Complaints Chinese Guys Have About Chinese Girls - Chinese Street Interview - Intermediate Chinese

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[@mau345]

“I am a wife slave. I like it very much!” 😂😂

[@laidbackuser]

I learned German using the same method, watching interviews on streets by Easy German, and it by far is one of the most effective ways to absorb a language naturally, keep it up!

[@slc4226]

This is the first of your videos I've seen. As an American Chinese, the most interesting thing for me was to learn more about mainland Chinese culture. That was a true friend who cautioned the speaker to think before he answered the question about "how is his mother controlling?". I also loved your explanations of Chinese colloquialisms.

[@declup]

Your interviews are excellent, Mandarin Corner. Slices of life in China that I wouldn't otherwise notice or take account of. Thank you.

[@fionaWhatever]

i am kinda surprised how many seem to be fine with more controlling behaviour (to a certain extent) - really interesting to hear. Other than that I think the complaint about "women don't say what they mean" etc pp. always leaves me wondering...because in my experience, if you do not act like that, and if you are a 'straight shooter' as a woman, you are on the flipside immediately seen as rude, not 'womanly' enough, and too aggressive. So i think there is a huge societal component as to why a lot of (straight) women therefore act or speak in a more indirect way. In any way, super helpful and interesting video, 谢谢您！

[@r6guy]

I don't think that's what they are saying. Like with western women, they may not be straight shooters but they will not try to hide how they are feeling just so they can get more angry at you. You will know right away if she is angry at you, at least from the perspective of an Eastern man who is used to dealing with Eastern women.

[@citoyenneteavanttout7273]

Thanks for stating facts. Men will demand that a woman be direct, and some even go all the way to speculating that women being agreeable is the reason why they get payed less/don't advance in their careers. But the minute a woman speaks up/is disagreeable, they'd say she's rude, loud, unhinged, emasculating 😅. And WORSE, if they are victims of assault because of that (the way the four women who were beaten incident) they are blamed for being too blunt and reckless. The pattern upon which men lean their reasoning will never cease to amaze me with how paradoxal it is. Take gor example : they say women get payed less because they work less. then another day they'd be saying feminism is pushed upon women to stop them from being mothers so the corporate has cheap labor, because apparently women work more for less (too agreaable) 😅😅😅 I don't know which one to trust

[@citoyenneteavanttout7273]

​@@r6guyAs an eastern man, you should know already that, in contrast with the west, women face severe consequences when they are blunt and disagreeable or when they don't stir the the pot. If you are too uncensitive to these women's trouble when you know pretty damn well that the eastern word is too harsh to women, you should tone it down about it. Because in the east most women have either nagging or their tears to express their frustration and you also are bothered by that.

[@r6guy]

@@citoyenneteavanttout7273 are you from the 1980s? Or are you a western man? Because as someone who has lived in both places, the only people I see living in fear are western women. Fear of going out at night by themselves, fear of strangers walking down the street whenever, fear of sexual assault or random violence. The type of violence against women by men in the west that happen to people I've known would have made national headlines in the east. But in the west it's just another weekend, another woman among countless others who suffer the same violence that is so common it doesn't even make the news. They don't even feel the need to report to police because the police wouldn't care. Please, the eastern world is not harsh on women, it is harsh on the young.

[@citoyenneteavanttout7273]

@r6guy If you didn't witness the fear women in the east face, you were not paying attention my dear. And I speak for facts. Stop spreaking in the behalf of people you're not representative of. Not because women in the east usually are too afraid to speak, and guess what, are not taken seriously unless they're literally killed, that it never happened. I have yet to know a woman that had never been beaten to blue at least once by an intimate partner (father/husband/brother). Yet they're not running the streets talking about it, because when they do people ask them what they did to deserve that, enabeling passive agressive behavior. So please STFU about things you know shit about. I am an eastern woman fucking ass goof.

[@loszhor]

I'm glad to know that such concerns are indeed universal.

