My mother in law said she would kill me if I did not love her son the way she wanted | LNN

Abuse is all Njoki knew for a long, so when she started confusing love for it, there was no way anyone could judge her. She stayed in places she shouldn’t and loved people she had no business loving.
On this episode of LNS, she walks us through her life growing up in an abusive environment , the words she will never forget from her mother in law, the friend who never gave up on her, how she came out and why her children will never have to go through what she went through . Gentle parenting to her is a must and not an option
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[@balancedviewpoint7418]

Thanks Lynn for this awesome girl and your own-self. You two looks absolutely amazing in your natural selves plus those stylish outfits. Lynn allow me to address Njoki's issue first then back to you at the tailor end. I affirm both of you on the here and now. Njoki you are my daughter's age-mate and for sure I have felt you 100%. I can only imagine the journey you were to travel to reach here. Unlike you, your father and your situation, mine is different. I am a proud father of two sons and two daughters, 3 married, one yet to get hitched. I can assure you that I equally loved and still love all my kids to pieces. They love me back too to this day. I am a jealous father, was intentional in bringing my kids up and purposeful in making their future life a success. Unfortunately, my mother suffered same fate like your mother did. Infact she also lost all her front teeth courtesy of my father's drunken state back in 60s. That's the point I made a decision, I will never drink till I die; I will never touch my wife, abuse or insult her. I will love and be there for my kids till they marry off or marry in.To this day I live in peace Lynn. Njoki my daughter, I am happy that you made that decision on time before it was too late. Just curious though, do you think the statement your mother in-law made on the knife was in bad faith or a genuine premonition? My view is, maybe she meant well for you. I could be wrong but nonetheless, God loves you and your children. The fact that you went for therapy and practising self-care at the core is a good thing. Things happen and maybe that's how God purposed your life to pass through as an experience and things a head shall be better. I pray that your life a head be much more better than your past. Finally Njoki, be intentional in breaking that generational curse if any at all. Lynn, like I have always reminded you just like I do to your loyal fans, let these kind of stories impact you beyond the sad aspect of it. Your guest's stories are meant to tell others, indeed they are not alone in their suffering. Secondly, these stories awakens listeners to know that there is help out there incase they are in danger. Thirdly, coming to Lynn Ngugi or anyone's public show, in itself is therapeutic. If you are suicidal guys, reach out to Lynn show and I assure you that by sharing, healing starts happening. Lastly, when you listen to this kind of stories, do not condemn, judge or lament, but help the victim process or heal. All of us have run short of the glory of God and indeed each one of us commit atrocities or mistakes of different types only that at some point we never realise we are hurting/messing others. May I appeal to all of us to practice a very high degree of Empathy and love to each other. Njoki, we all love you and I assure you things are going to end well for you in Jesus name.

[@LynnNgugi]

Your words brighten my life. Thank you❤❤❤

[@balancedviewpoint7418]

@@LynnNgugi I genuinely love and appreciate you as a world icon, Queen of hearts and my daughter figure. You are going far, trust me. One day you will testify on this . Be 🙌

[@shikufm9690]

​@@balancedviewpoint7418Waow your words are full of wisdom thankyou have learnt something, blessings

[@martharinebiseko1457]

You deserve to be a guest...alot to learn from you

[@user-pr8qq7qg2p]

99

[@WanjiruMuya]

Apart from marrying a good spouse pray to marry in a good family. May God protect us from wicked people

[@gwm4333]

Even "good families" have their own skeletons 😅

[@reginaayieko9862]

Amen

[@Sozo456]

Profound

[@catherinewanjiku9238]

Nice

[@reine924]

​@@gwm4333So what's your understanding of "good" ?

[@gentleparent101]

Oh my my! This is finally here, I'm so excited and happy that I get to share my story through you Lynn. And thank you team Lynn for the love ❤❤❤

[@musiimentamoreen8]

Hey njoki please say hello to ur best friend Easter ❤

[@NjeriMariiyu]

Really love Esther....She is breathe of heaven 🤍

[@MshauriPeter]

You are an Heroine Njoki. With self-awareness and self-care, the rest you can manage going forward.

