I spent 2 years Dating in Mexico and this is what happened…

[@MaddieGold]

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[@Andy_puglife]

@MaddieGold I'll go out with you because my sign is cancer so you can check that box ;)

[@normafrade1851]

Hello, Maddie! I just want to mention that I wish I had your knowledge; when I was younger. I love your videos because they are informative and engaging. Lots of luck to you! By the way my daughter is your same age. 💕🙏💕!

[@rasher331]

I live in Ireland all my life and I have the same problems here. Its great to see you being honest about your experiences, a lot of women would be afraid to admit everything you've experienced but the truth is its the same in every country in the world. I think thats why so many couples who meet their first love tend to stay together as its better the devil you know.

[@nicknicholas3186]

Your best video since Jordan, imo.

[@dr.josefudeyama64]

You're so attached to finding a person....much suffering

[@erickmuller]

I love how thorough you were. This is almost like a peer-reviewed video essay about women dating in Mexico. As a Mexican-American man who is dating in Mexico, this has opened my eyes a bit, and will definitely change how I will present or behave myself in my dates.

[@dankelly5150]

I wonder how she feels about 62 year olds? 🤢😜🤣

[@digitalgypsy21]

Please tell the others!!! :)

[@mirandalynn7108]

Can we take a minute to appreciate the pie charts 😁 Great video!

[@stuart_oneill]

Agreed!!!! LOL. Only our MaddieGold.

[@peterwieser4631]

First I half laughed/ half scoffed then appreciated, then learned !

[@retniretep9477]

it's the difference between a 9 out of 10 and a 10 out of 10 video.

[@higherlove1111]

@@retniretep9477 i’m not sure what nine out of 10 versus 10 of 10 means but I’m going to assume that it’s positive and give you a thumbs up! Lol

[@stormtrooper346]

Miranda, I have to agree about the pie charts! They were amazing! On a sidenote… Was I the only one that found myself craving pie after watching Maddie’s video? I went to Costco this morning and picked up one of their giant pumpkin pies. All because Maddie had to use pie charts in her Video! Lol

[@micheleg3040]

Dating in the US sucks too. Lol. We can’t win. And I swear I’m never getting on an app ever again. If I don’t meet someone in the “wild” then it’s not happening. We all need to go back speaking to people again and not swiping for the next option. I hate the instant replacement and throw away society we have become. Sigh… 😩

[@MaddieGold]

Agreeeed

[@valve6642]

Exactly. Damn, pie charts and graphs to DATE? Yeah, I'm O.L.D. 🤣🤣🤣

[@davidaschwanden2094]

Well said. Trying to find 'the love of your life's on a dating app just doesn't seem to make sense to me. I'm sure there are a few who find someone, but keep in mind anyone on a dating site is talking to several other people they want to date. Imagine meeting someone in real life and asking if they're single and their response was "Yes I'm single and currently pursuing 8 other people I'm interested in dating. So would you like to go out now?" Obviously most people would run away, quickly. As they should. But for some reason they are willing to accept it from people on dating sites. I just don't get it. Seems like that's just a recipe for disappointment. I'm just grateful nothing bad has happened to this girl. What she's doing with all the crazy stuff going on in the world today sure seems awfully risky. I certainly hope she finds what she's looking for. I just think there's better ways of doing it than via internet searching.

[@MaddieGold]

​@@valve6642 I wouldn't have made these if I didn't make a video about it lol. I thought it added to the presentation of my experiences

[@proconsumersafety]

I agree with you 100%. I just like to be myself and even then, it often does not matter because the person you are on a date with, usually is not always open and being themselves. I just give up, and instead, I do activities I enjoy, and if I meet someone that way that is fine.

[@reallyaprilstarr]

MADDIE. as a behavioral scientist, this video makes me SOOOOO happy. As a relational therapist, even MORE happy! John also loves you and is a research scientist. I know he’s going to eat this data up. This is top tier KZbin content from a data perspective. Keep it up, lady! When we women are focused on our own missions, watch out!

[@reallyaprilstarr]

Also… you can tell someone is out for your money in the first date… YIKES. So weird. Your standards are high and they absolutely should be. There are so many man children. Sooooo many. Even ones who think they aren’t. But you can find someone. 👊

[@stormtrooper346]

Sorry April (and John if that’s your real name) I don’t think so… I totally disagree and I’m going to sit here and pout and if necessary throw a temper tantrum. If that doesn’t work, then I will try belittling you. And of course if necessary, I will pull out all the stops and gaslight you if you don’t change your mind and agree with me that my daughter Maddie is absolutely amazing! Do it! Say it now! She’s amazing isn’t she! Lol

[@paulyeatman303]

I agree with you. I am not a big Maddie fan, but this presentation was really quite something. I'm a 77 year-old, extremely happily married guy, & we've lived in Latin America 15 years. This was a just a refreshing and complete review of her dating experiences. I see a sociological term paper here or dissertation.

[@georgejetson9801]

Agree. I totally geeked out on the charts, graphs, and data as a data scientist.

[@georgejetson9801]

@@stormtrooper346 Concur. My expert analysis says she is absolutely amazing.

[@marrlena947]

Great video Maddie! I'm American living abroad in Europe now. I've dated in France, Spain and the USA. It's all the same, exactly as you describe it. I finally got off of the apps. It's too easy to meet unpleasant men who seem to have no sense of humanity or respect. I prefer meeting guys in real life, in the wild lol. It's much much better. Not as many dates but the dynamic is completely different. I swear I think all men see all women on dating apps as being 'loose'. I know that's not true for 100% but it's true for most. Btw, I have enjoyed my own company a lot more and no longer look for my 'media naranja'. I didn't realize how much I have to offer myself. Like you, I don't want kids and very happy with that choice. The single life is unfairly portrayed as lonely. Not true. It's bliss if you've been stuck in a bad relationship. I'm not ready to give up my bliss too easily now. Have fun, don't get into cars with guys you don't know, love yourself more than anyone else and be proud of all you are. You're Golden!

