MANIA or LOVE: 10 Ways to Tell The Difference if You Have BIPOLAR!

[@willowisp9150]

I'm a lesbian and started a relationship with a man when i was extremely manic, so there is that

[@PolarWarriors]

call this place our home Welcome to the channel and thanks for joining the conversation in the comments! I have some really interesting stories of my dating experiences when manic, that’s for sure! Hope you had a great weekend :-) -Robert

[@girlinthesouth850]

call this place our home I'm straight and have done the opposite

[@primezeroth]

how long did it last? if you don't mind my asking?

[@willowisp9150]

lmao the most awkward two month of my life i started questening everything, thought i might be bi, but im just thirsty

[@PolarWarriors]

Michael Holloway no worries at all… I’m a very open person. The relationship lasted for nearly 10 years, until I found out my partner was sleeping with an unimaginable amount of my friends. It was devastating. I have moved past that and just celebrated my three year anniversary with the most brilliant relationship I’ve ever had. My long-term relationship was extremely hard on my partner, so I really don’t blame her for what she did. She still has yet to take some kind of accountability for what happened, so we have not remained friends. It was definitely a really amazing learning experience and chapter of my life. I attribute much of the success of my current relationship to what I learned from that one.

[@sarahsmile2883]

Being Bi polar is like living on a beautiful island...sometimes... but then a hurricane comes and destroys everything in its path..and then the hurricane is gone and you stumble around assessing the damage apologizing to everyone around you.. and then the sun comes out and the waters are still again for a little while until..........

[@i_am_iraSEMA]

This resonates with me.

[@Americanson24]

​@@i_am_iraSEMAIt's so depressing, but yes, "same here."

[@lovinliverpool]

I turn into a Nymphomaniac when I think I'm "in love" and hypomanic and then I crash and I want nothing to do with that person. I feel so "connected" to the person and overwhelmed by the "love" and can't get enough and can't stop thinking about them where I end up doing forgetting and not caring about other important areas of my life.

[@shakenpooh]

This is you mary Your loving one day and the next day u want nothing to do with me

[@sreegangamp5490]

I know this feeling cz I have felt that

[@anamaeubas7594]

lovinliverpool 😢

[@kennethhubler1693]

lovinliverpool totally can relate I can’t tell you how many times I’ve done that well I can but it would scare u!

[@av201]

Hypersexuality is part of mania. Beyond horny and very wild!

[@zayrouse6572]

I met my wife when I was in a manic state because I was talking to two more women when I met her. The first few weeks were incredible until I crashed and dumped her because I told her that something felt off (this was way before my diagnosis). We eventually got back together and like the seasons, my attraction for her changes which led up to us getting married.

[@casysales3883]

Do the same thing!.

[@RAnailbar]

It’s crazy.. I’m finally seeing all my patterns.. & this is a huge one.

[@av201]

Agreed. Thank you, Trey!!!

[@feurigerStern]

I just got stung today. Had a manic boyfriend for 3 months who treated me like a princess until this morning. Then tonight said goodbye. I am now the wiser.

[@JamieTheSassenachLass]

I wish you luck in finding someone that fits you.

[@richardsargentsr.1384]

I feel like my condition prevents me from ever having a healthy relationship, I don't want to bring anyone into a relationship where I end up as a patient instead of a partner, so...my only healthy relationship is with Jesus, because He loves me unconditionally.

[@PolarWarriors]

I hope you remain open to having a relationship some day. We all have or will have medical conditions. We all have baggage not just us bipolar folk. We deserve love too ❤ - Dianna Polar Warrior Team Member For additional content consider joining us on Patreon! www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@ALTheFreeMan]

I feel the same way. I haven't dated in years, because I just don't trust how I'm going to react in a relationship. When I'm "high", I can make a relationship work with almost any woman, but when I'm "low", I'll find any reason to leave someone really great. The thought of being alone isn't THAT bad, it's just I'm not living the most purposeful life right now. My thinking is that my career/purpose and hobbies can keep my mind off relationships. And there are other ways to "scratch that itch" that don't require dating and relationships.

[@shadowblaze97]

Amen

[@sifugurusensei]

@@ALTheFreeMan don't you people take meds that work? Honestly I hadn't had any issues since I started meds. Just ups and downs of a normal human being.

[@ALTheFreeMan]

@@sifugurusensei Ya know, I’ve actually felt MUCH better since I eliminated dairy from my diet. I’ve been dairy-free for about 4 months, and I have no more “highs and lows”, everyday is a great day. I sleep better, and even recover from workouts quicker. I think dietary choices are something more people with mental illnesses should look into. Oh, and by the way, what do you mean by “you people”??!?!?!?! lol

[@kelleyoneal9780]

My guy is the one with bipolar. I think it's the real deal. We've been talking since last October and our conversations are very intensely deep in a very good way. He's very open to talking about his health issues. He is also ADHD as well. I'm ADHD and have Asperger's Syndrome. Interesting combo? Anyways, when he is in depression mode, he doesn't talk to anyone, not even family. I do my thing and he contacts me when more stable. I hope he is the one. I've ridden both sides with him several times, and handle it well, knowing it's nothing personal when I don't hear from him for a couple of days.

[@carriered4715]

Oh My God - This Is ME !! Now I see Why I did All those Crazy things...I Consider myself Lucky to be Alive, I took a LOT of Risks in my manic state .

[@n.c.6211]

I can relate!!! 😢😊 Single is the way for now. For me it has been like OMG he is my soulmate, I'm already bored. I think I've known him forever/ who is this person? I will never date again/ why did I cancel my dating profile? Obsessing over random past crushes/ Not caring at all for them, being cognizant it is just a love addiction. THANK YOU FOR THE AMAZING TIPS!!!

