Mel B on Realising She Was in a Coercive Abusive Relationship | Loose Women

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Mel B talks frankly about her marriage to Stephen Belafonte and how she isolated herself with being too embarrassed to admit she was in an abusive relationship.
From series 22, broadcast on 26/11/2018
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[@clarakam3858]

This is my story 1000%. Still healling and learning to love myself again. ❤❤to all the women that go on this :" You can!"

[@artdeltoro]

Describing step by step the relationship with a secondary psychopath or a malignant narcissist.

[@jayjones7776]

I’m glad she is speaking up, many people are suffering from this abusive relationships. I believe everything she says. I’m glad she got out and can share her story. Look at Mel B she doesn’t even look the same person from years ago. You can tell she has been through it. Very thankful she is speaking out it’s healing for us all l. And who cares if she selling a book about it. She is an independent women. Go Mel B.

[@wickedwitchoftheeast88]

My mum went through it for years I remember listening to it and its awful living in fear and walking on egg shells. I applaud Mel for speaking out because the response to domestic abuse needs to change, the law courts and the police's attitude and how they treat victims is a major problem. The perpetrators still have more rights than those they abuse. It baffles me that if a child is being abused they can be removed from their parents yet DV abusers are given unsupervised access to their kids who they use as weapons against their ex partner. Mel's book is brilliant she is 100% honest about everything including her own mistakes and regrets. I hope she continues speaking out she is doing all victims of DV a service by showing the reality of it.

[@private-private]

I wonder will Johnie Depp write a book about the abusive relationship he found him self in with Amber Heard and how the British judiciary as always did not believe it could happen to a man when the american courts and testimony proved she was totally coercive, abusing and a pathological liar but anyway you are right, I so glad people are finally speaking out about disgusting abusive parters because god knows you could tell Johnie had been through it too. He lost half a finger if I remember correctly when she fired a bottle at his head too right?

[@battleready5890]

Is anybody else annoyed by how they interrupt before she can completely finish a thought.

[@simonekaho4845]

YES!!!!

[@latoyathomas6246]

YES! I am

[@anitablack5404]

Yes, very unprofessional.

[@sandrahassard4926]

Probably to not let her get over whelmed

[@CF-fs6hc]

​@@sandrahassard4926 YES

[@carolb3869]

It’s more common than most people think.

[@RelaxingMusic-gi5zh]

Thanks for speaking out to help others Mel

[@aubreybryan5332]

The life of an independent woman living with a covert narcissist

[@byrolyn8182]

HER EX IS A SCUMBAG. HE SHOULD BE IN PRISON. HE HAS AN EXTENSIVE CRIME RECORD.

[@sljones9103]

She let him gateway with it

[@klee8988]

Nothing wrong wirh being single !!

[@alithevegancatlady74]

Great lady ..i never knew i was in a violent relationship till later ..i watched this happen for her whilst not recognising my own abuse..im now 4 years free

[@GoblinsAreAGirlsBestFriend]

Sometimes being strong is a weakness. Because you see a red flag and you go "but I'm tough", and you get hurt once and you go "but he's hurting more than I am" and suddenly you're neck deep telling yourself you should be able to stomach this because you're tough and he's just going through a rough time.

[@zaravandy797]

More than 10000 times agree with you!

[@simonekaho4845]

God it's irritating the way these interviewers talk over Mel

[@queenmajesty5163]

I can't stand the way the interviewers are asking her to be specific in reliving each incident "the curtains- the table where the kids couldn't eat". She's already written the book - must be awful for her to continue repeating herself....ugh!

[@sophialefort-1414]

How awful for Carol to say " u let it happen " wtaf?

[@byrolyn8182]

PLEASE DON'T BLAME THE VICTIM.

[@aratneerg3699]

I love u mel, you rock.

[@byrolyn8182]

MOST PEOPLE WOULD NOT BELIEVE ME.

[@Farageisamarxist]

TRAUMA BONDING .....What is a trauma bond? A trauma bond is a connection between an abusive person and the individual they abuse. It is reflective of an attachment created by repeating physical or emotional trauma with positive reinforcement. It can be hard to spot and even harder to break free from.13 Dec 2021

[@ItaHayes]

Trauma Bonding, your right, that’s the KEY dynamic at play here in all these abusive relationships.

[@EllieLeah1]

God bless you Mel B i want to hug you so much. My mum was in a domestic abusive relationship with my Dad and i grew up in a life filled with fear and anxiety. I've forgiven him because he's a changed man now but its hard to forget and the mental emotional damage is done...

[@debraslone281]

I have a lot of respect for this lady and I think she’s gorgeous still

[@byrolyn8182]

IT IS HER BOOK.

