Looking For The Father I've Never Known | Mim Shaikh: Finding Dad

Mim Shaikh - radio broadcaster, actor and spoken word artist - hasn’t seen his dad since he was a baby. In this deeply personal film Mim embarks on an unforgettable global journey to finally get the answers he’s been wanting for 26 years.
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[@arabziana94]

“How do you know that?” *points to his nose* “because we are Asian and nosey” LEGEND 😂😂😂 Good for you mate, went and found your father and made that effort despite knowing what you did about him and still giving him a chance in order to formulate your own ideas and judgement. Truly brought a tear to my eye.

[@amanda.___.m]

😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@tomusalam5453]

The fact that he went all the way to Pakistan to meet his dad and his dad still refused at first is just heart breaking. Mim is such a nice boy. Lots and lots of duas for him. May Allah shower down his blessings on you

[@sk-ec4co]

ameen

[@NisCho754]

The ending was absolutely mesmerising. SubhanAllah look how the father realises that his son is a good Muslim and he says to the son to pray for him when he is gone, he knows that when a person isn’t alive anymore only three things will benefit him and one of the the things is a righteous child.

[@shahclan909]

What a good son is either way atleast he’s tried and fulfilled his commitments. at least on the day of judgment he won’t regret it

[@iramrahman9534]

I watched this and this guy was amazing. ..his grandma brought him up well mashallah....

[@user-rr4cx6ik5o]

✝

[@iramrahman9534]

@Hafid Moalim we have subscribed to a lot of the same channels I 👀 lol

[@thehublife7958]

@@user-rr4cx6ik5o SHUSH

[@thehublife7958]

@@iramrahman9534 subscribe to mine dude

[@imranakhtar2414]

Masha'Allah good son. Very heart touching.

[@shellylarue9661]

D YOU shut up!!! Da heck is WRONG with you?!?!?!?!

[@DiamondPrincess7891]

@D idiot comment.

[@DiamondPrincess7891]

@D looser.

[@prinssesforever6472]

I dont have a dad anymore,so beautifull to watch Son and father reuniting 😪

[@daltonbennain6757]

I'm glad he found him. 🙂

[@Tharun786]

Poor lad you can see the inner conflict in him when he meets his dad. Fair play to him he did what he had to do.

[@chaproo12345]

Im not going to lie that was pretty emotional

[@XXFAN123]

“Because we asian people were bit noisey”

[@greuss2105]

i died at that

[@ibrarali9369]

This is the best TV I've seen I think, my whole family has seen this too. Mim is an absolute legend in every way. The most important thing is he met and seen his dad. A lot of people can relate to Mims life on many levels. Amazing documentary. Very humble, forgiving and talented guy mashaallah.

[@gazkarim6287]

I knw this man he used to live in Oldhill and was known as Neko. He used to come to our fast food shop in Cradley Heath High St, also met him on many occassions in Dudley, i havent seen him for very long and i had thought he had passed away until I saw this documentary on BBC i player in full.

[@MangoLussi]

What does neko mean

[@theyoungottoman2678]

smedrock cider are you going to write a book about it?

[@ScholarTVJalaluddinQasmi]

@@MangoLussi i guess it means "pious"

[@Aviationdot]

He's what you call cold blooded... Stone heart. . Better off making a life for yourself. .And learning from his mistakes..

[@justsendmelocation5068]

The actions of our fathers makes us better men and greater fathers. I would sacrifice all I have for my children. As a working father there is nothing more I look forward is to see my daughters when I come home. Our characters the we behave ,how we conduct ourselves in on a day to day basis.,our children see and act upon this. Mims you have good character and have Sabar. May Allah (swt) reward you for this. True and why is his father handing the responsibly to Mims for his step brothers? Im not being funny there is no sincerity in the eyes of his father.

[@FF-by6ci]

@Simon Matthews-There is a difference between not showing emotions and never looking for your son,this guy never bothered to contact him and refused to see him even after the son contacted him,he is heartless and cold blooded.

[@Grumbo991]

Brother God bless you. You've given men in this generation hope to go out and search for their father if they are in your shoes or similar. Thankyou for setting a great example. May God grant you lots of happiness in the Dunya and Akhirah. Ameen

[@indiabliss]

Watched this last night and it just made me cry so much. Mom, you truly are a beautiful being

[@Sadidesifamily]

Glad you found you father. Got some answers. And got some clarity. May it help you learn and move on ameen.

