Love Is Blind BLAMES Women For ALL Relationship Problems!

[@allegedly5416]

Diamond was WRONGED by this show, she deserves better!

[@GraceReport]

10000%!!! Justice for Diamond!

[@MsDesiree39]

she picked the man!

[@melidawilson1931]

She didn't know the bit of info about Carlton and he tripped out about it when she was just trying to talk about it. She had got a different guy than the the one she wooed over in the PODS.

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Allegedly if a was her I will sue them! Because they robbed her

[@DubsTV93]

@@beatricedevarenne2621 For real, the show is male and female couples for marriage. *Them all being hetero was an assumption the show led everyone to believe.* Completely wronged Ms. Diamond!

[@xoMari24]

My husband caught this from just watching one episode. He thought it was extremely odd how nearly every guy on there was portrayed as romantic, and in good light.

[@GraceReport]

You married a good one!!!

[@raheezamajeed2615]

Grace Report does he have a brother or two for me and grace lmaooo jk 🤍😂

[@MsDesiree39]

not Diamond's man or Mark

[@smarti1144]

You got a keeper

[@stardustmaster12]

How was that black dude, mark and Damien portrayed like good people? Lol diamonds partner in the show was insecure and really mean when they got out of the pods. Damien was sooo cringe and acted like a baby most of the time, seemed really insecure. Mark was a nice guy, like the internet version. All of them were cringe

[@roussebidon]

That’s why I take these type of shows with a grain of salt. I need Netflix to send me the unedited footage because that’s where the real tea is lol 😂

[@GraceReport]

SAME! I'm sure what they cut out was even more interesting than what made it to air

[@TheKatarinaGiselle]

Right?!

[@dani09eveline]

I mean most of it is kind of obvious. People don’t use logic when it comes to these type of subjects especially love. Producers take advantage of this. What is wrong with a woman beings, too picky, a gold digger and all the other things she says at the end of the video? Because those things aren’t “politically correct”? How dare Jessica who makes six figures and is a grown woman want a stable grown man and not a love sick 24 year old. Women aren’t allowed to want what they want in this world today but men can pick and choose. Oh and because the media will jump right on you for not going on with what they feel like is “the right thing to do” when they aren’t the one that have to live there lives or looking for that love or spending the rest of their life with that person.

[@anz10]

@@dani09eveline ah such a great comment, so many self righteous people everywhere and who know what the "right" thing is to do, especially in comment sections.

[@dani09eveline]

anz10 that’s why I try to stay out of the comment sections. But I have adhd and it’s hard for me to just watch a video and not do other things. But most people commenting are either trolls or just need to get a life. They aren’t in the real world. They are watching and not living.

[@deehines5750]

Did you see Carlton's radio interview? That guy has severe issues and he made the hosts of the show unable to do their job with his constant temper tantrums. It's absolutely unacceptable to make Diamond out to be biphobic because he lied by omission.

[@ladyofthelivingskies1440]

Dee Hines yea I watched it on KZbin he was driving me insane I couldn’t even listen to it all I’m surprised that lady kept her cool the whole time I probably would of lost it on him and put him in his place

[@GraceReport]

Yes I uploaded it to my channel! I couldn't even tape the full thing because his toxicity drained me so badly!!

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Grace Report me too

[@momlifeonthedailey1374]

I agree. He asked her to marry him without telling her who he was! And then he was the victim!?

[@dysmissme7343]

He also started treating her like shit the second the got to Mexico

[@1NV4S10N]

I thought Carlton was fake from the get go. Never liked him.

[@GraceReport]

Same. I GAGGED when he talked about having his "pick of the litter" in women 🤢 Who even talks like that?? He was doing such a poor job of straight man cosplaying lmao

[@MackDaddyPhillips]

Grace Report Hey, I have to apologize. At first I thought you were dead wrong on some of your analysis, example I thought Kenny really loved Kelly. Now after some research I see that you have been sooo right about everything. If you ask me it was the producers that were master manipulators. Also I agree about Mark 100% what kind of man would keep acting like he loves a woman that clearly is not attracted to him. And Carlton has major, major, issues.

[@Wills4gottenbday]

Carlton said he had "chosen" to pursue women despite being bisexual then he had SERIOUS emotional struggles. I think he is gay and lying about being bi to give his family hope that he might be straight then he did this show to try to push himself into being straight then FREAKED OUT when he realized he is gay. I truly believe this is the case.

[@salamander8301]

Yeah that bug eyed skinny dates super models'... I felt my ovaries rupture when he was like 'you make daddy Happy'

[@painoftheheart12]

The way he switched after the pods

[@Tamegb34]

Barnett was shady to lead 3 women on and to make Jessica choose between him and Mark when he either wasn't sure or never planned on choosing her. He made sure he had choices and the other women didn't. THE SHADE!

[@GraceReport]

YUP! He should've been confronted for it at the reunion because it was incredibly unfair and toxic.

[@MsMaNdiePiE]

I don’t think he led them on he was “dating” and trying to figure out what he wanted. In the reunion they all were still “dating “. He was open and honest about who he talk to. It was apart of the show to date multiple ppl. They just didn’t show all the “dates”. At the reunion they said they still was dating others at end. When Damian and Lauren talk about the voices they used. They never showed them 2 date though.

[@mojadah10]

AMANDA M. He was real bothered that Jessica was most interested in Mark and saw to it that HE’D be her 1st choice even if she wasn’t his. Then he gave her that, “I’d marry you tomorrow” BS. Then proceeded to dump her. He definitely led her on, IMO.

[@MsMaNdiePiE]

mo jadah selective hearing “if there were no the girls in the house or guys in the house i would marry you tomorrow” they put their eggs in the Barnett basket he was clearly exploring his options that was the idea of the show 🤷🏽‍♀️. They were “dating other guys” they just like Barnett they didn’t keep their options open

[@MsDesiree39]

they were supposed to date or talk to many pple until they found the one

[@MissMaweja]

Gi needs to cancel Damian. You never met his parents in 2 years? Nope. Cancelled. Edit: Thanks for the likes!

[@CarminaAmza]

I think she also likes the attention they get as a couple, notice how they mostly invite the ones who stayed together to do shows etc?

[@MissMaweja]

@@CarminaAmza I did but I believe Gi wants to make it work🤦🏿‍♀️

[@GraceReport]

Agreed! I think she's codependent with low self esteem, sadly. And Damian seems to be building a trauma bond to make it even harder for her to leave. His humiliation ritual at the wedding sealed the deal for me.

