Bad Communication Leads To Unnecessary Breakups

Why bad communication leads to bad relationships and unnecessary breakups.
In this video coaching newsletter I discuss an email from a viewer who says he’s read 3% Man, at least 15 times. He spent the last 3 months hanging out, having fun and hooking up with a female coworker whose parents own the business. At work they ignore each other and pretend like they don’t know one another. She never texts him in-between dates. Recently she told him she doesn’t think she can do this anymore, but appreciated their time together and kissed him on the cheek. He responded like an emotionless zombie and never really tried to understand her or where she was coming from.
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[@Kingslayer-m5j]

The quality of your relationship is in direct proportion to the quality of questions you consistently ask

[@danielgallagher8208]

I think I might have made a similar fuck up to this guy, I’ve been hanging out and hooking up with a girl for almost 2 months now and things have been great, she’s cute and fun to hang out with, when it comes to seeing me there is nothing wishy washy she has made the effort everytime. We jive and things are effortless so far so good Once or twice we’ve been laying in bed she straight up told me something along the lines of “I really like you and I’m not dating anyone else” throughout our time I’ve remained mysterious in relation to dating anyone else. When I asked her what do you mean talk to me what are ya feeling she just repeated that she wasn’t dating anyone else she didn’t explicitly say she wanted me exclusive I’m kinda stuck here I think on one hand more than likely I’ve missed the cue here and should have dug deeper and that’s on me, on the other I’m thinking will she feel like I’m not listening to her proper and get fed up Something in the last minute or so of the video caught my attention the coach advises this guy when next laying in bed together refer back to the earlier conversation with her, should I do the same with my situation? Sorry for the essay guys lol but help a brother out please and thank you

[@DamonWatson]

My ex made this become a reality, told her directly time and time again the importance of it, she didn’t see the world past her own nose, it ended because I felt unheard and couldn’t deal with the childish way of thinking. No man needs unnecessary stress or drama in his life.

[@pereiraplaza222]

She told him "i never hook-up just for fun, cause she was already screwing some other dude, and was justifying her ho' mentality. That's why she asked him if he was hooking up with other women.

[@jcramirez77]

coach thanks for everything you do, your advice saved me from bad behavior and almost screwing things up, and now have a home with her and a son 👍🏻

[@dougedoug2105]

This video is so true. My GF and I just had the most horrible week ever. I kicked her out, spoke to her badly, and even blame shifted for a minute. Over lunch an hour ago I explained to her that it all could’ve been prevented had I simply communicated my expectations earlier. I almost lost someone who would do anything for me and the worst thing of all is I hurt someone else’s feelings all behind my ego. Never Again

[@brianhauser9639]

Remember guys even if you do read this 10-15 times you must reread the material once or twice a year so you don't forget little things that make a huge difference in your relationships. Just like firefighters, emts and many other jobs continuing education is necessary to your success. I did this my first year after reading this 14 times and it took me reading everything again a year and a half later and a few mistakes made to correct myself and snap out of it

[@fishsimplyoutdoors]

100%

[@lankdup]

i kind of went through this but prepared myself, met this girl man oh man she knocked my socks off thats fucking rare man, feelings were so intense for 2-3 months eventually we both said i love yous, i felt her becoming distant, i never chased and let her do her thing, after all i we weren't anything official, just enjoying each others company as it came. eventually after 2 days of no contact, she let me know through "txt" (which told me she does not do well with confrontation and couldn't be adult about things in person) she had alot going on in life things were hectic and needed to distance her self, she tried to friend zone me but i denied and let her know to call me if she changed her mind and i stuck to it. i havent once reached out and dont plan to, if she comes back cool if not then hey it was fun and i wont forget her she truly was a dream girl. stay up kings

[@jordanhenderson3307]

handled that well

[@EyeOfTheCat2002]

Bro, you were saying you loved each other when you weren't even official that's why she became distant. don't tell a girl you love her and not make things official just scare her off.

[@lankdup]

@@EyeOfTheCat2002 we both expressed it as a party. I whole heartedly agree we both should’ve waited to say it. But none the less we move on.

[@tjbohmier46]

Communication is so important for making everything in your life flow smoothly. Dudes, you got to do the work on you to get communication to work for you and not leave you ignorant to your reality. Life is tough enough and the universe will keep reminding you of this until you finally grasp that concept.

[@mint-charizard]

Communication is key to a strong and healthy relationship. I have read 3 % man 13 times but I still have things I need to work on. The biggest thing I struggle with is just listening when my woman wants me to listen. I always find it hard to not give her advice.

