Starting Therapy?? What Teens Can Expect

[@activelivingchallenger4298]

I think the problem is even if a kid learns coping skills and gets therapy at the end of the day they have to go home to a house that may be emotionally abusive. You hope the skills will have an influence on the family but sometimes parents need to learn how to parent.

[@mallorygrimste]

That is a very real possibility for some kids and families, however assuming that it's only one person's or people's responsibility can lead to some problematic experiences in and out of the therapy room.

[@MechaJutaro]

Yeah.Add to that the fact that the sort of parents you're describing excel at conning therapists, by inundating them with "Poor me" stories which paint the child as Damien Thorne come to life, and themselves as the abused party

[@gaurs230]

Exactly how does no one talk about these things

[@charlesperez9976]

I would like to say something. You,Mallory,are not driving for KZbin fame,not seeking millions of views. No. You are seeking to connect,to communicate with even just one young person,to bring that much needed joy. You are a hero. ☺️

[@charlesperez9976]

I would love to hear what you have to say😊

[@bunny.bones111-rj5xx]

i wish i came across this like 5 days ago! i was so not prepared for all the very personal questions my therapist asked me, and it was really hard to talk about it, but i'm glad i came across it now as i am going to be going weekly :)

[@liluwish]

thanks for the video!! i have my first appointment tomorrow. also your voice is rlly calming.

[@mallorygrimste]

Yay!!! So happy for you taking the time for you!! 💕

[@akirawallace9644]

I’m glad I found your video!! My name is Akira, and I’m 21 years old. I would honestly say when covid started my mental health went downhill… it affected what I thought was my “dream job”. I quit after one year so that I could take a break on my brain. I’m getting my Insurance in June and will be able to go to the doctor, dentist, and hopefully start therapy soon to talk about why I feel like this.. I cry all the time and sometimes it seems like no reason, I’m down on myself a lot more now, and I always am just sitting in the house on my days off. I want to be able to text my friends comfortably and tell them how I feel. I don’t want to push them away but I’m struggling with myself mentally to not go out as much anymore. I feel like maybe some help on my own skill growths, and medication may help me out a lot. I also need to talk to my mom and be open about everything I’ve been feeling besides my mood feeling unbalanced. Thank you for your videos again!! 🙏🏽💕

[@mallorygrimste]

so glad you found these videos too! Thank you for sharing about your experience- I think the pandemic hit everyone pretty hard in different ways and we're seeing the ripple effects. Glad you're taking care of yourself!!

[@CocoDrawingLove_yourself]

I just doesn't feel so much anymore, not so hungry anymore, crying for no reason. But i don't know how to say to say that to my parents

[@mallorygrimste]

sounds like you're going through a lot and I'm so glad you're wanting to talk to your parents. I have a video that walks you through how to do this right here: "Feeling DEPRESSED!? Here’s How to Tell Your Parents {and Get Help!}" kzbin.info/www/bejne/gYWwmIKModGmbtU

[@sammyyy911]

Sounds like you have depression. Just tell your parents that you feel depressed and hopefully they can get you the help you deserve. Please try not to be ashamed. Remember, it takes courage to admit that you’re not doing well. It’s a sign of strength, not a weakness. I started therapy last month for my depression and anxiety and it has been such a blessing. It might feel weird or uncomfortable to share all your personal experiences but they’re there to help you help yourself. I really hope you get help. EVERYBODY deserves to be happy! 🫶

[@Sebster4r]

I'm literally shaking I start my intake in few hours my mom got me a therapist in the same line hers is from 😭 I'm so scared I'm worried to actually about the question part because I have hurt myself a few times and wanted to well you know. But I hope it's not gonna get me put in a mental hospital and starved like I have been seeing on social media my therapy is off zoom some people will say that's good but it's just scaring me more :(

[@mallorygrimste]

Oh I hope it went well!! My apologies I'm just getting a chance to see and respond to this a few days later. How did it go? As for the concern about going to a hospital and starving, I can safely say as someone who worked for many yearssss in a local psychiatric hospital and emergency department setting that starvation is not what happens in those places. Of course that's just my working experience, but every place is different. One more thing- could you remove your age from the comment? We don't want young people being targeted on here. Thank you!!! Proud of you.

[@Sebster4r]

@@mallorygrimste Ofc! And it went okay I got kinda uncomfortable but i still went with it

[@mallorygrimste]

Yay!!! It won’t always feel so uncomfortable. Proud of youuuuu!!! 🙌

[@-L-Ratio-]

Thanks a ton! My doctor has recommended me to a therapist and I have an appointment in two weeks and I’m super nervous about it, again thanks a ton!

[@mallorygrimste]

So glad you’re getting help! I hope it’s a great experience 😊 thanks for sharing. Do you mind removing your age from your comment though? We don’t want young people being targeted here. Thanks!!

