Loneliness Feels Like Punishment for Being Yourself

[@Theoatob]

Beautiful, thank you!

[@jgthree]

I just found your channel from an algorithm suggestion and I greatly appreciate what I've seen you share here. It made me smile when you noted considering the concept of mathematical zero as it relates to death. A spiritual mentor once advised meditation on the nature of both zero and infinity, which led me to similar conclusions via a slightly different path.

[@Sablecat22]

Life certainly is trippy~ Laughing at the absurdity of it all and not overthinking is what works for me. May goodwill and love always surround you~♥~

[@grideffect1193]

I really find what you are saying relatable. Thank you for sharing. I look forward to hearing more.🙂

[@MettaM444]

:-) thank you

[@jasonlockhart5633]

Innerstand 😊 I love being alone always creating❤😇 but we're never alone truly because we're all one

[@MettaM444]

indeed

[@iamFracture]

The title is an entire mood… uh

[@Sydneyfc77]

I’ve been alone for most my life what do you do about feeling like your missing out on life

[@MettaM444]

Sometimes those feelings are a result of a lot of internalized bias because of so much media/advertisements etc aimed to make you believe that. And then you judge what you are doing as inadequate in some way. That is a yucky feeling, I agree. I guess I learned to tune that stuff out and avoid as much as possible when I might be bombarded with it. And then get really mindful about the things I do have access to that bring pleasure, like finding the flow state in good music, making art, running, creating challenges for myself. I can control how I feel, I can't control the time/space and reality I'm living in so I'm really conscious of making use of the things that are fun and possible and allow me to feel good anyway, cause that's the goal, really. I don't want to waste any time chasing things because I don't like the way chasing things feels. Hopefully that helps some. I definitely don't want to minimize how much that feeling of missing out can suck. but it's also layered in a lot of assumptions that might not be true.

[@Sydneyfc77]

@@MettaM444 this a really good response i was looking at instagram a lot and it was making me not only depressed but angry thanks for the advise. Another thing is how would you go about accepting being single for so long and trying to be ok with being alone and doing things alone?

[@MettaM444]

@@Sydneyfc77 I don't know, I wrestle with this, some of the very worst things that happened to me were due to relationships so you have to remember there are pros and cons to being single and focus on the pros while you're single so you don't just jump and run into any old situation. There are lots of people holding huge regrets about all the bad relationships they were in. Don't trade one pain for another. Appreciate that the universe might be looking out for you because there isn't anybody compatible nearby. A really great relationship is like some kind of beautiful piece of art so I remind myself of the special thing that it is so I don't feel obligated or pressured to have a knock off version. I learned that the hard way. If we had parents that didn't know what they were doing, that is usually going to be the case. Doing things alone can be awkward depending on what it is. Some things are just better as group activities you know, so make sure you're picking things that are actually engrossing, engaging and that you can have fun doing alone, that's the first step. The other thing is to practice going to places that it's usual for people to go alone. Like a coffeeshop or the library. Practicing/training your nervous system to be comfortable being alone around other people in a low pressure environment makes it easier to regulate it elsewhere. And with that said, if you really don't want to be alone, then you have to take some steps to change that. Going out and doing stuff alone in the meantime will build your sense of self trust (that you are able to meet your own needs) which will make it easier to attract people in the long run. I don't know if you've ever seen that show Alone - I think it was on the History channel, it was a survival show but they were on their own completely and a surprising amount of people would break just from the isolation. So, remember to have compassion for yourself, develop a sense of will power that you won't let it break you and get curious about ways to feel good anyways. Sorry this was so long, geez. Take care!

[@Sydneyfc77]

⁠@@MettaM444 thanks for your advice I agree with everything you said I think you would be good at therapy or psychology it’s funny because a friend that lives near me is a psychologist and I never actually get good advice from him actually he him self is seeing a psychiatrist so that makes no sense to me ether lol

[@MettaM444]

@@Sydneyfc77 lol thanks :-)