why we struggle with relationships (the harsh truth)

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as I continue this journey of unlearning societal conditioning, i'm realizing that like with most topics, my views on dating & relationships are a bit different from what i've been taught to believe. i'm beginning to realize that we make dating and relationships less enjoyable by hyperfixating on the future outcome of them. instead of living in the moment, we often hold onto the idea that anything good has to last forever, and cause ourselves more suffering when experiencing romance. in this chit chat, i talk about how i've begun to rewire my brain to rethink love & actually enjoy dating.
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[@LynetteAdkins]

ignore how long the end is lol i didn't feel like reuploading 😭

[@fromkaywithlove]

You’re doing a great job 🫶🏾 you’re doing your best in every moment and sometimes that fluctuates from moment to moment

[@NateshasAmbience]

The end is such a chill vibe. I'm listening so you can get the watch time! ❤

[@rambothomas2209]

Relax and find what makes you happy 💪🙏🏽🍓

[@shachaha]

I found the end suuuper relxing and found that this was a pretty goo move. Thought it was on purpose

[@rambothomas2209]

@@shachaha it always nice To see see new possibilities let see how u do god bless 🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@unathimdlangu]

"Be less committed to a single person,but be more committed to yourself" I have the same views .

[@gabb.j]

"relationships don't have to last forever to be successful" i just love that so much and think so many people need to hear it

[@MADZOUA]

…kinda sad though

[@sunbeam9222]

​@@MADZOUA why?

[@team3gaming749]

@@sunbeam9222 Because many people want someone to be in a healthy relationship with until they die.

[@sunbeam9222]

@@team3gaming749 I understand yeah. I think it's also linked to the idealisation about long term relationships maybe. My parents were married for over 50 years. Till my father passed away. I can't say it was healthy tho. They went through so many hardships and drama. Not my personal ideal relationship type lol but each to their own.

[@team3gaming749]

@@sunbeam9222 I don’t think there’s much idealization for long term relationships but more so unrealistic standards and expectations. There’s nothing wrong with wanting long term relationships but both men and women have flawed and unrealistic expectations/standards when it comes to them. Many people are emotionally and mentally ready to commit to one which either results in a breakup or in a unhealthy toxic relationship like you mentioned your parents were in.

[@ravenantoinette1325]

Omg I needed this video honestly. After 6 years of obsessing over finding "true love", I found myself putting others before me all the time. Once I stopped looking for love, I found it within myself. And I came to enjoy the individuals God has placed in my life. The key is to stop being obsessed with finding love.

[@aangelinaharper]

Love this❤

[@cokestraw1055]

That's beautiful to read❤😮

[@deniyachibombe6821]

"People do not have to be in your life forever in order for you to love them." Definitely felt that.

[@dazeyjanye]

It just makes me so sad to think of being with a bunch of people, I just wish there was that one person I can build with and deeply connect with through life. I don’t want to be with all these different people😢 it’s scary to me.

[@anyelizamontilla1397]

Same

[@illuminatetheworld6636]

No one said you have to be with so many people. If you find the right person the first try, then that is great. But, trying so hard to just be with one person, will sometimes be the reason you stay in relationships that aren’t for you or that you’ve outgrown.

[@graciefabian386]

Honestly I can understand your perspective because it’s become very trendy or normalized to keep an open mind and kinda nonchalant energy when it comes to dating but I do think that it’s coming from folks who may be in a completely different reality. Being discerning in the dating phase really helps with only connecting with people you appreciate and not allowing your energy to be so convoluted and spread out to connections that you don’t genuinely care for. I feel like connecting with a greater purpose or love in general helps but doesn’t always mean you gotta allow people into your space. Sorry if I’m off but I defs had phases where I tried dating in a superficial way like just to have fun or make memories but I realized over time that was not the vibe for me at all and that’s okay

[@MADZOUA]

Same that vidéo just made me wanna stay single 4 life😂

[@ashleykathryn9038]

Me too I just decided to stay single, I'm not for today's culture and that's okay

[@sydthasquid]

Love is not what you do; love is what you are. It's a basic quality within yourself.

