MAKE A WARDROBE YOU ACTUALLY WEAR | How to figure out your me-made style

Like it or not, the sewing and knitting communities are full of trends. While these can be fun and inspiring, they can also distract us from really understanding our me-made style. In today's video, I'm giving you my secrets for distancing yourself from outside influences, so you end up with an inspiring, wearable handmade wardrobe.

[@kristenamaezing]

"Do you want a beige linen jumpsuit, or do you want to spend more time outside?" Cackled. Instant sub.

[@helenthompson9211]

As an older woman (70’s) I know my style but I still find it difficult to walk away from the lovely styles which I won’t end up wearing. One trick I have is to cover the model’s face when I’m looking at fashion so that I’m not seduced by the person I’d like to be. Also, I use my existing patterns where possible to introduce some contemporary twists to the clothes I make.❤ Helen

[@lizziehough8396]

Love this. I, too, am 70 and often have a difficult time deciding if my personal style is my fantasy self style or vice versa. I gravitate toward classic, old money esthetic but, gee, that 70's California Dreamin' esthetic often grabs me unaware. My life style is rural, mostly stay at home and only "dress up" for church or "town days". I generally survive in T-shirts and shorts/jeans, plus being a minimalist at heart, often talk myself out of actually making a larger wardrobe because it just seems so wasteful. I enjoy a good DIY remake from a thrifted item but, unfortunately, because of where I live, thrift stores carry more Polyester than linen, cotton, and rayon, my preferred fabrics. Sigh. Add in champagne taste on a plain water budget plus designing for a "mature" woman's body rather than sweet 16 and there you go.

[@pleasepleasethebees]

I had a mindset change recently when it comes to linen: I now consider linen to be a luxury fiber, so letting the wrinkles show is a way of broadcasting "Yeah, I'm wearing 100% linen" I think, especially for casual wear, letting your linen show it's character - not torturing it to be perfectly flat - that's beautiful.

[@ctaylorluce]

I wear a mostly linen wardrobe and I hang pieces up right out of the dryer, only rarely touching up with an iron. Good linen gets softer and softer and has a lovely easy texture. I wear loose fitting Lagenlook pieces so this works for me. I wouldn't recommend wash and wear linen for very fitted clothes though.

[@faerypaws]

You have freed me

[@jennieeveleighlamond]

As a Canadian who actually lives close to a babbling brook, I promise that a beige linen jumpsuit is possibly the worst thing to wear in that situation. Thank you for a great video with wonderful advice!

[@StephSewn]

This made me lol. Am imagining spending my day in a muddy, wet linen jumpsuit now 😅

[@ladyflimflam]

I was taught in the 70s to look at the line drawings for patterns, not the fabrications. Just focusing on those will keep you out of a lot of trouble. Spend some time understanding what you feel most comfortable wearing, what shapes you like and make you feel best. Then find patterns that will help you make those.

[@Sew_Learning]

Very good advice, thank you! I’ve taken this onboard! 💐

[@careya]

I do that too. Great advice.

[@StephSewn]

This is so true!! Not only will you not get sucked into making things that don't suit you, I've also sometimes been turned off by patterns because the photo used fabric I didn't like. Once you imagine the line drawing with different fabric, you can definitely be more objective.

[@SonyaandSidney]

I would love it if pattern companies sold a basic block with expansion packs for sleeves, skirts, collars, trouser variations, etc suitable for a specific type (or types) of fabric. Great video!

[@StephSewn]

That's a great idea! I think some of the vintage brands have these measurement based systems (Lutterloh pops up often on Etsy) but I've never tried them. There is a French pattern designer, Charlotte Jaubert, who has some modular dress and skirt designs if you're interested!

[@ZeldaSews]

That would be a great idea!😅

[@charlierogertango1055]

They do to some extent. You can a pattern that just has different sleeves. Balloon sleeves, puff sleeves. Flutter sleeves, leg of lamb sleeves. You can swap out a sleeve for the one you want easily.

[@marieandree25]

Mimi G just released a sewing book on how to make humdreds of variations on five basic garments.

[@manestage5403]

That would be heaven!

[@lindakrol5376]

I agree with everything you said in this video- When I was younger I picked out a pattern, bought material for the pattern, then sewed the garment , then wore it. I think online bargain shopping for fabric is too easy- I have to remind myself that I need to do more sewing less fabric/pattern buying.

[@StephSewn]

It's so hard sometimes! I actually find it's even harder when I have less time to sew, because I then miss it and spend more time online looking at fabrics 😅

[@kathypariso6102]

Thank you for finally speaking sense to fashion. One of this country’s biggest landfill problems is “fabric”. Many of todays high tech fabrics take decades to decompose. Do one better than the “fashionistas”…if you sew, please recycle or refashion your garments.

[@RebeccaTreeseed]

Because I garden, I only use cotton or wool that compost after I wear, use as cleaning rags. Now I am looking at undyed, natural fabrics, the dye industry is so toxic. I have experimented with natural dyes, and love the softer colors. I have a bolt of cotton on order. Come winter a bolt of wool! I entertain myself ;)

[@bitrudder3792]

I am having such a mom moment! I remember her saying once “oh, there’s the flour sack with a string tied around the middle pattern again.” As an experienced sewist, she knew exactly what she was looking at when she looked at new patterns. And now when I saw that rainbow looking check thing, I just laughed because… Mom made me a pantsuit out of that kind of fabric back in the 70s! I can’t believe it took me until I’m in my 60s to actually start trying to sew my own clothes again. (I actually made wearable bathing suits, jumpsuits, skirts, Simple dresses back in the day, and my mom created the things with more detail, like perfectly fitting bodices on sundresses from vogue patterns, buttons hooked onto garments with tiny loops of fabric, perfectly scalloped edges on Sunday school dresses, elastic-shirred bodices, etc.). How I wish she had lived longer and that I could have felt like I could’ve learned those things as well.

