Losing My Best Friend

[@hiseagle]

Just saw this video while browsing your page. It's 3 years later, but I'm so very sorry for your loss. Trey was the definition of what a friend is, and you were blessed to have him in your life. Peace to you.

[@craymccray954]

You were truly blessed to have a special friend like that

[@DrummondCulture]

Agreed! There isn’t a day I don’t think of him!

[@alexanderallan9392]

You are such a tender soul. Evil people are drawn to people as wonderful as you, I'm glad he saved you from your ex. I have missed you and your videos , you are beacon of love and joy . Its always a pleasure to hear your voice , I just want to hug you. and let you know you are going to get through this . He will always be with you in spirit , he will continue to watch over you . Thank you for being you.?

[@SeanShimamoto]

First off, I wanted to offer my deepest condolences. Thank you so much for bearing your soul to us! You may never realize how much of an effect you have on the lives of us strangers...but I just wanna convey to you that it’s IMMENSE. I love that you share not only the good times, but the bad/hard/sad/rough/sensitive times because we ALL have those feelings. I think you are such a beautiful man...in every sense of the word. I wish there were more Christians out there like you, more compassionate people out there like you, more gay people like you, more people who are willing to share your body issues, etc. You really are going to make some man a really lucky guy. Trey sounds like a WONDERFUL person! He sounds a lot like my friend, Don, who has always been there for me. When I got into a doctoral program in Oakland, Don took a flight from Oakland to Honolulu to help me ship my boxes up...and then the next morning he flew back to Oakland. Yes, he flies for Delta so it’s cheap to fly/ship stuff, but that’s a 4 hour flight in each way and it was on his days off. Like you said, we don’t find people like that very often...so I’ve always felt that we need to cherish those people, and we need to tell the world about them. I hope you do get to read this post and if you ever need someone to talk to, please don’t hesitate to email me at [e-mail]. I live a world away from you, but I’ve gotten so much from your videos and I wanna give back if I can...so please never hesitate to email. In Hawai’i, we have something that we call “the Aloha Spirit”, which is basically our life mantra here...and it’s about helping strangers, being kind to others, always looking out for more vulnerable people and having their back, etc...basically “the Golden Rule”. 😍🏳️‍🌈🤙🏽

[@mikeacord5329]

I am so sorry that you have lost someone so wonderful. The pictures are beautiful. Trey was so handsome! And I can tell that he loved life and had many friends. Stay close to your friends now. Treasure the memories you have of Trey. Grief takes time. Don't be afraid to speak with a grief counselor. They can help you. Sending you lots of love.

[@DrummondCulture]

He really was an amazing person!

[@davidwoo3999]

There's a light and it never goes out! You had a wonderful friend and now you are that light that he gave you and it will never go out! Thank you for this.

[@johnanthonyyoung1594]

This story of your friendship with Trey really tugged on my heart. We all deserve a person like him. It breaks my heart to hear your pain. All I can relate this to is the loss of my husband in 91. It almost broke me. I thank God for u in my life. You share your love & wisdom with so many. Bless u Drummond!

[@annkatrin8905]

It takes a lot of courage to show yourself so vulnerable, you can be very proud of that. You really are an incredible soul and you are needed. He's still there and goes your way with you ... he just changed the shape.

[@peterclarac3670]

Sorry for your friend Trey, stay strong you have alot of people praying for you!

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you!

[@Neurozumim]

My condolences for your loss. Personally my best friendships disintegrated over time, so it feels strange to know that if I ever meet new people, it doesn't mean it will last despite the best promises. You have to live the good moments as they come.

[@DrummondCulture]

Good friends are the ones sticking it out for the long run. I’m sorry you haven’t found any long term friendships in your life yet. They will come!

[@shawnbrooks5333]

So sorry for your loss both for the loss of a loved one and loss of a rock in your life. sending love and strength

[@robertcorbitt1305]

What a very special man your friend was! I am that he graced you life with his love.

