Your Wife is Your Toughest Challenge

Social media is lying to you about marriage. Learn what relationship status makes you the happiest, and how that aligns with God’s design for marriage.

[@lizzy9975]

As a woman these are excellent. It's not just men who should be listening to these.

[@treehouseofliberty3167]

“More fathers, less government.”

[@andrewmarshall7569]

The government takes away a father's responsibility through family court. I'm a single dad with 50/50 physical/legal custody and I am fortunate I had the resources to fight for that hill to die on. Most fathers don't, and every father I have worked with through my volunteer capacity with the National Parent's Organization (NPO) desperately wants to be in their child's life in a meaningful way. The problem is solved by equal custody, yet no church talks about or advocates for this.

[@cccdy6375]

@@andrewmarshall7569 Yep. Society wants their established financial sources of income. Then when they don't need that anymore, we are kicked out again.

[@andrewmarshall7569]

@@cccdy6375 can’t lose if you refuse to play the game

[@WatchList-xf8ic]

@@andrewmarshall7569 Brother, I'm not judging you, but I would like to add that the problem is actually solved when husbands and wives stay married and the family has a win. Again, I am not judging you for getting divorced. I don't know your circumstance. Maybe she divorced you and you had no choice. Maybe you were committed and wanted to make it work, but you just married a "Jezebel". I don't know. Either way, I am praying for you to be the father that your children need and that, with the LORD's help, you will be. GOD bless you, Andrew! 🙏

[@andrewmarshall7569]

@@WatchList-xf8ic I don't take it as judgement at all, and thank you for being civil and kind. My ex wife had an affair and would not end it, so I filed for divorce, which is a Biblical reason to do so. I'm right there with you brother in regard to a mom and a dad staying together, if possible, but it's not a good thing to allow that behavior to continue. I thank God daily that their mom and I co-parent very well.

[@dinotakterov4938]

WOW! Thank you SO much for this message, Pastor Mark! "Always remember this. Before she was your wife, she was HIS daughter." I will carry that with me for the rest of my life and invest it into my boys as well. I took so many notes, but THAT brought tears to my eyes. What a beautiful, mic dropping prayer at the end as well, "May we be willing to learn this lesson: Not to be dominated or domineering, but to be lovingly united as one; ruling and reigning together under the authority of Jesus Christ, in whose name we pray. Amen!" God bless you, brother!

[@stanbarr9884]

Very well said and absolute truth!

[@dougbrown7023]

I'm still hurting over this to be honest. She's totally ghosted me and is in total avoidance of our marriage. When I wanted a divorce she said no and yet she isn't willing to reconcile. I've done my part and God is my witness.

[@isauraluna]

Something demonic could be influence, like the jezabel spirit. Keep praying for her and asked the lord for his guidance.

[@Raufm3]

​@dougbrown7023 how did it turn out brother?

[@ashleyspeir4661]

We had never heard of you until you took a stand against the enemy. We knew at that point we wanted to hear what you had to say. Excellent teacher!!! Thank you!

[@A_Pie323]

Woman & wife that watches every week! 👋 thanks guys. I love pastor Mark & his sermons/messages

[@jeffm8206]

Line of the night, " I can't be with one woman" "Let me tell ya, she's gonna change, you're gonna get some variety" SO TRUE!! 😆

[@firestarterseag]

That line was gold 😂😂😂

[@ehallam08]

Just hope she has Jesus before that change happens.

[@paulfisher9527]

🤣😢indeed

[@lulusanchez483]

Lol

[@ayandakhanyisa1881]

The man of God said it right here. It’s only been two months of listening to Pastor Mark but I’ve learned so much. He deals with issues that I have. Connection with my husband, power struggles and living together as one

[@matthewholbrook9153]

This sermon convicted me. Paster mark, thank you. My wife is gods daughter, Beautiful i have to do better.

[@Elizabeth-h5m]

As a natural woman it's been as obvious to me as today's gender stuff. It got our generation and your the first Man brave enough to say it. Stand firm. We need Godly male leaders.

[@joellehosette818]

Pastor Mark Driscoll you are the best teacher!!! Im going to share this with some young men. Hopefully they will hear you. So honestly spoken and lovingly taught. Lord Jesus bless this man and his family they are truly helping us.❤❤❤

[@electric5hadow]

Leave them young boys alone, wierdo.

[@Reve14twelve]

Too late for me, my wife already left me for another man, please always pray together for your marriage

[@sajanpaul8300]

same here god bless u and fill the gap

[@Dee-O]

You can’t lead today’s women. They are owned by the government, “Satan”

[@musicgal9830]

As a young single woman that absolutely breaks my heart 💔I’m so sorry for your loss. Praying Jesus fills in the gap for you and your marriage.

[@johannahaugan2990]

Single woman here, continuing to learn and grow from some personal experiences and continue to prepare myself for being a good wife someday!

