Managing Autism and ADHD in the Workplace: My Anxiety to be Understood

[@lt3943]

This sounds so much like me, thank you 🫂❤️

[@gkolson99]

I have never heard an explanation so to a T. The gumble of trying to re-explain clearer over and over

[@Martinroadsguy]

Remember everyone, your boss is never your friend.

[@Skorea77]

Holy cow! Thank you!

[@jamesmettauer9700]

Hello sir, what advice would you give to an individual experiencing harassment and discrimination in the workplace? Especially when that individual has tried for years to get it to stop, and has become hopeless that it ever will.

[@AuDHDBoss]

I’m so sorry this is happening. I can only advise from a general perspective, but first document everything. Emails, messages anything. Request any video meetings be recorded. Depending on what country you’re in you can go to HR and ask for reasonable accommodations, while that will not solve things, it can open the door to go back to HR after the accommodations to shows where both the accommodations are not being made and the bullying is happening. If you have enough documented evidence you can go to HR, but I would advise to manage expectations. HR is there to ensure the company stays compliant so it’s not a guarantee that they can fully put a stop to it. I am so sorry you’re feeling that hopelessness. If you have insurance I would advise looking for a therapist who is neurodivergent affirming. Often a good therapist will also have strategies to navigate this situation as well and can advise further

[@jamesmettauer9700]

@@AuDHDBoss Thank you for the advice sir. This will be the fourth time in 3 years I'm going back to HR. Although I live in the US, and served in the armed forces, it's incredibly depressing to see that laws surrounding ADHD discrimination are basically written in crayon. That the rules apply to some and are not applicable to everyone.

[@mytimedied8231]

Hey, I'm sorry for the incontinence while I wrote that paragraph , I wanted to try to vent cause people are perceiveing me as alot to bear you know😅😢, I'm human as you and wanted to vent for the first time without considering how others perceive it I'm just too overwhelmed and I don't know what is most likely to happen but it is also a good thinking process for me to let the other people know about the truth form that I have a problem regarding my self worth , I always thought that self worth is what others perceive of you, now I feel alittle bit freeing of my own shackles in my life(head and heart and soul) U just want to connect even to knowing some might not want to see, that is why I don't care for the Calculations people make of what I'm as a person , which unfortunately, people aren't open to this whole Idea, where I live but by being nice alongside , while not being kind, good for them.😊😢 Thank you for your kindness Mr really was too much to bear my own thoughts at a time , but forgiveness is a winner 🏆 be kind and no i'm not a lazy person just because I have audhd, thank U.

[@AuDHDBoss]

@@mytimedied8231 I understand the need you’re talking about. Most of us just want to be understood by our friends and feel seen and cared for by them. Being Audhd takes a lot of us. We have to use more energy, we need to navigate through many barriers. The best thing I can suggest is find the systems and routines that work best for you and your needs. I remind myself often that my brain works differently and because of that my style or approach is different. We each have different and unique brains and that’s a good thing. Hang in there.

[@mytimedied8231]

I know just how much I hated myself for those it's not I'm dumb or stupid and irrelevant 😢 hurt myself and blame others for it so bad I was so bad also I did blame myself for that so bad , and still not okay with it. scolded for th emotions or lacking I beat up myself mental that I stopped all together and choose numbing the emotions which only make them worse, I will no longer wish being as normal people's emotional clarity right away. P.s, It's is that good or okay for me to want to act like normal people act and expressions?😢

[@teresaharris-travelbybooks5564]

To be honest, just listening to this is giving me anxiety. Do you realize how much time you've wasted by rethinking what you've said; in the workplace? I don't think your co workers or manager really care about the finer points that are so important to you. I came here; looking for advice; about how a person can manage ADHD in the workplace. What you've just described, isn't managing. It's going deeper down the rabbit hole.

[@idlikemoreprivacy9716]

Indeed. The experience is valid, the title is misleading.

[@mytimedied8231]

I want to become a normal person does that different from a audhd person, I let myself down with my behaviours is this always how adhd will represent itself in community( in abnormal person which do not blend and develop even a level of interaction and intimacy towards normal people's emotional clarity and responds , and beyond curable and beyond fixing 💔 the brain right , I can't live with so much confusion and uncharitable I can't function normall, am I bad to society and to people I call friends, is it okay to have friends with out hurting them with my bluntness , am I too much to look at or bear with , am not an alien but some people looks at me with all puzzle and look down on me with my expressions and behaviour 's that they think is bit too overwhelming and go away , am too much to bear while within reach , it's to wrong to be me and fit in with the rest 💔 and be some way me, noone thinks of me as reliable, but the ones did not anymore but look of pity is horrible and heart breaking for me while do not know what's is that is wrong in me that so hard to open up to me as people normally do that look away amd I feel like iam outcast of any of their group of people 💔 who I want because they can help but frown upon , relationships are breaking for me , and I'm unreliable, why do I need to be reliable while they are not 🥲😭😢💔