[@user-hr6sb5qv9r]

Isnt this the same guy from the shia vs sunni video??

[@rubiabegum8707]

Yeah it is him 🤗

[@SubZRO87]

Where r u from ?

[@carollothian4583]

Really good looking bloke..he seems super down to earth too. It defo is shit growing up without a dad

[@freddiemeyer4563]

mim is handsome ...i watched the documentry recognised him from informer, was a bit sad for him glad he got to meet his dad x

[@mohammedrahman4309]

You disregarded him all your life. U understood how u were in pain. But it feels good knowing you swallowed your pain to find out the truth. Hope u both can build the bond that was never formed over the years

[@fizzy2active857]

His dads acc a good person he lives near me I gave him Salam at my cousins wedding last month in pakistan

[@AP-tz3tp]

I love how he hugged his dad ❤️ beautiful man our Mim xxx

[@zeek486]

May Allah bless your father who must be the happiest man on earth after seeing his son for the first time in his life.

[@irwincrook567]

"Because we are Asian people we are nosy" 😂😂😂😂

[@ladysuzzanasmind1733]

Such a decisive son...that determination inspires me

[@kainat.]

I can relate. I went through something similar with my dad. I tried my hardest to bring him in my life. Took me forever literally ( 10years)

[@slick95112]

His dad looks old enough to be his great grand dad.

[@frimpong9101]

He really looks like his dad

[@MegaMoney786]

Mashallah good son, no matter what yiur dad has done. You only have one dad and mum. He is the heir to that land in pakistan

[@antwto8784]

I hope he asked his dad and his dads new family many questions and studied him as a person. Because I don't think its just old age, it could be that the dad had some mental health problems. He seems a little.... different. Even if you look at the younger him (0:42) the fact that he can't look into the camera says a thousand words. And it wasn't uncommon in the olden days (and even now really) for families in Pakistan to marry their problematic sons off to women abroad if they were lucky enough to get the chance. The Asian mentality is such that they believe marriage is the cure to everything. If he or she is reckless or unstable or problematic - get them married off. Nothing like having a spouse and kids and responsibilities to change you as a person. But the problem is of course that that is false and if someone is not mentally prepared for marriage naturally they will walk away. It is very sad for his son, the resentment he must have had like all kids with an absent parent, wondering why they left and didn't come back. But maybe it will give him some closure if he knows that it wasn't just a lack of caring that made his dad leave but other factors too.

[@lilykhandker4126]

Agree but it could also be that his mother also had mental health issues before she got married

[@5thdimensionliving727]

Hi Mim. I just wanted to say how proud I am of you for undertaking such an emotional journey to find your father and for making such an insightful documentary. You are an inspiration and so mature beyond your years. God bless you and your family. Wishing you bliss, joy and happiness for the future. You deserve the best that life can offer. Everything that happens to us is for a reason. Also, give up the hope that the past would have been anything different from what it actually was. Everything that has happened in the past, to the present and future is all happening in divine order. Hardship teaches us lessons. Keep up the excellent work that you are doing Mim. Well done my friend. Due respects, Sonny Singh

[@muhammadmahad9293]

Good son

[@user-rr4cx6ik5o]

@D his dad left him with his grandad and moved to Pakistan *great dad*

[@goodnight1530]

Wowwwww What a beautiful story. Congratulations to you bro you found your father 💚💚💚

[@IrfanAli-gm1ci]

Respect bro, you need to remember back in those days it was very hard you have to look after your family here and your family back home, I understand your prospective of it, my parents are the same still even in 21st century, welcome to the Choudrey clan

[@justsendmelocation5068]

The actions of our fathers makes us better men and greater fathers. I would sacrifice all I have for my children. As a working father there is nothing more I look forward is to see my daughters when I come home. Our characters, the we behave ,how we conduct ourselves in on a day to day basis,our children see and act upon this. Mims you have good character and Sabar. May Allah (swt) reward you for this and when you are a father you fulfil your duties and role as a dad. Wasalam.

[@user-ik3mg9ud4r]

Well said bro 👏

[@tasleemakhtar8937]

Salute to the Gran and Mim is just AMAZING person. Allah has blessed him with good heart. Allah bless you brother

[@erigavonews6689]

Next episode theresa May trying to find Boris Johnson

[@zeexzee1163]

My eyes filled up with tears at the end

[@Theinsomniac826]

To the son: you are such a good person. Best of luck to you.