[@jl7294]

Your comment is very refreshing

[@paulfisher9527]

Great sermon Mark! Great about the leadership…”if you as a man dont lead, then satan will” . Im a little older now and have 4 grown children and that has and will continue to add to my happiness

[@samueltaromino8425]

AMEN THE BATTLE REALLY BEGINS IN MARRIAGE . Be strong fellas . Its up to godly men to lead.

[@racheltucker2174]

Yes I know that in order to have control over any issue… I gotta make me the problem. It’s called humility❤

[@jamiebunnell8150]

I'm a wife in waiting! Just found pastor Mark today!

[@libby9574]

"Even if God gave you everything, if you don't lead it.... you lose it". We learn so much from you, Pastor Mark. Thank you

[@bjones5791]

wow.🤔😬😳

[@Jon-yz7hw]

It’s difficult to lead a women who refuses to be led.

[@AlAnomalies]

The fact that I've never watched a video from this channel before rarely click on things like this and happen to have just made a plate of nachos and sat down to eat them.... Crazy!

[@Ac-nm4mn]

This sermon was amazing. Love the humor and seriousness. Everything you say is so true. Everyone needs to watch this. I will share this to no end

[@bigjerthebear]

61 y/o man 41 years of marriage this was so good I’m learning a lot

[@TimR1335]

Everyman needs to see and listen to this great surman. Thank you pastor Mark.

[@wjm988]

I really hope ppl start marrying and having kids at a more "normalized" rate. It's so great. You don't need to be rich to do it, but doing it will make you rich (with untold joy and growth/challenges).

[@waynemaric1984]

An honest pastor is better pastor. Thanks for the teachings, i hope this can be shared to all the men for better understanding. It takes two to be married but it takes Christ, man & woman to stay married.. may you continue with teachings as these may God bless you and your family in Jesus name..

[@johnbrenner6380]

I still believe in the resurrection power for myself, and my wife. We've been divorced for over four years now, but i still believe!

[@aaronyodaddy7315]

Thanks! You started this like every divorced guy, it's horrible (challenging) being married. Made me question if i wanted to get married. But if you're use to giving more than you get, that's what marriage seems to be about. I do good things, because i can. Not because i sometimes get rewards. God created a servants heart. The devil created an entitled heart. Though what scares me about marriage is that if I give it all and I get nothing in return ever. That's what dating feminists is like. Giving everything and that not being enough.

[@Raufm3]

There are good girls out there, just watch out for narcissistic traits or signs of entitlement, and do test your future wife a looot, then follow your heart, may Jesus guide and bless you brother!

[@H.O.P.E.fromabove]

My fiance and I are so grateful for your teachings. I plan on ordering the book for his birthday 😊

[@finalsecretofchrono1339]

I grew up in the 80s and our dads in the neighborhood worked long hours, only to come home to us crazy kids tearing up their yards as the sun was setting. Other than maybe the summer block party, the dads didn't hang out with the other dads. They were stoic, disciplinary figures. They weren't beacons of happiness, but we didn't expect them to be either.

[@pabs5270]

Great post about your Stoic dad. I grew up in the 60’s. Same thing with my dad.

[@radiantheartwoman]

Being overbearing and domineering ISN'T the only way to make your way feel unsafe and insecure in the marriage...the opposite is also true....absent, neglectful , emotionally unavailable will do tge exact same thing.

[@bsemama8592]

💯- I’m in this place sadly

[@williamlake1077]

God sent pastor Mark to minister to me during cov 19 and he's still doing it today!Praise God Praise God 🙌

[@robinbutler3565]

As a woman I am so glad I found this prior to marriage.

[@Papagramz_]

Praying for restoration in my marriage. Going through a divorce for almost 2 years now. The devil has been attacking marriage heavily

[@moeomoton520]

The devil only attacks that are a threat to him. A strong Christian man with a strong Christian woman can conquer and preach, destroying his world . If healing and reconciliation is GOD'S plan for you, it will happen, HIS TIME, HIS WAY. Keep having faith, trusting, and believing. GOD has you in HIS Righteous Right Hand.

[@crcb4]

As a woman I approve of this message

[@jackirae1]

The success of a man can be seen in the countenance of his wife.

[@deborahmorgan9351]

I'm here as a woman to learn how to balance my feminine and masculine energies within myself. I'm wanting to be a better bride for Jesus!!!

[@NewsChannel-y4g]

you should not have masculine energies except coming from your husband.

[@Rccrdawgs]

You don't need a pastor to show you this

[@vermillionsky426]

Well said! Thank you❤

[@brettske178]

I’m with @mooneymakes359 on this one…. Deborah’s comment is not in accordance with scripture; rather, it sounds pagan.

[@kathymc234]

I'm with you Deborah. I have a very strong personality, but I love being a partner in marriage. I strongly have my husbands back. We discuss our goals together and I head straight to completion. I try to not challenge my husband, as that is really emasculating. But I don't mind asking for clarification. Men are awesome and think completely different than we do. Don't try to change them, enjoy the differences and learn more about them. Men have been abused since the 70's and we need to nurture them. But they also need to grow up. I think that was a big part of what Pastor Driscoll was talking about. Good luck.