[@PatrickDiehl]

So sorry about your loss. I have been going through losses too. I lost one of my best friends in a car accident around the Christmas holiday. Also in May one of my best friends got in serious trouble. Been feeling depressed and alone. Time will heal. I am here for you. You are loved.

[@lpforever6273]

I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this. Grief is one of our most difficult emotions to go through, the loss and being left behind and having to cope without that support. A true friend, an advisor, a counsellor, a strength in your past. Good that you knew him so well. Not sure if the channel met him in any of the earlier vids. Such a generous and kind person lost to us. Sorry you had the health scare too, someone as young as you should not have to deal with that at this time.

[@jameshorn2809]

May you see as the days grow on , love dose not die.... You will find peace in your heart, you have a beautiful soul. Know that, people you don't know are praying with and for you.

[@nicholasroby8936]

My God, You have endured enough in your life and then to loose your friend Trey . What a wonderful man Trey was and will remain in your heart for ever, and he will keep you safe as you internalize the love and caring he had for you

[@АлексаМладић]

So sorry for your loss. You have a kind heart! You were lucky to meet each other, cherish the memories. rip ❤️❤️❤️

[@TheGrego916]

I understand my best friend died 8 years ago and I still miss him dearly. Much peace to you and know you're human for feeling the way you are. So sorry for your loss

[@alexandergrosvenor1043]

You are the most beautiful, sensitive soul. I can’t bear your pain. Life can be so cruel. You are so lucky to have found such a special human being even though he was taken away from you too soon.

[@legoshirocha]

Stay strong!!!! He's in a better place now He's going to be there always with you !! 😔

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you! And I sure hope so! It's so hard moving forward knowing he won't be here with me

[@dzmitrysizykh4964]

I'm so sorry for your loss. Just keep him in your heart. This is the best thing you can do. I'm sure he wouldn't be happy see you crying.

[@pspecs]

Trey was no doubt a one of a kind man. However, there are a lot of sweet, kind, caring, wonderful people out in this world. Treasure the memories you have and open your heart to another Trey coming into your life.

[@hectorabcdefg9076]

I lost my best friend 7 years ago when this guy told everyone in town i was gay. I still miss him. I never found anyone else that could feel that emptiness.

[@kenvanderveer623]

Your friend Trey was obviously your Guardian Angel. He is still watching out for you. I know that losing a good friend is perhaps the hardest thing to get over in the whole world...just know that someone is praying for you. Stay strong.

[@kirkpeterson8404]

What you've done with this video was, I hope, very therapeutic in dealing with your grief. I too have been shunned, made to feel invisible, and less then. You've experienced a love that God had for you. You'll always carry that pain, but it does lessen over the years. Sometimes it comes on hard for a day. Other times it comes on and stays for awhile. I pray healing has been taking place. You have a support system with your other friends and hopefully, your family, that has been beneficial to you. Thank you and God bless you.

[@robcunningham7837]

What a beautiful sole.....A shoulder and hug are here in Ohio for you anytime. I am sending you strength through my thoughts and prayers. I hope to meet you someday to let you know how inspiring a message your videos are sending out to the universe. I found your site by accident and have binged on your videos. Take care my friend. With love. Rob

[@DrummondCulture]

Awe thanks for watching my videos and for such a sweet heart felt comment

[@joearceneaux2083]

You are loved never let that light go out Trey is watching over you he loved you in his on way as you to him an no one can ever take that away from you he took your love with him.an that sun rises its him giving you hope an strength. So stay strong

[@Dawg1976]

Save those memories! You are loved!

[@cristianchacon5101]

treasure him in your heart and your souls with be one again. Hugs!

[@joshuameyer7925]

stay 💪, I have lost my friend a few year ago too. Time will heal us no matter how painful is it.

[@Simplethings-rg6wu]

I am really sorry for your loss. ❤

[@Rich_1989]

I'm sorry that you were going through a rough time, but glad that you had someone like Trey to lean on. And how horrible that he is now gone, as you said, way too soon. Give yourself time. You said it's only been a week? Grief takes time. Get some help if needed. But allow yourself to...be. It is great to see a video from you again. Just wish it was under better circumstances. Although if this serves as an outlet, feel free. Hugs and peace.