[@sarahbosch7798]

Omg. You described me. When me and my ex met we were both manic. Not a good thing but at the time I had fun.

[@EmiliaLecter]

Thank you sooo much for this video. I have just now realized that all of my past relationships have been because I was manic or depressed. Because after that mania or depression wore off, I realized I had nothing in common with the other person and we just weren't compatible. I am FINALLY in a relationship now that didn't start because of mania or depression. It's been a year and 4 months and I still love him as much as I did the first time I said it :)

[@PolarWarriors]

Emilia Lecter Awe!!! I'm so glad you have found a good one. That makes me so happy for you. I am on the same boat. We are so similar LOL. I went through so many relationships in the past that were horrible for me and the other person. It's so weird how we end up doing that. Mania is a crazy animal that's for sure. Hope you had a great Monday and weekend my friend😊😊😊 -Rob

[@disharaina4740]

This is just so adorable.. Will you mind telling how you became sure that this love isn't at depressed or manic state

[@iancollier8093]

Go say sorry to those people I f they really love you

[@KatandzR]

Thank you.. just ended a relationship with a man with bi-polar... I honestly didn't know much about it.. Yes, many things you talked about were true.. I felt everything was to quick..I didn't feel listened too... I have no idea what he was experiencing..and only through your videos am I getting an understanding of what might have went wrong... I still very much think he is a good person and would like to remain friends..we were friends to start with.., but he says no..I am a mean person..??! I am sad, but honestly I could not have dealt with this situation in a romantic way.. I really wanted to remain friends.. I am sad.

[@Tiffanytramaine]

Wow! I have been saying over and over that I couldn’t trust myself anymore with my current relationship. Like I woke up and wondered why I ever picked someone who is everything I said I would “never” date; and at the same time I was “madly in love” i felt betrayed and lead on. Now I see I am leading them on and this relationship like many ends with me “waking up” and just being done! This has been a pattern of mine for years and even got me nick names like “sniper” while I was in the service because people would say I was such a heartbreaker. This with your video about hyper sexuality is changing my life and perspective minute by minute. Thank you

[@kennethhubler1693]

Tiffany Tramaine thanks so much for your post your story is mine totally many times over and these vids have helped tremendously!

[@iancollier8093]

You never truly love them

[@sifugurusensei]

I take my bipolar meds so I feel normal. I miss my mania to be honest. I was funny and I felt like I could do anything. Now my mind's kinda boring.

[@av201]

How are you now, Dario? Is being normal ok?

[@sifugurusensei]

@@av201 Normal is boring. Though my psychosis was scary. I couldn't help but be an asshole. Now I'm back to my shy self. I have social anxiety so I'm anxious at work.

[@nativechique7589]

@@sifugurusensei I just typed in the search, "does anyone miss mania" and this is popped up and I found your comment. I feel the same exact way! I miss it!but we are better off when we look at it all lol

[@ericmariscal428]

Mania is a hell of a drug and we can do dangerous or harmful things to ourselves in order to reach that manic high again. I do miss my mania but I don’t miss the bad that came with it. I lost a lot of friends because of it. After a while on my meds I started to feel like myself again. When you lose the mania you kinda have to find yourself again and figure out what was you and what was the mania. I had to relearn who I was and who I wanted to be. Eventually it gets better.

[@teawhy222]

This explains my marriage, divorce and reconciliation. I shop when manic as well. I get excited and buy in excess things I want but don't need. Things that I can normally tell myself I don't need and let it go. I'm realizing that I have NEVER been "normal"...still struggling with this new diagnosis (

[@LaLokita4ever8]

Yeah, I've done that too... But I've realized it n really ask myself do I really need it? N it's worked 4 me so far... 🤟🏻🤓😎🤟🏻

[@beauthesuperawesomemagical2808]

Unfortunately I was really in love and then my bipolar symptoms later in the relationship started to show. My major depression got real bad and then he triggered my mania and I just got so confused, it scared him away, he thought my mood swings were just apart of my personality... I never really told him I was struggling with bipolar. He was my best friend for awhile and I never told him and ended up really hurting him and now he never wants to talk to me again. I'm so sad. I'm sorry Michael.i guess even though we were compatible when I felt normal, we aren't truly compatible because he couldn't figure out how to deal with my mania stages, only with my depression. Life will get better, and the Lord will watch over both of our souls so we can live a blessed life even without each other.

[@dangad5393]

It is all about education, if some knows more about mental disorders, then it is easy for them to understand and manage it

[@trevawilliams861]

Same here, we wasnt compatible but things did not work out and recently I was diagnosed with bipolar, he even said I go from a to b to c but some one who really care would stick by and try to get help and even do their own research before walking away, but I trust god mr right will come

[@jewelysjourney7136]

Thank you for this video. I have bipolar II. I battle depression more than mania. I met a man with bipolar 1 and he also has schizoaffective disorder. We had a whirlwind romance which lasted exactly 2 weeks. Then it abruptly ended when he panicked & had a change of heart. I was left in shock & beside myself with grief & confused beyond belief. Looking back now I could see his mania. He barely slept. He rushed into the relationship super quickly, introducing me to his family & friends on our 3rd date. I overlooked it all because I was coming out of a depression & I was enjoying the attention. Plus we seemed to have this magical connection. I’m now struggling with the rejection & betrayal. I’m also trying to understand it all. This video sincerely helped me piece together the broken puzzle.