[@helentemple9437]

Your beige linen jumpsuit comment got yourself another subscriber 😂

[@juliejohnson-hunt7134]

Steph, this is the first vid i have seen from you. You just popped up in my feed and i really loved your message. It is one i have been feeling for a while. I am tired of influencers showing me more stuff to buy when i don’t really really like it. I really appreciated you helping your audience to understand their own unique style! I am a boho girl. I am tired of all the trends that really do not speak to me. I do sew, but i have not sewn clothing for a long time. I have refashioned many times though. I like clothing that actually fits and something interesting such as beading or embroidery. I am now a new subscriber! Thanks!

[@StephSewn]

Thank you so much for your kind words ❤️

[@ratitooti]

me too!! this was such a great video

[@myrany8407]

As someone who has always aspired to wear a certain period of historically inspired clothing (and being an older woman who definitely fits the plus size range) I have finally come to a life changing conclusion. Simply put "Life is too short to wear clothes you don't love." Given that I have started spinning the fiber I will weave into the cloth that will be sewed into the first piece of my new wardrobe.

[@StephSewn]

This is so impressive to me! Not only is it amazing to have learned all those skills, you'll be so connected to that garment because you had a role in so many stages of its creation 👏🏾

[@sewaldodiy]

I completely agree with what you said. It is very important to sew what works for our lifestyle not because of what social media wants to sell us.

[@StephSewn]

It's amazing how intense the trends can be, even for creatives!

[@lesliemcarthur9902]

Thank you so much for this video! It’s one of the best things I’ve seen so far, and I think you’ve saved me from making a foolish and expensive purchase just this morning! I’m 65 and I’ve been sewing basically all my life-I should know better, but still, when I see something again and again and AGAIN, on the Instagram and the KZbin I can find it hard to resist. I’m a short, busty, old lady who has NEVER liked her belly-do I really need the Saguaro Set? (No shade, it’s lovely on other people.) I’m going to watch this video every time I’m tempted to buy something. I’m a slow learner. 😉

[@StephSewn]

So glad you liked it! And I hear you on that pattern. It's SO cute but I know that it's not for me, weatherwise and lifestyle-wise. I'm sure you'll see the perfect pattern soon ❤️

[@lynnleipold2617]

What is the saguaro set?

[@KonjikiKonjiki]

haha, I am in the same boat as you and also felt a little obligated to love the Saguaro Set, it is simply too boxy a cut for me and would not flatter imo. I am planning on drafting a template for clothes from ones I've bought and love, for me that is the same level of difficulty as trying to follow a pattern . It doesn't need to be amazing, it just has to get me working on my goals and what skills I'll need to do the things I want to.

[@emma__sews]

​@@lynnleipold2617it's the Friday Pattern company set. Look them up, they are an indie sewing pattern company. And I just fell for it and have it on my list, now I'm thinking did I make a mistake 😢

[@mandymarler7222]

You're so right about really thinking about what we're creating! When I first started sewing I was so excited and just went mad and made tons of stuff that I've not really worn! After a few of these projects I realized that I had to make a choice. If I wanted to have lots of clothes quickly, I could just walk into any store and buy stuff and get rid of it after a few wears. On reflection, I figured out that I wanted to have unique items that I would wear over and over again, but to do that I had to really start thinking and planning. I'm so glad I took that step back to consider what I really wanted. It means that I can really invest the time into each piece I make to add in those extra details (embroidery, a bit of beading, hand finishing, etc.) that can make all the difference between a so-so-wear-a-couple-of-times-and-forget-about-it garment and something that I'm so proud of that I am more than happy to tell folks I made it myself!

[@StephSewn]

I hadn't included the hand finishing point but it's SUCH a good one. A little embroidery or beadwork can really turn something from "nice dress" to "truly one of a kind". Definitely something I want to incorporate more of!

[@slastenushkaslast3402]

This is such a good point. I think I'm on a craze of creating quantity over quality, but I also think it's may be a process of learning, the technics and the Ina and outs of the craft, and once you have enough knowledge you can actually sit down and analyze. So many good advices on hand made wardrobe start with "analyze your wardrobe you wear already" and I have no idea how to do that. Things that I have I'm not a big fan of, they don't bring me much joy, so finding "t-shirt that you truly like from your closet" to copy later with hand made touch is a complex issue on its own :)

[@mandymarler7222]

@@slastenushkaslast3402 I think what you mentioned also pushed me to make in a frenzy as well. I wanted to learn all the techniques and I wanted to learn them right now! Now that I'm carefully considering what I want to make, I can choose projects that include techniques I want to learn. For example, I wanted to learn smocking so I'm currently working on making a traditional English smock with embroidery and smocking. It's taking ages, but it will be worth it in the end and I will have another skill (or two) that I've added to my arsenal. As for the whole analysing your wardrobe thing - I'm in the same position as you. I'm pretty much a jeans and t-shirt girl, but I've been taking stock of what things really draw me in and items I really find beautiful - but this also leads back to the point made in the video about being careful to be sure that you're really drawn to the clothing being shown and not the setting/lifestyle. It's so shockingly easy to get the two mixed up.

[@ColorJoyLynnH]

Such an intelligent attitude about something that’s passionate… logic and heart don’t always come together in the same conversation.

