Marriage is not supposed to be perfect, it's supposed to make you Christ Like -Pete Odera | LNN

On this episode of LNS, Pete Odera walks us through what men really want from women, why men should not be forced to pay dowry and gives us tips on how to make a marriage work
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[@LynnNgugi]

Good morning team LNN, What is your take home from today's episode? You can connect with Pete Odera here www.youtube.com/@peteodera3295 and Pete Odera on all other social platforms Have an amazing Friday:)

[@estermbata1395]

Lynn I really need your help to help a cousin of mine please

[@ruthpearl2439]

The best episode this year for me. I am re-discovering myself. Thanks for this. Amazing Friday to Lyn

[@phillipsidhojapap1461]

Awesome interview. It is hard to speak truth, especially if it's unpopular. But we have to speak truth if we want a better world

[@officialshennyz]

Hi Lynn,kindly you are am inspiration to me,since I've known this channel , I've been following all yours uploads and some are really inspiring,just come and listen to my story,am really tired and my life is in danger,i sent you a DM on Instagram but you haven't read

[@lechemwende2351]

You too Lynn♥

[@kingdomgal5961]

I have not listened to the interview coz o reached a point and felt we live in such a chauvinistic society,What men want from women,How to keep your marriage as a woman,how to prevent your man from cheating etc etc I am yet to come across the same craze/interviews on what a man should do to keep a woman or Iam I looking in the wrong place.....I feel this is the reason as to why the burden of marriage has been heavily placed on the woman that the man does soo little and when the walls of Jericho come crashing its still the woman's fault....Most men have no role or rather don't know their roles other that siring,and still the woman will be schooled on how to please the man.....What an unbalanced society.....My 2cents.

[@brilliantmind9729]

Thank you! I was looking for this comment

[@joycewahito3852]

Same here

[@Msomale]

I agree with you

[@letstalkkenya2]

I 100% agree...women are supposed to parent their husbands ...ooh keep them ooh put on properly for them....ooh this ooh that....yuck! All just for just men to provide. Which we can nowadays...mara 50 _50 yet labor pain is just for the lady....to hell with this things

[@meloniebowen7280]

@@joycewahito3852l

[@HardlyTalk]

For the very first time we have a man of God who recognizes that Pre-marital counselling is not therapy and he actually encourages people to see counsellors, psychologists and therapists.

[@WanjiruMuya]

Marriage is not supposed to make you happy, but it's supposed to make you Christ like❤️

[@keepcreationprocess]

People do not understand life : 🧬 but ttthhhaaatttt is your assignment -- either you like to hear it or not........it is about fulfillment of your mission ..- the earlier you start with that mission : the better...ANd there are roadblocks, but only on that path .....but if you are on the right path : you can do it......I DO NOT MEAN STEALING FROM OTHERS OR FROM THE EARTH

[@nimuyreemu3723]

That's it!!! The interview can end already!!

[@SoftRod]

45:50 Marriage is not to make you happy, marriage is to make you more Christ like!!! 💯💯

[@janejoseph9685]

I like what he is saying, having been married for 38years. It is very true. Love each other all the time and respect each other. It's possible, especially if you invite God into your marriage. ❤️ Team Lynn. thank you for educating our community keep doing what you're doing. 🙏

[@PSapphireJ]

Yes. Great message. Thank Dr Odera. Going on 49 years in January 2023. Forgiveness, balance, accountability-vertical/horizontal/downward and values are exactly! Looking at every word, they are part of God’s character. We learn as we walk daily in our marriages. Work in progress no matter how many years you have in marriage. Everyday we learn new things to accomplish as husband and wife. Thank Lynn for an awesome show.

[@introvert-14]

I think the reason as to why there are so many divorces it because of first idolizing your partner forgetting that God comes first, second high expectations from your spouse forgetting you are dealing with a human being who ain't perfect, has some shortcomings. I believe marriage was God's idea so let Him be the center of what you two do.

[@catherinewanjiku9238]

Exactly!!