[@jazzyfizzle5858]

You've just summed up all my relationships 😂 i really found this useful. This is where most of my lows and highs stem from "relationships"

[@PolarWarriors]

When I first read about the correlation between mania and relationship choices, it was such a wake up call for me! The more I learn about Bipolar Disorder, the more my entire life makes more sense. It makes it easier to understand some of the bad choices I've made and let go of some of the regret or guilt associated with my past. I'm so glad you are finding the videos helpful Jasmine! Thanks for all the comments and support. I'll have a new video out tomorrow, so stop by if you have the time =) -Rob

[@vasilissa1139]

I think my partner was manic when he met me. Very well explained

[@phunios]

Honey Bear me too

[@gabbyslife4965]

The same with me

[@anamaeubas7594]

Honey Bear me too

[@mizzbrickzz4450]

I think mine was too...

[@kennethhubler1693]

He’s bipolar have him get some help or your relationship is doomed...

[@jerry1dc]

I bought a $700 mount in world or Warcraft...I also buy things from amazon that I don’t need. Then I get depressed about all the money wasted.

[@da-gamada-gama2704]

May the Lord helps you in Jesus name amen 🙏

[@peaceman9706]

i used to spend on games too now i only buy more kittens lmao

[@teawhy222]

@Katrina Godinez I've tried that as well. When I am midline or in my "okay" zone I can do that but when I am in mania or depressed I can't stop the impulse is so strong and hitting that paypal button makes me feel better.

[@patwhite8106]

I feel you. I spent $2,000 as a down payment on a motorcycle. I tried riding it and got anxiety attack so I'm selling it now. Probably gonna be out $1,000 or more

[@SherryMarion]

I bought a whole bunch of songs on I-tunes that I don't even like. I thought I did at the time.

[@leticiasoaresrosa395]

I thought i was in love with this person for such a long time, because when i met him i was really depressed, and meeting him felt like a fairytail, magic, all of that. And I only realised that it could probably be mania after i had my first consult with my (now) psychiatrist and in my second appointment i left with medication prescribed. looking back, i can see many of the signs, and i wonder how could my mind trick me in such a realistic manner from such a long time.

[@av201]

@@Sergr1980 Sorry to hear this. Hope you are able to raise your kids on your own. Wish you the best. Hope your ex wife is stable.

[@snoozyq9576]

Me too. I'm so scared incase I'm doing this again. Gotta make sure I go slow this time.

[@bkpsly1]

Maybe talk about when someone cheats on their spouse when they are having a mixed feature with psychosis episode, and they think they are "in love" with a stranger that gave them a tad bit of attention? Bipolar I can be a VERY destructive illness/disorder. I would guess people come to your channel because they are already experiencing the toxicity/damage that comes with a Bipolar loved one. I Wish mental health, and the signs that something is wrong, would be taught in high school and college, as mandatory classes! The world would be a better place, as people can learn to deal with their shit and/or can recognize when a loved one needs help BEFORE that type of damage can be done.

[@heartofdixieprepping4797]

Oh yes! I've been married 5 times. I "fall in love" so quickly until I've come back down to earth and realized I don't feel the same. I get tired of a relationship quickly and I move on to another and another... And I pick people that need just as much help as I do😳 So here I am 62, and alone. I have my children and grands but they tire me out some days. Well, most days.

[@stevenweiss2148]

ELIZABETH TAYLOR THE ACTRESS HAS GOT YOU BEAT. SHE WAS MARRIED 8 TIMES

[@ALTheFreeMan]

This is spot on! I have Cyclothymia, and let me tell you, I've had more relationships than I can count. For the most part, I've met most of the women I've dated in clubs and bars. When I'm in a "high phase", chemistry doesn't really matter because I can entertain and carry the relationship for the both of us. But when I'm in a low phase, I usually want nothing to do with her. It's been quite some time since I've dated anyone, and now that I know why I'm so up and down, I'm not sure if it's a good idea to ever get back out there. Thanks for the video. Keep up the great work.

[@loribatchelder9156]

I just found your videos and they are so helpful! I've been in dysfunctional relationships my whole life without realizing they were a result from mania, depression and lack of awareness. I'm not currently in or seeking a relationship since I have to work on my own life and self love. I'm starting to see the light now but still am concerned about the down times. Overall I'm pretty stable in life. Anyone I know wouldn't be able to tell that I have bipolar. Thank you so much for what you do! You give me hope and peace of mind that I'm enough! :)

[@PolarWarriors]

Lori Batchelder i’m so glad you found my channel and that the videos are helpful. You are very welcome here! Thank you for taking the time to post a wonderful comment and I hope you will continue to stop back by :-)

[@stephaniecheyanne7882]

I'm so happy I watched this video today as I have been very manic and feel sooo lovey dovey towards someone I've known for 5 days 😂😂😂 thank you for every video you make. I can't tell you how much it helps me in my journey🖤🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@divinelilprincesss1]

I know exactly what you mean...It's love at first sight until you wake up. It was a horrible part of my life that went on for years. It's a true addiction, and I hurt so many people along the way., including putting myself in danger. It has taken me most of my life to understand how to avoid it...Shopping and food are my addictions now..I am working on both..It's comforting to know you aren't the only person...

[@livingdeadgirla]

My favorite quote about love is from Scott Weiland, a fellow bipolar warrior who is watching over us from a better place now: “If love, like rock and roll, doesn’t consume me 24-7, it’s not love. It can be respect, appreciation, admiration, wonderment, it can be a world of glory and a lifetime of peace, but I can’t call it love. Love burns me and confuses me. Love’s a light that can’t be extinguished.”

