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Maddie Zahm - Fat Funny Friend (Official Lyric Video)

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Maddie Zahm

Maddie Zahm

2 жыл бұрын

Official Lyric Video for "Fat Funny Friend" by Maddie Zahm from her debut EP 'You Might Not Like Her', out now via AWAL.
"Fat Funny Friend" is available now: ffm.to/fatfunnyfriend
Edited and Animated by Ride Or Cry
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LYRICS:
I break the ice
So they don't see my size
And I have to be nice
Or I'll be the next punchline
I'm just the best friend in Hollywood movies
Who only exist to continue the story
The girl gets the guy while I'm standing off-screen
So I'll wait for my cue to be comedic relief
Can't be too loud
Can't be too busy
If I don't answer now, are they still gonna need me?
Can't be too proud
Can't think I'm pretty
Do they keep me around, so their flaws just seem silly?
I say I'm okay
'Cause they wouldn't care anyway
And I could try to explain
But my efforts in vain
They can't relate to how I've
Drawn out in Sharpie where I take the scissors
If that's what it took for me to look in the mirror
I've done every diet to make me look thinner
So why do I still feel so goddamn inferior?
Can't be too loud
And can't be too busy
If I don't answer now, are they still gonna need me?
Can't be too proud and
Can't think I'm pretty
Do they keep me around, so their flaws just seem silly?
Life of the fat, funny friend
Life of the fat, funny friend
It's funny when I think a guy likes me
And it's funny when I'm the one who says, "Let's go to eat"
It's funny when I'm asked to go out on Halloween
Dresses and thigh highs, while I hide my body
Can't be too loud
And can't be too busy
If I don't answer now, are they still gonna miss me?
Can't be too loud
And can't be too busy
If I don't answer now, are they still gonna need me?
Can't be too proud and
Can't think I'm pretty
Do they keep me around, so their flaws just seem silly?
Life of the fat, funny friend
Life of the fat, funny friend
Life of the fat, funny friend
Life of the fat, funny friend
I've drawn out in Sharpie where I take the scissors
#fatfunnyfriend #maddiezahm #maddiezahms #fff

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@ilana5456
@ilana5456 2 жыл бұрын
"do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" that line hit close to the heart
@Pedro_Yu
@Pedro_Yu 2 жыл бұрын
Ikr i LITERALLY wanna hug her and tell her she is beautiful.
@PizzaRolls4949
@PizzaRolls4949 2 жыл бұрын
Honestly this is the Best Song i repeat F.F.F shall be heard!
@seven-tg4hb
@seven-tg4hb 2 жыл бұрын
And you don't have to fat for this line to hit hard...
@seven-tg4hb
@seven-tg4hb 2 жыл бұрын
To be fat*
@kicksandgiggles5681
@kicksandgiggles5681 2 жыл бұрын
I have two friends and they are SO pretty, there kind and sweet, everything I want to be, but sometimes I feel like they keep me around to make themselves look better…
@m0rb1d.am0r0us1ty
@m0rb1d.am0r0us1ty Жыл бұрын
"it's funny when I think a guy likes me" damn that hit hard.
@hayjessay
@hayjessay Жыл бұрын
Ya that hit hard for me too 😢
@Grace-tf3oj
@Grace-tf3oj Жыл бұрын
Same😤🥹
@ornshwyem
@ornshwyem Жыл бұрын
so tru. u arent allowed to have anyone like u, or like anyone because that takes attention away from them. just remember that its not your responsibility to make sure they have all the attention and are living the life. u deserve better❤
@jeanetten.s.8557
@jeanetten.s.8557 Жыл бұрын
Okay who the fuck told you that? I just wanna talk.
@rosegacha2560
@rosegacha2560 Жыл бұрын
Fr and they say "oh he's ugly" or "girl ain't no way you're pulling bitches 💀💀" and you have to laugh too
@DaisyB-yq4rs
@DaisyB-yq4rs Жыл бұрын
“I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I’d take the scissors” that line hits me so close to home
@etashaa
@etashaa 10 ай бұрын
What did it mean to you..?
@Luv_brinley
@Luv_brinley 8 ай бұрын
That line is too relatable..
@marthamarinou9366
@marthamarinou9366 8 ай бұрын
@@etashaa sh
@loveDiamond2014
@loveDiamond2014 7 ай бұрын
It's too relatable i cried so hard as soon as i heard that . . .
@Sonnenblume_18
@Sonnenblume_18 7 ай бұрын
This line hit me like a truck.. I felt it deep in my soul.
@YardenPeri
@YardenPeri 7 ай бұрын
The line "cant be to loud cant be to busy if i dont answer now are they still gonna need me" hit hard. Its an amazing song.
@Horses-and-dino-things
@Horses-and-dino-things 6 ай бұрын
Yeah
@Kaitlyn-qc4oo
@Kaitlyn-qc4oo 4 ай бұрын
Agreed
@Charlie_Rose39
@Charlie_Rose39 2 жыл бұрын
My sweet 17yr old daughter was listening to this song and when I walked in I giggled and said “what are you listening too” she looked at me with her eyes full of tears and said “Mom, you’d never understand” later on I watched the video and listened to your lyrics and couldn’t help but break down and cry! I didn’t know she felt the way she did, but I’m going to get her all the help she wants. I think she’s absolutely gorgeous inside and out but it’s not how I feel, it’s how she feels that really matters. As a mother with a teenage daughter, I thank you for making this song. 🫶🏽
@marie-bx6xv
@marie-bx6xv 2 жыл бұрын
Aw this is so sweet I tried showing my mom this and she didn’t really understand how I felt she just said it was a good song but I’m so happy you listened to the lyrics of this song. 💕
@Ash-mm1pd
@Ash-mm1pd 2 жыл бұрын
I wish my mother would tell me this.
@crumblenut4304
@crumblenut4304 2 жыл бұрын
God bless you all you need to do is show her your love reassure her everyday of her beauty. Highlight her strengths and skills, point them out and compliment them every time you notice them and please practice patience with her. She needs your love the most❤️ I was abandoned by my birth mom and also my adopted mom. This is a good time for you to practice self love too. She will look up to you consciously and unconsciously.
@afterevrythng
@afterevrythng 2 жыл бұрын
Go mama! I wish I had a mom like you. You getting her help NOW and supporting her through her journey of healing, is invaluable, no matter the timing. Having your daughter know that no matter what she goes through, you are right there beside her to help her in any form. It is by no means an easy journey or quick fix from either perspectives. You trying your best to understand not only the disease but how your daughter is actually feeling, is priceless. No one is perfect and there will be tidal waves and times the both of you feel like your drowning. Times when she may push you away. Just know it is possible. Become her safe place whenever she wants or is ready. You are doing amazing even the though the journey has yet to start. Also, it is also helpful, if you so wish to also get yourself into therapy. A therapist can help you cope and have a better understanding, as well as give you tools to help your daughter and yourself. Wish you both the best!
@marykindrick5432
@marykindrick5432 2 жыл бұрын
Please do some research on HAES and fat positive language if you haven’t. You really have an opportunity to help her in a way a lot of us wish we had ❤️
@thatsonperiod
@thatsonperiod 2 жыл бұрын
this song hits so unbelievably close to home, thank you maddie for such a beautiful heartfelt piece of art that i will listen to forever, i love you.
@Palladum12
@Palladum12 2 жыл бұрын
Same it hits so close it makes me happy and sad at the same time
@rissnevaehofficial
@rissnevaehofficial 2 жыл бұрын
Ik me 2🥺 I hate my body
@Ken39478
@Ken39478 2 жыл бұрын
Same🥺🥺
@ailaniverslype528
@ailaniverslype528 2 жыл бұрын
I've been struggling with anorexia my whole life and eventho I'm not the fat funny friend I really relate to this song you all are so strong mentally and I'm really proud of you pls keep being you and doing what you love I hope you'll be able to love your body
@queerqueen1616
@queerqueen1616 2 жыл бұрын
Same and I’m 12 and I haven’t told anyone but my friends
@miriamhmar4900
@miriamhmar4900 8 ай бұрын
As a 16 year old who suffered with body image thia song explain how i feel so much.. People always think i was quiet but truly i was just so insecure to be with them
@amarachiigboeli6651
@amarachiigboeli6651 8 ай бұрын
Thissssssssssss😢
@harrypotter_gacha
@harrypotter_gacha 7 ай бұрын
Sameee 😢
@miriamhmar4900
@miriamhmar4900 7 ай бұрын
@@sid-up3sq aww you're so sweet thank you😭😭❤
@samihajahin6602
@samihajahin6602 7 ай бұрын
Same 🙂
@pinkbroccoli2544
@pinkbroccoli2544 7 ай бұрын
exactly❤
@rishaakitty
@rishaakitty 3 ай бұрын
"can't be too pretty" she says while being literally gorgeous.