[@callitags]

As a brand new sewist who hasn't even started on a wardrobe yet, I really enjoyed this video and the advice and views you've offered. I'm also a larger bodied 53 year old woman who's lived much of my life with pretty limited options when it comes to clothing. So, when I find something I really like, I'll buy several colors/patterns of that thing. I've never paid much attention to trends, because I was often left out of them as a teenager and young adult... trendy things that fit me were nonexistent. As I've started following sewists on Instagram, I've noticed that some patterns are made by just about everyone, and I can see how people get caught up in wanting to make that thing, too. What's been particularly interesting to me is seeing people in bodies similar to mine wearing things I never would have considered for myself even a year ago, and they look good, and I wonder if those things might work for me. As I take my baby steps forward to being ready to tackle making garments for myself, videos like these are helpful. It's good to be reminded of fomo, to take a breath and figure out what it is that's actually appealing about a particular image or aesthetic. I know, for instance, that I want to find some good solid basic pieces that I feel good in... tops that have sleeves that I like, for instance. I've never worn a lot of dresses, but I see so many online these days that I really like, and wonder if I'd wear them if I had them. One of the reasons I haven't worn dresses much, I think, is because of things like length, sleeve preferences, and fabric/color options. With the control that sewing should give me over those things, maybe I'll find I enjoy dresses, or maybe I'll discover that they're still not something I reach for. I'm in that place where I want to make all. the. things. even though I've hardly made anything yet, but visions of patterns are dancing in my head. I've got a lot to learn about sewing, and some things to learn about myself and what I actually like, I think. And, I much appreciate the things you've given me to ponder while still at the beginning of this new adventure.

[@ibelieveinpandas]

Yes, sewing let's you pick your sleeves, color, fabric, etc. I had similar issues not finding RTW options that fit me. I hope you find a simple dress pattern to start your sewing journey. Once you find a silhouette that suits you, you can go from there.

[@StephSewn]

Thanks so much for sharing this! It's a very relatable feeling. I think you're absolutely spot on that social media gives us such a fun opportunity to expand our views of styles which may work for us, but the level of inspiration definitely can be overwhelming. I hope you keep experimenting (sewing should be fun!) and find the silhouettes and construction techniques that you enjoy. Let me know if any recommendations are useful!

[@lynn858]

Apparently what I needed in order for dresses and skirts to be something I reach for, was pockets. I spent years telling myself skirts were impractical, long after there was any remote likelihood of spontaneous tree climbing.

[@karencompton5926]

I can appreciate lots of what you have said. I was bullied at school for being short and skinny, nothing trendy fitted me and my Mum couldn't afford it anyway. Now at 56yo, 5ft 5" and 7st 7lbs I'm having a good look at my wardrobe. Partly due to middle age and partly due to a change in climate (moving to somewhere very cold!) and partly due to a change in lifestyle from professional to mostly retired with occasional care assistance to my aging community. I spend most of my time in jeans because I can't find warm, comfortable trousers, so here I'm looking for a relaxed pattern to make in wool. And I'd like to wear dresses that are a comfortable fit and will accommodate tights, thermals or thigh/ knee length t shirt to act as a petticoat extra layer, for this I have chosen the Hinterland dress, all other patterns I choose Tilly and the Buttons patterns from her 2 last books (these also include real models). I think I'm right in saying that if you go onto the Minerva website and type in 'Hinterland dress' (for example) you will see what other seamstresses have made and ha ks made to personalise the clothes, I find that really useful. Was great to read your comments, best wishes with your sewing journey, enjoy it, it is liberating xx

[@lynnleipold2617]

Tip: go to a nice store and try on things like mad. You’ll soon find what looks best on you.

[@blufaerie]

You hit the nail on the head with this one. I’m on Zoom all day so from the waist up, I’m dressed professionally so I focus on making tops/blouses. And I prefer natural fabrics and blends. The bottoms need to be comfy. I just followed those hashtags and would love if you shared more!

[@amberghini]

KZbin just blessed me with this video. It's all solid advice! Also, I'm tired of the block-y style. It's all so cute, but I hate wearing it.

[@ithinkicansewit]

I would love to see the European pattern companies, that's a great idea. I vibe with all these thoughts and have found it helpful to repeat outloud a mantra for every time I feel influenced by garments I know I won't wear. "Nope. I don't wear jumpsuits. Nope. I don't wear spaghetti straps" etc.

[@goshdarnspiffy]

I really can't think of anything to say that hasn't been already covered in the comments here, but I'm a huge fan of your clarity and genuineness on this topic! Looking forward to more from you-- thank you for your work!

[@StephSewn]

This is so kind- thank you! I'm glad it's resonating with people and not coming off snarky or shame-y

[@liskimade]

"Do you really want those clothes, or do you just want to spend more time outside?" 😂 I find pinterest a great help for this tendency. I dump all the cozy cottagecore pics in a board, then scan through later to try and discern a specific element im attracted to. Saves time and money! Speaking of cottagecore and linen, lol i actually love the chill look of slightly wrinkled linen hung up damp after a few minutes in the dryer. I do choose patterns that will work for that look, no button-down shirts with pointed collars, etc. I also try to figure out and follow hashtags in languages i don't know, i've found some really inspiring creators that way 😍 Another great inspiration is following vintage clothing sellers. Modern styling for unique cuts of clothing ❤

[@creepyed]

That was line that resonated with me too!!

[@StephSewn]

So glad this resonated with you! And that's a great tip on linen, both re: the dryer and the pattern choices! Would love some recommendations on your fave international creators!

[@jankerslake5813]

This is such an uplifting video. I thought it was just me seeing the same Indie companies producing similar garments and then dozens of KZbinrs raving about them and then recreating them. It’s all so predictable. Many of the designs don’t suit many people and yet they still make them (very well and in beautiful fabric). The ‘Mimi G Make it yours’ book looks interesting and allows/encourages individual changes to suit individuals and their lifestyles. But your vintage inspiring books also make a lot of sense. Great vlog - thanks again

[@StephSewn]

Thank you so much! And agree with you on the Mimi G book- I really feel like she's leading the charge on putting out varied and interesting designs.

[@viszay]

We'll said! I was feeling really overwhelmed from following fabric stores on social media and ended up buying things I wouldn't normally. I've set myself a no but on fabric this summer and I've been feeling really good about using what I already have, making the projects I had wanted to do but hadn't gotten around to. I'm thinking of buying a small sketchbook so I can draw my ideas for garments I want to have.