[@jacklinemukami1805]

Am happy for this....I need to listen more on this topic of gentle parenting

[@damar921]

You are a blessing to many❤

[@dianaanyango5699]

I started watching this channel when i was at my lowest. I badly needed to walk out of my marriage but i just didn't know how to go about..not even the slightest strength. Through this place, i managed to walk out and now I'm happy to say i got my self esteem back. My ex hubby has been on pressuring me to get back together telling me how much he can sacrifice for the sake of the kids. How much i don't love my girls because i can't sacrifice anything for the girls to raised in a complete family. Right now, I'm convinced it's better for us all things being this way. I'm at peace right now after watching this.

[@makenanyakio6]

Congratulations!! you are brave and staying away from a toxic marriage provides your children safety and stability. Their dad still remains their dad that cannot change however, he can choose to participate in their lives without forcing things with you. Hopefully you both can come to an agreement that your children come first and that your relationship is secondary for the sake of smooth co-parenting. Do not use your kids as weapons they need you both. It is hard in the beginning but things get better especially with maturity. My thoughts.

[@luelboatswain1214]

Omg yes Hun I are way better off alone and @ peace

[@curiec3973]

Nobody tells us that marriage has no rehearsal. We pray that we get suitable blessed partners. Let's not. Marry for love n looks but respect.

[@janetdunda6331]

Absolutely

[@sheilamarangu]

For sure

[@perisperiske4398]

Respect, compatibility, spiritual beliefs and mostly check the foundation of your relationship... don't just get in marriage blindly

[@curiec3973]

@@perisperiske4398 some people are like chameleons they change but where you see no one is stopping you from over doing anything I the family ...that is a red flag

[@rachelwambui4459]

I resonate with the guest...once my child complained about headaches for quite some time to a point where he underwent head x-rays. After nothing was found, the doctor talked to him and said he feels bad whenever I shout at him and the teachers are always on his case for failing to differentiate between b and d. I felt so bad given that he was only four and could notice bad treatment. He's so playful that you might confuse his personality and hardheadedness. I'm still learning to be patient and gentle though sometimes it's hard especially with a lot going on in one's head. As parents, we should be gentle to our kids and teach them how they should be treated out there...yes things might be hard but we should not take out anger on these precious souls

[@gracegodwin5927]

Who else is noticing Njokis so beautiful ❤❤❤❤her eyes❤❤ her voice❤❤ she's well articulated ❤ she's a conqueror above all .

[@hildamavuso1620]

When my daughter was 5, she told me. Mommy, I hate it when you shout at me. Why can't we talk woman to woman. Kaai, that was the last time I screamed at her. And it has been a great experience talking woman to woman😅

[@MrsCavoo]

I have loved this one...woman to woman😂😂 these innocent beings really know how to reset our factory settings my friend, May God bless them.

[@gentleparent101]

😂😂😂woman to woman conversations are the best!

[@dorothyapolot3738]

Me too my son doesn't want people to shout at him,we just talk like adults

[@annettearuaondik4496]

This story is an eye opener for many women. I don't regret going back to single life and im glad my mom supported me.

[@josiahnyaroo5111]

Men stand up and protect your sisters,fathers stand up and protect your daughters,brothers stand up and protect your sisters. Assault should put people in jail,put them behind bars. Let these people marry their own biological sisters-Why should someone assault someone else daughter??

[@abitu47]

No woman should put up with abuse both physical or emotional. The minute someone starts abusing you, it’s time to leave because they will never stop.

[@virginiawangui7372]

Nakwambia..mimi my friend told me to go wash her friend and she paid me 500 😂

[@AdventinaAnthony]

I know we all need a friend like Ester! I want to be an Ester in someone’s life. Life is already too much to handle. A dot of kindness will save someone out there. God bless you Ester🥹🤍

[@ashlykho5663]

Am here I need Esther in my life

[@JH-ym4zm]

Our son is 4 years old. I have never ever beaten, spanked, pinched or threatened him in any way. We talk and he knows and abide by the house and outdoor rules. He actually does keep me and his dad in check when we “try to break” the rules. He is the most disciplined, considerate and respectful 4 year.

[@mugambipaul210]

Glory to God for giving you displined child

[@annakavengi1965]

Aww amazing how do you do it ???

[@fridahmaingi6025]

​@@annakavengi1965I'm wondering na vile mtu anambiaga little one's kama wamemwangalia hivi 👁 🧐

[@rosierosita.7235]

Great, I love to people who don't hit children, I never hit mine. My daughter is turning 10 years

[@farmgrl]

I'm encouraged. I wish you could share more of how you do it.