[@byrolyn8182]

I HAVE BEEN EMOTIONALLY, PHYSICALLY AND FINANCIALLY ABUSED BY MY SISTER CHERYL .

[@byrolyn8182]

MEL B HAS PTSD.

[@shamailaahmed7442]

Really didn't like how this interview was conducted. They kept interrupting her and insensitively bringing her back into her personal trauma. For Gods sake she's come out of something horrific and the interviewers are speaking and questioning her as though it's a fictional fairytale

[@Teddietonbear23]

My daughter new boyfriend is keeping us away from her for 3 years and now moved. Give up the 4 kids. Coz the new boyfriend didn’t like them all. How can I get her some help. She’s not aloud to see anyone !!!😢😢

[@SusieQ156]

Call a domestic violence line ! And access information- from organisations that can help her , there are many organisations online - lm a Social Worker by the way !

[@byrolyn8182]

CHERYL DAVIS IS MY ABUSER. SHE SAID THAT I ABUSED HER. WILL AN ABUSER ADMIT TO ABUSING SOMEONE.

[@ItaHayes]

Never, listen to Dr Armani master class on Narcissism.

[@sljones9103]

I was a abuser but I went on a DV programe I'm now cured

[@thepurestbashir-xr5ex]

I been here

[@geminiloves]

Wow

[@yvonnelovell5751]

It’s witchcraft. The narcissist puts a spell on you to awaken you.

[@byrolyn8182]

MY SISTER FINISHED 1ST IN HER VILLE PLATTE HS.. IN COLLEGE SHE GRADUATED WITH AT LEAST A 3.8 GRADE POINT AVERAGE. SHE WAS ACCEPTED TO THE NUMBER ONE FINANCE SCHOOL IN THE COUNTRY. MY FAMILY IS WELL KNOWN IN OUR COMMUNITY. PEOPLE WILL COVER FOR HER EVEN MY COUSIN GRACE WHO WAS A FORMER CHICAGO PD INVESTIGATOR. LAST YEAR WHEN MY SISTER WOULD GRAB ME OUT OF BED WHICH REQUIRED 3 STEPS. I WAS AFRAID TO FALL AND HAVE A CONCUSSION HITTING THE STEPS.

[@elizabethking7198]

I'm so sorry to hear what you're going through and I hope you find some support. It's so disgusting how often power is abused, and how the person in serious distress is continually dismissed because of that power difference. We're are so messed up as a society. I'm sorry.

[@karentaylor6894]

When I was taken back to the police station I said there's no marks anyway I wanted to go for a cigarette and that's why pointed that out I wasn't aloud I was told they didn't know where he was in the station I later found out he'd been told if you want a cigarette have one now when he was in the yard he didn't know I'd been told I couldn't the two cops that dropped me home were completely silent they didn't even take me to my front door they dropped me a little bit further down the road to where I live

[@byrolyn8182]

MY SISTER CHERYL SAID ON THE FALSE HEALTH WARRANT THAT I WAS THE ABUSER.

[@sljones9103]

Im a abuser i regret what i did 😢

[@byrolyn8182]

I AM AFRAID TTHAT SHE WILL FILE A FALSE MENTAL HEALTH WARRANT AGAIN.. I HAVE MILD PTSD FROM MY EXPERIENCE. THE SCREAMING IS THE WORST THING TO HAPPEN TO ME.

[@amyclarke41]

aww poor Mel b so shocking she was treated that way ax

[@byrolyn8182]

JOHN JAMES IS CHEAP. YOU CAN'T AFFORD THE BOOK.

[@koipoi8111]

And she isn’t a narcissist ?

[@mamiecollins9761]

No where near as bad as your relationship, this why people don’t tell their story

[@elinaj3689]

what?

[@byrolyn8182]

MEL B IS NOT TO BLAME FOR THE ABUSE. THE LADY ON THE SHOW WITH THE BAD HAIR IS WRONG.

[@ecaldwell9]

Interview w/ short-hair seems like she could care less about her Guests story. That she’s more focus on expressing what’s on the timed agenda.

[@JohnJames-vt5xk]

I wonder why she doesnt make her very useful books free of charge

[@Naomi_thegirlGodmade]

Why would someone who took time and pains to write something sell it for free? What kind of mentality is that?

[@JohnJames-vt5xk]

@@Naomi_thegirlGodmade first we both know she did not write it and spent no time on it. And the mentality is of someone tired of these people creating stories of so called abuse to sell stuff.

[@msakeeba]

Same reason why you don’t work for free.

[@broookehunter]

@@JohnJames-vt5xkYour comment is pathetic

[@Lietotajvards9]

​@@JohnJames-vt5xk she didnt lie tho