[@MissMaweja]

@@GraceReport I totally agree! I still wonder how they got back together. If you are left at the altar, isn't that the end? Sigh and she is so young and business savvy it's tough to watch...

[@anz10]

@@MissMaweja if he had told her he would say no at the altar and gave his reasons that wouldve been fine but he didnt he waited until the altar to say no!

[@Breevis29]

I spotted how Barnett allowed Jessica to talk crap about Amber and comfortably flirt with him. I think he still liked the fact that there was another girl still into him. Deep down he was hoping for a cat fight in Mexico.

[@GraceReport]

YUP!! He's shady AF & I'm surprised a girl as tough as Amber didn't call him out for it. Hopefully she's at least voiced her concerns at home, off-camera but she would've totally deserved an on-camera apology from him.

[@allegedly5416]

He loves attention from women, it's sad. What grow man needs to be validated like that? Gross! He ultimately chose Amber because she'll always consider and treat him like some great prize and his ego needs it.

[@cherishoneal9108]

I guess yeah. I guess him not taking Jessica’s bait made me overlook that.

[@nyanzarojas8776]

Grace Report Apparently they had a night long fight over his and Jessica’s behavior on the show.

[@konye618]

Oh super shady

[@AbbzJordan]

I didn't liKe Barnett from the first episode. The only reason he even showed interest in Jessica was after Mark had said he had a connection with her. Barnett played Jessica! Then for him to even entertain those conversations with Jessica is not only disrespectful but further strings Jessica along giving her false hope.

[@GraceReport]

YUP!!!! He needed to be called out for his conduct - it was gross to watch him force her to make a decision, only to keep his own options open after she committed to him, then continue creeping behind his fiance's back 🤢

[@StopPlayingAtLife]

I said that too. He let her in then flipped the script real fast on her when she got serious.

[@Tamegb34]

I definitely agree!

[@insanejane522]

I agree 100%

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

Abbz Jordan both are flawed. Jessica dumb thirsty And berrent is a jerk Jessica did a good job dumping him but when return back for a second try she lost all sense from me

[@lydiamoon5235]

You are absolutely right about the show's bias against women. Each woman was portrayed as problematic while the men got Prince Charming edits. I also missed the circumstances surrounding Amber's financial situation. That changes my whole perception of her. Plus, I'm also still mad that those sorry show hosts pressured Diamond into apologizing to Carlton on the reunion show. Really show??? Diamond should sue the show's producers for emotional distress. I'm so glad you're speaking on the show's shadiness. Whew, Chile! The misogyny.

[@GraceReport]

Thank you!!! It was too glaring to ignore!

[@thenjiwemeyiwa167]

Spot-on

[@leaveswillgrowback]

But they mentioned the abortion issue in the show

[@Julia-zz1gq]

@@leaveswillgrowback but not in relation to her debt. I liked her since she talked about the abortion and how she got no support from her bf/he pushed her to do it

[@1NV4S10N]

I never liked Damien. How he spoke to Lauren at Barnetts birthday party, then the subsequent argument with Gianina.

[@angelmushahf]

what happened at Barnett's b-day party? How was he talking to her? I didnt watch the show so I'm curious

[@GraceReport]

He seems so socially inept lol. He should've just apologized and kept the convo moving instead of making it weirder. But Gianina storming off and yelling at him in front of everyone was totally uncalled for!

[@1NV4S10N]

@@angelmushahf With an air of unfavorable familiarity bordering on contempt when Lauren made the comment regarding her being alone for a long time!! When she was aware of his rudeness she tried to defuse the situation but he came back with a moderately aggressive response and that's when Giannina walked off and it broke away into a heated argument between the two of them. Which initially stemmed from her being embarrassed about his behavior in front of others!!!

[@nyanzarojas8776]

Lauren said that scene was edited weird and the conversation wasn’t that Awkward at all.

[@aspyn.j_]

I think he was negging her.

[@cherishoneal9108]

I think Gianina’s manic moments is a lesson. That “spicy” Latina trope is not cool.

[@GraceReport]

Yeah, it's very disappointing and predictable. Their interactions felt to forced and orchestrated.

[@cynthialebon4239]

She's italian, no?

[@cherishoneal9108]

Cya Later Venezuelean

[@anz10]

@@GraceReport I felt giannina was sometimes blowing up at him just to test if he would stay if he pushed him. Sometimes it was genuine annoyance with him and him being a bit passive aggressive back etc but sometimes it felt like she was testing her boundaries

[@Introvert73]

anz10 self sabotage that’s all

[@lstarsabb]

Thank you! I could not look at Giannia and that guy relationship the same after he left her at the altar after gaslighting her with that huge date and she "change" because he threaten her he would leave her. I pissed me seeing comments where people say she was crazy just because she was a loud and blunt at arguing. You are the only person that called the guy out for always pending the issues on her. I was so anger watching the reunion and him saying again it was all her fault and her saying it, but no one calling him out.

[@GraceReport]

Those silent types are the ones to watch out for!!! They know how to play the game to make everyone think you're a hysterical psycho while they're calm and rational. My ex was one of those. He cheated on me through half our relationship with a mutual friend but acts like the complete victim in everything. Some people truly f*cking suck & it takes experiencing them to be able to easily identify their type.

[@MsDesiree39]

she's an immature nut job

[@lstarsabb]

@@GraceReport Wow! i'm so sorry had to go through that sometimes i think mental abuse is worst then physical abuse. But i so glad that you found your worth and got out of that toxic relationship.

[@Mandiepink1]

Girl did you see the et interview with diamond and Carlton??? He said he’s trying to take her out!!! She just played it off. At this point she just needs to get through the interviews.

[@GraceReport]

Yup! He's trash, esp how at the end he asks her to reveal her body count. For what?? Such a weirdo!

[@Samzillah]

Did you see him fucking get down on his knee with the ring? I couldnt believe it. He played the victim soooo hard when he was the asshole the whole time. He knew he should have been up front about it and instead hid it and then acted like she was wrong to freak out.

