The right time to cut off toxic family members and release yourself from the guilt | LNN

[@LynnNgugi]

Hello team LNN, We hope this conversation helps:) Connect with Morrine here 0738 574 784 or instagram.com/morrineminneh?igsh=MWxyNW1zYnVicmU1dw== or Have a great weekend ❤

[@Becky370]

Another episode his here again 😮

[@anm7018]

This was absolutely amazing such an eye-opener… in My eyes my parents were Superman and superwoman and never once did i really give thought to their true feelings 😢Thank you so much❤

[@paulkaranja9257]

Topic: Effect of having only One child, whether single parent, both parents or with cousins (extended family).

[@teresiahwachira1099]

This lady is so good she is the first visitor I have tried to reach out asked questions and she responded she is so helpful and now am on my way to follow her she means what she is doing and she will guide you and not give u solution but help you navigate through good job Lynn and thanks for bringing Morine

[@mercykirugu8371]

Can we say forgiveness is accepting and letting go of broken expectations

[@amazingbeatrice9228]

I came to realize that many mothers used to beat us so hard to release the pain, bitterness or what she was going through. Some mothers did not know love or even receive love from childhood or husband.... So there was No love in them to release to us but bitterness, so if you cross her path wrongly she lands on you properly. FORGIVE.. FORGIVE.. FORGIVE, seek help to let go, so that she doesn't make your life hard as you grow in life, make peace with her, so that she can bless you. JABEZ in the Bible prayed to God to deliver him from the pain, the mother named him pain we don't know why?? But God changed his story, pray for God to change your story.

[@liliankemuma9475]

Amen

[@69purposecoarse]

😅

[@stellamaries2979]

It's very true now I fully understand why my stepmom used to beat me daily when I was a child my mother died when I was just three yrs😢😢😢my dad remarried a witch she used to beat me up for no reason n mind u she had come with a wedlock child 2 yrs my father loved him like his own provided for them but the problem is they were both positive.. but my biological mum too was affected 😢I think it's my dad who brought it to her even my stepmom used to say she wasn't sick before meeting my dad so I had to suffer 😭😭 the consequences of my dad's action..May He rest in power 🙏

[@annetteannette2882]

True ..am grown up and still dream on being bitten in my childhood..childhood traumas are real...we know better to do better❤

[@bwari01]

Seriously? Pray for the abuser so that you can be in their life? Toxic! Pray for them, yes. But remove them from your life. They are who they are. Hoping for them to change coz yoi are praying leaves you to still be the door mat. Even Abraham separated with his nephew when their herdsmen did not get along. It is ok to leave family members who are toxic. I say this from first hand experience. I went no contact for my sanity and I am happy to say, I’ve gotten of depression meds. Love yourself enough to choose yourself.

[@ajjruu5390]

Those who love their mothers 100% give this comment a like.

[@annekagiri4303]

Recognizing that your mother is abusive it doesn't reduce your love for her. It makes acknowledge that she is human, and you are human too. We all make mistakes. But some acknowledge the mistakes, others don't.

[@omarchai8066]

I hate mine

[@damariszuckschwert9489]

@@omarchai8066Pole❤

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Learn to forgive as Christ forgave us. The moment Yu release her spiritually,the more yr heart receive peace​@@omarchai8066

[@millicent3275]

Ngai 😂 bona?​@@omarchai8066

[@t.c7915]

Very touching,l grew up seeing favourism displayed in our family, when l outgrew my uniform or torn mom would only buyffor my sister who attended same sec.sch. & same class with me, buy her text books and lock them away fro. Me so l would borrow from the library. On holidays l was made to wake up early and by 8am niko shambani kupalilia viazi, the rest of family will be having breakfast. Amka unafikiri schoolfees itatoka wapi? Was her constant phrase for me to work Excessively than others. Did well in exams and an opportunity came to study abroad, mum wanted to transfer my credentials to my sister so she can go instead of me, but subconsciously admitted admitted during application to the ministry then, was given a chance to bring me along and was told appl. Will proceed with the right candidate. 34 yrs later am a medical dr thriving in Britain

[@carolineg.3276]

Oooooh

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Big time,big future,God works in mysterious way, I hope Yu forgave her. I like yr positive energy

[@carolinewanjiku9934]

Kudos to you. You made it after overcoming soo much. Hugs dear.

