STRANGE THINGS NARCISSISTS DO

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Looking Behind the Mirror

Looking Behind the Mirror

Күн бұрын

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@maryuspandyra7359
@maryuspandyra7359 Жыл бұрын
Every time I tell a narc that I'm not the one, they scatter like roaches. So predictable and they're so scared of truth tellers
@drlarrymitchell
@drlarrymitchell 2 жыл бұрын
Them getting pissy about things that are absolutely none of their business is the Reddest flag you can get.
@aarongerig9223
@aarongerig9223 Жыл бұрын
Oh yea! Thank you for bringing that up! I stayed with my vessel (mom) for a few weeks before my next apt was ready for college. My vessel tried starting a fight the day I was leaving and revealed she was snooping through my belongings. She tried to tell me that I shouldn’t be taking the meds my DOCTOR prescribed! Because she was a CNA! And she had “given that medication to ppl”. So she felt she was more educated than a 30 year practicing licensed Doctor!
@TracyJohnson-eh3ju
@TracyJohnson-eh3ju Жыл бұрын
So true!!!!! But don't u dare ask them about their business.
@UnacceptableTee
@UnacceptableTee 9 ай бұрын
@@TracyJohnson-eh3juoh you are soooo right!!!
@UnacceptableTee
@UnacceptableTee 9 ай бұрын
Yep. Today we are arguing about frozen pizzas. 🍕 tomorrow who knows so many things to choose from. 🤯
@BigRebel0802
@BigRebel0802 Жыл бұрын
“I didn’t say that!””” The Narcissist Famous Line 🤪
@BigRebel0802
@BigRebel0802 Жыл бұрын
I’ve seen them tell an obviously blatant lie while staring at me as if to say, Why are you angry at my lie?
@BigRebel0802
@BigRebel0802 Жыл бұрын
HOW DO THEY DO THAT??
@hayswhite
@hayswhite Жыл бұрын
Their reality is written in disappearing ink. Awesome quote!❤
@AnnaMishel
@AnnaMishel Жыл бұрын
The truth, to narcissists is boring. Lies are exciting, because they can change them constantly, and it gives them control.
@LookingBehindtheMirror
@LookingBehindtheMirror Жыл бұрын
That’s an interesting thought. I think the truth can be threatening to them, but that’s a good point that sometimes maybe the truth just isn’t exciting enough for them.
@nopereradicator
@nopereradicator 7 ай бұрын
The truth is also fixed. You can’t victimize your way out f the truth.
@antheredhen
@antheredhen 5 ай бұрын
EXACTLY... MY HUSBAND ACTUALLY SAID the lie is more interesting when I confronted him on an unnecessary lie..
@PurpleFlower1977
@PurpleFlower1977 Ай бұрын
'Stop trying to control me!' I heard that all the time. Wanting the benefits of a relationship whilst staying single in their soul. Never letting go of old ex's, hanging out with young men... absolutely zero respect for a spouse. Hypocrisy because if you hang out with a woman then all hell breaks loose
@sylvanascott1166
@sylvanascott1166 Жыл бұрын
They get bored easily, that’s why they cheat
@newandoldtech5634
@newandoldtech5634 2 жыл бұрын
3:05 Hellooooooo, you cant ask a narc a question. That is holding them accountable, and imply that they are not perfect, duh....
@charlescarpenter9000
@charlescarpenter9000 Жыл бұрын
A narcissist will often reconstruct history in such a way that their interpretation is the only one they can accept because it favors their devaluation of you. But their interpretation has a lot to do with imagined intentions (motives) imputed to you.
@dragonclaws9367
@dragonclaws9367 Жыл бұрын
He gives his opinions on everything when nobody really asked.
@wg8517
@wg8517 Жыл бұрын
My mother was like that
@karenlouise2156
@karenlouise2156 Жыл бұрын
They can pick a fight out of nothing. It's actually amazing to experience. If you see those signs with just one person and it's not happening with anyone else just walk away. Just go. Don't deal with them. They are horrendous people. My family is a nest of narcissists they are sickening..