[@katyastyles]

this came at such a perfect timing - I`m in the middle of a breakup with a man I love dearly but we just want completely different things in life, so to stay honest with ourselves and do the best for the other person, we decided to go on separate paths - it`s hard now but in long term I know we will both be happier this way

[@Nancy-gr6db]

Hey I'm going through the same thing right now But I just can't bring myself to breakup. I think I'm a little codependent on him but I really wanna break the cycle and end it because it isn't healthy for me anymore. He's going to settle abroad and he's never coming back here so there's no point of long distance relationship. But I don't get why he never supports the idea of breaking up. He's leaving in less than a month, but he acts like everything is alright in our relationship, it makes me think he didn't really care about our relationship in the first place to feel bothered by it falling apart.

[@katyastyles]

@@Nancy-gr6db I think it`s just denial because breakups are hard. I don`t know him but men have a weird way of dealing with emotional things like this. My BF insisted we give it another shot, called crying every single day - so now we`re back in the big mess! It`s so hard to understand what goes in their head because they were thought to repress emotions their entire life. Don`t be too hard on him because I`m sure he cares a big deal! Wish you the best!

[@trisnickles]

Practicing non attachment is so important in relationships, in my opinion. Coming from someone that is married and has two kids all before turning 23…. I have realized that a lot of what I’ve done relationship wise was based in fear. Now that I’m approaching 26 and really establishing what I truly want I can understand relationships in the same light as you. Cheers to Venus in Aquarius ❤ lol

[@uci1111]

i had a really big health scare and i almost called an ambulance and this video made me so calm and i stopped overthinking. i got stressed out because the things society and my parents told me like get a child before you turn 30. now i feel so much better❤ have a nice day everyone!

[@thelightinclarity]

I'm 30 and I was married. I was tied to that life for my self esteem and it wasn't worth the salt it was built on. Life your life and do what's best for you. You'll be okay. As long as you are your own best advocate, your own best lover and your own best friend, you will be more than okay. ❤️

[@spaciousbutterfly]

I completely agree that a lot of relationships/friendships can have an expiry date and they are really all about learning more about yourself and how to love yourself and the people around you more (and pinpointing what you want in a person/relationship). I do believe in marriage though as I feel when two people are committed to unconditional love and devotion to one another, if both parties have the capacity for forgiveness, love, accountability and growth, their is exponential growth that you wouldn't be able to experience with someone who your not truly committed or devoted to. I think for some ( not all) relationships, it can be really easy to give up and go your separate ways instead of confronting the problem and taking a hard look at yourself, it's also hard to love someone who isnt making you feel good atm. But having that commitment to someone and saying, 'your worth it' even in the hardest of times I think can be such a beautiful thing - of course this is only realistic/possible for those who aren't in toxic/abusive relationships, of course leave what's not serving you. I would say though, whether or not your into monogamy, the most important thing is getting a clear understanding of what you are looking for in a relationship/person and what your values are so when you meet someone you are not on different pages.

[@chamazful]

Said beautifully 💝

[@AW-yh6vw]

I agree, it’s important be less attached to one person and to be more committed to yourself. However, we are social beings so it’s in our nature to want connection and to be attached to others. I think it’s up to you to find a fine balance between commitment to yourself and others!

[@stephanie1c]

I agreed with the idea that not everything is meant to last forever, when you really think about it, it only makes sense that our circumstances change as we are constantly changing and evolving. So it’s important we appreciate every moment in the present fully for what it is !

[@Whatnowmaria]

Wow this video is great. I’m 29 now and I’ve been in a relationship for almost 11 years. For the first time I’m ready to walk away from this connection that isn’t getting better and is coming to an end. We’ve changed so much and it’s been scary to think of being “Alone” or “starting over” or just worrying about if I’m making the “right” choice. I’m trying to learn to trust myself and the unknown. I think i held on to the idea of what we can be and what i NEED us to be rather than what it is and I’m seeing that that’s still okay.