[@stillhuntre55]

This is EXACTLY the video I was looking for! I, too, have tons of clothes and nothing to wear - partially because I also love pattern - and partially because I recently gained weight due to menopause and COVID. I am learning to sew and have been looking for some guidance on creating a cohesive wardrobe that wasn't "make everything beige, black, and white, and go buy a trenchcoat". Thank you!!!

[@StephSewn]

You can do it!! Capsule wardrobes can still be colourful. Hope you create things that you love ❤️

[@slastenushkaslast3402]

Hahaha I love that. I feel like someone was influencing me to buy a trench coat this season :) you know I learned today that all figures are amazing it's just the clothes that is wrong. It's not that it's a groundbreaking truth that I've never near before, but yet again I went through stores and malls trying to find smth good to wear and couldn't cause I've been trying the wrong clothes :)

[@cathleenvance4441]

@@slastenushkaslast3402 Oh my gosh, this is me exactly. I even bought a trench coat. I'm definitely making some changes...lol...this has been a real eye opener.

[@denisedorsey2889]

This is the first time I’ve seen one of your videos. I so appreciate your clear, concise approach to sharing your ideas. You come across authentic and professional. In my opinion, you’ve raised the bar. I’m subscribing! I do not have Instagram because I know that it would suck me in. I’m fairly confident in my style and really try to stick with that, but there have definitely been some mistakes along the way…looking at you, poofy sleeves that won’t fit under any blazer or sweater😂

[@StephSewn]

A. Thank you so much for your kind words and B. ABSOLUTELY YES I hate stuffing balloon sleeves under a coat in the winter

[@lynnleipold2617]

Amen!

[@mclements6313]

Love this video! As a 60+ retiree who does caregiving for hubby, mom, sister and grandkids, my lifestyle does not require couture clothing. My lifestyle leans toward jeans and sweatshirts or knit tops. Comfort over style, yes, but I still love to sew new things that make me feel good when I wear them.❤

[@strategicallystyled5459]

Great video. It's so easy to conflate attraction to a lifestyle with liking the actual clothes.❤

[@renh9717]

I realised I don't actually like much of the fashionable clothing so I subbed to a lot of vintage style sewists or ones who draft their own patterns. I learnt to draft myself and have been doing that for about a year now. I tend to get coordinating colours/think about how my garments fit together and where I would wear them. They all need to be practical/comfy to wear and something I would wear several times (and they need to last). I go about fabric selection the same way - go mad with dresses of whatever pattern/colour I like, trousers neutral colours no pattern, t-shirts must match the trousers (at least half of them) and be a good variety of f.e sleeve length, collar style. Completely agree on the maintenance of them as well, I won't hand wash so everything needs to be machine washable for me.

[@creepyed]

"Do you want a beige linen jumpsuit or do you want to spend more time outside?" I feel so attacked, but like really gently attacked 😂😂😂. Social media and posting on social media makes it difficult to separate what I want vs what I want to post. Great video, well thought out!

[@StephSewn]

Haha just know the attack is always with love 😘 For me, I always get sucked in when it's a sort of bohemian girl at a farmers market. She's putting kale into her worn burlap bag while I scroll Instagram and eat cheese crisps 🌚

[@anisledge]

Could you make a video talking about international pattern makers or sewists? I am interested to learn more.

[@StephSewn]

Coming up soon, starting with French pattern designers 😊

[@RavenMeer]

Love your tip on searching in other languages. Well agree with all your tips, but that one is unique

[@dorothymarquis7529]

I really enjoyed this item. I too find the online sewing and knitting communities can be quite repetitive and boring. Everyone is making the same thing. Example - top down knitting - how many yoked, raglan sleeved sweaters can you have. And the loose tiered dresses are not attractive. So saying, I have learned so much from all these contributors. Seeing what other people are wearing and making allows me to be better at selecting what I like and what will suit me. I am going to subscribe.

[@MBA-pz6tu]

I have never made a garment from scratch (yet), but my sewing curiosity comes more from getting to mend, upcycle or/and increase the size (lenght, width, circumference?) Of an item already own. And while following mending videos that look easy enough to do, I realised it would be useful to understand how a garment is made from scratch, so (I thought) I could reverse the process in a garment that already exists. And KZbin suggested your video. So here I am. Thank you for showing me that making my own clothes will also have its challenges like (not just technical ones, as of assembling properly, which will be my case) choosing a pattern and a material that will have longevity on my wardrobe. And the tip about following hashtags in other languages was brilliant! Fortunately I also speak Spanish, so I can figure things out from another Latin based language, but for me... now I'll look for Scandinavian sort of hashtags as I love their point of view. Thank you for making it easy, guilt free by showing examples of what not to do and why, and keep sharing your discoveries. You have a new subscriber today. 🙂

[@StephSewn]

I'm so glad you enjoyed it! Welcome to the sewing party 🥰

[@ruthwilson6524]

Love this video! My FOMO is beautiful fabric, but working on that, determined to make wearable clothes I can wear in my everyday life!

[@RebeccaTreeseed]

I retired and got rid of 90% of my wardrobe. Lost 2 dress sizes and spent time taking in everything. After a couple years living in sweats and creating a food forest... I sure miss fully lined suits. I didn't even know what I want to wear or what size I need. Ordered jeans that fit and look so much better, ordered another pair. Went to the thrift store and found one casual button up blouse, a simple summer shift dress, and a gauzy layered summer dress... that FIT. My new patterns. I have been watching influences, but I am not going to Paris in the spring, I am working in my food forest! Ocassional dinners out, grocery shopping, post office, I only need a couple outfits for "town". I got 4 new Jean shorts and hiking boots for the forest. This has taken me six months! Total lifestyle change, and you are the only one online which is practical about clothing. 69 is not 20-something and tromping in a mountain food forest is not cruising the mall.

