I regret being a second wife, ruining another woman's marriage and laughing at her weakness | LNN

For 10 years, Hellen lived with someone's husband and together they were blessed with two children. On the other hand, her co-wife had been married to the same man for 20 years but she was unable to conceive, a thing that made her feel useless and unwanted.
Part 2 of the story:
• I regret being a secon...
Hellen enjoyed the soft life with this man and was spoilt in many ways..the man would tell her countless times how much he loved her and open up to Hellen about how weak his first wife was.
During their fights, Hellen would use the little information she knew about this woman to attack and humiliate her but she now says this is something she regrets deeply.
So, why did she finally decide to leave someone's husband alone and what does she hope we will all get to learn from her story?
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[@LynnNgugi]

Good morning team LN💛💛 We hope you love our new thumbnail:) What message do you have for Hellen? You can reach her on 0707825210 To share your story with us, send a summary to [e-mail] We appreciate your love and support💛

[@syphroseanyika7544]

This is my situation right now, married for 5 years but no kid,my husband has 4 kids with other women,and now he has made it clear to marry the one with two kids,only God knows the pain am going through,the insults from this lady 😭😭😭😭 don't know what to do.

[@georginaolives4200]

Hello team Lyn uiii me Ata nimengalia mara mbilimbili am used to red 😂😂😂

[@noelleademba708]

Lynn me na believe we ni or Utakuwa Oprah Winfrey wa Kenyaa.

[@janeashley5079]

@@syphroseanyika7544 hugs mummie

[@catherinemathu8655]

Hellen, two wrongs don't make a right. You got into a marriage as a second wife. Your hubby followed customary laws and paid dowry. You're officially his wife. By leaving him you've destroyed his life even more and that of his children. In my opinion, you should have just repented, renewed your commitment to God and then continued in the marriage - - in the permissive will of God.

[@gladyswaruguru8805]

Single ladies when u see a married man crying to you for a what is happening between him and the wife,funika masikio,fungua macho vizuri,run for your dear life...let Him tell Jesus his problems

[@Lifewithakish]

Allow me to laugh😂😂😂it's just funny

[@luizanabaru8456]

Very true..they are time wasters and most of them are hypocrites

[@phylisnthiwa6407]

,😄😄 funny... though true

[@phoebemiranyi1067]

Exactly.

[@carolkamau1468]

So true its a curse woiii.

[@judymwangimuthoni4176]

"you can't build happiness on another woman's tears "this lives rent free in my head

[@annahmunyaka6567]

Absolutely 💯

[@bleike9691]

Exactly

[@joycegumbo2732]

Karma will catch up with her, she thinks eti imeisha, bado, every action produces a reaction. What you do to others is your Karma!!

[@jocelynepatrick2196]

I love it when Lynn says, "allow me". She never just interrupts someone, she is very professional and has so much respect.

[@carolinemakezi5926]

I feel sorry for the woman who stayed without children after 10 years of marriage. Never, never mock a woman in such a situation.

[@rosesengo4704]

So is the man also expected to stay childless because his wife is being respected? What's the man in such a situation expected to do since his wife will cry anyway? He shackles himself and suffers silently?

[@chiherachashe8208]

​@@rosesengo4704 if the roles are reversed and it's the man who is infertile, is a woman allowed to have children outside of marriage as well? I hope so

[@MohamedAli-nf9wm]

@@chiherachashe8208these were married? So ur point is irrelevant

[@rosesengo4704]

@@chiherachashe8208 everyone has their reasons for getting married. If one of the wife's goals was to have children, she is free to walk away and get married elsewhere to have her children. The man will sort himself out. We found this world with its sorrow and we shall die and leave the sorrow waiting to catch other people.

[@christinekawira7201]

@@rosesengo4704 the bible is there to teach us life ethics ,read your Bible..... expecially Abraham's story and understand it, you will understand barrenness is not the a factor to separate people.....

[@simpforchyrie]

I'm I the only one who loves how she talks ? She's so clear and eloquent

[@eugeniedushimimana132]

She looks to be so sweet soul and she is cute. May her co wife find a place in her heart and forgives her

[@dianakinyasi7487]

Mimi Pia

[@qlijohn7603]

True

[@benardmakori6924]

But her mistakes overshadow her eloquence!

[@simpforchyrie]

@@benardmakori6924 😂 she's regrets what she did ... And she's sorry ... Kwani wewe hujaifanya mistakes 🌝

[@eunicekesa4426]

You can never build happiness on the back of someone else’s tears … I don’t know why people never learn that

[@gracekabue9401]

True

[@lexiebaiywo7741]

Sure

[@janerosejuma5840]

What do u mean by that?

[@pauline2604]

Powerful

[@eunicekesa4426]

@@janerosejuma5840 it goes without saying … you can NEVER cause tears to an innocent person and get away with it , God never sleeps he opens the book of remembrance

[@winniekwach5346]

May God restore the 10 years of pain, loneliness, questions and shame stolen from the first wife.

[@celestinemalonza2375]

Amen

[@catherinekamau2251]

Sure

[@wendie954]

Amen

[@annehmutiso9179]

Amen,,may God remember her womb like Sarah

[@godsown4683]

I apologized too to a woman. But it is only by God that one can do that. I remember I cried so much after that. It felt like a burden had been taken off my shoulder yet I had ended the relationship years back due to pursuing my relationship with God. But the conviction to apologize to her was there for years until I finally got the courage to do it. Btw I too am getting married in s few months time. To the glory of God. I urge women in those relationships to pray for strength to leave. The end is never good if you don't leave. Leave soon. God will give you your own

[@lovejones1897]

Better hope it doesn't happen to you

[@Neutrino783]

God has forgiven her. He is that great. Enjoy your life and thank you for realising your wrong. Men cheat. But your blessings flow when you put down the wrong and pick up the right.