@EpicDIZ
@EpicDIZ 2 жыл бұрын
Not just girls/women relate to this song. Today I found myself in tears while listening. Always the fat funny guy and these lyrics hit me right in my feels. Why is the world so mean to us?
@thatgirl789
@thatgirl789 2 жыл бұрын
The world is a cruel place. But, hey I want you to know that you’re loved my friend. You’re more than your weight. Love you bro keep fighting I’m proud of you😎👊❤️
@EpicDIZ
@EpicDIZ 2 жыл бұрын
@@thatgirl789 thank you ❤️
@sleepyhermit5758
@sleepyhermit5758 2 жыл бұрын
I boyfriend struggles with his body image no matter how many times I say he's handsome I'm so sorry. It's not fair at all.
@kiaraconner617
@kiaraconner617 2 жыл бұрын
its ok
@neoscencez
@neoscencez 2 жыл бұрын
Big love my dude
@eilenolsen8657
@eilenolsen8657 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who can relate, feeling like this isn't an insecurity, it's pure fear. Fear of never getting your first boyfriend/girlfriend, never getting asked for your snap or number, never having a true friend and fear of society's judgement. Sometimes we suck in our stomachs until it becomes our norm and we do it automatically. It's feeling like you want to die when your friend who's skinnier and "prettier" calls themselves ugly and fat. It's the feeling of never being comfortable the way you are. But i promise, no matter size, you are beautiful as long as you're you.
@Eternally_Moon
@Eternally_Moon 2 жыл бұрын
@kyleigh kemp You’re not funny. Go find another place to mock people. Or, actually I can’t tell if you’re serious or not because if this was a joke, not really funny 🤨
@rubya301
@rubya301 2 жыл бұрын
@kyleigh kemp ur perfect the way u are
@iriswillowtree4690
@iriswillowtree4690 2 жыл бұрын
tbh i love this song but i absoloutely HATE how much i can realte to this shit
@cookieplaysgaming6123
@cookieplaysgaming6123 2 жыл бұрын
I haven’t seen a comment more spot on then this one
@juliawrobel1987
@juliawrobel1987 2 жыл бұрын
I’m overweight or so everyone says .I was a skinny happy little kid but I had an accident where I burned myself and couldn’t walk so I gained weight and haven’t been able to lose it
@Mads_2011
@Mads_2011 Жыл бұрын
“Cause they wouldn’t care anyway” that hit way too hard.
@erinlilly6753
@erinlilly6753 Жыл бұрын
"I've done every diet to make me look thinner. So why do I still feel so God Damn Inferior!" That line hit my core like no other. I've been/am the fat friend most of my life. I am very thankful my friends are always there for me and i am equally there for them. But this song still hits hard and reminds me of the time before I met them.❤
@pinebeari0705
@pinebeari0705 2 жыл бұрын
“I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I’d take the scissors” makes me cry every damn time I hear this song. It hurts because it’s so relatable
@partypooper6057
@partypooper6057 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@nornorrawan527
@nornorrawan527 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not a native English speaker. This is the only sentence in the song I don't understand. Would you mind explaining?
@pinebeari0705
@pinebeari0705 2 жыл бұрын
@@nornorrawan527 Sure, basically it means she drew on her skin with a sharpie (marker) where she would use scissors to cut off the parts of her she doesn’t like, if that’s how it worked
@nornorrawan527
@nornorrawan527 2 жыл бұрын
@@pinebeari0705 omg that's deep. Thank you!
@avvvi_jade1022
@avvvi_jade1022 Жыл бұрын
Same
@denisegeee3982
@denisegeee3982 2 жыл бұрын
I’m almost 40 but 15 year old me has never felt more seen than she is right now. Thank you for this song, there are a lot of us who can relate
@TheNinnyfee
@TheNinnyfee 2 жыл бұрын
44 here and just learned that I became the fat friend because of ADHD- and trauma-related eating habits. All those years of self-torturing while being judged for body weight were absolutely insane.
@solus8685
@solus8685 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 19 now and I've lost a lot of weight, but yeah, child me definitely felt this
@afakeabinaya
@afakeabinaya 2 жыл бұрын
@@TheNinnyfee
@whattheflimflam
@whattheflimflam 2 жыл бұрын
33 and white I've come a long way, I can still relate to these feelings.
@ASTRO_BLOX890
@ASTRO_BLOX890 2 жыл бұрын
Same.. 40 this September and I'd give anything just to go back in time and give 15 year old me a big hug! Love this song!
@carlyisermann1878
@carlyisermann1878 Ай бұрын
The “ comedic relief “ is way to true
@YGaming1011
@YGaming1011 Жыл бұрын
The message behind this song can mean a lot of things. Can we all agree this was a well made song?
@that.1.preppy.g1rl
@that.1.preppy.g1rl 11 ай бұрын
Yes ❤
@jyraluna4289
@jyraluna4289 7 ай бұрын
Very well made song ♡
@mm-jy8vy
@mm-jy8vy 3 ай бұрын
Agreed
@MeganBurr
@MeganBurr 2 жыл бұрын
I’m blown away. No one ever talks about this, we all just suffer in silence and attempt to explain it to our friends that Fr will just never understand. Thank you so much for this song
@darleneboling8565
@darleneboling8565 2 жыл бұрын
Im 58, and felt this my entire life. Silent prejudice.
@Lynn-ip9sh
@Lynn-ip9sh 2 жыл бұрын
yep its a hard way of life but talking about it you will get called sensitive over dramatic or laughed at. I related to every word.
@TheNinnyfee
@TheNinnyfee 2 жыл бұрын
Yes, because if we talk about we are blamed because it's our fault we are eating too much. Nobody cares if it's an ED, neurodivergence, trauma from sexual or other abuse, glandular issues, etc.
@caseygholson5133
@caseygholson5133 2 жыл бұрын
I'm 13 and I relate to this on so many levels of being judged and bullied for my size. Now I'm going to the gym 2 times a week and I feel somewhat better
@annahshalom7078
@annahshalom7078 Жыл бұрын
i did the cover, please watch kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5zZY4Cnl6hgqtE
@Anthonydltorre
@Anthonydltorre 2 жыл бұрын
Wow…. This is unbelievably beautiful
@llsaabuuseruwu
@llsaabuuseruwu 2 жыл бұрын
first reply!! i totally agree :) congrats on 153k btw! God loves u!
@lexi_brown
@lexi_brown 2 жыл бұрын
Ikr
@annahshalom7078
@annahshalom7078 Жыл бұрын
Hi, I did the cover for FAT FUNNY FRIEND , Please watch on kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5zZY4Cnl6hgqtE
@paranomalactivityii
@paranomalactivityii 4 ай бұрын
“its funny when im asked to go out on halloween dresses and thigh highs while i hide my body” is so real.
@Emani-dh3go
@Emani-dh3go 11 ай бұрын
"Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" hit deep
@creepykarma4138
@creepykarma4138 Жыл бұрын
The "can't think I'm pretty" line hits like a train. To this day I feel bad whenever I feel beautiful, I feel like I don't deserve it and I'm not allowed to feel like this since I don't fit the beauty standards
@moonheart8475
@moonheart8475 Жыл бұрын
You should fine your own beauty standards because there are all that matter! If you feel pretty, then you are. You are who you are and you see the world through YOUR eyes! If the reflection in the mirror seems beautiful, and hot, and enough, then it is! 💖
@JustTimepass_
@JustTimepass_ Жыл бұрын
Same here 😅😅😅😅but you know what I can't say this to myself but lemme tell u friend no matter how u look you're beautiful the way u are God made you So pretty 😁
@daltonmiller5590
@daltonmiller5590 Жыл бұрын
At least you have the ability to sometimes look in the mirror and like what you see, even if only for a split second. I'm not fat myself, but I just hate the way I look and I don't think I ever will. Cherish that you know only your negative thoughts are holding you back. For some of us, our thoughts are the truth.
@urieasui9779
@urieasui9779 Жыл бұрын
I might not have seen you but I know damn well you are beautiful. I believe as long as YOU think you are pretty then you are. Beauty standards change like the clothes we wear so why fit them?
@missyyourbesti
@missyyourbesti Жыл бұрын
I understand, but the beauty standards do NOT determine OUR beauty!! DO NOT FEEL GUILTY FOR FEELING AND LOOKING BEAUTIFUL, it's not you thinking your all that but is you loving and respecting yourself, always remember that.