[@cthompoucat13]

yes, same here. it’s like your instinct is to give advice, really have to catch your mind before you respond lol

[@mint-charizard]

Good to know I'm not the only one who struggles with this lol

[@eloquentsarcasm]

The trick I've been using to turn off "The Mechanic" mindset (fix the problem!) is to let her vent while giving her a massage. She gets to relax, and I get to focus on something so she can just unload. Once the emotional element is drained, THEN we can talk about things and I'll offer my advice if she wants it. Men just want to fix things when their woman is stressing out, it's just a part of who we are.

[@patrickorourke41]

Next time you should ask her “Babe, before you go on, do you want me to listen only, or do you want me to chime in?”

[@mint-charizard]

Thanks for all the input! It's really cool to see everyone elses point of view.

[@paintopurpose]

So true. Asking questions calmly and shutting up is a good way to vet and to assess the situation

[@helpingmen2111]

Lot of these guys have no Game. Zero. Corey thanks for helping people... I have Done these things my whole life. Never had problems with girls but as time goes on one gets weak. Corey your information Encourages me and reminds me. Thank you!

[@kevinchavez5427]

I say what do you mean to a girl when I don't understand her point of view. It absolutely works to get her to explain more in detail which creates the girl to feel heard and understood. Thank you Coach for the help. You are an awesome coach!

[@avenue.central]

Yeah it's cool to watch a Corey Wayne video but it's more cool to watch a Corey Wayne video on your birthday 😎 Don't worry fellow 3% it's just to enjoy the content! No drama allowed over here.

[@CoachCoreyWayne]

Happy birthday dude

[@peteromeizaadabara9727]

Happy birthday

[@mikeywilliams5322]

Happy bday

[@avenue.central]

@@CoachCoreyWayne Thank you!

[@TheColtonStreeter]

Thats what happened with me "thats why I left that place, because I dont want to do that stuff with just friends."

[@rickydona]

Late April, I hooked up with a female coworker twice my age. I’m 27, she’s 50. The night after we hooked up, she texted me saying she had an amazing night and couldn’t wait to do it again. When we were at work the following Monday she didn’t look me in the eye or speak to me for a week or two. Sometimes I would have no choice to speak to her because we worked together. We agreed on a date a week later and she canceled a half our before. A week later we had agreed another date and she canceled yet again saying she was too tired. That was on July 7 and I have not spoke to her since. I hope she’s doing well and good riddance. There’s a reason she’s 50 with four kids and single.

[@emptysoul2757]

@@VoiceOfThe this fruit was beneath a layer of soil

[@Snipeosaur]

Sounds like she was giving the where do we stand talk. Completely went over this guys head but at least he can learn and move forward !

[@dahnger]

Going through a similar situation, thank you Coach

[@stevensaleh6955]

There are some vids like this one when the humor level is 🔥

[@danemyburgh]

Just ordered your 3% man book Corey. Love the content!

[@robertferreiro3466]

Well said...say it louder...

[@hardmasternl]

Always good timing the videos of the coach

[@BillyT531]

Man, banging the bosses' daughter is the definition of "risky business". Hope he starts looking for another job as backup.

[@johnbingaman3645]

You know the old sayings never put your pen in the company inkwell, never poop where you eat bad news didn't once never ever again there's a big world outside the company three and a half billion women

[@timeoutvisuals6137]

I seen that video the other day what Corey I referring to it was crazy to see him question her live to get her to really say what she meant

[@danilosantabarbara2760]

Me and my gf both know that communication is key in our relationship. I have a doubt though. she wants me to tell her what i feel, how i feel, etc... my question is how much should I tell her ( if at all i have to). Masculinity is not about sharing your feelings with her, especially the bad ones. But at the same time she could think I don't want to open up to her. Where do you draw the line? Is feeling sharing one way only? As the coach says, if it does not raise her level of attraction, you should not tell her.(?)

[@fema231199]

nice question, i wonder the same thing too. for example, in a relationship, can you show her a weekness you are having, maybe because of something that happened at work?

[@danilosantabarbara2760]

@@fema231199 i know the coach says that she is not your mama or therapist. So you should not unload stuff on her. Of course once in a while is fine, but it must not be the rule. You have male friends for that. My question was more related on feelings, like being down. Being upset about things. Being disappointed by something she did. Telling her what s going on inside me.