@BigRebel0802
@BigRebel0802 Жыл бұрын
My ex has created a Cult of Lies, and truth isn’t to be found within it. Read the book Truth Heals, by Deborah King. There’s never peace in lies, and living with or having to deal with lies in such a web of deceit drives all involved CRAZY!
@susanparker9877
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
Yup, "I changed my mind", "I don't feel like it", "That was the past"...."You're trying to control me..." , they're bored and want to crank you up for a fight.... It's endless.
@susanparker9877
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
#1 I had some work done on my home and my manfriend (ex/narcissist) came over to visit. The workman was finishing up tiling in the bathroom and my ex was engaging him in discussion about some project for MY home. I was taken aback and asked what this was about. The workman focused on my ex as if it was HIS home. I had to say that "No thank you, I don't want this job done." (Not the first time that people have assumed that the man is the owner, and the woman his accessory!) I had made all the arrangements for the work and was the only person involved. My ex just walsed in and took over and was wasting a busy man's time. He didn't even live with me yet ! #2 He tried to drunkenly intervene with a nasty neighbour's one day. I had two difficult people to deal with that day. #3 I have a new puppy, and 11/2 years after I kicked my ex out he visited. People passed by and asked about the pup. My ex carried on a conversation with them as if it was HIS pup, not a dog he'd just met! It's all about them. The narcissist will try to take credit for things that don't belong to them. Sneaky and deceitful.
@bhabi7071
@bhabi7071 Жыл бұрын
You are SO articulate, and from my perspective, even considering ALL the other outstanding contributions on KZbin on this topic ( Carter, Ramani for starters, which is pretty good company), your attention to detail and ability to provide such consistent, rich examples clearly borne of the deep, raw, painful life experience is second to none. To those of you who are listening to this, and maybe at the beginning of your journey of Discovery on this topic, and you're in a situation in which what she is saying rings true. Heed these words. Ultimately we all have to make our own decisions, but I can confidently say at 60 years old, that if heard contributors of this caliber earlierin my life, my life would be completely different. For me, the most resonant of the many themes presented in this video, is that they are angry, period. I have experienced countless times what you describe, they'll pick on the littlest thing and outrage, and only in the past few years do I realize it has nothing to do with whatever I'm doing, like softly singing a song, it is all about them. In my case it was a parent. A tortured angry sadistic parent. As "mirror" says, it's so important to reflect on whether this extraordinary level of abuse, devaluation, manipulation, and in my case multiple attempts to arrest, isolate, abandon, not only me but my 12 yr old and spouse,..... Ask yourself, even though this is "family" , how can this possibly be worth it I can say unequivocally my life has never ever been better or richer eliminating these aliens from my life. I wish you all good fortune in your journeys, I'm so sorry that the journey has taken you here, but there is hope, and contributors like this one are such a critical part of the solution. These are TORTURED individuals, who TORTURE. No human being deserves ever to be in the receiving end of that.
@Clevelandsteamer324
@Clevelandsteamer324 Жыл бұрын
Little shaman is great too
@newandoldtech5634
@newandoldtech5634 2 жыл бұрын
Where is the largest storage of supply? The Hoover Dam
@cressiddabreo5683
@cressiddabreo5683 4 ай бұрын
😂😂😂😂
@newandoldtech5634
@newandoldtech5634 4 ай бұрын
@@cressiddabreo5683 Do you know why the narcissist crossed the road? He/she thought it was a boundry.
@cressiddabreo5683
@cressiddabreo5683 4 ай бұрын
@@newandoldtech5634 😂😂
@getbusyliving144
@getbusyliving144 Жыл бұрын
They hate you because they are demons.
@miraclesforus2
@miraclesforus2 10 ай бұрын
They either are infested with strongholds or outright possession. The root is simply evil.
@AnnaMishel
@AnnaMishel 7 ай бұрын
They hate you . . Because “they hate”! It’s their default emotion. Just like rabid dogs, alligators, piranhas. They hate!
@lisaz4411
@lisaz4411 16 күн бұрын
They are infested with demons yes
@JessicaJLandi
@JessicaJLandi Жыл бұрын
The biggest interesting thing after we put a big healthy boundary to keep the narcissists away...was how much peace and joy came back into our lives. Remarkable.
