Man Enough Episode 3 - The Ugliness of Body Image

[@azhdsn1978]

I cannot believe these videos are even happening. As a woman, I've been praying for this for my male friends because I do see them struggling silently. I also love the fact that the recognition of privilege. These videos are answered prayers. Thank you

[@Elparvar]

And you have zero problem with the fact that there are 0 fat men in this conversation.

[@chrisd_85]

As an overweight guy who was bullied repeatedly as a kid and a teen about my weight, it has destroyed my confidence and my self worth. Im 34 and have never taken my shirt off in public. I cant even do it at home. I can spend hours in front of the mirror and just end up crying. I cant get a girlfriend cause women are either repelled by fat guys or because i hate my body so much and have no confidence within myself, that girls can sense it and are turned off. Im almost at the point of sucicide.

[@iangf3830]

@est1985 ! I feel you man! You are beautiful the way you are. I'm sure! Find clothes that suit you and search for fotos os guys your size that look and dress good, make it your own style, maybe this will help you

[@ineedmorehobbies4853]

@@chrisd_85 I'm sorry to hear that! There are so many people who know how you feel and I know you will find a girl someday. You are handsome and you deserve to live. Don't give up hope.

[@wldwon]

@@chrisd_85Get some professional help ...Deepak Chopra says there are 2 types of eating ,1 because you are hungry 2 emotional eating ....also I was always an angry man and when I turned 33 started to meditate ....it changed my life for the better. I am more aware of life and I now like myself even more ..slowly slowly you will feel better .Don't let the past pain dictate the rest of your life ....peace

[@almabrooks5177]

I’m loving these videos. As a woman who struggles with the way men see me, it helps to really understand how they view themselves and it helps give me more confidence.

[@sarah7755]

Alma Brooks yeah. Cause we all know men have insecurities, but you never get to hear them speak about it.

[@Kabullo76]

it helps to really understand how they view themselves and it helps give me more confidence. No sorry , not at all how these dudes VIEW themselves, these dude cant speak for all the men

[@anxel763]

Now u know our secret

[@laminediallo9014]

This show is so smart, this needs to be on television

[@okterlox0]

Lamine Diallo may I compliment the courage you are showing by saying this

[@beautybyamyx]

It needs to be everywhere

[@goshenqueen]

I fucking love this entire series and everything you stand for. Ugh it just makes me so inspired to start these conversations!

[@robinanna5531]

“I want my son to be better than me.” -> “I want my son to be himself, truly himself, his whole authentic self”.

[@MrJaybeezy123]

This channel is criminally underrated and I'm baffled that Noone realizes this is Anderson Silva, one of, if not THE greatest, mixed martial artists of all time. Just makes this conversation even better.

[@LSDVlog]

So ironic, 'cause most of the comments below are from women. That kinda show us the lack of interest of mens into sharing our feelings, being vulnerable and all that stuff that women are so use to. I've been trying to bring those moments onto the conversations, but it's so hard! Mostly, i guess, not because of others mans, but actually because of ME. Because of my self constructed image of the emotional strong guy, the wise one, of this evolve being. So that image basically creates a shell of glass, that shows to other what i want them to see. That creates a comfort zone that can be easily shredded by being vulnerable, and to being open to conversations like those. The whole point of this episode of Man Enough, for me of course, is synthesized in being comfortable in the uncomfortable. Cheers from Brazil! (Great to see Anderson Silva there!)

[@ineedmorehobbies4853]

I commend you for your courage for sharing. You are so brave!

[@tatyannagois]

Loved this conversation! As a Brazilian, I've followed Anderson Silva's work for ages, but I would've never imagined he has those issues with his body. Great group of people, great interviews with the doctors, great discussion. And Javier, you are a gift to the world!

[@Kabullo76]

Silva has issues with steroids , multiple times....

[@felipuno9235]

He doesnt have these issues,. He was paid allot of money to come to a show and pretend to be a woman.

[@montourigirl]

So happy his wife loves his nose as is! Totally agree. The imperfections are the perfections.

[@chrisd_85]

As a 34 year old guy who is overweight and has been bullied my whole childhood and in my teens, this video hit my soul. Im dying inside every day because of my body. I cant live my life like i want too. No girls are attracted to me and i have no confidence. I have anxiety issues cause im so scared about what ppl think of me and my body which has lead to physical problems where i sweat so much due to so much anxiety running through me. I fantasise about being slim. About what it would feel like to go to the beach and take my shirt off. Im almost in tears as im writing this. Its killing me and I JUST WANT TO LIVE!!