[@tootstoyou1]

Beautiful. In total agreement

[@donnamichel992]

Sounds like you would be a good partner for a older man with traditional values . Most younger men want to have kids . Find a guy who already has grown kids and is young at heart to keep up with you. Good luck.

[@alanespaguetiis2460]

Ye sure, and girls are always kind and generous lol, 99% of girls in Dating apps are looking just for someone to pay for their dinner, or IG followers, or recently just OF subs lol, it's very hard to find a woman who's genuinely interested in dating and getting to know someone, just facts 👌

[@ElizRued]

Anywhere dating with the friend of a friend or person you meet at a hobbies or school is best.

[@alanacollins5685]

As an older single woman than you are I want to say that I am kind of enjoying the differences between Canadian and Mexican men. We shall see how it it goes but I’m a pretty smart cookie like you. And a libra 😀 I have to say that I am going to miss knowing that you’re here in Mexico. I draw strength from knowing you are here and navigating these tricky pathways. I wish you so much love and continued success! You are a wonderful human and I only wish the very best for you! I will continue to watch your life unfold ❤

[@jimdolen225]

Fantastic broadcast Maddie, I am sure it will be very helpful to many people. Mexico won't be the same without you kiddo!

[@eve5724]

Love how you approach your dating scenario when it comes to being a youtuber. You leave it behind the scenes, not forcing it or trying to show off *cough likesomeotherpeople cough*, and when your audience shows interest, you create these gems! ❤ Hope your happy and healthy Maddie!

[@dodgechargerrt1873]

Don't cough too much, you might end up like the person you are inspiring to be like. Atleast the other person is in a real relationship and handling their real business. Atleast the other person did not have to pimp him/themself out on hook up apps!!!

[@exmachina767]

@@dodgechargerrt1873 oh cut the crap and gossip, you act as if you knew them personally and could judge them perfectly

[@eve5724]

​@dodgechargerrt1873 that is one sad dig bud👏keep trying

[@Bnicole912]

​@dodgechargerrt1873 your disgusting side is showing. Stop.

[@higherlove1111]

Eve, I love your cough! You cough as often as you want. Lol. Great observation. What is troll dodge charger doing on this channel anyway? Go back under your bridge dodge charger!

[@robinredondo9427]

Dating across cultures is extremely difficult. The cultural gulf between Mexico and the USA is surprisingly deep….

[@dianaj3139]

True Story!! :)

[@TravelAlwaysOfficial]

Mexican men DON'T impress me. Been in a relationship with one person in the two years that I've lived in Yucatan and he isn't Mexican. My impression of/experience with going on dates with Mexican men- at least Yucatecos- is that they want to be treated like a lady, too sensitive, lie a lot, tight with money, etc. Uggh!

[@BlueStar-sg8jk]

I'm a Mexican, and I approve this message.

[@MonkeyChenchaTheExoticPe-rw4kw]

HAHAHA, so do I.

[@benglez]

Puras verdades😂 👍

[@BlueStar-sg8jk]

@@benglez Acuerdate lo que dijo Juan Gabriel, "Te pareces tanto a mi, que no puedes engañarme." Saludos.

[@sylviaswiderski5133]

Eres mujer o hombre?

[@BlueStar-sg8jk]

@@sylviaswiderski5133 Gènero masculino, a tus ordenes.

[@cindyk3076]

Holy cow, I had no idea that you dealt with all of that. It's nice that you explained your experiences so that other women will be aware of what to look out for. Great video!

[@williamwarren4761]

Dealt with WHAT?

[@michellel.6001]

Maddie what a quality video you made here. Your openness and candor are refreshing while at the same time emphasizing that this is your unique perspective and opinion based on your dating adventures. I also commend you for waiting after the fact to give everyone the scoop on what was going on behind the scenes. That shows an intelligent restraint on your part.

[@blancamacias5010]

In my opinion, I think that focusing in your health and priorities comes first. Sometimes dating can be very stressful.

[@ajh.4131]

I was exhausted just listening to Maddie’s experiences 😮‍💨

[@lowell62]

Me too!@@ajh.4131

[@AmericanDrainWorks]

dating sucks

[@TravelAlwaysOfficial]

I immediately remove people who are toxic from my life! Dating or otherwise. If you are stressful for me you won't be coming around anymore as soon as I notice a pattern in one or two visits/hanging out.

[@anahi-fireoftheforest]

Agreed! Stay away from people who have lingering business with their exes.

[@TravelAlwaysOfficial]

Agree.

[@michaelmclaughlin1958]

Dating is ALWAYS difficult, at any age. I was widowed in my late 60’s (married ~45 years), and found it very difficult to find a compatible woman. Money was usually an issue and of course lying on dating profiles too. I empathize with you and wish you the best fortune. I’ve been told that the prepared foods aisle in the supermarket is a great place to find eligible singles!

[@redrock740]

OMG, the prepared food aisle lol! I had no idea there was a specific isle. I would have assumed it was the baking isle, with the flour, sugar, spices. Men would seek out the ladies who love to bake at home.

[@floatingmoon5778]

Same issue, different gender! Men seem to want an instant maid/housekeeper\sex partner, but I have met other women in our age group who are looking for a “sugar daddy”. Good grief! There must be a way to find compatible partners who actually want personal, thoughtful interactions, and I am not talking about agreeing on every topic, either! To quote Bono, “I still haven’t found what I’m looking for”, but I am still hopeful. Maddie is a very mature person, and her observations are valid for both genders and all ages, IMO. Best wishes!

[@dvtco.2545]

@@floatingmoon5778 well said.

[@michaelmclaughlin1958]

@@floatingmoon5778 I’m not looking for a house keeper/maid, I’ve got regular maid service and other help as needed. I want a companion to travel with, someone who I can have a conversation with, someone who loves partner dancing, and naturally someone who is still sexually active. Lastly who is attracted to me. Still looking. Still hopeful.

[@suzieb2968]

While I know this doesn't apply to EVERY man - the infidelity (and not being sneaky about it either) is something I saw often - very mind blowing and disheartening! On a side note - Maddie you are truly glowing these days!