@user-uc4kk8px2j
@user-uc4kk8px2j 2 жыл бұрын
She made me cry at two parts, "ive drawn out in sharpie whered id take the scissors." And "its funny when i think a guy likes me and its funny when i say lets eat" i struggled with being anorexic and obesse, now im in the middle in thing but idk im abt to be 14 i hate myself but her music makes me feel heard out. Thanks maddie, your really pretty and awesome. I wanna be like you
@shainajohnson2007
@shainajohnson2007 Жыл бұрын
Relate to u so much girl, know ur not alone and ur beautiful just the way u are!!💕😭🤗
@thefishersquad761
@thefishersquad761 Жыл бұрын
First congrats on being 14, Second, you're amazing, beautiful and made in God's image. Love yourself because there is only one you! You're amazing.
@jisatsu_haisha3808
@jisatsu_haisha3808 Жыл бұрын
You’re 14 and anorexic? That is not okay. It’s so messed up how you have to go through that at such a young age. I’m so sorry my love. Just remember it doesn’t matter what size you are. The only thing that matters is being a good person. I’m still coming to terms with accepting that but I’m sure you can do it.
@trippyhippyy
@trippyhippyy Жыл бұрын
Just wanted to let you know you’re not alone in how you feel, and remember that most of the images you see on social media are edited, and there are so many things other than weight that make someone beautiful❤ stay strong love
@ashlynngrace9763
@ashlynngrace9763 Жыл бұрын
I feel like we’re the same person
@kapeeka808
@kapeeka808 9 ай бұрын
It’s great to know other people feel the same way. I love this song so much
@Cryingbuthot
@Cryingbuthot 6 ай бұрын
As someone who has parents that body shame, yell at me for gaining weight, and make me diet, thank you for making a song that expresses exactly what I can never seem to say
@arabelakayepastrana
@arabelakayepastrana 3 ай бұрын
:
@stephanieprovencher335
@stephanieprovencher335 3 ай бұрын
You’ll get through this I believe in you. My dad sometimes body shames me as well but not my mum as much to me.
@Cryingbuthot
@Cryingbuthot 3 ай бұрын
@@stephanieprovencher335 thank uuu, it’s gotten a bit better but they still do it
@stephanieprovencher335
@stephanieprovencher335 3 ай бұрын
@@Cryingbuthot that’s horrible I hate how ANYONES OWN FAMILY HAS THE NERVE TO DO THIS😡😡 it’s disgusting, disrespectful and plain up rude. Family is “supposed to love you unconditionally no matter what.” Yet here we are with family’s judging not just to themselves but actually fluffing saying it straight to their face. A CHILDS FACE.
@stephanieprovencher335
@stephanieprovencher335 3 ай бұрын
@@Cryingbuthot they blame the child for “being like this and they could just change and do things right, do this, do that” 🙄 “JUST BE HOW YOUR SUPPOSED TO BE, DONT DO THIS, DONT DO THAT.” I fluffing hate it.
@The3MusketeersABC
@The3MusketeersABC Жыл бұрын
To all the people who relate to this song: you are beautiful, you are strong, you are enough.
@annahshalom7078
@annahshalom7078 Жыл бұрын
I did the cover of FAT FUNNY FRIEND, please watch kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5zZY4Cnl6hgqtE and let me know what you think
@KiSaty
@KiSaty Жыл бұрын
Damn Lisa 🥺💕 thank you I needed to hear this today.
@ryleecampbell2826
@ryleecampbell2826 Жыл бұрын
I'm not
@sophievaughan7507
@sophievaughan7507 Жыл бұрын
Thanks xx
@mirandamullins8805
@mirandamullins8805 Жыл бұрын
You made me cry when you seed that so think you
@elliottjimenez8568
@elliottjimenez8568 2 жыл бұрын
This hits hard. I’m going through ED recovery and I still get so many people talking about how proud of me they are that I lost so much weight . It hurts a lot. I hope anyone going through something similar finds peace with themselves
@sarahmiller4449
@sarahmiller4449 2 жыл бұрын
My sister went through the same thing in HS. 😢 There is a slam poetry piece by Blythe Baird called “When the fat girl gets skinny” about her experience with an ED. I highly recommend it but be warned, it makes me cry every time! 😭 The best of luck to you on your recovery. I hope you find the peace and healing you deserve! ❤️❤️❤️
@Kunn_051
@Kunn_051 2 жыл бұрын
I thought ED meant Erectile Dysfunction 😭😭😭 because I'm a pharmacy student.
@lila2793
@lila2793 2 жыл бұрын
I get it. I went fro being the fat friend to skinny over a summer and people treated me like a freaking success story for diets and exercise. I didn't lose weight the healthy way, ai lost it through years of self hatred that accumulated to months of self starvation
@Rose-jz6sx
@Rose-jz6sx 2 жыл бұрын
I'm proud of you too, but not for losing weight, I'm proud of you for recovering. That's the hardest damn thing.
@syodahoque463
@syodahoque463 2 жыл бұрын
I’m so sorry that’s what you got praised for, it’s a horrible thing. I’m proud of you for hanging in there and trying your best to take care of yourself. I hope you come to realize that you are beautiful inside out, regardless of your weight or physical appearance.
@shreechaudhary02
@shreechaudhary02 Жыл бұрын
"I have to be nice or i will be the next punch line" But the fact i can relate to every freaking lyrics like its story of my life
@kcat3862
@kcat3862 9 ай бұрын
I love how I can relate this song, which makes me feel so emotional and starts crying. This song has so much beauty, so underrated! More people must know this song❤
@samanthadanielperez3421
@samanthadanielperez3421 Жыл бұрын
"The girl gets the guy while I'm standing off-screen so I'll wait for my cue for the comedic relief" "Can't be too busy, if I don't answer now are they still gonna need me?" This song hits me in so many parts
@painfulfirebird2905
@painfulfirebird2905 Жыл бұрын
My entire life has been brutally shoved into this 3 minutes and 17 second song.
@karlfong9962
@karlfong9962 Жыл бұрын
@@painfulfirebird2905 yes thank you thats what im trying to say
@DC-gf8nl
@DC-gf8nl Жыл бұрын
Yes
@CL0AUEZ_
@CL0AUEZ_ 11 ай бұрын
Fr
@AdelynMiller-go2yt
@AdelynMiller-go2yt 10 ай бұрын
Same
@VickiSallad
@VickiSallad 2 жыл бұрын
I will never claim to have been oppressed by my body size; yet I still resonate with a lot of this and I hope that’s okay. Growing up, I was always the biggest person out of my fatphobic, very thin group of friends. I carried it with me for so long, reassuring them that they weren’t the sizes I was, they didn’t eat the same “abundance” of food as me, etc. I kept my own insecurities secret. I developed an ED around 21, and was fortunate enough to receive help, but I did not get to the level of thinness those other people did. I was almost always the “biggest” anorexic in the program. The difference in how I was treated was apparent - the thinner clients were always the priority and my habits were normalized. The weight stigma in those places is horrendous, and I was only just above “normal.” It is and was worse for fat people. It’s incredibly sad how I left that place feeling like I wasn’t worthy of care unless I was thin… essentially killing myself was fine because of my body size. And now, I’m in a body I never imagined I could be in, that I was never meant to have, and that I still feel inferior in. I am so tired of fatphobia, dieting, and people treating other people like shit for things that shouldn’t matter. I wish people could love each other, I could love myself, and all this crap would just stop.
@croshaide3168
@croshaide3168 2 жыл бұрын
I’m probably going to make an ass out of myself here, I was skinny n short but constantly told I was fat and ugly by damn near everyone, even my ‘friends’ I was 103 lbs when I graduated, I was anorexic and a cutter, I hated myself so much to this day I have trouble eating a full meal. I never went to anyone for help but I fell on my hip at work and went to the doctor he told me I could have broken it easily instead I just had a bruise and a small crack. That was the day I started eating again it’s still difficult.
@AFTALonzo
@AFTALonzo 2 жыл бұрын
THIS
@laobozu549
@laobozu549 2 жыл бұрын
Well said. I wish you and everyone who relates the best.