[@emmad4152]

I have been bipolar all my life ( i was diagnosed when i was 14 years old) And i had the same relationship you described. All this time i thought i was in love with my heart broken, but now i am starting to realized maybe our relationship was part of a manic action. I never had normal relationships. I always felt attracted (very attracted) then whe that person start to have feelings for me i immediately got panic and i always broke up with the m two or three days later. They of course hate me, but i was never able to explain what did happen inside of me. It is exhausting because i would like to be normal in a relationship. Now, with almost 30 years old i am still single and i am trying to work to get a healthy relationship (even when my brain denied it and try to avoid it). I really don't want to screw someones life that is why i really want to give the best of me and my health so they can feel happy with me too... Excellent video and thank you so much for this space.

[@JamesBond-vd1rf]

This is sooooooo right on! My last relationship was exactly what you said... "A dating site when I was manic gone bad" (good name for a horror movie) hahaha

[@k.compton8995]

Still coming to terms with all of this. It's scary how true this stuff is for me. I've denied my diagnosis for a while

[@maddisontaylor5086]

I'm so glad I found this channel. It really makes me happy and informed watching these videos. Life is a struggle with bipolar but hearing your story keeps me motivated and positive

[@PolarWarriors]

Maddison Taylor That makes me so happy! People who leave comments like yours are what keeps me motivated to spend so much time on this project. The reason why I started this whole channel was to help as many people as I could. I come from a teaching background and service to others is literally the highest reward for me. I am so glad you found the channel also and welcome! Stop by anytime... I will have many more videos to come :-)

[@emh8861]

Really sad for the person that thinks their partner is in love with them, when its just mania . LoL

[@edwindiaz8075]

Happened to me!

[@ourlifeofadventure1754]

I've been married four times the last three were for less than a year. That hypersexuality drove my life for years. I've been recently diagnosed and I'm looking back thinking WTF was I thinking? One of the people that I casually hooked up with nearly killed me. This is very good information and I'm glad you're talking about it. Thank you so much

[@PolarWarriors]

that's horrifying, I'm so glad you are okay! Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@manicmommabear4417]

This answered so many of the questions I've asked myself so many times....thank you

[@PolarWarriors]

Manic MommaBear Awesome! I'm so glad you liked it Momma Bear! Definitely a different topic and an important one. I wish I knew this stuff a decade ago LOL

[@vamonaa]

Im learning about BPD only now, and all the problems with relationships. I was always hooking up with new people, had fun and then drifted away for some trivial reason, mostly boredom or not needing them anymore. It felt like I was a very bad person to have treated people like that and got really bummed about it. Promised myself never do that again but doing it as soon as I got attracted to someone. Again fell in head first with lots of energy and high risk of STDs, and then ignored them until they became a faint shameful memory. Now with 36 yo and awareness of the illness it's time to break it

[@brovashift]

Great videos 👍👍☝ Im not bipolar, but this one truly crushed me to realise non of it is/was real 😔.

[@PolarWarriors]

Robert Faulkner Thank you so much for the feedback and checking out my channel brother. We all breathe the same air that's for sure. Even if you aren't bipolar, a lot of the stuff I talk about definitely relates to the human experience. I'm glad you found the videos useful and hope you have a great start to your week :-)

[@lucid118]

I was dancing three hours a day and sleeping five hours a night and I loved almost everybody! Fortunately did not do anything reckless with money or with personal relationships other than sending everyone buckets of love!

[@sharonmendes5272]

Life isnt easy......Yet turning the clock back & reconciling with my longsufferring husband is the most sensible thing I have done..... No one else can live with a bipolar person.....unless they have known you for 10 years and survived !!!

[@samanthahardy9903]

It's hard to tell the difference when you are manic or are in love because Dopamine plays a part in both.

[@resilience_onward]

I got rid of my toxic relationship here recently. He took terrible advantage of me he knew I had this disorder. This relationship was a complete disaster. I married him on a long manic episode. Thank you so very much for shedding light on this difficult Disorder. I needed to hear this.

[@TheKnetsie]

Jeez Louiz man, you just keep slapping me in the face! Ef!!!!! I've found you only yesterday, and I can't stop crying. I don't know what to feel, now that I now it was not my fault, never has been. What to feel if I'm not guilty? There is justification for my actions throughout the years (that will be from maybe 16 until now, that I'm 48), even for the ones my parents/family/teachers thought bad of. All my decisions, I seem to have made in hypomaniac state without me or anyone else knowing. I caused so many pain, unintentionally, and I have been wronged, just as unintentionally. I really find that hard to deal with. So grateful to have found you and your channel.

[@brendonbunce6831]

Wow, after recently being diagnosed and then watching this video it has given me a lot to think about. This has happened to me a lot over the last 2 years...

[@chefp1472]

When I've been manic I've jumped around from relationship to relationship.

[@PolarWarriors]

I did that most of my life. At least we aren't alone in experiencing that. Welcome to the channel =) -Rob

[@kathleencollins4110]

Lord, I cannot tell you how happy I was when my libido finally disappeared! After four marriages, countless relationships, and who knows how many one-night stands, I am no longer controlled by my hormones! As I have mentioned in comments on others of your videos, I did not know I was bipolar until I was in my 40s. I just knew I had too high a libido, especially for a girl! I mean, girls weren't supposed to even have a libido in the 70s. I hated it. My libido kept getting me into trouble. On top of that, as you said, you can get very lonely, so lonely that you will settle for someone you would normally not look at twice. That would be my first three husbands. The last one was definitely the endorphins. It felt so great to be in love! I thought, "This is the one!" and I'm going to just take the leap and see what happens. That was the abusive one. My family tried to talk to me about it, but he just seemed so perfect, I was in denial of any of the obvious indicators of his abusive personality. What caught me was that he made me laugh.