[@evan-gi8cd]

I’m 34 and not married. It’s kind of hard to meet someone to marry 🤷🏼‍♂️

[@falconiustallon]

38 here, and 20:35 was a bit of a slap in the face. I have barely found any women to date, much less marry.

[@kathymc234]

Evan, in your picture, you are wearing a wife beater and have your tongue hanging out. Try being dependable and gracious, not a party boy. If I'm mistaken, excuse me. But honestly, most women would see your picture and move on. Good luck.

[@Fathersmadder]

Eve was brought to Adam Man was made for God Women were made for man Don’t abuse this We all come from women

[@A100Aic]

This is a story with a talking snake. You silly gullible man.

[@eliferreira5198]

One thing that seems to recur in almost every sermon I hear on the issues of families is the absence of addressing young and middle aged widows. Yes unmarried women with children have it hard, but what about the widows ? It’s like the church is blind to these people - it’s not a choice for a widow with children and it’s so disheartening and discouraging to hear continuously about the importance of a father in a child’s life, when they have lost their father.

[@mark0bravo]

Pastor Mark, please do a sermon on wives who refuse to respect their husbands. My wife is a wonderful woman- I love her deeply- but she has a hard, independent streak (I think from her father dying when she was a baby, growing up with a single mother). She agrees “intellectually” with Biblical gender roles, but in practice her heart is far far far from wanting to practice any respect. I am committed to lead and am not passive. It is a delicate balance to avoid huge arguments, and all I can do is constantly forgive her for sinning against me. And pastor, I am wearing thin. I’m doing everything I can - I am a good, hard working man who puts God first. I have no desire to dominate anyone (indeed it seems she has the desire to dominate ME). I will absolutely not abdicate. But I don’t know how to handle this - I have no hope of changing her by my efforts- that won’t work. But nothing is working. Please help

[@missionpossible6796]

Don't give up my brother. He who is in you is STRONGER than him who is in the world! 🙏🏾

[@mark0bravo]

@@missionpossible6796 amen! Thank you brother

[@KeyaCares]

Have you ever read the book “The Masculine in Relationship: A Blueprint for Inspiring the Trust, Lust, and Devotion of a Strong Woman” by GS Youngblood. It has a lot of tips and advice on this matter.

[@Laurentius_Gladius]

If that was my daughter I would re evaluate my parenting. I wouldn't place blame on the husband.

[@richarddonegan4666]

😮 it happened to me a long time ago..... But don't blame him. These cold ruthless heartless women never loved us.....

[@user-cu3xn4xj3i]

I get tired of women saying "strong independent woman" or especially "strong independent black woman" (I'm a blk married woman by the way) These are single and married women saying this. It's ok to be strong but they act like being married is a sin. Also, these same women I know that are still waiting on a husband ain't ready to submit....They still go out to clubs LOLOL...what they want is a strong independent marriage LOLOLOL I love being married to my husband...He is definitely my blessing from the Lord.

[@catnagle3762]

I’m blessed to be married to a strong Warrior! He calls me Queen and I call him my Warrior!

[@user-cu3xn4xj3i]

@@catnagle3762 Great... My husband and I are strong. Nothing is wrong with being strong, man or woman. The problem is the so called "I don't need a man or husband to raise my children...ON PURPOSE" having multiple children out of wedlock and a lot of times with multiple men. God created man...then he create for the man a helpmeet...Woman...A wife...

[@contractorsapprenticeship5235]

Hey Mark, Appreciate the lesson. Though I do have some questions about your interpretation of scripture. I believe I heard you say that, the husband and wife are equal leaders. But, the ultimate responsibility falls on the man. Providing I understood correctly, my response would be, "you can't have both". Whether you intended that to be the interpretation or not, it needs to be said that there is a dangerous implication in much teaching about marriage that men are too incompetent to lead in marriage without their wife's help. Men lead armies, large companies, counsel, build from vision and are the first to die for what they believe in. But, from the church we frequently hear that men can't lead in marriage. Ask a man at church to meet for coffe and he has to check with his wife for permission. The church (in some ways) has softened the man by continuously telling us that we're too incompetent to lead (subliminally). What's displayed in biblical marriage is nothing like what we teach in today's culture. Men do know how to be loving leaders and lead their families into godly success. Wives must trust God and pray for their husbands. Actually, they shouldn't marry a man that they can't follow. So much more to say. But, please consider the things.

[@270winny2]

Exactly So is the false teaching that domineers the pulpits today The church doesn’t tell Christ what to do or co lead The Holy Spirit leads

[@adriandallas2557]

Genesis 3:16. Theres a reason why God says “and he will rule over you”. We can’t leave off that part of scripture. Bc of the fall bc of sin there will be a constant fighting for headship. There is a godly way to rule over your wife and there’s an ungodly way. When talking about marriage no pastor should leave out headship, and submission. The women submits to man as he submits/loves Christ. Ephesians 5:22-30. When this pastor mentions coequal dominion thats a two headed monster. Very scary, and not biblical. Ephesians 5:21 is actually a continuation of 5:1-20. Hence the “further more” (NLT.) Believers are to submit to one another.