@kimberlyrain
@kimberlyrain 2 жыл бұрын
Ive been seeing a few ppl mentioning that thats an issue.... like even ppl at healthy weights treated that way bc they werent on the brink of death...but its good to go ...its good to catch it before it gets that far bc the deeper and longer u sink, the harder it is to get out... theres so much stigma around overweight ppl and ppl promoting when someone starves themselves bc theyre bigger or even just not thin... you are not inferior....u are not what ppl define u as... you are gorgeous regardless of size bc ur clearly a good person.... theres too much hatred for both ends of that spectrum...whether large or small, theres ppl out there saying "stop eating" or "eat a cheeseburger" and ya sure to some ppl that shit doesnt bother them, but to others, that triggers EDs, binge eating and excessive workouts to anorexia and balemia ... alot of ppls sizes has to do with genetics, not what they eat...just stop with the judgement ppl...esp in cases like urs where u seek help and dont recieve it bc they cant grasp that you're on the same path more severe cases are...bc they cant grasp that getting help before it becomes severe is best... so many ppl relapse, and more than likely its those severe cases bc someone didnt step in or notice before it got to that point... its like with so many other things...ppl dont notice or care until its nearly too late or is too late... and thats the sad part...they focus on things that dont matter -such as other peoples weight as if they know their history- so when shit like ur ed and experience with recovery happens, they dont see it
@coy_fish
@coy_fish 2 жыл бұрын
@@croshaide3168 I’m glad that u are having a recovery and remember that u are loved
@xxelliexxxxcoloursxx7160
@xxelliexxxxcoloursxx7160 Жыл бұрын
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” “Can’t think I’m pretty” So many lines that hit hard!!
@user-nh8pz8hz5j
@user-nh8pz8hz5j 20 күн бұрын
"I've done every diet to make me look thinner"is very relatable for younger me and me now
@brittydoes4865
@brittydoes4865 2 жыл бұрын
As the girl that's always "one of the guys" and always the "friend" this hits so deep. Side note: need an acoustic version I'm in looove
@-moinsen-1570
@-moinsen-1570 2 жыл бұрын
I feel you... I was confident enough to ask my crush if we could meet or sth and he said: "Yes, I always wanted a girl best friend and you are just a perfect friend." Yeah... Thanks? I guess
@ViaH__
@ViaH__ 2 жыл бұрын
even worse is when you're 'one of the guys' you get called pick me but you don't even try to be one of them, it just happened. :):
@splendidhorror1517
@splendidhorror1517 2 жыл бұрын
I’ve always been more of a tomboy enjoying the same things many guys like and I hate it im just another one of the dudes I had a close guy friend and we had so much in common and he was always looking for someone to understand him (he’s a streamer and a KZbinr) and I was that person who understand helping with his streams helping him with his esport’s team. But he only ever saw me as a guy even going to the point of saying I don’t dress like a girl or speak like one he said I acted to much like a guy that he wouldn’t be able to see me for anything more. To make it worse I’m always told I’m flirting with the guys when I’m the most awful when it comes to flirting or showing interest it’s just easier to talk with them because I’d rather play COD then go out to get my nails done 😤
@unknowns78
@unknowns78 2 жыл бұрын
@@ViaH__ Yea being one of the guys and being a pick me are two different things
@FreyjaShartSquad
@FreyjaShartSquad 2 жыл бұрын
For real, I struggled so bad with femininity and being seen as 'one of the guys', people would find the idea of me having a boyfriend hilarious, or wearing a dress to prom :( I demonized femininity because people found it weak and was terrified of being 'girly' but I've been able to come to terms with it. My favourite colour IS pink (not really a girly thing), I adore dresses and skirts, I may not get a boyfriend but I'd happily enjoy park picnics with a girlfriend/wife
@PyroPisces
@PyroPisces 2 жыл бұрын
I can't "relate" to this song, so I've held off on commenting because I don't want to take any attention away from the ones who *do* relate to it. But this is honestly one of the most beautiful songs I've heard in a long time. I hardly hear emotion in music anymore, but I can hear the pain, the struggle and and overall emotion. You've got a phenomenal voice and a talent for songwriting. I hope you go far.
@loveatris
@loveatris 2 жыл бұрын
same but tbh no one with money gonna stay this size for long, just look at Hollywood.
@khadijaebrahim9684
@khadijaebrahim9684 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@melupan
@melupan 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for sharing this. If anyone shames you just ignore
@captainkacke1651
@captainkacke1651 2 жыл бұрын
My thoughts exactly
@alexb.2055
@alexb.2055 2 жыл бұрын
I love your honesty and never understood it either. Then experienced it.. began at 11 when Mom died of cancer but it didn’t hit me until 25. Close friend didn’t hit her until 33. 10 years of counseling later for me and the reason I was able to graduate from college. I still remember both sides. Pretty sure I used to say harm to oneself was selfish and on the other end knowing pain is usually so painful, trauma related, and deep you aren’t thinking about selfish. If you don’t understand it’s a blessing. If you do understand and get help, it’s also a blessing. But the pain of this song is tough to hear and absolutely beautiful/raw! Tell someone you’re there and consistently check in. You may have no idea the pain they are hiding. Let’s be kind!!
@AaliyahGarcia-ci9bg
@AaliyahGarcia-ci9bg Ай бұрын
I love how this song is literally my life
@gerdasmuts5839
@gerdasmuts5839 Ай бұрын
Ikr its soo sad to know somebody has the same issues as me 😢
@GenevieveDeeter-tt6or
@GenevieveDeeter-tt6or 4 ай бұрын
As someone with no meat on her bones, I feel like I’m someone who could make someone insecure, I feel absolutely terrible for you, people say I should be grateful I can eat whatever I want and not gain weight but I just want to gain a little, you are such a slay and I love you for bringing this to light!
@countryrose93
@countryrose93 2 жыл бұрын
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” hit me like a fucking freight train. I feel like if I’m not always available, everyone will just stop calling
@TheLilly1200
@TheLilly1200 2 жыл бұрын
same..
@annahshalom7078
@annahshalom7078 Жыл бұрын
i did the cover, please watch kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5zZY4Cnl6hgqtE
@emaurismith6325
@emaurismith6325 Жыл бұрын
Same
@ishitajangra8873
@ishitajangra8873 2 жыл бұрын
This song made me cry ugly. I have been that overweight kid that never once in her life was thin. I was judged for my weight since my first day. Not a single day passes by when i don't hear ''You can look much better if u are skinny.'' I have heard this line on every day i wanted to feel beautiful and confident. I'm still trying to love my self day by day. I hope every person whose going through this shit gets to know there worth.
@eel7157
@eel7157 2 жыл бұрын
😭 We need to stop body shaming we are who we are some of us are naturally and like what we are Ps how did this comment get only 33 likes like bruhh u deserve atleast a million
@user-ib9kz4sr9d
@user-ib9kz4sr9d 2 жыл бұрын
It's just that I can't get out of it because it's genetic , but it still hurts, looking the fatter in the wedding pictures have never been worst tbh , i keep on hoping someone has a crush on me or to hit on me so just i could feel better for the moment but then again it looks silly and i'd they are making fun of me ,GOD!!!!
@stardream5029
@stardream5029 2 жыл бұрын
انتي جميلة زي ماانتي واي امرأة جميلة كلنا مختلفين عن بعض وجميلين واللي ينتقدوك لاي سبب ناقصين والله ناقصين مو مرتاحين فحياتهم مستحيل انتقد شخص واسخر منو لسبب معين ونا بخير من داخلي ومسالمة مع نفسي مستحيل ابدا وكمان ما يحتاج احد يحبك مايهم صدقيني ادري شعورك وحاسة بك كونك تريدين شخص يحبك زي ماانتي عشان تحسي انك انتي تستحقي وجميلة بس والله اذا انتي حبيتي نفسك وحاولتي تطوري منها مارح تحتاجي لاحد ابدا غير الله سبحانه اتمنى تتخطين يمريم واي احد يعاني اتمنى يتخطى ويتحسن 🥺❤️
@user-ib9kz4sr9d
@user-ib9kz4sr9d 2 жыл бұрын
@@stardream5029 أولاً شكراً لردك باللغة العربية كونها لغتنا الأم ، وشكراً مرة تانية لردك الجميل لأن بصراحة لا اخفي عليكي سراً كتبت الكومنت و نفسيتي مكنتش أحسن حاجة وكنت منتظرة رد يريحني شوية أو يهون عليا لأن حتى لما بنتكلم مع الموضوع مع أهلنا الموضوع بيبان لهم كعدم إيمان كافي أو أن احنا مش راضيين عن خلقة ربنا ، رغم أني عارفة لو أنا حتى انجلينا جولي هبص لنفسي بنفس النظرة لأن العيب من جوا مش من برا ، تسلميلي جدا على كلامك الجميل حقيقي فرق معايا بجد وهفضل فكراه دايما ، الصراحة لا أنا ولا انتي بنحتاج حد يحبنا عشان يثبت جمالنا بس لما تلاقي اصحابك كلهم بيسمعوا كلام معاكسة مثلا حتى لو هما مضايقين منه الواحد الشيطان بيلعب بدماغه و بتحسي أنه يمكن ناقصك حاجة عشان كده محدش بيقولك كده برده وشكراً شكراً شكراً للمرة المليون تفكيرك فيا و محاولتك للتهوين عني عندي بالدنيا هدعيلك دائما❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@mariedorval552
@mariedorval552 2 жыл бұрын
I know how damaged it could be. Love yourself the way it is whether you love it or not... You are beautiful in your own ways... You can do it, I believe in you! 🥰
@StarryDen
@StarryDen Жыл бұрын
A song has never mad me cry like this song has, i was singing this out loud and burst into tears..this song touches my feelings like no other, thanks for writing this masterpiece. ❤
@catherineluayon2774
@catherineluayon2774 Ай бұрын
Fact that every word of the lyrics is so accurate to me and it stabs my heart.