[@starrjohnson1327]

​@@lovejones1897she apologized and healed. God is merciful. Everyone deals with different temptations and sins. Anyone(even a murder) who repents and is sincere is forgiven.

[@lovejones1897]

@@starrjohnson1327 doesn’t mean she is break free from judgment or karma

[@joanochieng4046]

"Never be an accomplice for/of a man to hurt his wife" no matter the reason. Lesson learnt

[@puritynjoki8882]

Sure

[@ReenkaKitchen]

Exactly

[@raspickney2562]

I was a second wife too in 1yr and left...hiyo ni upuuzi heri nikue single nikae na amani kuliko kuharibu ndoa ya mwingine

[@annea5781]

Out of curiosity, how did you come to decide to leave? I’m asking because I’m under the impression that mostly it’s either the first wife leaves or they both stay in chaos 😢

[@amauchephilips1021]

Please translate in English. I'm watching from Nigeria

[@hellenmkalla350]

No marriage can be build under another womans tears. Regret will always follow you.

[@faithmawia7591]

Siku hizi wanasema hakuna Karma. Anything involving using people and causing pain to children, Karma reigns.

[@lydiatanui4652]

Karma is real

[@hamidaalhabsi8568]

Your very true my Dear

[@monnsmonnskenya7058]

True

[@rebeccanawire2112]

TRUE AND SHE WILL NEVER HAVE PEACE

[@eleanemusic4139]

I was dumped for another woman, left with the three kids and my marriage was 12yrs old. If it were not for God I don't know 😭😭, God has enabled me to take care of my kids now my daughter is joining compus. My hope is coming back. It's so so painful and heartbreaking.

[@wendie954]

🫂 same here 12 yrs as well swtht

[@sylviemorgan9770]

Satan is after marriages,prayers must be a must in and on marriages,person's are not to drop their guard,Satan is out there with smoke coming from his nose(making trouble)..

[@sharonnemartins2798]

Who else agrees with me that this KZbin channel is therapeutic!!! GOD JOB LYNN!❤🙏

[@janeochieng1126]

Me here

[@ednahchirchir1924]

True. You learn the spirit of asking for forgiveness

[@rozziek4915]

Here I'm deae

[@ritaotid6275]

Me here watching from Kampala ug l just love Lynn's programs ni mafudisho sana big up Lynn

[@shamisojohwa1272]

The problem with us watching frm SouthAfrica is language, wish they had subtitles

[@rachaelmathenge7056]

the first wife doesnt need to reconcile with the man, she deserves better. just let her be

[@jsChelimo]

correct

[@rebecca9937]

The wife. Not 1st wife.

[@pamelamaithya2605]

Yes i agree with you

[@letstalkkenya2]

There is no woman who breaks people's marriages ...it is the married men who don't respect the marriages and therefore make a DELIBERATE CHOICE TO HAVE ANOTHER FAMILY....We must start addressing the REAL Issue if you must get a solution

[@thegichanas]

but you as the woman why would agree to be the other woman?? when women start refusing this men's stupidity that's solving the problem, true you might start without knowing what you getting into or rather not knowing they are married,but then when you find out why continue??

[@camelineomukami9047]

Exactly.As a woman,you shouldn't let a relationship continue after knowing the man has another family.It is also a woman's responsibility,not a man's tu.

[@letstalkkenya2]

Women continue eating the stupid married men's money...curses exist in the mind....you can also lock your men in the house.....you have no business taking care of something the owner doesn't value...thanks

[@sharonnzuki2747]

Married men who pursue other women are entirely to be blamed for breaking marriages. If married man were staying faithful we wouldn’t be here!

[@puritymurugi9211]

true my dear I like your wisdom

[@elizabethmuthanje9424]

No matter how far you have gone when you realize you are on the wrong direction turn....Bishop David Oyedepo

[@fenaNekesa]

Very true ❤

[@Emily11-11]

The biggest downfall with men is not seeking therapy from professionals but confiding in other women...it always backfires

[@annebaker8518]

So true

[@dorcasmugure5993]

Very true

[@janetwakarimamunene7743]

Correct.

[@dorcasgathoni580]

And other women took it as an advantage to them

[@AtabongMillie]

No, they use that to fool women. Any time a man comes to you and starts badmouthing the woman he is married to? RUUUUUUN. That is a broken man, or a poorly raised man. Especially if he has kids with the woman. People fall out of love, heck some get conned into marriage, but they must take responsibility. Any man or woman who cannot self analyze and know their role in the failed rship is not worth a try. He will do the same to you. Take this advice, and you will get a good man.

[@marynjogu6240]

My marriage was ruined by a lady i knew very well when my son was 3 years. i was thrown out of the house on saturday but on monday she was already in my house as a wife. i went through a very hard time psychologically and mentally. i was into deppression because she could even send me their selfie videos and photos. i almost ran mad. the pain i went through i wouldnt wish any woman to. it has taken me 5 years to heal from those wounds. But i thank God He has been so faithful to me. i overcame this emotional torment. its true first love never goes away easily. it takes time. Am believing God to bless me with a God fearing husband and a blessed marriage

[@gladysmwangi22]

And the lady are they still together pole sana hugs hugs mami

[@emilyachieng4372]

Be strong girl...the truth is time heals all wounds...I assure you the man will try to come back...don't take him back no matter what...Also a person who does that to someone will repeat it on the new person..you wait and see...hakuna kitu mpya duniani...its just repetition

[@gladysmwanzia2320]

God will restore the same man He gave you. It's indeed very painful to bear. Yes it's easy for one to run mad but God's grace has carried us through it all! Praise God!