[@NaturalktedyEdna]

Awesome 👌 next time pia tupate kujua "what women want from men" 🤣🤣🤣 niko na maoni 🤣🤣🤣

[@LynnNgugi]

Hii lazima nilete:)

[@doreenmwenda939]

Kabisaa, can't wait🤗😁😁

[@burundishallsmile1day109]

🙄 Sweetheart even Valentine's Gods are still figuring out!!!! Women want Everything except Nothing in 1 Man!!😴 Trust me,if your Guest or any expert on planet Earth comes with a real answer, I ll declare him the King of all Men😢 You ve got to be Good looking, Rich,Tall,Monogamous, Influencial,Funny,Cool, Friend,popular, Strong,fearless, Hero,Dad,Son,Cousin,Friend, Partner and all long list😢😢

[@rma3806]

Wow… 😢this is awesome to hear. I am a single woman and have been in church for a long long time. I don’t think anyone has explained marriage in this light without being religious about it. This is coming directly from the Holy Spirit from a place of Grace and mercy. This is so awesome 👏🏽 ❤❤. Thank you for the interview.

[@SoftRod]

Thank You for this interview Lynn. This interview has left Me with 3 CTAs 1. Accountability is Upward, Downwards and latitudinal. 2. Marriage is not to make you Happy it is to be more Christlike. 3. I am the image that my children mould a Man around. 4. Monogamy is a daily choice, anchored on Value. 5. Let Us reconstruct Marriage to its original model of a covenant and commitment. Modeling Christ & His Bride. Too many bombs dropped on this episode

[@sleeprelaxation8431]

My dad did not ask for dowry and refused to accept it, for my siblings and me. The best decision he made for us. love you dad.

[@pastorannneema]

Your dad is such a great man

[@musyokandambu4861]

Good but it doesn't mean those who ask are doing wrong. Exploitation of dowry is what is wrong. Greediness

[@kichakapoa8299]

@@musyokandambu4861 true

[@millicentmukoya1292]

Marriage is a beautiful thing wen u put God in the center of it...

[@LearningEveryday01]

I have listened as one married for 25 years too and very blessed to be reminded why I have stayed and felt blessed in my marriage. Dr Pete Odera is ON POINT with the truth about marriage and what makes it work. So many parting shots for me!!!! Thank you both for making it real!

[@juniourx2203]

I knew Pete odera when I was young schooling here in the city for the last 25 years ..he was always singing Christian music ..am happy to see him again as a gospel preacher ...being in my 40s this is nostalgic

[@stellamulisa8336]

Same,I knew him those days when I was in high school

[@jacksonogwindi1653]

Me too, really nostalgic, just saw this. He inspired me a lot with exceptional and excellent spirit. 👏

[@JUSTWANGUI]

He has a lovely voice and is very eloquent 🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰 wow ,lemme get some nuggets of knowledge 🥰🥰🥰merry Christmas Lynn and ur team ,I love u dear .

[@pwanja]

No surprise that he's a great musician with that voice.

[@eastafricanautodidact]

Personally, I paid my wife's dowry but I think dowry payment should be abolished. I am a dad of daughters and I don't plan to ask for their dowries. Personally, I find it funny that the most woke Kenyan feminists will call all our African traditions and men backward yet she has no problem with her parents asking for and receiving her dowry. I am lucky my in-laws were reasonable and understanding ..but the things I see out here. It can be sugarcoated(to appreciation) but dowry payment was and is by fact objectifying a woman as a commodity to be owned by a man who pays it. Modern-day reality is some men think after paying the dowry a woman will be their property like old days only to find their wife one week later in bed with another man who only bought her lunch worth Ksh 800. What follows is violence, bitter break up / rudisha dowry, oh disappointment because the woman refused to submit as expected because you "bought her" etc. We can willingly appreciate both our parents multiple times, build them homes if we can, gift them occasionally, and visit them but that occasion "dowry" with whatever meaning it holds to go away. Am not a fan of those dances either 😂😂😂

[@ritahatieno2573]

Am learning, 10years in marriage and I have not arrived yet. Thanks Lynn 🥰. And to all team Lynn, have yourselves a merry Christmas. And please share the little you have.💕💝❤️

[@AfroQueenWaMtKenya]

As a trauma specialist, this man is on point with his analysis on central province. 💯 correct. People r injured and traumatized, and they don't know.