[@iant720]

I had the same sentiments, you cannot lead if your wife doesn't submit. Otherwise it's a stalemate.

[@vanessaverner8480]

A husband and children are an inconvenience. I have a set of great grandparents that were married for many years. They couldn’t stand each other. Each cooked their own meals and wouldn’t eat what the other prepared. When you sat at their table you asked each may I please have a bit of what they cooked. Grandma may I please have some of your green beans? Grandpa may I please have a pork chop? My great grandpa refused to make funeral services for my great grandma. My great aunt made the funeral arrangements and paid for the service. He didn’t attend the service and refused to be buried next to her. He outlived her by 15 years. He still talked horribly about her until he passed. From what I was told, they never liked each other. My grandmother didn’t remember her parents liking each other. When people my age saw how many older people were miserable in marriage, why would anyone want marriage. My grandmother and grandfather were happy in marriage. My dad and mom had a miserable marriage. The best thing my parents did was divorce.

[@Fathersmadder]

The head is the head If something has 2 heads it’s a monster A king is the leader no co leader

[@christophercriss5888]

Everything he saying is 100 percent tru...but it also paints a bad picture for getting married

[@telaninelson8422]

I am a wife watching and I love this. ❤

[@DrPhilGoode]

You have all the answers and know all the tricks for my wife to be your new sister wife. Good luck.

[@HUhurdler]

Not strong grounds for this "single headship, plural leadership" stance. Christ is our head... and leader. Man is the head of his wife... and leader. He should sacrifice and serve and lead like Jesus, but he is her leader. She is from his side because she is equal, but not in leadership. Paul addresses women's roles similarly.

[@craigfield9037]

Mark, I heard truth intermixed with what seemed to be compromise. You spoke about the hierarchy within a marriage, the man being the head like Christ is over the church, but then you seemed to muddle the topic by establishing equality in marital headship. Ephesians 5 does a good job of explaining the roles and responsibilities of men and women in marriage. You were correct in stating that men are responsible for leading their family spiritually and that they are accountable, to a significant extent, for the behaviors of their family….including their wife. But how can God hold men accountable if He doesn’t give them the leadership role from which to be accountable. Yes, men are supposed to love their wives and it is clear that should not be done iron fisted, but just as Adam should have intervened in Satan’s deception of Eve, so should we as husbands, interfere with societal influences that would deceive our wives and our children, and we should do that with authority. I understand that it is not a popular position, but it is Biblical. Don’t get me wrong, I do not deny that wives are very capable of helping their husbands overcome sin that they are struggling with as well, but I don’t believe that it should be done authoritatively. It should be done in a similar way as a soldier would try to correct a commanding officer, delicately. btw- I think it is important to note, the sins of Adam and Eve in Genesis chapter 3: Eve - was deceived into thinking that God was holding out on them. She was convinced that there was something missing in her life that could be found in the one thing God denied them. Adam - chose to follow Eve instead of following God. He desired Eve more than he desired God. It is for that reason that Adam emphasized the fact that he only ate because of the woman “who God gave him”. The inference is, if God had not made Eve then Adam would not have eaten, so then it is God’s fault for making him a helpmate.

[@puzzletherapy4u]

I'm one of the women who enjoy pastor Mark's sermons. I have been married for 33 years and we go to church but my husband wont read his bible and so he doesn't know scripture. When i try to teach him about something biblical he gets defensive and doesn't want to hear it. He thinks I'm being critical but I'm trying to help him learn. I would like to have a biblical marriage but how can i let him lead when hes not being a biblical husband. Im thankful he supports our family and gives his time to the church or to help someone but this marriage has been a real struggle.

[@Raufm3]

Every marriage is so! A tipp from a brother; some men are stubborn or get triggered by advices, just stop advising him, lead by example, and most important thing make an effort to change your perception about him, let God do his work and let go! Praise him more often, show him that you care, I swear he will change to be the husband you dream of!

[@DNPMSW]

Amen my former wife used God and the devil to mistreat their spouse. Since being truly connected to the Church I focus on finding a truly godly woman who is connected to the Lord.

[@patriciaburlow8469]

The devil didnt steal my 2 exes, those parasites went willingly

[@mrzee1958]

This video has been removed from Mark Driscolls channel! It still can be found by typing "Your wife is your toughest challenge" in youtube search bar but MANY recent comments are NOT there! ------Huh!!!

[@nickhenshaw1902]

Your flesh is your toughest challenge

[@MinuteMan1999]

I relate to alot of what was said and the part about talking to the father jumped out at me. Unfortunately my soon to be ex-wife's father is a weak many in respects to morals, ethics, and faith yet is a physically large and strong man. One time when my wife was being rather irrational and I could see the escalation coming I asked her if her parents could come over and possibly calm the situation down and meditate the conversation. That was a big mistake on my part. Her father showed up with his pistol in his shoulder holster and started screaming at me right off the bat in my living room. At this point I was 3 days out of foot surgery and couldn't walk relying on a knee scooter to get around and now I have a irate armed man who is about 3" taller and maybe 50lbs heavier standing over me. Perhaps if he was a better man he would have acted different. Perhaps if I were a better man God would listen to me. I find more of my problem is I'm the type if I was in Adams shoes and whitenessed the conversation between the serpent and Eve I would have butted in and said "yes God really said" and told the serpent to pound sand and at the same time tell Eve not to be foolish and listen to that trash. But of course that type of attitude is considered domineering even though it holds fast to God's word, truth, and out of love and concern for my wife.

