Lunch and Learn: Compulsive Staring

[@justmadeit2]

This is one of the worst ocds due to the huge shame and anxiety it generates. It can make a person feel like a freak which destroys a persons self esteem

[@abdulrazaq2302]

Yes , you are right 😓😢

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@spydaon3]

This is why I don't wear my glasses in public but at work 😢

[@unknown-xh7jf]

​@ any other kind of tricks or anything to get rid of this? yumyumdonuts1010

[@melvinmosley1921]

You don't know how much, I this helped just to know there are other people out there like me. I have family members I've creeped out because of this thank you.

[@wayti4996]

Shittt 3 years of my life so fast and 3 years of wasted life

[@Hinarushi]

@@wayti4996 People with OCD often feel like life has been stolen from them. It will feel great once you gain back control over the monster. :)

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@Jake777mais]

Started when I was 20, 27now .... I'm going thru it rn, but there's been times were it was beautiful but I might have to say that was a lie and I haven't been doing as much. I have a buddy I met online a year or so ago and he saw this guy grasyen about this.... But I fell off the wagon and went alone. Here I am again. Dude it sucks. Not alone.i deal with it ALL the time. It's so jacked up!!! I've loss mad life. I hate when ppl stare at me with hate in their eyes due to me. I can't believe this dude. U r not alone. I love u life can still be fun, contact me and maybe we can be frienss

[@Cookeasilyathome]

I always tend to stare at people who are in my vision through my peripheral vision. I get uncomfortable when I realize I am looking at them and then i try to turn away or hide them from my vision by looking down or turning my chair so i cant see them. If i just ignore this and keep on looking anyways, they get uncomfortable and scared and I start looking at them even more. And then they start whispering and saying i am looking at them and they find me creepy. My social anxiety also makes this condition much worse and i don't really have friends anymore and the ones I consider as my friends are talking behind my back and think that I am gay and i am creepy.

[@chillasmr5924]

Bro where same

[@hollychen8760]

I self diagnosed myself with this type. It started when pandemic began. My job is on the line...and I am fearing/worry to the point of losing sleep some of the night.

[@fef638]

Ive had it for about 15 years now. Just became a loner, and always gamed online so I could still keep friendships. But now I am 35 and can not get aways with bumming around and gaming so much, I need a job that I can support myself on. Women have always found me attractive so I was still alteast able to get laid(almost always one night stands), but relationships were off the table since being around me for more then a few times and youll see I am a freak. This last year it has gotten so bad I can't even be around people. Its gotten so bad I am legit having panic attacks just thinking about going to families house for the holidays. I dont want them to hate me. If anyone ever needs a friend please write me, I know what it is like to be completely alone for years. It is a nightmare.

[@lapirazo6461]

damn man I rather be dead than to live off with this forever

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@Brodney81]

@@lapirazo6461 Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@becpotts523]

It’s horrible!

[@jacobmcmullen5348]

Been facing this issue since about 2018, you or anyone else that needs to talk please feel free to message me.

[@menace2societies]

Make more videos about this. This is the worst OCD to ever have

[@abdulrazaq2302]

Are you have compulsive staring

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@pinklotus3989]

thanks so much for this! ive been diagnosed with ocd a few months ago, and having SOOCD I thought the staring had to do with that, now listening to this it's so relatable, I didn't know this subtipe even existed!

[@p_macul]

Indeed an important subject to talk about. Thanks!

[@ripplesr5655]

I know this very well since I have been living with this for past 6 years. How it feels, an allegory would be, you know you are heavily drained and wanna sleep good, but every time you close your eyes, nightmare begins and wake up again and fight not to fall asleep. Anybody seen Nightmare on Elm Street is how horrifying it truly is.

[@natz8274]

thank you for spreading light on this issue

[@leonorsilva1804]

I have had this for over 40 years and it has ruined my life in every way!