[@patriciakarani7401]

Wueeh. This one has taken me to another level in my marriage. I am empowered and have learnt lessons here. Forgiveness is key but with some boundaries. Thank you Lynn and I am rewinding to watch the show again. Merry christmas Team Lynn

[@LindaAwonda3]

Listening to this in this Christmas season is a blessing, bigger than marriage, this is love redefined. Thank you Pst. Pete

[@e.sharmer2057]

Marriage is till death do us apart but when He or She cheat on you with another person then that’s death!!! You cannot trust Him or Her again!!! I can forgive and stay with my husband even if He has done many things but after cheating , I will forgive you and walk away from You!!! You cannot live without trust and if He or she does it once, He will keep and doing it again and again 🤷‍♀️👏👏

[@ladysafari01]

💯 agree about what marriage is supposed to do. Amen! Expecting your partner to make you happy is too much pressure and Nope, nobody can complete you... so don't look for your better half. It's not about you.

[@theworld7439]

Nlikua nauliza who will talk for us men in this Platform. Kudos for the show.

[@sallyobonyo3114]

Pete Odera is a legend, always consistent.

[@dorcasgitari4125]

Am feeling encouraged by your comments here, guys. Still single, waiting upon the Lord. Not in a hurry and am looking forward to seeing my marriage work with God's help as our marriage helps us look Christ-like. Am blessed☺. Lynn you are a blessing. Thanks Rev-Doc

[@kennedymunene8652]

🙃 same whatsapp group

[@annkoinange720]

5 Love languages 1.words of affirmation 2.touch 3.acts of service 4.gifts 5.quality time

[@angelamwirigi1765]

Hard truths, ladies do not treat your man as an ATM, we need to realize that our ultimate source for all things including material things is God. Whatever comes from your husband is a bonus 🙂

[@nancyogera2161]

Lynn you surprise us every time with unique topics, let me learn!!

[@LynnNgugi]

Really appreciate you tuning in:)

[@cashyrocks5706]

Really very informative

[@janemuthoni-jd7lz]

I TELL YOU

[@lechemwende2351]

This topic was epic 👍🏽

[@jennifermcwhortet7934]

Marriage is meant to make us CHRIST LIKE..GOOD 1. JESUS CHRIST gave Himself for the Church. He is the Head. 2. He gave. He served. Himself as the Head washed His disciple's feet 3. Remained humble though He was the Head. 4. He was a Teacher. He taught in humility, love and peace. 5. He had time to pray to His Father. This tells us clearly what is lacking in the African man. Its very easy for a woman to submit when treated right. To be honest, the biggest problem marriages are experiencing today is on the side of raising the boy child without training him to be a real man. May the Lord intervene on this issue .

[@sarahwanjiru4002]

I have listened to Petes on different occasions and I can attest that he is an amazing speaker full of wisdom and stories as well. Thanks Lynn for the topics. Very enlightening . Merry Christmas all.

[@MburawaUK]

@Lynn please add Pete Odera as the marriage counselor/Pastor to the LNS. Namaste and Merry Christmas 🌲☃️.

[@WanjiruMuya]

On the dowry thing i completely agree with him. It has become a way of milking money, and makes the girl be viewed as a commodity. In my Culture a girl is bought by 99 goats😂the price of one depends with the greed of the family & a girl shouldn't be "bought" more than her mum

[@wangugithure5570]

and that 99 goats can be sold at 1 bob each if the girl's family is not greedy.

[@yvonnekwikiriza9107]

MARRIAGE IS SUPPOSED TO MAKE ME CHRIST LIKE!!!!!!!!!!! "digesting this SOLID TRUTH"

[@angelamwirigi1765]

Weeh debunking Hollywood lies of happily ever after. ❤️❤️

[@yvonnekwikiriza9107]

@@angelamwirigi1765 T.H.O.R.O.U.G.H.L.Y.

[@ewairimubrown]

We now need someone to tell men what women want so this chemical equation can balance.