[@abfavero]

After becoming well-acquainted with female nature, I have absolutely no desire to get married. Sex is a carrot on a stick, a taste of the forbidden fruit that brings toil and suffering into your life.

[@brandonhutchins3041]

What about the teaching from Paul about staying single being better?

[@airplane800]

I was on a Christian single's group for 8 years. I met more than 400 divorced Christian people and had high quality conversations with many of them. Many of them went back to the same mistakes they made in previous relationships. Most of the women liked the same 4 or 5 handsome, rich guys, and most of the men like the same 4 or 5 hot women. You have no idea how much I did to get a woman's attention. I went to help a woman to clean her garage and she didn't even offer a sandwich. I helped a woman to move and paid first month of rent for her. She started going out with her former neighbor who was not a Christian and never called me back. There is a TV series which is really sincere in showing how things are. "Two and a Half Man" is the most sincere and shocking description of how things happen among Christians. All elements of Christian relationships in church are there. The good Christian guys don't have a chance and the jerks get all the girls. I saw that many times. How Christian women fall for the jerks? That is a mystery I am trying to solve.

[@mjojco]

The Christian women aligning with worldly men are nominal Christian women. You don't claim Christ and seek the world.

[@kevinkim3793]

The challenge I think is that people are often thinking only through ideological bubbles that don't necessarily capture the entirety of reality for every particular circumstance. I have been looking at different pieces of advice given from a variety of sources to piece together a clearer picture. What I noticed with a good number of Christian channels is that they often have a hard time being able to address societal phenomena with precision and accuracy. Don't get me wrong. As a Christian and one who reads the Bible, I understand the importance of always keeping the Bible at the core of our thinking. However, what a lot of popular Christian channels have a hard time grappling with are specific developments in the modern era that don't have a clear resolution or specific remedies outlined in the Bible. For example, there are people who have adopted social norms so that man should be head of the household and perform the responsibility of providing for the family. That is fine. But, this only describes an ideal and does not address how this can occur when inflation causes costs of living to rise making a man the sole breadwinner a very unlikely scenario in most cases. There needs to be more discussion on how to reconcile what we understand as the ideal in the Bible and how to get there from what is happening in our modern times. A tendency to simply dismiss the entirety of RedPill ideology without trying to filter the important insightful elements leaves everyone operating from a degree of naivety. I fully recognize that there is distaste with RedPill ideology for going to extremes in its recommendations and critiques of women and that is understandable. But, there are also societal observations that should not be ignored simply because of its perceived association with that ideology. Some of the claims that are made include that our legal system, societal norms, and subconscious tendencies favor women. These claims are not out of the blue and can be seen when reflecting on how divorce is handled including division of assets. Social messaging even seemingly benign ones seem to always emphasize that "men are at fault, should be made responsible, or are incompetent". Aside from small pockets of the internet that go against this prevailing trend, are we able to think of any public messaging in our media that suggests "women should show restraint, carefully act with wise judgment, or reflect on wrongful actions towards others"? In almost all modern era messaging we see women in only positive light or an argument for how they should not be accountable even for actions that are a result of poorly considered decisions. Even though both men and women are susceptible to the sinful nature and both are quite capable of horrendous actions towards their fellow human being, there definitely is a tendency to portray women as angels on a pedestal and men as monsters that need to be controlled, chained, or subdued. In terms of romance, I think the biggest challenge is that a lot of men are instinctively operating with the mindset of being a provider which is understandable and even Biblical. But, there is a fracture in how women view men that creates a divide. Instead of looking at a good provider as a characteristic or a sign that this is a person to consider as a partner, that provider is looked at as a person they can use but not necessarily respect as a partner to whom they would share intimacy. Now a good number of women look at the adventurous, physically built, or otherwise virile looking man as the person to share intimacy. You basically have to be two different people at the same time in order to have a successful marriage (provider mindset and the adventurous/bold mindset).

[@abfavero]

You need to be red pilled

[@cameronosborne7405]

Don’t chase women. They’ll chase you. You were chasing in your examples, cleaning someone’s garage is ridiculous, that’s not how you win a woman, she will have no respect for you. Chase your vision, your work, God, wisdom. You will be found by the right woman. All men doing these things will be found. Similarly, all women that are wife material are found, they don’t stay single for long.

[@airplane800]

@@cameronosborne7405 That is exactly what Charlie Harper teaches on "Two and a Half Men". This will depend on the kind of leverage you have. Money and looks can make women like you. If you don't have that you need to use other ways to approach someone.