@alisaortiz6196
@alisaortiz6196 Жыл бұрын
Your videos are so helpful and informative thank you ❤
@cyndigooch1162
@cyndigooch1162 Жыл бұрын
That's for sure! ✌
@newandoldtech5634
@newandoldtech5634 2 жыл бұрын
Lies are about testing your boundries, or if you are catching on. And is the perfect opportunity for an argument. By the way, why did the narc cross the street? They thought it was a boundry.
@clarkengel1027
@clarkengel1027 Жыл бұрын
😁😁🥲
@estherberry4046
@estherberry4046 Жыл бұрын
genius
@tramekn
@tramekn Жыл бұрын
😂
@hollyknox3116
@hollyknox3116 Жыл бұрын
😂
@joejohn8274
@joejohn8274 Жыл бұрын
They actually argue with you over shit from your past and rewrite your reality of your past that they were never involved in 20 years before you met them they tell you what you did and who you did it with and actually get very jealous and upset from telling you a false past they made up. You tell them they are completely wrong and they get even more upset 😂 how can someone get so upset for stuff they make up and weren't no part of or even existed in your life and actually believe their own made up stories?
@cyndigooch1162
@cyndigooch1162 Жыл бұрын
@joejohn8274 I know it's not funny at all while involved with narcissistic types of people, but I laughed about what you wrote because it seems so bizarre. 😂
@BigRebel0802
@BigRebel0802 Жыл бұрын
🤪🥵😜🧐😬🤯
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 Ай бұрын
Its so true.😂
@ingrid3578
@ingrid3578 Жыл бұрын
Narcissists make complete sense when you compare their behaviours and ways of doing life to a child's. Almost everything I've witnessed my highly narcissistic father and his sisters do and say are from the mindset of an emotionally inept child, maybe comparable to a 5 or 6 year old. Children are the ones who lie and can't take responsibility for bad behaviour for fear of retribution. Children are the ones who are unable to form solid opinions and feelings due to their malleability, which is why nothing that comes out of a narcissist's mouth is of substance. Children are the ones who throw temper tantrums when things don't go their way. Children are the ones who don't know how to communicate their needs and expect people to read their minds. Most importantly, children are the ones who believe they are the centre of their parents' universe and believe that their only job is being their mom/dad, and they are therefore emotionally incapable of thinking of others. Children are the ones who live in a fantasy land with their imaginary friends because sometimes that's more interesting or safe for them, which is fine because they're just kids. But it's absolutely NOT FINE for narcissists who are adults to treat life as such. Children are delusional to a certain extent due to their primitive brains and lack of life experience, which narcissists seem to be as well!
@lauraswanson6161
@lauraswanson6161 Жыл бұрын
That degrades children, I get it, how immature they are but kids motives are different and they usually aim to please. It makes more sense to compare their behavior to demons.
@BigRebel0802
@BigRebel0802 Жыл бұрын
“Wherever there are ignorance and confusion, there are always lies.” Unknown author
@flyingsaucer1268
@flyingsaucer1268 2 жыл бұрын
I had a narc "friend" for 20 years, which was bad enough....having a narc partner must be 10 times worse
@sabaidee5587
@sabaidee5587 Жыл бұрын
Did he tried to manipulate you and used also silent treatment?
@flyingsaucer1268
@flyingsaucer1268 Жыл бұрын
@@sabaidee5587 yes, both of them. And he had a terrible rage every now and then. He thought he harmed me with his silent treatment, but I loved it 😎
@sabaidee5587
@sabaidee5587 Жыл бұрын
Haha, cool. I knew it, they make no difference in the way they are acting with their partner, friends or family/parents..That's sick. 😊 Thanks for answering.
@flyingsaucer1268
@flyingsaucer1268 Жыл бұрын
@@sabaidee5587 Yes, narcs are terrible, but rather predictable....