[@eloquentsarcasm]

The best way I've found is to simply state your position, open up a discussion about your respective views, and try to find a compromise. Last night my girl and I had a discussion where my view differed from hers, so we talked it out. She explained her reasoning, and I did the same, and we both got clarification and ended up coming to an agreement. If we hadn't, it could have caused a rift all because we didn't simply TALK, and see the other's side of things. Stating your feelings isn't weak, it shows backbone and that you're not just following her lead. Weakness would be acting emotional about the issue, and not looking at the problem reasonably.

[@skiithaw9951]

Corey very recently uploaded a video that covers this exact topic. kzbin.info/www/bejne/kGWlk2qOZseKgqc Definitely give it a watch

[@anthonyjacksonjr4812]

Ask her questions when you're not sure of the answers. Make sure you know what she means. Got it coach. 👌🏾

[@trovononthedragon]

I didn't communicate well with my girlfriend. I asked like a female and came across as a nag. Now she isn't talking to me ...... so Its a much needed video

[@realstateguzmandr248]

(MY EX & i GOT BACK TOGTHER) i VE SEEN THAAT VIDEO SO MANY TIMES...GOOD TO SEE THE MASTER IN ACTION.. i THINK YOU SHOULD MAKE MORE VIDEOS..LIKE THAT

[@wayweh]

Coach you should be an actor lol, love your responses especially doing the robot. Great video.

[@bradb1633]

The girl I'm going out with right now refuses to text me in between dates, and has mentioned several times that she "doesn't text first", but every time I see her now she's upset that I only text her once a week to ask her out. We've been on 8 dates (1 a week for 2 months). Am I being too cold or is she following a set of rules?

[@eddiemartinez1337]

She sounds like a lot of headache. Tease her about this “rule of hers” and see if that helps.

[@stevensaleh6955]

She seems structured.

[@eddiemartinez1337]

Whatever you do…just have fun. Don’t get hung up on if she texts or not….since you are exclusive she is giving you lots of time to focus energy on yourself and other chicks.

[@lankdup]

i wouldnt text her at all, if she gives you a hard time about it, just tell her "id rather talk in person" and i agree with the top post, since you arent exclusive all you can do is have fun and observe, cant get caught up unless she is on the same page as you end of story

[@EyeOfTheCat2002]

She sounds like a child really immature. It's not the 1950s she can text you and if she was really that interested she probably would.

[@setas7818]

I texted a girl: hi. I would like to have dinner with you. When will you be free? She: Hi. Why do you want to have dinner with me? Me: Because I think you are hot. She: facepalm emoji.

[@stonestephh]

These females are very weird smfh sorry to hear you went thru that bro

[@simosavustaja9420]

"because i hate you and wanna get you fat"

[@aldersonsanku34]

What do you mean! or What are you talking about! or Why would you say that!

[@AlexKunstar]

Tell her you've been trying to reach her about her cars extended warranty 😆😆

[@gifted1ne642]

Dont start off with a Hi, its either Hey or the girls name. Preferably girls name because you’re addressing her.

[@divjebhandari3564]

Have men fallen so low that they analyze every word a woman says now? Move on and get over it. If she was into you, she wouldnt make things that hard where your each action would determine if she likes you or not.

[@skiithaw9951]

Agreed. If you have to ask whether she's into you or not, she's probably not that into you. Find you a girl that makes it obvious.

[@divjebhandari3564]

@@skiithaw9951 it get ridiculous. Am not even talking red pill this that, but cmon, analyzing what you should reply and all, jeez. Like does anyone stay together anymore lol.

[@shonaosmond4886]

I wish my husband would listen to this. He doesn’t communicate at all unless he’s yelling. And forget about him listening to anything I say, he just doesn’t care

[@gracelikerain5848]

Ur too hot for that divorce

[@Lawrie1996]

I've been on 7 dates with a girl who asked me to be exclusive. She has now gone back to south africa for a month and communication has slowed down massively. I feel like I have the shit end of the deal in terms of relationship type rules but none of the benifits or say from being in one. Does anyone have any advice?

[@thewaxandgreaseremover6182]

Focus on yourself and let her do the chasing. Go back to the basics. You are getting too hung up on her.