[@AmandaMcGee]

Girl!!!! 😭 I have been with my mexican boyfriend for over 2 years and I have never felt so understood!!!! Thank you for making this video ❤ So excited for you and your new adventure!

[@MaddieGold]

Aww this makes me so happy 🥹 It's nice to know we're not alone in these things!

[@dorisparker811]

Maybe Maddie is helping you take a decisive step back from your relationship. Her information is empowering to women everywhere.

[@AmandaMcGee]

@@dorisparker811 I definitely agree that the information is empowering to women! And maybe I was a bit dramatic with the crying face.. lol My relationship is actually very happy and healthy.. it's just that I have my own perspective of things being a foreigner and Maddie really put them into words perfectly! Thank you for your kind and supportive words, though!! Abrazos from Oaxaca.

[@AmandaMcGee]

Update: broke up with my partner of 2.5 years 😞 Maddie, can you get ahold of Heidi (formerly of country collectors) and us 3 can all meet up for a single ladies new years celebration?? 😂 she knows how to contact me lol lol Hugs from Oaxaca ❤🎉

[@abearias3575]

Your honesty is commendable. So many people put on masks on dates to pretend to be someone that they are not. Unfortunately, once that mask comes off you may have begun to believe this could be the beginning of a good relationship. Once that happens, you kind of lose interest in dating. I have always enjoyed your videos because of your honesty which makes you who you are, a lovely woman. I am glad I had the pleasure to have met you in Ajijic. I was the older gentleman who stopped you and your friend at the plaza in Ajijic. I had asked you about a possible scam on your KZbin channel. I had gotten a notification that a comment I had made on one of your videos was selected and I could receive an Xbox or some sort of prize. You told right away that it was a scam and do not reply to it. I thank you for that. I hope you find someone that will make you happy in life and appreciates that he has someone as special as you.

[@joycemeyers8169]

Great job describing dating. I must say I like your show with you alone. You have come alive in new ways!

[@marciestoddard730]

Yea and her ex channel is all about being a passport bro now😅

[@janeenharrison1953]

I love how you picked up on the red flags with 0 no tolerance policy! You go, girl!! I can imagine all the toxic/scary relationships you have avoided just on that!

[@dinaflores]

Dated my husband who is Mexican from Michoacán for 4 years and have been married for 40 more 😊. He isn’t anything like the typical machismo Mexican man. He is kind and loving and very nurturing. I had a high profile job and he was always in support of my career. So there are great men out there in every culture and country. Unfortunately you have to kiss a lot of frogs before you find the extra special one. Good luck and you look amazing in your video. You have a wonderful glow about you since you’ve made the announcement of moving back to AZ. Just remember it doesn’t have to be forever and it’s a big world out there. We’ve traveled to 40 countries and can’t wait to travel to many more. Enjoy the journey of travel and discovery.

[@guillermogouldburn763]

The frog does not want to be kissed by anything other than another frog 😂

[@loriquintana4333]

I'm an older women and have been watching your videos for awhile. You are so smart in what you are looking for. I wish I had been that way when I was younger. I so hope you find what you are looking for.

[@dvanmartin9842]

Maddie, you are giving a wealth of valuable advice to a lot of young women. Thank you.

[@andiman45]

and older men..

[@Chayor2ily]

@@andiman45o😊

[@rudys.5503]

​​​@@andiman45nope, she is a woman talking about dating in a foreign county. Nobody gives a crap about men dating stories. Besides men and women live dating experiences differently, so is not the same.

[@carolmartin4413]

Kind of sad that dating is so difficult today. I do believe lack of physical face-to-face time due to social media emphasis is a big part of the problem. Alternately...when you're in your 70's the problem becomes people period...we've lost friends by death and dementia and that sucks. So...life is a challenge...things change. We all want that special person who gives us that stability over time. It's just rougher today. Good conversation, Maddie.

[@HemelrickScience]

Maddie, you are forgetting that beyond culture there is also level of education and other factors which play a crucial role here...NOT just meeting romantically (dating?) ...but ...is the person on the same level of education or even a level of affinity as you are? Finding individuals who have a common ground can help you bypass culture alone and get into the true realm of romantic relationships...Greetings from Atlanta, GA!

[@MissRavenBlack]

So in other words, dating is crazy everywhere 🤣 Thanks for this helpful video!

[@MaddieGold]

Seems like it lol...just different flavors of crazy depending on the country

[@encoreimages]

my 2 cents - dating can't be forced. The right person will come along when you least expect it and definately not when you're looking for it.

[@JakeStewart1343]

I tried forcing myself not to fall in love with an American, but you know what they say. What you resist will persist! 😂

[@cesarams0292]

JAJAJA ON POINT!! Great video, yo soy de Querétaro y puedo confirmar todo esto, Maddie, keep it up!

[@soul2soul399]

Guys still being attached to their ex… that’s been my experience with the men I’ve dated too. I think the problem is that a lot of men can’t be alone so they try to find another partner right away before they have healed from their previous relationships.

[@MaddieGold]

Excellent observation! I'm inclined to agree

[@peachteatina]

@soul2soul399 This!!! 100%!

[@TheSuperRol]

Nah, nah... women do this too. Monkey branching!

[@soul2soul399]

@@TheSuperRol true… this isn’t only something men do.

[@LMDinNC]

They also treat dates like therapy sessions, rather than going to actual therapy.

[@KineticCode]

Hey Maddie, I married a mexican lady (and got divorced). The acting like a child thing can happen both ways. When we moved in together she felt insulted that she had to help out or work or do anything honestly. So I had to pick that all up while working to support us and that definitely weighed heavy. It wasn't a relationship where she viewed me as a big money american either, she just lived her whole life with her parents doing this stuff for her. And she cheated as well, but I agree with you that the machismo stuff feels more common.

[@somethingclever2]

Mexican man don't mke their women work . And that's why I want one as a white American.

[@las174]

that's very interesting

[@ltdodgen]

Yes, many little girls are spoiled and indulged, often by daddy and they turn out that way.

