Please don’t do this to your wedding vendors

[@katrinagray855]

Some budget shit I've seen actually makes sense. Like if you're ordering cupcakes is don't tell them it's for a wedding. It's for a large birthday party or something cuz wedding fees are a thing and it's stupid

[@MoOveOver_plz]

Absolutely and there’s also a reddit story where a makeup artist was going to charge an extra 100 dollars only because it was bridal makeup (her reason was that she’d spray her face with better setting spray or something)

[@myheartismadeofstars]

Yep, if/when I get married I'm telling people it's a small party (I'm not going to have a lot of people). It'll be easier since I won't have any family there.

[@dannihenson3420]

Well for weddings they are going to work a lil more diligently, add a premium ingredient or two. "Huge parties" don't tend to get photographed as much and aren't as memorable for guests. They will also work with other vendors for a wedding if need be. The price does have a purpose.

[@stellajoy9361]

As a musician who plays for weddings, yeah. I’m not going to negotiate because I have bills to pay and it’s my job

[@jenniferprice9971]

I think it depends on expectations. I don’t think you should negotiate a lower price and expect the same services. While yes wedding specific venues are normally expensive sometimes for no reason there are other venues that are cheaper and would work just as well. Some venues also provide a bunch of services such as set up and clean up, dj or bartender kitchen access for a catering company etc. Trying to negotiate a lower price will normally end up with less time or less services covered. Which the all in one package is one of the reasons people go for wedding venues and not just normal multipurpose event centers for weddings.

[@whatisoceanwatching]

Yeah, negotiate your **budget**, not your **vendor**

[@emilykirts7770]

Can you go over tipping vendors?!

[@amor3656]

In today’s wedding pricing, many costs are over the top and excessive. For one example, I have seen pricing for professional decor for a one day event (wedding) be more than the cost of flooring (that lasts 25 years). The reality is a wedding is a one day event and when the pricing can take sometimes 1.5 or more years to save for, negotiating pricing seems fair. I appreciate your perspective but respectfully disagree not to negotiate. The wedding vendor can always say no to the negotiation.

[@Lau3464l]

Absolutely agreed. I think anyone in the wedding industry shouldn’t be surprised to have people negotiating when the prices are so high. They can always say no to any negotiations.

[@princessminecraft9915]

I 100% agree! You are not being rude, you are just asking! There is no harm in asking!

[@irawr256]

Why, though? We are taught to negotiate every other big sale (car, house, etc.) but not a party that is generally higher priced than any other because it’s a wedding?

[@emd476]

A lot of the time ‘negotiating’ with vendors can come across as ‘I don’t value your labor’. You’re not negotiating for the resale of an object that you can easily compare to the price of other similar cars or homes with listed prices in your area. With most vendors, you’re effectively negotiating for the cost of their labor, how much is their time and expertise worth, $20 per hour or $15? Maybe this is better as an example. Presumably a baker for instance has carefully calculated their price based on cost of ingredients, designing, baking, decorating and delivery, as well as subtler costs like rent and insurance. So for someone outside the industry to come in and say ‘actually you should be charging me 15% less for that’, it can come across as condescending.

[@waffleface5940]

Do you go into a restaurant and try to negotiate their price with them? No because it would be silly the price = object + labor .If you dont like the price you would get a cheaper item from the menu or go to a more affordable restaurant. Same with caterers, djs , photographers, makeup artist, taylors, bakers, ext. They are not just giving you an object labor goes into it. Cost would be coming out of what they are payed for labor. You are saying your time/labor is not worth that(pretty rude if you think about it)

[@Lau3464l]

@@emd476 it can come across as condescending, for sure, and vendors are well within their rights to refuse negotiations, but vendors might also accept negotiations when they have no other work for that day and would like to make money that day. Negotiations aren’t just “give me a discount,” there’s give and take on both sides, and if both parties can come to an agreement about what they think is acceptable, they should be allowed to do that too

[@Lau3464l]

@@waffleface5940 I do know people who negotiate in restaurants 😂 I agree that it can be rude, but that’s also dependent on cultural norms. Some cultures highly value negotiating and bargaining as a sign of community building and respect. But of course capitalism and individualism in American culture mean it has a different impact

[@waffleface5940]

@@Lau3464l if someone asked you what you did for a living and how much you got paid and then told you that you shouldn't be paid that much it would be very rude.