[@enhadassah1966]

Give it time and you will see. Malipo ni hapa duniani however long it takes. Both man and woman will have to experience the pain you went through and more.

[@mercylynekuin4863]

Pole I can imagine! God never slumbers

[@tendai4043]

This is what I call a human still In touch with humanity, a woman who knows her creator! Well done Mama well done God will truly reward you for all you’ve done!! To God be the Glory!!!

[@bimbo3136]

Watching from Nigeria, please include a transcript in English for speakers that don't understand the local language.

[@sylviemorgan9770]

@@bimbo3136 click on, cc(close caption),on your device screen.

[@Margysworld]

God's ways are not our ways, but they are the best to follow. Mungu ni mtamu😘🥰

[@tendai4043]

@@Margysworld AMEN!!! The word protects us from a lot that people may not understand if they don’t know the word. If only we just obey, no matter how difficult it may be

[@ceciliawarero8214]

The pain of the 1st wife...... may God give her peace, strength and breakthrough

[@getupwithzandim2673]

Amen

[@mzuribeauty4287]

If I was considering being 2nd wife, I would have changed my mind 💯 after listening to this story. .

[@BeingAngie]

The fact that you are here and apologizing having learnt your mistakes proves a lot. God bless you and I pray others will learn from your story

[@dianakinyasi7487]

True dear

[@lorrainepam]

IKR... unlike that other lady who was saying she's "friends" with the first wife.

[@prisillakimani3590]

But so sad to say apologizing wont remove the curse! spiritual Laws apply hata akiapologize its fine fantastic but she has to go an extra mile for this deadly mistake.

[@ladyshakilleti9717]

God really bless you Helen was about to get someone's 2nd wife but I'm ready to repent, you're so encouraging

[@jkcamedia5990]

second wive From Hell ….😳Apologize my foot this western women have ruined so many families.F

[@daisyodecho]

This interview creates sobriety and opens eyes to the blind and the lost. Respect marriages

[@michaelndiritu8719]

The lady is talking of deep spiritual matters..... Her deliverance was total and complete. Is hard to verbalize spiritual matters,but you need to experience it to understand. God is good all the time.....and everything happens for good to those who loves Him....thank you for sharing, it encourages others to make the right decision.

[@shalomsharonrose]

For sure

[@hannahnganga161]

I feel as if all polygamous families pretend to be happy whereas deep inside they are haunted by their guilty. Ata mkiirembesha aje it's against the will of God alafu mkiambiwa mnasema we are judging and we are sinning differently. Sijataja mtu, na sitaki makasiriko

[@hannahnganga161]

Kudos hellen

[@salmanh9778]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@maureenwambua7876]

Very true.

[@miriammugo5459]

Hakuna furaha wanakuanga nayo My mother in law aliteseka sana nahakuna mtu alisikisana nayeye it's was as if there evil spirit were coming to her

[@emilyachieng4372]

@@miriammugo5459 I know a polygamous family that pretends to have things running smoothly....ukiwachunguza you realise the man beats his old over 60 years first wife to keep her in line...he claims anakataza watoto wasimtumie pesa ashare na mke wa pili...I've seen the marks on her body couldn't believe someone can cane a 60 year old woman

[@marionmuturi5283]

My mum was brought up in a polygamous family but I'm happy she broke that chain. Got married to my dad until his demise. Here I am following in her footsteps. In my dating life I'd meet people's husband's who at first lie but God would reveal that later, guys with baby mama's but I never gave in. I'd run as fast as my fibble legs could carry me. I'm proud and thank God he gave me my man.

[@mariamunyabonyi9650]

This also shall pass. You will marry a great man someday but you will see that husband fo after a young woman who will call u names and have babies for ur husband.

[@jacintathuku9780]

Oh mum you are a woman and a half I bless the Lord for the way you are God bless you

[@wanjikumuragu5113]

Wow congrats

[@marionmuturi5283]

@@wanjikumuragu5113 thanks gal

[@marionmuturi5283]

@@mariamunyabonyi9650 God answered my prayers I'm married to my best man. 8 years of knowing him,5 years married to him

[@charitymwanjala5220]

She is one brave woman. So many young women are sadly living that life but thank God Helen is here. Her love for God reverberates. Again, thank you Lynn for such an amazing show. Love you

[@oloipala8590]

No! one too many irreparable mistakes.

[@mamarosa_rnmn]

I love how honest Hellen is. Her story will help a lot of young women.

[@phoebewanjiru1955]

The one who destroyed mine has never found it in her heart to ask for forgiveness. I was left with four young kids while my hubby inherited a daughter from her and got 2 more kids. I forgave them and after many years my husband asked for forgiveness but we could never be together again for I refused to be in a polygamous relationship. The good thing he educated our children. Unfortunately he died and this woman was happy inheriting what rightly belong to my family. Anyway I leave everything to God and than hubby for leaving something also to my children. But the tears that we shed are never invain. God can give you a husband you don't have to destroy marriages because you see wealth

[@LolaBugzy85]

Never blame another woman for the break of your marriage blame the man

[@Minister-Delina.]