[@georginajohnson8985]

Njoki’s story, what’s she has gone through as a child and in her marriage & most importantly what she advocates for reminds me of a novel by Colleen Hoover “It ends with us”! Let us do the work of healing, learning, re-learning, educating & end the generation abuse! 💜💜💜

[@chinge4601]

Now read it starts with us,. 😂

[@ireneonyango9939]

That was my first book of Colleen. I love love how Lily's story turned out

[@chinge4601]

You should read how they lived with Atlas.

[@ayshasuleiman4208]

You are the best

[@prizvinyam8356]

Oh yes generation abuse is what I went through when I was with my ex husband.

[@reneeychoco]

Finally I have listened to whom we share the same opinion on parenting. I have natured my 3 kids 21, 19 and 9 without the rod and they are amazing and have never had any trouble parenting them. Dialogue is so important and kids listen and learn when we talk to them politely not when we are shouting. Like I always tell my kids, they parented me more than my parents ever did. I had a lot of childhood traumas and I realized that it had to stop with me. People should heal. Its only then can you nurture healed and well functioning generation after us. I should sit with Lynn one day on the rebuilding series. Self awareness is so important and everyone has it within them.

[@Jennifer_kim94]

Oooh pastor Jojo and Esther. I met Jojo twice somewhere I was working and he is such a lively soul, he even invited us to their wedding. May God bless them. Esther these are for you for holding your friend down always💐 💐. We all need Esthers in our lives❤. Thank you lynn❤❤ for always bringing these stories there is always something to take home. You are saving lives

[@praxidesmukhwana513]

I remember going through the same for 8yrs my 4yrs old son told me "mum si uite polisi wafunge daddy mikono na miguu awache kufanya ukilia,and 3yr old daughter told me "mum tutafute daddy muingine mzuri kama baba Euster, because she used to see how baba Euster used to love his children and their mum😭

[@praxidesmukhwana513]

Yeah I thank God I did

[@lenahnyambura232]

Hugs dear 😢😢😢😢

[@junechemtai6539]

😢😢

[@curiec3973]

🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹💐💐💐

[@janemusa9529]

When your children tells you this please run as fast as you can. Because my son was only 2years 8months and he told me and 'Mum situende tuisha na uncle yeye apigi watu" have never looked back and today he is 19 year.

[@WinnieMynz366]

We as AFRICANS have so much in common,the same exact things are happening to so many people in Uganda, and when you decide to stand up for yourself, society labels you a "disobedient child/wife" 😢it hurts me so much everytime I see anyone supporting domestic violence or abusive...we need to make this STOP

[@carolineyego2582]

Hey Lynn, what Njoki is saying is quite true. I'm a mother of 2 grown boys whom I blindly embraced gentle parenting single handedly and they've turned out great. I'm also a child who was raised without a cane and I turned out well. Blessings.

[@farmgrl]

So glad to hear there is an existing generation from this type of parenting. I'm praying and searching for a partner with this kind of a mindset.

[@carolineyego2582]

Pray and lean on to God's word and your prayers will be answered. You may read Psalms 37:4 and Mathew 7:7. Life is spiritual.

[@farmgrl]

@@carolineyego2582 thanks I will

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

If women we could help each other as her friend did. Esther and her husband wapewe maua yao🎉🎉

[@lincavanessa9954]

This interview came for me😭😭😭😭😭 Thank you Lynn for such an amazing interview🙏🏾

[@therozz7267]

Aki mimi napenda kumeet lyn ni mhug tu,i truly love you my mentor ❤

[@shiro88886]

I still believe in old school parenting but with love. Proverbs 13:24 ► Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them. Blessings to Lynn and guest. Life isn't linear there are many in betweens...and tolerance sometimes is highly needed

[@nomondenkosi2864]

Evening Lynn, Thank you so much for your podcasts. Am writing all the way from Johannesburg , recently came across your show , loving it so much , watching everyday catching up. May not understand your language , but most is in English , so it’s fine . Already a pensioner but am learning everyday . All your stories are inspiring , keep up the good work , thank you🙏

[@sylviaechusa1169]

This is realy good. Thank you Lynn for airing this story.once my daughter who was 5 yrs told me mummy kuliko unichape Acha tuongee kama watu wakubwa kwanza. I dropped the cane and listened to her and I knew beating is not a solution at all.