[@black76561]

Good son good heart, forgiving.. im not sure i could of done it tbf

[@MangoLussi]

4:40 u can tell his dad is hurting when he said that

[@Traveling.contess]

smedrock cider yes because he did not raise him much yet with Good heart he wishes his son to forgive him for his short comings and pray for him after he leaves this world so by Allah SWT will Allah forgive his short comings. One of the deeds that continues after death is a good child that will pray for you and it’s among the best.

[@Traveling.contess]

May Allah forgive all our parents and grant them the highest of paradise amen

[@nehaali8632]

MashAllah, it was a brave move to meet your father. Even though some negative feelings had come your way at various points, he is still your father and your mother raised you well to not despise him. May both your parents health be at its best and you feel more secure with your identity. Well done and keep doing right as we are the future and we must make things work with our moral & religion to guide us. Very emotional video to watch.

[@toseefahmed9908]

Mashallah big up to u my brother for making the effort may Allah swt bless you and reward u bro I no how u feel ive also been through it but still haven't seen my dad yet and am 33years old now x

[@prod.calvin7066]

In schā' Allāh he found his dad such a good son.

[@JohnSmith-ec9qr]

This will make mims a great dad...insh Allah

[@Faisal_Gaming47]

Oh my god this old man lives near my house in Pakistan I'm from the same village as this guy.

[@HassanKhan-cx8er]

Which village is it is it siakh

[@Faisal_Gaming47]

@@HassanKhan-cx8er no it's called Thara

[@shaidh1844]

can you get in touch with old man ask him for me where he gets his viagra from

[@mahrufurrahman9759]

@@shaidh1844 lol hahahahahaha

[@bennyaruba3449]

Best of luck

[@nik-keeayoub5258]

Awe that brought a tear to my eye .bless them both . 🤲🏼

[@fshxhhh955]

watching this again makes me tear up

[@IbrahimKhan-bh7dr]

At least he found him and got answers

[@reality8315]

A lot of respect to the guy takes a big man to do that he earned my respect ✊ 👏👏👏

[@12gbdoooi9]

Such beautiful intentions and humble kindness on the sons behalf. MashaAllah, May Allah bless, guide and reunite you both in goodness in this world and the next. Aameen.

[@punjabimundaUK]

Mim....I've been through the exact same situation. Meet him and move on. It only hurts after. He will not accept you. If he wanted to see you he would have made contact years ago. When I saw my father for the first time it was very similar. He gave me hugs etc food and so called hospitality. All FAKE. Don't expect anything of him. You seem to have been brought up as a very decent young man. Your mum is your father and mother, not this man. I lost my dear mother earlier this year and on that day I lost both parents in one. I saw my father at the age of 30 now 50 and met his other woman and his kids. They were all smiley smiley. But when the novelty of this new boy wears off the true colours come out and it's not nice. No matter how hard you try with him and his other family they will never accept you. YOU take care of YOU and YOUR family. Leave him to his. He is nothing to you. DONT Hurt you mum. Your mum and her family are your TRUE KIN. All the best.

[@antwto8784]

aww I'm sorry man, that really sucks.

[@sayedahmed-yc9it]

Mashallah wish u the best brother u must have a big heart may Allah reward u bro

[@hartzldn]

Flashbacks to when my grandad used to raise my hand up as tall as he could and make Dua for me...

[@MMG_MoonManGuitar]

I wept uncontrollably to this.

[@Danial0152]

Glad you found him, great documentary

[@sakibjaved2243]

Big up mimz our Mp brother lol

[@InfiniteCuriosity1210]

@2:41 Mashalla, pakistan is so beautiful, would love to travel there some day

[@mandemlove]

What a good lad touched my soul ❤️❤️

[@1107861214ali]

Deeply touching!

[@AHK786PK]

I thought he was Bangladeshi

[@kaystar1844]

Why?

[@marinakazemi4212]

Kay Star Kay Star I also thought he was from Bangladesh 😬

[@rayaanak2246]

So did I

[@fatima-ot8tc]

Well your wrong

[@kingh2310]

Kay Star Because of his facial features or he kinda does look like he from karachi and not a mountainous area

[@iqraiqra9172]

Allhamdolillah at least your dad see you. My evil ex hasn't once made the effort or attempt to allow me and my son to bond he's now 5 and I haven't seen him since he was 10 weeks old. Those who sever family ties in Islam will never enter into the Jan nah. If I'm alive to see him I'll be open arms for him inshallah. Inshallah he comes to look for me like you did him.

