt normal

[@sadanferreira6035]

My daughter is 9 years old. She has been doing it since 2 years old. I wish someone like you talk to her and she is not the only person in the world doing it. ❤❤

[@frysenster4710]

I can’t believe the comments are back! So glad to be able to say how amazing Lauren seems to be! I really hope she to be happy and to have all the best in life

[@aperson9438]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR MAKING THIS VIDEO ❤️ I have had trick for almost my whole life and I was always basically taught to be ashamed of it and I just always felt alone. Even though I knew that this was something that a lot of people had no one in my life ever mentioned this and the few family members that did know never treated it like a diagnosis or a scientific thing they looked at it as a stain that I was to lazy to clean but I see the patches or skin with no hair like they are scars that I got in battle and I will always try wear it with pride. :)

[@rinanona2348]

Yes girl. You and your family are gorgeous. What an inspiring role model for so many people. Thank you for being here and sharing your story.

[@lanaperry9400]

My daughter pulled eyelashes and brows when she was little. I wasn't understanding for lack of knowledge. Thank you for sharing! And you are a beautiful young woman.

[@kirbylilie]

It happend generally to kids

[@olgaoconnell1549]

You ARE beautiful inside and outside! You are so helpful to others. Thank you for sharing.

[@__nal]

I’m so glad we got to see the impact of these two very important and positive relationships. Thanks for sharing your experience ❤

[@starfishsayshello]

I have derm and omg it sucks so bad. You are such a wonderful young woman! Nice to meet you.

[@JJ-iq8mi]

I have dermatillomania. Nothing stops the urge, and I have caused so much damage to my body over the years. I feel for this girl.

[@njh18]

She’s so pretty ❤️

[@bakedbeans4060]

Youre an incredibly brave soul & beautiful person. Takes a lot of courage to talk about Trich. I also have Trich of the eyebrows,eyelashes& more.... You make me feel not alone. I can't talk about it because no one understands & the shame is overwhelming. I could cry trying to tell someone about it.... its so uncomfortable So I admire you, thank you

[@CorvineAftermath]

Yess i just commented on a different video wondering if there was a vid on trich! I'm so happy. I pull from my head, top eyelashes, eyebrows, pubic hair, just about wherever has hair. In this video, she puts a lot of my exact thoughts that i'm not able to articulate in words, and its so so good to finally hear it.

[@toryberch]

❤️ Thank you love for teaching others about your condition ☺️ I hope you have the confidence now of feeling more comfortable in your emotions and I know of others who pull peck and tear at their skin.. Everytime you have this urge keep hugging and you are cute sweet and beautiful ❤️

[@choompymolly]

I think you look absolutely gorgeous sister.

[@01chittock]

I’m 53 ! And have had this for over 45 years, I know deep down I will never stop. I have to admit I enjoy the pain too. It’s just my eyelashes, but it was my hair too for years but was able to stop it.

[@deannaw6867]

I pulled out my lashes for 30 years. I stopped pulling by using EFT (emotional freedom technique) Every time I even touched my eyes I would do quick tap saying “let it go” over and over. It worked but I was very dedicated on using the EFT. Been free for 8 years now

[@karek4635]

@@deannaw6867 Did your brows grow back?

[@victoriardsethbe8974]

I have trichotillomania and I also pluck my eyebrows and eyelashes, tho I also pluck my pubic hair O.o I can often spend hours every day plucking the tiniest hair.

[@Synfulz.]

your honesty is :O haha but i feel you i pull from 3 areas used to pull pubic but always shave it now without a doubt due to it being too unhygienic >_< id recomend the same.

[@EdwardLy793]

Nice interview! Lauren looks like a really cool person :)

[@Dielind]

Trichster here! You are not alone!