God did not do further explanations when He said What He has put together let no man put asander. The God who fights for you shall not let it go unpunished. You shall watch. Let it go.

[@spectra.4840]

@@LolaBugzy85 It takes two to tango,a woman of character with good morals has no business grooming relations with married men.Set you're standards high as a woman.

[@LolaBugzy85]

@@spectra.4840 No woman on earth owes you committment to your marriage vows only your husband. Endelea kupigana na every woman you come across cs of your husband. And one thing I know if a man is a whore he is whore and there is nothing you can do about it.

[@annmuthoni2954]

Part of your story is part of my mum's

[@titus254]

She's exceptional, candid, charismatic, eloquent and empathetic. God loves you and all your flaws are forgiven. When you pray Hellen, pray for the rest of us.

[@elizabethndara2172]

"What God has yoked together, let no man put apart" lesson learnt

[@florencengaruiya8724]

My mum was a second wife and I can tell you for sure, we, her kids,are going through hell.

[@user-zr5to8xs5z]

Take hrt en try to seek God will en i tell u his wisdom en understood how Jehova works.never give up

[@bellaolum9768]

Very few women can admit they did wrong to intrude in a marriage, too much pride and self-righteousness! Marriage God's way is between 2 and anyone who comes in between is a 3rd wheel and no matter how people try to justify and sanitize it can never be right. Thumbs up to Hellen, she took a bold step and ashamed the devil!

[@phoebewanjiru1955]

Bella, the one who separates become death. What God has joined together, let no man put asunder

[@bellaolum9768]

@@phoebewanjiru1955 That's right

[@wangakondokondo965]

True... Her family also practice what they profess ... It's unfortunate that some ladies are encouraged by their own parents hence thinks that they are doing the right thing...

[@wendie954]

Word

[@maggienangolo7429]

God made only a men and women from beginning so marriage is only for 2 people.. thank you madam Hellen for testifying your guilty God is on your side thanks 👏👏👏

[@lauram.6362]

The moment she started self seeking it was the moment of honesty of the mind and freedom! We all learn each day from our mistake, I am very proud of her re-correction of her life.

[@shalomsharonrose]

If there is one thing I have gotten from this interview is how God guides even when we are so lost , He is constantly trying to save us. Whatever the first wife went through must have been so hard on her ,but we thank God who still comforts and heals, He is still a restorer till today. May He do it upon her .

[@franklinmaputla281]

The problem starts when a single person can be "friends" with a married person...just playing with fire

[@hannahchris4660]

My heart goes to those women allover the world who are struggling with infertility.may God remember their marriages,they go through alot even with inlaws hating them and loving the "other''woman who can conceive.May God of Hannah come through for them amen

[@monniepaul4826]

Ameen..I am one of them and it's not easy.

[@dorcasmwariwanjuki376]

true gal

[@beatricemutunga2706]

Amen and Amen 🙏🙏. Very true Hannah! some of us have gone through alot. Talk of infertility issues in marriage but what I know is that God will mek everything beautiful in it's own time.

[@annmuchai6200]

Amen they go through a lot of pain.

[@MercyChebet-wd5oe]

Amen

[@syphroseanyika7544]

I cry every night , soaking my pillow with tears because of my home,my childlessness is killing me slowly, The worst of it dealing with another woman who has kids for him 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭,God of Hannah where are you?

[@cynthiagathoniwanjiku7387]

Hugs mom it's well

[@LynnNgugi]

Hello Anyika, sending so much love, light, healing and restoration your way. God of Hannah will bless your womb🙏🙏

[@bettyngugi4721]

May the God of Sarah and Hannah see you...take chance like Jacob and tell God your not leaving his presence until he changes your name...you can attend holy communion service this week huku mombasa kwa pastor Ezekiel....your miracle is waiting for you go and snatch your kids from the hands of your enemies.

[@decoloniz_afro]

How old are you...? Because fertility clinics can help you if you are still under 45.. ..... You can still have a baby and live joyful love with your baby....May creator wipe your tears and all shall come to pass

[@margaretwambui7103]

Take heart trust God and have faith

[@mukamiregina1127]

I am living in a polygamy family.l am the first wife, challenges are unbearable,l advice everyone reading this to avoid such marriage

[@janerosemwangi3563]

Nimeletewa 2nd and anabehave like she owns the world

[@margaretwanjiru9785]

@@janerosemwangi3563 They are never at peace, so they react to take away yours, they can have the man but dont allow your peace and integrity to be taken away from you

[@janerosemwangi3563]

One Day.God will intervene 🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺🥺

[@wendie954]

Mm nlitoka dear, weeuh its hell .I was the fast after 12 yrs of white wedding

[@soilaleposo5782]

I have been watching many episodes in this platform but this one touched my heart since my marriage was destroyed by another woman. Thumbs up Lynn

[@CoolkenyanInisrael]

Consequences cannot be evaded. Forgiving someone doesn't always mean having them back to your life. Very sad story.

[@Minister-Delina.]

Na she is born again mind you. Hee mi i dont get

[@dianakinyasi7487]

Sad It Is 😢

[@alicegikaara1114]

@@Minister-Delina. p909 lol lol j

[@eunicewanjiru4910]

True

[@jessicanyagweno5211]

We are all sinners expect we all don't come out to share our stories Otherwise if we would judge everyone with what they have done, Helen's case would be nothing. But again before God all sins are equal and no sin is Unforgivable.