[@aerdeics992]

Kathleen Collins Your story sounds exactly as mine...

[@merdaz5742]

Kathleen Collins how did ur libido stop?

[@sad_doggo2504]

I've experienced getting overly attached to people in inappropriate situations (i.e. work) and fantasizing that they are secretly courting me... ugh... so embarrassing to look back on it!! When the depression hits I suddenly feel awful about the same person because I know I was just making stuff up in my head and acting like a fool.

[@realsh7992]

I was just diagnosed with bipolar disorder and I felt like shit all these things I thought was normal turns out it's not I felt like a sick person and helpless but when I found this channel it's so fun to actually learn more about me and that I'm not alone thank 😊

[@MarilynMelendezG]

My husband is obsessed with me. Despite him being locked up by me he still is head over heels in love with me. It does get too much sometimes. I couldn't do anything by myself, he had to be with me all the time. I remember an incident where we were going to hangout with my friends, he had just got out of jail. We walked in and one of my guy friends picked me up and gave me a hug and my husband was furious, evil furious! I had to actually sneak away from him and grab a bus and go home just to get away from him. Even me telling him that we were all friends and nothing was going on he couldn't hear it.

[@leigh4326]

1. Are your feelings for everyone intense at the time? 2. Is your brain racing with thoughts? Exclusively about this person or other things. 3. Are you spending a lot on the person. 4. Is this new flame in your life or do you have new hobbies. 5. Are your hobbies aligned 6. Is this all about us? Are we special together. 7 How is your internal clock? Do seasons affect mania? 8. Sex… manic sexual drive or getting aroused around your special person. 9. Figuring out the qualities you want in a partner for when you are maniac and needy. 10. Your own definition of love. These are good signs for the partners as well.

[@PolarWarriors]

Thank you for doing this!!!! 🤗

[@leigh4326]

@@PolarWarriors you are God sent. Thank you for all you do on here. 🙏🏽

[@DIAMONDGIRL57]

My apologies to those I hurt. Too many times!

[@trevawilliams861]

Same here, I lost good and bad people

[@sanamir9886]

I have bipolar disorder and your videos have been extremely helpful. Thank you so much

[@shannonfrench2727]

I wish I would have found your channel 4 years ago. I swear every time I watch a video I haven't seen yet I find myself thinking "man, it's like this guy has lived in a parallel life with me!" Once again I can't thank you enough....

[@AvarusVentus]

Robert...You cannot even imagine, how your videos are helping. My boyfriend had been diagnosed BP disorder, only recently. It was my suggestion, after couple of weird episodes which happened in past. I have seen his downs and highs, his paranoia's, his struggle, fear and I deeply felt, that there more behind all this. So I started to search, went through numerous sites, books, videos, and your work was the the "trigger", to find solution. He thought of himself, that he is just useless jerk, that he is the only one, and that his destiny is, to end as lonely loon. Thank God/Higher Power/Universe we both speak english quite well, and thanks to people like you. You helped to understand a lot, you still helping in our journey. We are still looking for a right Doctor. We live in Slovakia/EU, and there is very few support groups (only in capital, and quite far from the city we live in), and very few Doctors, which really care. No hotlines, no centers, no programs to meet people, and lot of people with Mental Disorders suffer in silence alone, with huge stigma. You are big inspiration to us, huge help, motivator. There is a light on end of the tunnel for us, thanks to you. You help us to understand, you help us to talk about it more openly, you give us hope. Thanks again and please keep doing this. Hugs and kisses from Slovakia :) Sincerely Lucia

[@PolarWarriors]

AvarusVentus Wow! I can’t even tell you how much your comment means to me. Your comment is the exact reason why I keep making videos. It makes me feel so good to help other people not suffer like I have. Living in another country and trying to get mental health support is incredibly difficult. I have heard some horrible stories of people’s challenging experiences. I think you are a wonderful person for trying to find answers and help your partner. I wish more people who had bipolar, had someone like you. We can all work together to make a difference and help educate people about this illness. There are some large Facebook groups that are all about bipolar support. There are groups for spouses only, parents, and so much more. It’s a good place to network with other people and hear their stories. There is also a website called “BP hope” or “ bipolar hope magazine.” They have some incredible articles on there that are written by some of the top professionals in the field of bipolar disorder. That would be a great resource to check out. There are also a couple of books I would like to recommend if you can get them where you live. They are books that have really changed my life. One of them is called “loving someone with bipolar disorder” and the other one is called “take charge of bipolar disorder.” They are both by the same author Julie Fast. Amazing information there. Maybe see if you can get a used copy if you have access to eBay or Amazon over there. I’m not sure what is available for online ordering where you live. I hope that helps and stop back by my channel anytime. You and your partner are very welcome here :-)

[@AvarusVentus]

Thank You Rob. Every little help, helps. I will look for those books. I was wondering, if would be possible, to somehow use your videos, and make subtitles in Slovak, I would do my best, to translate as "close" as possible. There is really no support of any kind in here, and trully, there is only few channels, of "your" kind explaining, telling, advising so much as you do. I would love to help, not only to my man, but whoever needs it. Now I know, there is loads of people locked up home, isolated with their own pain. Me and my man, well, we are in hate phase, I dont exist, I am the worst person ever and so. I dont think he is taking his meds out of disappointment, and he got deeply into his hobbies. It hurts, even though I know it is not coming out of his heart, I am still looking around to find the way to get over this period, to see, if is "my boy" coming back. No matter what, I am not planing on to quit searching. People need to know, people need help. Thank You Rob. You doing great job, and obviously helping people all around the world. Lucia Love and Peace from Slovakia

[@sandipdutta2605]

In my case,I think I get obsessed with someone and get very anxious at the same time.Yes that's a trigger....

