Long Term Girlfriend Won’t Commit To Dates

[@scamlikely1442]

She doesn't love you, she loves the validation and that you're still on her hook.

[@dedissimo]

That’s a great quote. Stop giving her validation and the reassurance that you’re hooked, and she’ll want to take it back.

[@patrickorourke41]

There are a lot of good take always here. The most important lessons are to match and mirror her actions, and if she doesn’t value your time…go spend it with people who love and care about you more. Also, even when you’re spending a lot of time together, it’s still okay to hang with your friends and family. You shouldn’t neglect those relationships either.

[@Frank.Melendrez]

Very well said.

[@anthonyjacksonjr4812]

Integrity is everything. Match and mirror. Got it coach.👌🏾

[@mahdman3]

How dare he keep trying to cut into her time while she's with her other boyfriends! Have some respect dude!!

[@HawaiianKong]

My girlfriend of 15 months was clearly losing interest - but I was starting to realize we weren’t compatible anyway, so I started over-pursuing on purpose, she started backing away, I backed off for a week, and she broke it off. Worked like a charm 🤣 I don't miss her as a person - she wasn't ever affectionate and she was a self-admitted bad communicator. I just miss that 'attachment', as Corey says.

[@wingknot]

Lmao love it

[@ColtonCarter]

Sounds like you have no backbone. Be a man, be direct.

[@HawaiianKong]

@@ColtonCarter It's easy to criticize from the outside...or in hindsight in my case...but when you're experiencing stuff real time, it's a little more difficult when you're not accustomed to this behavior. For example, she said she didn't feel like I was pursuing her enough, and I'd respond with "Well if you're missing me, I'd love to see you. When are you free?" Then she'd give a very weird, business-like answer: "I don't appreciate you not taking this seriously. But we can do Friday after 7pm". That's rough. How do you respond to something like that, on the spot, from a long-term girlfriend? Like I said, she was a bad communicator...but she was also becoming argumentative and easily irritated, no matter what I said or did. So when I was sensing a breakup, instead of having some argument I didn't want to deal with, I just backed off and made her feel like it was her decision, which made it easy on both of us.

[@HawaiianKong]

@NOTHING Frankly, because I was determined to make it work. I got complacent in a past relationship and just let it fall apart. It hurt like hell. I've dated for 6 years since then, and this girl was the best one to come along, so I didn't want to go out without making an effort. This one didn't hurt all that much, but I still had that determination.

[@mahdman3]

Congratulations! 🥳🥳 Time to go "feel" new "attachments"!

[@paulthomas2178]

She's possibly swiping on Tinder or Bumble, when she's too tired to come over!

[@matthewjm9086]

Took him several years just to read the book 7 times, meanwhile I’ve listened to the audio book over 15 times within 3 weeks

[@lukes4037]

Chill man 😂

[@nastynate8641]

Seriously that's cool but it's not a competition. Overall improvement is the main goal

[@Frank.Melendrez]

@@nastynate8641 it’s not a competition however, the idea is to have NO competition. Food for thought.

[@Sei1989]

Watch out we have an "ALphA MaLE" here

[@Frank.Melendrez]

@@DoubtingThomas333 Despite the complexity of humans, this book will set you up to be in the best position possible. And that’s ideal in any/all situations, including interactions with humans, especially difficult ones.

[@philipsmithnyc]

The simple reason is that the woman has another guy that she's interested in. People that are interested in spending time with you do, those that don't won't.

[@Frank.Melendrez]

BINGO! 🛎🛎🛎

[@XoXo475]

That’s not ALWAYS the case. Some women just love the man to constantly do the chasing. Mind games!

[@philipsmithnyc]

Those women are toxic. @@XoXo475

[@kevinkoperniak7062]

Yep, recently happened with me… I got the “I miss you so much texts” when she would flake and cancel. The signs were there and my gut knew it. Then couple weeks later, I got the “I need space “ text 🙄; and then it ended with her saying “don’t want to be in a relationship together.” Well, at least that’s more direst than the “I need space” bs excuse. Join NASA if you want space.