[@ChooseFreshAtSubway]

Is there a reason why I get ghosted instead of friendzoned when I get rejected by a girl I’m dating? I always see guys complain about the friend zone and it’s something I never experienced. Am I just going after low quality girls or what

[@TheActionTourist]

@@timgibney5590 What if she wasnt tho 🥸

[@skiithaw9951]

The best way to prevent being ghosted is to reframe it. At the end of the date, tell her to message you. So if she never messages you, you know it wasn't a match and you don't have to face the rejection of never getting a reply. It also gets her in the habit of messaging you first, so you can get her pursuing you 100%.

[@ChooseFreshAtSubway]

@@skiithaw9951 i agree 100% and that’s what I meant by being “ghosted” in my situations

[@lankdup]

what you should learn from this is when people "ghost" its a trauma response, they cant and wont have the balls to communicate with you, so instead their best option is to ghost, value your self higher, it stings and it hurts when it happens especially if feelings began. but with time and repetition, it gets better.

[@skiithaw9951]

@@ChooseFreshAtSubway Then that's not being ghosted, that simply means you were not compatible and you should be grateful she didn't waste a second more of your time. If this is happening a lot and you feel too much of your time is wasted, you can always end your dates earlier. Not only will this raise her attraction for you because she wanted to spend more time with you, scarcity being value etc etc, you'll have wasted less time if she doesn't continue to pursue.

[@jcramirez77]

the girl is strange but ive heard that one before, i believe she wanted him to express more and like make it a relationship, women can have sex for months but usually will want to settle and or move on

[@SP-dx7em]

She's not talking to him at work because she wants to keep things between them and on the low. This is not hard to figure out. All men should know this automatically. Keep shit quiet smh.

[@easymoney9462]

just happened to me . I think she was leaving anyway but she avoided facetime to speak about things and her messages following up were so damn vague

[@lankdup]

yea bro it sucks to cause you can feel the energy shift so fast, its crazy, especially when the calling stops

[@danielgallagher8208]

I think I might have made a similar fuck up to this guy, I’ve been hanging out and hooking up with a girl for almost 2 months now and things have been great, she’s cute and fun to hang out with, when it comes to seeing me there is nothing wishy washy she has made the effort everytime. We jive and things are effortless so far so good Once or twice we’ve been laying in bed she straight up told me something along the lines of “I really like you and I’m not dating anyone else” throughout our time I’ve remained mysterious in relation to dating anyone else. When I asked her what do you mean talk to me what are ya feeling she just repeated that she wasn’t dating anyone else she didn’t explicitly say she wanted me exclusive I’m kinda stuck here I think on one hand more than likely I’ve missed the cue here and should have dug deeper and that’s on me, on the other I’m thinking will she feel like I’m not listening to her proper and get fed up Something in the last minute or so of the video caught my attention the coach advises this guy when next laying in bed together refer back to the earlier conversation with her, should I do the same with my situation? Sorry for the essay guys lol but help a brother out please and thank you

[@buzzcountry1178]

He missed all the signs.....She wanted to go to the next level but he missed it. Read the book!!!!!!

[@EyeOfTheCat2002]

Literally missed a golden opportunity man.

[@victorkiller7]

The video is on KZbin!

[@binyaminddunn3836]

Thanks!

[@phillipanthony2402]

Huge face-palm 😂

[@sickranchez4742]

Most guys: Understand women? DOES NOT COMPUTE BEEP BOOP!

[@Nick-ue9of]

If she is creating stories in her mind, ruminating on things that don’t exist, then blatantly comes at me with her own theories on something that isn’t her business, trying to find something wrong and calls you a liar…..do you really say tell me what you’re feeling when she comes at you blaming and guns blazing?

[@hasheralawi1977]

Coach what you think about Andrew Tate?

[@jameshardy7219]

Thanks

[@christiancarrasco1799]

Your 2 funny coach robot 🤖

[@kvs7876]

You Messed up, watch some James Bond movies, learn and move on.

[@daver1161]

When a woman feels heard and understood, the legs naturally open.

[@patrickfries6267]

Corey, where is your wife?

[@stonestephh]

These new females are weird af

[@jcramirez77]

yeah ‘modern’ women dont want to be courted like before, its like they only respond to, come over my house/room or ill pick you up and well chill in the car lol

[@MixyTheGreat86]

No, some of y'all are thirsty as Polly suckin on a salt cracker.

[@brandonsaunders7515]

Exactly bro

[@j-brezzy8898]

Too many variables

[@jeffstone4624]

The phrase "get laid by" sounds a bit junior high-ish. This guy's probably very young.

[@danieltrottier8599]

C

[@ibrahimmatovu7721]

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[@arrow4773]

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[@JVice12]

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