@sabaidee5587
@sabaidee5587 Жыл бұрын
@@flyingsaucer1268 Yes, definitely. My "best narc friend" is ghosting me right now. 😂🙈😂
@drlarrymitchell
@drlarrymitchell 2 жыл бұрын
You can't be shy about kicking the absolute mortal shit out of these bottom-feeders just because they're delusional- viciousness is the only thing they'll understand or respect.
@BrendaBaBoom
@BrendaBaBoom 2 жыл бұрын
Yep. I quickly gave up taking the MORAL HIGH ground approach with the Narc and went in with some below the belt blows of my own …. that subspecies got real understanding fast! 😂
@advancedbasicsAB
@advancedbasicsAB Жыл бұрын
I agree. Being the bigger person, not stooping to their level, allowing them to live with the guilt that will eat them from the inside is wasted on narcissists. They are not normal, healthy people who would recognize or understand this. In order to restore balance, you have to get them where it hurts them - exposure.
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 Ай бұрын
😂😂
@goodgracious6364
@goodgracious6364 2 жыл бұрын
You are so on point about this! The narc I once knew flew off the handle, banging his fists on the table and shouting because he felt that I should buy an updated cell phone. My cell phone had nothing to do with him. I was paying my cell phone bill and was perfectly fine with it. Also, we were driving once and I happened to mention a distance relative. He demanded that we go visit her. I told him no, and he again flew off the handle, banging his fists on the car steering wheel! He didn't even know my relative (and really neither did I), yet HE demanded that we go visit her. WTF!🤪
@LookingBehindtheMirror
@LookingBehindtheMirror 2 жыл бұрын
Perfect examples! It’s so crazy.
@darnelanders3269
@darnelanders3269 2 жыл бұрын
Those incidents were more than red ♥️ flags they were also black 🖤 flags...the narcissist will engineer chaos when bored... they feel very unsettled when things or going smoothly.... They are circus 🎪 clowns needing to perform a dog 🐩 and pony 🐴 show to feel validated....I remember telling a narcissist to take their dog 🐕 and pony 🐎 show down 👇 the road 🛣️...
@goodgracious6364
@goodgracious6364 2 жыл бұрын
@@darnelanders3269 Absolutely. I remember the narc had once shouted that he felt like he was "suffocating". It was quiet in the house and I was upstairs and nobody was around him. I then realized that he literally could NOT handle peace and quiet. It's been many years since I divorced that attention-needing, drama-fueled nutcase and I now cherish everyday of my peaceful life!
@valwalker9606
@valwalker9606 Жыл бұрын
Mine got mad about using the internet the way he wanted me to. Called me all sorts of names and got mad. It was own computer!
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 Ай бұрын
Mine did that too. He couldn't handle that I liked my cell phone.😂😂😂
@ericalashan1923
@ericalashan1923 Жыл бұрын
I knew someone that thought I didn't know how to cross the street...lol. They would remind me to stand back like I was a child...lol. They would mope around like he was on death row but refused to say ANYTHING. They would meddle in other people's business. Once they called all around and tracked down their abuser to confront them. I was there for moral support. Once on he phone they were overly engaging and I was confused. Stockholm syndrome is real. Hell I stayed 8 yrs. They would call people at like 7am and get annoyed when people don't pick up the phone.
@elizabethash4720
@elizabethash4720 Жыл бұрын
A friend I had was an opera singer and her boyfriend claimed fame for " getting" her to sing"the nuns chorus" . They married, had 4 children and he turned out to be a controlling narcicist. She slowly lost her interests and began after a while to question her own sanity. She used to say "he was an actor." He used to end a sentence with "in the present moment".sometimes I could see narcicistic traits in her, she may have learned from him . She was a shell of her former self, fragile, and I was always careful not to let her down as I knew she needed my support to sustain who she thought she was, even though she had changed so much. .
@jerry-mj8th
@jerry-mj8th 2 жыл бұрын
Lord yes If I wanted a different food for dinner, he called me a crazy fking psycho.
@tonyconnor5691
@tonyconnor5691 Жыл бұрын
this is one of the major red flags the argument over nothing,,, normally about 3 months in this will happen i still to this day remember this happening to me before covid october a argument that went on for over 4 hours and to this day ihave no idea what the hell it was over
@Goodlk231
@Goodlk231 7 ай бұрын
The lying for odd reasons sounds like Pathological lying.