@lacey9943
@lacey9943 2 жыл бұрын
as someone who’s been the only black plus-sized girl in a friendship group, i felt this song too painfully. you took the words right out of my mouth. cant say i’ve fully recovered from the social repercussions of being plus-sized, but this song took me a step closer. A huge thank you from the plus-sized community Maddie 💕
@tiffaany1052
@tiffaany1052 2 жыл бұрын
I'm also the only black plus-sized girl in a group with all boys so I totally understand how you feel
@daniellasaul03
@daniellasaul03 Жыл бұрын
Exactly
@joshi0268
@joshi0268 Жыл бұрын
fat not plussized please loose weight i was a fat tard once too just loose weight
@annahshalom7078
@annahshalom7078 Жыл бұрын
I did the cover, Please watch kzbin.info/www/bejne/l5zZY4Cnl6hgqtE
@freehippie5325
@freehippie5325 Жыл бұрын
Bro, both of my skinny friends been asked out to homecoming and I'm the only one without a date. I'm just not going to go, ok be the far black girl while my skinny Asian/ white friend go with their dates.
@misssionthapa1374
@misssionthapa1374 Жыл бұрын
Being a overweight sixteen years old teen..i've always been disrespected and bullied all my life .. This song is exactly how i feel... growing up as a FAT FUNNY FRIEND is always a part of me Thank you for this song🍁
@danieldelia8846
@danieldelia8846 Жыл бұрын
Sixteen year-old teen? Damn. Not a sixteen year old adult?
@lizzywilliams5825
@lizzywilliams5825 Жыл бұрын
​@@danieldelia8846 sorry I'm not sure if I'm interpreting this comment right can you explane what tone you mean when you say this? 😅
@danieldelia8846
@danieldelia8846 Жыл бұрын
@@lizzywilliams5825 sarcastic
@molls7016
@molls7016 Жыл бұрын
exactly like ive got a boyfriend and he says im pretty but i think he says that to just be nice.
@HollieDF
@HollieDF 11 ай бұрын
Me too hun I’m known as the fat funny friend even though I wouldn’t say I’m overweight I get called it and it still hurts
@user-zp5lj3fk4h
@user-zp5lj3fk4h Ай бұрын
We need more songs like this is incredible
@6ixparte
@6ixparte 11 ай бұрын
"I've drawn out in sharpie where I take the scissors" Always gets me. 😕
@elliea5088
@elliea5088 Ай бұрын
Me too
@theuglyduckling5862
@theuglyduckling5862 2 жыл бұрын
I’m 16 and 240 pounds I’ve dealt with body issues since I was 5. This song perfectly described how I feel everyday. Thank you for writing this and sharing it with us. Edit: to all of you that think you need to starve yourself don’t I did that for a while and it just made me sick. I don’t know how you body is but I’m on a healthy weight loss journey. I’ve only lost 10 pounds even tho that’s not a lot but that’s just the beginning of my weight loss so even if that’s not the number you where hopping for it’s still weight off and that’s amazing. It could take me awhile to get it off but I’m hopeful. Yes there are days where I don’t want to get up or just want to cry and that’s ok you go at your pace no one else’s. I am slowly rebuilding my self confidence and I don’t feel great all the time but you have to push yourself out of your comfort zone sometimes. It’s not fun but when you get that moment of confidence it’s beautiful. And if you basing your worth oh what other people think that’s where you’ll fail. I’m not saying don’t care but don’t take it to heart people are evil. But don’t be unkind to them greet them with peace and love. I know it’s hard to do that but for us to live in a good and accepting world we have to be kind and help each other build. Not tear down. Please help each other and be healthy. Ok sorry that’s the end of my Ted talk lol. It any of you need to talk here’s my number (850)512-4114 and my snap ( dont_eatplastic )
@raynehernandez5663
@raynehernandez5663 2 жыл бұрын
16 and 210 ive dealt with them since 3rd grade altho its sad its also nice to see people who understand what its like growing up with body issues 💜💜💜💜
@ziggyystardust
@ziggyystardust 2 жыл бұрын
im 14 and around 180 pounds, honestly i don’t think i’ll ever become skinny lol
@HannaaBananaa
@HannaaBananaa 2 жыл бұрын
@@ziggyystardust ah same
@falleneclipse6782
@falleneclipse6782 2 жыл бұрын
@@user-hf1gj7uq2t really? Bodyshaming on this type of song?
@p4nther521
@p4nther521 2 жыл бұрын
@@falleneclipse6782 lol
@annagnp2105
@annagnp2105 2 жыл бұрын
Wow. “Why do I still feel so goddamn inferior?” this is when it really hit home for me. I’ve always had insecurities and body image issues and this song for the most part expressed how I feel every day better than I could ever do. Thank you ❤️
@charlottedarcy-pavier8689
@charlottedarcy-pavier8689 2 жыл бұрын
I certainly agree
@charlottedarcy-pavier8689
@charlottedarcy-pavier8689 2 жыл бұрын
People are selfish and they don't know how much damage it does to there childhood
@linn4823
@linn4823 2 жыл бұрын
Same, I’ve had insecurities ever since I can remember
@WillSolace16
@WillSolace16 2 ай бұрын
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” hits so hard❤
@ancientdreams6764
@ancientdreams6764 7 ай бұрын
I may not have been the so called fat funny friend, i've actually been skinny all my seventeen years of life, but i have and still do suffer from body image issues as i feel like i have to maintain that body all my life even though all i want to do is eat my heart out and order a dozen things at restaurant's, so a lot of lyrics in this song hit close to home for me. It's very encouraging of you to have made this wonderful song for all those who suffer from feeling this way the same as you. I hope your life is always lovely, and that we all find a way to over come this idea that we need to cater to the worlds opinions, hopefully just as you seem to have.
@evergreatest8521
@evergreatest8521 2 жыл бұрын
1:14 hits so different. Especially for someone who’s struggled with self image & losing weight for years
@poppywilson9197
@poppywilson9197 2 жыл бұрын
I hope your okay
@idgaf2355
@idgaf2355 Жыл бұрын
1:12
@kirksander
@kirksander 2 жыл бұрын
I really love how the chorus say "...are they still gonna NEED me?..." Instead of WANT me. It hits closer to the heart knowing that some of the people you think love having you around just need you and not really want you.
@gerylzolvik5929
@gerylzolvik5929 Жыл бұрын
I can't stop playing this song over and over again. It really hits home
@alinebonysswhatever
@alinebonysswhatever 2 ай бұрын
Every time I hear this song I cry and I listen to a lot of sad songs, but this one just hits my heart so hard there's no mood or situation I could be in and not tear up when hearing this. I love this song and I love you for this song and I just feel a strong urge to thank you for this song, so... Thank you.
@camfogle0514
@camfogle0514 2 жыл бұрын
I am so greatful for artists like you who show their vulnerability and use their music to relate to so many people. YOU. ARE. AMAZING. Bring on the tears, I have tissues to prepare!
@marisa768
@marisa768 2 жыл бұрын
As someone who used to be rail thin from anorexia, and is now extremely overweight from "recovery" turning into BED, this cuts so deep for me. I don't feel as admired or appreciated anymore, in the same way that I was when I was skinny and sick. It makes me miss the old me, as sad and scary as that sounds. Thank you for putting my feelings into words I haven't been able to express before!!!
@kuzcospoisonthepoisonforku2607
@kuzcospoisonthepoisonforku2607 2 жыл бұрын
May I ask what BED is (I assume as most ED’s, it differs from person to person)?