[@StephSewn]

Wow, this really sounds like a huge life change and a ton of hard work. I find food forests really fascinating- I'm jealous! I hope you are reaping the rewards this summer 🌞

[@RebeccaTreeseed]

@@StephSewn It is a huge life change that I love. It is a native edibles food forest, so I study a lot. I pick a few seeds within a mile or three and bring them home to plant. Sometimes I root cuttings. I prepare weird natives for dinner ;) I walkabout to see what shows up, since birds contribute, too. Mostly I identify and encourage. Last year I built a mushroom bed and this spring I got 2 bitty mushrooms, yay! I can feed myself and family and wildlife. As you can imagine, I haven't attended to my wardrobe. Ordered a soft jacket pattern, and will fully line it. Maybe with a bright print. Looks like I will have softer, draped dresses with blouses or jackets over top. Less structured than my old work suits. That is the plan so far.

[@minimalmum9210]

So I got sucked into the big puffy sleeved blouse patterns… made about five until I realised that I almost always have to wear a jacket when I leave the house (I live Scotland) and when I remove said jacket my once gorgeous puff sleeves are sad, crushed, deflated droopy messes hanging off each shoulder 🙈. Great video, I’m definitely giving more thought to what suits me and the climate I live in! X

[@solentsolent4725]

I’m a new sewist. I started sewing because I couldn’t afford to buy clothes to wear in decent fabric. 🇨🇦 I’m on my third dress. Great advice. Thx

[@skirtedgalleons]

Yes yes yes. For me, I need to TRY lots of patterns and relearn what actually looks good on me (dresses for curvy ladies, i.e., 1940s style) versus what my eye naturally goes to (Japanese minimalist boxy fashion) and what feels comfortable versus fashionable. I recently made a dress that I didn't think would be that flattering, intending it to be a nightgown. But I love it so much I have a nightgown in one fabric and now a summer dress in a different fabric. And imho when I really get the FIT right (muslin muslin muslin) suddenly I feel fab in my handmade clothes.

[@StephSewn]

I love when those pleasant surprises happen! Can I ask what pattern this was?

[@skirtedgalleons]

@@StephSewn Yes! Closet Core Charlie Caftan pattern, View C!

[@Maria-yf8fp]

Very helpful! This could explain why I just can't get myself to sew this giant three tiered dress with big puffy sleeves that I know would look really ridiculous on me. I know in the back of my mind that when I finish it I'm going to put it on and go oh my God what was I thinking? And loads of linen I was going to use!

[@StephSewn]

I made one and I looked like a wedding cake 😂

[@JoyfulFreckles]

I got sucked into sewing trending indie patterns that absolutely are not my style (too many prints, ruffles, and too many tiers) - what i do love is the The Assembly Line aesthetic of clean lines and minimalism in beautiful plain fabrics. Now i have adopted a technique thatI never understood when i was younger - my grandma and mum used to drag me around the shops (with a toy shop stop of course) to try on the new trends to see what suited/didn't suit their style, and what shapes or patterns went with core pieces in their wardrobe (which they would already be wearing to go shopping in), then take those ideas and sew them up at home. At the time I think they were subscribed to the Japanese "Lady Boutique" magazines where they had 1/8 scale patterns and you had to draft your own pattern from interpreting the tiny diagrams. Ah such fond memories, and such a handy trick that didn't occur to me for some reason!

[@SDot2385]

You randomly popped up as a rec, but I’ve thumbed up based on the title and thumbnail caption alone. Now let me watch the video.

[@christinasevaistre7265]

I LOVE deer & doe patterns. Not sure where they come from, but my favourite fabric shop here in Nantes sells them, and I love the fit (not being model thin, I find them to be more inclusive). Also, I loved your Nordic patterns videos. Stunning!

[@janetlink9756]

Thankyou, I found this extremely helpful. Instead of daydreaming the background of fields of flowers when I'm wearing the pattern they are presenting I'll be more realistic on everyday reality life and really study the pattern. Same with fabrics.

[@venomwoolknits]

Great video! I completely agree with your points. I think having a focus on wearable and practical things for your *actual* life frees you up to occasionally experiment with trends that speak to you, without the pressure of trying to keep up with everything that's coming out. I also think it's important not to be ashamed of what you make/wear if it happens to be on trend at the moment. I definitely gravitate towards the "dark academia" style as it completely fits with a lot of the clothes that I have loved over the years, yet I've still found myself questioning if I should make certain things because it might look like I'm jumping on a bandwagon*. Which is stupid. I did make a conscious effort a while ago to list things I actually wanted/needed in my wardrobe which, among many benefits, helped me to focus a bit on styles I found wearable and not get overwhelmed by the 95762935 tiered dresses and milkmaid style crop tops. *Though at the speed I sew I'm pretty sure most of the stuff will be pleasantly dated by the time I get to it 😅

[@StephSewn]

I think this is such a great point! The intensity with which a trend can come on can really make a person feel like rejecting something they've loved for years. I've heard people say similar things about wanting to make the same patterns over and over. I sometimes feel that way, especially when I'm tryin to use social media more. But as long as the maker is happy, that's all that should matter!

[@StephSewn]

Also lol'ing because that is the EXACT number of tiered dresses and milkmaid crop tops that have been released 😅

[@venomwoolknits]

@@StephSewn Exactly! Now I'm off to make more poofy sleeved shirts and sweater vests...

[@lyndabethcave3835]

I smashed the subscribe button when you suggested following hashtags in other languages. Love love love seeing international awareness especially in my sewing spaces which are often dominated by Americans.

[@StephSewn]

It is SO important. I also am noticing an unfortunate trend of people applying American (or Canadian or UK) standards to everyone. I recently saw a brand new Swedish pattern designer get absolutely SHREDDED on Instagram for not offering a fully inclusive size range, and then she wasn't able to immediately and coherently explain her decision in English. Comments like "these patterns are not for real bodies" as if the sizing landscape in Sweden is exactly the same as the US. Even as someone who is sized out of her current range, it was just really sad to see the level of judgement.