[@moeoverthere3640]

I deal with this and had no idea so many others did too, thank you for bringing awareness

[@mollygriffin588]

I have Tourettic OCD and several body focussed repetitive behaviors similar to hair pulling.. My behaviors are primarily skin picking or making certain sounds. I strongly identified with this girl and the specific question when Chris asked her, "Are you concious that you're pulling out your hair", and she responded with "I'm hyperaware but used to tell people it was involuntary". I identified with her answer because in my childhood, I would definitely go along with the "oh yeah I'm not aware I'm doing it" in response to my skin picking. It was easier to explain to people, even my parents, that I was always doing it because it was unintentional, when in reality I was hyperfocussed. I felt like I had to pick my skin in order to releive some inner tension, like a building anxiety inside me that could only be released through picking my skin or making a certain tic noise. It was all about relieving the anxiety and discomfort, not an accident or involuntary behavior.

[@kimberlymartin2314]

Important interview - that helped people with this condition, to know they are not alone. She's a very sweet and pretty young lady.

[@DJ-Dreaming]

@SBSK "This awareness you're generating on such a broad scale of Disability is priceless, it is meaningful work. The Stunning ways the Human body and minds function differently shows a tonne of extraordinary Human Adaptive capability. Letting people with Disabilities tell their own stories with SBSK as a sort of Translator is a crazy great Idea. Thank-you.

[@oscarmora3617]

Love her motivation, her self love is amazing!! 🙏🏼

[@kingizo1177]

This girl is absolutely gorgeous!!! A unique face is beautiful ❤️

[@meganheartswell]

Follower trichotillomania here. Its horrible trying to stop

[@goofygoober4531]

I pull my head, eyelashes, eyebrows, and pubic hair. When I was younger my mom would frequently scream at me and say that I wasn’t getting anything for my birthday or that we weren’t going anywhere fun because I couldn’t stop. I tried explaining it to her, but she still makes snide comments. I have fringes of hair that go down to my ears and neck and somewhat blend in. I can’t remember if they were pulled from the root or if they were brown off. I remember seeing bald spots. My eyebrows have come back. What helped me not pull them was seeing the growth of it. My eyelashes are now coming back too. They’re starting to get long, and what really encourages me to not pull anymore is seeing the progress in hair growth. I still pull on my head regularly.

[@snowey4743]

Wow She is so beautiful a human being. I love her personality 💖

[@minathecalicocat4968]

I have lived with trichotillomania for 25 years and am currently 35 years old and in therapy

[@noe2542]

this is really nice because i can relate. normally i get judged and am not able to openly discuss it around people i know

[@roguegenie4391]

I also deal with Trichotillomania. It effects my eyebrows and eyelashes mostly. It sucks. I’ve had it for over a decade now.

[@sug4rmilks]

Same! It’s my eyebrows, than the edges of my hair.

[@daryl4083]

its tough as nails. I am 46 and i pull all over my body. but i only like to keep the ones with the sebum and pile them.

[@saraswathyanbarasu8482]

May I ask if it actually grows after a decade of pulling eyelashes ?

[@kellianai5985]

@@saraswathyanbarasu8482 mine have stopped growing back after 51 years of doing it

[@snjert8406]

She’s an adorable human being and really confident for talking about it publicly! Props to a self proclaimed shy person for doing this!

[@ms2507]

God bless you✨💛✨

[@anjalipatnana3549]

Omg I need to hear this bc I have trich and sometimes people just do not understand!! Thank u 🙏

[@shadowcat6832]

I have dermatillomania, or obsessive skin picking disorder, and I totally relate to the stigma that is faced from this disorder. I constantly feel intense shame for picking, and it’s so hard when people don’t understand that you can’t just stop picking. Learning to accept myself and my dermatillomania is an ongoing process but it’s really amazing to see your journey and it gives me hope for my own journey

[@neckbackcripplinganxietyattack]

I’m autistic and I have issues with pulling out my eyelashes. I cannot imagine how difficult it is when you have tricotillomania.

[@marleenninaka1303]

Hi everyone: It's so nice to see you all again on KZbin. I want to meet you all one day. Take care and stay safe.