[@donishaaaa]

I agree & completely understand how you're feeling because I experienced this in my previous relationship. It took me a year to build the courage to end a relationship that had ended awhile back. I questioned myself for so long; I was afraid I'd regret it, afraid that I'd miss him too much, afraid of just the thought of him moving on eventually. I had all these fears and doubts that kept me in a relationship past its end date. Just like you I feared being alone because being in a relationship for so long all you know is that person; and the thought of being alone is debilitating. Similarly, we were no longer the 19 & 21 year olds we once were; we grew apart & although the love was still there; we both knew it was over. I am 30 years old & single for about 5 years now. We don't know eachother but your comment resignated with my own experience. Whatever decision you choose Maria, I'm sure it'll be a great decision for you & your wellbeing.

[@Laura-sg6ss]

I love the way we know this before them😂😂😂 but honestly, yes please!! Do what is best, it is YOUR own life. No one wakes up and goes to sleep as YOU. You know what's what, you've been there the whole time. Please do what's best, that's what's "right."

[@sierrajoseph4092]

I can understand this me and my bf use to really worry about us not working out because I got a reading from a spiritual advisor that we aren’t meant to be and we would try to do everything right. However we stopped controlling the thought of it and let it flow and now we are the happiest

[@toriambrr]

this was such a hard pill to swallow 😭 but this did encourage me to just look at ppl i’ve loved as people i’ve loved and not put them in a yes or no box. it just happened and there were good moments and there were lessons

[@AwakenedSoul101]

I agree. Things are more fun when you release fear based attachments and just enjoy each moment fully. I believe things end up working out better that way ✨

[@ConTrellTV]

This video is so refreshing! I really wish I could find a community of people who think more like this. I feel like I’m by myself on these ideas sometimes. I’ve felt like this since my last break up and I’ve done a lot of healing and growing into this same understanding.

[@GoldenGurl91]

I needed to hear this so much, I have been in a separation for 5 months from my partner and we both need to heal. We need to both work on ourselves and love ourselves. Our insecurities ultimately brought us to a breaking point and we lost ourselves together. Being independent and resilient in being alone is something I need to live by each day. Trust the work, thanks for the reassurance!

[@sacredexperiences]

this was such an expansive perspective of love & dating! i can 100% relate to those who have made their partner part of their own identity - after a few years of being single i’ve come to understand all the love i was lacking in my long term relationship. now, i find so much love in community, in family, in experiences. i completely agree with the notion that it’s okay not to take everything so seriously to the point where you need it to last forever ; the purity of the experience is more than enough 💗

[@edeee7936]

I just saw an old video of you talking about how you struggled to be yourself with others bc you didn’t feel safe, I’m going through this rn and I wish you talk about it more💕

[@justthatpm]

You're so right about having multiple soulmates and multiple loves. It took me a long time to get to that point but it seriously gives me such a different perspective on life, relationships, and letting go.

[@paulinao.5516]

when you watch something , while open minded , you learn soo much and end up so mind blown. Thank you for this.

[@PhilPhil240]

I agree with you. One should definitely find happiness themselves before venturing off and trying to find it elsewhere. That way, like you said, it’s easier to let go as you can always resort back to the happiness you had before. I struggled with this in the past, and it’s easier said than done to say the least.

[@yanamikim587]

This video is at the right moment for me. Going through a break up today

[@jasminsantiago1390]

Me 2

[@sarahguingona4348]

Ok can we be best friends? I’m definitely on that frequency even though I’m in a 13 yr marriage with 3 small kids and being a soloprenuer. Losing someone isn’t isolated to dating, sometimes our partners go through changes where that same experience happens within a marriage. Learning to accept space and set stern boundaries within a long term union is really important. I’m learning so much in this time - coming back to myself, honoring where he is at and not pushing him to grow, coming back to myself while not being overcome with anxiety about the future. Practicing non attachment in a marriage is just as necessary as in the dating phases. Honoring the seasons of love is HARD and people don’t talk about the winter in marriage enough. Thank you for these videos! It’s awesome to feel your energy and know I’m not alone on this frequency plane🙏🏻❤️

[@AshzxQuidYT]

This was wise! I have been in a 30 year relationship and I have 4 children. You are so lucky to have this understanding some people live their whole life not understanding that it’s totally ok that relationships don’t last forever and that’s ok. People have a very hard time with the concept of being with and loving yourself. I’m not 100% there but I’m on the path of discovering. I really appreciate you sharing this message. I hope you help someone who is hurting ❤