[@gentleparent101]

😅😅I know that caught you off guard kabisaa 😂😂

[@user-xe5dc7ij1j]

I wish someone talked to me about this when I was bringing up my children, because I know I've transferred my anger to them 😢😢😢

[@firstviolin596]

Don't beat yourself soo much, you aren't alone tuko wengi😢

[@xoxomacx2539]

There is hope. Now that you are aware, call your children, apologise and be clear and genuine, they will understand. Break the cycle for them.

[@LetelaVusi]

🇿🇦🇿🇦 Im not an abuser but & but I grew up in an abusive family. This is a touching story. I will try my best to be a good & great father to my children and my wife. I so wish all fathers they can be like me. But anyway sorry for everyone who is facing this ugly challenges like an abuse in their life. Myself im coming from a family of where my father was a Lion (abuser) but he changed as a speaks. Since last year after when I did confronted him face to face and challenge him about his behavior & he immediately changed his ugly behavior. My experience is that an abuser is always gaining more strength of abuse if they don't get confronted but once you confront them they retreat & becomes weak to the point where they are becoming ashamed about themselfs. Then when they recognize that you are fighting back i can promise you that they do stops their attitudes. So my advice is that confront your abuser at all times & makes them aware that you are watching them for what they are doing. Ok thanks for sharing with us about your touching story. Millions of people are living under abusive life but remember the best medicine to heal is to confront your abuser not to keep quite. 🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@doriesmueni9400]

Are you married now

[@christinemuga9956]

People should learn how to stand up for themselves

[@LetelaVusi]

@@doriesmueni9400 🇿🇦🇿🇦 im not married but i do have a future wife with children 🇿🇦🇿🇦

[@elizabethsoita2350]

Seeing this today was a miracle...i had the same kind of life 7 months ago and i was thinking of going back but this story took me back..I'm never going to go through that again..I'm done..Thank-you lynn

[@ananciataodindo7044]

Amazing to hear sweetheart don’t ever let a man abuse ever again and God bless you in all your days 🙏🏿

[@mercymwatsuma8762]

We are together on this it has been 8 months since i left my abusive matrimonial and I'm not going back.

[@gracekuria4767]

Nine months ago... I was done too

[@diananjeri5229]

Sending y’all love ❤

[@joycekarimi2787]

Wow We went to high school with Njoki at TT she had such a beautiful and contagious laughter... i wish her all the best and pole sana for the pain.

[@collettumbo8972]

Abuse and love are two different things. Let no one get abused in the name of love.

[@joycekiteme6701]

True that

[@florenceojowa7706]

Her story is evidence that healing from trauma is a possibility. Thank God for therapy

[@monicamaina5696]

So sad that I can relate 100% to this. To this day I actually don't like my babies going back home for them not to encounter and trauma I experienced as a child.

[@gwm4333]

Confront your fears now.

[@eddahnjoroge5351]

I've watched this story with goosebumps. This has been my story but I thank God I'm now happy.

[@florencenjoki4822]

Sorry my namesake ❤ mimi wangu ntachapa abouy two times per year hapo na collabo na babake juu spare the rod, spoil the child. Hata kwa Bible anasema tusikasirishe mtoto. Too much of anything is poisonous. Uchape sana ... poisonous. Ukuwe too gentle parent ... poisonous. ❤ Pole for what you went through

[@priscillakarimi938]

Thank you for this comment... I thought I was doing so much injustices to my son... I only chapa when talking is not working

[@florencenjoki4822]

@@priscillakarimi938 you are doing it with rational ... that is what matters. Sometimes wanazoea talking 👌👌👌

[@priscillakarimi938]

@@florencenjoki4822 sure... Thank u for this...

[@marthakibera1301]

This is the story of my life and family 😢😢. Sadly my mum was not a career woman and had nowhere to go back to(my grandparents were divorced). On top of that, she had 5 daughters and that made her give/sacrifice her life just for us. She stayed because of my sisters and I😢😢. Each day i see her I feel soo much pain. May God help us. Hope she (them:both my parents) enjoy peace for the remaining years they have on earth. 🙏🙏🙏

[@glslatifahnsubuga51]

Lynn you have done a great job for opening our eyes about a lot of things like abuse ,red flags in marriage, narcissism and also good side of marriage now many people are aware of the things that we never knew thanks a lot Lynn and your guests are the best who accept to bless us we there experiences or stories

[@brigitlameka5030]

So articulate young lady Njoki ! So many lessons to learn from her story. Thank you for taking that bold step of moving out of that abusive marriage.... otherwise who knows what we would talking about now ?