[@Alypius420]

Fellow trichster here. I can relate so much to your experience. I pull from my head. It's a pain. I have found it so hard to make friends too. That said, the friends I do have are absolutely fantastic. Quality over quantity! You're awesome. I appreciate your courage speaking out about trich. Thank you!

[@dillotea912]

I used to have this to the point I have random bald spots on my head. That made me so embarassed each time I have to get a haircut in a hair salon because the hairdresser always asks if I pulled my hair out and it made me feel guilty and judged so I just told them it fell off by itself. But at some point I stopped doing that/I don't pull it out that much anymore. I still do sometimes but like only touching it in a pulling motion but I don't pluck it out. When I was younger my family don't understand mental health issues so they just always scolded me and told me to stop pulling but ofc I couldn't do it without feeling sick because I'm holding it in so badly that I pull it out later when no one's looking. I don't know how and why I stopped, I think I stopped when I got into uni and had a lot of new good friends that I felt happier and it just stopped naturally somehow. I did have a relapse in uni at 1 moment because of having a bad grade. But it stopped again after passing that grade so I figured it has a lot to do with anxiety and stress. I hope others who have this can stop too someday

[@user-oq5rm9gi5o]

I’ve had trichotillomania since i was 7 and honestly the humiliation comes mostly from inside my family. I’ve never heard judgemental comments from other people. And it’s honestly sad that my mental health matters only when it starts to mess with my parents view of me as a pretty little doll . And even then their only goal is to make that behaviour stop immediately, and not to get to the bottom of the problem

[@hagglepig26]

I've pulled my eyelashes and eyebrow hair for over 15 years. Sometimes I'd stop and hold off for a month or even 2... and then rip it all out in one go. Half of my eyebrows haven't grown back at all. Its completely bald. :( and bottom eyelashes. I'm still hopeful to save whatever hairs I have left :)

[@buzzingnoise]

Yay comments are back!! I pull and pick. I shaved all my hair off to try and help but I just grab the tweezers. Not great. You are so beautiful. Like seriously. You pop up in my reccomened all the time and I'm taken aback.

[@jenniferryersejones9876]

Same. I have to shave my head 4 or 5 times a year, but there are always other areas to continue with.

[@Pupil187fsg]

Look into the gut-brain connection related to trichotillomania: my doctor gave me a food sensitivity test and I came up positive for foods on John Kender’s avoid list. That has definitely helped me. I’m currently looking into probiotics.

[@ChialukaGold]

anyone pull out their pubic hair too? ,, I never know pulling my eyelashes were such a big problem, It just felt very good and that's what I told people, no one ever rejected me they just laughed it off, I'm ok living with it cause I've never had drastic emotions about it ig.

[@jasmynita]

yes

[@isabel9031]

yes and the legs 2 sometimes i think going to a unseen part of the body would stop me from going to eyebrow or eyelashes i wish there was a cure because i love my eyebrows and then i get sad because i dont look pretty without ofc... what to do

[@avalanche._.]

I did this on my eyelashes all throughout my childhood and my parents would punish me for it instead of open minded because they don’t have it. For example, they would tell me if my eyelashes didn’t grow back by Christmas, my phone would be taken as punishment because I couldn’t control myself enough to let them grow. I have 3 siblings and they all did it as well. We were all diagnosed with trich at a early age.

[@jrmyaya81]

Your parents sound typical for someone with your condition. "Affectionless control"

[@barbaravalliere4957]

Hey there this might be a bit older video but my twin sister and I both have trich too! Pulling from my eyelashes primarily and used to be my brows. You’ll get through it and never think any less of yourself beautiful inside and out. It gets easier as you show your own confidence and trust me I am still learning this at 28 years old. 💜

[@Synfulz.]

i have this and head... /synfulz if you ever wanna not feel alonee.. also 28 :(

[@Synfulz.]

insta *

[@karek4635]

It is tough to treat because every case is unique and the underlying cause(s) differ from person to person.