[@bitrudder3792]

I got a tip on linen from a guy Online, he wears it all the time in Italy. Very casual linen. I tried it on not just my linen pants but on pretty much all of my pants that I want to keep out of the dryer as much as possible. Just hang up the pants from the hem, and attach a heavy clip hanger as a wait at the other end. Let it dry. (I often do a cold tumble briefly to knock out a lot of the wrinkles before hanging, and I keep a little table top fan in my laundry room to gently blow on the garments that are hanging there. I do this with most of my clothes, actually, it’s just that I only add weights to the pants. It’s a little extra time to make sure I’m available to hang things immediately, but they go straight from the laundry room to the closet on the hangers that they will live on. The velvety surface of the hangers keeps the shoulders exactly where I want them. I love this time saver.

[@StephSewn]

Ooo have never heard of this- will give it a go!

[@careya]

I’ve learned to appreciate the ubiquity of certain styles. Once you find a pattern company which fits you with a minimum of alterations, it’s nice you can find the style you like, even if every other company has the same style.

[@StephSewn]

This is so true. Once you know a designers basic block fits you, taking chances on their other patterns is definitely easier!

[@CraftWerk]

Totally agree, this is such good advice! I’m definitely guilty of following trends- I fell for the bulky, boxy knitting patterns too, and then was seduced by the speed I could knit one up… I made 3 and don’t wear any of them because of the pilling, shedding and the fact they’re too warm to wear unless it’s really cold and they’re too bulky to wear under a coat… they have been in vacuum sealed bags for 3 years now, I need to let go! I particularly like your advice on separating the style from the lifestyle, I need to keep that in mind. However, I hate ironing (beyond pressing whilst I sew) and yet most of my wardrobe is linen… but I still don’t bother ironing it- I just embrace the “texture” 😂 great video, thank you!

[@StephSewn]

Yes I love this! Lived in linen is beautiful ❤️ Also I hear you on the warmth as well. Those very thick sweaters just aren't practical for the weather where I live too. Especially when it randomly rains!

[@StephSewn]

Also need to point out that you're totally one of my Instagram crushes and this comment made my day 🥰

[@CraftWerk]

@@StephSewn aww thank you, back at ya! 🫶

[@liav4102]

I’m currently hating most of my wardrobe and this (along with similar video from Mariah Pattie) is going to make my rebuild so much better

[@susanbucklin3204]

I just love the guard rails ,I will be adopting these. Thank you ❤

[@stephany3707]

Thank you for your video. Personally i dont follow trends. I have sewing magazines and i try to make as much as possible those patterns instead of buying patterns. I wrote down what kind of clothes i like to wear and then search for patterns in my own stash. If i don't have it, i will buy the pattern. For years i have been searching for my own style but it has become clear to me that i already have my own style. Especially when people compliment me on what i am wearing. Now that i am more confident of wearing the clothes that fit and suit me best i dare to experiment with necklaces, bracelets and shoes and stuff, and my gosh it is fun! I also think that there are too many trends going on that it doesnt matter what you wear. Just wear whatever you like and makes you feel good, your own style is your trend😉

[@StephSewn]

I'd love to know which sewing magazines you like?

[@jennifermaddock4382]

Great video. I was going to sew a pair of woven trousers recently and then realized I don't want to iron them in the summer. I much prefer wearing and sewing knits.

[@YellowHatSims]

“The longer it takes to make a garment, and the fewer of that item I have, the more versatile that garment needs to be.” - major lightbulb moment, thank you!💡 I want to start sewing and knitting clothes but the length of time they will take me intimidates me. But this nugget of insight has made me realise it doesn’t matter how long it takes, as long as it’s something that will last.

[@donnabenjamin9266]

I enjoyed your video. I am just getting back into sewing and realized most of my wardrobe is what was on sale and not really my color or fabric type. I am going to try sewing with nicer fabric, something that feels light and luxurious. I wish there was a way to see what a style looks like on my body as I am not a model and am often disappointed with how things look on me. Thanks for your perspective you are adorable 😊

[@alisoneichler4257]

Although I have been sewing for nearly 60 years, I just recently heard some one on KZbin suggest you look at the designer’s body type to gauge their designs. Many designers design for themselves. This explains why designs from slim, 5’8” designer don’t work for my mature, 5’ tall frame. Why did it take so long to learn this lesson? 🤯

[@lesliechristian8907]

You are so right, It is easy to be confused and led astray into style paralysis. I am still discovering my style, and sometimes what i really like to wear is boring. . Still, there is a lot of duplication.

[@lindabeauchamp4596]

I LOVE your "Rules". Very practical😊

[@frichickie2]

Most important 'trend" advice I've heard thank you. And have fallen prey to all of them lol, the latest was the mohair strand added in when I was just a beginner knitter and can't even wear sweaters in my climate.

[@StephSewn]

Oh nooo! Honestly it happens to all of us, but I'm sure it must be frustrating to see your creations going unused.

[@annescanapico7168]

You were on my feed this morning, so first time watching. Your video is so thoughtful in the process. I can say I’ve been caught up in these things too. Being older (70s) I’ve learned not to get into the hype but for many years, long before social media, it was easy to do that because I didn’t have other sewing friends to talk to about what works. Your rules are excellent and I want to thank you and now I have subscribed because you are an intelligent woman with great ideas and I want to see all your processes for sewing. Thanks.

[@StephSewn]

Thank you so much for these kind words!