[@wldwon]

Go get some professional help ...I started to meditate when I was 33 is helped me ..I now drink alot less ...I understand my anger and also like myself and life alot more ...remember to cross the street it takes one step at a time ...peace man

[@cemo4642]

You will make it...believe me ...start it today...go or search on interntet or ask family members who really cares of you ...or persons who you trust....go get help...wish you good luck from a stranger who believes in you

[@melissarodriguez5391]

What I love the most about this videos is that even women can relate and that we also see the point of view in a man perspective that makes us value guys more. Because you put down your “big man shield” and finally let us see the real you which is more appealing to us.

[@vincentespinoza7097]

This series is a gift to the world, thank you so much.

[@MsMiaAlexis]

What a refreshing and much needed conversation among men. By the way, Justin please never change your nose. It's perfect. Keep these conversations going.

[@jewelslove2200]

THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR THIS. I SWEAR THIS REALLY HELPS WOMEN SEE MEN IN A NEW LIGHT. MORE HUMANE, MORE RELATABLE, MORE COMPASSION, MORE LOVE AND RESPECT. THANK YOU ALL FOR SPEAKING YOUR HUMAN TRUTHS IN A WORLD WHERE FAKE BECOME THE NEW NORMAL.

[@paramshah6376]

This made me so much more comfortable about my own body, because I have big hips. And being a man, you are not “supposed to” have that. Thank god for you all. Thank you so much ❤️❤️. Absolutely adore you all. Thank you 🙏🏻

[@HubertOuellet]

Hey Param, don’t worry about how your body isn’t “what” you’d prefer - you are enough. Your “hips” makes you who you are. I don’t know you, but I’m sure you’re a super cool dude. Enjoy what your body gives you : life, waking up in the morning and being in the world. Peace bro ✌🏻

[@paramshah6376]

@@HubertOuellet thank you 😊. Hope you have a beautiful day today.

[@juandiegorosero4178]

This videos are amazing, as a 14 year old teen, this has really helped the way I perceive my personality, knowing that I am man enough and it's okay to show vulnerability, Thank You All

[@savvyjd]

This is why Matt is one of the few 'celebrities' I follow on social media. While it is great that women are watching to connect and better understand the male perspective of men, I wish this comments section had more male commentary (positive/negative). I love this initiative and hope more episodes come out!

[@MsChazbaz]

This series is so so important. I want to send every episode to the men in my life because it's just so amazing. Keep doing what you're doing

[@justalejac2386]

Thank you to you Justin and All the men at the table for being open and vulnerable. You are not only helping other men to be aware of their own insecurities and fight them back, but also you are helping women to see that we need and we can support our partners to overcome those insecurities. Thank you for open a door for he future generation of men and women! Please make more of these videos!!!

[@kaylina081]

Dang. This is one intense, emotional 40 something minutes. I WISH MORE PEOPLE would speak this candidly- let alone men. Love this serious so absolutely much. Thank you. Just….Thank you.

[@gopherbroke0078]

I love this whole series, so good to see men discussing these things openly, makes me feel like it'll be easier to discuss these things with my friends

[@julietgichuki9401]

I wish me and my friend would be the flower set up on this table to listen first hand and fell the energy of this Panel Thanks Justin for this. Definitely sharing this the men in my life.

[@lamiokorlamiokor]

Another awesome video! ❤️ Justin what you're doing has made me speechless and emotional. You're really using your influence for good. I knew the internet had to have some relevant important stuff. Sometimes I feel like social media makes the world feel so shallow and tiny. It's suffocating but with your channel and ideas, it's so refreshing. Love you dude. ❤️

[@Chris-rt8rd]

This is a really good way to talk about the issues we as men face nowadays. It doesn't make it easier when stories and movies describe the ideal body of a prince or a king. As a student, this has an effect on me, and I'm truly happy to be following this series and discuss topics that men are too nervous to talk about. But one thing is clear, change is happening. At university, more guy students are aware of these issues and are willing to talk about it. We just need that little push in that direction. Thank you so much for the series!

[@nathanjohnson6180]

What a helpful discussion. As a man who was teased for excess breast tissue in my youth, I can see myself in these individuals. Couple years back went on vacation to Mexico and never took my shirt off at the beach. Grown ass man here.

[@TaylorsTypicalLife]

Convo at 22:00 blew my mind

[@user-cu2gp2py9v]

Everything about this show is fascinating and, in my mind, important. Thank you to the people who brought this into being and will hopefully keep it going.

[@sselfless]

As a man, everything about this show is misguided and inaccurate in describing my lived experience.