[@jessicanyagweno5211]

We are all sinners expect we have sinned differently. None of us has a right to reprimand Hellen. I believe she has a reason for sharing her story with the world. You might have not ruined someone's marriage like her, but the fact is none of us is pure. Let God be our judge and also remember that no sin is Unforgivable.

[@brendakerubo7398]

i agree God bless you

[@carolinenjeri4082]

Well put

[@carolinenjeri4082]

True

[@lizsarah4580]

Halleluyah

[@christineotieno7880]

Biblically, there is an unforgivable sin.

[@piecesofbeautiful4019]

Congratulations to Hellen for owning her part in the mess and making amends. May God continually use her to His glory.

[@franciscaadoyo7754]

You cannot build paradise on top of another woman's tears!!!

[@harrisonrware9304]

I appreciate your courage action, you are wonderful and God is with you.

[@carolinendungu990]

I watch so many interviews on KZbin from different channels, but Lynn's interview skills are unmatched 👌👌

[@shikowarui6390]

I totally agree 👍

[@barkembarak2235]

Very true

[@kimulicate1055]

Truth

[@ruthmi6675]

True 💯

[@wanjikuwarungu9422]

Hopefully,the one who is envading my home will watch this and learn,it's breaks me everday and it's never easy 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@paulinelutta9169]

Be strong mama and give it time. God will fight for you. If you feel disrespected sana, let go and start over. I'll pray for you and your kids. Pole mama!

[@catherinegachogu775]

May God give you hope.overlook them.pursue your dreams marriage should not derail you.you are great try to get rest and a good sleep.the storm will be over.reach out on me I can help

[@wanjikuwarungu9422]

@@paulinelutta9169 thanks a bunch

[@wanjikuwarungu9422]

@@catherinegachogu775 Amen and thanks and how can I reach you out plz?

[@annebaker8518]

Same to me

[@GeminiJune0608]

The painful part is, we only realize this after years when the excitement of the relationship is gone, when we see the real person, now we wish/want to send the man back to the first woman!

[@estherchinagorom4490]

Exactly. And by then the first innocent wife may have fallen ill of depression or passed away out of high blood pressure

[@angellaellis9551]

Wow i agree with yours comment so true if I was d wife I wouldn't take him back

[@rosesengo4704]

@@estherchinagorom4490 sometimes the first wife is NOT innocent. There's a way they get to be elevated to angelic status when they get married

[@vestinanyendwa2313]

Very true, most women leave the excitement ends, when the pain has already been caused.

[@thandiweluluphiri5]

@@rosesengo4704for real most are very evil women hiding as angels in marriage, my cousin is suffering because of his wife, me I ll support another woman

[@chelliesimotwo]

After watching this and reading the comments I am so grateful to be born in a generation where men are held accountable for their actions and women actually love themselves. Thank you for sharing this story Lynn Ngugi.

[@dorathyportiaeguzozie5990]

You are a real woman of God. God will give you the grace to do needful thing to her. Please my sister still pray for God guidance.

[@nomfundomasuku2443]

Man, I'm sitting here thinking about this married man who's been stalking me for 5 years and wanted to take me as a second wife. And this episode shows up. He lied and pretended he was single at first, thankfully I didn't do anything with him coz I wanted to wait for marriage for sex, I kept my legs closed. Boom, turns out he is married with two kids. And has the audacity to want to take me as a second wife. I cut him off, coz I can't imagine putting another woman through that pain. Plus, what greed and deception is this! Ay, some men! He came with a bad intention to deceive me use me sexually and when that failed now he wants to take me as a wife? No, and I won't be that woman that harms another sister! Let alone her beautiful children! Marriage covenant, union is taken so lightly these days, its shocking!

[@rrcggcc]

Why allow conversation like this all this year's with him ..still hes in your circle..you gain what in this ?

[@mauseo2024]

@@rrcggcc 5yrs is a long time to string something you don't want along

[@TNJ-gn2gv]

Right now, you think you can handle him and he knows that too. But he is waiting on when you will be desperate or weak. His bad intentions towards you won't stop and you shouldn't put yourself on the path to receive the bad intended for you by being friends/friendly. Girl, put that boundary. Cut him off!

[@martharinebiseko1457]

May the Lord open up the door of a good marriage

[@salamawise]

I wish women were all proud of themselves. Why go for number 2? We deserve no 1....hakuna mambo ya wanaume ni wengi! There is a husband for every woman.

[@TheMillenialClub]

What a love triangle 🙆. Ladies, avoid married men at all cost. It doesn't end well.

[@fridahmugambi8478]

True 🤞🤞

[@tinahtish4465]

What If he didn't mention about wife and later you found out yourself and left him?

[@sibongilenkwana8835]

Just watched from South Africa. Couldn't understand some parts due to language barrier. Thank you for addressing such an urgent and sensitive topic. There is a wave in my country that is trying to normalise and subject women to polygamy, ignoring all the pain it causes. This show reminded us that God has a better way. I wish you the best Hellen and may God be with you in all things. All my love ,,

[@shellanderson8381]

I had difficulty understanding some of what she sad too so I turned on the English caption it translates some of the words.

[@tshiamomahape292]

Well said Sibongile as women now in SA we living on a thread like u can just find urself meeting a Zulu man named Mseleku wen u don't want to

[@carolm1738]

Sbongile you can say that again, the enemy is using polygamy and divorce to reduce marriage and label it useless, most young people feel its not for them and sin will continue to take place. May God expose the enemy and fight for unions.