[@rebekah9758]

All of these guys seem far more reasonable and respectful (both of themselves and of women) than men in the United States 😂 I think most of these things they were concerned about are completely reasonable and if I put myself in a man's shoes I would agree with nearly everything. I think they would all probably have great girlfriends with this attitude haha, and the older couple who you spoke to was very cute. Excellent video! I am a new subscriber and new to learning Chinese, and am excited to find such a great channel to help me in my journey.

[@RonLarhz]

This is a one of the more developed city.

[@ForEducationalPurposesOnly]

the uys here say the same but you are far worse than the girls there. we cant even ask you to not have your ass on instagram or we are controlling

[@latt.qcd9221]

No idea what you're referring to. They're voicing the same concerns, and saying it in the same way, that men in the West do.

[@mridulanair6036]

@@latt.qcd9221 I'm not from the west, but from my western friends I've heard completely different concerns regarding what men say there. I could be wrong, this is only what I have heard of course.

[@AngryMarine-il6ej]

@@latt.qcd9221 Understatement bro. Looking at her post, I'm willing to wager she's never been out of the U.S. and has a picture in her mind, it's all sunshine and bunnies in China.

[@danielarodriguezminsky9643]

very good, I have only watched 3 minutes because every sentence has words I do not know and I get lost haha but I love studying while learning about the real culture! thank you so much

[@lunerouge_han]

Interesting topic, real people talking, subs in Mandarin and Pinyin, accents/dialects indicated, natural flow of conversation... I love this channel ! Thanks for your work! It Motivates me to start again with my learning of your beautiful language. I'll pay for your learning content and donate to your channel as soon as I get a bit more money, you're too precious! 谢谢，谢谢 ！

[@light9581]

I like that you can even make people's accents their identity. This is the first video I've seen doing this. I just know this channel, so I subscribed

[@teohyuanhui]

People from China can recognize where someone is from from their mandarin accent, but it's harder to do for Chinese who grow up in other countries

[@ioferhfoiwedncerfj]

@@teohyuanhui i grew up in china and had both english and mandarin as my native language but i can never distinguish ppl from their accents in china or the US. English accents are much easier to differentiate.

[@TheSionist]

Amazing!! I learned a lot again and improved my Chinese because of your amazing videos, keep going!!

[@derekoreborn]

Very nice as always, Eileen! Love it. I am still completely satisfied with donating to your site! Great audio, easy to shadow, love the pinyin, and an interesting topic! Thank you so much!

[@yqweqwun7390]

ignore the hateful comments.... Anyone who finds it interesting to learn abt other cultures,for them yr vids r a treasure. I mean I wish ppl expressed their disagreements without using harsh,derogatory language,and instead use logic in their argument.

[@TheLuckyRima]

Most of what they’re describing sounds like manipulative narcissistic behaviors.

[@yellow_flash813]

🙄

[@silvervixen007]

So true! Really concerning!

[@johnsondeng]

Thank you! Yes. Extremely unattractive traits in any person.

[@isaacchao6550]

Its a western issue too

[@peterwang5272]

You should come to China and lecture my girl friend here

[@lingo-phile]

These guys are so tolerant! Wow!

[@expsterm1]

This is universal, not just Chinese girls

[@mynguyen1229]

Thank for building this channel. Im learning chinese. It helps a lots keep learning with interesting 💕

[@heanjie]

Great format! TY!!

[@enerok5008]

Ohhhh i clicked on this video for tea but this is actually really helpful 😭 I grew up listening to mandarin so I can listen ok but I don’t know some vocab I’m near illiterate also so this also helps w some reading

[@anyapu1496]

I love your channel! Thanks a lot for making such interesting videos!

[@dawitsco9283]

I use your video to practice my Chinese listening but this was fun to watch😂😂😂

[@amyrajara7261]

Me too 😂

[@walterzagieboylo6802]

These men are so honest. Amazing!

[@watchulla]

When a woman often tells you she is angry and why, she is accused of being difficult or combative, demanding, or headstrong.