[@dr.braxygilkeycruises1460]

Every one of these Man Enough shows are so vital to growth!!! And it's not just for men; it is for all of us. By getting deeper and understanding ourselves, we can better reach out to others. Thank you so much Justin Baldoni!

[@LuisaPlantierMartins]

Justin, that crazy plastic surgeon! Do not do anything to your PERFECT NOSE!!!! Honestly? It is what makes you most handsome, and unique! KEEP IT AS IS!!!!!

[@valhalla1240]

I also feel like there is even a deeper level of body-image-issues that has to do with ethnicity. While I find his face absolutely handsome, I get the nose-issues, because my face looks kind of like his (except I'm female). In the past couple of months I realised that most of my body-image-issues don't actually derive out of sexism, but rather out of racism. Like, I'll avoid anything that makes me look more like an immigrant. For example: too much jewellery, too bold colours, too much make up, acrylic nails, etc. I wonder if that's the root of his nose-issues too.

[@JKnight1316]

He basically said that, when he moved to a predominantly "anglo" featured community of blue eyes, blond hair etc he felt left out.

[@christinebernadin4057]

I wish the teenage me could have watched this. I struggled with body image issues all my life. I honestly thought men did not have that same issue. If I had known maybe my struggles wouldn't have been so difficult and, felt at that time, isolating. Thank you, thank you for all those teenagers male and female that are walking in my shoes today.

[@mimigisa1]

I so love these. It helps me get a better understanding of your vulnerabilities and what scares you and how human you are just like us women. So grateful that you are doing this. These videos should be promoted so much more!!! Keep it coming Justin.

[@DIY-dog]

Liking the mix of great discussions at the table and with scientists

[@marinakeza5141]

THIS WAS AMAZING TO WATCH! Definitely life changing. So many men need to watch this. I pray this gets ALL the attention it should get, on social media !!!!!! LET'S SHARE IT!!!!!!!

thanks so much for the initiative of bringing those topics to light! Keep up the good stuff, MEN!

[@Pippi-rippi]

We need more of these. This is outstanding, really. Such an important conversation that changes peoples lives, really.

[@JivanNavij]

Thank you so much for this beautiful work of art. Really bring a smile to my face to see these conversations are happening.

[@DIY-dog]

Bless his wife and her support

[@emmajaynefischer]

Fellow humans send a link of these talks to the people in your life, classmates, work colleagues, kids...etc. understanding is essential for change.

[@kmienfoli]

please more!!! I love this serie :) it's refreshing to hear men talk abt these subjets, it's about time :D thank you

[@gamesinfoprofile]

I love that people are having these conversations and sharing them with the rest of the world. You are amazing. Keep up the great work. 👍👍👍

[@rickysandwich]

Thank you for this series! Really great discussions that, as man, we need to be having with each other. Also, fun fact: I went to high school with Justin's sister.

[@ShoroukA]

This is so beautiful! 6:26 I agree soooo much! Sometimes the compliment becomes the pressure that drives body image issues!

[@VisualArt3D]

This series is awesome. It's about time we talk about these issues

[@VathayYaing]

"I HAVE NO LIPS AT ALL" lol

[@moaolsson5763]

Watched this a couple of years ago and then found it again. . I showed it to some of my friends whom consider them self being male.. And we talked. Thanks for opening up for this conversation.

[@ascott2168]

AWESOME !!!! More of this is needed amongst men of different backgrounds, sexual orientations and gender identities !!! Fantastic job Justin.

[@sselfless]

I found this cringy as hell, and yes I'm a man.

[@vesnny]

This series is amazing and so very needed. I love the diversity of voices.. so many interesting and inspiring thoughts ❤️

[@isa_degrain]

Honestly, I would like to say thank you to you guys for taking the time to talk. It just increases my perspective on what men actually go through. That they are more than their facades. It is easy to make assumptions on someone when one doesn't take the time to ask or even listen. And that, as a woman, I am guilty of. So Thank you x

[@garimagupta908]

Oh! Thank God...Please continue having these conversations. 💖

[@itshoneychilee]

I absolutely love all this love and seeing the male perspective on so many different things that we never think about.

[@olgasummerhayes1353]

Loved this episode, and love love love the Dr. Roberto Olivardia input, would of love to hear more from him. It was really interesting to watch and hear guys thoughts and opinions about body image. The only time I felt like WTF was when Justin asked the plastic surgeon about his nose and the response was "Yeah, I would probably do it". Bloody hell, if you see a guy with a perfect face asking to "correct" something and you say "yeah, I would do it"... if that doesn't say "I will do anything as long as you pay me" than I don't know what else does. Or maybe it is just Hollywood... Justing - eat that pizza :)

[@rachelkapicak6215]

Love! I would also love to see a video where men and women together discuss this issue, because so much of body issues related to how the sex you're attracted to views you.