[@sobanoodlegamer]

Starting to wonder if mania is what made me fall in love with my now boyfriend in no damn time. I was already in a relationship and I loved my ex but I literally lost all feelings in NO TIME FLAT. The good news is my boyfriend and I spent years building a strong relationship based on growth, love, compassion, and compromise even though the beginning was tumultuous when the butterflies wore off. I would never go back ever though. My boyfriend helped challenge my thinking in a healthy way and got me to understand myself and get help for my bipolar 2.

[@ndnaf3705]

O...M...G!...I never really thought about it like that. Is this sometimes why I get into some strange relationships??! I walked out of a 7yr relationship with my ex fiance one day out of the blue, even though he freeloaded off me for the whole time. He got a job once for a couple weeks then quit cuz he was "sick" a lot. I supported us all those years. But one day he was on my couch an I had just got off my second job after working 16hrs when he told me that " I needed to fix him dinner, bitch!" I remember that I dropped him off at his mama house an never went back to pick him up. I now believe I was manic when I met him. He wasn't even my type. But I still felt bad for him. I can't thank you, Rob, enough for this insight! Whoa!

[@caitlynhardy2264]

"Do you fall in love so fast your head spins?" BOI if that ain't me. Guy: you're cute Me: welp looks like I'm in love.

[@kennethhubler1693]

Caitlyn Hardy omg totally that’s me in the past train wreck!!!

[@whoswhoo]

I eventually overcome the urge to give half or all my stuff away even things i really wanted to keep . I dumped the "friends " who just came round to take take ... it was a huge compunction .....im so pleased ive stopped.

[@kennethhubler1693]

old bat i can totally relate I did the same for too long...

[@nancyjustnancy]

Please explain what that urge is like? I know someone who does that and it confusing to me.

[@kennethhubler1693]

Nancy Fondren ok I’ll explain it the best I can because this is part of me being bipolar and I’ve done this hundreds of times and hated myself afterwards for doing such - Here goes when I’m manic I feel crazy happy and kind of bouncing off the wall and I want everyone around me to like me so one of the things I do is grab things around me that I really like and value and say to anyone nearby that I’m trying to impress here! Here’s a wonderful gift for you see how much value it is and how wonderful it is and don’t you think I’m awesome now for giving it to you instead of keeping it for myself!!! Many times this person will refuse because it is of so much value but I’ll keep up the pressure till many times they relent. I feel euphoric until the mania starts to wear off and I’m so depressed thinking what the hell did I do I’m an idiot I never ever wanted to part with that etc etc Anyway that’s one scenario for this for me hope it provides a little insight for this and good luck!

[@nancyjustnancy]

@@kennethhubler1693 Still confusing to me as I suffer depression without any mania. I know a man who gives away all his money and even put a generator and his laptop in pawn to get more money to give to others. God never said to go in debt in order to serve Him. I am wondering if it is a symptom of bipolar disorder?

[@kennethhubler1693]

Nancy Fondren Nancy it sure seems like that man has a bipolar disorder and needs help also may be a drug addict I did the same and used terrible drugs and did terrible things in my mania and yes God has saved me from this hell but one needs to have an open and willing heart to do so Nancy if you do have some type of clinical depression please get some medication and counseling and don’t try to understand mania or try to embrace it it’s terrible and can be a downward spiral to hell please feel free to continue to contact me if u wish I’ve been through hell and back and am embrace miraculously by the light of God now

[@ruthfridley711]

Well done Rob I have searched this Internet over and over to try to figure out what I'm living with I come across your videos absolutely hands-down you have helped me so much I was at the bottom the tortured of depression one minute down one minute absolutely drained then I came across your postings on KZbin I agree with Rose totally ,you really should think seriously about being a speaker and the face of of bipolar so many people family loved ones say they care but they really don't because they're so ignorant and I'm not saying ignorant in a bad way people being too lazy I just don't really understand because you look fine and really not we are not dying slowly with them I feel like I constantly have to educate people just to understand me and except me gosh I'm so sick and tired but however when I come across your videos you did kind of bring light to me even though this is a noncurable disease you have showed me don't give up there are tools I've seen psychiatrist therapist and meds oh yes the meds suppose are not too bad if you want to be a zombie been there done that however I have decided I don't want to put my poison and side effects around this disease I believe God made us like we are very creative ty somehow someway there's a loophole in this and I believe you are the one who is showing me that there is another side to this silent killer just so you know it will be my pleasure can't wait to continue watching your videos I thank you so very much I had already given up hope but that being said I hope everyone a wonderful 2018 I at least now feel part of something now consider myself a polo warrior.!!! . Keep up the good work Joe you are so inspiring think you need to know videos to help even if I'm the only one which I do not believe that for one second with that being said I think everyone on here that deals with this terrible disease and confusing all agree you open our eyes and I thought we need to say you know I'm your number one fan PS I am sorry to everyone I am bipolar one and yes I have rapid thoughts so sorry for the book I'm sure you all understand good luck to everyone Polor warrior s United we stand. !!!! ( Also one more thing I would love to asked you for any one else who may be reading this is there a chat group with polar Warriors sometimes I need people to talk to and I have no one and anyone with this disease knows he cannot be left alone in our darkest moments and I love that everyday I am not looking for pity or anyone to feel sorry for me I do enough of that myself LOL just would like to talk to other people experience the same things as I I also think I would like to teach others about it also I've been dealing with it for my whole life but in the last 10 years I really understand but bipolar is so even I living with that had to really research when I'm living with ty with that being said people are really not ignorant it's hard for most ty see anything is wrong because lilylike fine on the outside okay sorry if I have bored everyone I never speak on any side this is my first time let me my life because I can't shut up by the way that's another one and maybe should be number 11 gosh you talk a lot LOL but I honestly proudly owned my disease thank you to everyone who is listening and just might be stuck in the rabbit hole like me