@NoYeahNah
@NoYeahNah 2 жыл бұрын
Nobody talks about this - recovery from anorexia has it's own set of symptoms. The research I did at university was about 15yrs ago, so bear with me (they might refer to it as BED now, but it's actually a symptom of anorexia itself). Self-starvation messes with your neurochemicals and your hormones to the extent that when you try to eat again, it may feel like you can not stop. I can't remember the name of the enzyme that your body stops releasing, but *during this phase of recovery, the urge to keep eating is as powerful as a human trying to gasp for air when drowning* . Your body is so desperately just trying to survive, but it's so confused. The only way through is to just let it happen, because these symptoms will eventually abate. I remember it took about 18 months for me. It was hell, partly because I had no clue that this was a powerful physical symptom and not a personality flaw... It's so important to have care, support and sympathy during this time. I don't know why clinicians and counsellors don't talk about this. The urge to binge will fade as you stop starving yourself less and less.
@ooiforgotmynameagain3298
@ooiforgotmynameagain3298 2 жыл бұрын
@@NoYeahNah Thank you! I needed this!
@kuzcospoisonthepoisonforku2607
@kuzcospoisonthepoisonforku2607 2 жыл бұрын
@@someonesour oh okay, got you. Thanks :)
@smiley_face2872
@smiley_face2872 2 жыл бұрын
oh my god dude, you have all my support. You can do this!
@Alexa_Spencer
@Alexa_Spencer Жыл бұрын
This song is sooooooo relatable coming from a male who has faced myself in my eating disorder. It’s makes me cry and yet it itself is empowering
@Ashmaybe
@Ashmaybe 6 ай бұрын
Why is nobody talking about the line "and i have to be nice or ill be the next punchline" that line is so true because if you laugh at any joke someone would say "why are you laughing? You're like *fat insults*"people don't understand how munch it effects our mental healths
@olivia-yr9yw
@olivia-yr9yw Жыл бұрын
“can’t be to proud and can’t think I’m pretty” hits SO FUCKING HARD
@bready2812
@bready2812 2 жыл бұрын
"do they keep me around so their flaws seems silly" gosh this hits too close to home
@kristinavaritt7100
@kristinavaritt7100 11 ай бұрын
“If I don’t answer now are they still gonna need me” hit HARD
@SilverStarlingsDen
@SilverStarlingsDen 6 ай бұрын
I have not had a song so relatable in years that made me just sob at the end of it. Thank you so much for making this, and for giving this beautiful song life
@girlfromthevillage403
@girlfromthevillage403 Жыл бұрын
I know this sounds strange but I love how she goes from sounding sad and almost like she doesn't want to 'create waves' with her opinion to yelling it like she mad and wants people to listen and really, truly hear her. This song is so beautiful and powerful ❤️
@JC-bq3vd
@JC-bq3vd 2 жыл бұрын
I'm not fat but I'm not skinny either. I'm in-between. This song fits me amazingly well. "Do they keep me around so there flaws just seem silly?"
@saylerwhitlow2729
@saylerwhitlow2729 2 жыл бұрын
Same with me but all my friends in the friend group are like thin thin and they have a figure
@JC-bq3vd
@JC-bq3vd 2 жыл бұрын
@@saylerwhitlow2729 my friends are too. In-betweeners have figures too. We just dont see it because we think we're fat.
@asgyso13
@asgyso13 2 жыл бұрын
Same
@chicagogirl1114
@chicagogirl1114 2 жыл бұрын
I just had to say. you are so fucking beautiful.
@JC-bq3vd
@JC-bq3vd 2 жыл бұрын
@@chicagogirl1114 Thank you so much!!! Your beautiful too. 💙🦋💜
@britneymessick32adventures
@britneymessick32adventures Жыл бұрын
This song really hits close to home in so many ways , friends and family would always treat me differently cause of my size growing up . This song is definitely healing ✨💕
@Kam_doug120
@Kam_doug120 Жыл бұрын
It's reliefing that there is other people that feel the same and that it is all put into a song so I can relate too. People tell me be confident I wish it was that easy and when I play this song it is one of the only songs I can relate to, thank you for making this song❤❤❤❤❤
@0___riley___0
@0___riley___0 Жыл бұрын
I always come back to this song when I'm feeling down about my body and listen to it on repeat. it doesn't always make me feel better but it makes me feel heard and not alone. sometimes struggles can't be fought easily but an important first step is realizing you're not alone. things take time and I've definitely come a long way to loving myself. I still have bad days and I know that's ok
@0___riley___0
@0___riley___0 Жыл бұрын
I have also never heard of anyone else actually "draw it in sharpie where I'd take the scissors" ive done that for years and never once met someone else who has done that. it just helps realize nobody is alone
@GraciKolarcik
@GraciKolarcik 8 ай бұрын
Same here 🥲
@Judemydude34
@Judemydude34 8 ай бұрын
You are not alone people talk quack about you they probably have something in their life that is not going well for them😊😊😊
@minniemo2289
@minniemo2289 Жыл бұрын
From someone who has lost the weight, the after effect of losing the weight is crazy. You are constantly reminded of how annoying you were when you were fat even though your personality is same. You're constantly being told to watch what you eat because you'll go back to being ugly... I honestly wish that the body positivity movement was popularized before I lost the weight because I was actually happier before. I hope who ever reads this accepts their beautiful body because changing will not solve how you feel about yourself
@feliciatesner873
@feliciatesner873 Жыл бұрын
stop calling her annoying!
@Ankku98
@Ankku98 Жыл бұрын
"how annoying you were when you were fat" who the hell said that to you? That sounds like abuse to me.
@frogg523
@frogg523 Жыл бұрын
I agree with you, but I’ve had breakdown over how disgusting I am. I would be happy, much happier skinny. It’s horrifying to look in the mirror, I can’t eat in front of people I’m not used to, I’m afraid they’ll judge me. Then when I go home I binge eat and have eat until I feel disgusting. I take pills for depression and anxiety, I have anxiety because I hate how I look. But no matter how hard I try I can’t keep up with it. I’d love more than anything in the world to lose weight but I can’t go outside looking like a cow. So I think it would make me much happier.
@summerplayzforfun7130
@summerplayzforfun7130 Жыл бұрын
I really want to lose the weight and this song makes me realize a lot and tour comment that people don't see you differently. Those who know you for your personality will still see you as that but someone who was bothered by your looks will most likely not ketchup that go and it hurts to think about.
@miaf111
@miaf111 Жыл бұрын
@@NostalkersallowedkarmaisrealI have no friends and i just turned 18 :(
@gay_bish_bella69
@gay_bish_bella69 Жыл бұрын
I didn't cry to this song untill I saw this lyric video, I literally bawled, this song is so relatable to me 😭😭😭
@oliviaward9642
@oliviaward9642 7 ай бұрын
"I've drawn out in sharpie where I'd take the scissors" "It's funny when I think a guy likes me" ❤️ thank you for making such a relatable song
@Msgyrotuna
@Msgyrotuna 2 жыл бұрын
My whole life, I've just accepted this role as the, "funny fat friend," that I literally don't know any other way of being around people or making friends. It hit so close to home for me, how I've always been and, for a long time now, have just accepted a part of myself, that this is my role in life, and in social hierarchy, that this is who I will always be. I've given up on myself for a long time now, I think this is all that's left for me and the most I can hope for is that maybe some man will take pity on me and love me for who I am on the inside. Even though I've been dead inside for probably over half my life at this point. Thank you for this song, I hope and pray it reaches other girls who are a lot younger than I am, that still have a lot of life left, that can still overcome the struggles. I'm 35 and I feel like it's over for me at this point but I know there's plenty of other girls out there who can change their lives for the better. Don't be afraid to reach out and don't be afraid to speak up.
@mpilwenhleshabalala206
@mpilwenhleshabalala206 2 жыл бұрын
Hi. We obviously don't know each other but i just wanted to say i love you. To hell with what society says our bodies should look like. To hell with society putting us in boxes and defining us. You are perfect. I pray and hope that whenever you look in the mirror you see that. I pray you feel that. And it's not too late for you. I wish you the best in life❤
@LadyEunoia
@LadyEunoia 2 жыл бұрын
Hi, please please don't feel its over for you..Noo..35 is not old for anything, I'm sorry you're going through this but from the way you write this comment I can see you've got a lovely soul. No matter how you feel now,This world is full of beautiful things and you have a lifetime ahead of you! I hope you find love,laughter and smiles! Cheers! Body image doesn't determine who you are.See.. I never have even seen you..Nor will I ever get to,But I just know that you are a pretty human! A lot will happen if you start believe it yourself! Sending hugs!
