DO NARCISSISTS KNOW THEY HAVE A PROBLEM?

[@victoriavitoroulis3273]

They don’t see anything they do a problem .. but if you did the exact thing to them .., that would be a BIG PROBLEM😵‍💫

[@konvict451]

They run from everything, expect no resolution and/or closure.

[@MrJESUSISGREATEST]

They prefer to deny their problem and project it onto others. It's ridiculous.

[@kellithomas9080]

So true!!! My ex used to only say “I know I haven’t been perfect and never claimed to be” I guess that’s supposed to mean he took accountability 🤦‍♀️ the biggest, toughest lessened I learned was through him! Ugh

[@AnnaMishel]

Lions, crocodiles, sharks, or narcissists don’t have problems. We do, if we run into them!

[@noormohamed2991]

Excellent 😂❤❤❤

[@mintberrycrunch4333]

You're so eloquent, articulate and insightful.

[@Cucurigu813]

When a narc is down, you step on him. Good for him, good for the people he harassed.

[@terrymathews8177]

My mother truly believes there's something wrong with everyone else - she honestly can't see the fact that she is the cause of her misery

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

That seems so common. It’s too easy to blame everyone else. Taking accountability would mean having to do something about it.

[@terrymathews8177]

@@LookingBehindtheMirror yeah it's a convenient excuse for everything - I'm miserable and it's all your fault and that gives me the right to be as nasty to you as I want

[@foxiefair123]

Mine, too. She judges people constantly over the smallest stuff, but never looks at herself.

[@BonnieJean4578]

"Unrealistic expectations" of us and the world. No wonder they are so miserable. Such a good point! Ty!

[@drlarrymitchell]

I used to think that narcissism meant that someone was vain, and really into themselves; ironically, "themselves" is the one thing they can never be brave enough to look at.

[@susanparker9877]

So we'll said.

[@rubberbiscuit99]

They live inside fear and they do not love.

[@noormohamed2991]

Thank YOU 🙏😊! Excellent explanation! Part of me feels sorry as this is partly a mental health issue and partly their traumatic childhood 😮. But they cannot be helped 😢no matter how much one tries 😮 you end making yourself ill and distressed! I think detachment is crucial.

[@PeterShaw-ne1yq]

A person who is red deficient doesn't know that they cannot appreciate a red rose or a beautiful sunset; they must wonder what folk talk about and react when folk react about roses and sunsets🤔

[@susanparker9877]

Excellent analogy! Yes if you're colour blind you would never know the difference.

[@rodotoledo2034]

Absolutely in love with your channel. It amazes me that all of your knowledge comes from your own experiences and interpretation of the studied subject. As you say you are not a professional but wow you are so on point. Thank you for your fantastic work!

[@ninath13]

You have to cause it is hard to believe a human being would treat people the way they do...I feel like a mental health counselor too❤

[@susanparker9877]

When I learned about Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, it really struck a chord for me. My ex said he was diagnosed with ADHD as a kid and had been terribly neglected and abused by his mother. Symptoms of the two conditions overlap each other in major ways. (See Patrick Teahan on You Tube) I spoke to my ex about that and encouraged him to look up the channel and find help for the trauma. I was trying to validate his experience and offer a way to heal. He seemed to be listening. Later, weeks later, he told me how I'd insulted him and put him down in the lowest way. Never would I have used that info to hurt him. Yet that is how he interpreted what I said. So, so sad.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I knew a very narcissistic person once who would encourage me to offer criticism like this, would seem to be receiving it well and then weeks, months or even years later, he would bring it up and tell me how insensitive and rude I was for saying what I had said. He would say it was “never okay” and that it’s been bothering him the whole time. Reminds me of your story. For the person I knew, I believe he was encouraging me to say things that he could later use to shame me.

[@susanparker9877]

@@LookingBehindtheMirror Loading up his arsenal for later.... yet I was not offering criticism, just plain old loving knowledge for him to take and use. He didn't take any knowledge from it. He just attributed me with a whole lot of bad intent. Such wasted lives.👩‍🎨🐕🐕

[@AnnaMishel]

If a crazy person with a gun wants to shoot you. YOU have a problem (not the crazy person)

[@kellithomas9080]

This is so accurate! Your ability to explain these people is truly unmatched! It took me over a decade to come to grips with what I’ve been dealing with. I always knew something was wrong, but I thought my love and care would help him. All he did was use and abuse me; mentally, emotionally and psychologically and did it over and over. Then at my lowest he would discard me and leave me in that hopeless state. Then come back with this immaculate apology and the cycle would repeat itself. I had to see it for what it truly was and that’s when the game changed . My desire for him no longer exists and it’s the best feeling!!! 🙌🏼❤️

[@dragonclaws9367]

The worst and hardest part for me of all this was accepting the reality of who he is. It has taken me a good three years to be at peace with it and I still cry sometimes. To The Survivor: If it takes a long time to believe the truth, you will eventually. You will get stronger. I am not done my journey but It's been much easier this time. I never thought I could accept the facts but I have begun to and I hurt so much less. He had told me once when he was stoned that he "was pretending to be human and he feels empty ." My thing was trying to help him see another way of being for a really long time.