[@anz10]

@@Samzillah but why is it such a bad thing that hes bi? And that he took 2 weeks to tell her? I dont get it. Yes they were engaged but it was 2 weeks !!! Moreover he wanted to talk to her face to face. Also him being bi does not change anything about his level of love for her. Just cz hes bi does not make him not monogamous or more promiscious. Diamond questioned his loyalty and love with her questions to him. They probably come from ignorance and not malicious and he shouldve been patient with her and answered calmly etc and not taken it personally but I guess he didnt do that. Just because he is attracted to both genders doesnt mean he cant be in love with one person at a time. Love and attraction are two different things.

[@bea3045]

anz10 it’s bad because 1 some people don’t wanna date bisexuals, I don’t know why that’s so hard for some people to grasp that some of us women don’t wanna be with men who also like dicks and it’s THEIR choice. 2 he should’ve TOLD her in the pods cause that’s a huge thing to be hiding from somebody you’re about to marry, 3 he stole her opportunity to actually find love and marry some whose not an emotionally unstable ass. 4 both time he talked to her about it she remained calm despite him not telling her sooner while he had the audacity to play victim and act like a complete baby. So him being bi & not telling her was forgivable, it’s the way he acted about it that made matters worse.

[@Kdija89]

Damstraight! Pun intended.

[@ynazzra]

I’ll be the controversial one. I agree, the women were highly misrepresented and demonised. However, I sensed that the male experience was underrepresented in some areas. I wish the pressure to stand strong and have it altogether was explored more. Or what it means to be penalised for choosing abstinence. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@GraceReport]

That would've certainly been an interesting angle!! You often hear about how men don't feel worthy of lifelong partners if they're not successful, so it would've been great to see their takes on that as men of varying degrees of success.

[@katmartin6447]

I was excited in the first episode when the guy said he was a virgin; to see or explore his story would have been a perspective I would have been interested to see how women react to such “ purity”

[@brittanyvankesteren2505]

What bothers me is how it is always shown that men have to be strong or competitive

[@breesan4446]

Wasn't Damien at one point crying to G (during the vacation in Mexico) that he didn't really have a job back home...? And that was after he was being cold with her and she kept asking him what was wrong that he finally revealed that information to her...(I'm my opinion pressuring her to be sympathetic)

[@Chloeeezyyy]

Bree San he said that he wasn’t sure If he’d still have one because of how long he’s been gone. Basically he’s probably used all of his PTO. But GiGi readily assured him that she would be there for him financially if they were the case. Damien irked my nerves for the exact reason you pointed out.

[@redvelvetcakeYUM]

Gianina is a co-dependent & Damian is a *COVERT Narcissist* 😫 RUN Gia RUN! Go to a therapist! He is using every possible situation to love-bomb & dump you. Revenge is his motto! For embarrassing him on International TV, for saying “the sex was average & for cussing at him in front of everyone in the house! (which was out of line)!

[@GraceReport]

It's sad to see her light be dimmed by someone who's stringing her along :(

[@redvelvetcakeYUM]

Grace Report YES! She needs friends/family around her that have discernment/clairvoyance! To help aide in her “Love Is Blind” blindness.

[@Oudri125]

Yess you watch shallon lester too?

[@sweetgirly888]

Whats wrong w damien? Shes so beautiful and smart . Hes a Dumb ass

[@MsDesiree39]

tehre are reasons why she's single an only staying with him cause mo other man would put up with her madness

[@bethanyreed6827]

I really didn’t like Mark and Jessica’s relationship. Jessica was an established woman with her own house and a good job. Mark lived in a tiny apartment with room mates and wasn’t making the same kind of money. They also were in completely different places in life just by their age. I was glad that she told him no.

[@KatLovin]

Bethany Reed Bethany Reed I completely agree! It wasn’t so much their age difference but rather their difference in life stages. People do seem to have an easier time accepting relationships where a rich guy with a good job is with a woman who lives with roommates and makes significantly less money.

[@gailhopkins5767]

She knew she did not want him from the start!only except him after the guy barrett dump her!. She knew all about mark economics SISTUATION!. She did him wrong plain & simple. For 1 she though he was less than her whites stautes! & i blame him for allowing his self to believe another man left overs would want him. The guy plainly told him he did not want her after leading her on & mark said he would go after her. I knew he was reaching for a chick who did not care 1 wit about him or his feelings. Grace to all. gh

[@Smartyppq]

Maybe it’s the millennial in me but, 20,000 student loan debt doesn’t sound like a lot at all.

[@karimmadueno3257]

It is a lot when you didn't graduate from it. Total waste of money

[@creating1_c1999]

I'm a Y and I don't think it's a lot unless it served no purpose, especially for a veteran who could have received the GI if they appropriated their service time effectively.

[@melteddarkchocolate000]

It’s a lot when you’re broke

[@BlendedBarbieDoll]

It’s pretty average. Sounds like she may of been about 2 years in, I just paid off my remaining $20k but I earned my degree years ago $38k

[@ceciliasosaleger7714]

$20k in student loans is very different than the same amount in credit card debt. Even if she didn’t complete her degree, it’s not like this is the mark of a bad spending habit that will continue to grow because she can’t pass up a sale.

[@ramonaflowers2813]

You are 100% accurate. I think it's 100% the show doing the men were these white knights saving these problematic women even Lauren was seen as some sort of ice queen who needed her space. They also focused to much on Lauren's side. Her Dad not seem to have that much of a problem he was shedding happy tears at the wedding. Did anyone see that? And the one black guy that was evidently horrible to his fiance was giving praise for being brave. The Carlton situation will forever irk me, I'm glad he is no longer doing any press.

[@Elizabeth-uu5tv]

Yes!! I was telling my friends this! Also the crazy Latina trope is so upsetting to me. It's used to excuse all sorts of character flaws. I'm a Latina, I was raised by a very strong Latina woman and I would never treat someone the way she treated Damien. Her behavior was def bizarre. That being said, Damien is robotic trash so 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@GraceReport]

Yup!! It's such a tired stereotype to run with. Damien is stringing her along and it's very obvious. I hope she finds the strength to move on to someone more commital.

[@kristinasampson7504]

Not saying you're wrong, but Gia was dramatic AF!

[@Elizabeth-uu5tv]

@@kristinasampson7504 😆😆😆😆 true true

[@MsDesiree39]

Damian had his shit together and her insulting his sexuality on camera was not cool by any means

[@Elizabeth-uu5tv]

@@MsDesiree39 it was awful! I cringed. As for Damien, I just find him to have a very blah personality. I also hated his proposal, the whole bow and box thing was very cringeworthy too 😆

[@lizziebennet2084]

It is a relief to know that there is someone who thinks like me in relation to the women and men of this reality show. All of your analyzes were very eloquent and argumentative, congratulations! Women are being judged a lot.