[@gloriamaknouni684]

Such an inspirational content, thanks Justin for creating this❤ we love this open and deep conversations

[@saiyantnick6911]

I cant believe more men dont watch this. It's a real shame. I'm sharing this, I'm going to push past the fear.

[@nicolasramirez4442]

Great learning experience, I love this conversations.

[@NuschBos99]

I love this series .... Please don't stop

[@Mrsq93]

I knew Justin must have some very deep rooted issues with his body image to keep himself so ripped and trim yet also open up about not being man enough. Let your braces dangle not worry about how you look so much we can all see the beautiful person you are within. This is what is important in life. Appearances are much more superficial. You are a beautiful soul!

[@lilychris811]

I'm really grateful for these videos. The number of times these men say they can't take their shirt off in public is telling: I too, can't take my shirt off in public, not even to feed my baby.

[@liiindzay4285]

I need more episodes!!!

[@mindtheprivacy]

I like how mindful and conscious of their words.

[@joejagu]

City-slicker related superficial values get promoted because of image-leveraging/beauty business, and more frequent comparisons with other people who rarely just use their bodies.

[@futurioza]

Thank you - just needed this today - 03-05-24

[@Decadentsounds]

I truly have so much hope for the future with these videos. Thank you so much for this!

[@jilliantierney8860]

As a woman who has struggled with severe body image issues for my entire life, this video really helped me. I have sometimes felt like my body image and self esteem issues were largely due to men's expectations of women aesthetically... but this video reminded me that this isn't necessarily a gender issue, it's an everyone issue. Men suffer from it too. I think it would be interesting for you to include a group of women in this discussion. I would volunteer!

[@n_knoxx3624]

So after watching a few of these episodes, I think its safe to say I have a massive crush on Matt. I mean a guy that is obviously self aware & secure in his masculinity that he can be so unapologetically vulnerable & articulate? Hubba hubba! #sploosh 😍

[@dutchjakes2728]

Hello I am male and I am on this journey just so y’all know. I think that unpacking toxic masculinity and opening up about feelings as men is going to get more and more prevalent. At least I hope so!

[@Gagoum17]

Third video I'm watching, haven't finished this one yet but wondering if they're going to mention the fact that commodification of beauty is the reason for much of these body image issues, especially as they mentioned it started in the 80's for men! Also, really love Matt's inputs, first time I'm actually learning about him outside of OITNB, and go man!

[@kevinjohnsamuel3565]

Mind = Blown. Brilliant. Just brilliant. - KJS

[@marishasmid]

i love all these man enough videos, hope they keep coming

[@michelleasana]

how crazy that justin baldonis nose is what i think gives him such an authentic beauty.

[@marissawilson4644]

I remember Justin's TedTalk. This show is incredible!! Keep going!!

[@MariaCAColombia]

i want to help with the spansh subtitles everyone needs to watch this

[@Daniwild1]

Thanks again guys! I have actually been jealous of men's bodies cause you guys are usually stronger than us even if you don't go to the gym. Two of my female relatives (actually four) of them were raped and so being strong was always important to me because I did not want that to happen to me and when my Dad said that no matter much I worked out that I could still be raped it kinda crushed me. I used to work out a lot, ran for miles and miles and wrestled competitively in high school I was really surprised that you guys have this issue because your bodies seem so much better than women's bodies, especially when I consider the fact that I can't have kids so I feel like my body is useless since that was the one way that women's bodies are "better" than male bodies. Sorry if this is TMI. Thank you for educating us women on this one because I was clueless that guys felt this way!

[@kenzylee6157]

I hope these videos will help men learn about themselves and also about how identical done of their inner problems are to the problems women face.

[@LilLion1818]

As a woman i learned so much about men. Thank you.

[@alseipel168]

I love that the pizza boxes show up on the table at the end! Have the pizza!

[@thereal_jaimelopez]

Hey brother man can you create more of these? I recently started working in the mental health field and man there are many young boys that need to hear this kind of talk. I'm definitely going to relay messages that I've heard here to the younger generation.

[@Heybriyana]

I love this series so much!

[@read2gainknowledge]

Absolutely love this. Great job

[@christianwust6155]

Loving this series, It is such an important topic and a extremely helpful while on this journey

[@Melissastu]

It amaze me that men also feel this way! i nver thought about it and i never heard of it so really thought that men were juste confortable in their bodies.

[@Kabullo76]

Maybe only these men , im comfortable in my body like all of my friends...american bullshit its not international at all .....