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

This marriage things waah. Some give a loving story you wonder kwanini unachelewa kuolewa. But some stories you hear them and you want to be single forever. Hazitabiriki ndoa.

[@hildakossy7145]

This lady is so mature for her age! Love her. Thanks lynn

[@rosekoboge9766]

Wueeeeh, Njoki Mambo, here we are. My father was not physically abusive but my mum caned me daily kind of venting her anger on me. I am that child who people would ask "naleo haja chapwa" I slso chapad my babies. Now I know why. Thanks for this great episode of rebuilding series. Lynn your relevance is unmatched. You are our therapist.

[@ruthwanzala6778]

Lesson well learnt, your story is so encouraging. Thanks so much Njoki. 'Gentle Parenting' really works and it really worked for us growing up to whom I am today. I am also trying to apply the same raising my son. Thank you so much Lynn, you are doing a great job.

[@Pkay263]

Hello Lynn, thank you for all your shows~ I love each show you post. Most importantly, I love your shows that talk about abuse and family. A lot of us have gone through abuse and we are quite about it. A lot of people are abused and they are scared to leave or talk about it. Abuse is evil, it kills one slowly until they are shells just existing. Please bring more shows about abuse to create awareness and for us to continue healing and to stand up for our rights. I love all of you! Say NO to domestic abuse.

[@marywamuyu4418]

Sad story...she resembles Makena Njeri.

[@estherwangui6027]

Rarely do I comment on a video but this has triggered me to react. I might not relate with the physical abuse and toxic in laws, my in laws were okay and I was never physically abused but emotionally is a completely different story. The part that really got me is having a support system at my lowest. She had Esther and I had and still have a very close friend. These are angels on earth. Rebuilding after a broken marriage is hard but with the right support system, It gets easier. God bless you Njoki and your friend Esther and her husband.

[@beatricenjeri2238]

My 4 y/o asked me kwa nini unanishoutia, like fr fr, this hit me so deep

[@phillipsidhojapap1461]

This is an amazing woman, I like her honesty, humility, and boldness. So much to learn from you dear

[@pearlynina7597]

Kichapo cha mbwa as my mother called it, names like prostitute, dog, rubbish, useless, stupid, unafaa kukufa,..are words I grew up with. And when singechapika the namecalling, gaslighting, emotional abuse and blackmail went on till I left. Ata nirarukiwe na nguo Mungu please usinirudishe kwa mamangu. I've been praying to get rid of this bitterness ndio my daughter hatapata ata traces. I moved abroad sababu uwee! There was no escaping without distance. Yaani nilikuwa nachapwa alafu afterwards napewa painkillers.

[@marilynsamuel5178]

That’s so me! Weee! Am still having trouble with my emotions!

[@beatricewangari7060]

I have just watched this story and ir reminds me of my life before I was "OUT" too. I lived in such an abusive marriage and it really sucks out self esteem, ego, emotion almost sucks your your blood. Sometimes I keep quiet alone and think about what I went through and I wonder how and why I could not get out. Thank God I managed OUT.

[@adlightmaleya9361]

I've never felt love from my parents and it brakes me everytime i think about,Growing up and being raised by relatives.Meeting my mom when she was broken and pouring all her anger on us.I just want to love my kids pour everything i never received .I have knowledge about gentle parenting which my mom is so against it because she was made to believe beating and punishing kids is the right way.I wish i can make her believe gentle parenting is the way to go

[@Gloma479]

We are in same boat

[@user-sl4eu6gk8k]

I related so much when she said her mother has been glowinggggg since her dad passed. I usually say the day my dad will pass away, my mum will be the happiest woman ever. In fact she will grow younger. Listen my dad was a good father, he still is. Very responsible and took care of us 7 kids. BUT a very lousy husband. Oh I look at mum and wonder how she has lived with my dad for over 30 years. My dad is a narc, and very emotionally abusive. Especially to my mum. That woman will reeeeeally glow and breathe if her husband ever exits the earth before her. We don't pray for it, or wish it happens. But in the event it happens my mom will truly glow.