[@joearceneaux2083]

He is that bright star at night.

[@jetcoach]

Hugs Buddy! I’m sorry! Wish I had a friend like that for 1 day.

[@Ovrcnvr]

I lost a longtime cousin of mine and at first it didn't hit me. Until that day at the funeral when we were saying goodbye I started crying. Now every so often at his accident site I still feel a bit sad because he's not here anymore.

[@mikesergo4471]

Sorry for your lost ... Really hard to find someone can trust and lean on.

[@DrummondCulture]

It’s definitely been hard finding someone like him.

[@mikesergo4471]

@@DrummondCulture I can feel that and wish one day you will find the guy who can make your life fill of happiness. Besides, you are gorgeous and handsome 😘 I can be your friend and will be here forever supporting you .....

[@pdd6267]

It hurts to loose someone you care deeply about. He gave you the gift of time, which is more special than anything material. Tears for a loved one slowly wash out the pain -- there's no reason to rush it. If you believe in angels, then he'll be with you for many years. It's good that you are headed to Vidcon and not let this hold you back. Have patience with yourself -- the healing inside takes years.

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you so much for your comment. It means a lot

[@maverickrandall271]

2 years have passed.hope ur doing good now.God bless...

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

Very sad. It looks like you have other friends to help you through that time. At least you have had someone close or friends in general. Some of us don't have that luxury.

[@DrummondCulture]

Be careful what you assume. I may have other people around me but none of them come close to the kind of friendship I had with Trey. I’ve been struggling to find someone in my life that could come anywhere close to his love and friendship. Someone can be completely surrounded by people and not have any special connections with them. One struggle I’ve had in life is people assume I have so much in life so they just walk on by and leave before getting to know me. We all need friendships and connections with other people.

[@Rage_Harder_Then_Relax]

@@DrummondCulture Still have that luxury by the sound of it. Good for you.

[@xle4087]

You are going through the grieving process and your reactions are very normal. Eventually, each day will be a better day. It takes me 3 years after the death before i can resume my life before the death. Your boss is an A-hole and you can fight against his harassment. In regards to your opening statement regarding the lump on your leg...the medical system for the most part is broken, but when I think of bad things when they happen to me, I know so many people are experiencing worse situations. I think of those kids at St. Jude's and my issue is miniscule compared to their's. My condolences about your friend Trey. Shit happens every day to everyone, but it will get easier as time moves forward.

[@thenativeamericans]

so touching

[@DrummondCulture]

I miss him so much!

[@thenativeamericans]

I believe that

[@thenativeamericans]

thanks

[@gabrielnore8349]

Keep him in your heart for ever and enjoy Lief you ar a nice angle

[@ConFuoriginal]

Im so sorry for your loss!

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you

[@randomuser4014]

💖so sorry man

[@DrummondCulture]

Thanks

[@kappa4321]

Thank you for highlighting my comment. I appreciate your approval.

[@DrummondCulture]

No problem! Hope you’re doing well 😃

[@gordonsmith9153]

sorry for your lose i i also lost my best friend!

[@joearceneaux2083]

We are here for you joe from Louisiana

[@scotthiggins6530]

I know that feeling I lost my best friend 18 yrs ago. He was in an accident with a semi and it killed him I was suppose to have been with him that day. He died 1 wk after my aunt died.

[@kappa4321]

Sorry for your loss. Great video...took a lot of balls to do.

[@ashleyball2945]

i love u! hugs!!

[@DrummondCulture]

Awe thanks Ashley! Miss you

[@MrDougmartin]

I know this video was made two years ago, but it's such a sweet eulogy for what sounds like one of the nicest persons to grace God's earth. These are the moments that make you question life. The thing is that you get through it and with the help of others remember and cherish that friend ship. I lost a few dear friends to HIV. Friends like yours that where taken too early. The pain in the beginning is so hard to deal with, but now I have the wonderful memories and think of them so often. So in one way they're still alive. I'm sure your friend will be with you as you go through life, just the way mine have. A poem by Emily Dickinson (my version) help me through - This world is not conclusion another stands beyond as invisible as music as positive as sound. Thanks for a beautiful video.