[@supererikman5331]

It does affect us too, we just keep quiet about when we should be talking about it more. Media portrays unrealistic images to boys as it does girls too. We are told that we all must look like fitness models with extremely chiseled muscles to be successful in life, while i think most men can get in good shape we are not all going to look like brad pitt in fight club and that is ok, even brad pitt himself couldn't keep that body for long.

[@supererikman5331]

You should also watch Channing Tatum's interview about his struggles with his body image. Alot of us have this issue, we have just been told to shut up about it.

[@kaoutermouslimhaliba7145]

only a few days ago, I watched this video about a guy complaining about all the filtres that phones have in their camera apps, he showed how his face looked like, with them and how it actually was,. His point was that, how are we going to feel good about ourselves if we use these filtres whenever we take pics?And how are we going to look at ourselves in the mirror and not feel miserable about our aspect, after seeing our "ideal" aspect in a picture? Glad that people are tking a stand about anything that does this kind of thing

[@hessaa743]

It's really an amazing show! Keep going guys!

[@mikemathieson3700]

This is so important for men to hear.

[@caramelfish1307]

This is so great. Thank you for having this discussion.

[@britemphuthi2980]

Blew my mind away.

[@arlettmontes7693]

I can not stop loving this content so much!!!

[@cindyanne5201]

I'm 19 and I pray I remember this when I'm in a relationship. I hope I love my husband like Justins wife loves him and can see this is not you just like that.

[@alexandracaswell7561]

When are more episodes releasing? These are amazing!!!!!

[@JustJRR]

Really excellent episode! I especially loved the parts where we got to hear how this impacted the gay panelist and trans man.

[@manpreetkaler74]

Love so much this episode, gives a lot of positive vibes :)

[@ashleycgb1341]

I love these and can’t wait to see more of these conversations!

[@blxssingss]

Honestly I'm really glad I gave this series a watch. I'll admit, I believed the stereotype of "Men don't think/care about their bodies! That's a woman thing!". As much as I like to think of myself as a progressive person, this is one of the things I'm going to call myself out on. As you probably guessed, yes I am a woman. And I'd be lying if I said my gender didn't affect my opinions on male body image. Until I started watching series like these, I assumed that men only thought about their bodies if they *actually* were overweight or someone who has to think of their looks all the time; like models. But I've thankfully seen the truth and man do I feel dumb. I started watching these videos a little bit before I met one of my closest male friends. He's been complaining a lot because he gained some weight over the summer and it's been bothering him. I didn't take him seriously at first due to 1) my own ignorance on the issue and 2) I didn't see that much of a difference in him. I thought he was complaining about something so trivial that only he seemed to really notice. So everytime he brought up that he wanted to lose weight or discomfort with his body I would roll my eyes and dismiss him by assuring him he looked fine. When I started educating myself, I started getting worried. I thought back to all the times he would mention some crazy diet he wanted to try or talk negatively about himself. It was then when I started realizing that to him, he was fat, and that was a problem in his eyes. I've started taking his concerns more seriously and assuring him that he's perfect as he is, extra weight and all. Hindsight is 20/20 and thinking back, had I not started validating his emotions, things could've taken a turn for the worse. My new approach is letting him know that he's a wonderful person, and that's ultimately what matters most to me about him. So now when starts saying things like "My face wasn't this wide before" or "Do you think I'd look better if I dropped a few pounds?" I respond with care and not cynicism. Everyone deserves to have their emotions be validated and feel loved/cared for. This series opened my eyes to that

[@cookinma]

Did this make anyone else think about the song from Crazy Ex-Girlfriend "Fit Hot Guys have problems too"???

[@EllaDeBorinquen]

Thanks

[@jenxwu]

You all are gorgeous for showing up.

[@DarronHilaireJr02]

Another amazing episode. I am curious to know what has become of these conversations and the men that have had them? I don't think you strike that level of vulnerability in a conversation and then it just disappears.

[@Victoria-kw4ht]

In my opinion, there's no exact definition of Body Image because it can be anything YOU wanted to be but society makes a "definition" for women to be skinny,curvy,thin or thick but it's not "okay" to have stretch marks or be a big girl, it's just insane for me.For men is to have abs and muscular with a strong jawline and things like that. Body image is everything and anything. ❤️

[@kailalucas1942]

prince E A i could listen to you for hours !!!!!!!

[@gmkar7766]

I have a hard time feeling bad about them considering the even greater pressures women face to look a certain way and also how the way we look as women determines our value as human beings. I accept that men face pressure too, but they will never feel it to the extent we do and in the way we do.