[@alkityshadows6669]

Hey Lynn. Thanks for the opportunity to give what to hear next from him. Let him talk about submission and love. I have heard a teaching from a preacher that when a man as the head fails to provide for the family materially and spiritually , he is no longer the head does that mean the lady can be the head in case of such a senario. Then this preacher talked about the power of submission. Please let him tell us how far is too far. Do you submit even when the driver is taking you to a ditch? I have also heard from him talking about those ladies who find it hard to submit coz the character of the man is wanting and his descisions are not sober. If i heard it well in such circumstances he called it ," you married wrong" Is there something like marrying wrong? And what can we do about it if the character and choices of the one we are supposed to submit are bad?

[@clairehongo115]

For real Lynn this platform has really taught me alot from each guest you host...I just wish to meet you in person and give you the flowers you deserve

[@teejayangel6638]

It was good to see Pete after a long time. This generation never ages.

[@wanjathuku5663]

Wow! Thank you for inviting Pete Odera to this show. There's so much to take out from this interview. 🙏🏼🙏🏼

[@ruthpearl2439]

After listening to this am left wondering "who am I'? After years of unstable family and death of my parents and so much pain growing up, honestly I need to know myself. I don't want to cause pain to people bcz of my past. Am in tears.

[@angelamwirigi1765]

Team Know yourself 2023 👍👍

[@ruthpearl2439]

@@angelamwirigi1765 Sure. I have felt like o don't know who I am. I am making an appraisal to checklist my spiritual life,mental transformation, health and wellness, purpose and assignment, finances and my rships. 2023 here I come so help me God

[@muthoni2102]

What are we doing

[@angelamwirigi1765]

@@ruthpearl2439 Amen my sister I shall also be on the same journey

[@MaryMackori]

Get therapy sis...since sessions can be expensive use insurance ..I promise you will heal

[@Pure_Love11]

My Mentor, Father and MOG, Pst Pete Odera we love you and your beautiful family, may God keep blessing you and shinning in you, MOG full of God's wisdom

[@joselinekanana3363]

Marriage is supposed to make you Christ like💕

[@wapenda]

I love the diversity of topics that LNN platform :) brings to us. Let me get some tea, cosy blanket, I am here to learn. We are in our 9th year in marriage & I sure do love this topic considering most topics in our era is always pro-women (what a woman wants). For now sina maoni, let me bring the lessons after watching. After watching: first I think the title is misleading 😂 cz there is more to the content than the title. He is sharing great gems about successful marriages. I enjoyed the practical lessons shared. He is saying ukweli mtupu, these lessons are what most marriage counselors charge an arm & a leg for this knowledge.

[@musaamani1177]

Good lesson learned from this show. Dr. Pere Odera is precisely to the point. I've known him right from high school.

[@aminamwakah2543]

Wow this man enjoy the way I do in my marriage ....love is beautiful thing after all these years I got married but I still feel Niko honey moon

[@TheOlynette]

Thanks Lynn ... Such insightful discussion... They said LOVE IS NOT A FEELING, but He has just corrected the untrue statement by saying LOVE IS NOT ONLY A FEELING, feeling is part of love. His definition of Love... Perfect

[@kutesamanka5525]

Thank you sir for this free knowledge, you stole this show, Lyn thank you for fishing these gems out for us.

[@nimowairimu897]

Hi Lynn....you bring us amazing people who teach us amazing things about life....but this one is Pure Genius....

[@Thats.colleen]

Softly delivered especially to one’s seeking marriage ❤

[@lucykarii]

Sis, I'm also here to learn🥰. Thank you Lynn

[@audiadarliance8329]

Still learning.... Thanks Lynn through this channel my life has really changed,I have learned to accept anything that comes on my way no matter the situation

[@everlyneajayo8889]

Team LNN thanks for the show now I know my position 😉 and what I should do as a queen to my king....Gratitude men👏🏿

[@agnesnjeri8402]

Nice and educating episode.. the man has a lot of wisdom ❤️ thanks team LNN great job 🙌 Merry Christmas and happy New year to everyone 🥰🥰

[@hannahw4769]

I love to hear stories of marriages that are working.