[@asves4536]

I dont think so. Most guys would like the woman more if she did. Because it shows that the woman is very mature and reasonable. If I make a mistake and she does not tell me what i did wrong, and she just ignores me all day and leave me to try to guess what i did wrong i would hate that. If she comes up to me and tell me why she is angry at me, what I did that was wrong, then I would be very happy and do my best to not make such a mistake again.

[@watchulla]

That is how it SHOULD BE but for SOME that is not the case. In my case that was MOST of the ones I've met.@@asves4536

[@MrWendrew]

Nobody reasonable would accuse a woman of these things unless she was angry all the time. Communicating your feelings clearly doesn't mean there's nothing else wrong with you.

[@Swanson-hs5df]

No this is you being disingenuous. You can communicate your feelings in a clear manner without being combative, demanding or headstrong. If a group of people think you're being combative when talking about your feelings, you might just be combative! What's the alternative? Not telling your partner why you're angry and just letting it broil? Come on man, don't just shift the bearing of responsibility on to your male partner. Take responsibility for your own communication for once, jfc.

[@fyfn355]

Very relatable content. Thanks!

[@antoniofornari7451]

The guy at 9:38 doing all he could to convey he's not straight in any way is very funny

[@zaraal-laleh6937]

right i was waiting for this comment

[@jovitali9536]

"straight men" in chinese doesn't exactly mean 'straight' in terms of sexuality lol. It just means a man who's very direct or misses the hint.

[@suzystar3]

"straight men are cute" lol

[@class6aa]

@@jovitali9536it does also means sexually straight. It is being used to also describe insensitive guy because it’s commonly gays are perceived as being more sensitive

[@dun7308]

​@@class6aa The word straight have a very different connotation when spoken in Chinese and translated to English, a better translation would be Upright man, or even Stiff man, which as you can guess what it means.

[@jinjincao]

9:39 I can’t stop laughing

[@Doobedoobedooba]

Yes...a straight guy.... Straight forward !

[@estherandherlittleworld7821]

controlling shows she loves you? that surprised me , what???😅😅

[@TL-fe9si]

From a "wife slave"'s perspective, I guess LOL

[@LisaTao]

I like men that think that way. I’m very controlling 😌

[@sakurachannel9624]

Well, that’s how you know she cares about you

[@MameruArune]

11:58 Screenshot for my degenerate friends who can relate to a spiritual level

[@peterwang5272]

🤣🤣

[@erikgwk]

11:55 hahaha, I love this guy

[@superitgel1]

huh... interesting specimen 😂😂

[@TL-fe9si]

That wife slave translation, I've never seen that phrase before, but It's so funny!

[@skyvioletstrawberry]

Bahahahahas

[@asleepzz]

He strikes gold again at 19:19

[@elithluxe7568]

Common phrase in Chinese culture. It’s someone who loves their wife very much and will do anything she asks or wants even without her asking

[@vs-kx8xk]

I don't know if you've done something like this already, but can you do a video talking about what guys/girls like BEST about each other? 在网上很多人都在骂别人，男女相互尊重吧

[@cart172]

Yeah, positive topics are good.

[@skyvioletstrawberry]

The white hoodie guy and the two black jacket guys are pretty gd guyss, solid gentlemen

[@predrag-peterilich900]

Good job - as always - Eileen! Many useful expressions and phrases; thank you. (And, just a suggestion: don't get a tattoo. There is more in our lives than one moment, one sentiment, one person, one design,..., and going through life needs a lot of forgetting.)

[@eleethtahgra7802]

[@nailily]

Thank you so much for creating this.

[@Erik_Escriche]

谢谢!!! 我非常喜欢你们的视频。

[@mau345]

Women sometimes cant express what they want, or confused with what they want because “directness” was less entrenched into our social upbringing across many cultures. Subtlety, reading emotions, femininity, grace, meekness, submission and social interaction are our imposed training for most of our formative years, because for the longest time these skills were a matter of survival-and then by the time we were older, modern day life told us all of a sudden to be independent, decisive, assertive, strong which is good but habits and culture instinctively lives. Its confusing for all genders how social roles were deconstructed for short period of time. Moreover, lets not delude ourselves that men dont do it. They do it for mostly another reason- pride- a virtue that was ingrained in them also by culture. I guy may deep down want to cling to a girl, express his caring love or vulnerability but he fears he would look less manly. Or he may not pursue a girl because he thinks he is not “man enough” to provide, usually financially, but in reality he can depending on the girls personality.