[@mercyedith1383]

Iam sorry

[@GloriaDelux]

You are loved darling. All thanks to God.

[@kezzybett1142]

My mum was a perfect parent. Humble,peaceful,polite,kind,very understanding,and very Godly Woi......but my dad😮😮😮😮😮 I hear of narcist n toxic,none of those terms cud describe him Though he provided everything we required but weuh......we even nicknamed him FIRE........ I thank God I made peace with him before he died n was able to really love him n care for him for the last three yrs when he was very sick Unfortunately not all his kids were able to Only God can help us forgive n forget For me I thank God for giving me a very Godly husband who taught me that bitterness is from the enemy n would only destroy my life. He taught me to forgive for my own peace n good Ofcoz it took time for me to be able to do it,but finally I was able to forgive by the grace of God.

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Bby girl,Yu did so well,yr siblings needs also to petition their prayers before God in order to release ther anger.

[@kezzybett1142]

@@Janice-sd7hl Amen Thank you so much

[@keziamtaki9066]

Happy for you dear.from disorganised family about love'nikaangukia another family yenye ina value mwenye ako na kitu hata akikosea ako sawa but me small thing unatupiwa uchafu yote.mtu wa karibu wa ku solve anataka umuabudu it's hard kwa kweli.bila job after kuniachisha ka my small job😢

[@faithmuthoni307]

I love this topic because Kenyans are not ready for this

[@milliekamau4477]

Being 41 and still rejected by the so-called mother, going through all sorts of abuse (i.e., physical, verbal, emotional name them) in all phases of my life, I decided to forgive her for me. I needed to heal so I don't pass the same to my own kids. I am a work in progress and only trusting in God to lead and guide me. 🙏🙏🙏 . Thank you Lynn, most of us suffer in silence and this topic is overdue.

[@christineluhombo3547]

I have also lived with bitterness that my aunty caused 21 years ago but I decided to let go,I mean I have forgiven her

[@Janice-sd7hl]

​@@christineluhombo3547Congrats, that's way to go,Yu did so well

[@jgw6137]

I am not yet 40..but not so far...yet going through the same.

[@wanjiruolive]

You can forgive and protect your peace and accept that it's possible not to be unconditionally loved by people we share the same blood with.....

[@milliekamau4477]

​@jgw6137 you must forgive them for you. Let go so you can move on and live life God intended for you. Hugs 🫂

[@felisterwangu658]

Here with an open mind to learn tondu maa, we have really have really gone through traumatizing moments due to toxic relatives.

[@WanjiruMuya]

Any time you realise someone is pushing you at the edge it's the best time❤ My hugs to everyone trying to navigate this thing called life.

[@Janice-sd7hl]

That's positive energy!!

[@maureenkimathi8764]

I think we need to bring our parents especially Mum's to see this life coach. Many millennials don't have a healthy relationship with their moms. As much as some of us have tried even communication, its like its foreign. All they know how to do is either shout, talk bad, you name it, and now that you are older and not a child anymore, you take a step back. No interaction or communication for peace of mind. You can't force to be in someone's life if they don't want you there.

[@gwomondi743]

I named my girl Godswill Waheaven for several reasons, pain and rejection 😢 especially from the people i love most! At any point i feel like giving up, my baby's name makes me strong again! Lynn i miss to seat with even behind the camera just to pour out my heart!

[@TheFrancesZachary]

Powerful !! Start seeing people for who they truly are.😊

[@LynnNgugi]

Absolutely 🙏

[@mwendwabrian695]

The moment I saw my mother and panicked, I realized I was still infantilized by GUILTY TRIPPING, SHAMING, INSULTS, I went within to find myself. I had to bring God back into Focus. May The Future Father protect their children from the consuming mother.

[@morrineminneh]

🫂

[@aloyisupa5802]

Deal with the parent you have not the parent you wish you had… that got me

[@monicakomen-p6l]

Very authentic conversation, People do not like being seen for who they are, they want you to see the mask and pretend it’s pleasant! Many times it’s not tolerable! Self awareness is a spiritual awakening!