[@martinmayfield1932]

“Women need to wonder about you”

[@manuelz2305]

Great video coach When we value ourselves, we see ourselves as the prize. Your time is valuable, and you should be selective of who you give it to, and those who don’t appreciate it, can keep on walking.

[@Mike-tn2ii]

She's seeing / talking to someone else. Stop chasing her

[@Frank.Melendrez]

“Ding ding ding ding 🛎 🛎 🛎 “ weeeee haaaave a winnnnner!

[@Lucasguertler]

Regardless if she is only seeing you or someone else simultaneously, never chase !👍🏼

[@stephanpayne8162]

Someone else is jumping on top of her..

[@bradwhite1916]

Cut contact, replace her, and never, ever give her the time of day.

[@BeckyJB]

This is happening to me from a woman’s perspective…. Matching and mirroring isn’t that easy!! 😅

[@Frank.Melendrez]

It’s not easy but remember to not devalue yourself in the process. High value women won’t put up with mediocre BS! And neither should you. You are very pretty btw! 😏

[@BeckyJB]

@@Frank.Melendrez thanks for the reply… didn’t get a notification but yes, I appreciate your confidence here. That’s very attractive 😁

[@tonygee6418]

"Congruency is the best policy..." -- me

[@gabrielrod1253]

It's a strength test to see if you're able to walk away. Next time she reaches out , politely break up with her. she'll come back , with full respect , after between 2 weeks and 2 months, pretty much guaranteed. She really cares abut u, but needs to see if you're strong. If you dont have the guts to cut her loose, at least don't reply to her next message, and make her double or, better, triple text you. Reply the next day. Apply dread game , women love it because it sparks their emotions and causes lots of anxiety which is a big turn on. This is advanced game. Love is a game. Play it without being butthurr. Then you reply without asking her out. Women respond to the reverse effect law. Thats why they want men who dont want them. If you apply the reverse effect law, you ll be able to date smoothly.

[@sunshinestate1306]

How could this work in an LTR or marriage?

[@undrtow0515]

7:31 That is fucking that bro. Peace out. Do not put up with that shit, ever!

[@leonak7654]

Oftentimes there is someone else in the picture Trust me, I have learnt the hard way!

[@Drvenjola]

when you have the right women around you, you dont need to read the book 10-15 times ;)

[@PizzaHomeSlice]

Corey’s imitations crack me up.

[@4ws0m0]

I love how on it Corey is about going to the range, Mochabear really has him tuned up haha I'm about to go have my weekly range session myself, don't suck!

[@ceasarsalad119]

I guess you could say "sorry I can't tonight I have to vacuum the floor".

[@timnichols7760]

You must actually have self respect and have an abundance mindset for this stuff to work. It's pretty obvious that too many of these guys have very little self respect and are operating primarily with a scarcity mindset.

[@RebelSyntax]

My long time girlfriend trying to keep me on the hook too. Like clock work, every two weeks she comes up with a reason to reach out. We are both seeing other people rn, been broken up and moved out for 2 months. I keep asking her out when she reaches out. She keeps making excuses. This last time she did take the date. We met up and shared whats been going on. When i told her i was seeing someone, she cried. Oh well. Snooze you lose.

[@RebelSyntax]

@@DoubtingThomas333 heard

[@Sei1989]

so just monkey branchers branching off one another..

[@armandm.2166]

If she doesn't see you in the weekends at night, and the person in that hypo says she called off like 3 times or so? She is probably seeing someone else. Leave that relationship. What is there to talk about? 🤷‍♂️

[@earthpart3]

"i have to really put some effort into my sock drawer so it's ready... FOR THE WEEK!"

[@shadowjfd]

she sounds like a scammer. block her number and never talk to her again

[@basketweaver1144]

To me it sounds like he was overpusuing her and so she is trying to get him to get fed up with her. She's literally begging for him to abandon her so she can be the one chasing again, but he doesn't seem to get it and instead he's doing the opposite. She's giving him one single and obvious option, but he's latched on and won't let go of the image he imagines both of them to be.