[@daisyphinney1038]

love the fabric in the background! I'm a fabric addict :)

[@mslj4062]

I had to come back again after doing the #hashtags. OMGoodness you brought me to a WHOLE new world of inspiration and JOY!!! The styles from those hashtags are just so beautiful and unique. I came back to say - thank you so much! Amazing!! 💗👏🏼🕯️🙌🏼🙏🏼🪡🥰🎉💗

[@StephSewn]

You are so welcome! This is so lovely to hear 😊

[@jenniferdo5467]

Just found your channel and will probably binge your videos, loving them! As a sewist trying to re-find my personal style this is such a great review of things to keep in mind to not get sucked into trends or the images you see in social media (also dislike the term quiet luxury). I love the idea of following hashtags in other languages too! Thanks for sharing!

[@imamonstr]

love this video. I genuinely like staying outside of most trends. Once you study fashion from different eras you can see things that are timeless... but also things that work for you and your body type. By staying true to what works for you and you alone - you can be an influencer yourself.

[@kristenbouwhuis9137]

Thanks so much, Steph for this informative video. Since last summer i have been working hard to only increase my fabric stash in directions of colours i will wear, versus cool prints that won't look great on me or will enhance a vibe i don't want to give. This includes all the soft, near waistless dresses that look great on everybody but won't really work for my life. You really hit the nail on the head with this one. Keep producing such valuable content.

[@StephSewn]

Glad it was helpful!

[@julestopper7553]

Smart video, I think trends (and social media, but that is a whole other discussion) drain creativity. Thanks for the thoughtful content!

[@chlomo2618]

Love this. I get that it's cool to know what's out there and to get creative stimuli from what's in fashion and the zeitgeist at the moment, and if you love a certain garment that's out of your reach for some reason it's so powerful to be able to create it for yourself in a way that works for you. ...But: Some of the best things about making our own clothing are that 1) we're not reliant on only what's available in stores this season, 2) we don't have to participate in the relentless churn of trends shifting every few weeks to keep us buying new crap, and 3) we don't have to wear the same clothes as everyone else. I'm also with you on using vintage patterns and resources for inspiration. There are so many cool details in my vintage patterns that people would lose their 💩 over if an indie pattern designer added it to one of their basic we-already-have-this-pattern-except-for-this-one-thing designs.

[@StephSewn]

This is SUCH a good summary of my exact feelings. And I agree with you that vintage patterns are way more willing to give you a strong (potentially time consuming) detail. It feels like modern patterns are so understandably focused on mass appeal that you never see those sorts of ideas anymore.

[@gregariagirl]

I love how concise and clear you are. I have been very mindful to sew things I will actually wear because I don't want to waste all the time and energy only to set the project aside. My wardrobe has been quickly wearing out, so my main sewing motivation is replacing my day-to-day clothes which means a lot of basics. I also know which colors and fabrics I like and stick to those. And I do end up wearing them! I really love the suggestion to follow hashtags in languages other than English.

[@bohemiansusan2897]

Thanks for making this video. For a long time, I've started to feel that many sewing blogs and vlogs are just another version of fast fashion which is what I don't need. I love sewing as a way to get away from fast fashion. It's great to interact with others. As of late I've been looking for and buying vintage patterns from the 60s to 90s. Vogue used to have the Individualist line which has an elegant edged Bohemian vibe. How I discovered Issey Miyake. Many of the designs are still wearable today. I may change something like the collar to a crazy long dog eared collar. My wardrobe is very small and that is because I'm poor and living on $785 a month disability. The advantage is a small capsule wardrobe. About 2/3rds made by me. My style range is from Goth to business professional and corporate Goth isn't allowed at work. I buy black men's chino trousers that have a bit of stretch are of a thicker and sturdier 65% cotton blend, great fade resistance, great pockets and now cost $22 at Walmart. This saves me the bother of sewing pants. Mine are now 6 years old and still look close to new with regular wear and laundering. Accessories and tops are what sets the tone of casual or professional. I will go for some color on my shirts or tops. 4 each of chinos, jeans, button up shirts, 3 blouses, 5 each knit pencil skirts and various dresses. Most of my clothes are from 7-12 years old. I do go crazy with cardigans and blazers. By sewing I have total control over the quality of the garment. Buying high quality fabric is very important. It can be quite expensive and takes forever to save up for. Once in a while I will find a real gem remnant or clearance fabric tucked away somewhere. Last was a striped cotton fabric. It's quilting cotton but no obviously so. These make nice button up shirts that are wearable for ages. It was less than $1.75 a yard. It's nice to have a bit longer in the torso and long sleeves blouses, shirts and tops that fit like a glove.

[@StephSewn]

Thanks so much for sharing this! I'm glad you have found some great RTW staples which work for you- quality fabric can definitely be expensive, especially if you live somewhere without access to deadstock / fabric markets. Also love that you're into vintage patterns as well ❤️

[@bohemiansusan2897]

@@StephSewn I live in the middle of nowhere so the Internet is basically my only means. Dead stock has changed in that extra fabric was manufactured to sell as dead stock in addition to the real dead stock.

[@KristiChan1]

I'm so happy to see it's not just me following hashtags outside of my language! I haven't done it with fashion or sewing, but I follow hashtags for things like photography and cats lol.

[@annadortheaaasbjerg9970]

This is the first of your videos I've seen and I'm subscribing from now on! Great advice through and through! I especially love no. 3. Being 42, curvy and a hater of skinny jeans and tired dresses, I'm used to being non-trendy and being absolutely fine with it. I feel like the older I get and the more my body changes, I tend to just go with what I like and not what trends dictate, but I can still relate to the FOMO-part. Keep up you great content - I'll binge a couple more of your videos.