[@Lina_carol]

Forgiveness comes from a place of acknowledging the hurt and deciding what the person or people did, is because of their hurt and unforgiveness. Hurt people ,hurt people . Chose to let nothing hurt you

[@lunkhohaohangshing6330]

OMG she is full of knowledge. I can't get enough of listening to this Guest.

[@Kenyan_Matrioshka]

Maureen was literally channeling the spirit of God. This conversation has touched each and every person in one way or the other. thank you for being the instrument of peace and allowing God to speak through you. My soul has been nourished and my life's perception has been changed. Thank you Lynn and your amazing team. God bless you all for such a beautiful show

[@nyangichic375]

What a parent with a child that has gone no contact may not realise is that we, the children have gone no contact not because we want to punish them or we are being heartless. We are actually grieving. Grieving the parent we craved for that we will never have and also grieving the parent that we DID have. We just don't want to be hurt by them anymore. Every interaction with them is stressful and painful and we have a right to live in peace and they have no right to harm us. Loads of hugs to those of us who had no choice but to reach this very painful but extremely liberating decision.

[@jackie4health]

Hugs for you too

[@MJ-ye7dd]

I am here right now. How does it feel when you build your parent's home and they say they won't live there after a week?

[@morrineminneh]

🫂

[@Janice-sd7hl]

​@@MJ-ye7ddYu had good intensions, learn to love yrself and leave them alone

[@yushhandmade]

​@@MJ-ye7ddSell it

[@shalomandrest]

Heeeee me I remove myself pap! From anyone who hurts me knowingly or unknowingly, I don't bother to figure it out. Family or friends TOXIC IS TOXIC BYE 👋

[@Ibrahim-vo5pz]

You are exactly the same as me..I don't en will never tolerate some hurtful behaviours which could have easily been avoided through common sense..Maybe I can excuse a child,I have no time parenting grown ups on how to behave maturely en in a discipline manner..PERIOD!!!

[@bwari01]

💯! To the point that I was told I cut off people too quickly! Well, Maya Angelou said: ‘When someone shows you who they are, believe them. ‘ And Oprah Winfrey added. ‘The first time.’ I let them go and I move on with my life.

[@mercykirugu8371]

You need to forgive because you've done something to somebody somewhere knowingly or unknowingly

[@bwari01]

@@mercykirugu8371 Yes. However, forgiveness is NOT reconciliation. You can forgive and still have new boundaries in place. Usually, people think forgiveness means they go back to how things were as if nothing happened. This is not wise to continue to give full access to people have shown you who they are.

[@mercykirugu8371]

@@bwari01 Agree and it's a good thing coz I've done that,it's leaves you feeling relieved and free

[@stellahosiri2728]

Hugs to those who were victims and to the ones that are hurting silently up to date may you all find peace while on healing process 🙏🙏

[@lavenderonyango5831]

We complicate things by constantly wanting the why. What if they responded.... because I could! Mind blowing

[@lavenderonyango5831]

What? They had the guts to just say that to your face?

[@morrineminneh]

@@chipashamoyo6435 My heart does out to you. Hugs my dear. Forgiveness as the ultimate gift to self.

[@JustMarilyn]

We need to normalize the fact that forgiving does not mean allowing the hurtful parent into your everyday life. Too many people, especially the born again, have the habit of guilt-tripping others by forcing them to make "frequent" contact with someone who is still causing extreme pain and anxiety by their words or actions. I can forgive and choose to see you once every two years.

[@kananiedwin]

Or 5 years

[@bwari01]

Or never

[@damarisnjoki5722]

Wow that's true

[@Kidsstoryblock]

This video is my healing finally

[@josephmumita8986]

Take a way, "if you know the what, the how will show up." Great information. Thank you, Lynn!

[@BUHLEBUZILE]

I am 36 years old, I stay with my mother, we help each other financially but I am still scared of her because she used to insanely shout at me. She did not know how to be there emotionally and psychologically therefore we can't have mature conversations because every day was about home duties only and nothing else. I respect her very much because she did n't have it easy as well

[@Njeri_Wambui]

I deal with who I really am.I accept my family for who they are for I can't change my lineage and know where I want to be for the best of everyone 🙏👍🇰🇪❤️👏

[@teresiatnjeri]

This is good Lynn. My healing has just started. I have been manipulated and thought that i am being helped.