[@marriagepartnersministry5942]

Its hard to take a guy in his late 40's in a baseball cap, jean jacket, and jeans seriously

[@nohaste4me]

Okay

[@shenway1470]

Lol, she's gonna change, you're gonna get a variety 😅

[@irenezavala1082]

Watching from Fresno, CA. I share these with my husband who's been sharing with our small group husbands.

[@electric5hadow]

What a good obedient little husband. Keep him in line, sistah!

[@francessheeran7371]

I couldn’t repeat on here the names my husband has called me 😂

[@Fathersmadder]

The woman should submit It’s her place The man is to be loving And understanding

[@The_man_of_myth]

The man is to love the woman as, "christ loves the church", that means to lay down your life. It's a beautiful equal harmony God has designed neither rules over the other just as Pastor Mark has made extremely clear, just incase you missed that.

[@MyName-tj4zj]

@@The_man_of_mythI missed that in the Bible.

[@Fathersmadder]

@@The_man_of_myth your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you

[@lizlambson6618]

I had my second grandson this week too!!

[@ryancalvert7152]

Sleeping on your own couch?? Don't be so weak son!!

[@sar_e_bear]

48:02. This is a bit how I felt with my ex-fiance. I never tried to dominate him, I was to terrified of him. I walked on eggshells daily. Was this the day he was going to snap and throw me across the room. Luckily due to my parents and my strong dad, I was able to walk away. I left everything, even the company we built together. I walked away without a cent, because he said he would drive the business into the ground before I saw a penny. I have not been in a serious relationship since, because I never want to be in that situation again.

[@nicholascopeland9739]

Love this guy! Great preacher

[@susanclark8578]

Praying that God help me be a better wife 🙏 🙌

[@grace52775]

If those graphs of married and unmarried women and men went beyond age 55, the results would be far, far more abysmal.

[@corbinclarke9795]

Great message but I have some concerns/critiques. Men are the dominant role, that's what it means to be a leader. Men don't call the shots and take the shots from a submissive position. A headship is inherently dominant, that doesn't mean to be abusive and chauvinistic though. Be dominant over your family but completely submitted to God, it becomes sinful when one or both is neglected. For a man to be submissive (unless to God which would include serving your wife's holy needs) is passivity, not sure why Driscoll keeps going back and forth and honestly contradicting himself at points. I think its because as God-fearing men we want to be as respectful as possible but I think sometimes what we consider to be chauvinism is not. Its just another result of men growing soft and women becoming overly entitled because they've been raised to think they're a Disney princess and that they can do no wrong and have no issues that need to be addressed. I don't understand why people are afraid to talk about this, women are to be submissive and obedient as the church is submissive to Christ. People used to call it witchcraft and rebellion when women were out of line...does that not perfectly reflect the Bible's teaching of us as Christ's Bride?? Of course it does, this sort of teaching seems to advocate for women being treated as men in some ways that they should not because Driscoll seems to be pulling punches due to an issue in his marriage which would explain why his wife wants to argue when he talks about marriage...women need to know their place at times but men are afraid to acknowledge that. Does Christ not discipline and rebuke His Bride because of His love for Her?? All I'm trying to say is women do not get to have their cake and eat it too, if they want the privilege of being treated like a princess and being thoroughly taken care off, they don't get the dominant privilege/burden of leadership. We have to remember that men not only call the shots but also take the shots. We represent our wives and take responsibility for them, women do not call the shots and that can be a burden but they get the privilege of not taking the shots. They have the privilege of living with a lot less pressure and get to have/be a bigger blessing of love and joy than men do but have the burden of having to trust their husbands decision making and control over her life. I believe we men are to be the example of holiness and discipline to our house, when we meet this expectation respect will be given to us by our family and our wives will not try and overrule us, she shouldn't be scared but she should have a reverence (fear) for her husband that he does not have for her as we do with Christ. He adores the beauty of His Holy Bride but we as the Church adore Him as our Mighty King and Majesty. We cannot get away from the hierarchal nature of God even the Godhead itself is hierarchical and has dominant/submissive roles that we are to reflect via our gender. The battle of the genders is demonic and carnal, gender roles are of God and it takes a Spirit lead person to acknowledge and agree with that. A true women of God will not try and wrestle with her husband for dominance and a true man of God will understand the futility of arguing, the weight of dominance ruins women as they were not made to carry the load, when they carry the load it crushes them and their soul becomes dark...they were created to be a unique reflection of God's goodness and light.

[@MattPerk7]

Godly Christian leadership is never supposed to be abusive or selfish. With that context being said, it's very confusing to tell a man that he is not his wife's ruler. She is called to obey him. You talked about how Christ leads the church. Did Christ not give the church commands? Did Christ not teach the church that if you love him you will keep his Commandments? Did Christ not tell the church that all authority was given unto him? Are we not called to teach each other to observe all things whatsoever he has commanded us? Are you really saying that Christ is not the ruler of the church? That is absolutely silly. A husband's leadership should be selfless, sacrificial, and demonstrated in service, but he is still the leader of his wife. A home where a man is a strong leader and a wife is a sincere follower is a good home.