[@annemaina8141]

You have mouthed what I have in my heart. Sometimes I dream of a funeral so that one of them has happiness. Unfortunately my marriage is also turning to a prison too. 😢

[@user-sl4eu6gk8k]

@annemaina8141 God forbid, but I have always pictured a scenario where my dad is passed and my mum can finally relive her younger years that she lost being a mother of 7 kids born back to back and my dad's wife, be happy, go wherever she wants and just do her. Without endless quarrels and very mean words. My dad doesn't fight physically but the way that man can quarrel for hours and be mean to my mum is so heartbreaking. Oh if my dad ceased to live, even my mom's arthritis would disappear. My mum has been through a lot. Now we are grown, we see things for what they really are. Dad was a great dad to his kids..but as a husband? NO.

[@kadzo6614]

​@@annemaina8141si utoke ala

[@harrietmumbua3590]

😭😭😭for me I didn't grew in abusive family but married to abusive man for 10 yrs but now nimefika mwisho

[@agnesmwengi8859]

​@@harrietmumbua3590 hugs mama.. follow your heart u deserve peace

[@alicekuria2724]

I can relate to your story 100%. Thanks for coming out njoki and represent many of us out here

[@carolinemghanga2891]

Kweli kabisaa

[@Adamwanyonyi999]

The fact that i can relate with her when she says they would hear their father coming and your life stops i felt that my dad abuses us emotionally and he thinks that makes him powerful sometimes we just sit with my mum and wish the worst not that we are bad people but because of peace like i remember i was in college but when time for going home comes i just wish that there should be no night because of the the thigs going at home but i have come to understand someone has to stand up and do something just like she did when her father wanted to beat her and its high time parents understand the pain they are causing their children because of child hood trauma like she said many are suffering from trauma and they don't understand and unknowingly we pass it to our children and it becomes a generational cycle how bad the things trauma does to you i can never say i want that for anyone not only mentally but also physically most of use are suffering from diseases we don't know how we got them but that's pain showing itself just watching this story when i really needed it has given me hope that i am not alone thank you njoki and lynn for this i enjoyed it and i learned alot 🥰

[@gentleparent101]

I know what you mean when you say you sometime wish for the worst. I know I prayed for the worst😢.

[@esthergathoni301]

I can remember this face from my childhood, and as she stated from outside the family was the ideal family, listening to unlearn, learn and relearn

[@faithblessingsblessed]

I think a whole lot of generation went through abuse and trauma and we never realized it because we grew up knowing it's a normal thing and shouldn't complain about it and that's why there's a very rotten perspective of love in this generation because that's what was fed to us.. Oh God this is so heartbreaking...

[@Zainab-ts4mj]

Very true,,, childhood trauma messed some of us up😢

[@Knowledgeably2023]

My goodness! My parents were not exactly all that in showing love to each other but one thing I never ever saw was my dad raising his hand on my mother! The first time I witnessed dome violence was at my aunt's place at the age of 10. It traumatised me seriously. It's hard to imagine that others go through that on a daily basis. I have never walked in her shoes but I feel the pain she had to undergo.

[@annkariuki1108]

Njoki great Mum..i have learned alot today aki about parenting..from now am going to use my hands to embarrass n hug my kids..n my mouth to bless my kids..

[@annkariuki1108]

Embrass*

[@faithblessingsblessed]

Njoki you are very right "we are veery traumatized and don't know it and so we keep passing on to our children, why? Because that's the normal we know..... It's a sick generation and need therapy!,, so many people are walking clowned in parental trauma and wounds and we keep attracting that into our adulthood and even into marriage... Aki I thank God I found Him and still healing from childhood and early adulthood trauma

[@anneanne893]

Wow, so so touched by her story. I wish i could sit with you one day Lynn and just offload my baggage of a story. A story which i want some people to wrap my head around to understand. "Adopted" at age 5, only discovered I had a biological mum and Dad when in college. While trying to sort out my biological mum's family (I later head she separated from my biological father, when i was just reaching 5), I also had to figure out biological father's family, (biological father now had two other wives), then my adopted family etc etc, my biological mum dies. Quite a traumatizing story, which i wish someone could just listen to me. The trauma lives on even at 50 now. Lynnn God Bless you kind heart. I am in Cameroon and follow you back to back.

[@diananjeri5229]

Hugs for you mama sending you love ❤️

[@manotirebeccky5285]

Wooow. Lynn, my take home for today. Is although am not yet a mother, I feel my kids should be my best friend and give them the reason always come back in my hands. ❤ I love you so much my dear

[@mumuhassan1166]

Aki Lynn you are the coolest host. Njoki this was heavy, I’ve fallen in love with your personality… I wish you love & light from Tz🇹🇿

[@gentleparent101]

Thank you so much!