[@hannahkomu6842]

I love that you you mentioned "HONOUR" Every one of us has a story.Most of these parents did not have new creation life.They were just church attendants full of old Adamicfallen nature but the fact that they persevered ad did everything to keep us well fed,we just do what God wants,honour ur father ad mother.The resolve is in 2 corinthians 5:17.I am a testifier when i translated into the kingdom of God by accepting Jesus as the Lord of my life,i was taught to forgive everybody.When i did it ,healing kicked in,the blood preassure got healed ,athrities got healed,allergies.I lead my parents to Chrust ad they also exprienced the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ.I learned how to function in the kingdom ad for the kingdom.

[@justinaopit]

Our mothers treated most of us the way they did because of absent fathers. She is supposed to take responsibility of both father and mother. Most fathers even when around, they are not active in the upbringing of the children. Look at homes where fathers are deliberate about the upbringing of the children and loving the mother, that family is a happy one. My challenge to all that are ailing out of this conversation, decided to be a present parent. Be the generation of change. You may never have been taught but we have God. As long us you are willing to bring change, He is ready and willing to hold your hand one day at a time. May God heal you.

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Very true,when the father is responsible and loving, Things are easy to the mom and children.

[@RonnyAwuor-qn2wg]

In Benjamin Zulu 's words, "The truth is not always hard to see but to accept ".

[@AtienoWaMashamba]

I’m liking this episode before I even listen! Nitaongeza maoni yangu baadaye.

[@gracewanyaga3322]

As we grow older we see the strength and weakness of our parents but that does not stop them from being our parents we should understand and accept them, because that is who they are and we can't change them.i set limits.

[@BM7-j7m]

And above all, were it not for them, we couldn't be existing.

[@Janice-sd7hl]

I love that bby girl Yu set limit

[@bwari01]

If they are abusive, please don’t accept the abuse. Protect yourself by setting serious boundaries and going no contact if they don’t respect the boundary you set. Parents are people and will harm you just like other human beings if they are harmful.

[@WandiaRachel]

The random I love you in between the episode just made my heart melt. Thank you for normalizing the phrase, Lynn. Lord knows we need to hear it more often. Also Coach Minneh is pretty dope. She is a treasure. I love her too.

[@MoraaMarthaFaith]

Even before I watch this, I'm struggling to heal mom traumas, to date I rather die with an issue than confide to my mother, I'm trying to heal and forgive her and understand she was projecting her traumas,... But thank God, my grandma stood in big time❤, I don't know if I would be today. God plea help me heal, If I start telling a story about my mom, I would write a whole book. God just heal me 🙏. May l be a graceful mom to my generation ❤

[@Beyond_Daily_Life]

Just forgive my dear and pray for her.

[@morrineminneh]

🫂

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Kudos to the granny, Receive grace to forgive yrself first,then forgive yr mom ,not actually face to face but petioning to God to give Yu wisdom to navigate the journey.big time .

[@nelliusmureu7513]

Hugs 🫂 my dear

[@PamelaWawira-rz3zc]

Can I be your friend...have got same story as yours

[@minkrasi]

If you know the What, the How will show up...love this!

[@gss290]

Every relationship offers us such a journey into higher consciousness. But our Dharma will continue to test us until we have burnt up all the Karma ❤

[@vincentomurwa1937]

I like this conversation. I read a book "healing damaged emotions" by David Seamands. Emotional damage is real to all of us as we journey through the many phases of life. It is important that you identify those trends and work on them. Do not project to others, turn inward and fix it, it is only you that can do that and it is a work in progress. Day by day, it gets better.

[@zuhuraabdi8989]

From today i want to give better from what i received in my childhood thanks dearest lyn and host

[@alexandrakitenge4493]

I love your naturalism while talking to your guest. You do it good and not at all robotic or memorised. 🎉🎉😊

[@Onedayatatime24]

I'm grateful for my mum but I've also learnt how to understand who she is to avoid alot of conflict. Having grown up in a toxic environment with a violent father I understand where she is coming from

[@Rehobothreconciliation]

Am glad that I am alive at such a time and day, to be able to watch and learn what Lynn is impacting in this generation. I must admit that I am always at school here. Thank you Lynn for allowing God to use you.