@Temiakinbo
@Temiakinbo 2 жыл бұрын
Heyy sis !!! It’s not over ! It’s just actually starting, you are beautiful and I’m so sure you are amazing inside aswell. Eventually you would find that one person that sees beyond your body but still try to enjoy life in the moment. I honestly can relate to you ! But it would be fine 🥰🥰
@foxypups4585
@foxypups4585 Жыл бұрын
I can definitely relate on the “take pity” part…it’ll be okay ❤️
@foxypups4585
@foxypups4585 Жыл бұрын
Why, 35 is still pretty young to me, my parents still do stuff and there almost 50! The only thing stopping you, is you…if that makes sense. Anywho, what I’m saying is, there’s still so much more to life, living is all it takes to move forward ^-^ ❤️ don’t give up ❤️
@vasiliki3942
@vasiliki3942 Жыл бұрын
I never was fat. For some reason though, this song really touches my soul. Tanks for this masterpiece
@thebestwishes8886
@thebestwishes8886 Жыл бұрын
Same
@forever_alerionna7357
@forever_alerionna7357 Жыл бұрын
Fat?
@brennanewman4212
@brennanewman4212 Жыл бұрын
Same
@dasha-8022
@dasha-8022 Жыл бұрын
Same
@jessicakuhns203
@jessicakuhns203 Жыл бұрын
Ppl criticize skinny ppl for being too skinny and tell them to eat more and or eat a hamburger while they tell a fat person to either eat a salad or stop eating. These insecurities are Transcendant. They're just opposites neither side is fun to be on.
@CheddarCheese401
@CheddarCheese401 Жыл бұрын
The way I relate to this song brings tears to my eyes. It is incredible how you can describe how you really feel in a 3 minute and 18 second song.
@NoooLiiii
@NoooLiiii Жыл бұрын
Every words from this song hits me hard....The most relatable song I've come across so far....
@Valkyriee686
@Valkyriee686 2 жыл бұрын
I heard this song once and collapsed into a bundle of tears. Things that I haven't thought of in years just came up so fucking quick. Nobody should be made to feel like that. I cannot wait to be able to share this with everyone I know. Maybe things will change
@Valkyriee686
@Valkyriee686 2 жыл бұрын
@@MaddieZahm thank you right back. I feel seen and heard for the first time in a while. I wish I could tell my younger self that it gets better ❤
@chelsiterry804
@chelsiterry804 2 жыл бұрын
Girl, same. I’m sitting here a married 32 year old bawling my eyes out. I didn’t realize I have so many things from high school still packed up inside. Shew.
@Valkyriee686
@Valkyriee686 2 жыл бұрын
@@chelsiterry804 I try not to think about school at all, tbh. Now I see that a big reason I got married in the first place was because I was so fucking miserable for many reasons, and I latched onto him so fucking tight 😥 We're separated now, going on 5 years.
@lauringrace1389
@lauringrace1389 2 жыл бұрын
Things already are changing and there is always hope.
@potatoeswithmuscles
@potatoeswithmuscles 2 жыл бұрын
You’re gorgeous
@27_phuongnghi24
@27_phuongnghi24 Жыл бұрын
"If I don't answer now, are they still gonna need me?" and "It's funny when I think a guy likes me" are the 2 lines that make me cry all the time
@user-nd2uj5bc8t
@user-nd2uj5bc8t 7 ай бұрын
This is utter talent at its finest. You truly are an inspiration & I mean that from the bottom of my heart.
@Bex-on-Pawzzz
@Bex-on-Pawzzz 3 ай бұрын
“I’ve drawn out in sharpie where I take the scissors” hits so close to my heart and makes me cry every time I replay the song
@itzlynnluv
@itzlynnluv Жыл бұрын
"do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly" "I say I'm okay cause they wouldn't care anyways" These two lines hit me so hard cause this is the reality for me :(
@itzlynnluv
@itzlynnluv Жыл бұрын
WHAT I GOT A HEART FROM MADDIE OMG
@Lily-chan-do6yg
@Lily-chan-do6yg 8 ай бұрын
same cause the second line reminds me of how even if I tell me friends and family how feel at the end of the day it kind of won't help you because there words never did anything for me you know
@itzlynnluv
@itzlynnluv 8 ай бұрын
they only talk but never act which is really hurtful in some ways, I am willing to listen if you're desperate :)@@Lily-chan-do6yg​
@Nyx8x8
@Nyx8x8 8 ай бұрын
Same bro ❤❤❤
@robbieskids9159
@robbieskids9159 8 ай бұрын
​@@Lily-chan-do6ygit feels like the only ones who can really pull you up are same ones constantly pulling you down. It's hard because they really do love us.
@jessyl9525
@jessyl9525 2 жыл бұрын
I was always the smart, funny, chubby kid. Told “you’re not fat, you’re beautiful”. Lost 150 lbs, and got bulimia and BED as a bonus. Now having regained 50 lb., I constantly feel like I’m shoved back into how I felt all through growing up. This song really gets me. Thank you
@borahae3792
@borahae3792 Жыл бұрын
*Gives you a huge bear hug* I get sick everytime i lose weight
@VigasArtRoom
@VigasArtRoom 2 ай бұрын
I found this literally by typing "fat funny friend" to see if anyone talked about feeling this way. Thank you for making this song.
@Blackbird9760
@Blackbird9760 Ай бұрын
As somone who is always been the biggest in their friend group their whole life, this hits so true. It's funny... cause you love & accept them. It's not their fault that they're all so small & skinny. You can't get bitter or be angry at them. Instead, you internalize it all. It turns into questioning your own worth, insecurity, & self hatred as to why you "can't be like them" or "good enough".
@megan8053
@megan8053 2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for making a song that makes so many feel less alone in their experiences.
@meghansuerdieck2760
@meghansuerdieck2760 2 жыл бұрын
This song speaks to 16 year old me and 30 year old me simultaneously. I feel heard and loved. I feel empowered to continue my journey.
@timothyknight228
@timothyknight228 4 ай бұрын
This song breaks my heart and helps heal trauma from going up. I was constantly ridiculed for my weight growing up especially by my parents. I am in my late thirties and still have a terrible relationship with my body and my weight. Thank you so much for being so open and showing the rest of the world that we are not alone.
@user-zf3od8jl3b
@user-zf3od8jl3b 3 ай бұрын
I feel this way so much and I couldn't find comfort but I found this and I cried for hours.
@marucarrillo2865
@marucarrillo2865 Жыл бұрын
Apart from having been the fat funny friend for the first 24 years of my life (I’m 25), I’ve also always used music as a coping mechanism and escape, and let me tell you: there are few to NO songs that cover this experience. I thank you from the bottom of my heart for putting this out into the world, it means everything to feel seen and understood.
@lia-tz8rc
@lia-tz8rc 3 ай бұрын
I am not fat but i am ugly asf , and at puberty time i really got disfigured bcz my breast is soo huge due to harmonal defects so people sexualise me and due to this i got into skinpicking ocd in the time where people do self care i harm my face its not just a habit sometimes my whole face becomes swollen and it bleeds from everywhere which has ruined my confidence and the cherry on the top i am not good in studies my mother makes me feel so fucking insecure my dream was always being to just learn music but due to financial crises i cant so i have to push myself in medical field currently preparing for med school entrances bcz this is the only way i can get some respect love you alll my girlies i am 18 years old and i have never ever hold someone hand so just a reminder try to love urself u r best 💓😘
@nazipherlailah3887
@nazipherlailah3887 Ай бұрын
Am so sorry that you feel that way and your not in position to see how unattractive you are because almost every normal person feels like they are not attractive but we always look more attractive to other people than we do to ourselves also having pimples ,acne and skin problems does not make you ugly , never lose your confidence and never let anyone make you feel less remember this is your life ,you are the main character in your story everyone else is an extra so dont let your story be a sad one try to focus in school and not do something you love in school be happy and I promise you ,your glow up is going to shake the world just hang in there and don't stress about it, stress trust me stress only makes your pretty face break out .... Sending you so much love from Uganda.
@diariodatriz1042
@diariodatriz1042 Жыл бұрын
This is the best song ever ! I cant stop hearing it since it came out. I identify so much with it.
@imanxious8215
@imanxious8215 2 жыл бұрын
This literally brings me to tears every time I listen. I've tried explaining these things to my friends and all i ever get in response is "omg me too" but they're thin and beautiful and fit all of the social beauty standards and I'm...... me. This song makes me feel seen. Thank you.