@susanparker9877
@susanparker9877 Жыл бұрын
Our singing story brought back memories... My ex fancied himself to be a voice teacher, and he was going to teach me. After church one day, with lots of singing, (he didn't go) he meets me at the door excitedly and tells me he's been working on a song. It's a grunge version of Hello Darkness My Old Friend by Simon and Garfunkle, beautifully done. Problem #1 is it's almost in a base range. I'm a metso-soprano! I can't sing down there!!! Problem#2 is the song glorifies darkness, not what I want to sing at all. He ragged on me until I tried, and failed...Any voice teacher would have known it wasn't a song in my range. It ruined the peace I'd begun my day with. Done on purpose??
@LookingBehindtheMirror
@LookingBehindtheMirror Жыл бұрын
Who knows. I think it shows how hard it is for them to reckon with reality. Like accepting the fact that you wouldn’t be able to sing a song in a bass range. It just doesn’t compute. “But I want you to!”
@Mllascelles1
@Mllascelles1 2 жыл бұрын
Yes the fish story and dinner at sisters is infuriating and frustrating to deal with…
@chxwv
@chxwv Жыл бұрын
Let me share another experience that your video reminded me of . If you have ever gone to green beach on the big island of Hawaii you would know how bumpy that ride is and you have to pay a 4 wheeler to take you there . I took her there and Ofcourse it was very bumpy ride and she was laughing so loud with each bump that was so odd , that it really confused me that what is she doing as it felt so fake . She was in her 40s not like a teenager who was laughing loud after the jeep hit every bump . I just thought of that while listening to you
@mindfulmaximalism
@mindfulmaximalism 5 ай бұрын
Here's a topic you may be interested in covering: Narcissists and Plants/Gardening I'm an avid gardener and plant fanatic. I have noticed how un-nurturing narcs are with plants. There are plenty of narcissistic gardeners because they like to show off their gardens, but when it comes down to actually loving and growing their plants, they just don't care like I do. To them, that's what the help is for.
@PeterShaw-ne1yq
@PeterShaw-ne1yq Жыл бұрын
I experienced such an instant rage over a heart-felt offer of help! This immediately followed a beaming greeting 🤔 She ghosted me for about 18 months after this but recently has proffered signs of friendship again🤔 Clearly, they process reality to some out if whack paradigm, i.e., their NPD She interpreted my offer as my attempt to have superior ability to her , nobody is superior to her !!!!!
@r.bishop1127
@r.bishop1127 6 ай бұрын
My narc ex denied full on conversations. I screen shot facts & he still tried to deny. It's pathetic. He also likes to say I'm arguing whenever I called him out on bs.
@tjfSIM
@tjfSIM Жыл бұрын
The one I knew would lie about anything, I really think she had no concept of what the truth is. To her, reality was whatever fit most neatly with what she wanted.
@The_mrs86
@The_mrs86 Жыл бұрын
Your content is amazing and is the exact support. I need to manage the narcissist in my life.
@gwendolynwehage6336
@gwendolynwehage6336 9 ай бұрын
This sort of conversation has happened to me many times with narcissistic family members. One example was a sister-in-law when I complimented her on her handbag, she told me it was actually a camera case she was using as a purse. Later in the year, I asked her where she got her camera case I was thinking of getting one to use as a handbag too. She told me she never had a camera bag using it as a purse. I was astounded, it wasn't likely I would make up something so bizarre. There have been many things like this that made no sense at all.
@urbansurvivor360
@urbansurvivor360 Жыл бұрын
Basically as per the 1st point (fish) the issue is taking the narc seriously. Once youve learnt your dealing with a narc. Take nothing they say to have any value. Ive learnt this lesson from my husband
@valwalker9606
@valwalker9606 Жыл бұрын
One hundred percent correct. Talk about feelings out of my mind!!!
@almcelroy4818
@almcelroy4818 11 ай бұрын
Yes. You have a great understanding of the phenomenon.