[@elithluxe7568]

Exactly this this this. It is something almost all girls do naturally

[@poopbutt6241]

Girls don’t like when men cling to them

[@rzt430]

"Subtlety, reading emotions, femininity, grace, meekness, submission" except girls do not display any of these virtues in the first place. you are speaking like you are doing some introspection but what i really see is a lack of grasp in reality and self awareness. this all sounds like a bs excuse to me. girls are very much direct when it comes to things that they believe is for their own benefit. indirect is when they feel wronged, when they feel that their partner is lacking but they are aware that it was not done on purpose. it is a form of emotional manipulation, guilt tripping, gaslighting. for the satisfaction that comes when the guy "realizes" his mistake and prostrates himself to her for it.

[@asves4536]

@@poopbutt6241 depends on the girl

[@简澜]

For so many times, I just feel human don’t consider its own biodiversity, and for god’s sake, man you chose such a girl to be your girlfriend. They say they hate it, but if the girl is not clingy, not vexatious, not showing dependence, they probably dare not to contact the girl at all, its the part you like within them comes with those annoyances.

[@简澜]

And no, not all girls desire others read their mind all the time. And often I find clingy ones desire such non sense more.

[@assassinscreeds-xu9oo]

​@@简澜cry more clown. Where are you when Chinese girls complain about Chinese guys? Hypocrite

[@assassinscreeds-xu9oo]

​@@简澜stop crying. Chinese girls are very toxic and materialistic.

[@ranjeetpaswan5293]

Thank you so much for uploading video.

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[@mikecarson8659]

Awesome vid! (Grammar note - phrase is “to that extent” with a T @ 6:26)

[@sonfeylesof]

Thank you for this video😊❤❤谢谢您

[@worldview730]

2:03, how the hell does one get to be a bad photographer with an iPhone 14 pro max, it literally does everything but press the button for you.

[@MandarinCorner2]

*List of Questions Asked:* Q1: What do you want to complain about girls? Q2: What complaints do your male friends have about girls? Q3: Have you seen online discussions where men complain about certain types of girls? Common Complaints on The Internet: 1.Girls Always Accuse Guys of Being a “Straight Man” 2.Saying One Thing, But Meaning Another 3.Being Controlling 4.Demanding Guys to Reply to Their Messages Within Seconds 5.Having Double Standards 6.Asking Boring Questions 7.Demanding Guys to Carry Their Handbags 8.Girls That Smoke and Drink 9.Having Princess Syndrome 10.Taking Too Long to Dress 11.Having No Sense of Direction 12.Whatever Guys Say Is Wrong 13.Asking Guys to Prove Their Love

[@tweedjackettt]

gurl I love this beef, thank you! - very yours, a mandarin learner

[@SuperTvik]

I just bumped into your channel your voice is excellent

[@MCMilitaryForce]

First time hearing about "Straight man" in China

[@dangcoppock7362]

These men very respectful towards women but I as a woman I could see some frustration in them if and when the circumstances occurred. We are humans we are all the same. Thank you awesome show.❤

[@arpitsrivstva]

🤣😂🤣😂🤣🤣🤣This was the most needed video! Love this guy at 2:15.

[@rogermanley9017]

Very helpful content, (Re: for the second language learner) Thanks .

[@sergiotorres4785]

Disturbing how they find acceptable that kind of controlling behaviors, even seen as a proof of love...

[@Preciousdiamond-2]

❤i love ur vedio, keep up!, the good work.

[@franciscusmagister]

What wd be interesting next is a video about what complaints Chinese girls have about Chinese girls... Since women are usually more perspicacious in these matters!