[@nikaferlance]

You always hit the nail 🙌🏽 I’ve never really had a strong female role model, so thanks for being here and for sharing! Super grateful for you🧡

[@anticapitalisthomedesign]

The past year I've been grieving the loss of my ideas around marriage. I've been obsessed with weddings & planning my own wedding since I was 3 or 4 years old, and only now, after having been in a long term relationship with someone who I was initially planning on marrying am I coming to terms with the idea that actually I don't think marriage or anything that even vaguely looks like the monogamous, domestic, lifelong, romantic relationship is for me. I just want to live by myself but also in community.

[@SakenaRedmond]

I’m currently in a relationship w/ someone that I have an attachment to yet know I don’t want to be with never really fell in love with. He’s the type of man I know I can call on if I’m ever stranded on the side of the road but also has anger issues and shows signs that he might hit me one day… and I guess sort of has put his hands on me. So this came at the perfect time🙃

[@oof5220]

This came out the right time… even if it’s 13 days ago, it’s been a constant thought how and why it’s promoted that we only have one soulmate, twinflame, etc etc.. I’ve finally got rid of that negative mindset (in my opinion) and instead of waiting for “the one” I am open to anyone that is compatible to me mentally instead of physical, ex: if they’re a good listener and enjoys my company I’ll see where it goes vs me only seeing them physical and by passing how we have nothing in common just to say I’ve meet the one. It’s crazy how I had to remind myself that this is another human being and not some addition to what can make me happy. Thank you for this video 🙏.

[@yvanzolo]

I needed this. I don’t know why but I keep each of my partners in a special corner in my heart despite how things ended(positively or negatively). And it feels good. Yes it is over and I don’t want us to keep a friendship but I don’t hate you.

[@jimmyl.6013]

I agree with all you said in your video. At the moment, I'm in my first serious relationship and I've experienced so many good and bad things. Since my boyfriend is more experienced on relationships and sex, I'd so many insecurities and jealousy. But after I started accepting the idea of its end, I felt so relieved and grateful that I'm not longer trying to over control things so they can look perfect. So I'm feeling at pace and more content with my relationship now even if it doesn't last forever 🙂🙂

[@angelooooooo]

he once asked me " What is your dream ? " To this I answered " Being here." I am only starting to realize what I meant by this. For me it meant being present, in the moment, feeling myself right here, right now. Though it was fun to "be here" with him at that place at that moment, I hope he got it right. I know he did. Thank you for the video, I always come back to your channel

[@ancorjamz]

Honestly you’re so good at sharing a different perspective on topics like this. Learning to give myself grace & embrace all relationships for what they are at that present moment

[@sisulex20]

It doesn’t help that financially you need someone else to even afford shelter… it’s hard to feel self sufficient and like you can do everything for yourself as an individual, but it’s not possible if you’re not financially blessed or don’t have any family to help out or to go to.

[@missiemiss]

right on time Lynette! I feel like im having an existential crisis right now and I think a lot of it has to do with my longterm relationship.

[@peace.404]

I get not being with someone forever, but i never desire to date and invest time, money, emotion and energy into someone who is investing time, emotion money and energy into several other people. Gross. And I have more important things to do than spend all my time dating several random people. One person is enough to get the feeling of love, I haven’t wanted several ever since I was a teenager with no other goals. No thanks.

[@zoethompson1199]

I love the way you phrase things Lynette! I had to pause and write down "We sometimes get so focused on feeling good when we're experiencing things that we're afraid of experiencing the duality that comes with love. To be able to experience love means that you are also able to experience pain, loss and heartbreak" - whew that hit home!! Lol if I could ask for some advice, I've been casually getting to know a guy for a while and think I secretly got too attached to the fantasy of a long-term relationship, but after an honest conversation, I am now having to accept the fact that he only wants a casual thing. I know I'd enjoy aspects of the casual-ness but part of me feels like I'll suffer more in the long run. Idk!