[@pabestra]

But what if this wasn't happening before and started recently? It's been around 2 years and It's so tiring :( I've looked up for as many theories as I can and nothing has helped yet. There are some times when it's all calm and everything and them it starts again :/

[@waniakhan4108]

Please make more vidoes abt this. I am school child w this and it has ruined my life i still haven't gotten any help :(

[@abdulrazaq2302]

السلام عليكم I am also a school teacher. People misunderstood me because of this disorder. this disease often has a huge impact on Muslims because we are conservative. I was twice as close to recovery but I failed. May allah heal you my sister. (Compulsive staring) (الوسواس النظر في العورات )

[@josetv526]

@@abdulrazaq2302 I tho I was alone

[@abdulrazaq2302]

@@josetv526 me too, before this disorder I was an open man and people loved me but when I got this disorder I became a lonely person. I am different from other people who have this disorder Twice I tried to get rid of this disorder but I failed. Don't be depressed, Try to do exposure response and prevention and I'm sure you will be 100% successful. I have the experience of doing this experiment

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@Kumar-rq9ro]

I too have suffered with this, for 20 + years. Take SSRI medication which helps (given by a pyshicatrist who diagnosed it as fear psychosis). I continue to take that. But of late something has really changed. I read a book ‘Mindworks’ by Gary Van Warmerdam. It is really helping. He writes - not for this , but generally for beliefs - to question our belief. I guess with this OCD, we need to question our ingrained belief - “I look at private parts > I do not have control over where I look > than cascading into ….. People can make out where I am looking” “I do not have control over where I look” - Is that right? Is that a fact ? Or is it a very heavy ingrained belief, and hammered down in us by people reaction to our staring ocd, which is right on people’s part. Just be skeptical of your belief - I do not have control over where I look - and work from there. In the book he gives lot of exercises and explanation etc. to overcome a (any) false belief. Helping me immensely

[@mariemarin5347]

There is a cure to make it stop because there is a 1 true God who makes all things néw . Honestly this happens bc we idol our mind

[@inJesusname1992]

Amen

[@SandraLuz3]

I am interested in hearing your point of view, as to how this is idolizing our mind. I believe in the power of Jesus and one true God. I just wanna learn more of your perspective.

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@Palmer-gs3wz]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 can you make a KZbin video tutorial? 😬😄

[@lapirazo6461]

Is there any difference about Peripheral Staring and Private Staring?

[@hollychen8760]

I'm in the healthcare field working at outpatient imaging center. Each time I go to the waiting room to call my patient, I have inappropriately stared at patients. I tend to look at my paper or down on the ground until my patient walks up to me. I don't know where to look once I open the door to the waiting room. Where should I look? Please please please help me

[@lapirazo6461]

Our brain works quite funny and opposite, if I gave you a task not to think of pink elephant.Try your best not to think... guess what happens? And if I gave you a task not to notice red cars while driving ofcours you would be noticing that red car in your view. Try not to stop it and let go, let the staring happens. If will works because you are teaching your brain that there is no danger, the time goes on the fear would subside

[@Cookeasilyathome]

@@lapirazo6461 I do that but then I see them getting uncomfortable and it instantly gets much worse

[@lapirazo6461]

​@@Cookeasilyathome what you resist will persists, what you embrace will erase

[@adityakhandare7952]

Help me how to get rid of it and my study ruining because of this ocd...

[@jeffreyschueler2223]

it is definitely fucking genetic. my kid is having similar symptoms to me and I can't seem to convince him he's not a no bad person.

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@natz8274]

do you think this is like an ocd urge . you are trying so hard to not do it and then you do the opposite as the frontal love and your vision ( occipital lobe) have quicker neural connections?

[@zalessianorwood9776]

What happened to the town hall staring ocd video? it is no longer available to be viewed.

[@nachelleferkovich5821]

Thank you appreciate this so much!