[@MandarinCorner2]

We already did it: kzbin.info/www/bejne/fGmzq3SAr7Znpa8

[@RDJO88]

Guys are clueless, they will never understand your underlying meaning or hidden messages. You must be explicit, there is no forethought with them, only afterthought.

[@Jattlife-zt9lb]

Its best vedio to learn Chinese

[@JohnVKaravitis]

1:31 He means a "bride price", not a dowry.

[@carolinehannah5188]

I believe you can apply this to anywhere in the world.

[@ryankirk2334]

My wife is Chinese, but I feel as though my friends back home (UK) have similar complaints, this is just the way of life lol

[@s._3560]

Just like different species of animals and birds; some pair for life, others have multiple partners. Most women desire loyalty and faithfulness. In modern times, Chinese men are more willing than Western men to allow this sort of control. They probably were less accepting of such control before the revolution when female status was much lower and people were allowed polygamy.

[@martinafekiacova3035]

These boys/men are so tolerant and sweet❤it was so nice hearing all this stuff! I need a chinese man i guess🤣

[@nelopolyglot]

太喜欢了这个视频。❤

[@ccc-e1f]

Love ❤ thank you!

[@akinkinalexandr5672]

7:32 Is he Eminem or something? I wouldn't understand anything if I bumped into that guy.

[@etanol.]

exactly

[@musical.unicorn]

lmaooo that like the regular speed for a lot of Chinese speakers, it's not like he's speaking in dialect or anything

[@longmarch2668]

Yes I would say he speaks faster than typical speed, but native speakers wouldn’t have any problem understanding him.

[@teach-learn4078]

To me, being controlling is the opposite of love.

[@colleenverdon6315]

Very entertaining and amusing.

[@Mtrl-new]

11:04 应该说口非心是

[@AminHassan-d2v]

Thank u🎉❤❤

[@eqlz3228]

How could you find those both drunk and stoned fellows 😳他们都是演员吗？

[@dammitanothername]

My Chinese gf did some of this. It may be a worldwide phenomena that some women just expect men to be mind readers or notice every little detail and act on it. I bought the wrong combination of flowers once and she didn't speak to me all week. Finally I got an all day lecture/berating. Apparently I embarrassed her and mortified her in public w/ my ignorance. I could understand how this could upset her And- I'm not Chinese. or a girl. How TF am I supposed to know wtf the flowers mean or even know their culture's unspoken rules?? Many other times I was expected to somehow know sh*t I didn't know. If I helped clean, I was doing something wrong. I can see why girls ask a ton of questions and have all kinds of tests now. I guess I need to do the same? It's such a hassle I'm not sure I want to do all this again.

[@idkybutwutever]

What city or province was this filmed in?

[@Xsksnssjccxghb]

其实东亚男生也很习惯隐藏和压抑情绪啦。恋爱初期为了维稳什么都“忍”也会不表达，小心思憋到最后爆发，根本就是投射嘛有时候。但像性格比较直接的人（比如我）的坏处是不容易交朋友。为什么这些非要是男生或女生的刻板特质呢😦

[@zinthuthumyo9698]

谢谢。。老师❤

[@constantinexi6489]

6:39 busted lol

[@shubhashreetayade5429]

who is this guy at 12:37

[@wiktoriavictor8671]

YOU tube is prohibited in CN WHY YOU USE TOU TUBE ??????????//

[@fobinc]

I see the double standard part got me haha. I would put her in the same exact situation to see the absurdity. So far so good, and we enjoy trolling each other.

[@INTJ791]

True gender equality😂

[@kaydkaydkayd]

ive never rly seen a woman demanding that a guy hold her bag :0 is that rly that common over there

[@gardenjoy5223]

So many nice guys! The girlfriend of the young man in the creme colored bear sweater is a most lucky girl. He is very easy going and kind-hearted. Wishing all to find the right spouse for life and be and stay happy together!

[@franciskawai]

The guy at 11:02 is so cute 😍

[@Cazadores54]

Hola Señorita, Gracias por este información de este vídeo informativo. Muchos aplausos y felicidades por este buen trabajo. Muy muy interesante plataforma de información y también las preguntas concentradas. Gracias por su esfuerzo en dando temas sociales en la tierra de China en su canal de aquí. Gracias y Bendiciones.