[@susanparker9877]

We don't want to accept another person, especially someone we love, having such an empty soul. What he told you WAS the truth. Like you, I spent so much time trying to help my ex see the good in himself. I failed miserably and hand the soul saving over to God. I reconcile myself to being powerless to help him. He must ask for that help and want it with everything he is, then he will find healing. I must heal myself from this cruel, mind-bending experience.

[@cassiebennet4262]

It really is the hardest part to accept who they really are. Survivors often go through a intence rumination and grief cycle many times over until they finally come to terms with the truth.

[@noormohamed2991]

All of the above is so true and so painful 😢😮

[@susanauger3758]

Love the face slapping analogy!! Made me laugh

[@Launabanauna2]

Oh my goodness, me too!😂

[@SoniaProteau-cj6tk]

I can only control by behaviour, not nobodies else's

[@JH-td4mn]

When I got discarded the Narcissist admitted he was a lost cause and damaged goods. Why you would date anyone if you had that view of yourself is anyone's guess, but I thanked him for his honesty. I still felt as though he'd projected all his worst feelings on to me by that point, it took me at least 6 months to feel like I was getting myself back. The whole experience changed me, it has affected my trust, but I practice self love to protect myself.

[@timweedon2785]

He didn't mean it. What he meant was, if I tell her this, she will leave me alone and not ruin it with the person I'm sleeping with

[@JH-td4mn]

@@timweedon2785 Maybe 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@glenshuttleworth3224]

I have been dealing with a narcissistic boss for three and a half years it has been very difficult indeed but recently I have feel the table has turned against him,people are starting to understand what is going on, and thanks to your videos dear you have helped me so so much. I am such a stubborn person that I will never surrender to this evil toxic person, why should I give in to these types of people.? I like my job and am determined to conquer this week cowardice individual. Thankyou for helping me understand 🙂

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

You’re welcome and good luck to you!

[@MaryamAli-vd1xv]

Really appreciate the way you expressed it all.🌹

[@MaryamAli-vd1xv]

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[@actionpls.]

They don't appreciate a good relationship when they're in one. One reason being, they put all their past relationship problems on you. No matter how loving and giving you are to them.

[@traxikscifi8105]

Yes they do, otherweis they would not hate you for exposing them... they know the diference between good and evil... they are just messed up and can not correct it... very sad to watch.

[@timweedon2785]

They hate you for exposing them because you are making it harder for them to get their narc supply. That's why they hate you.

[@robinantonio8870]

They don't want to correct it

[@traxikscifi8105]

True, because they would have to revise their whole life... not Pretty 😉💜

[@fivestaragent3123]

Right on about the Narc taking advantage from empath. Thank you 🙏

[@elizebethjames1256]

Yes, the truth is too harsh for those in thier early stages of true concrete realisations - good, because they are on the right track ! - for me personally , listening to those like yourself has been a life saver for me. The woman who helped and guided you, has a PHD in understanding this terrible personality disorder.

[@galacticambitions1277]

This was amazing. Maybe your most useful video yet. Your levels of empathy must be supreme to have immersed yourself so deeply in their alien mindset.

[@MsGroovalicious]

I was looking for this exact explanation this weekend. Brava!

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I’m so glad it was helpful. Thank you for watching!

[@wendalljohnson]

I appreciate your perspective on Narcs. 👍

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Thank you! Thanks for watching!

[@rawthenticadvice3268]

This RANT made my day! You ROCK girl

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

Haha. I guess all my videos are basically rants. Hahaha. Thanks for watching!! I’m glad you enjoyed it. 😊

[@MegaTblaze]

​@@LookingBehindtheMirrorgreat messages... 👍

[@christinestewart9734]

You are 💯 correct. Gods words are true about deception 🙏

[@DonnaGoode-e2z]

I love this guy. I have a lot of compassion and empathy for him and I accept him for who he is. I don’t know if he’s a narcissist, but I can see that he does have some type of developmental delay. I can’t pinpoint it but I think it’s probably high functioning ASD. He has traits that are frustrating and seem like narcissism but it could just be that he has mind blindness and other traits of ASD that are just because he isn’t an NT. I think he’s emotionally immature because of some kind of childhood trauma. He has so many good qualities and frankly my heart is broken and I miss him and I’m wondering when I will ever stop crying over this. This person was my best friend and he is a wonderful father figure to my young adult son. This is something that warms my heart.