[@oopsdididothat7727]

Two sides to every story 🪙

[@aocg1914]

Hello.. Where do you find these people? xD Thats not an adult, thats a child, i could not see myself with someone like that..

[@charlenerumph1782]

You really broke it down!! Loved this video.

[@G13542]

You hit the nail on the head with this, great video, super well done! And yeah, in Mexican culture it's not uncommon for exes to stay in contact and be friendly with each other or even each other's families post-dating. This can definitely seem weird to people from other cultures where it's more customary to cut all ties off after a breakup 😅 like, my aunt by marriage divorced my uncle, and when she started dating an American man, he was like... why are your ex in laws always around?? He thought it was so weird. He eventually realized that it didnt point to any lingering romance between her and my uncle, we just are always going to be family, and now he's also considered part of the familia ☺️

[@thedevilandhertrumpets4268]

This is a good point. I’m not sure I’ll ever be okay with lingering exes, but I appreciate hearing different perspectives.

[@trevorcorpus8720]

After reaching the end of this video I feel like a strong, independent and empowered woman lmao 🎉 love this

[@pabloareas2258]

Dating in Canada or in the US using dating apps is way worst! People are just on a different level here!

[@pinetworkminer8377]

Are you saying Mexicans don't use dating apps as much as the North Americans?

[@lmitch0430]

@@pinetworkminer8377 🤣

[@tootstoyou1]

@@pinetworkminer8377I live in Mexico and my guess would be …. no

[@aocg1914]

​@@pinetworkminer8377As a mexican, living in a similar place as her, only d u mb people think is a good udea using dating apps..

[@TravelAlwaysOfficial]

That's not true. The quality of men in America is incomparably better. There is nothing to see in Mexico.

[@Betty-my3tw]

17 guys? Wow, that sounds EXHAUSTING!

[@ajh.4131]

My thoughts exactly 😂

[@Hemppie]

You're so awesome Maddie and thanks for always posting!! Keep up the great work!

[@MaddieGold]

Thanks for watching!

[@55CINCO55]

Made pie charts and everything 😂😂😂 You're awesome!

[@MaddieGold]

couldn't resist lol

[@stormtrooper346]

@@MaddieGold Gets her pie chart genes from her dad!

[@wendishaver9520]

I love these new videos! These are so much better than the TT videos -your personality shines. Also, I am thinking about leaving Mexico after being here almost 2 years. Your videos are helping me make that decision in an informative way.

[@stormtrooper346]

Wendi… Maddie’s videos ARE so much better than that “other” channel! and Maddie’s pie charts are to die for! Lol I’m pretty sure she will let you know that her attention to detail comes from her father! Lol Safe travels, if and when you make that decision to go back to the US. Maybe you should move to Phoenix Arizona. Then you could come and visit Maddie and me. I love Maddie followers! They are the best people on earth! ❤

[@peke1822]

I also like her videos more, they're highest quality video, the other channel started to get somewhat cheaply made, even the miniatures look cheap

[@fredbeagle307]

Thanks for sharing so openly. That's not easy to do. When you least expect it, Mr. right will come along .You deserve the best life has to offer.

[@AzDesertFoxx]

Oh girl, I'm from Arizona of Mexican descent, and was born and raised where there are 3 military bases, so a lot of people from all over the country. I had been told I'm "so exotic" more times than I can count. I take it to mean "not white", so you got the opposite.

[@nicknicholas3186]

Since when is Mexican a race..?

[@AzDesertFoxx]

@@nicknicholas3186 did I say it was? That's a dumb question.

[@nicknicholas3186]

@@AzDesertFoxx what does "not white" mean?

[@AzDesertFoxx]

@nicknicholas3186 exactly what it says.

[@lactusgalacto1174]

@@nicknicholas3186 Their is no Mexican race. people are so ignorant when they said that coming out their mouth.

[@susansharp112]

I think the idea that you do not want children is an attractive thing for guys who think you would just be open to sex right away leaving them free of responsibilities for a long term relationship. Especially in a very family oriented culture like Mexican culture.

[@MaddieGold]

That’s possible! Fortunately (or unfortunately for them) I’m good at weeding out sex-seekers early

[@mtngrl5859]

Great video on the dating scene in Mexico. Seems like you used some good common sense to avoid problematic people, in today's world, one can't be too careful. My only cautionary comment is that I would avoid activity dates until one has a really established relationship. There's a channel about Narcissism and the creator is HG Tudor, worth a look at. He advises women not to go online for any dating sites, he says that's where Narcissists go for their next victims. Some of the conduct of the men that you dated are on the Narcissist spectrum. Obviously, its best to meet people organically or thru personal friends.

[@stormtrooper346]

OMG… “On the narcissist spectrum”! I love that! What a kind way of saying they are dirtbags!

[@GrannyLinn]

True, but I met my narcissistic (diagnosed) first husband in church. I never used a dating app and now I stay away from church. 🤷‍♀️

[@mtngrl5859]

@@stormtrooper346 Hey Stormtrooper, thanks for your comment! While I studied Psych in college, I use spectrum, since without a formal evaluation one doesn't know for sure. But manipulative behavior, trying to get intimate too quickly, love bombing one with words like "soul mate", I feel like I've know you forever, or trying to move in right away are big indications. Maddie seems pretty careful & uses good judgement. Awareness is really key, most malignant Narcs move on & find easier prey. Btw, when you Maddie let her know some trips in Az (forgot to post on her community page) that I think would be great travel videos. Since you have a place in Flagstaff, the drive from there to Sedona by Oak Creek ( I believe that's the name) is really beautiful. Sedona can be unique & love Jerome, old mining town. Also, Bisbee & Tombstone are fun to visit too. When the cactus are blooming, its lovely. I love ghost towns but that might be too niche. Best of luck on your operation!