[@millicentmukoya1292]

Me too

[@ruthmi6675]

Me too

[@tabithangoigo5489]

So why is it always what men want from women?

[@timothysimwa3451]

Someone has simply refused to watch this interview because Lynn was supposed to have a female guest alongside the guest of the day to counteract his arguments. This is simply misguided feminism of our age .This mindset of antagonising men against women and vise versa is the result of a broken society we see today. Men and women have achieved a lot working together rather working from opposing camps. In any case there can never be a better world in the absence of either men or women. If all you wanna listen to is what makes you happy, then you will never learn. Kudos Lynn.

[@teejayangel6638]

Very true! However, let's not bore the planet with an over discussed topic! Balance is CRUCIAL. But this was a knowledge sharing session, not an argument or debate, someone refusing to watch it, stems fro a choice based on personal reasons which vary from that person's experiences, intellect, spiritual growth etc .....why would you automatically imagine it's "feminism"? Rather misguided.

[@timothysimwa3451]

@@teejayangel6638 Marriage is over discussed for a reason. The centre has refused to hold and I can tell you that discussion is not going away sooner. I have read feminism literature and I can tell one when I see one and their line of thought is always consistent and the same. They relish in promoting rights and privileges but hate discussions on responsibility. That's exactly what I deduced from her post.

[@joywairimu2372]

I think you should be the next guest😊

[@timothysimwa3451]

@@joywairimu2372 seriously 😊😊

[@mwas_wa_kenol]

Oh My God am in campus and am already learning alot before I enter into a relationship marriage. Thanks lynn

[@mariahisaac8583]

This is one of the best show clip have watched .... This Guy is good in explaining that's makes it easy to understand...😊😊😊

[@KuiWaKamau]

Very wise words abt Marriage. This union has been so over rated with fancy Weddings for show off. It has lost it's initial meaning. Go back to the roots, God's created the Woman to be a Man's *HELPER* in the Marriage Companionship/Partnership. #GodFirst #GodAboveAll #MerryChristmas 🎄

[@PriscillahZ]

Lynn, you are looking so lovely. Learning a lot from your show. Such a blessing.

[@saaraamupolo6164]

Omg.....Thank you Lynn this interview I needed sooo much.. I love every second of it. This man is representing 🙌 👏 💪 👌.. this is exactly 💯 🙌 👏 👌....I think I will come back to rematch again... Kenya is blessed to have him ... God bless his family ... Thank you for a wonderful word to us women , and many of my brothers who are watching and those who will watch later......God bless you Lynn....

[@nessynessychildofJC]

Thanks Lynn, today’s episode coupled with Galarina’s episodes’ on women and culture shed a new light on Kenyan dynamics . Being a kikuyu woman I now have a better understanding on some attitudes I perceive in me and others😉

[@kirabogloria2187]

Marriage is not a wedding...what a wonderful and strong statement looking forward 4 marriage..some day in Jesus's name Ameen

[@gracewairimu937]

Only you can make you happy . This was an amazing talk, all ladies young and old listen to Wisdom🙏🏾

[@eileenwatt8283]

The men should listen too.

[@celestinekhabukwi5519]

Marriage needs only wisdom and understanding

[@kendi.3983]

Marriage needs God

[@essywangari9758]

This is what I needed to hear 💯I swear,thank you Lynn ❤️

[@sinaidaadisa883]

@Lynn Ngugi thankyou so much 💖 everytime I watch your show I learn something,,,truly you are a blessing to the society 🙏 keep up your good work dear

[@kelgk2086]

We tend to define love prospectively which am ok with because it speaks mostly to the conscious aspect of love. Retrospective definition reveals that love goes so deep into our subconscious mind, only those who have gone through a heartbreak can explain this visceral gut wrenching experience that is as a result of love. I can say that our conscious mind contributes to 30% of what love is and the subconscious mind contributes 70%. To render a proper a definition of what love is this two aspects must be actively considered.

[@anotherintrospekt6596]

Pete Odera is actually a genius.

[@carolmwendwa290]

Wao,I like what he is saying.lynn good job 💓.team Lynn nifikisheni 2k subscribers

[@blessed112]

This was so good he needs to come back for more . Thank you to Dr. Pete and to you Lynn as well for blessing us.