[@ugalitamu9082]

You are saying that africans are trying to "normalize" african culture. Are you being serious?

[@carolm1738]

@@ugalitamu9082 Normalise affairs using culture as a shield.

[@jasiryfamtalks]

This is one of the most sober interview I have listened and what makes it interesting is how God convicts someone. God bless you for speaking out especially because nowadays most influencers in Kenya tell young ladies it’s ok to share men and even be with people’s husband.

[@catherine1786]

Today my heart goes to every woman who’s battling infertility..Dear queens you have no authority over your womb but God does🙏in your weakness God is your strength ,May God of Hannah visit you! Sending 💕

[@sylviawaema615]

Just shed a tear

[@tabbiemwas7478]

This is encouraging,best comment ever.

[@chasimbarose6608]

This life is emotional draining. May God intervene in any barren woman's situation.

[@catherine1786]

@@chasimbarose6608 sure ..Amen 🙏

[@chasimbarose6608]

@@catherine1786 I'm going through this life, I will never wish it to my worse enemy. Barrenness is a torture.

[@naominzioka496]

Am proud of you Helen, you took up a stand and declared what your stand was in front of God. May God continue using you.

[@dotiemk]

I am stuck at what she went through with the man who impregnated her when she was young then abandoned her, that's where the issues began. I'm happy she's on the path of healing

[@jendrixsore8527]

Hi Lynn I’m watching this show from the United States I’m proud of this lady for tackling head on the generational curse of polygamy.Let her know I’m still praying for her Journey with Christ. Peace

[@aumaKNN]

My family was destroyed when my father married a second wife...we were affected emotionally,financially and physically until we lost him 2019 since he became sick and we only learnt about his sickness much later.There was so much drama that went on in our lives that period ..I was so affected .I applaud you for coming out to condemn this thing and breaking that vice in your family.

[@jacintakinuthia4020]

Iam proud of her and may the Lord bless her as for me and my brothers we went through hell when when my dad married another woman and chased my mom away . My dad died with alot of pain of which we came to learn of his sickness when it was too late.

[@aumaKNN]

So sorry dear I know exactly how it feels to be in that situation .I wouldn't wish it even for my enemy .One day I will share our story so as encourage families going through the same.

[@binti_jannet]

Hugs🥰

[@jackyneto]

Same story, why is this so common

[@nancynyaboke3992]

@@aumaKNN men who marry second wife die early I lost my dad may 2022 there was no peace Just hate he just died he had pressure

[@jeddymoon3803]

Guys, today is my birthday and you are like a family to me..I will be happy to see your messages come through..Thanks Edit: Thankyou so much for the birthday wishes. Couldn't reply to all of them but just know you made my day..Thanks and lets continue supporting our gal Lynn. wishing you a fruitful day!

[@wanjikuwarungu9422]

Have a blessed birthday 🎂🎂🎂🎂🎂

[@LynnNgugi]

Awwww...A Blessed Birthday to you dear💛💛 Wishing you lots of love, joy and happiness:)

[@elizabethwendot7495]

Happy birthday 🎉. I am celebrating my birthday too today.

[@Chebet380]

Happy birthday jeddy

[@phoebewanjiru1955]

Happy birthday Jeddy

[@jesmatchannel6369]

i was dating a married man knowingly,i felt in love with him at sight.. Though i wasn't comfortable in that relationship,because everyday i felt like i was hurting my fellow woman.. one day i sat down and meditated,i decided whatever!! i moved on and left him.. i later on apologised to the wife,for the pain i caused her. i hope God forgave me too😢

[@gertrudehinga54]

God has forgiven you, do not doubt it

[@agnesboakye8145]

You have been forgiven already my dear.

[@evangacha6936]

I love how honest you are

[@susanjosiah1001]

God forgives our wrong doing bur the consequences

[@horeshieevigoddess2972]

The feeling of remorse is a great start for forgiveness. Thanks for standing up for another sister, taking responsibility and not interfering.

[@MsNairobi]

What a beautiful story, Lyn Ngugi thank you so much for this platform. You have grown and its beautiful and you are glowing. As for the guest thank you so much for the vulnerabilty and honesty. Thank you so much for being so open and for sharing. It was very encouraging. Your calling is very helpful...Thank you!

[@WanjiruMuya]

Whatever we sow we reap... Sometimes hurting other people feels like the best thing but deep down there's guilt in your heart. Never be an accomplice for a man to hurt his Wife.

[@voskilltheentertainer2564]

very true.we sow what we reap,thats what most people dont know..i wish the so called slay queens looking for wababas can read your comment and understand

[@kamande012]

but again....God forgave her....she is just giving her past that came out of ignorance

[@monicashrma4609]

👍👍🤣

[@rosemaryanyoso7297]

Lyn thumbs up. More of such. Tuwajue kwa majina.

[@WanjiruMuya]

@@voskilltheentertainer2564that's why these episodes are important... It's a learning curve😍

[@jeddymoon3803]

“Cheating is the most disrespectful thing one human being can do to another. If you aren’t happy in a relationship, end it before starting another one.”

[@meinebarbie7655]

Going through this phase right now and it's soo draining

[@jeddymoon3803]

@@meinebarbie7655 Sending you some love and prayers~~

[@nyakaisikikellen9527]

In the same boat it hurts so bad

[@jedidahwairimu8700]

Very true

[@jedidahwairimu8700]

@@nyakaisikikellen9527make a plan and leave it is not worth the pain and disrespect

[@janendinda5443]

I was about to make the same mistake,there was this guy who was always there for me,though married but hawakuwa na mtoto,he wanted me to get married to him to give him a child coz I had a son,he was mature but I promised myself that I won't break someone's marriage. God never fails,he gave me my own marriage and am grateful. 🙏

[@christineowori750]

As a married woman myself I just want to say thank you for doing the right thing.