[@amothergoddess2774]

LAST TWO TIMES I MET UP WITH SISTER, THIS IS HOW IT FELT, SHE WANTED TO SLAP ME IN FACE, INSTEAD SHE GAVE ME A DIRTY LOOK, IMMEDIATELY MY MOOD CHANGED FR GOOD TO FEELING LIKE AN UGLY LITTLE GROMMET, THEN SHE TOOK OFF STRIDING AHEAD OF ME, I WASN'T WALKING SLOW, I SAID WAIT FOR ME, SHE IGNORED ME, I HEARD THEIR KIDS HATE THEM, BOTH SIS'S ARE NARCS, THE OTHER ONE WHEN SHE RUNG ME SHE COULD BARELY BE BOTHERED TO TALK TO ME, YOU'LL NEVER GET ANY HELP FR THEM, JUST PUT-DOWNS, FIGHTS, THEY THINK THEY ARE FABULOUS AND EVERYBODY ELSE IS AN IDIOT, ONE TOLD ME YEARS AGO HOW SUPERIOR SHE WAS IN INTELLIGENCE TO EVERYONE ELSE, SHE IS A SOLICITOR, SHE ALWAYS WINS, I'VE NEVER HEARD OF ANYTHING BUT SUCCESS AND SHE IS WEALTHY BUT MEAN, WHILST YOU BUY HER AN EXPENSIVE PERFUME, SHE BUYS YOU A CHEAP NASTY SMELLING BREW THAT YOU THROW OUT, LAST ONE LOOKS BETTER, JESSICA PARKER!

[@PeterShaw-ne1yq]

I met someone much like this; they have intelligence but no empathy and never will 🫤

[@wendalljohnson]

I'd like to see a video on the Narcissist's Karma.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

That sounds like an interesting topic. Thanks.

[@wowreally6556]

Holy crap, that was a good point, I did think it was sad, in a weird kind of way because they'll never get some of the best things in life, and it's a cycle of their own creation.. I felt so bad for her, that's one big reason I kept going back but that's exactly right!! It's not sad for them, not from her perspective because she doesn't even know, basically what that even is!! So how can they miss something that they never even had to begin with.. they don't know that they chase off the very thing they're looking for in the first place.. That was a 🤯 right there.. I need to roll that around my head for a minute, good call with that tho, I can't believe I never saw that but it's so obvious.. 💯 🤯 (Says "edited" coz somehow I spelled "chase" I put"case"🤦🏻 Spell check should have caught that tho, right? Lol.. I have no idea why I felt it necessary to add this when I changed that but, I will add, spell check, here now, has saved me like 3 times already,so.. lol.. Dropped the ball earlier.. 😂😂 ok, I'm done, sorry) (Omg, had to rewind that whole episode.. 😂😂 Ok, now I'm done.. promise this time.. 😂😂) Did any of that make any sense? Maybe I should get a dog, or something.. 🤔🤔

[@ilgenis]

They better keep their problems to themselves.

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

They will always try to make their problems someone else’s problems.

[@MsGroovalicious]

No trust in God and His ways and morals. They are so broken. So sad 😞

[@jackgoodings]

Can you do Dupers Delight? I think you'd do a great video of it

[@LookingBehindtheMirror]

I had never heard of this before, but have started reading about it and it is very interesting. If I can come up with enough correlation between this and narcissism, I’ll do a video on it, but either way, thanks for introducing me to this interesting topic!

[@robinantonio8870]

Dupers delight is a massive part of narcissism. They will bait deceive or attack you then smirk when you are hurt or they think they got away with it

[@newandoldtech5634]

YES, Why else do everything under the radar?

[@PurpleFlower1977]

When you find yourself apologising for everything and especially things that aren't your fault.... that's a HUGE red flag waving in your face... Take a bird's eye view of that relationship & re-evaluate it IMMEDIATELY.

[@NarrelleChain]

They live in a kind of hell, and there next round will be either s he L realm or back on earth they do not progress into the more heavenly realms until they learn their lessons o, well frankly they devolve instead of evolving! Love is a all we have, it is everything!

[@jase5415]

They do know deep deep down...but they don't care and that's their problem lol