[@LiTree420]

Good for you opening up to let other people know.👍 I've been dealing with this since I was five years old and I'm still dealing with it and I'm 34 now...

[@HonestlyAnnaFun]

Thank you for supporting the BFRB community! I hope to see a dermatillomania sbsk video in the future too. Who knows maybe I'll apply to do it. 😅❤️

[@jenniferryersejones9876]

May I ask what BFRB is?

[@HonestlyAnnaFun]

@@jenniferryersejones9876 Sure, it stands for Body Focused Repetitive Behavior.

[@jenniferryersejones9876]

@@HonestlyAnnaFun Thank you!

[@KattReen]

Something that helped me a lot with keeping the hair pulling on the lower end of the spectrum, was identifying my triggers and trying to find other ways to cope with those triggers. Even though what will work for a person individually to help with a compulsive behavior will probably vary a lot, I think the first step for most people is going to be accepting and forgiving oneself. Even if you never find a good way to curb the behavior, a compulsive behavior like hair-pulling does not affect your worth. It's a sentiment that most people understand cognitively, but the things we internalize emotionally don't always align with the things we rationally understand to be true.

[@mariekatherine5238]

I pulled my hair out at age 15 while thinking about something my cousin did that was very bad and immoral. It was like I was atoning for her sin. I realized afterwards how crazy my behavior was. I was ashamed and embarrassed. I struggled with it on and off for about a dozen years, sometimes wearing hats or scarves to hide thin spots. I had NO idea of what it was or that anyone else in the world did it. At some point, I just lost the urge and only learned there was a word for it when in my 50’s!

[@caoimia]

I have trich as well, it's actually pretty common. Usually whenever I tell people about it, they say they know someone who has it as well. I remember what triggered mine, we were reading a book in the 3rd grade called The boy who swallowed the key, I believe the boy in the book pulled his hair out, I have vague memories of that detail and that was the time when I started pulling mine out as well. My teachers started noticing and they were really worried and talked to me privately about it, they immediately asked if it was because of the boy in the book and I hadn't even thought about it back then but I think it has. I just finished googling about that book and it was about a little boy who has ADHD and went thru alot of mental health issues. It seems pretty intense.

[@thevoidisshining]

Joey Pigza swallowed the key?? I loved that book. I don't remember him hair pulling! I started pulling 2 yrs before this book was read in class by my teacher. I'll have to read it again since I just got a copy for my daughter.

[@priyanshiiamindian]

She’s so brave ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@new-ancient]

Hey I found a great method and it changed my life! I wear a hijab now, always! Try a Burka! I think a burka is rad ❤️

[@leamichelle3792]

As a kid I used to pull out my hair, wrap it around my finger as a ring and tear it. I also loved to make existing holes in my socks bigger. And I scratched the skin of my hands and legs with my finger nails. There were scars from it. At twenty my hair was split from above the ears down. My parents never cared about anything I did. As I hated any decisions, at breakfast I ate honey for one year, then Nutella for one year and then cheese for another year.

[@ffthrne8995]

I have trichotillomania. I’ve been pulling on my head since 2017. It started in 2014 However, I only pulled out all my lashes. That was one time. 3 years later I did it again, but it was on my scalp. I have noticeable hair loss on the edges of my scalp. My hair just keeps receding. It always slowly grows back in but then I start twisting again. Can’t help it

[@nouraelbarbary270]

I also have tric I really wanna stop to see my eyelashes and eyebrows again I really miss them I'm just like you laura pls don't cry ..But it feels so good to pull ...But in the end you feel so ashamed of your self ...Noone is accepting my in my community how am I gonna tell them about this and explai my self that's what hurt the most

[@Hippo-finds]

I’ve had this since I was 13. I’m 22 now and once I stopped looking at trich as my diagnose and instead a symptom. (Autism) it got so much better. I still pull, but trich in my opinion is not a simple diagnosis. I really believe it’s a symptom of being neurodivergent and because this condition is mainly found in women this furthers my opinion. This is a body stim. Once you start replacing it with other stims or have that awareness that you are probably autistic you can make boundaries and make your surroundings so much better. It’s so odd watching this and this girl looks so much like me, and her mannerisms are also like mine. Anyway if you are a lady and have trich I would really recommend researching autism.