[@sillygoose2347]

My moms making me go to therapy and I really don’t want to go because I hate it when people ask me questions like that so so much even if it’s a small question, I don’t think I’ll be able to “do” therapy and I don’t want my mom to waste her money but idk what to do

[@mallorygrimste]

LOVE that you know that about yourself already. Make sure to eat your therapist know that early on. There are lots of different therapy styles so letting your therapist know what works and doesn’t work for you can help them adjust to your needs. They may still ask questions bc it is a form of communication, can’t eliminate questions entirely, but we can get pretty creative in working with our clients. Lucky you for already knowing this!! Most people don’t even know what works for them yet so you’re on a head start 😊

[@mallorygrimste]

*let not eat your therapist lol it won’t let me edit the comment for some reason 🙈

[@Simplepractice]

Great video! Thank you for helping educate about the process of starting therapy. -Travis

[@mallorygrimste]

Thank you so much Travis! Love using your practice management system for my practice. My clients love it, too!

[@svnnahtafireyi]

love this video, just subbed!!

[@mallorygrimste]

Yay! Thank you! 🫶

[@kayaissimo]

My mom wants be to get a therapist, so I found 5-6 therapists in my area. I made a list, hopefully I can mention my symptoms of ADHD and stuff because my mom won’t listen :( I’m excited and scared.

[@mallorygrimste]

That’s awesome your mom is supportive and you’ve found some therapists to connect with. They’ll assess your experience and let you know if you qualify for a diagnosis- but more importantly than that they’ll help you navigate your problem areas- regardless of the diagnosis. How did it go?

[@kayaissimo]

@@mallorygrimste I haven’t gone yet. My mom is still trying to figure it out.

[@mallorygrimste]

If you need help, I have a great video about finding a good therapist here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/o4mvmnqOj7Wepassi=mrBGJkQzSayISoxI And if you happen to be in the US this video walks through how to see if your health insurance can help pay for therapy: kzbin.info/www/bejne/bKi4hmWFfZhmqaMsi=onpi8l7W27USlGgr Good luck!!

[@kadence1artist749]

Will you do a short of you office tour

[@mallorygrimste]

Ooh I love this idea! Stay tuned…

[@kadence1artist749]

@@mallorygrimste thanks

[@kadence1artist749]

@@mallorygrimste will you do a future video of anxiety for going too a new school

[@mallorygrimste]

Therapy Office tour #shorts is live here: kzbin.infot_jibk-KlBM

[@kadence1artist749]

Omg thank you

[@Olivia_C28]

I have my first appointment in about 2 weeks. I have tried therapy in the past but it has never gone anywhere because my mother won’t let me talk about the things I need to talk about. Do you have any advice on how I can deal with this? Apparently she has to be present for the first few sessions and I feel it won’t go anywhere again because I won’t be able to open up.

[@mallorygrimste]

I really hope your first appointment went well!! I'm a bit behind on responding to comments but wanted to let you know that I actually featured your comment in this week's video where I responded to your comments :) you can watch it here: kzbin.info/www/bejne/qqbPonZtp9x0q9k

[@humantalitycounseling]

You should call your therapist in secret and tell her this. So next appointment with your mom the therapist can tell her she needs to have some sessions with just you and maybe later your mom can join again.

[@nattstays]

If they ask about sewerside intentions or thoughts, is it okay to lie? I already am worried about going to a mental hospital for self harm, i have attempted 2 years ago and i have thoughts from time to time. But i do NOT intent to act on them. I do not want to tell her about my thoughts and attempted

[@mallorygrimste]

Hello- I just seen you asked a similar question on another video. Have you seen this one yet? How to tell your therapist when you feel suicidal (+ get help!) kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZKTlGucfrKBjdU I share exactly my process and what typically can happen when you share. That being said no one can stop you from lying, though I’d be curious why lie about something you’re seeking help for from a trained professional?

[@activelivingchallenger4298]

I have a friend that wants to do something like therapy but doesn't like being probed by questions. Would a dbt therapist be a better choice than cbt for them or something else?

[@mallorygrimste]

that's a great question- honestly most therapists are going to ask questions because our training is not to assume and to stay curious. If they're doing for more directive help then coaching, rather than psychotherapy, would make more sense. Tough to say without an actual clinical assessment though.

[@I_LOVE_THE_WORD_SHAMPOO]

Im starting therapy bc i tried to kms

[@mallorygrimste]

so sorry you're struggling with that- glad you're getting help and taking care of your mental health 🫶 I know it can be difficult to talk about that, even with your therapist, so I've got a great video on that if you're interested. It's called "How to tell your therapist when you feel suicidal (+ get help!)" and here's the link to watch it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZKTlGucfrKBjdU

[@dyingrat9]

Will a parent be present for the first appointment?

[@mallorygrimste]

Hmmm not sure why my video response didn’t post- but I made this for you :) Do parents have to be present for the first therapy appointment? Therapist answers kzbin.info6dUNkrWgFqs?feature=share

[@dyingrat9]

@@mallorygrimste thanks so much!