@ligyasouza755
@ligyasouza755 8 ай бұрын
A narcisist i knew told me a long story about a woman who had the same profession as me.Days later i.mentioned that again and he said he never said anything like that and that i needed my head examined
@janellwoodward
@janellwoodward 8 ай бұрын
U changing into the narc is so real but you never forget reality really I know this to be true I lived it and I left my narc and I started to feel different like. Like I was real and I have feelings tht the narc tried to make dissappear never really did
@janellwoodward
@janellwoodward 8 ай бұрын
I only changed because I wanted to be loved so bad I would take The criticism because they said they cared. And I just wanted the best for me. I would eat the bread crumbs. I would take any kind of affection. I could get even if it wasn't that much. And I had to ask for it. It kinda tears you down. It kinda makes you feel bad, not kinda. It does michiko, worthless and unappreciated. You're only appreciating their feelings and and. Agree with them, you're feelings, don't matter? It's not about your feelings. It's about them. But when you figure it out and you see them for who they really. Are you start letting things not affect you? I know for me. That's what happened. I left the narcissist and I got my own place. But now here's my question i'm so friends with my ex
@janellwoodward
@janellwoodward 8 ай бұрын
I I am a person that I have a lot of empathy. And I want to remain friends. Because that's two, I've always been. I've always been a nice person. So why not be a friend to a narcissist? Because they treat you differently. They may talk about you. But they don't get really angry at you. They treat you differently. I I'm completely unsure why I was all new to this. I was in church. I had my own thing that I did. And I met this person and I'm the one that went for with it. In the relationship. But I had long hair and I was a lot thinner. And I decided to cut my hair and that in raged them. So should I be friends with this person
@ckyung1312
@ckyung1312 9 ай бұрын
1. Inventing arguments out of nothing 2. Lie about anything , or trivial stuff that just does not make sense, such as false or made up memories - which are facts to a narcissist 3. Inappropriate displays of emotion, such as sadness, empathy, humor, etc. (because it’s fake and manipulative) 4. Disproportionate rage and/or anger over small stuff because they lack self awareness and, essentially, they’re always angry at life and feel like the biggest victim 5. Interjecting into anything and everything that seemingly has nothing to do with them due to their extreme entitlement and the idea that the world revolves around them; giving commands disguised as helpful advise 6. Jekyll and Hyde; flip-flopping on an issue or idea, contradicting themselves, only the present moment and their feelings matter, the past is just a tool for their advantage, or else it’s dismissed
@judyhengel4013
@judyhengel4013 4 күн бұрын
We had gotten in another argument the other day, where he said he has always thought of me first. Well hos actions and words hadn't shown consideration or respectfulness through all these decades. So I argued that he didn't think of me. Back and forth. I walked back into the house and then it hit me. My husband who has disrespected me, humiliated me, abandoned me at social gatherings, was inconsiderate, gaslit, lied, had thought of me first, but he had made me his scapegoat all along. Oh, she won't like this but I'm doing it anyway. She won't like that but too bad I'm buying this for myself. She won't like how I really feel. That's what he means when he always thinks of me first.
@selfesteem3447
@selfesteem3447 Жыл бұрын
Great Channel 👍👏👏👏 Made me think of the time the narc had been out doing something like in the middle of cutting the grass saying some sht like "you did zxy three months/ weeks ago" Of course, I didn't know it was narcissism until 17 YEARS after I had broke up with him from the 6 year relationship. But I knew at the time that it was so effed up, I just laughed at him. He was so blatantly itching to argue/fight over nothing.
@myutube5882
@myutube5882 11 ай бұрын
I remember babysitting a 3-year-old once and asking her a question. She thought about it for a minute and then said "yes" and I realized that she said yes because that's what she wanted the answer to be, not what it really was. I think I asked her if her friend was coming over that day. Looking back, I don't think she knew whether her friend was coming over or not but she WANTED her friend to come over so she said yes, as though by saying it, this would be the case. Since narcissists are stuck at a very early age in some ways, I think this may just be part of that.