[@new-ancient]

I also pull my eyelashes and eyebrows. You are so beautiful ❤️ We are beautiful ❤️

[@newchapterasmr]

I have derma and it’s very similar. It’s SO difficult to have other people understand it..

[@albertoponcemusic]

Empowered yourself, you are awesome, you shouldn't be rejected and who rejects you may have bigger issues than you 💪❤️

[@nffctrickett]

Her eyes are so beautiful oh my god. Not sure its because of the trick but there is something incredibly beautiful about this girl. She is right, she is cute 😍

[@foggyfoxed]

this speaks to me on such a deep level. Wowowowowow

[@user-rv2vj7mn3q]

Tbh she’s the prettiest girl I have ever seen and I didn’t focus on her eyebrows or eyelashes and if ur seeing this ur beautiful no matter what.

[@morganchatham2002]

We are not alone ❤️

[@Meowcake020]

your telling me this is a diagnosis my mum bloody said i needed to go to therapy, thank you for this video

[@Smithl325749]

You are beautiful. I have Trich too. I am now 54 and pull my hair here and there. I definitely have calmed myself down as I’ve gotten older. It sometimes just feels good.

[@lyan240]

i always pull the ones that are really thick and black, idk why but it feels the best whenever i pull it out.

[@lotteboots1092]

Also, personally I find it very unhelpful and even hurtful if other people would correct me when I was, or am, pulling. It comes often from a place of love, I know that. But it gives me even more stress and anxiety which triggers me even more. It can make me feel very humiliated. It’s never other peoples place to correct behaviour like that I think. It doesn’t hurt them. And for me, my parents, family and even doctors always focused on the symptoms, the pulling. But that’s not the problem. The problem is what is causing it, what is giving you distress? Or if it’s just soothing to you? That’s great that you found a way to do that! But that’s my opinion.

[@kirbylilie]

You're right you found something to express this feeling but you should change the way you express it. Every hair has a fonction and you must stop

[@magical571]

@@kirbylilie then accept every women not waxing their legs. I mean it.

[@Ranger881]

I too have Trich with a focus on the eyelashes and eyebrows. I know my grandma does too. It's such a frustrating disorder to live with.

[@castello669]

She IS cute ! I'm glad she knows :)

[@pnwpride8655]

I have struggled with trich all my life

[@nikkibailey5439]

If you’re ever interested in doing an interview with someone who has “dermatillamania” aka skin picking disorder please reach out :)

[@chanelxoxox]

it made me wanna cry when she got emotional about how it was hard making friends growing up cuz that’s exactly what i went thru and i feel like i can never open up to anyone about it :/ i’m glad i came across this video tho cuz it makes me feel less alone

[@masja1790]

She IS cute and sweet! I would love to be her friend! 😊💕

[@user-dp2ok3qq3f]

Yes I have trichitillomania and I can relate to everything she says

[@brentj.peterson6070]

I started with body hair (everywhere).. probably in my early teens I guess. Today I pick mostly eyebrows and unfortunately my beard/goatee. I SO wish I didn't have this urge. It has to be anxiety related or coping mechanism. The only way to stop is for my face to be clean shaven. It's weirdly satisfying to see the whole hair with the root attached. I've had to color in the balding area with a sharpie so that it's hidden. I'm ashamed of it because I'm a successful smart guy at 51 years old. Sorry for being blunt but it's the best way to describe it.