[@TaylorSwiftGleek]

I'm in the same situation as you! But don't settle if you want a long term relationship let him go and find someone else xx

[@dejialabi987]

Get out of that relationship, simple.

[@alyssaseward5063]

Both comments sadly true.

[@alyssaseward5063]

I needed this thread. Thanks all

[@marbar1617]

I finally made that phone call today, the one where I go no contact and the relationship is actually over. This person has been a good friend for many years of my life, but I know it’s been over for me for far too long. I’ve been scared to truly let go, so many fears holding me back. A couple months ago I really considered staying living with him forever because other people were happy, and I didn’t care about myself anyways. I still don’t believe the words I tell myself in the mirror. This way of thinking, of supporting and standing up for my wants and desires is forgein. The double standard I hold for myself (but would never expect of others) is insane. I’ve been binging your videos, and a couple other creators, and I just wanted to thank you for helping me through this very difficult time in my life. Here’s to more sunsets/sunrises, to being more aware and connected to ourselves and each other 🥂🌇🌃

[@nikkhalia]

the ending is nice, lol. i can stew over the message for a while before an ad blasts my thoughts away. good message, i replayed the video 3 or 4 times

[@elease03]

This was a beautiful video. It really helped me as a young widow.

[@rissamayrox]

the amount of verbal reactions / affirmations i had to this video.... thank you so much I sooooo needed to hear all of this

[@teodora.mihaljcic]

I don't know about you, but I feel Lynette is my online bestie. Always right words at right time ❤️

[@zee-735]

Loved this !! Can you please make a video about learning how to enjoy life and the journey??

[@samslayerr]

I’ve been really stressed about dating. I just wanted to find someone to settle down with but I think I’ll just relax and hopefully they will find me.

[@MADZOUA]

FR samee

[@xerindavisx]

these were such valuable topics and unfortunately not talked about enough. shout out to you for being open and honest and sharing your thoughts

[@brittanybrooks5337]

GIRL!! YOU PLAYING JUSTIC DER IN THE BACKGROUND???? INSTANT SUBSCRIPTION!! I kept thinking… what is that sound? I recognize that song. Love me some Justice Der>>> 🙌🏽😩❤️‍🔥

[@ashleyschultz284]

I'm an Aquarius Venus too and I have always felt so drawn and connected to your videos and advice 🙂

[@Theworldalongadi]

Definitely feel that this is my time to nurture my platonic relationships! I knew it wasn’t that relationships that I needed right now

[@neorealking7608]

how about we learn to hold onto people? Forgive and Forget, Apologize, See peoples worth and not just as Replaceable beings, I’m tired of this nonchalant society

[@StellarsBeauty]

I really needed this. The validation and love I seek so desperately is waiting to be found inside myself! Thank you ❤

[@liftedandlucidliv2332]

Im 21 and have been in a committed relationship for almost 4 years. This would be my second serious relationship. I got into this relationship at a time where I felt that my first relationship failed bc I never received the love and treatment I deserved. Now after having experienced a love and loyalty I thought I had always wanted, I feel ive grown my, my ideas about love have definitely matured and maybe my s/o and I dont share the same views/values anymore. Also feeling like Im in a phase in life where Id rather be by myself than living with my partner who takes the relationship sooo seriously. At this point Im just miserable and ready to go feral and get all my time back with my friends and family!

[@nanitonga6093]

Definitely on my own healing journey and struggled the beginning of this year with intense emotions as well. So grateful for you Lynette sharing your experiences and views. Your so real and authentic. This message is exactly what I needed to hear and I’m definitely working on providing the love for myself I try to look for in others and becoming WHOLE within! I love you and your content. Thank you. ❤️

[@fairymary_555]

such calming energy 🪷

[@bibisibap7461]

This eased ALOT of my anxiety, just your chill aquarius venus outlook on it (I'm a cancer venus 😌) also I feel like the Idea of this ONE person/soulmate , really put me into scarcity mindset? I held onto things alot because I always thought "but what if this is my ONE person and if I let them go, my chance of experiencing love is forever gone and I ruined it" so I'm really questioning this concept atm.