[@GraceReport]

Thanks! It's sad how easily people can be convinced to attack women :(

[@thethrowawaythatstayed7055]

Grace Report so true but vids like this are important. I think it helps people unpack their own unconscious biases too.

[@1amissingno]

I feel bad for Jessica and that she got bullied for not wanting to get married to someone she barely knew and who she wasn't attracted to.

[@jessicaflach3615]

They did talk about ambers depression from her abortion in the pod with Barnett and she did mention she got hurt at work as well. Maybe, they didn’t focus on it but it was mentioned.

[@GraceReport]

They mentioned her abortion but didn't tie it to her debt! I don't remember anything about her injury airing, though

[@jessicaflach3615]

Grace Report ya your absolutely right, I thought that as soon as I wrote it lol!

[@Mmr52395]

I think they put it on Lauren’s family because Cameron had already been in an interracial relationship for 2 years where as Lauren had never been with someone white.

[@GraceReport]

I agree, but she said that it wasn’t an actual issue that they faced IRL. Production just forced her to keep harping on it for a storyline!

[@newwave2705]

I also think this was a subtle attempt at showing “reverse racism” on some all lives matter Nonsense. we’re always use to the white family not accepting the black person and they knew that might be too controversial in the current climate. Also, love Cameron but I think his family is probably boring and wholesome, so they cut their part out

[@sirchys]

Even if it wasn’t an issue, her dad scared me through the screen!

[@ramonaflowers2813]

I really dont think race was an issue Lauren was definitely attracted to him. Her mom seems to love him from the jump and although there were some tense lines from the Dad he was the only father I saw shedding tears on wedding day. Cameroon's parents looked cool as well but it would have been nice to see his side

[@Kissed_by_the_sunmoon]

sirchys why? Exactly what of her dad scared you through the screen?

[@punkinpunkin6524]

Oh wow, I completely misjudged Amber based on the narrative that the show spun!

[@GraceReport]

Same!!! My first video on her was so harsh now that she’s been able to talk about what didn’t make it to the show.

[@KatLovin]

I feel really bad for how I also judged her initially. I follow her on Instagram now and she seems like a much better person than she was portrayed. After learning the reasons for her debt I feel even worse. It really is frustrating that the show tried to make all the women look insane compared to the men.

[@artslushy4031]

For all women it’s important to recognise these toxic tropes in television are fuelled for entertainment purposes and should be called out thanks for this sis

[@GraceReport]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@cynthiamartinez2749]

So many more things coming out about this show is making me hate it now. This is a trash “experiment” that seems all one sided. It just shouldn’t be called an experiment Just another reality show. Nick is still salty Jessica wanted the divorce :))))

[@GraceReport]

Yeah, the info being leaked has ruined al of the magic for me. It makes the sexist motives clear as day.

[@ramonaflowers2813]

I'm really annoyed by this now

[@hawabangura6875]

Cynthia Martinez whose nick?

[@cynthiamartinez2749]

Hawa Bangura Jessica Simpson’s Ex Husband [hes one of the hosts]whom she divorced. The show aired around the time her memoir was released.

[@biancamarie971]

Carlton’s comments towards Diamond at the pool PISSED ME OFF. I couldn’t even BELIEVE the audacity or words flowing from his lips. BOY ASKING FOR A DATE NOW? keep it moving, sir... the next D is waiting for you.

[@Julia-zz1gq]

I was so upset watching this scene. His aggression and abusiveness hit me hard, I know men like him

[@LailahLynnTV]

BW get called the B word so often in the media I don’t think the producers even thought twice about how it affected Diamond. That’s probably why they had the hosts ask her if Carlton’s sexuality was the issue, not the disrespect. We as BW get disrespected so much in the media people become desensitized to it.

[@Julia-zz1gq]

I hated how they treated her at the reunion. He coming up to her to "apologize"..he had so much time to do it. I wouldn't even want to look in his face anymore, he is trouble

[@lashaunx1000]

Mark was super pathetic, like it was so obvious Jessica didn’t want him.

[@shardeabre]

Thank you so much for being honest this was literally such a toxic one sided view of a show 🥴 reality tv is becoming unbearable

[@GraceReport]

Thanks!! I was so sick of the women being relentlessly attacked then realized it was only happening because production purposely set them up to be. Very disappointing.

[@anz10]

Mark never takes no for an answer as if she has to like him whether or not she wants to or not. It's her fault if she doesn't revert back to being really into him. He also doesnt clean after himself in the flat he lives in, his flatmates call him out for being messy and not cooking etc. Yet he keeps telling jessica he is mature. He also talks about his mum way too much, who wants a guy who keeps talking about his mother 24/7. I wonder if he wouldve been so into her if he wasnt attracted to her. However he couldnt accept SHE just wasnt that attracted to him. He was also a bit creepy to get on the bed in his boxers the first night and she has to talk to him and say she doesnt want sex yet. I mean he cant be expecting sex like that. It would creep me out if a guy sat in boxers and no top on before I've slept with him. Creepy and immature

[@bea3045]

anz10 lol I always felt the same way about him getting on the bed. Like he just jumped on there with his “sexy” pose the first night, like wtf? He really was ready!😂

[@anz10]

@@bea3045 gross and creepy AF ..

[@charmaineespeut4627]

I'm glad I'm not the only one who side eyed Barnet. He was just as inappropriate as Jessica. If a woman is in your man's face all the time its because he allowed her to be in his face. You can be short with people,you don't have to have a long conversation if you know they have feelings for you. You can even avoid them. Low key I feel he was interested in Jessica but the cameras were rolling so he couldn't act on it. They know they are being watched so they can't really be their true selves.

[@GraceReport]

YUP!!!! And what's even crazier is that HE NEVER TOLD AMBER!! For a whole year and a half she had no clue about these convos!!! No wonder she was ready to call up a divorce attorney - that man is trifling AF!

[@mchandmusic]

Barnett played three women - where is the outrage??

[@Love-yk2du]

Omg I was fuming at him for taking their choices away and making sure he had choices. MF fuck boy deserves all of Amber.

