I Found Something In My Husband's Work Bag That I Wan't Meant To See r/AITA

[@confettiveda2460]

"I found a pink bag with lingerie that wasn't my size." Everyone, including myself: He's cheating.

[@LB-gz3ke]

First thought, he is cheating. Second thought, he likes to wear women's undies. Not a chance that was for her. She said she didn't even wear a bra most of the time. That would be a stupid gift for her.

[@83gemm]

Not just not her size but WAY not her size

[@try1447]

Apparently there are also a lot of clueless people for whom it wasn't so obvious. Naive ones!

[@JadeAkelaONeal]

​@@83gemmI've always assumed 40% of men think there are only 5 bra sizes and never questioned how any of them worked. So a dumb guy could think it's just 2 sizes up

[@83gemm]

@@JadeAkelaONeal Nah, that’s just young men. Surely adults who’ve had a few relationships or been in one for a long time know better?

[@oreoslay]

The SA on the bf story made me cry, it's horrible how so many people immediately think they're at fault when they're taken advantage of, and the fact that he felt like he betrayed his gf when he was literally assaulted and immediately went to apologize to her is heartbreaking. I wish them both the best of luck :')

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

Sadly this isn’t the only one. There is a very similar post from another man where something similar happened at a bachelor party. I feel awful for this man, but as a person who has been sexually assaulted myself, I know he will get through this. I feel terrible about this whole situation. I really hope he changes his mind about the police report. There’s a chance they will do this to someone else.

[@dodgeme1986truck]

I would have recommended he be tested for date r*** drugs or rufies

[@ollynolly4592]

Right! My heart absolutely broke for him. He was betrayed by his best friend and feels there is nothing he can do about it and he holds himself responsible for it and sees it as cheating. Man. I can only imagine my brothers going through something like that. I would set the world on fire.

[@an0rmalp3rson70]

He was such a good guy, and this bullshit happened to him. Those 2 "love birds" were total pieces of shit for doing that to him, I genuinely wanna give him a hug for havin to go through that

[@delilahbelle2125]

Mother/Son Story: the father's attitude of "my son can do no wrong, he's an amazing athlete" is the kind of mentality that leads to their son's committing SA at parties and wondering "where did I go wrong?" That update had me in tears. The job of a parent isn't to be their friend. The job of a parent is to issue their kids grow up to be healthy, well adjusted adults. Otherwise, you end up with "adults" like the father. Love your son OP. He's lucky to have you.

[@BigRed1595044]

First story: as soon as OP said that her husband called her emotional and said that she’s overreacting, I immediately began suspecting he could be cheating. There’s just something sus about invalidating partner‘s feelings when they react to things.

[@JDLPC]

Update from Reddit on bra story: To all wondering what happened after yesterday, We have decided that divorce is the only option. Sadly my "thoughtful and understanding" husband fell out of love with me a few years ago and didn't want to hurt me by telling me that. It sucks but things happen and life goes on. I will travel to stay with my family in another country for a few months to get myself together and proceed with a divorce. Jeremy and I have decided to split semi-amicably and I am looking forward to all that is to come with my AA cups and 3 beautiful dogs that I am keeping. As I wrote my AlTA about the bra, that's the last thing thought would happen - that strangers on the Internet would know something I didn't even have a single thought about. So I guess thanks for that.

[@missindependent5535]

Holy cowgirl! Dudes a jerk. Be happy I'm sure you're beautiful and whoever it is with c boobs will soon be super saggy. You'll find somebody good. And I wish you the best health and happiness.

[@WabbitHunter68]

If he really cared about her feelings then he would've ended the relationship before cheating. The man's a coward.

[@80soa]

@@WabbitHunter68 worse thing cheaters do is trying to make the other person feel sorry for them and be understanding. Being understanding to cheaters is just self harm.

[@Sami19837]

You rock! I love when a r/Reddit story includes the usernames so you can check for updates or comments OP makes.

[@pippo17173]

Ex husband pulls the most shittest move instead of just out of say were done. Honesty really is a rare art form at this point.