[@MiszGreene89]

I love that yes we are addicted to LOVE I have it in abundance !!! Thank you for this channel you are awesome GOD bless you!! Love Biploar warriors!! ❤️❤️❤️

[@PolarWarriors]

Same to you! ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@hettyherz]

Oddly enough, right on time) Well, that part about thoughts to change plans, cities, or even countries because of the feeling you've met The Person just a couple of weeks ago, not the part about toxic stuff.

[@Max_Charb]

Bookmarked The more I watch your content and read the comments of the community, the more I understand myself. My mind is blown how much you appear to know me! Hah! You just know that part of me I was oblivious up until now. Tremendous thanks!

[@PolarWarriors]

I appreciate that Max, welcome to the community!

[@hollyobrien9021]

Thank you for this video. I have seen a loved one of mine fall in love when hypomanic. These are never healthy relationships.

[@caitlynhardy2264]

I watch this video every time I catch feeling for anyone to try and ground myself so I can figure out if its the disorder or real. Generally its the mania or depression. Such a helpful video thank you so much for making it ❤

[@rickwilson1732]

I want to say thank you with all the information on this channel. It been very useful in understanding my husband better.

[@BBC4.0]

I feel so understood lol this is absolutely rewarding to know that I’m actually getting better not there but each step is progress

[@carolannechebarria6629]

I’ve recommended your channel to many people You helped me so much Being in love with a man who was bipolar That is over but I know you helped me…. Understand

[@PolarWarriors]

Thank you for sharing my channel with others and for your kind words. I'm grateful to have been able to help you. -Rob www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@alliedwolf]

Thanks for taking the time to make this video.

[@RachelRoseEstrebilla]

Just met someone really special, and I really needed to hear this to help educate myself and figure out if it's just mania or if it's really love. Awesome content, as always. Thanks, Polar Warriors!

[@PolarWarriors]

Hey there Rachel ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. I think you may benefit from that. Take gentle care. Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@PolarWarriors]

Hey there Rachel ! Rob is available on patreon. You can message him, text or even have a call with him there. He is offering free support phone calls for all patrons right now in which he can lend an ear, give advice or answer questions. I think you may benefit from that. Take gentle care. Sometimes we all need someone to talk to: www.crisistextline.org/ teenlineonline.org/talk-now/ Dianna Polar Warriors Team Member (H)old (O)n (P)ain (E)nds On Patreon, you can message Rob directly, get a phone/video call, watch videos that are more personal in nature, and access a great community. www.patreon.com/PolarWarriors

[@hannahyoung2137]

... I didn’t know this was a thing, like I thought that was just my personality, I mean it’s kinda a relief? I mean like it’s good to know that I can understand that if I’m in a manic episode and enter a relationship and when I come back down they didn’t change, the chemistry in my brain did.

[@bethanyj18]

This sums up pretty much every relationship I have ever been in. I haven't been diagnosed yet (today should be the day) but your channel has helped me realize more and more that I am not alone in the situations that I have been in and that there might be a big reason for them. Thank you for all that you do.

[@PolarWarriors]

Awe - I'm so glad you found my channel Bethany! It's horrible to feel alone with these feelings. You are NOT alone here. It's a very special community of Polar Warriors who care a lot about each other. I'm always here to help if you have any questions. Stay well and stop by again soon =) -Rob

[@bethanyj18]

Polar Warriors a little update, I did receive the diagnosis of bipolar II today. ❤

[@eriksvsirocco]

Im so glad I found this channel. I'm hypersexual and manic, and always end up in relationships with girls like this too. I never got any information anywhere until now.. Thank you!

[@ryanchoi2013]

Wow. I've done this so many times. Your channel is amazing Rob. Thank you.

[@asgothas]

I a little bit love the guy from Polar Warriors. Great video :D

[@PolarWarriors]

AS GOTHAS Lol thank you! Your comment got a big smile out of me. Welcome to the channel and I hope you're having a great start to your week :-)

[@aerdeics992]

Polar Warriors Hey, me too :D

[@MarketMarketing]

GREAT topic! I died laughing when I saw the video thumbnail ;)

[@SpeedbirdNine9]

It's not just people who are bi-polar. But they especially have to be on the lookout for "love-bombing" from toxic people.

[@disharaina4740]

Was growing through a horrible phase, just discovered your channel, Ig life won't be the same anymore

[@rid1cul0us]

It takes patience while the other person works through differentiating between those two feelings: mania and love--in terms of their opinion/attraction to you. It will go back and forth MANY times over... Relax, take a breath, and count to 3. If you experience anxiousness/agony while they work through their feelings about you, obsessing will NOT have a positive impact on either of you OR your dynamic. Respect their process and practice patience; The latter will prove to be a useful skill the longer you two are in each other's lives. It's a unique bond, whether romantic or platonic (or 'was then' / 'is now') which adds an indescribable richness to your life while contributing to your individual/spiritual growth as you learn how to be the friend they need.

[@av201]

Polar warriors are very passionate and catch feelings right after we meet someone special.