[@freebd99]

You are truly offering the most unique, insightful and valid perspectives on this show. Thank you and keep them coming!

[@suras8984]

I wonder if it was portrayed because the women (minus Lauren and Diamond's relationships) were more overt so its easier to catch on film and the mens issues were more covert. Amber has a loud personality, Jessica was always drunk, Gianinna had outbursts that were camera worthy. Mark was always respectful nice and polite and passionate so his motives went under the radar especially since Jessica wanting to leave was not filmed. Damon was always calm which is a tactic that can be used to show that Gianinna is the crazy one; low key gas lighting but not always obvious on film. I dont really think Barnett got that great of an edit he did look like a player stringing women on to the proposal. They could have made Amber look worse with how the producer told you she was drunk all the time and rude to staff. The women seemed to be more open to talking about their past issues in relationships and the men didnt but that could also be the edit. It would have been nice to see them show the men talking about their relationship issues. They definitely edited the show with an agenda and gave the men a sympathetic edit.

[@GraceReport]

Very good point!! I think you're right. The women definitely have more captivating personalities than the men, and unfortunately it was used against them throughout the season! Mark is extra gross considering they both agreed to say no at the altar as well but he changed his mind at the last minute without telling her!!! He is relentless in his pursuit of making Jessica the bad guy & I'm amazed she even still talks to him - I sure as hell wouldn't. Well said about Damien - can you believe that when she was upset with him for blindsiding her he tells her to look at how she's acting and that she's always so dramatic like that?! Just WOW, man. I really liked your take on everything - well said! :)

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Very good

[@traciesmith7434]

I feel that Mark gets off scot free. Mark is portrayed as a victim when he is a guy that is only into looks and what he thinks is beautiful. Mark literally takes best down after shit show from Jessica just because she is a blonde and hot. He is only into her looks and money. He reminds me of Hugh Hefner.

[@GraceReport]

YES! How the heck does no one want to talk about what might be motivating him to stick around for that BS?? And did you see how he acted when Jessica suggested they get a prenup?! Very telling.

[@anz10]

He also never takes no for an answer as if she has to like him whether or not she wants to or not. It's her fault if she doesn't revert back to being really into him. He also doesnt clean after himself in the flat he lives in, his flatmates call him out for being messy and not cooking etc. Yet he keeps telling jessica he is mature. He also talks about his mum way too much, who wants a guy who keeps talking about his mother 24/7. I wonder if he wouldve been so into her if he wasnt attracted to her. However he couldnt accept SHE just wasnt that attracted to him. He was also a bit creepy to get on the bed in his boxers the first night and she has to talk to him and say she doesnt want sex yet. I mean he cant be expecting sex like that. It would creep me out if a guy sat in boxers and no top on before I've slept with him. Creepy and immature

[@ElenyM]

Mark and his crazy eyes 😳😳😳😳

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

Jolisa he’s Hispanic and in Hispanic culture married a white blonde girl is a prize

[@bea3045]

Jolisa Ikr. i thought the same thing. I’m not sure what he was gawking over her for especially with the way she was treating him. I’m like dude she’s not really all that. She’s just blond with blue eyes. That’s what got the best of him. I also think that he really needs to learn to value himself as well as well as being mature enough to know what makes a good a good partner. Even before he ever saw what Jessica look like he was willing to settle for second choice. It’s no wonder she was so turned off him.

[@doogee2648]

I found that his desperation was alarming, I didn't trust Mark when a mate all but tells you they're not interested and you still insist or disregard their feelings , that's a red flag.

[@fabulashbylex3918]

This video is spot on, all my thoughts exactly 👏🏽👏🏽

[@GraceReport]

Phew!! I was so nervous people would jump down my throat! Very disappointing to see women played like this

[@fabulashbylex3918]

Grace Report It is disappointing, I’m glad you brought it to light💁🏽‍♀️

[@mojo_pohl]

I really admire how you’ve updated your stance on the show after learning new information. Many people aren’t willing to do that.

[@jessicaflach3615]

I didn’t take Jessica’s comment as a dig to amber. I thought she meant they weren’t compatible like she thought her and Barnett were compatible and Jessica and amber are very different ppl, she even said that. Why can’t that just mean she thought his type was different not less than, just different.

[@chelseasellers1110]

This bums me out. I really liked the show but this changes my mind.

[@GraceReport]

Me too, honestly. It's just sad to see women constantly being scapegoated and forced to settle.

[@brianna3275]

Here's my opinion on some of the topics discussed in the video: 1:47 I agreed with most of what was said about Damien and G, but personally I don't think it's fair to say that Damien wasn't serious about the relationship bc his parents weren't involved. We don't know what his relationship is like with his parents, and he certainly can't control their actions. If they are unwilling to cooperate, that's not Damien's or Gianina's fault. 4:50 it was mentioned in the video that we never knew about Amber's traumatic experience during the show because the editors cut out this information. But we actually do get to hear Amber talk about her abortion during the show, she mentions it to Barnett in the pods. She also mentions her depression and her work injury. There's a later scene when they are in the kitchen and Amber mentions her debt, and that she wasn't able to finish college because of issues happening in her life at the time. It's not like this information was purposefully edited out, the producers just left it up to the audience to put the dots together. 9:49 I totally agree that the hosts were acting way too forgiving towards Carlton during the reunion, and they shouldn't have put his behavior on a pedestal in anyway. A lot of what he said to diamond was completely uncalled for and just unnecessarily harsh. But later in this video it's mentioned that the hosts bash Diamond and put her in a negative light. "the reason diamond is single is because shes too picky about her sexuality in a mate or shes too unforgiving". This is blown way out of proportion, the hosts never specifically said anything negative about Diamond. I wish that they didn't reward Carlton's awful behavior, but I certainly don't think they punished Diamond for it, they just kind of disregarded her stance (which still isn't great, but it's not nearly as pessimistic). 10:57 "he did not want to have sex with Kelly" that statement is totally False. Kelly is the one in the relationship who didn't want to rush things physically. She says time and time again that she wasn't ready to be physical with him. In a very specific conversation between the two of them we see Kenny asking her about it and Kelly responds "things are so perfect between us, I just don't want to throw that in the mix just yet". I definitely did agree with some of the things stated in the video, but I think it's important to attempt to see both sides. It's hypocritical to claim that the producers of "Love is Blind" are completely one-sided towards the men, and then go and be completely one sided towards the women. For example calling Mark manipulative is a fair point 12:15 its clear that Jessica wasn't fully invested, but it would've been important to mention that she definitely was sending mixed signals (like taking off her ring and then telling his family that she's all in). Often times this review felt more like the goal was to villainize the men of the show instead of actually state valid issues with the sometimes sexist editing. Even though it attempted to look at facts and be constructive, it was too extreme and biased to one side of the argument. I feel as though the points mentioned would be taken more seriously if the criticism was evenly portrayed by both sides.