[@Crimsonvandal]

Dating single mom is a bad idea outside of fwb

[@nicholasbroadhurst9096]

Wouldn’t it just be easier to break up? Why deal with this nonsense

[@BasementShopGuy]

Sounds like classic cheating (or being emotionally led away).

[@am9138]

completely agree Corey.

[@danemyburgh]

Ambers lawyers sitting there thinking "yea well... Camille isn't wrong..."

[@Rubariton]

Bless the Lord for this video. This is me now, I was an idiot for not payin attention to her IL because of lots of study and work, now Im in this exact situation. It fucking sucks; 3:45 so true

[@heavyassaultmode1503]

If she can't keep one-day commitments what would a long-term relationship be like? Or wait-we know that already, it ends in divorce. Anyone who expects better treatment than this from the average single mother is delusional.

[@alphillips5478]

Well it could be shes telling the truth about work. Its a new job right!? In any case, make it easier and go over there! Then see the reaction you get when u suggest it Guy was TOO LAZY and SELFISH and hes asking you (Corey) whether he should ask questions like the lack of intimacy (@12.35) for a week? He cant do do after a YEAR of dating this woman??

[@romel_storm]

Everytime I tried to set a date with this girl it’s I’m not sure maybe. But yet she was at my house almost everyday. It was almost like she just wanted to initiate it. She frequently came over for the yr we were together, and we’d always do our thing

[@wingknot]

Morning coach!

[@WachoDude]

If that was my girlfriend I would of dumped her lol

[@hamza1517]

9:52 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@hamza1517]

He's a bad student. From 5/12/2020 to 3/01/2021 I've read the book 8 times. I was in a bad place at the time. Our beloved Corey's 3% man book got me out of it like a wisp of hair in the dough.

[@krappid6565]

Do coach only discuss about emails from his coaching clients? If not how to send an email?

[@inspisiavideos8542]

Hi, I’ve been watching the videos and have read the book so far 5 times. I have a question. I go to the gym every day and there is this girl I have wanted to talk to. She’s gorgeous. She’s about my height 5,7, blond, beautiful but she’s always with her earphones on. I know she’s noticed me because I’ve been at this gym for a year and we use close machines since then. I’m an Engineer and I think she works at a hospital because I’ve seen her with a hospital logo on a jacket. I’ve never seen her outside the gym and she’s always with earphones on. Is there any way you can advise me how to approach to her without coming as rude for interrupting her during workouts? Please let me know!

[@inspisiavideos8542]

@@DoubtingThomas333 thanks bro. I’ve tried. But she’s always doing something. She never talks to anyone. For a year I haven’t heard a word coming out from her mouth. She’s always with earphones on listening who knows what. I can tell you she’s always doing exercise and she’s probably in her mid to late 20s. I’m 30. There are other girls I have met there sometimes for myself and other times some guys I made friends there have introduced me to the girls they know. But I have little interest in them. The blond one is the one I’m most interested on but I have no idea why.

[@inspisiavideos8542]

@@DoubtingThomas333 but what do I say? What’s my excuse to talk to her? I work from home 9 to 5pm doing nothing but coding. By the time I get to the gym it’s like 6:30pm or 7pm. I’ve noticed she’s got the same schedule as me because I’ve seen her coming sometimes. What do I say please

[@FokwaDivine]

Don't hesitate anymore and approach her

[@OhQuickly]

@@inspisiavideos8542 maybe ask her what's she's always listening to considering she's so focused on her workouts etc. and afterwards try to get to know her a little & get back to working out. I know it sounds pretty lame but if she has interest she will be open to a conversation if they have 51% interest in you.

[@OhQuickly]

Don't overthink it, this ain't engineering haha

[@nabber8584]

Bring back the quotes.

[@tonygee6418]

most definitely

[@scamlikely1442]

When people show you who they are, believe them the first time, Maya Angelou

[@ceasarsalad119]

What would you do when she keeps texting you saying 'I love you and want to see you'. Do you just ignore her knowing she won't pull it through? He calls it a LTGF. Are they exclusive?