[@wanjiruolive]

Milenials now are practising what we call estrangement.......though i dont if the method can work for narcissistic mums io ni breed ingine kali.......kwanza lynn has done very nice stories apa like the madam who was at the time was in her 50's and her relationship with her mother was still painful and difficult and she tried everything to please her.....kuna breed ingine you have to choose your mental health pia......

[@gww-px8vc]

Wacha tu nicheke ju umeongea ukweli kuna breed zingine za toxic Narcissists ni shetani in human form.

[@generalcomments6694]

This has been so so healing to hear. I think I needed this for me. Now I have to listen to it again and digest bit by bit and not too much therapy.

[@ivykerubo2425]

Thankyou for sharing this story..you have impacted so much in me.

[@lavenderonyango5831]

Being a victim exempts us from taking responsibility and doing something about it.

[@Mummy-1234-n2d]

The guest is not only knowledgeable but eloquent. A wonderful conversation 👏🏼👏🏼

[@akinyiowino9265]

This is a very timely conversation. Studies show that Infants who loose their Mums at Birth, have a negative psychological impact on that child’s 4 Generations

[@herfamiller139]

Thank you LN & team. Thank you Moureen. This really helps me to make a very HARD decision. God bless you all.🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@wambuikimani9652]

Morrine Minneh is my coach and she is purely professional.

[@LynnNgugi]

We love her too🙏🙏

[@morrineminneh]

Thank you, beloveds ❤❤❤

[@lizzymalkiah]

Thank you Lynn for bringing this very knowledgeable lady! She spoke well...

[@graceconstance1226]

God help me.I wouldn't want my girl to be treated the same way my mom treated me. I hope one day I will let go of this trauma

[@stacymueni9154]

Same to me here. My mother has really tortured me

[@janevergathii5335]

The best Topic ever

[@valentinemulamba3760]

Exactly the time I needed this...Thank you lyn🙏

[@angelanakakande5654]

I don't know who else is listening to this on the 13th of October 1345hrs ... am just so happy that this lady is speaking to me... I have been struggling and struggling with parental relationship issues....oooh it's just of recent that I had actually come into terms that I am the one hurting myself...I have been asking and wanting for more from my mother....I only came to realise that you can't give what you don't have....I think this interview needs to be on repeat mode...most of us out her are hurting and we don't know how to walk out of this.....❤😊 So greatful I got to listen to this.

[@georgemayo5623]

Making peace with our story is like making peace with ourselves.

[@LIZZY-v4e]

Morrine is so calm and peaceful ❤

[@bellaolum9768]

Our brain is wired not to want change - THIS!!🎉🎉

[@bridgetkanana]

Oh i needed this 😢😢 may God help me handle it 😭🙏

[@gww-px8vc]

You will You will in Jesus name. Also talking openly about how you are being treated helps. Mimi I have always been very vocal about how that mother has been wicked to me since childhood na sahi naelekea 40 na sigojei abadilike , she clearly knows My reasons for keeping away from her ensure she knows however they go crazy once you get fed up and face them with reality of whom they are lol they will even turn the tables and make u seem to be the psycho n toxic Narcissist while they know their behaviours however nomatter how much they gang up on you, do not fear keep your head high up it is what it is and one needs to protect their peace from such evil toxic characters. Lol even people around might not believe you if you tell them how your mother is cos well toxic people are very good at acting and pretending how nice they are to people outside 😅 so watu qa inje huona wewe ndio mbaya but don't shy off speak out its your story and nobody else can speak it for you

[@vitalinsights411]

Lynn I love this topic because every human being can relate to it. Thank you so much for bringing more light to it🙏

[@LatifahNsubuga]

Happy belated birthday 🎂 🎊 🎁 Lynn❤ may God answer all your secret prayers and may He keep blessing you everything and may He protect you from all types of evil, I love you so Lynn ❤

[@mwananchi4726]

Generational trauma is real. Our grandparents and parents grew up during the colonial emergency period and harsh political environments afterwards. Many do not share what they went through. Therapy was non-existent. People were expected to be “strong “.