[@mtngrl5859]

@@GrannyLinn Narcissists are an expanding part of the population. It's estimated that about 15% of the US pop has that syndrome. So, even if you go cold turkey on relationships one will likely encounter them either in a work associate, boss, or unfortunately a family member. In the past Narcissism was less than 5% of the population, but with the advent of social media it has become pronounced. The case of Amber Heard & Johnny Depp was classic. Amber's Dad abused her mother & was a Narc himself, so she had a genetic component which is common with Narcissism. Then JD was her perfect target, he was abused by his own mother, so there was this love/abuse cycle he was born into. There are countless other examples. While I wouldn't avoid church per se, one has to be very selective who they let into their lives. Once one sees certain behaviors, cut off the relationship quickly and have no contact. While I studied Psychology in College, I'm not a therapist. I'm a real estate agent & my training in psychology prepared me for many of my clients. I've had a number of clients over the years who have some level of personality disorders. For those struggling with a Narcissist, I recommend HG Tudor's site, frankly I learned more on that channel than in my college major.

[@stormtrooper346]

Mountain girl… I will pass along that information to Maddie. Is it too soon in our relationship for me to tell you that I love you! Lol.

[@Alice-xy3fi]

I lived in Mexico years ago, so this may no longer apply, but at the time, I dated extensively, and found that those guys who wanted to lock a woman down right away had no intention of being themselves locked down. And not only that, but they didn't seem to feel that this was anything other than normal-- just the way men are. The same goes for the lying. I never did figure out whether it was a cultural thing, but the Mexican guys I knew seemed to feel that lying was just to be expected (at least from men), and seemed not to have the moral judgment about lying that I, and I'm thinking most people from the U.S., grow up with, whether they adhere to the morality themselves or not. It seemed there was just nothing shameful, to the men I knew, about getting caught in a lie, and they didn't seem to comprehend why I would find it upsetting to discover I'd been lied to, whether about something I'd consider relatively minor, or about something I saw as a big deal. When I returned to the U.S. and had been back for a while, I had a long-term relationship with a man who'd long lived in the U.S., but had grown up in Mexico...and I encountered one of the two things in him: he was wanting to lock things down right away, but he was faithful. However, I discovered only after living together for several years that he'd been lying his face off about all kinds of things, from stories about events in his past, to having created an entire fictional past life that he told everyone he knew, and that everyone believed. He'd even asked me to marry him, pointing out the beautiful (and very expensive) house we'd move into, which I later realized he could no way have ever afforded (and he always insisted on paying for everything-- it was a matter of pleasure and pride for him to pay, and buy me things-- so it wasn't a situation in which he was thinking I'd pay for the house. The lying seemed to me, though on a grander scale, much the same as what I'd seen from men when I was in Mexico, when I wondered what the point was, or why they would tell iies they were bound to get caught in. It felt like they were totally in the moment, with no forethought about consequences, including the possibility of getting caught. But then again, when they did get caught, it seemed to me they saw it as no big deal, let alone something to be ashamed of or embarrassed about, so if my perceptions about this were accurate, maybe they felt no need to think about consequences, because they saw no reason for there to be any.

[@nji7772]

YES! YES! ❤ Sorry to add, he was probably not faithful! The "lock down", in my experience was about CONTROL, not concern and protection.My case, he was everythig he presented. After the first year, it became different literalky overnight. After four years, I had had enough and I "believe" he is a very malignant "shy" narcisst/socii who couldn't fool me. Yo soy una mujuer real. No me gusta ganas de amor "mandingo". Caras falsos. Feo!

[@Peggy-Kay]

Thanks for this honest and interesting video. And thank you for explaining what certain words etc meant in a thoughtful not condescending way. I didn’t know about a lot of these terms and dating apps since I have been married for so long. You have such a down to earth and calming vibe.

[@GigioRmz]

Wow, Maddie really emphasizes the importance of being prepared! Right from the moment I saw the graphics, I knew this was going to be a serious endeavor. Thank you for sharing your thoughts on the dating scene. It's interesting how we occasionally overlook the fact that KZbinrs have lives beyond social media. Great job!

[@scarleyxo]

Wow Maddie this was so interesting!!! I love your attention to detail! (I’m an analytics nerd so I love the graphs lol) So excited to see what happens next for you 😊 xoxo

[@truthmatters4520]

Thank you for sharing. I'm glad I'm 51, and done with dating and men in general. My dearly departed mom always said," if your lonely, get a dog!"😆😉

[@oopsdididothat7727]

Tough for women over 40+ wish you well

[@truthmatters4520]

@@oopsdididothat7727 There's nothing tough about it. It's great being single...😊

[@truthmatters4520]

@@desserteyes6978 I got no reason to lie, and no one I have to lie to....✌ Being single is the BEST☺️😊😎

[@RubbingPotatoes]

​@@truthmatters4520start a channel and talk about a day in the life for a single woman in her 50s. Could be interesting content

[@MShields1234]

Very interesting cultural observations! There have been numerous, recent YT videos by some women who, after many frustrating dates and relationships, shared their decision not to continue to date at all anymore. Some call it "Single by Choice" or Decentering Men". These women put their personal growth and development at the top of their priority list and have stopped spending their time and energy in pursuit of the "happily ever after" fantasy. That approach seems to have given them a much more balanced, peaceful, and happier life. They are off the dating treadmill for good and making the most of who they can be, without all the relationship drama.

[@thedevilandhertrumpets4268]

I exited the market three years ago. I have been much more peaceful and started my own business. Overall, life is much better. The hard parts are of course loneliness, and finding friends who aren’t complaining constantly about their relationships.

[@user-cv2ll1dn9l]

yeah there are the voluntary incel/femcel movements, mtgow for men and whatever the womens version is, but this is about dating across cultures and the difficulties therein. lol.

[@fleetwoodm5292]

Much respect and appreciation for your candor and honesty. Hang on! Patience is when you feel you obsoletely cannot be patient any more and then you are. ❤

[@DogWalkerBill]

Exclusivity: I follow people from the Philippines. It is common for a foreign man to date a Filipina two or three times and she starts asking, "When will we get married?" Worst is if she invites the foreigner man home to meet her parents. It's just expected this is a prelude to an engagement (at least!)