@offbanks
@offbanks 2 жыл бұрын
exactly. theyre always comparing each other saying that “theyre so fat” then theres me
@rajnirajani6259
@rajnirajani6259 2 жыл бұрын
So damn true
@dreamtv2710
@dreamtv2710 2 жыл бұрын
I know that this beautiful song does not relate to me at all, as I do not have this body type, but I cried when I heard it. I have plus-sized friends but I didn't understand this is how they truly feel. I love my friends and I truly think they are beautiful just the way they are, but after hearing this, I now realize that they have shown me signs of insecurity that I didn't really notice at the time. Now that I do know how they feel, I will try to be a much better friend and give them even more support than I have been doing by complimenting them regularly and just overall being more sensitive and observant to their mood, body language, and words. Thank you so much for this song. Really.
@RunnyBunnie
@RunnyBunnie Жыл бұрын
I relate to this because I have body dysmorphia lol
@Charlie_Rose39
@Charlie_Rose39 Жыл бұрын
I completely agree. I stumbled across this song after I caught my 17yr old daughter listening to it with tears in rolling down her face. She’s absolutely gorgeous inside and out, but, I’ve taken so many steps to speak to her about her self imagine, things she’d like to improve and anything I could do to make it easier on her. It’s been a few months since then, and I’ve also been very observant on her moods, making sure I double my compliments to her. Even when she’s just in her pajamas I’ll compliment how beautiful she looks and I can tell her self esteem has been getting better. I’ll never forget the way I felt when I walked in on her crying and listening to this, I giggled and asked, “what are you listening to” (she had her back turned to the door) and she turned and said, “Mom. You’d never understand” my heart literally skipped and beat, dropped and stopped all at the same time. Thank you for being a amazing human being and friend. Those girls are going to love you for life!
@user-fi7zr7dp8g
@user-fi7zr7dp8g Жыл бұрын
As a person who does relates to the song that's lovely what ur trying to do
@sudoku.addiction
@sudoku.addiction Жыл бұрын
I would like to be a friend with you 😭
@haleyelenabeauty2615
@haleyelenabeauty2615 Жыл бұрын
I wish my ex-friends and bullies would hear this song. They probably have.
@VictoriaTheodore
@VictoriaTheodore 9 ай бұрын
This really touches my heart. You're a beautiful writer, and though I don't know you, seem to be a beautiful human. Kudos and congratulations on your artistry!
@ChicagoGirlLillex
@ChicagoGirlLillex 3 ай бұрын
This song is so real. Everyone have flaws or insecurities that they’re scared to speak on. Thank you for being the voice.
@DeirdreMooMoo
@DeirdreMooMoo 2 жыл бұрын
Just finished the premiere. The amount of people in that chat who were personally touched, including myself, by this song is heartbreaking.Thank you, Maddie, for giving a voice to those teens and kids battling with themselves because of their surroundings, and those adults still trying to heal.
@garimapathak8459
@garimapathak8459 2 жыл бұрын
To the person reading this, You are you're life's protagonist. It doesn't matter what your size is or what the colour of your skin is, enjoy life the way you like it. I know it's easier said than done but don't let the people around you stop you from enjoying life. You matter more than you realize.
@belabananalouis
@belabananalouis 2 жыл бұрын
tysm my fellow directioner!!!
@noelani_hh
@noelani_hh 2 жыл бұрын
AHHHH DIRECTIONERSSSSS
@garimapathak8459
@garimapathak8459 2 жыл бұрын
AHHH WE'RE EVERYWHERE
@rinhashameer343
@rinhashameer343 2 жыл бұрын
There's always a directioners reunion in the comment section lol
@garimapathak8459
@garimapathak8459 2 жыл бұрын
@@rinhashameer343 IKRRR
@wiccanloverkris
@wiccanloverkris 3 ай бұрын
I just wow. I've been listening to this on repeat. Never had this feeling put into words so eloquently.
@chelseamiller6835
@chelseamiller6835 8 ай бұрын
The sharpie line ♥️ thank you for being so raw and so honest and for sharing your talent with us. I’m sure there are millions of people who feel a little less alone because of you. I know I do.
@aridaqueenisbetterthanu8295
@aridaqueenisbetterthanu8295 2 жыл бұрын
"Can't be too loud Can't be too busy If I don't answer now are they still gonna need me? Can't be too proud Can't think I'm pretty Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly?" These lyrics just hit too close to home!
@happy_thoughts.123
@happy_thoughts.123 Жыл бұрын
Same. The first time I heard those lines I started crying. My friends get mad when I say I’m ugly, and they tell me I’m pretty but what do opinions on you matter if you don’t feel the same way😞
@krystalmeyers5043
@krystalmeyers5043 Жыл бұрын
Girl, me too! This messed up world tells us that we are not good enough! THIS IS NOT TRUE we are perfect the way we are :)
@kyleejenkins843
@kyleejenkins843 2 жыл бұрын
oh my gosh!! i am literally crying. i am a 16 year old girl that has struggled with pcos (poly-cystic ovarian syndrome) for most of my life. this has led to being fat my whole life. i have literally heard guys sitting next to me rating the fat kids. they were talking about kids in awful ways saying how fat they were and the kids they were talking about were all skinnier than me. i can only imagine what they think of me. i mean i hate me so how couldn’t they. i feel like i’m not even worth anyones time. my face is full of acne and i’m wear masks bc i’m embarrassed to show my face. sometimes i feel like no one could love me. my family is amazing but they don’t understand me. i have tried going on diets but i end up not eating at all bc i’m ashamed of myself. what do i do. i have tried giving all my worries to god but i’m still struggling
@emilyga1581
@emilyga1581 2 жыл бұрын
Those guys are bullies, so please don't listen to them. You're beautiful no matter what your weight is. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that. There's a light at the end of the tunnel. People should and WILL love you for who you are.
@christinep4087
@christinep4087 2 жыл бұрын
hey! 19 year old here, also have pcos, diagnosed when i was 14. embrace it girlie! it gets difficult, its gets hard, it messes with your head. surround yourself with a solid group of friends and start loving yourself. the only tip i have to stay on top of PCOS is just staying healthy- its got nothing to do with visuals and frankly we shouldnt be worrying about visuals anyway. we will be loved and treated the way we deserve to be loved and treated. also, absolutely F those BOYS (emphasis on BOYS, who gives a shit what they think and how sad they are in themselves to think of people so lowly) I'm nearly 20, i can look back and see that little me at 16 years old should have embraced those last few years of teenagehood --> they shape how you are now, so make sure you make them the best for yourself. Dont be shy to reach out if you need help. Cheers :)
@leahroberts1677
@leahroberts1677 2 жыл бұрын
I relate so much to your comment. I’ve never heard anyone say anything about my weight at school, but by the way they talk about other fat people around me, I’m naive to think they don’t talk about me too. I’m a Christian and even though I know who I am in Christ and who he says I am, I always end up in the same cycle of worry and insecurity. It’s a battle and I’m so grateful that God uses these things to make us stronger but sometimes it’s hard to see that. Sending you love and prayers!♥️
@roaxxane8629
@roaxxane8629 2 жыл бұрын
I relate to you too cuz i hv been diagnosed with pcos.. N its just so easy for people to say " Y don't u lose weight ".. It breaks my heart cuz its not that easy to lose weight with pcos
@caseygholson5133
@caseygholson5133 2 жыл бұрын
@@leahroberts1677 I relate to you and her comment as well. I'm a believer in christ and I find it so hard to try to love myself as I am when God says in the Bible. I get judged and bullied at school for my size. I'm 13 years old, deaf in one ear, mild autism and growth disorder and I can relate to this song on many levels. I have gone through so much and it makes me happy and sad. I now go to the gym 2 times a week to try to prove myself but I'm always going to feel different, always
@Theviolentredpanda
@Theviolentredpanda 3 ай бұрын
There was this group of girls that were older, skinnier, smarter, and prettier than me in my freshman year of highschool. I wanted so desperately to fit in, I sucked in my stomach, I spent money on makeup and nice baggy clothes to hide my body, and I changed my whole personality. And they were sweet, but I could tell that I wasn't a part of the group, I was just there sometimes. "Do they keep me around so their flaws just seem silly?" resonates way too hard. Beautiful song ❤️
@Mrzero2904
@Mrzero2904 9 күн бұрын
I really needed this. I've been struggling with overweight due to an hormonal disease and I've always been the ol' friendly fat nerd. I can't even eat in public because I'm too embarrassed to do so, even if I go to the gym. Thanks for making this, I really needed. It's cause of songs like this that I keep waking up every morning and doing exercise and diets
@lambsauce8937
@lambsauce8937 8 күн бұрын
keep it up ❤ i lost 16kg so far and let me tell you life is so worth living after 🎉
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