@hotrod7938
@hotrod7938 Жыл бұрын
Last narc I was with lied about her grandma dieing. And lied about her ankle being broken. Crazy
@joshgorsky5224
@joshgorsky5224 9 ай бұрын
You are really one of the best sources out there for accurate information on what it’s like to be with a narc. I find that most of the narc abuse content creators are pretty generic, saying the same non-specific things, and once you’ve consumed their content for a week or two- there is nothing left to gain. But your content hits on all the little nuances of what it’s actually like to be in one of these relationships. The nuances and the subtle BS that the narc consists of are really the most impactful and mind numbing factors of this type of abuse. I know that it was these little subtleties that damaged my own psyche the most. I say all this to say well done👏 you are doing a great job and I really appreciate your work!
@LookingBehindtheMirror
@LookingBehindtheMirror 9 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@MonkeyDLuffy45068
@MonkeyDLuffy45068 10 ай бұрын
Exactly, something so small becomes an opportunity to have rage fits, might jump up, and down, swinging arms in front of TV, the list goes on.
@teemadarif8243
@teemadarif8243 6 ай бұрын
this video ...let me see the two main people who were in my life ...that nearly drove me nuts . now I know for fact this does have a name. Thank you!🙏🏽
@amyteurlife9408
@amyteurlife9408 Жыл бұрын
he would ignore me, and then later --- that evening, next day, next year ---- when topic arose again, it could be a gaslighting moment OR he would later bring it up like it was his idea and if I said I had already told him, he would say he didn't hear me and behaves like a proud child who came up with a wonderful idea all by himself. So I have had to start making sure he acknowledges what I say, so he has fewer weapons. My mood is generally happy. His is negative and something pleasing has to happen to him in order to show happiness and it is short lived - vs - naturally being happy and something bad has to happen to change that. Oh yes, I have caught him being goofy when someone sharing a sad event and I of course covered for him and immediately showed my sadness so he could catch on and not embarrass us or hurt the other person. For what ever reason, for 15 years he never cried at movies, like me, but then he started to? When our cat died, his sadness took over, no one else could be sad b/c of him. But when his parents died, almost no sadness. I am making these connections b/c of this video. He always corrects my singing. He hates my morning singing and I realized, after 20 years, I did stop b/c of him, but I have recently began again with even more joy.
@artbygilik
@artbygilik 3 ай бұрын
I knew a narc that despised liars😬 I was having a suspicion that he’s closeted gay and hiding something. He would flip out at the smallest things and I didn’t even think I said or did something that offensive. Then I would get upset and cry and he would just walk off and I was always the one to go back and apologize and try to resolve the conflict, it happened a couple of times when we were alone on vacation together so I knew I had to fix it.
@flyingsaucer1268
@flyingsaucer1268 2 жыл бұрын
I like Honda.....specially Honda Civic :-)
@advancedbasicsAB
@advancedbasicsAB Жыл бұрын
Great video, you are spot on, thank you!
@loudiaz1292
@loudiaz1292 11 ай бұрын
Wow! Their reality is written in disappearing ink!
@suzettefrantz6971
@suzettefrantz6971 10 ай бұрын
Really good video and over the rainbow of truth..ty
@estherberry4046
@estherberry4046 Жыл бұрын
this is 100% on track. Thank you very much.
@ianarn
@ianarn Жыл бұрын
Yes very angry! my ex girlfriend would freak out if I do much as liked a female athlete’s social media post yet would be posting her exotic pole dancing videos for just about any man to take a look at and I never tried to stop her doing that. I could often see her fighting the sheer rage. The first night I was with her she bit my lips really hard to see how much pain I could stand and where I would draw the line. You never expect that toddler in a sandpit behaviour from a 34 year old woman! But I guess that really is the pathology talking!
@Launabanauna2
@Launabanauna2 11 ай бұрын
Narcissists just aren’t “normal,” in any way, and only the people who have suffered their abuse know what I’m talking about.