[@ericbatas7099]

Im from philippines and I actually have 6 years of uncontrollable staring problem it caused my life so much trouble and im starting to suspect my self that I have this kinda thing. I have also signs of other ocd like lip biting and nail biting but as for now I didnt done any check up and im actually planning to get a free mental health check up here in philippines but because of this ocd being rare, Im still aware that the psychologist may diagnosed it to a different disorder. free because I dont have money or jobs to give through some psychologist. If someone is having data analysis about this on asians im here to give myself a data about this.

[@iwishicouldgobacktotheseda4164]

Same i round about had it the same time as u, since i was young tween

[@mkmllrc]

Im suffering from this for 3 years! I just wanna kms

[@keepfighting6558]

I hope you are doing better, Mark. You're not alone in suffering from this!

[@abdulrazaq2302]

You not alon in suffering for this type, we are like you

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@back5594]

@@Brodney81why right eye over left?

[@venkatsaketh1]

Dose this topic involve in psychology

[@Jake777mais]

I have this. Every thing Grayson had spoken about is so true...everything. we don't think or want to or have an urge it happens. we do think about it happening and then right after our emotions shut down..... I am and have this!!!! Had it since my first job and I'm sober and after 7 yrs just telling people... Nd starting to see improvement but it's very real, scary and messed up You are not alone I Vincent Valenzuela have this I am 27 yrs old , started at age 20

[@adityakhandare7952]

Vicent did you get trouble while reading or studying ..when it started in 20 .. please help me I am 21 year now so how to tackle it please me ...😢😢😢😢😢

[@Jake777mais]

@@adityakhandare7952 hello sir. And well wishes. I am now about to be 28. I have work tomorrow a new job actually. Andive already had of some OCD occurred already to my new boss and co workers (I THINK). It's ok. I am 67 days sober. I have been using drugs for most of my life since I was 17, and it's started around...20 years of age. I have not tackled it as I should have in my earlier years due to resentment towards my own life and depression and being broke. I used and just kept leaving out intothe days and it would happen all the time. Just now recently I have had enough so I stop smoking weed, drinking. And well, after only 55days worth of sobriety, it did go down tremendously. But I was just here now and I was thinking about my life and I have no friends and when I go out into public I am already kind of scared from the years so I have natural paranoia about the next day. So I told my self that (wow, I have some real issues). Now to be honest dude, people love me. I have had girlfriend offers and friend offers for real. But I was so numb I just shut everything out. I just recently honestly told a a person who I know: & who I thought I did OCD too at a recent gathering. I was 100% convinced that I did OCD too this person. So I called him and brought it up and said I'm sorry... Itold him I thought I did this too him and HE told me ("I never even notice") he said it's (undetectable)... I don't have much information on really how to tackle it except love life again, laugh and be sober and keep going to a local therapy building and have help on stand by and GO TOO THERAPY. Do not stay by your self and hide away from the world.... Or in my case I just didn't like my persona life so I didn't like life . Making this OCD way worse. Try ERP, and exposure to the public man its gonna hurt.... It's going to hurt. I've been there, it's pain ful. But one thing that really helps is, (If u think u did it too someone you know & can trust) Callthem and ask them if they noticed me doing it too them. They will probably say no. I hope. And it makes me feel better. It doesn't happen to girls just men, and it strange dude. Get out there,be sober and keep working and making money and life goal plans, stay in touch with a therapy center and work out. These things will help sir. Amd dont do drugs, stay away from all drugs. That's about all I have. Me at 27 ifeel better, when you are a grown up it's a bit better. Do not fear don't have fear, conquer fear because that's what this OCD brings out and that's it's main crippling weapon. Have friends and help out. Ok. Bye. Good luck. Sir.

[@gagandeepkaurmadahar883]

Plz can any tell me what type of my ocd actually 2 months ago I saw vedio and I forgot to like and share after some time I searched that vedio to watch again but can’t find and I was thinking about that vedio whole day and now I started taking screenshot of everything and started taking pictures of everything include money 💰 I don’t know why I do that when I give anything to other I took pictures 😭

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[@TheIntrovertWhims]

Mark Ruffalo!