[@ceasarsalad119]

@@Jackietreehorn-z5e I get the impression Corey's teachings say you should just acknowledge her text by saying ' I love you and want to see you too'.... and nothing else. Then don't get in touch to arrange anything. I say get the impression because I haven't read the book.

[@Dablooo356]

Look at her actions. Is she texting want to see you but making no effort to actually see you?

[@ceasarsalad119]

@@jleano609 I agree with that actually. It sounds like she's fishing for validation. She's checking if the guy will want to meet her and when it becomes clear he does she backs away because she's not really interested in meeting BUT she's got her answer from him that makes her feel good about herself.

[@kvdh100]

Is the book available in Dutch? I understand Englisch and I can write some but reading a whole book seems a to big a challenge 😜

[@peregrimus]

So he shouldve see other girls after 2nd time? Or just family and friends

[@vanessap8717]

This is a really bad relationship it sounds like. If you’ve been together this long you two should have open honest and easy communication with each other.. you shouldn’t be questioning weather or not you can broach subjects. Sounds to me like she’s trying to get you to break up with her because she clearly doesn’t have the skill set to be in a relationship. Good luck, but this chick isn’t gf material.

[@nathanjohndeleon8242]

Thanks Corey Wayne :)

[@MadlyBradley]

What do you do when a girl won't stop texting? I have a definite date planned and I keep trying to end convo, but she keeps reaching out. I've tried 4 times over the span of 3 days 😅

[@nathanjohndeleon8242]

Reply to her 3 to 4 messages and then bounce , Rince and repeat.

[@MadlyBradley]

@@nathanjohndeleon8242 Yeah, that's what I've been doing. Trying not to come across as cold. Thanks bro

[@Sei1989]

Just tell her you don't like texts and like to interact in person(don't do it if its not true). Also that could be a red flag for clingy/needy partner so be careful dude

[@Frank.Melendrez]

There HAS to be more to the story than what this guy shared. That is very toxic/manipulative/unstable/ love bombing behavior for a “long-term” gf. Assuming she’s normal, it could be he got complacent and stopped dating/courting her however, her behavior seems too fruit loopy for that. There has to be a new guy in the picture. As 2015(ish) Corey would say in some of his videos, “dude is getting played like a violin… like a cello”!! Haha. This narcissistic fruit loop belongs to the streets! Her bottom line actions tell it all. My two cents.

[@secondsof-ym9di]

Guys, i usually go to the gym around 7pm recently i went on a date with a girl at the gym and after we left she said she is also going to be at the gym at 7pm the next few days like i do..she know i always go around that time so i went to the gym on a different time.. to kinda avoid her because i will be seeing her everyday if i go around 7pm so to keep some mystery im going to the gym at a different time then normally... do you guys think thats good/smart to kinda avoid her to heep some mystery? Or should i just go in the evening she i will probably run into her?

[@markusoechsner9786]

You should do what you do and go about your life. If you change your time, you're not sticking to what you do so go at 7

[@kimberlys4075]

Coming from a woman’s point of view, I’d think you were trying to avoid me which would make me avoid you. If you like her, maybe vary your time a little bit don’t make an effort to avoid her. That will work against you more than for you.

[@boomdoom4058]

Go at the normal time. If she talks to you and imitates contact. Then make a date on the spot. If it doesn’t work out then continue to just work out. You are the prize. It’s her loss if she doesn’t want you. Just work out and continue having fun.

[@secondsof-ym9di]

@@markusoechsner9786 then i will be seeing everyday? No mystery and if i come across her in the gym should i ask wheb she is free for a date?

[@matthewtalks2970]

Changing your schedule because of her means you are operating on her frame, which i encourage you not to do. What i do advise you to do is see this is an opportunity to set up the next date. If she puts her into your orbit she is basically asking you; when are you taking me out again? That's the time to set up the next date for a fun-filled, romantic opportunity to happen. Please correct me if needed @Coach Corey Wayne.

[@Aspartamebraintumor]

sounds like she is just kinda using him because she has a daughter... or wants him to break up with her so she doesn't feel like the bad one.

[@Frank.Melendrez]

This were along my thought process as well. There’s definitely more to the story.