[@maureenochieng42]

I remember your dad with alot of nostalgia back in the days in Woodley. C Odera...Great man. May He continue to rest in peace Beautiful/educative interview.

[@janekogi6442]

Brother it's true ,my path of Christlike through marriage has been tough,today 39years ago,I don't know whether I am there on the mark

[@wanguibecky7243]

I hope the one I’ll marry is watching this too..soo much to learn!

[@pmat6861]

I'm watching babe

[@christinemunywe3408]

One of the best shows this year....

[@hildatitus7390]

I love love loved this ❤ Thank-you Lynn and your team Thank-you to @drpeterodera bless you and merry Christmas

[@the_Nakuru_Vlogger]

How is he 50👀 His church must be engaging! Very insightful discussions

[@nyamburarachel8184]

At least someone gave marriage a new definition

[@perpetuaishika2574]

Please bring him back again. The best ever

[@user-vr8ck9zy4h]

Perfect said . waiting for Robert Bulare. Lynn God bless you

[@angelamwirigi1765]

Sorry to say but Robert is overrated

[@SA-vw4ny]

@@angelamwirigi1765 very overrated indeed.

[@hildajoseph4550]

I love you Lynn.., merry Christmas in advance 💜

[@Canadian1987guy]

I disagree on that part of Central women being tough because of generational trauma. Well documented even before colonialism, the women were hard workers, tough, the society was women led. Also therapy is a Western concept, going back to the tribe for help was the best remedy for marriage and conflict.. Also the girls belonged to women, you as a father were to train your boys how to lead the home and be a man, women were to take care of the girl and show her how to make the home.. Now things have switched men are giving themselves the work of training girls, and women men.. You can feel the shift in society

[@yogawithkui9833]

Pete ❤ my long ago music teacher. Still such a stellar human. Namaste 🙏🏾

[@narashanancy7223]

I agree on the dowry. For the Maasai community, it is usually standard dowry, whether you have a PhD, masters or haven't been in school.

[@mwendwaarimi7027]

As time goes by priorities, preferences and decisions are guided by different choice requirements. A 34 and a 47year old see things differently. Truth is a feminist may not be one 10years from now. Eventually the rhythm is gonna get you...

[@NaturalktedyEdna]

Much love ❤️ @Lynn Ngugi

[@omnibrain8]

I like your take on marriage as well. Thank you.

[@MissLux-Love]

Pete Odera wow known him as a musician way back in the 90s

[@edithmuriu3004]

I am one of those who grew up on Pete Odera's music...Blessings.

[@kiremah]

Me too

[@florenceachieng]

I just wanna say thank you for this amazing platform for inspiring us,its been a year and I have learn a lot.❤❤❤

[@jessmukuna4842]

I don’t believe in dowry. However created this dowry thing should know that you can’t pay love. Marriage should be based on love. I love painting and my girls do it and we love it and enjoy it. If you can do anything, don’t be stopped by people’s perspectives and gender based biases.

[@Roseie22]

This guy hits different pure truth

[@magdalenemwathwana1187]

True. He does

[@philomenaatoki903]

Only 17min and am in love with Rev .wisdom.

[@lizsonny7460]

This is useful information......thank you Lynn for this show...marriage works if we work in it...I have learn love language and how to work on that.....the singing wad so amazing....he sings so amazing 🙏🙏❤️

[@teresiaalice9988]

Waoooh what a great episode I just love it so much and I have learn a lot from this am so happy to see you guys keep bringing the teachings for us wwho are still waiting for God to bless us with our own partuners may you be blessed team Lynn love you gal ❤❤❤❤

[@anastasiawanjiku]

My take from this… understood the violence cases from central and the drunkenness wow!

[@chrisogonas]

Incredible conversation, Lynn and Pete! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👌🏽

[@hazelogolla5438]

Pete you are eloquent..waa..i love this

[@mkbythegrace2271]

Oh my goodness i love this Man waooo we need to hear this ❤️ love of God ,

[@maasaimkisii9089]

*It Somehow Makes Sense*