[@alannashea6344]

I feel bad for Jessica it’s not her fault she wasn’t attracted to mark and I feel like she truly did try to be, I think her problem was the wine and it was obvious she was drinking to cope with having to be with him but when she got drunk she would want to talk to Barnett and would say things she probably regretted the next day. But she didn’t deserve to be bullied by everyone. Barnett was more in the wrong than her! And I think amber felt some type of way watching it back because she even dyed her hair blonde afterwards.

[@michaelbrock368]

I agree with most of what you said GiGi is crazy from the male perspective her unrealistic views of butterflies is a red flag. Idk why Diamond getting hate she just calling out dude for lying and she was trying to be accepting but he is so emotional it went left imo. Like your channel just had to comment

[@GraceReport]

Yeah, she definitely was a mess who got off on confrontations, but so was Damian. Well said about Diamond too - they really screwed her and excused the misogyny she faced from Carlton.

[@sosowat7379]

Thanks for the review! Barnett most definitely entertained Jessica. Barnett saw the cameras were rolling and didn't want to look bad. If he was really serious he would've shut Jessica down immediately and never met up with her again by the pool SN: Nick and Vanessa should not be hosting this show. They were so clueless (especially Nick) and missed so many good questions. I'm with you on the Carlton/Diamond situation. He verbally abused and humiliated her on tv and in social media but you are calling him brave for speaking on something that should've been shared before PROPOSING to her...ok

[@GraceReport]

He sure did!! TBH, it didn't even seem like Nick & Vanessa even bothered to watch the show. Their questions were so vague and pointless.

[@sosowat7379]

@@GraceReport Lol exactly! Don't bring them back. I would like to see Cameron and Lauren host next season. That would be cute.

[@weeziventures]

Agreed! If people were smart they would have noticed Barnett’s body language was completely different from what he was saying.

[@MissJJoan]

You’re awesome for sharing this much needed point of view on the show. I suspected from the very first watch that the producers of the show did not allow Jessica to leave and she was being so obvious about not being attracted to him, but Mark kept invading her personal space, it was unsettling to watch, especially in this day and age where men know better and there is no excuse.

[@TheCombatBunny]

YES! THANK YOU!! Mark creeped me out. He was playing this "nice guy" while Jessica continuously expressed how NOT into him she was. Yet he wouldn't accept that "no" and kept insisting that they had a connection and "if she would only see the light", they would be perfect together again. It's just really disturbing that Jessica was portrayed as being wrong for not accepting Mark after she saw him. Isn't that part of the experiment? That love isn't blind and these two are an example of that. Instead, Jessica is crazy for not wanting to be with Mark because he was confident that they were good together and continued to want her even when she didn't want him.

[@toonmili03]

Finally, someone is seeing the issue I had with Mark. I was also creeped out by him pouring Jessica more drinks when she read already drunk. Not saying the he had bad intentions or anything but I just hated Mark. I very rearly dislike ppl so much but I just read something totally different about him than what was portrayed and I just got a seedy and very creepy vibe.

[@rachelvaughn3035]

I agree

[@diamondlady693]

I notice when Gigi felt she got dirty and in the next shot with Damian her dress was sparkling clean. And at times she seem like she wanted to laugh.

[@gennathompson]

Girl, even on ellen after a year and a half Damian had said "I think were best friends now" like that's it, best friends. Boy bye!

[@GraceReport]

Right?? He is stringing that poor girl along and she’s too deep in it to see things for what they are 😭

[@gennathompson]

Really though that poor girl. It's so sad to see that.

[@charmaineespeut4627]

I thought Gigi was crazy but she had her reasons. She needs to leave him before he takes up all her good years.

[@sirchys]

He’s emotionally manipulative. I didn’t like him from the beginning.

[@chlorinelori1064]

And he is ugly, she is a princess

[@michalthebarbiedoll]

How they constantly asked diamond what she would do different , like she wasn’t just defending herself

[@GvannD]

I love this perspective. Didn’t even think of it like that until now.

[@GraceReport]

Thanks! Same here, this video contradicts my earlier opinions about quite a few people - especially Amber!

[@Hallelujur]

I felt this as well! Misogyny is one hell of a drug 🙄

[@GraceReport]

Here's a complete playlist of all my Love is Blind videos! bit.ly/2TYkdYV And here is Kenny admitting HE was the one who didn't want to have sex: instagram.com/p/B807_xWhxno/?igshid=1p558ymvwtrjs

[@jenlunceford]

U been going in! Thanku sis

[@GraceReport]

@@jenlunceford :) Thanks for watching boo!

[@fionadejonge6373]

Wooww THANK YOU for this great analysis, I agree 100%. I actually think Jessica was strong for staying honest about her reservations despite the strong expectations from Mark

[@hazeltropix1170]

Spot on. Jessica should have been allowed to leave.

[@marcson6096]

Those were just your thoughts. You said it for yourself. I say “EXACTLY”

[@alexamandes8872]

My boyfriend and I watched this together and would analyze the hell out of it because we knew they were all single for a reason and they ALL had their own issues but it’s so true that they focused on the women! I love how well you articulate your thoughts on these shows

[@notheothercarrie4181]

The Nick/obviously joke will never not be funny. 😂 I had to rewind when I saw that episode because, surely, he didn’t say that...but he did.

[@aglynch143]

One of your best videos. Insightful and interesting. No one breaks down reality tv like this

[@GraceReport]

Thanks so much!! ❤️😊

[@lashaunx1000]

I think some of the parents , just didn’t want to appear on TV.

[@trafficcontrol2420]

I know my family wouldn't wanna be on tv.

[@thegoldenhost]

Idk I saw somewhere they STILL haven’t met Giannina

[@AndieCaroo]

I thought the same, why every women on the show has the fault of everything?! it irritates me

[@GraceReport]

SAME. These women (except Lauren) have all been relentlessly attacked on social media, while the guys are treated as victims & heroes. It's gross to see.

