Making Friends in Your 30s in Washington DC is NOT EASY

[@targetegrat]

As you get older people get too competitive. You think people are your friends until you buy your dream car/house. You finally get the big job that you wanted. Then all the hate and envy comes out to the light. The truth is most people don't like it when you are doing better than them.

[@Canoncorey]

Yea, I've noticed that plenty of times.

[@DemetriT1]

Yep. I don't compare myself to others. I just like to maintain myself and maybe try to build myself up when I can.

[@DCsWiseMan]

You are a brave good brotha, you have the courage to say what I’ve always wanted to say. I appreciate you sharing your experiences. DC is not a friendly place in my opinion it’s extremely competitive it helps you develop thick skin, people are essentially cool underneath the exterior but you have to stay in the zone and on point here. The energy is everything in DC people be really be tapped in. It’s a lot of trauma here and community wise it’s always subject to change because it’s such a transient city, so it’s hard to really get settled here, when you focus on your money everything just tends to make sense, I’m naturally a nice person but I had to readjust how I move cause you can’t be expecting that good ole southern hospitality here bro. 💪🏽

[@Canoncorey]

It's sad that you had to adjust to how people are here. I totally understand why though. That's why I just choose to dibble and dabble here and there. Soon as people act weird with me I move on.

[@therealmicmountain]

All you need is a few core friends that you can count on

[@Canoncorey]

That's it. Thats all I'm trying to find.

[@therealmicmountain]

@@Canoncorey keep searching you will find who and what you need in time

[@BeeboiZam]

I'm from the Washington DC area and grew up there. A lot of my friends I have there are people I grew up with in the area. If you are a new, transient guy coming into town, the thing is that lots of people hang out with people in their established circles so it is kinda hard to make new friends there. I left the area a long time ago though and have become a passport bro. It's a lot easier to make friends abroad that's for sure. :)

[@Canoncorey]

Yea, I’ll be taking a lot more trips soon. I look forward to meeting new people that way.

[@MotivationalMovements]

🎯

[@BolingreenMacon]

I feel you about the unfriendliness in the area. I grew up in MA so living in this area isn’t much different. People just tend to keep to themselves for the most part. I tend to see anyone who is overly friendly as a red flag. I don’t like just chatting with strangers as I don’t know what kind of response I’ll get and I’d rather just not deal with a random hello to just get ignored. People in this area are very self absorbed so I just keep to myself. I’ve been all over the country, and the South seems fake to me with the unwarranted hellos and fake friendliness. If you ever wanna chill, I live in your area and I’m always down to meet up. I don’t drink anymore but I still like to get out.

[@Canoncorey]

Thanks bro, I might just take you up on that offer, I need more friends.

[@BolingreenMacon]

I’ve got you. I live down at CityCenter so I’m around.

[@bbass004]

I feel you! You pretty much hit it on target man. I just moved from oversees to back in the DMV area; but, unfortunately not by choice. Anywho, I am from the DMV (Alexandria to be exact) area and it is not as easy as making friends as you mentioned. Have you tried going to church and joining small groups or going to church like activities outside the establishment? The majority of people move here for money to work for the government. People are very motivated by money who move here. Not realizing the quality of life gets compromised in a significant way. Specifically, dating and building personal relationships when you move to an area motivated by the annual salary. You will grow tremendously professionally in this area; but, personally the development can be a steady low progress. Living in this area can really limit your personal development growth. Choose wisely my brotha! Appreciate the channel! Will continue to support.

[@Canoncorey]

Thanks. I have to admit that I'm one of the many who fell victim to moving here because of how good the money is. I didn't expect my social life to get hit like this. I'm still trying to figure it all out.

[@nerdbamarich2063]

Always appreciate your insight my brotha ✊🏾

[@Canoncorey]

I just try to keep it real.

[@kwadwok]

What you think about Baltimore? I definitely agree on what you’re saying about DC, I lived there for a while. Baltimore is way more inviting imo.

[@Canoncorey]

Baltimore is easier to make friends, but I've learned they come as more of an acquired taste.

[@tabmcgee0519]

Similar feelings moving from Nashville to Seattle. 🥴 Been here for 5 years and the environment is just not a fit for my spirit. #GETOUT Turning 35 next year and joy in its fullest capacity is my priority.

[@Canoncorey]

The south is just different when it comes to meeting people and hospitality.

[@platinumuranium]

Great video! I haven't spent much time in the south but I lived in the northeast my whole life. It is common for people to give you the cold shoulder (not everyone does). It can get isolating if you can't find your group of people or at least people who are mutually interested in being friends for the long term. DMV appears amazing but if people aren't open then being alone in the city with lots to do does not seem worth it.