[@גלכהן-מ9ז]

1:32:11 The boyfriend being sexually assaulted story: I couldn't stop crying and being furious for what happened to OP's boyfriend. I don't blame OP for not understanding because it's really hard to see what to us looks so obvious when you're inside the situation. When we think about rape victims we usually think about women but we cannot forget that men can get raped too. That story is only one example how rape victims don't understand or deny the fact that they were raped. All bad wishes to Max and his homewrecker of fiance, may they find their way to jail soon.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

My cousin's wife who is 15 years older than I am frequently grabs my male parts, rubs herself against me, has climbed into bed with me naked while I was sleeping, climbs on my lap, and wiggles her *ss to try and get me "excited" and several other sexual type things. I could charge her with sexual assault but then I would have to go thru the stigma of a man who can't stop a woman from doing it. What is worse is that she is like 45 years old (and looks it) and she is about 5'2" and 200 lbs. She is basically as wide as she is tall. I am 6'7" 265 lbs of all muscle. Imagine the looks and things the police, courts, etc. would say if I tried to charge her with sexual assault. Not to mention the fallout within the family. Most of the family knows about her antics and basically just tell her to "knock it off" or "stop already" but they do it with smirks. My cousin doesn't really care I think because he has a side chick he spends most of his time with. I am getting to the point that either I will actually punch her and knock her out or I will go no contact with my entire family and see if that gets their attention and realize I am serious when I say I don't want her touching me.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

@@thomasjoseph5876 I'm sorry that you're going through this. Rape culture, misogyny and toxic masculinity hurt EVERYONE, regardless of their gender. You shouldn't have to put up with this, and I'm kind of disgusted that nobody else seems to be taking it seriously around you. If you can't bring yourself to report her to the police (and I would never blame someone for that, regardless of their gender), then I would definitely recommend no or low contact. Maybe if they realise that they're going to be seeing a whole lot less of you because she won't stop harassing you, then there might actually be some consequences for her (and them). Just be sure to make it clear every single time that even though you would love to come, you can't, and won't, tolerate the repeated sexual assaults by her and their passive complicity by refusing to properly condemn her actions, and that until she stops and leaves you alone, then you have to protect yourself. If the roles were reversed and a man was doing this to a woman, it would be a whole different response and that's just gross.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@JustAnotherBuckyLover The problem with going no contact is that we have a massive family and even as physically large as I am, I don't think they would miss me. I have 8 older sisters. My father has 11 siblings who are all married with kids, and my mother has 9 siblings who are all married with kids (farm family lol). So anytime we all get together, which is fairly often, there are no less than 100 people present. One of my uncles actually built and finished the inside of a 50x100 Pole barn complete with 4 multi-person bathrooms in it just for family events and barn dances lol.

[@JustAnotherBuckyLover]

​@@thomasjoseph5876 Good lord that's a lot of people. 😂 The decision is really more about what is best for you - and if that is, for your mental health, cutting down on the time with them or even going NC, you still should consider doing that. It's not about punishing them or giving them an ultimatum. it's about maintaining your OWN mental health and preventing this person from having any more chances to assault you. If they really don't notice your absence, then even with such a huge family, I feel like that says a lot about them. I'd hope that if a child or sibling of mine kept their distance repeatedly, who is clearly stating they'd love to be there but they don't want to be sexually assaulted, I'd make a bigger issue about not allowing the person responsible for those assaults to continue that behaviour. Either way, it ensures that you won't have to be regularly assaulted. The hypocrisy of them letting this slide when I'm sure they'd be on it harder if it was happening to one of your sisters is just infuriating. I hope that you can find a solution to this and that the rest of your family actually starts stepping up, too.

[@גלכהן-מ9ז]

@@thomasjoseph5876 oh my God I'm so sorry for you! You shouldn't have endured that! I think you should go no contact with your cousin and his wife just for your own sanity. That means, that if you see them in family gathering just ignore them and if anybody ask just say that you don't want evil people in your life. Your family knows what she's doing and by keeping silence they're agreeing with her actions, this will show them that enough is enough and people don't forget so quickly what you have done. I'm sending you my best wishes and I hope you will find peace and healing in your life. You deserve it 🙏🏻

[@thedeck-buildingdemon8293]

Bruhhhh how did Reddit predict that he was cheating, I didn’t even consider that, totally anticipated that he was just dim

[@SmoochyRoo]

because scenarios like this have been posted on Reddit so many times people who frequent those subs are practically all-knowing and experienced by second hand when it comes to sussing out potential situations, the first thought through my mind was that it wasn't for her

[@locusxe1411]

@@SmoochyRoo also cheating is a Reddit default accusation

[@SmoochyRoo]

​@@locusxe1411 along with "NTA Divorce"

[@idkhithere6860]

@@SmoochyRoo a lot of times divorcing was the answer

[@krystalfloods6197]

To be honest Reddit thinks any guy is cheating and usually 90% of the time no matter what happens they are against the guy that posts if it has anything to do with a pregnant woman or a woman in general

[@shadowkissed2370]

There is NO WAY anyone would confuse an A cup with a C cup FFS. He is either cheating or he has ridiculous expectations of what her body is going to look like when she starts gaining weight, but I am leaning toward he is cheating. Just finished hearing what happened. I hate that is what happened but it really sounded like it was that, to begin with.