[@morrineminneh]

💯

[@carolinemunge1563]

Oooh no I don't want to become my mother...I want to completly opposite...kind,warm and accomodating to my gals..God help me❤

[@gww-px8vc]

Amen way to go

[@Wanjamburu.23]

I think clear communication was always the problem. If we were able to have a parent letting us know what they themselves had gone through or were struggling with them it would have been easier to understand where they were coming from so that we stop judging them and thinking they did not love us. Its important to know that they had their own issues

[@morrineminneh]

True

[@yvonneokhanga3200]

You have a gift & you know how to embrace it, you can calm the raging seas with your words.

[@jackie4health]

Im glad to be here again. Its my goal to catch up with evwry episode from this channel. This is like my university classroom, uaani the learning ive heard here❤

[@jackie4health]

*every... *Yaani. Forgive the typos

[@judithokonji1028]

Hakuna mzazi hata mmoja angependa kumfanyie mwanaye vibaya ....lakini hata ukijaribu mpaka kuna mahali utajikuta umekosea huwenda kwa kutokujua ama malezi ambao tulipitia pia Sasa niseme hivi hata hao pia tuliowaleya watakapokuwa wazazi pia watajikuta wamelaumiwa na watoto wao pia Hakuna mtu perfect kwa mioyo yetu tunawapenda saana watoto wetu .

[@pennymbata6666]

I really love this conversation. Why do people seem to .... their mother when they grow up rather than their father.

[@Janice-sd7hl]

African traditional mothers used to cough and it was law. Neither our fathers gave our mom humble time,beating insulting,doninating major conversation in the family setup.They were final and yr cant question his authority.Imagine i forgive my father just recently,sadly enough in his grave. I just reconciled within my spririt and boom i found peace

[@chamediatv5479]

This is for the silent majority ... many of us who wish we could share what we have gone through, but we wish not to .... May God heal our wounds and teach us how to forgive and move on 🙏🏾🎈😓

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Receive that grace, God's is in control

[@morrineminneh]

Amen

[@kearam2012]

I've never watched any of Lynn's Podcast and have not learned from it. Thank you, Lynn's & the team for your greatness❤

[@Kidsstoryblock]

Thank you Lynn and your team

[@LatifahNsubuga]

“Deal with the parent that you have not the one that you wished you had “

[@fatumaibrahim2105]

Very raw and candid

[@Tangeniroyalpriesthood]

Wow Lynn...you never disappoint...thank you my lady...personally this has make me understand more of myself...I have come to a point of acceptance and separate myself but mostly to deal with the mother i have...all i pray to God is to give me the lesson in giving me the type of mother and sibling i have, at the end of the day everything happens for a reason and God makes no mistake, so i pray i dont loose the lesson...my strength is that i know to keep my sanity and i can withdraw myself from were i am not served, but the biggest task is to accept the people the way they are and gracefully choose to not engage and set boundaries for yourself😊

[@eomondi7019]

Enyewe forgiveness is the highest form of love. It takes a strong person to say sorry and an even stronger person to just forgive...its never easy,but it finally comes❤❤❤❤

[@mowawajowangu8216]

I learnt it the hard way but for sure the payoff is worth it ❤ the secret is letting go of it 😊

[@chebi5704]

Forgiveness is not easy,my own mother mistreated me ,up to date weren't good friends, though we talk but limited, what hurts me more is the scar I still have to date after beatings,when I look at it bitterness vibrates 😢😢😢

[@payingitforwardwithcarol]

🫂

[@mwendwabrian695]

Forgive her. Trauma loves to inflict Trauma.

[@blessed3748]

🤗 I pray God heals you

[@morrineminneh]

🫂

[@MJ-ye7dd]

Mimi wangu aliniachia my grandma akamshow wanikunywe supu 😂 The pain! Sijai recover

[@LoyceBusolo]

Lnn i watch through youtube,am grateful to your show it has helped heal from my childhood scars

[@lindakiage2916]

I needed to hear this!