[@MsDesiree39]

There were nomal women on the show

[@AN-gp7oz]

This is why I wait for your videos 😂 you bring all kinds of perspectives

[@emiliamendezm]

To be honest I’m not sure about the whole Kenny thing. I don’t think he had a girlfriend going into the show, first of all he seemed truly excited when he met Kelly’s parents and was genuinely happy when her mom welcomed him into the family, and he even invited his parents to meet Kelly’s, and also there’s scenes when he’s telling Kelly how is ready to have sex her and she’s the one who keeps pushing it off, so he’s absolutely NOT the one who didn’t want it, it was 100% her. Now having said that, I do think that it’s kind of messed up that he said yes if they had previously agreed to say no and continue dating, but did you see how he reacted when he was asked by the filming crew if they were going to keep dating, he looked seriously offended, like he just couldn’t believe they would ask him that after being so humiliated. You could also see that both families were REALLY surprised when Kelly said no, especially her mom, don’t you think that they would of told their families if they already knew what was going to happen, I feel like Kelly would of at least told her mom that she was going to say no, but the lady was absolutely shocked. So honestly I’m not too sure that I believe Kelly, she kept getting more sketchy throughout the show and seemed more and more like a liar. Other than that, I agree that there were a lot misrepresentations of the women in the show, especially Diamond, who ended up seeming like this biphopic and closed minded person, when she was really the victim of a manipulating and egotistical liar. Honestly Kelly and Carlton should hookup, maybe the could entertain each other with all their lies.

[@GRAYSONSM0M]

Girl the way you broke this down.... A WORD HONEY!! So articulate and classy! You go girl! You’re content is LIT!!

[@cewe2003]

Thank you so much for finally calling out Barnett. I said everyone is sitting there hopping on Jessica, but nobody had a thing to say about Barnett sitting over there engaging in all her foolishness. And not one time did he ever defend Amber. The dude is a complete douche bag.

[@GraceReport]

Amen!!! And I can't believe they swept it under the rug that he NEVER told Amber about any of those convos in the 1.5 years they've been married! That man is more "SHEISTY" than Jessica!!!

[@weeziventures]

I’ve been saying this for the longest! He was definitely interested in Jessica, you could tell by his body language. He was just nervous because cameras were around. He’s so shady!

[@karengrace6890]

I hope more people watch this because you made some very strong points! Mad respect for you, Grace!

[@pommie5093]

I am living under a rock as I just found out about this show a few weeks ago, lol. I'm not a fan of reality tv and all I have seen is little snippets of the show as well as a lot of parodies of the show. But, what you have said here is very important and way beyond the show itself as far as the way the women were betrayed and critical information left out of the storylines. After listening to your video, I could not agree more with what you have said. I just wanted to thank you for your eloquent description of each woman on the show and how each woman was betrayed in a negative light, with the man being the victim or savior. Thank you for your comments!

[@berryjoyabel]

I was saying this from the beginning and have voiced my opinion in the FB groups! I'm glad someone with a platform is finally putting it out there. Ugh. Especially, with Mark getting a walk. No one has addressed the fact that IF Mark and Jessica did the deed it would have most likely been with her intoxicated so what does that say about him? And that he pushed her to ignore her feelings when she said no time and time again? But he's the victim!

[@UeFdblU88c]

I’m so glad I found your channel because you just spoke about all the things that I thought while watching “Love is Blind” especially the Gia and Damian scenario.. like stop acting like this woman is just erratic and immature.. and I was tired of Damian mansplaining the reasons towards her actions.. like no getting married is a huge decision and how could she go into it whole heartedly without even meeting his parents and understanding the way he grew up and what his values were.

[@jennyking5954]

Grace, this was a very eye-opening and thoughtful video! Thank you for pointing this out- definitely a pattern we should all be aware of and beware of!

[@katiemccready9169]

This needs more attention! I'm so glad you made this ❤

[@hctompkins]

Barnett is a narcissist. Feel like this gets used too lightly but he really is. He chose amber because she was the most impacted through emotional manipulation. Amber will NEVER leave him. He just got his cake and got to eat it too. For the rest of his life he has a wife and mother to care for his children and household while he can entertain romantic relationships with whoever else he wants. Amber needs him, none of the other women needed a man to maintain their life. Amber wants to be a housewife. She gave up all her power and he preyed on it. She won't ever be able to leave him in the future. She'll be dependent on him.

[@angelscarlett3387]

So true, this has happened to me. It’s horrible and very very real & narcissist is used so lightly when in reality it’s very serious.

[@OpqHMg]

Glad you took some time to focus on Amber's difficulties. Found your first video on her a bit unjustifiably cruel... So good job for setting the record straight

[@jaimecrawkel5880]

This is why I LOVE you! You go beyond the surface to talk about motives by production that are meant to be unseen. That being said, they actually did do a focus on Ambers abortion while in the pods. However, they didn’t link it to her student loan debts further in the series.

[@jjthejetplane1794]

I’m loving your theories again! I loved the show and your reviews have helped me gain more insight into the story and the new information coming to light! I appreciate how you root for the underdog and you don’t immediately accept the produced storyline and you see the characters as people because they are! Keep up your awesome work. I’m your new subscriber who has returned to watch more!!! 😊😊❤️👋

[@Weeeeeeeeeg]

You are so articulate and I really like how you took this analysis to the next level. Kudos my friend 👏👏👏

[@veronicapereira3224]

Wow, awesome video Grace! Great analysis- I totally agree, now I have to watch the show again to pick up on everything

[@madamekookfilosoofia]

you changed my mind about the whole show. thanks for the video :)

[@ceciliasosaleger7714]

Great perspective. I didn’t watch the show, but have viewed several reaction KZbin videos just to find out what TV this was all about and you’re the only one I’ve seen bringing this up. I did wonder why no one was commenting on how Barnett’s indecisive nature directly led to some women being led on and the drama that ensued as a result. I was curious how he’d become a fan favorite. Your hypothesis answers my questions

[@briemode5766]

After the reunions and whatnot, I really feel for Jessica. She was made to be like a devil when all the other parties should also accept what they did. Everything is edited and we have no idea what actually really happened behind the scenes.

[@christelleklein5448]

Great video! It was really spot on! I finally understood why a lot of the scenes made me uncomfortable.