[@stormtrooper346]

Billy, do you watch the Filipina Pea? If not, check her out on KZbin. She’s well spoken and fun to watch. I have a long time friend, who married a Filipino woman about 25 years ago. I want to say there was a 32 year age gap. I didn’t think it would last, but they were happily married, and together until she died recently of cancer. For all these years, he’s tried to get me to consider marrying a younger Filipino women. It’s never going to happen, but I did look into the Philippines and found the Filipina Peas channel. It was so informative that I feel like I know the country now. I thought Maddie and the Filipina Pea should do a collaboration video.

[@TravelAlwaysOfficial]

🤣

[@MomonaJourney]

I was called a feminist because I said I would probably not let my partner choose my wardrobe. At that point a realized that most guys I had dated for more than a date had described what they wanted me to wear and lightly put down my outfit if it wasn't to their liking... specially if we would be seeing his friends. " You look so much prettier and softer in white"... therefore every time I wore black there would be comments about me changing. My age bracket was much higher than yours though, I am 45, so that is probably the difference. thank you so much for sharing... much awaited video

[@gsdvii7177]

Some might take that to mean you sabotage potential relationships. Some. Might.

[@MomonaJourney]

@@gsdvii7177 and in these cases they would probably be right because we would just not fit well in each other’s lives… I would not be the right person for them.

[@MaddieGold]

And some might be coo-coo for Cocoa Puffs then if not letting a man control what a woman wears means she’s sabotaging the relationship 🤷‍♀️

[@stormtrooper346]

Mom on a journey… You go, girl! Don’t let anyone in life, including KZbin comments, make you second guess or change who you are. You be you girl! You are a princess and don’t you forget it! Maddie’s dad!

[@mwiebe2663]

I ask my husband’s opinion for how something looks on me basically because he has a good “eye” if something suits me or not. But that’s very different from having him control or choose what I wear. That’s 100% mine. And I find he’s as complementary if I have a party dress on as if I’m in my “let’s paint the living room or lay some ceramic tile” clothes. 😂

[@lauras627]

Hey Maddie! Great video. Love the stats used to explain your experiences. I’m watching from Texas. Can’t wait for the next chapter in US. Glad you know your worth and continuing to find the prince amongst 🐸

[@Busybeeee]

Excellent video Maddie! Very intelligent, Very well thought out and very factual. It’s hard to believe what you’ve been through. I’ve only had a few dates in Mexico and quickly got discouraged because they didn’t turn out well. You should write a book about it.😊

[@Stephan2P]

For the past few years, have been going to Mexico every 2 months in search of a semi-retirement haven. Have been meeting Mexican women along the way. Must say that I am surprised. The one I'm talking to now has her own business, is independent, and pays her own way. She gets uncomfortable when I offer to pay. She's not the materialistic shopping type who always likes to splurge. Very hard working and makes time to enjoy life experiences as well. Good girl I must say. So far, have had a positive experience dating in Mexico.

[@CourtneyMcFate]

Girl, lemme let ya in on a secret. I’m over 45. The best time in my life is being single. Been single for yeeears. Why? Cuz I can be and want to be. I make my own money. I do my own thing. No one to answer to. It’s me living my best life. Do I get some now and then? Sure. Do I invite to spend the night & cook it breakfast in the morning? Absolutely not. 😂 You’re young, beautiful, and smart. Don’t think that you have to settle for anything less than you absolutely deserve. And for me? Well let’s just say I haven’t met anyone I think is worth it. 🤷🏻‍♀️ But I’m not looking either. You do you, boo. Live your best life & if someone can keep up with you, then maybe give ‘em a chance. Until then, keep exploring this big world we have! ❤ Hopefully, I’ll see ya out there!

[@user-pm4ef8yu7w]

💯

[@JohnnieV]

I approve this comment.

[@ixchel777]

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 NIV Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up. Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm. But how can one keep warm alone? Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken

[@Dee-im7zd]

When God sets you free….STAY FREE!!! I’ve been Single for 30 years and it’s been absolutely freakin wonderful!!!!! I don’t do marriage well at all! I love my independence and can love me better than any man can! No drama. No someone’s baggage to carry! And I love my own tv remote control! 😆

[@AmericanDrainWorks]

so agree....you go where you want to go, decorate what you want, dress, or not dress. you can be yourself....don't have to answer anyone....i have two dogs and they give me all unconditional love i want and need, no matter what! and that beats dating any day of the week.

[@mithzynelson1080]

This is amazing 👏🏽👏🏽 sooo organized I love all the pie charts! 😂

[@j.alvarez7680]

I love how you transitioned from the other channel you had to this one and you have created an audience. Dating is not easy, Thank you for the video. It definitely brings important points. Good job! ..on another hand. I reach out to you once you are in AZ. Saludos!

[@christiang38]

Well Maddie I congratulate you on everything you’ve done on your time living in Mexico. Can imagine dating in Mexico was big challenge. Thank you on all continent you put out.

[@las174]

I think this video is very informative for a lot of people! You rock Maddie, you are so articulate and smart. It's also useful information for anyone dating in their own culture, these are all issues that can come up in one way or another. Dating is hard work!

[@viewbythesea2933]

Such a refreshing honest take on a realistic dating experience through a cultural difference lens. I really enjoyed it!

[@ronaldoago-go5907]

Thanks for the great TED talk Maddie! I didnt watch this vid right away as I assumed it would be 'not for me' But as usual you charmed me into watching the whole dang thing. Good luck and all. Oh, BTW-you look GREAT!

[@goodenergi]

This is the type of data I lovvveee 🤣🤣 great video!

[@MaddieGold]

Thanks girl!

[@misssunshine8469]

I think your experiences are relatable to alot of women all over the world (the good and the bad) especially the mom replacement and the guys who are commitment phobic or hung up on an ex. I think your doing great by recognizing early warning signs and other things that just aren't for you... you'll eventually find the right one😀

[@retniretep9477]

You mean, one of the right ones, since there are millions of right ones for everyone of us in a world with 8 billion people.