@prant8998
@prant8998 Жыл бұрын
For most of her tantrums I never knew what set her off. It was just time to have a tantrum. The fun part for her was she could see me visibly upset. As a guy, I would just pack up my things and leave. We were not married and had separate homes. The drive away was like an anvil had been lifted from my back, pure relief. She got smarter and would have tantrums where I couldn’t leave, on vacations, in the car, at a family functions. She just wanted to f*** things up. One time, we were on vacation in the Caribbean, having breakfast at a beautiful resort looking over the sea. She was up at the buffet table getting something and the waitress came over and poured coffee in our cups. She came back like five seconds after, “She poured the coffee?” I said, “Yes.” She said, “I’m leaving! She stormed out of the place back to our room and throwing clothing into a suitcase. I had to beg her to not leave. The place was pre-paid for ten days, we were on day two. INSANE. (She was in her sixties.)
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 Ай бұрын
My boyfriend lies, of course. Some of them are just weird. For example, thoughtout our 3 year relationship he always told me he never wanted kids. So, I'm like okay. Well, we were having a conversation about children and out of the blue he told me "Jackie and I tried to have a baby but her doctor was against the idea" I'm like, huh, okay. They rewrite history and the person you thought you knew isn't that person. It's like why lie about it? I don't care that you might have had a baby 20 years ago.🙄
@janellwoodward
@janellwoodward 8 ай бұрын
Wow u pin pointed what I lived with would like to ask u some ?and talk
@wiscogreenchick
@wiscogreenchick 10 ай бұрын
This is my mother and my aunt
@shelleykaygrant2730
@shelleykaygrant2730 Жыл бұрын
Any info on Co Vert narcs I have a girlfriend since young had to go NO CONTACT so any knowledge to heal that is appreciated xo
@antheredhen
@antheredhen 5 ай бұрын
This is 100% my husband.. Lies to make things more interesting. " Because the truth was boring." All the time future faking then we never do it.. I swear all your insight in all your videos is 100% my husband. Only thing he doesn't do is yell or get outright mean. But then I've been groomed to never challenge male authority since I was born.
@antheredhen
@antheredhen 5 ай бұрын
When we were first dating he told so many bs stories I later found out were lies he denied saying.. Then he'd say it must have been your other boy friend who said that.. What? I've had 2 only. Him in Florida and my first boyfriend in Michigan. What other boyfriend.. Oh wait it was projection because HE was seeing other people..
@ElizabethBrock
@ElizabethBrock Жыл бұрын
@brooke5395
@brooke5395 11 ай бұрын
😂 you just want to turn into the drill sgt from Full Metal Jacket. WHAT is your major malfunction??? Omg I hated being micromanaged. Micro isn't even the right word. It's like NANOmanaged. His "job" was making sure I was doing MY job. Which makes you unable to do your job! (Wife/mother) Still married. Mid divorce. And he's got some other schmuck begging for his approval now. God has delivered me. 🤣
@emmarae4322
@emmarae4322 Ай бұрын
My favorite is when you are trying to do something, like housework, and they come looking for you to help them.😂
@DaRyteJuan
@DaRyteJuan Жыл бұрын
*LAST SUNDAY* ============ NARCISSIST: “Don’t you see what a MESS this place is?!!! I REALLY NEED SOME HELP AROUND HERE!” VICTIM: “OK. Sorry about that.” NARCISSIST: “Well, THINK!” *THIS SUNDAY* ============ NARCISSIST: “WHY ARE YOU DOING THE DISHES!?” VICTIM: “You said to be more conscientious.” NARCISSIST: “BUT THERE ARE ONLY A FEW OF THEM IN THE BASIN! I REALLY NEED TO MAKE MY BREAKFAST! DO THEM LATER!! (How stupid are you to do dishes when there are so few of them.)” VICTIM (getting upset): “I can’t read your mind, y’know.” NARCISSIST: “DON’T GO THERE WITH ME! You KNOW HOW FRAGILE I AM RIGHT NOW!”
@newandoldtech5634
@newandoldtech5634 2 жыл бұрын
Denzo mos
@HRPFayetteville
@HRPFayetteville 7 ай бұрын
But the reality is because you can't read their mind.You're never gonna know what they're telling.The truth are lying or telling the truth and what they don't remember or what they remember.And there's just no way to know and that's the real reality
@MonkeyDLuffy45068
@MonkeyDLuffy45068 10 ай бұрын
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