[@Canoncorey]

I've been trying different groups as well as starting my own. I'm sure I'll find a tribe one day. Until then I'm taking trips.

[@CourtNiYee]

I think I remember seeing your intro post in a local group…

[@Canoncorey]

That had to be months ago

[@CourtNiYee]

@ now that I couldn’t tell you but I’m pretty great at remembering faces.

[@loriwooten800]

I moved to San Diego from the DMV and to be honest I been here for three years and am just making a good group of friends. I felt the same way you feel about DC. Adjusting to a new environment where people are different and have a different way of living is not easy no matter where you go. I live in “sunny San Diego” and the people here are very stand offish to be honest I fell into a depression I had to figure things once I did things started falling into place. Give it time you will find your tribe.

[@Canoncorey]

I’ve spent some time in San Diego as well. It’s a little different out there there. Much more chill.

[@loriwooten800]

@ and dirty , trash and shopping carts everywhere lol

[@perceptionisreality6769]

I grew up in La my whole life the west coast the same especially La we are like new York’s cousins very unfriendly 😂 I was raised different so I felt how you felt in dc I even feel lowkey the same in dallas dallas isn’t the south in my opinion. Considering your experiences out there are you beginning to miss Houston bro?

[@Canoncorey]

Ahh Idk yet. I low key miss the women look in Houston and the weather, but that's about it.

[@curtisfields2702]

It sounds like to be honest man. You need to move back to Houston. Don't move someplace just because of a job. Sometimes you just have to look at the overall way of life

[@Canoncorey]

The money is wayyy too good lol

[@thomasroberts8505]

It's not the place, it's your age bro. Up through your 20's, your value's are different and friendships are easy because its all about fun. 30's 40's 50's you start to look for people of substance, and you are more aware of time wasters. Remember, "no matter where you go, there you are"...This is coming from a man who was born and raised in Baltimore until I was 32, left and moved to NY until I was 40, then I moved to Dallas and am now 55, and seriously thinking of moving to the DMV.

[@Canoncorey]

You make some valid points about evolving values and becoming more discerning in your 30s.

[@ershiafrancois3571]

Being along is the answer, is a word. I've decided to just give up lol

[@Canoncorey]

I don’t blame you, smh

[@lorinlovely4947]

See if they have a urban league young professional chapter in DC.

[@Canoncorey]

Good idea

[@varey_farrari4790]

Why you want friends? Just go out meet ppl and kick it with strangers. Those be the best experiences.

[@Canoncorey]

I usually have no problem meeting strangers but a lot of time people are disconnected from reality on their phones and I don't want to disturb them.

[@AyeBrooke]

I jy feel bad for you because you are experiencing a new dc. ppl are not as friendly or inviting as they used to be.

[@Canoncorey]

So I keep hearing smh...

[@lamontevlogs]

why not create your own facebook group with specific things "30's, types of shit you think people would be interested in" etc... not for me, ubt you seem pretty social/extroverted so that could work for you

[@Canoncorey]

I do have a FB group. The link is in the description.

[@Canoncorey]

S/o to Kia Jamila. She's the KZbinr I linked up with when I first moved to DC kzbin.info/www/bejne/oZTKZZSCpKl6g9Esi=zP2hEK8QjvPCifDn

[@itsSandrahere]

When you stop expecting "southern hospitality" in the east coast, then, and only then, will you learn to embrace the DC culture. Just because someone doesn't stop to say hi to you or have what you consider "southern hospitality" doesn't make them rude. I've made plenty of friends here and I've found the people to be friendly but it takes time. You can't expect everyone to be your bestie in two days. I'm originally from the south and honestly, will never go back to reside! Visiting the south is always dreadful, as the culture there is complacent, people stop you to talk about nonsense and it's sooo annoying. DC is a very unique place that has a lot to offer and the hustle and bustle is great. So, no, I will not stop to say hi to someone when I have places to go. Mind your business, embrace the area for what it has to offer, and you'll start attracting what's yours. Every where you go will be different with its own idiosyncrasies. So, be more open minded and shift your mindset. You'll start seeing things differently. Good luck.

[@Canoncorey]

Definitely trying to shift my mind but it's easier said then done. I don't want to let this place change who I am socially.

[@odu2014]

Take yo ass back to the south then... DC is lit lol

[@Canoncorey]

DC is NOT lit. Just about everywhere is better than this place socially.

[@etf42]

its rare and unrealistic to make friends in your 30s. friends are created in your formative years

[@Canoncorey]

It's not going to stop me from trying.

[@youtubegarbage4u]

dont you have onsite 9-5 in DC? how will you be traveling?

[@Canoncorey]

I work for the government. We get tons of days off