[@silencassin6502]

numero umero Obviously I don't know your background, perhaps you were very abusive etc. But whatever the case, may Allah ease your pain and reunite you with your son in good faith.

[@ashsqx3246]

numero umero youve been subjected to AVOIDANT ABUSE. Avoidant abusers abandon and discard permanently. please read about it search on google for books and websites on this subject. l know how brutal and devastating this form of abuse can be. finding the right information saved my life. it took me 17 years to find real answers and understand what happened and finally heal. please read about AVOIDANT ABUSE

[@mokhot]

respect to you to at least try and get answers and not hear one side of the story. Sometimes women use the child as collateral against the dad. It’s wrong thing to do as kids need their dad. They have no qualms about accepting payments from csa though. They may have raised him but they stopped him from seeing his dad which has now affected him mentally.

[@ibrarali9369]

Hope so mate

[@crashmainiandevil4094]

Respect to this guy

[@jetaddicted]

Took me 20+ years to find my bio dad. Turns out he’s not half the man my adoptive father is… Sometimes, it’s best not to know, even though the need to know is irrepressible, so, for those who read me and are searching for their bio parents, be aware that it is not always a good thing to meet them.

[@hashimhussain1582]

Congratulations bro so happy you found your father you are so brave and anyone would be lucky to have a son like you Mashallah❤

[@lemony-snickett]

Mashallah. Well done for being a good son

[@beckymesterhazi4624]

I want my son to know who his father is, Hopefully we can find him through one of them dna tests like 23&me . We had a one night stand and I don’t know his name. It’s so sad, I was only 15 when pregnant too. I’d love to give my son a name. I’m so happy my son has had so many male and female role models around him. He’s nearly 18 now and he is amazing man. Xx

[@Ali01007]

God bless. Such a kind hearted young man.

[@MrBrownnn696]

I hope everything works out.. this touched my heart.... my dad dead before we fixed our relationship....

[@freenakhtar1680]

its nice u met ur dad.

[@reple489]

Because we're Asian people; we're a bit nosey. *I'm Pakistani and I gotta admit,that's so true.🤣*

[@easymedia7988]

i'm in the same situation but no luck finding him yet, my mother wont tell me anything.

[@ibrarali9369]

Amazing documentary.

[@yolomiriz]

This guy is so handsome

[@sammas7422]

May Allah bless brother

[@clair233]

Lots of love to Mim

[@abunaserchy5321]

love you brother

[@emmak1016]

This is sooo sweet ♥️

[@kamrankhan-ds3nd]

Very touching

[@justpink4094]

God bless you brother 🌹🌹

[@tansubzsti786]

thara gone famous

[@harithrashid5314]

I feel happy for you

[@zvaarshahid7364]

I went to sixth form with is guy lol Respect brother for what you did.

[@sinisterravi182]

Great job BBC good vid

[@auekha752]

I know how exactly how you feel your so strong !

[@proudmuslim1535]

So happy for you 😢.

[@umeaimenhashmi1274]

When I saw thumbnail even I realized this video would have link to Pakistan and it did....

[@162S1]

No sh* it ain't hard to assume that

[@bigbankz2677]

is this don in the informer on bbc

[@valoriegonzales3167]

Omg i cried

[@Aishaparveen277]

How can I watch this full episode

[@Mr_Wanderlust1]

Great news

[@habibrahman3353]

Wer can I find full documentary

[@lilykhan5588]

mashallah

[@nouhattoumi4985]

brother mim shaikh nobody choose their father not you not me not others either it is what it is and nobody can change that life is like that but alway keep strong with ones close to you family mother and don't forget him to be in contact with even though he not been the father you want but thanks to allah you are now a man healthy strong . don't take it personal because thing happen in life and move on i really respect you bro so courage .

[@bexii786]

Because we are Asian people we are nosey🤣 so true. mate the amount of times I managed to track a person down where police haven't just because im asian and asians know everyone, is 🤯

[@panjabi01]

I have no trace of my dad he left me when I was 5 all I have is a name and a photo, his family has no communication with him and I have no closure about his status.

[@shaidh1844]

an update wud be great

[@ramzanirfan7023]

When man said Pakistan. I was like HOLD UP G. I’m in Pakistan at the moment (or at the recording of the ting I was now I’m in Denmark) so I could’ve met him and his dad. My bruva.