[@simonelavigne8618]

This great. We are so much alike. I love the scientific presentation and analysis. A friend teased me years ago that I am the type of girl to put my relationships on a graph. This is the first time I have every seen it done, lol. Awesome!

[@deannayerger1111]

I absolutely LOVE that you have charts! Interesting and informative, very good job Maddie!!

[@Cat-qn1yw]

Thank you for sharing Maddie! ♥️

[@LiveLifeinHarmony]

Ugh Dating is tough enough. Can’t imagine crossing over to another culture 😩

[@superxicanatravel]

I am in the US and just started dating recently. It has been incredibly frustrating dealing with men who just want to hook up and also trying to avoid these “red pill” guys (US macho version). The patriarchy is alive and well out here too. 😩 Thank you for sharing your dating experiences and calling out things clearly for what they are. Made me feel empowered and validated for not being willing to settle for these toxic men. I agree with some commenters suggesting not accepting rides from men on the first date. Try meeting them at the restaurant instead and let them open doors for you but Please stay safe. Best of luck to you in all your endeavors!

[@oopsdididothat7727]

What do you have to offer? Always both sides to every story 🪙

[@rudys.5503]

I support the red pill.

[@missybelmont9830]

You are so well spoken, cute as a button, charming and smart....your future hubby will want you to shine, he'll have a good career, and love to travel. Be open minded yet keep your high standards. He's just around the corner I bet! In the U.S. Hope you post again soon, can't wait to watch you move back to our good ole US of A!

[@vezireadili6280]

Excellent! Very well done. I think you have hit your stride. Keep on trucking!

[@Lelffy]

Very well done, Maddie!

[@emilyserafamanschot800]

I really enjoyed this video. It's deep culture. I'm glad that I'm not currently in the dating scene. It has changed so much!

[@smileyhappyradio]

This is a fun breakdown of the dates. I loved the charts and graphs. You really made this interesting to watch. Your a great role model for women, that you can make your own choices.

[@SugarWire.]

Hi, Maddie. I really enjoy when you speak Spanish. You have come a long way to get where you are. Good job Maddie!

[@MaddieGold]

Thank you! 😊 I’ve worked really hard on my Spanish

[@alena1vlog474]

Please put your safety first and even if they offer to pick you up never get in the car with a stranger

[@truthbetold6942]

Yes! Getting in a car with a stranger is the most dangerous thing you can do as a woman.

[@ltdodgen]

I was surprised she did that. Maybe by the third date I’d consider it if I knew a lot about the person and my instincts registered he was ok.

[@amythompson7700]

That’s why I am concerned about the online dating app stuff.

[@DogWalkerBill]

BTW: You look younger and more lovely in this video! Might be you're not as stressed. Could be your longer hair. But it looks good. IMHO.

[@MaddieGold]

Thank you :)

[@dianaj3139]

Agreed! Much more relaxed now that decisions made regarding future plans!

[@fathersweek]

This video itself might be the greatest “guy filter” available to you because it so throughly outlines your dislikes and preferences - complete with charts and diagrams. (Ie. mama Boys need not apply) That was very honest and fascinating. I appreciate your candour. What jumped out to me was that Tinder is a horrible way to meet someone - even if it is used differently in Mexico. You can pretty much be assured that people using this app will continue their search even after they start seeing/dating someone. It was nice to hear at the end of your video that you’ll be using fewer dating apps. They sound very convenient but awful. Being a KZbin celebrity must also add a level of difficulty to dating? Thanks for a fascinating peak into your private life and challenges around dating.

[@goldvideo]

What's really interesting is that I have friends who live in Madrid, Spain and they complain of the same things when dating days. Guys that live at home and were and still are Mama's boys. Although from what I hear, the Spanish machista culture has changed a LOT and it's probably al lot better there than in Mexico these days.

[@dinaflores]

@@goldvideoI’m Spanish and I can tell you Machismo is alive and well in Madrid and all over Spain. It’s the complete norm for adults to live with their parents until they marry while they are advancing in their career. Once they get married they are able to buy a pisó for cash cause they saved up their income while dating. It is the norm there.

[@LifeinGlow]

Interesting video Maddie! 😊 Thank you for sharing! It is probably going to be one of your most watched videos. Love how you did the pies and graphics 😆.

[@sheilalandrum3402]

You have always been my favorite KZbinr, due to your unvarnished truth and excellent (helpful) topics. Thank you Maddie...and best wishes to you!

[@georgejetson9801]

ZOMG not only did you spill the tea, you spilled the data! 💮❤🤓

[@EveningTV]

Excellent video! Love the graphs and charts!! Much more than the talking head opinion piece I assumed it would be (for reasons having nothing to do with you). I watched it with interest because I have a 26 year old son who just moved to Merida from the US to join me. We have had a lot of trauma and there is nothing I would like more than for him to meet and fall in love with a special Mexican lady with a loving heart, however, the video and the comments make it clear that there are a whole host of additional issues dating across cultures. In addition his Spanish is only very beginner level (I've heard a romantic relationship is the fastest way to improve your skills in a 2nd language)! Really enjoyed your analysis.

[@MaddieGold]

Glad you enjoyed the video! And yes, I can say from experience that my Spanish has improved drastically since I started dating, so that’s accurate.

[@petgranny194]

Another delightful video. Thanks Maddie.

[@BinHexOctal]

I appreciate the effort that went into this video, data always is interesting.

[@nancytebo6737]

I just really love and appreciate your articulate, down to earth videos.

[@staticcat1973]

I definitely relate to this video!! I dated in Playa del Carmen for about 2 years (2020-2022) before finding my Chiapaneco boyfriend, and I feel like I had all the luck in finding him (Tinder). I never would have met him otherwise. It's so hard to find someone who's not traveling, who is in his 30s but isn't already married with a family (especially since I've noticed they start having children young here), who isn't interested in me just because I'm from the US (they definitely comment on eye color a lot if you don't have brown eyes!), who is responsible, who is close with his family but doesn't need me as the "mommy role" like you'd mentioned, and in my preferred case, someone who doesn't drink or party a lot. I speak some Spanish and he speaks some English so we speak a combination when we're together haha

[@PatriciaBrooksCourageCatalyst]

Maddie, thanks for putting together such a well thought out video.