[@maggiedex586]

I left my partner of 9 yrs at the time, for a co-worker I barely knew. I really thought he was the one. The stars had aligned for us to meet at our place of work that plus whatever else I could convince myself to try to connect us together. I chased him for about a year, until suddenly I just stopped. I was so embarrassed and ashamed of how I disrespected both my partner and the guy I was chasing. I admit I was an absolute nut, I remember going to a party with false confidence. I was following him around like a bad smell so much so later in the night I was trying to get him to say that he likes me back in front of our friends party guest. He said "no" I said he was lying like it was fact, I didn't let it phase me until he left the party and I burst into tears. It's so f****d that our brain thinks suffering from a mental illness is ok... Think about that for a sec .... our brain is ok with us being like this ..da faq brain

[@ellecharlton3432]

You videos are creative , informative and hilarious. Thank-you for sharing your own experiences and your honesty . Keep up the great work

[@elizabethwonder6161]

Wow ! Nothing personal but I'm taking a break I think I could get a little overwhelmed after just finding out . Thanks Angel's all around the world 💖

[@PolarWarriors]

Do what you need to do!🙏

[@NatashaCine]

This video was spot on. SPOT ON!

[@mrs.galloway]

Ive been with my husband 10yrs and it definitely began during a manic episode

[@user-so1wr2oh1t]

The length of your videos is spot-on. Lots of information and to-the-point.

[@PolarWarriors]

Thank you J!

[@gerardbeaman5980]

I love what you do and I truly appreciate you. And since I found your channel I have been reflecting back and realized I have been bi-polar for a long time. And this video here really spoke to me and realized alot in my past dates and relationships.

[@gabbyslife4965]

Omg what he said at 0:31 is what happened to me. My husband is bipolar at 2 weeks after knowing each other we moved in together. Now 3 years later the relationship isn't working. He's no longer giving importance to the marriage. And I grew tired of begging to work things out. Is too much load on my shoulders.

[@IzzyOnTheMove]

My husband has unmedicated Bipolar (he refuses to take medication) and is constantly going between "I love you so much, i'm in hell without you" and "I hate you, i never want to see you again". Sometimes in the same day. It's exhausting. 9 year relationship, i love him and i'm not going anywhere, but fuck it's hard sometimes. I have to be a ROCK of steadfastness. He keeps running away to other countries and then coming back and wanting to leave as soon as he gets back. I wish he understood he has a chemical imbalance that meds could help. He also has Schizophrenioa, but denies having it. I just discovered your channel, i apprecaite your clear explanation. I do think he really does love me and i love him, we knew each other for 3 years as friends vefore starting being romantic and we met when we were both in a good place, but his condition is worsening year after year. He's 28. I hope he gets help. Thanks for the pointers. Very helpful.

[@bayleeschultz3641]

Sooo I'm ultra radian bp1 and I met my husband before I knew I was bp. I have done this with every one of my relationships. However, luckily, he is an amazing guy and I truly am in love with him and vice versa but we had to work at it. He accepted me when my high dipped low and I was an awful person to him because I thought he was the same as all before. But with that being said, I went through many suicidal thoughts and broken hearts. I wish I had known sooner but maybe I wouldn't have found the love of my life 🤷

[@ALTheFreeMan]

That's great that you found a guy who was willing to go on the journey with you. I believe there are many former girlfriends of mine who know that something wasn't right with me. I'm not sure how receptive I would've been to a woman who wasn't going to take NO for answer, but, it would be nice to have a woman who thought enough of the relationship to not just walk away. I haven't dated in years, and now that I know about what's going on in my head, I'm not sure if I've got it in me anymore.

[@tomasintexas]

looking for love in all the wrong places, looking for love in too many face, hoping to find a friend and a lover. What's the name to that song? This video brought back many memories. when my ex-wife and I got a divorce 31 years ago, I knew I had the problem, wasn't too sure but had to go through way to many relationship, never got re-married nor had children (thank goodness) I started treatment for my BP 3 years ago and it's been hell except for the past 10 months, I do feel much better but still go through my manic and depression, mostly manic. I started looking for someone but I'm finding my self lowering my standards just to be someone, I know that's not right. Thank you for this awesome videos. I'm definitely going to use your suggestions.

[@mimic9763]

Yes this is all me! So on point that I really got to sit down and make myself a list right away so it’s there when “love “ strikes again! I must say that this was SO helpful and from the bottom of my heart... Thank you🙏🏼

[@PolarWarriors]

Love that!

[@sharnimaisey6890]

‘Victim of my own choices’ ...that is such a powerful statement/ reality....The addicted to love/ mania it’s very revealing. Do you have a video on living with the guilt/ consequences?

[@arricammarques1955]

It's an emotional roller coaster even for stable people.

[@manicmommabear4417]

Would it be OK if I mentioned your channel in one of my videos? And I will put a link to your channel in description if I do. More people need to know about you and I'm so totally willing to tell as many as possible :).

[@PolarWarriors]

Manic MommaBear That would be so awesome! Please do and thank you so very very much for helping me help other people. You are awesome!😊😊

[@keristevenson2757]

Oh my...this, explains a lot in my life!😍

[@lairyfights]

Wow everything makes sense now.. thank you.

[@krahmtvabipolarstory408]

I devoted a lot of time understanding and answering this question last year.....sometimes we have 2 throw our selves into the shit 2 learn things......what a ride it was. ❤️cheers 2 all of u. Your all fuckin’ warriors in my books. If anyone is curious I documented the last five years of my life on KZbin and Facebook

[@whoswhoo]

Thank you for being so honest its so helpful ..

[@deannahamiltonwatkins4843]

Food for thought. I never new that and it makes sense. Ty and I will continue listening.

[@speedbuggy16v]

Where were you 20 years ago... LOL, thanks for sharing and helping others!