[@marfiysusentretenimientos4043]

Gott bless you!

[@jeffalger5237]

You are a precious soul. I am so sorry for the loss of your best friend. I am also so sorry for the abuse you have endured. Your best friend JESUS wants to be your Trey. I used to sell Rainbow vacuum cleaners in Morgantown. I was born in Winchester, Va. I pray that you find peace and happiness in your life. Thank you for sharing you life stories.:-)

[@DrummondCulture]

I’m in Winchester a few times a month for work stuff. Thank you so much for your comment. Jesus is definitely a huge part of my life.

[@jeffalger5237]

@@DrummondCulture we would have been best friends if we grew up together. Peace to you my friend.

[@jeffalger5237]

@@DrummondCulture I live in Chattanooga now. If you are ever down this way. I would love to meet you.

[@quitasistanumberone]

I'm right here with you dear...my best friend died this past November...and I feel like I live in a different world altogether. Like no one will ever understand again. I'm so sorry for your loss. You're welcome to chat back if you need. E-mail is wide open.

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you so much! Thankfully my friends have really stepped up their game to help me get through this. I went to Treys memorial service and met all his friends and family and coworkers and it was such a healing experience.

[@quitasistanumberone]

Drummond That's really awesome. I'll continue to pray for you. The pain is all too real.

[@gordonsmith9153]

trey sounds awesome!!!!!

[@DrummondCulture]

He really was

[@beadpoet]

*big hugz*

[@argo1221]

Damn, I am just in that situation now, and it really hurts. I am European and I had a long distance relationship with a Latino. I spent a lot of time in his country, but we eventually broke up. One day I discovered he found someone else, I was desperate. I tried to contact him but he never answered me back. I went to see him but he refused to talk to me (he lived with his new boyfriend). As I was staying for 3 weeks, I met people and made a friend. This guy was very nice to me and he took care of me so well. When I was leaving, he asked me out. As I suffered a lot before, I first said no. But he looked so sad that I finally accepted. And so began a new relationship. Unfortunately, he was not very honest about his life and we broke up. But we stayed friends for year, talking by Skype or Whatsapp, he was still there in my life. But recently, he decided suddenly to stop talking to me. He cut me from anything without any explanation. I tried to find a response but never got one. I think he got in couple or else, but knowing what I lived with my ex boyfriend, I am disgusted he would reproduced the same thing, knowing how hurt I would be.

[@charledornan5880]

Oh honey you’ll get these all through

[@leonmichael3322]

Panda bear hugs

[@Tripper111]

So sorry Bud...

[@DrummondCulture]

Thank you

[@videodocarrha]

I am truly sorry about your loss, about your good friend losing his life in such young age and tragic accident. It’s been a while, I know, but if I may, let me share with you what’s changed my way of seeing death. Read: The wheel of Life, by Elizabeth Kubler-Ross. Hugs from Brazil; come visit someday.

[@xelzevach9292]

Gay people are Fantastic, awesome, with a beautiful heart, humble, helpful, nice funy like you and your best friend. i hope God give you peace knowing that you friend is not with you fisicly but He is in Spirit don't doubt it people like your friend can't disappear cause many people love him. My dear frien I'll be praying for you and just to let you know you have a friend here when ever you need to talk ok. Love you may GOD bless you...!😘😘😘

[@masonpalomo6758]

Hi. I just saw you at a pizza place in Anaheim. I was too scared to come up to you, but I have been a fan for quite a while. I don't know if you'll see this but I'm hopeful.

[@DrummondCulture]

Awe you should have come up and said hi. I wouldn't have minded. I'm actually pretty awkward myself when people come up and talk to me.

[@xadam2dudex]

Its time to sue your boss

[@DrummondCulture]

No my boss anymore.