[@suras8984]

Vanessa Lachey low key admonished Amber to forgive Jessica and Diamond to take responsibility for the blow up. It was like she somehow felt she had moral authority but in defence of the aggressor.

[@GraceReport]

YUP!!! I was disgusted by the lack of accountability she gave Carlton & disappointed that she didn't press further when Amber talked about how she only found out about the side conversations through the show!!! Her husband has been hiding those convos for a year and a half! What the literal F*CK?!?!?

[@narutosbelievin]

This is precisely why you shouldn’t judge people so harshly without knowing their backstories.

[@samanthascarcella526]

I think Amber did talk about the abortion on the show(I remember her telling Barnett about it when asking about her react to an unplanned pregnancy I think) but it didn’t talk about her injury or his debt for sure. Also I watched a video of a therapist react to the show and he commented on how Gianina and Damien’s relationship seemed pretty healthy based on what was being SAID when they argued and also their contact during the arguments and how they made up after.

[@charmaineespeut4627]

I felt sorry for Diamond. She wasn't in the wrong at all. She was lied to and disrespected by a confused little sissy boy. For the hosts to overlook that just shows how much society is use to disrespecting black women.

[@anz10]

Sissy boy? That's not a nice thing to say and bi is a sexual orientation just as valid as straight or gay

[@charmaineespeut4627]

@@anz10 Sissy means afraid/coward. He is a sissy for not being honest with himself nor her. You are so concerned about me being bi phobic to a grown man you ignore the fact he called a black woman a bitch on national television. If I commented anything anti black woman you would have ignored it.

[@kamyaiyer4789]

Yessss ♥️♥️♥️ just binged all your videos and I agree with so much of what you say

[@00calimon]

I started to have the tiniest hunch about this 🤔 but bravo to you for addressing this. 🙌🏼

[@anissasolorzano9348]

Carlton is WAY too dramatic! When he told Diamond about his sexual fluidity, Diamond was shocked but accepting. Carlton made it seem like her surprise was rejecting him and JUDGING HIM!! This man is emotionally unstable; when he threw his hat and started crying, it was too much. He has a problem; he quickly switched up on Diamond even tho he supposedly "loved" her, disrespecting her just because she called him out on his deceitful ways.

[@Kadette21]

I agree with a lot of your statements but I still think Amber is an “aimless gold digger” who thinks being a stay at home mom will be relatively easy. I say this because she wore high heels & moved around and sat on things as if she wasn’t physically injured. Also, there’s plenty of part time jobs that don’t require much movement (for example, I working as a call center representative, assistant, secretary, etc.) especially in a big city like Atlanta. She also said she “doesn’t live to work” with an attitude that makes me think she truly hates working (we all do but we have to provide for ourselves and sometimes others). Finally, as traumatic is an abortion may be for some women, we’re strong enough to still function as responsible adults.

[@GraceReport]

I'm not sure where her injury is, so it's tough to lean one way or another without knowing! And the reason she couldn't work was due to the legal issues surrounding it - she wasn't allowed to! I do agree that her comments about work definitely didn't do her any favours. I just wish they brought up Barnett's debt as well to bring some balance to the conversation about money in their marriage!

[@nyanzarojas8776]

I hate how other women look down on and demonize women whose goal is to have kids and be stay at home moms. If her and her husband is on the same page what the heck does it have to do with anyone else? We live in a time where women can choose to be stay at home moms if they please.

[@Kadette21]

Nyanza Rojas I don’t think you properly read what I said. I wrote that it’s my belief that she THINKS it’ll be relatively easier than working full time (but it isn’t if you’re being a proper parent). Even before having kids, she could still do her part as a stay at home spouse by cleaning, preparing dinner, running errands, etc. But on the show, even Barnett said he doesn’t know what she does all day while he’s at work. Trust me, my mother was a stay at home mother raising 4 kids up until we were all in school and she started working part time while we/the kids were gone for 8hrs. And the fact that her own mother’s first question was “Do you have a job?” to Barnett is what influences this opinion of mine. Plus if she can’t pay off a $700 credit card... it means she’s never taken finances seriously.

[@konye618]

@@nyanzarojas8776 oh no one is demonizing staying at home. People are demonizing knowing you have $20,000 debt with no plan to pay it off except marrying well. You have to be more ambitious than that. At least pay it off and then stay home

[@janeto962]

Grace Report Even if Barnett has debt, he's an engineer 😉 Also, I feel that Amber felt unsure about being picked by Barnett in the pods, so she opened up to him about her abortion story to "connect" with him and it worked!!

[@Julia-zz1gq]

This video needs to become viral in the Love is blind community!

[@sydgow6293]

THANK YOU these are really great insights

[@mariella2884]

I feel like I just watched a TedTalk, so many facts!

[@kells2243]

They did Amber dirty tbh

[@GraceReport]

TRULY!! I feel so bad for my initial impression of her.

[@meganblevins-espinmartinez8423]

It’s really disappointing that you would call Amber a hobosexual in the first place. Every couple, every relationship and every marriage looks different. There is ABSOLUTELY nothing wrong with a woman wanting to stay home and take care of the house and children letting the husband be a provider. There is was completely normal for many many many years. Just because you believe both people should be bringing money into the home doesn’t mean everyone believes that. It does not make someone a ‘hobosexual’.

[@kan2877]

Thank you for making this video! This is a perspective that I never saw watching the show. Shame on you Netflix. I loved the show however this makes me question watching a second season.

[@GraceReport]

Thanks for watching! It really has tainted a lot of it for me too. I hope they reconsider the way they portray women moving forward. We all deserve much better than this.

[@monarch3495]

I’m glad you made a follow up about Amber. I wish the show had talked about more of her struggle - as long as she was comfortable with it. I don’t think people realized how badly a mental illness and traumatic events can hurt your life because it’s a “hidden” illness.

[@RoxiieSays]

Such an awesome break down. Especially with Lauren and Cameron! I never even thought about them leaving out Cameron’s family’s view on him marrying a black woman. Wow.

[@sukiBambina]

Amazing and important message!! Thank you for this

[@tracy8359]

I noticed during the pod dates with Jessica told one of the men, I can't remember if it was Matt or Barnett, that she was unsure of which man she wanted. He shamed her, saying that she needed to make up her mind. He, and everyone was doing the same thing! That's what this experience was about! Meeting lots of people and choosing someone to "love".