[@emmawacuka5344]

wow, this is so informative...i`m not a violent person but i`ve learnt that there`s a lot of things i need to change in raising my son.

[@sharonadongo2573]

From now henceforth i vow to never shout at my children 😮

[@beatricemuringi4120]

Min 58, reminds me of a quote i read today, "the biggest mistake parents make is to forget their childhood, good or bad". This reminds us how we felt and experienced life at their age, which is really important in our journey of parenting

[@lafayettecyber9129]

Njoki - You are God sent for those, like myself, have very carefully listened and grasped the life-saving and restoration message that you carry..... please keep on talking....and helping others start and join in this journey of self-love, healing and discover a place of inner peace and self-control.

[@gentleparent101]

Thank you so so much ❤❤

[@susanmemo1083]

Na relate na hiyo story,juu my hubby ako kama Baba yake,ni muabusive,hata story ya financially ajawahi ni support najitegea,Hadi nilisahau kama kuna mtu anafaa kunisaidia...matusi nimepata Hadi nikazoea,hakuna kitu sijaona..

[@jlmchannel5579]

We are talking of leaving ,please leave urrgh

[@gracekui2000]

What? Never get used to abuse

[@beatricenjeri8502]

Na bado uko kwa hiyo marriage

[@sheilamarangu]

Huyo ni sperm donor, sio 'hubby' .Real husbands are pillars, protectors and providers... spiritually, financially and emotionally.

[@rosegithemo808]

Na unangoja nini? Leave him.

[@norahmutisya1615]

Wow this is lessons to learn: involve your children on how to come with a workable and achievable budget as early as possible so that they grow up knowing anything you need must be planned for. Love is not painful, Love doesn't hurt, Love should be nurtured and above all involve children more in conversation rather than shouting to them and come up with rules agreed upon in mutual understanding between parent and child.... everyone requires a bestie like Esther & her spouse..... Darling Njoki your story is inspiring...you deserve to be loved by a Man who respect a woman....#You attract who you're 💜

[@lavernmcgaw9873]

I have learned so much from this lady listening to her has cause me to take a look in my own life thank you mama salute you

[@RN-gg7yn]

If my dad was to die today, I'd only shed a tear just to stand with my mum but deep down in my heart, I'd be happy that my mum will finally start 'living' if there is a prayer that I silently utter is my mum to be the last to leave this world. We need time with her. This man has not only emotionally abused us but in all dimensions.

[@blessedsana]

Sorry 🙏

[@RosebelNjoroge-vm7go]

A comment that I can relate with not to mean we bad 😢. But the damage gosh 💔💔

[@irenekariuki8098]

I can feel your pain 😞 I feel for my momma 🥺

[@gentleparent101]

I'm so so sorry 😢😢

[@gladysngunyi4730]

This is my prayer for my mum inlaw I always feel dad in law would leave first she has gone through all mama njoki went through

[@shikuliz4134]

Shes right the current parenthood generation of today is traumatized and we are passing it to our kids i will stop yelling at my kids

[@estherangom2826]

Omg I am touched, I have learnt a lot from this episode. I hope to do better with my child.

[@OnlinewithMathuto]

Njoki is an amazing story teller. Stay strong in the Lord Sis. ❤

[@sheilahendrich6995]

Woi ,I am crying for this Njoki's story ,there good people out there.

[@harrietambia9406]

Story of my life, I just feel as if she is talking on my behalf, I didn't enjoy my childhood, vita almost daily😢😢😢, thank you for sharing this.

[@judithkinya7433]

Who's your Esther in this life? May God help us, sending love to Njoki❤

[@esthermwaura6369]

I think this name Njoki is for strong ladies. Am Njoki too, and I feel like when she talks about parenting, I resonate with her. My firstborn has seen it all. Now we are learning each other and am much softer. Thank you Lynn and Njoki

[@prizvinyam8356]

I can relate to this. My mother went through emotional abuse from my father, I then I ended up with a similar emotional abusive narcissistic partner but I managed to leave him whereby my mother couldn’t find strength to leave my father.

[@matildachawana]

Hi Lnn family. Wow!! Life can be so cruel sometimes!! This is exactly what happened to my Mum some years back. I too is going through the same, abuse rejection, false acusations, madharau yabkila aina! Am a mom of 4 girls, 2 adults and teens. They tell me,"if marriages are like this one of yours, never ever will we set our feet in it..