[@bigloser3187]

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[@savannafranklyn2228]

Savanna here from Canada 🇨🇦

[@rewansalem5282]

what is the affect of stopping my medicine ?

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@abdulrazaq2302]

السلام عليكم sister obsessive compulsive requires training in exposure response and prevention, then you will recover from the compulsive staring and it will not come back, or if you stop the medication it will come back to you undoubtedly.

[@Brodney81]

Look at their right eye when speaking and listening to them. Your focus should be on their right eye. You should be telling yourself to look at their right eye.

[@frankson4069]

I'm in the second group but started out with the 1st

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@judahz.2013]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 I appreciate the tip and the blurring does work! I tried it recently. But, I was wondering about the tape trick.. did anyone ever ask you why you had tape on your glasses?

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

@@judahz.2013 I never really used that trick because it made me lazy and took away my practice on learning to blur my vision. It’s a good trick though you can’t see the scotch tape If you do it correctly

[@inJesusname1992]

Thank you so much Yum Yum

[@abdul6975]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 what if I’m in school and have to focus on the teacher?😭

[@BOARDZofCANADA]

Try having starring OCD with POCD. Literally will put your physical safety at risk

[@Umair-fo5op]

Very low energy with least hope. This conversation triggers more when we see the expert is trying to complicate it and try to scare patients with OCD staring.

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@zardpark9086]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 how do you blur vison?

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

@@zardpark9086 yes I do. I do it constantly sometimes. And sometimes I don’t need to

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

@@zardpark9086 look at an object and blur your vision. It’s a natural think that everyone can do

[@abdulrazaq2302]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 you are an experienced man 😊👍

[@MrJohnkristi]

Only 4 comments??

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm. I urge every to LEARN AND PRACTICE BLURRING YOU VISION. It works like shield 🛡 for your eyes 👀

[@shreyansranka477]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 what exactly do you mean by blurring your vision? Does it involve widening your eyes physically . How to do it?

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

@@shreyansranka477 Every body has natural ability to blur there vision. Look at an object in the room and then blur. Do this when talking to someone

[@yumyumdonuts1010]

@@shreyansranka477 no widening no

[@santiagomartinez3417]

@@yumyumdonuts1010 You have repeated your post like 36 times, we all understood it the first time

[@Jake777mais]

Idk why... Why I got this but I have had this since 2015?..... It's 2023... Like a clip from above a person "after years of suffering, just said fine I'm coming out"..... That's me.... Had it for years too now I'm like, fine! Ima tell the world and get help because this is nonsense! So little data. I made a friend online. Best who has this he actually said he talked to this amazing person Dr Grayson. But for yrs unlike today, just watch normal tv..... KZbin...the when the days starts I just get thrown into too, knowing but not combating the day, just like ... Ok another day here we go... Gonna suffer,after work walk home... Dude it's so awful but I'm different, I former drug addict and hard drugs, smoked weed every night and drinked beer alot... That wasmy normal life before this BS horrible ocdcame on me.... Man ... I'm not chred I'm just leaving a comment since I'm always on KZbin, but sadly.... Very sadly not watching vids that willhelp me.... So this comment is after...my gosh... 7 years of OCD dude. Since my first job too now. .... I don't get in fights but on this year... The 7th year I'm 27... Ppl of course look at me as an adult .... Not a teen with issues. They see a grown man and it's ....I agree.... Not cool... I hate saying that like it's a terrible thing tohave.... But at my age ppl r like , ? Well dude get ur eyes togethers... Lol. Damn dude. I'm amazing at how much id have suffered. I've never had a gf before ... No friends.... Just work and pain... But I was angry at home years when I was young when it first started and as I got older more problems came andmever had a break fromm. Tragic family stories.... I had a bad start in lifeand perhaps that added too this coming about. But I willbeatthis.ppl don't hate me,they never will. I always get compliments outside. I'll get it together and I will soon!