[@ceciliamuthoni6606]

Fighting spiritual battles is difficult but possible...congrats Hellen for the courage, perseverance and patience.

[@cynthiaknowledgeispower2229]

I don’t understand building your happiness around someone else’s tears 😭 then apologizing after all the years of youth from the first wife have passed.This is totally 😢 sad

[@virginianjoroge9391]

The good thing is she realized her mistakes what most dont. Nomatter the time dear. God is still merciful.

[@lucywambui7398]

I love the way God put things clear for us through His servants....."you are married to someone's husband"

[@marymogiti7148]

It's the worst pain someone can go through,, my elder sister passed through that' process while we were watching,,she moved out and left that' second wife,, it's one of the hardest thing s anyone could go through

[@uwimanachristine7550]

I love you Hellen and I really love your bravery! I'm very happy God has been on your side all along! I'm glad you've secured your true joy! Many will learn a lot from you! Thanks so much Lynn for the platform.

[@millicentaustine359]

Now that I have listened to the whole story, I have come to understand one thing. That the fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom. When she didn't know the ways of God she acted out of foolishness but now even from her way of talking she fears God. May God help intervene on the remaining part

[@titus254]

This is so true lady.

[@joycewanjiru3883]

very true

[@gladysmwanzia2320]

Total lies!!! She's acting. It's boz

[@gladysmwanzia2320]

Uongo! Amemutoroka coz amesota. She is a golddigger!

[@shikuliz4134]

@@gladysmwanzia2320 I'm here asking why after 10 yrs ..sijaelewa hii strory

[@beingkiddo1643]

A woman will never build a home by ruining another woman's home,,you gat to pay for it.. It's a lesson to gals out there planning to do this be cautious,"bwana ya mtu ni sumu" As for Hellen it's nice you owe your mistake and may you find peace 🕊️✌️

[@catherinenjeri2427]

True

[@ja9293]

Thank you! They have no idea the pain that they cause.......but they PAY dearly......in due cause ...the cheating husbands included

[@Farmingisgood]

Sumu

[@cclmboya]

I thank God you finally released my friend's husband Joseph. Only God knows how many prayers and tears we have cried with the wife. God will heal her. It's has been so painful. She has really suffered. God forgive you more and more.

[@loisenjeri3395]

Amen God is a restorer.

[@wathuthisnyarcute]

The tears wives shed in closed doors never go unwiped and that's why no relationship built in another woman's home can ever stand!!Thanks Hellen for turning the right direction and discovering your mistakes.Continue talking to these young ladies who think they can only have a good life with a married man who struggled to be where he is and started it from a scratch with his wife!

[@Vv-fl2rm]

Before the whipping of tears also make it a habit as women to not rush into marriage with questionable character men for the sake of marriage validation. Many women always see glaring red flags 🚩 and still marry such men and then expects gods intervention. Married men actively persue single women outside of their marriages instead of leaving, wives want to hate the sidechicks 😂. Makes no sense whatsoever. Learn to love yourselves as women beyond male validation. Please ❤️

[@rosesengo4704]

Is the husband supposed to suffer in childlessness because his wife cannot have children?

[@rosewayesu]

I was also in the same situation but God always has a way out. I thank God we didn't have any child or pregnancy, but once you're in such a relationship,it takes both God's mercy,grace and self determination

[@hildawambui1991]

@@rosesengo4704 your very insensitive... My the same question be asked to you daughter If you have one or you yourself...it seems wisdom is not common

[@acquinattamusonye3199]

@@rosesengo4704 The vows say for better and for worse. If both trust God and pray, they can get a child. The problem is usually the men's relatives who keep pestering the man and some men are not patient enough, but mostly remember the vows you made before God.

[@phenyapiyo3682]

I really needed to hear this...this was for me...have changed my mind...am not going to be a second wife anymore...I will wait upon the glory of God... Thanks so much Lynn this is my turning point...

[@victoriamalaki8673]

Pheny, this is the best decision you have made for yourself. Thanks be to Helen's real life story. God will surely bless your desires.

[@phenyapiyo3682]

@@victoriamalaki8673 Thanks Victoria this platform has been of great help to me

[@virginiamwangi3685]

Oh my God this woman is a full package of braveness, , like who does this, I feel so proud of her coming out and making it clear to people that if a sin is accepted by the world that doesn't stop it to be a sin...as many people out here take it to be...may God bless her as she starts this new journey...bravo to you mama

[@ruthn9381]

Empowered woman. You don't need someone's husband, God created a special one for you. Thank you Helen for coming out and enlightening us on this sensitive lifestyle. She's the sacrificial lamb for the redemption of marriage.

[@getupwithzandim2673]

Amen

[@rosengure8079]

Learning moments!!! When we fall, not to stay down but get up and move life forward!!! 👏🏽

[@carolinewanjiru3487]

love her story. Thanks Hellen for talking and apologizing. wishing her the very best

[@Butterfly-jt6cr]

It takes courage to share personal details publicly. Speaking out facilitates recovery and healing from childhood trauma and relationship trauma. Helen seems at peace setting boundaries with that polygamous situation 😇

[@nkondiakutoha6523]

Helen God bless 🙌 you.i see God in you. You don't know how many people you have touched.