[@tecklachege8237]

Oooh my! she has changed my perspective of parenting thank you Njoki Mambo and Lynn for bringing her. Looking forward to watching more of you Njoki. ❤❤❤

[@brendakraido1015]

If you are looking for panelists to discuss parenting, consider calling Betty Adera. She has an interesting story and perspective on parenting

[@claudettepalmer7190]

Thank God , you have survived and you are here sharing with us and inspiring us. My hats off to you QUEEN, the strength you have shown and the love you have given to your children. Thank God for your mom as well. Thank you team Lyn and I so appreciate the out door for this interview...very relaxing..❤

[@joykahenda4676]

I am so inspired and I promise to be a gentle parent.

[@ngodeotieno3489]

Physical punishment at home and school is what causes domestic violence in homes.

[@kendimwirigi5785]

Thank you so much for this Njoki n Lynn , I need to unlearn and learn I've been shouting n beating mine aah this was an eye opener, be blessed

[@nancyoduor9291]

Njoki is a natural beauty 😍

[@elizabethngulale4664]

Wow.. I love the way Njoki has evolved. Her You tube channel suggested name '''Mambo ya Gentle Parenting''

[@loverofHS]

Nice one she should see this

[@elizabethmbesa8454]

She's is indeed healed . Njoki you are now living your purpose. Our challenges are always a stepping stone to our purpose. I loved how composed you are when talking . Like you are allowing tue audience to digest what you are saying . I cried watching this especially the parenting area. I am going to intentionally heal my inner child . I am ready to unlearn and do better . I am willing to learn from you . Njoki pole sana for what you went through . It wasn't your fault , we need more njokis like you to bring awareness to the society. Alot of BS is being normalised. People are masking alot and living in illusion. We need to understand the power of healing our inner child , we need to fill our cups first and be authentic. Heal attracts heal...that was powerful. I have personally witnessed what working on myself in becoming the best Version of myself means. Guys need to embrace investing in themselves through therapist and life coaches . The universe has alot of goodness in store for everybody and our generation. I would watch this interview a million times to allow the information soak in . Lyn thank you for impacting lives . Thanks you for giving us the best. May God bless you all

[@gentleparent101]

Thank you so much Elizabeth! ❤

[@Ami_kenya]

How many times have I prayed and desired to die na God Haskii.... especially something so difficult to open up

[@OnlinewithMathuto]

Loving you from South Africa. Subtitles please 😊, I get the feeling its the really juicy parts that are spoken in your native language. I'm guilty of the same too.

[@K_essie]

this hurts me😭😭 I think I should open up my life story

[@jimalois]

Inspirational and breaking at the same time, God grant you your wishes lads

[@user-st4oy6gf2g]

Felt like its me narrating😭😭😭 the same thing iwent through but now i thank god i divorced the man 2as nasstic and the mother inlaw was toxic and evil,am happy with my two kids

[@paulinemwangi7560]

Alot to be learned from this life experience. Well done Njoki. Thanks for breaking the circle for your babies. The generation ahead are blessed ❤

[@yvonnethomas5599]

You’re a pretty strong woman with lots of values and I believe that you’re a great mother,God will find you a great husband who will love you for who you’re. Love is kind , love is patient love does not hurt you. Continue to be strong and courageous. Your testimony is powerful.

[@maryisler1924]

Mother in law, love her she was trying to open her eyes.

[@gentleparent101]

No she wasn't. She actually told me that exact sentence of kisu itaamua twice on different occasions. And her tone wasn't that of advice. It was a threat.

[@annewairimu1035]

It is sad some best couples' marriages are not working yet they 'mentor' many upcoming couples! They smile while with you yet fight when at home!

[@marymwai65]

Very encouraging. We thank God for healing you Njoki.

[@rosettelillehei7730]

I do exactly gentle parenting with my children. People around me said my children are taking control over me.

[@gentleparent101]

You are empowering your children and that is beautiful ❤

[@trizahngari4686]

"Strength is not something you derive from pain" 👌

[@Steg2023]

this a so much touching testimony. i m that mum who lives with the young me thinking its the best way of displine. am changed one now. thanks Lynn for this

[@monicamakalliwa2674]

I think Njoki’s husband had a problem and his parents that’s Njoki’s in-laws were not able to deal with the character of their son.

[@topystarbwire1784]

No. This will shock you. People have wealth that can't be justified. The continuation of sacrifices continues through their children. Off course the kids don't even know but sometimes they do.😮