[@michaelisonyoutube]

Hi Lynette! I love your videos. Thank you for motivating me to start my own KZbin account.

[@Havilland398]

This video has helped me so much! It really resonated with me when you said instead of looking to a relationship or other people to be the safe place that I can go back to, to make that safe space myself.I want to work on letting go of control when it comes to relationships in my life, and just being present. Thank you for the insight

[@lifewithdommy]

I’m an Aquarius Venus too and I deeply resonate with everything you said here ❤ thank you for sharing

[@kayla9587]

this talk was exactly what i needed in this v moment. thank you

[@BelaMasz123]

Everything you say has value. Very wise. Thank you

[@elizabethcruz6080]

I noticed that dating has been giving me anxiety. This video is what I needed. I’ll have a different perspective on it for the next date :) in the meantime I’m giving myself time

[@thebae7455]

7:40 wow, this was actually eye opening

[@stinkyjenna]

i needed this. literally crying the whole time but love it lol

[@annasantamaria4594]

Curios how this video has just appeared in the moment when I need It most

[@ChristieSalnave]

This came at the right time for me! Now I have clarity

[@stephanie1c]

Yes please make a video on marriage and kids, recently I’ve been looking at those very differently than I’ve been conditioned to as well lol. Great video !

[@haileyharding7879]

I agree soooo much but still can’t shake the feeling within myself of wanting something good to last forever

[@Olivia-cz8ez]

Shoutout my other Aquarian Venuses shawty, I feel you. I love how Lynette said she’s driven by passion and her mind can change because I relate to that so much. I have to remind myself that I’m ok with changing my mind even if other people judge me for not being committed to what I’ve said or wanted to do/become in the past. It’s ok to be as fluid as you are even when other people are more rigid. Love u.

[@dcooper7016]

@5:24 !!! Yes! Omg my mind changes everyday and I was just saying to myself yesterday that I know how I feel rn but it could literally change tomorrow

[@brenna888]

I love this video. I'm moving soon and have been having a hard time with the idea of saying goodbye to my partner. This was reassuring. I also loved how you talked about the concept of having different soulmates throughout life. My venus is also in aquarius so I felt like I related and understood so much of what you were saying. I havent met many other women whos venus is in aquarisss, I love your content so much. Sending love

[@IsaiahRTaylor]

This was a really good conversation! I’m glad that you’re still open to love, regardless of past relationships coming to a close. I personally see love as a pure energy, but I don’t label pain as love; as that’s not what love is. I feel like love gets mislabeled; when it’s truly something else. Love is love and pain is pain. Those are just my thoughts though :)

[@Myla2626]

Your videos are calming. I love them!

[@CaulkMongler]

It’s one thing to simply know it in your head about what you need in a relationship, it’s another to really deeply *feel* and understand just how complex people are and how complicated *relationships* in turn can be. I think as I get older and learn/experience things, it allows me to create more intentional, real, intimate (platonic AND romantic) relationships. Adding to this, I’m totally with you in the way that I don’t see my past “relationships” as failures, I definitely learned more about myself after it all and I don’t hold onto negative feelings or thoughts about them. I wish them the best always. And I think some people just don’t fully get it in the way some of their relationships have crashed and burned, and they still suffer from carrying around that bitterness.

[@siliziwex44]

Thank you for this , it was so validating to watch . Especially in a world that only values and praises relationships and long term commitment 🥰

[@LoveStarsWorld]

My Venus is in Aquarius too! Which is why I almost feel like most of my relationships are SUPPOSED to end. Normalize it.

[@latonyaforbes2950]

You were so on point with this video. Blessings to you and thanks for sharing. It all begins with self love. ❤️

[@stephbabz7131]

Always on point in the Life timing that I am too. Maybe because I think we have Maybe the same age. Im 29. Single since a couple months and this resonate a lot with me. Love your mentality ❣️

[@nanarnataya3627]

OMG I love your mindset your way of thinking. I feel the same way.

[@IndyRica]

You are wise beyond your years and such an inspiration. Thanks for sharing here in this space.

[@sunbeam9222]

This is music to my ears thank you. I share the same philosophy but don't often come accross people who meet me there.