[@sewmuchmorefun]

Love this video and especially the great tip on searching non English hashtags. Thanks for sharing and so glad you popped up in my feed!🎉

[@Lazydaisy646]

Amen . Be yourself

[@ceilirian399]

First time viewer, great video (and being the visual type, appreciate examples) i began establish8ng my style when i started sewing at 12 and love your teference to guardrails - great term for those prefernce boundaries) one of the things i live most about thrift stores is a he ability to find pieces yhat suit me rather than being relegated to "what's in" which in true for me in terms of style as well as fabric, fit and fabric. And i frequently create my own patterns off of clothing u love when im weary of the fabric/color but love the fit and style. Looking forward to upcoming videos

[@samiralerebours5829]

You're completely right. To me sewing gives me 2 hobbies pattern hoarding and actually sewing. It's hard for me to be realistic in buying the simple fabrics because I'm distracted by all the pretty prints that don't usually match the patterns I purchase... Also, where is your dress from? Did you make it?

[@StephSewn]

I'm wearing a camisole actually- it's the Trille Top from Knitting for Olive 😊

[@garden4561]

Great video - the voice of common sense.

[@cherylmccutchan1282]

I also adore prints and do the same thing that you do: go crazy with the print on a shirt or vest but leave the bottoms/jackets in solids or very small patterns (herringbone, checks, stripes) in neutral colors with not a lot of contrast. I am a huge fan of silk and have committed to taking care of my silk creations in the manner they need.

[@juliewilliams5146]

Love the advice about basic colors on the bottom and more colorful tops and dresses! This has been my fashion philosophy forever. It allows so much flexibility in my wardrobe and usually draws attention up toward my face where people can see who I really am, not just what I'm wearing. Thank you for so many great and logical tips.

[@SoSarahSewed]

Fab video, thank you!

[@einahpets]

YES!! This needed to be said! You explained it all so eloquently but practically at the same time. It's so easy to get caught up in trends and the aesthetics that are being presented to us, and I've been really trying to reflect on how I actually feel wearing the garments in my closet so that I can be more intentional about what I choose to add next. Puff sleeves have been huge in RTW and the sewing community and look great on others, but they do NOT make me feel good, so have come to that useful realization. Just discovered your channel today and immediately subscribed. Looking forward to watching through your other videos!

[@StephSewn]

I'm with you on puffed sleeves, esp when they are short and gathered at the cuff. Reminds me too much of little girls dresses on me!

[@christinem281]

Hello from London….Love your video, very thought provoking …I guess we all need to think about making a more “intentional wardrobe” and not get carried away buying beautiful fabrics that may not be right for us! But OH the constant zooming in and out of your video drive me nuts! 😂🤣

[@karolmolpus9536]

Yes, totally agree. Everything comes back in time.

[@overallsandivy]

I’m just getting into sewing some clothes for my own and this was so helpful!!! Thanks!

[@faerypaws]

Wow. This is exactly what I needed to hear! Thank you for the perspective ❤

[@knotsandneedlescrafts]

Loved this video. I get so taken in my new releases and social media. I really try and think will I actually wear this item enough times to justify the pattern and the fabric. I want to own patterns that will get made multiple times.

[@libbyheeren]

This video was GREAT! First time I've seen you in my feed and I'm so glad I clicked! I struggle so much with even knowing what I like. I have a unique/less common body shape, and nothing seems to look good on me. I sit there and wrack my brain trying to think of what shapes or proportions to look for, and I often end up making nothing since my mock up looks so crappy on me 😅

[@StephSewn]

You got this! Let me know if you ever want any recommendations. Once you find the fit adjustments which work best for you, you can play around with new styles without fear. P.s. good for you for actually taking the time for mockups!

[@karolmolpus9536]

Well done….classic with a twist!!!🎉

[@collfitzpatrick]

This is so insightful!!! Thanks for helping us be mindful about what we’re consuming and creating and putting money and effort into.

[@itssewxtra1713]

New subscriber! Thanks for being here! I watched your entire playlist this afternoon! You got me through a really weird moment so thanks. You are uniquely interesting and amazing. With very little thought, the way I think about trends? I love looking at trends, IG etc., but in the words of Cartman, I do what I want! I’m a prunk. I love edgy, masculine lines with feminine ultra girlie touches. I also love my vintage patterns. The 1970s in particular (late 60s too). I think I have all of the ones you’ve featured, plus hundreds more. I went through a crazy shop goodwill period. Now how about those 80s? Yikes! Anyway so great to meet you!

[@tammipacker1782]

Great video! Thank you for the tips. Practical is appreciated.

[@theanonymity9038]

First video of yours I’ve seen, and have subscribed…what a great topic…really well thought through and communicated, I’m looking forward to seeing more of your content. Thank you!

[@philippatill9727]

This all makes so much sense. Thank you!

[@megandell4]

👍great ideas on where to find new inspiration!! Thanks for this video

[@alicecameron7176]

Excellent advice!

[@susanhemion2981]

This was sooooo needed. Thank you!

[@buzzi2k]

Totally agree!

[@cathleenvance4441]

This video was so helpful to me. I just realized that I have quite a few pieces I've made that look great hanging in my closet but I never wear them. What hit home to me was when you asked the question, "do you really like the garment, or is it the esthetic that is calling to you". I am really going to make some changes. I've started giving a good bit of my hand made clothing to friends and family that will actually wear them and I'm starting from scratch and really take a good long look at what I'm attracted to in the way of patterns and fabric. There are lots of styles that I love but they just don't look good with my body type.

[@Maria-yf8fp]

I'm so glad I found your channel, this video is very helpful!

[@imagineitqll]

Thanks! I’m taking the leap into sewing my own wardrobe and this is the exact type of video I was looking for. Subscribed!

[@ibelieveinpandas]

100% with you on everything! Especially separating the background from the actual outfit and envisioning how that would translate to my life (or not!) I find it useful to look at my closet and see how a project would fit within what I already have and wear. Also noticing what I don't wear and why: I love pretty prints but they overwhelm me, same with anything that has too much volume. I can admire those garments on others but know not to spend time trying to make them work for me.

[@StephSewn]

This is so true! I have the same feeling on volume. It ends up being not very wearable for me- I can't wear 5 yards of fabric to the grocery store 😅