[@mark0bravo]

This is the biggest problem with Egalitarianism. God gave us the picture of Christ and His bride to illustrate marriage. If you start with a feminist view of marriage, that picture doesn’t work. We must not equivocate like Mark Driscoll has here. Men lead the family. Like Jesus leads the church. So you can’t be a jerk to her and insist on your way (because Jesus didn’t). But a man’s failure (where Jesus never failed) in no way makes that an invalid picture of what we aim for. To lose this is to lose the most important concept God gave us about both Christ and our marriages.

[@ry2yb]

Great sermon! Loved it!

[@danemuma9323]

I need prays for my family I am facing a trial in a domestic disturbance with the enemy trying to remove our children from our life. Need help 😭

[@wildbillkerr8041]

Mark is teaching men how to get destroyed in marriage and how to set men up for divorce. This is message is not biblical.

[@Geoshandle]

12:13 TRUTH!

[@WatchList-xf8ic]

I think, for some marriages and households, dominion becomes a hot potato. The old, "Wait 'til your father gets home!" Mom has had it with the kids and can't wait to hand off responsibility (dominion) to dad upon arrival. Comin' in hot! Not that this is necessarily a circumstance of dual "Ahab" spirits, but rather men usually just don't want to be dumped on right when they get home from work. This was my household when my children were younger. (All three kids are still in the home now and

[@cameronturner7077]

Amen brother Hallelujah to the Lamb of God

[@AskDrRuiz]

Pastor Mark started by saying that God gave man the responsibility to name all the animals. Then Mark goes on to say when we give each other nicknames we are exercising dominion over them as well. He gave an example by asking the audience what are some of the negative nicknames they've heard men call their wives. Then he goes on to say man doesn't have dominion over women and vice versa. Make up your mind so that your message has continuity

[@angelmartin7310]

Also Eve (and all the Earth) fell when Adam ate the fruit, right? Not when she ate. Which is a picture of how everything in creation is a reflection of the state of Man.

[@mrzee1958]

I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!

[@nathanmieure4071]

Good and Strong message about marriage and my roll, that I needed to hear. Thank you!

[@MrYoko101]

I like how he conveniently skips over the last part of Gen. 3:16, which says, “your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.”

[@DisciplesHeart]

Yep... to hard for him, Jezebel has him under his heal. I cover all this in "The Watchman and The Warning Ezekiel 33 & 34" He's just another hired hand after the glory. "Few be there that find it." Also worth noting, admitting that your wife has to approve of what you teach is proof he shouldn't be teaching. It will all be exposed soon.

[@carolmurray5799]

@@DisciplesHeart Really? As a woman, I find this comment ridiculous. Women WANT THEIR MAN TO BE IN CHARGE. IT BRINGS SECURITY... THE PROBLEM IS SOME MEN USE THAT VERSE TO RUN OVER THEIR WIVES. NEW TESTIMENT SAYS HUSBANDS AND WIVES ARE TO SUBMIT TO ONE ANOTHER. THE BODY OF CHRIST IS SUPPOSED TO PRAY FOR ONE ANOTHER, NOT TO CHEER FOR THEM TO FALL....

[@DisciplesHeart]

@@carolmurray5799 just remember they killed everyone who spoke the truth, throughout history and gave stages to those who feed them suger coated lies. (See Luke 6: 26) Do not be decieved.

[@ALTheFreeMan]

@@DisciplesHeart Yep, I agree, he seems wishy washy. Claims to be empowering men, but at the same time, subtly let’s you know that the wife is the boss.

[@southernpatriot6169]

​@@carolmurray5799Absolutely nowhere does Scripture say that Husband and Wife are to submit to one another!

[@jeanclaudemalengret]

Damn, this is authentic. Real man, not relgious men.

[@shenanigansofmannanan]

@MarkDriscoll #26:48 ...here you're in error and contradictory to Scripture... infact you contradicted yourself earlier when Adam Named Eve... and neither Adam nor Eve were "perfect"... good in creation... but not and never was perfect... "To the woman he said, I will make your pains in childbearing very severe; with painful labor you will give birth to children. Your desire will be for your husband, and he will rule over you.” Genesis 3:16 " A woman should learn in quietness and full submission. I do not permit a woman to teach or to assume authority over a man; she must be quiet. For Adam was formed first, then Eve. And Adam was not the one deceived; it was the woman who was deceived and became a sinner. But women will be saved through childbearing-if they continue in faith, love and holiness with propriety." 1 Timothy 2:11-15 "For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body." Ephesians 5:23 .... Man DOES have dominion over his wife.... and Man does have dominion over Woman according to the word of God

[@mrzee1958]

@shenanigansofmannanan AMEN to that. --- The truth of Gods word! NOT opinion or feelings!

[@mrzee1958]

I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!

[@meezysmentality]

Great message

[@codycox2685]

There needs to be a real women series. As we are all aware, the men are not currently the problem.