[@manicxpeach]

Your first statement in this video really resonates with me. I needed this harsh truth lol

[@samyuktanair3239]

Wow love this perspective. I agree that this whole thing around someone being forever and you spending most of your time with that person and all these checklists around how a good relationship should feel puts way too much pressure on dating 😌 again like most things , presence is the answer haha ❤️

[@wavvy-zy5777]

It’s like god literally dropped this video in front of me🙏🏿-I totally agree with “everything has an expiration date” and as long I could remember I’ve always been able pinpoint when it was simply time to let go..but I’ve been dating the amazing woman for some time now and it’s like all of a sudden my judgement is clouded even though I know it’s time to let her go

[@thehealingfairee]

This is literally everything I needed to hear right now ❤️ Thanks for this video, it feels divinely inspired!

[@AshleyReinaFit]

So many takeaways from this video…thank you from the bottom of my heart ❤

[@austinlea847]

My Venus is in Aquarius also! Thank you sm for this video! Super insightful and wise. ❤️

[@xtinedance]

Hi Lynette! Love your videos and been eyeing the camera you use as linked in your description. Just a quick question: do you use specific settings when filming in low light/dark settings? Thank you! 🥰

[@averyelliott8984]

this needs too be seen by everyone

[@Lightofdai]

You ate this up Lynette couldn’t agree more.

[@austinmaham4556]

This reality is strange, honestly usually watch gun videos, listen to a lot on stoner rock, subscribed to more "right" leaning channels..but have a strong interest / for the paranormal. I bring up because your video popped up as a recommendation. Its weird just got out of a long term relationship at the end of July. Aslo came really close to being killed in an motorcycle accident on the 4th....You said Aquarius, I'm 2,9,85. Don't know it helps but to you or anyone else. I strongly recommend listening to Sadhguru. Honestly learning a lot on how to be happy just by myself, and also learning that it is very important in knowing how to love yourself. Sincerely hope that you and everyone else finds whatever it is we are looking for ✌️ and good vibes. Hope everyone learns how to love again...and put the BS of separation based of believes, looks and political views behind us

[@_aiborie]

Definitely see that Venus in Aquarius here lol but ofc always consider everything in a chart. Glad to see people more casual about astrology.

[@reneeari45]

I love the way you think; so in depth and out of the box. I'm the same way, and I'm just one of those ppl that goes out of my way to be different on purpose, so I often hate traditional ways of thinking on certain subjects. That explains your Aquarius (moon or rising you said? Lol). I'm an Aquarius. After talking to my therapist, I realized Idk exactly what kind of relationship I want. In my 30s with kids, I'm still figuring it out. But ultimately, I just want me and my kids to do whatever feels right and safe with us 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@knowitintobeing]

I totally agree to that. We are not really made for lifelong monogamy. Actually I'm very open to polygamy and not only serial monogamy. We should all be more relaxed and get away from our egos, then also relationships are much easier and better. And as you said also being ok with and still love people and be grateful for them and the great time we had together. That's why I think still being friends with your exes is also very beautiful and I actually am still friends with all of my exes. ✨ Unconditional love and dropping the ego are the 2 big keys to live a happy life. ✨😊💖

[@Evelyn.Herrera]

are you friends with an ex that has hurt you emotionally? i tried once and it just hurt being in the presence of them because we weren’t together

[@sidsvids574]

THANK YOU!!! I LOVE and feel this!!!

[@yur223]

I can’t lie, this was a fantastic video. Needed this.

[@Jared-bs6rg]

Lynette! My goodness, what wonderful words of wisdom you’ve shared in these brief moments. You captured my attention and heart to love myself more and those around me. God’s blessings to you; looking forward to hearing you again my dear.

[@korielate6729]

This was so well needed Thank you, i recently came out this year and its my first year dating women and while it has been a great experience being authentic with myself as ive been dating women I have realized a lot of my motivations have been ego driven and thus it has been hard to let go of situations. But im working on it❤

[@asiakingdom]

Explained so well. Always felt this way 🤞🏾 thank you for this reminder.

[@dianixi711]

Just wanted to say I love you. I needed to hear these words so thank you