[@jacklynekiarie5026]

If mum can know how much I love her,she has constantly pushed me off (worst case I have no idea why she has so much grudge with me) but over time I have made peace with it. Forgiven her,myself for whatever reason and am more peaceful. Now I offer that love to my children 😊❤

[@mercyedith1383]

Thank you I just watched this one and Iam learning, I'll put it in action.

[@georgemayo5623]

There is nothing to conquer. The word conquer is at times misunderstood in life.

[@MusaDembele-wu5gm]

1:20:58 this one hit me home💯 thank you, I really needed this

[@anastasiamaina6961]

I really need to hear this conversation

[@rosemakena8267]

This conversation is very personal for me.

[@tashalamwanaENN]

My mother mistreated me and I still have trauma from that,,,but the best choice I made is to forgive her,,,I cannot forget but I choose to free myself not necessarily being close because I can't trust her but I respect her as my biological mother

[@Janice-sd7hl]

I love that,more grace to yu

[@Beautyforashes254]

And it's time we genuinely talk about in-laws .....parents and siblings in law

[@lorineochieng3318]

Lynn, This conversation was exactly what I needed to hear😊😊 Keep doing what you do❤❤

[@AnneNjuguna-qn4xl]

Thanks

[@LynnNgugi]

Thank you Anne🙏

[@Nyamburaa]

I came, saw and left..powerful

[@janetwairagu4462]

This topic is 19 years too late for me . But I'm glad we now have KZbin and shows lik Lyn's to gift us the beauty of 'feeling seen' where most have felt voiceless and even worse isolated . This is a very very important topic. Estrangement .

[@LynnNgugi]

We are so glad you got to watch this 🙏One step at a time ❤

[@Janice-sd7hl]

Not too late my dear, learn to forgive yrself, receive grave to forg❤

[@wanjiruolive]

I have been watching alot of youtube videos on estrangement. And I have to the realisation that it's the best for me because nothing is changing is only getting worse as am I becoming older....am 28 turning 29 this month going 1yr without speaking to her cause of some serious issues last yr and I have never known how to resolve conflicts with her since childhood.....so I really have to protect my mind before I loose it...

[@diaryofagrowingblackwoman3843]

​@@wanjiruoliveI'm also 28 going to 29 recently blocked my mother out of my life after such a horrible experience. I'm in a foreign country and somehow needing her for emotional support is just too much for her. So what's the use really of someone who only calls or texts for money only and when you need guidance and love you get backlash

[@wanjiruolive]

@diaryofagrowingblackwoman3843 sorry to hear that I understand your pain I didn't know it was a problem after I stumbled along a certain book , which was like a life revelation to me. The bad times were more than good and you kept hearing people say that she's your mum but they didn't seem to understand the psychological damages. And when am getting older it's only becoming worse and am considering estrangement and healing for me. And to make matters worse am a first born plus the scape goat of the family so it's a tough situation. But with alot of knowledge out there it's not a new phenomenon thousands of people are experiencing it. You just have to do what works for you. Yet again alot of Africans are denial but mimi av decided to start living in the reality....

[@Carolyne8]

Great conversation. Great great conversation.

[@irenerotich1778]

Thanks alot I have learnt to let it go go especially toxic rlship

[@perismkala4275]

Healing is a rough road before reaching the tarmac... dealing with parental wounds is so hard 😭😭😭.... when you said someone not feeling safe at home that's me for sure

[@morrineminneh]

🫂

[@shazzysymon6835]

May GOD heal everyone and may he give you all the grace to forgive because when you forgive you are serving GOD and it's for your own goodness and growth. ❤❤❤

[@everlynemuriuki5466]

Just because you had a mother does not mean you were mothered😮

[@carolineg.3276]

That slaps me hard

[@Janice-sd7hl]

​@@carolineg.3276me too bby girl

[@vero-travels32]

Powerful! How do we become better mothers? I need to talk to Maureeen the life coach

[@evasavai956]

The best medicine is forgive them ask God for favour do that you can move ahead and ur life will be blessed Put God first

[@gww-px8vc]

Amen

[@teresiahwachira1099]

This the best that I need to hear this tondu maa let get the story first

[@janewairimu3466]

I needed to hear this.