[@ChristIsLord23232]

i know a lot of guys that have been living in first and second nonsense 😆😆😆

[@drugsarebad97]

I’m Christian and my wife is agnostic/atheist. It can be annoying at times but i always just remember , lead by faith and be an example for those who don’t understand. Show them what we really are and why it’s the way we’re supposed to be.

[@dhaslam003]

That’s rough!! I would start playing Christian music in the house if you don’t already. My cousin was listening and just realized that God loved her. Realizing that God lives us personally was key even in my reversion.

[@aaronkidd9450]

Recipe for disaster and divorce. I held this naive view.

[@aaronkidd9450]

@@ThePrairieChronicles Thank you very much.

[@bethfollowerofChrist]

​@aaronkidd9450 I was a Christian in a marriage to a nonbeliever. It ended of course.

[@badboylovegal]

The bible says not to leave, but pray for your wife and lead her to christ, not only by your word but by your actions, all things are possible with GOD.

[@freerideforever888]

This is cutting edge bible teaching! ...and everything he says i can relate to ...on a dude level... Finally!! Thanks Mark!!! 😊

[@Chuck2theD]

Being genuine is crucial. Her mask fell and I ended up being unable to literally fill the void. Being the ideal father based on what I did not have was the best three years of my life. Followed by the worst four. Now we’re battling for their eternity, for His Glory.

[@davezungu5454]

Pastors should not reinvent doctrine for fear of their wives. Proverbs 30:6 "Do not add to His words, lest He rebuke you, and you be found a liar". Scripture in the strictest form is the blueprint for marriage, not fairy tales, the culture or the wife.

[@BryanAdrielJamesRajakumar]

What about Celibacy promoted by Apostle Paul

[@highlanderdad630]

Thanks

[@mrzee1958]

Hi Mark - you stated at 26.50 in your video "man does not have dominion over the woman". please clarify that statement and please read to us and comment on 1 corinthians 11:3, Ephesians 5:22-23, Genesis 3:16, 1Timothy 2:11-12. Now us men are also to obey the word in how we act to our wives (very important) but the word SPECIFICALLY talks about the order of leadership and authority in the family. YES, I am to walk side by side with my wife in the raising of our children as well as much more but........please read those scriptures! Odd hearing this from you especially after reading the title of the video! Please take my comment in love and not criticism my brother!

[@mrzee1958]

Please read the last line in Genesis 3:16 especially in the amplified bible version!

[@electric5hadow]

Hate to break it to you, but Mark really does not give a FUCK.

[@mrzee1958]

I looked up Genesis 3:16 in Bible Gateway in many other versions (the last sentence of the verse): Living Bible, The Message, New American Standard, NIV, New King James, New Living Translation, Revised Standard, **The Voice, English Standard Version, American Standard, Amplified, KING JAMES, Wycliffe, Young Literal Translation and more! If they ALL say the same thing, that's enough for me! It's just the way we were made by our creator! BUT, like I said before, with this authority comes much responsibility! We BETTER get it right!

[@abfavero]

I think “and he shall rule over thee” means that the man has dominion over the woman. Did you forget that verse?

[@tybarr5875]

Wish I could have seen this a while ano that would have been awesome. I just recently lost my wife. So she's divorcing me and cause. I'm an idiot and I screwed up , but it's been nice to see this a while ago

[@jessefoster2832]

I CAN DO ALL THINGS THROUGH CHRIST WHICH STRENGTHENS ME PHIL 4:13

[@Laurentius_Gladius]

Doesn't the weaker vessel scripture have to do with holding the spirit not physical strength?

[@DogOneIsOpen]

45:37 This is why the Bible teaches women to not live in fear. Yes men shouldn’t be domineering. But there’s also a responsibility for fathers and pastors to teach women to not live in fear. Trying to be emotionally and sexually connected to a fearful woman who has no inclination to become less fearful is like throwing your emotions into a black hole. No amount of loving, caring, etc will make her feel secure and you’ll end up exhausted. If a man’s default setting is become dominating and overbearing, hers is living fearfully resulting in always running away or trying to dominate you.

[@RobertFreeman-gx7lb]

Sharing success in public is a sure way for God to teach you lessons and remove the blessing from your life. Be careful

[@sharon5081]

Amen! DNA= Deoxyribonucleic. It’s sooo interesting that the word, Rib is right in the middle of dna! Deoxy RIB onucleic Praise the Lord for His faithful teachers & preachers in the almighty name of Christ Jesus, Amen! God speed family❤

[@nathanielalderson9111]

Look at the clouds! Maybe you'll see Jesus face in it!

[@paulfisher9527]

Wow! Cool observation …some of us just see everything 😂

[@nathanielalderson9111]

@@paulfisher9527 It's a superstitious observation. It is a misunderstanding of the scientific naming method. This is not a wise thing to take up, other than a fun pun. There is no deeper means being it. It's like saying "amen is sexist, because a-men."

[@catbull2041]

I have a hard time as a woman to live with my husband when he's angry all the time an always pushing me away when I ask what's wrong or I try to help . I have to be careful with what I say because if it's something that could trigger him then goes off. I feel stressed a lot because of his bad attitude an his anger an I don't feel safe .