[@AmandaMcGee]

"I'm an Arizona girl" ❤ love it!!!!

[@exmachina767]

Hi Maddie, Mexican here. Thanks for sharing your views, it’s certainly interesting to hear your experiences. Regarding the point on waiters addressing men and not women, I’m sure there are many instances where it does come out of machismo (as in low-key dismissal of women). However, I also suspect that there is another explanation, namely that waiters may often assume men to be quite jealous (particularly when accompanied by attractive women) and don’t want to risk any misunderstanding which could lead to trouble. I would still put this under the umbrella of machismo culture, of course, but with a very different motivation. Sad to hear you won’t be around Mexico anymore, but happy to know you’re following your heart to be in a better state of mind.

[@MaddieGold]

Yeah that's absolutely a possibility as well! Still doesn't explain the other experiences I've had where they ask "where's your boyfriend" and don't treat me with respect because it seems they think a man should be doing what I'm trying to do

[@exmachina767]

Yeah, there’s definitely truth to that too. You just reminded me of a campaign (“Soy doctora, no señorita”) I saw on IG not long ago by a female doctor who said patients would often ask her in the clinic: “donde está el doctor, señorita?” or things like that, always with the implicit assumption that a young female couldn’t be a doctor. I guess our society still drags a lot of preconceptions from older generations about what men and women are supposed to do or not do (and it’s not just men, mothers quite often also perpetuate the stereotypes, as when they ask their daughters to cook for their grownup brothers, or do laundry for them)

[@Wonderalong]

This happens to me in Temecula california is predominantly white conservative community and everytime I am with my husband and I ask something men adress him or answer him instead of me. I moved from San Diego where that never happened, so I wonder if that has too do with Old school macho behavior? More than Mexico thing? Maybe ?

[@exmachina767]

@@Wonderalong Oh yeah, machismo is hardly exclusive to Mexican culture. Every culture has some flavor of it, but it’s definitely more visible in some places.

[@zonacrocone4804]

It is the same in Italy, it often is outright rude when the lady feels completely ignored at the table, but there it is also part of the culture. Italian men would often resent if a waiter would address their companian.

[@AprilMartinChartrandMS]

I love how you broke the numbers down by age, country of origin et al and had distinctive categories to give example for. Gosh, looks like some of these guys assumed your were a rich, white North American girl and wanted to fetishism you (for your white skin, light hair, and light eyes) and then assume you should pay since they assume you were rich. So they came into this as "users/Grifters" from the beginning. Well, that is what I have experienced in the USA when I used to date certain type of men who assumed I was a fetish and would say some awful things to me where I knew they just wanted to "collect" experiences and had no intent on being serious. Glad you figured that out and got out of there. In any event, this was very helpful from a cultural point of view and communication point of view.

[@henrymerino3369]

That was fun, I'm glad to see you're mixing well with the local culture here in Mexico City. Y me parece muy divertido que mezcles español con inglés. 🤣👍

[@louiselapalice4637]

Thanks Maddie for another great video. You are a wonderful and show a lot of maturity in your thinking and expression yourself. Wishing you all the best. :)

[@andrewdavey6971]

Wow, this is so thorough! Thanks for the detailed breakdown, Maddie. Also, I really appreciate you giving good advice on staying safe while navigating the dating scene. I'll really miss you releasing new life in Mexico vlogs, but I'm sure you'll find plenty of new opportunities for content here in the U.S. I've always liked Arizona, so I'll happily watch if you show us around more of the Grand Canyon State. Also, we're always happy to see people come and have fun in Vegas! (Especially if you go off-Strip, there's plenty to do that doesn't involve drinking and gambling.)

[@MaddieGold]

Did you catch my last video on a day in my life in Mexico? kzbin.info/www/bejne/rqWnqZ6ehM5koNUsi=3rwT5wyH5BzoWk2G

[@TheMarioBrosBros]

Maddie, I really think you been outdoing yourself on these latest videos. Your videos have been a part of my life since 2018, even cooler is that I was in Saltillo in 2018 at the same event as you.

[@katherinewagoner741]

Wow!! Darling video, Maddie! I really appreciate your concise way of speaking without clutter talk such as "I mean" Haha and so much more. Best wishes for you in your "merican" life ahead. I will again say that you are looking radiant and rested!!!

[@ausflygirl3430]

Maddie, this was outstanding how you laid it all out! I'm a Libra too. I laughed so hard but also respect the game!. Maybe you should write a book or find a way to monetize this! It's tough out there at times meeting quality people you vibe with. I'm sending you all the good juju!

[@MaddieGold]

Then we’d probably be friends! Seriously like half my friends are Libras lol. Thank you for the good juju, I’ll take it!

[@ausflygirl3430]

@@MaddieGold My best friend is a Libra, I always vibe with Libras. Wish you the best in your transition back to AZ. Very happy for you.

[@MyVintageLife]

Wow, this is so viral, Maddie! A fascinating topic! Yes, everyone's experiences are different. I found that nothing was typical or common behavior there. It went from pure hate, to non-stop proposals, daily. Everything ranged from one extreme to another. Nothing in between. Nothing normal, or evenly balanced. Weird. A fabulous discussion!

[@jennyhammond9261]

Conclusion: Dating as an adult is crap no matter where you are. Lol

[@MaddieGold]

Facts 😂

[@truthmatters4520]

Exactly!

[@verazendejas2098]

No kidding! I'm latin and have dated predominantly white men and it's basically the same..

[@robertchavez5483]

Fascinating video for sure, and the graphics and charts were a hoot! It seems like you've got a pretty good read on people. I think you are correct and the right guy may not be on any dating app. It's been fun to follow your adventures, I look forward to many more great videos.

[@FrankEBaca]

Notes Taken! Great Video Maddie. Hope all is well. Take care.

[@MaddieGold]

Thanks amigo! Hope you’re having an awesome eclipse birthday! 🌙🥳