[@person-ce8cr]

im also a guy and doing with my eyelashes. really sucks but at one point i stopped caring what others said

[@brooheel]

I have this too!!! It really only happens when I am stressed and really poring over books. In college I literally had no eyebrows. I would at times have to put scotch tape on there to force myself to not pull them out.

[@sleepykat666]

I also have trich and have since I was about 10. I pulled it to the point of a bald spot on the back of my head. My way that I've stopped is just tugging on my hair when I feel the compulsion instead of pulling it all the way out. Not trying to say it's that easy for everyone. It certainly isn't but that's how I cope. I never told my parents that I did this and they still don't know.

[@TheFrogFather2]

Thanks for shearing u are beatyful

[@blond009]

Thank you for this! I’ve been living with it since I was a child, hair pulling, scalp scratching, skin scratching , you name it lol. It’s not a big struggle for me bcs I can control it most of the time but it does trigger my anxiety. The eway we look influences our self stem & that affects our life a lot.

[@RobespierreThePoof]

This is far more common than often thought. It is only the most severe cases that tend to get labelled trichtotillomania. Many people experience it alongside other anxiety or mood disorders.

[@fairycake3230]

I'm 19 and i have trich since i was a child and i kept on losing my hair and holding my self then losing it again over and over Until now I can't tell my family about my problem and put the blame on my weak scalp. I am happy that this girl and her family are helping her with her condition

[@clove2947]

I have almost plucked my left eyebrows and almost half of the lashes...and in a week i have to attend my college...this thing is the worst

[@mimo_7174]

I know this was a year ago and you probably won't see this but you really are beautiful,I'm not just saying that to say it, I wouldn't even bother posting this if it weren't true. I may be biased because I love dark hair and blue eyes 😁 but you are just naturally beautiful.

[@noodle71110]

lot of bravery to be able to be on camera for this, after i pull and dont have eyelashes or eyebrows i stuggle to even leave the house or be seen by anyone

[@livingwithcocoa]

love this video! i personally have this and i l like when people tell me to stop if they see me doing it. i started around 8. i used to get eyelashes in my eye a lot and i thought that well maybe if i pluck them it’ll prevent them from fallin in my eye. bad idea 👎🏾 for me personally i can deter it a bit more if i wear eyeliner and mascara cause i typically pull my eyelashes and very rarely my eyebrows. it’s interesting to see how different people have varying levels of this disorder.

[@MoMadNU]

I have something similar. I have compulsion to constantly be shaving all my body hair except for my head. It really helps with personal hygiene, so it doesn't bother me or others but it is a form of acting out my anxiety

[@lindada1111]

My open scar has hair growing very poky. What to do? Amazing video, thanks for sharing kind words

[@TimothyDurhamII]

This disorder is no joke, I’ve been dealing with this since the 5th grade. It’s a battle with strong wins and harsh losses. This young lady is strong. Don’t ever doubt this disorder for a second. However hearing the mom describe it as a way to deal with feelings. Not sure that’s a fair assessment. Although stress and hard feelings can trigger it, it’s difficult for me to pinpoint how/ when it starts but ones it does there’s no stopping. But amazing support from the mom. It’s hard to describe how this disorder makes you feel. Applause to this young lady. I wish there was a group chat for us with this disorder I would love to discuss this

[@TimothyDurhamII]

After finishing the video I really want to thank the mom for being willing to learn, willing to hear this girl out. And change. My parents struggled with accepting me in this manner when I was child they would get mad I would get punished which made it worse and I think after about 5-6 years they realized it wasn’t an attention grab and that I really was battling this disorder with no help and a lot of negative pressure from peers and family. Very dark days but as I’ve grown older and more independent although I still lose the battle sometimes with my facial hair it’s nothing like it was when I was younger and thank God for that.. I’m able to find peace even when I make that choice to pull my hair out.. which is not nearly as often as it was.

[@billiemaenorries]

I never comment on any video but I would love to have a group to discuss the struggle.

[@viina33]

Why don't we create a group on telegram? I will be happy