[@charitykamau6328]

What a story of Hope. God bless you Hellen for coming out unashamedly to save many people who are trapped in such marriages

[@kelvinmaina41]

I really admire this lady the way she express herself after realizing the pain she is causing the wife to this man,may God 🙏 bless you.

[@ritaenon2878]

Self reflection is very important in our lives. Always reflect on everything in your lives. Nobody is perfect n there's always room for correction or rerouting

[@TheKadonye]

This is why I love the Christian faith, it can give you unbelievable courage to take steps you never imagined you could. God can take you out of any situation. Inspiring story.

[@GodsTreasure]

I really enjoy watching your videos Lynn. You bring such beautiful guests and stories here. It would be so nice if you were able to include English subtitles on the Swahili parts so those of us who don't understand can follow the stories fully

[@christiekalu4747]

I agree with you totally. Lynn, remember, people all over the world watch your channel not all understand Swahili.

[@dinnahkyasimiire5552]

There is a cc on the right side. Click on it and subtitles will appear

[@linetnanjala3988]

Thanks Lynn and Hellen I was just about to make the same mistake but I have learned from her and I have made up my mind. Glory be to God may the almighty God be with her because am saved and I could have gone in the same pain.

[@mauseo2024]

Toxic entanglements. The whole narrative is disgusting. 1st wife invites 2nd to discuss what? Then they allow the man to go back and forth between them at will. They should both have dumped him.

[@esthernyambura5106]

I love this girl! She shares her triumphs and her failures very honestly. May God bless her business and ministry.

[@marygoretti3342]

She wrecked the marriage

[@catengina3922]

testimony is good,a lesson to many of us.

[@imacayebazibwe6412]

@@marygoretti3342 she was forgiven

[@pashaafy637]

This is the definition of true repentance. None of us is perfect! Humbled to have been privileged enough to watch this. God of mercy 🙏🏾... You are worthy to be praised.

[@kefilwe]

I have mixed feelings about this. This lady knowingly walked into polygamy and walked out when it didn't suit her even though it tore her family apart and especially the children. At the same time I applaud her for being honest enough to walk out of a situation that she knew was wrong for her. I really hope that many can learn from her.

[@lindaandai924]

That's the reason God warns us not to unsettle other peoples homes.knowingly or in knowingly....she wasn't supposed to meddle in the first home.Bad as the marriage looked .It was not her marriage .

[@lindaandai924]

*unknowingly

[@imath68]

I agree with you completely . She knew what she was doing was wrong and she did it anyway. Only when she realised he wasn’t what she expected then she changed her mind . All this talk with God is hogwash. But anyway , good for her to come forward and share . Lessons can be learnt for sure but remember people who do it will take her advice only when it suits them.

[@elizabetholusolaglory2527]

Excuse me people, this lady was a young girl when she walked into polygamy, maybe I didn't hear well but she was in form 4. That's naive and lack of experience dears. When you meet with true repentance, you can sacrifice all. Her turn around story is not hagwash like someone claimed. It's a new life, freely available for as many that desire it genuinely.

[@maimunaabdulrahman2800]

@@elizabetholusolaglory2527 young doesn't mean stupid

[@lilyzuene2236]

Polygamy is not something good, may each lady meet her man.

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

Amen

[@faithndinda709]

Amen 🙏

[@emilykibaina7307]

Amen and Amen

[@annegacugu8226]

Amen and Amen

[@oloipala8590]

But it may be a better option kuliko kuzeeka alone.

[@Karol_Lynne]

She's so eloquent,i cud listen to her all day.The fact that she acknowledged her mistakes and walked away from them and is commendable.Few ppl are able to do that

[@eunicemueni9321]

It's called being cared for a lady is the key to her ❤

[@emmabell3399]

" There must be someone who is willing to come in and break to trend ." I 'am glad I watched till the end.

[@paulineminayo7397]

People commenting here recklessly coz the don't understand that what Hellen was going through it was an altar from her home fighting her and causing her to sin Thank God who loves us all and He always desires that each one of us to receive salvation, He located her and gave her a second chance God i thank you coz we men focus on ones sins and weakness without seeing your redemption

[@sylviakissamunyole764]

What a Story! God will always cause all circumstances to work and come together for ones good. More Grace Hellen. Love from🇺🇬🇺🇬🇺🇬

[@cynthiaokumu4069]

You can not make a home, through another woman's tears. Women are enemies of their own. Some learn, some don't ile roho nguuuumu💪. Thank you mama for coming go your senses

[@amerudi111]

My family was affected by this, my dad justified by using the old testament. It created so much distrust. I am glad she turned her life around.

[@christineowori750]

I'm so sorry dear. Did he read the ten commandments? Thought shalt not commit adultery??

[@norahnayebare5313]

Taking accountability and apologizing can't be done by a weak person. It takes every nerve in the body to apologize for such. May God see u and her thru.

[@bellaolum9768]

I hear women saying ati 'Nairobi hakuna bwana ya mtu' that is a lie from the pit of hell!

[@ruthnjaungiri4655]

Am so proud of you my sister May the LORD continue giving you peace which comes from the Lord and your kids thank you for listening to the voice of God 💟

[@purityndaita3583]

I hate second wives , listened to my mum inlaws story and I felt sorry for her for what she went through courtsey of a sidechick who later took over everything she had really worked hard for... I pray someday she gets what she had back