[@colombianaenchina]

Totalmente sorprendida con la calidad del video 💞

[@boris8787]

Nobody speaks MANDARIN in the town of Chillingbourne.

[@lilyliuu]

clicked off the video right after the first guy said some shit about women not wanting to do things a woman “should do” such as child birth like that’s enough for me today

[@JanR2710]

你们是在哪个城市拍这个视频的呢？

[@worldview730]

5:06, that's like saying it's not that I'm dirty but I just don't bath. This guy is lucky to even have a girl with that behavior

[@idktoo-um7if]

11:11 是陆九吗？？

[@dsc5085]

The guys taking the stairs instead of elevators because girls get really uncomfortable being in the elevator with them is crazy!!

[@iseeflowers]

I really can’t distinguish the accent.

[@Ssm19494]

how about everyone treat each other better? Look at yourself first before blaming someone else.

[@sean8516]

Where is the other video??

[@MandarinCorner2]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/fGmzq3SAr7Znpa8

[@TrangNguyen-vn7kg]

我超喜欢看您的视频。谢谢哦老师！

[@Tamara-im8dj]

Хорошая девочка и передача хорошая 👍🏻💯⭐️

[@youtubecomments5951]

The lady at 2 mins. FYI. It’s not his skill in taking pictures. It’s the person he’s taking pictures of.

[@MAC...]

eh... I've grown up with a family that ran a photography studio for 20 years. The photographer definitely plays a part, mainly comes done to directing the posing and the lighting, then a bit of composition. Of course the model can be good at posing to make it easier, but it pays for the photographer to understand how to pose people based on the shot they're attempting.

[@youtubecomments5951]

@@MAC... sure but you your grandma says you make her look old and you suck cause she doesn’t look 20. Then it’s not the skills.

[@userygfd]

wooow this video made me realize my standards were so low and yet still the men over here can't even reach them just wow

[@Rebecca-bz6ph]

I’m not studying Chinese but this was very interesting anyway!

[@Mango_416]

no matter what race, creed, nationality or religion women will never tell you whats wrong

[@colkari]

Loool

[@anjelynn7314]

Cuz when we do we are told to be quiet

[@mattwalker9120]

can't possibly keep up with reading the english , I'm a teacher so .....

[@peterfireflylund]

I love the couple :)

[@DonCE0]

Subtitles switch fast but v interesting

[@elmbec9878]

The second couple where he has to take pictures of her 😂 that’s hilarious 😂

[@KandySweets]

I feel like using the term "straight man" for 直男 sounds a bit strange since today it is used more in the context of sexuality than personality nowadays

[@asves4536]

yes, but mandarin is different from english

[@tkmad7470]

Guys provide a dowry in China? When did that get turned around?

[@jypapiiiii]

When the one child policy made parents only want to have male children. The sex ratio is really imbalanced as a result.

[@tkmad7470]

@@jypapiiiii Ah, I'd heard about the ratio, Interesting, thanks!

[@longmarch2668]

it’s been there since ancient time. Lets say you have a daughter and a son, when the daughter get married, you get a dowry. Then when the son gets married, you pay daughter-in-law’s family a dowry. But if you got two sons, then bad luck for you. It’s just that situation gets much worse nowadays, where dowry becomes very hefty, and bride expects everything from house to car ready for the marriage, which young male typically cannot afford thus becomes a huge financial burden to their parents. This is the reason why many people prefer having a girl instead of a boy because life will be much easier.

[@bgone4265]

Its funny to me that straight men here in the USA means he's not gay, its funny that they think that others feeling should be controlled by others when its your feeling controlled by yourself not others, and the whole when asked what is wrong and you suppose to be a mind reader I find mind-blowing. My way to let them know how it feels is to reverse it, get mad/upset, and when they ask say nothing make them read your mind and when they can't, you tell them when the shoe on the other foot makes it hard to walk right.