[@mindylafler3456]

After a grocery shopping trip, we put the groceries away. I found out my middle child, male, had stolen a candy bar. We packed into the car and went back to the grocery store. We asked for a manager and explained why we were there. We made him return it and apologize. It worked. He never did that again.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

Nicely done. If parents don't do things like that, not only will the kid continue to do it but they aren't doing their jobs as parents. Although my friends had this happen to them with their daughter who stole a bottle of inexpensive nail polish and when they went back to the store and talked to the manager, he started yelling at all of them and even called the cops. The cops came and couldn't figure out why they were called and after listening to the manager deride my friends about being poor parents and raising a Klepto, the cops started deriding the manager for being poor at his job and not handling it properly. One of the cops knew the owner of the store and mentioned it to her and she ended up firing the manager. All because of a shoplifted bottle of nail polish by an 11-year-old girl. SMH. Although, I suspect the manager had other issues that led to his firing.

[@JewelWildmoon]

This is how it should be done 👏 And glad to hear he did learn from that experience.

[@rikkitikkitacky]

My mom did the same thing when both my little sister and older sister took some lip gloss from a kids kit when they were younger ON THE SAME DAY! Unfortunately my mom made me apologize for not stopping them.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

@@rikkitikkitacky Ah yes, the old "guilt by sibling". This is usually caused by parents who wish to blame others for any possible or perceived shortcomings in their parenting. In the absence of a true culprit, the other sibling(s) will usually suffice. I found it fascinating once I became a parent how well or horribly my parents handled things while I was growing up. Usually, when I felt something wasn't fair, it was in reality, great parenting on their part, and when I felt "justified" it was usually poor parenting on their part lol. In your instance, however, it was a combination of both poor (lazy) parenting and an injustice against you. Rather than blaming and correcting the issue with the actual guilty party(s), it is easier to "blanket punish" all of you lol. Ironically, we see that failed approach very often in everyday life, especially at our jobs where a few people will screw up but the entire staff "pays for" their faux pas.

[@SCUBASUEReynard]

How sad that a 14 year old had to learn the hard way what an AH his dad was that he not only cheated on his current wife but was divulged the secret of his parents divorce.Then it finally clicked. His dad is not a nice person to women. And he saw he was following in dads foot steps.

[@mrs.h2725]

Honestly I think it’s best he found out accidentally from his crap father/ stepmom. It was a shock and will take some time to move past, but with how toxic and manipulative his dad is I doubt he would’ve believed his mom if she was the one to tell him about the cheating causing the divorce. And it’s also doubtful his dad would’ve ever willingly told him the truth. Now he has the chance to grow up and have healthy relationships rather than following in his dad’s toxic footsteps.

[@nadirimyers6643]

“Husbands can be idiots to this kind of stuff. Knowing our bra sizes and our menstruating products is like tryin to solve a difficult quantum physics problem for them”….. automatically noooooo not only does my boyfriend have all my sizes written down so if he ever does get me clothes/ shoes/ bras he gets the right size but when I told him what pads to get he got the right ones cus he’s a grown ass man and if he doesn’t know where something is or how it works he’d ask for help. I HATTTEEE this type of rhetoric how does it even make sense? Sooo what he capable of wiping his own ass but not capable of reading a box of pads/ tampons? Okay

[@theoneinboots6668]

Thank you! I blame mainstream media for the rhetoric. Makes us look so bad.

[@44waxwings]

I've always hated that some women allow their SOs to be willfully ignorant about them. It's really not hard at all to get the right products when a woman in your life asks you to do that for them and if anything I've always been glad that I'm trusted with that sort of thing.

[@ravenvixen7903]

Even my toxic ex was able to not only get the pads I would need, but would also know my back ups if my normal ones were sold out. Pretty sure a good partner would be able to at least do that much for a normal bodily function. Personally, I'm not worried about the bra size part. I can buy my own clothes, and if my partner wants to surprise me, he has my clothes there for sizing.

[@ebsplace9907]

my bf has pictures of the pads and flex discs i use so if i run out or if i’m in pain and can’t use the discs he’ll go get me some pads he’ll come back w a few snacks as well and then just put me in bed to let me take a nap while he cleans the house up

[@Keyonne88]

Exactly; your significant other, especially married significant other, should know your size. Period. Wives are expect to know what size pants, shirts, and boxers their husband wears so why would the husband get a pass? That's dumb. My husband knows all my sizes except my bra, but that keeps changing right now (I'm pregnant).

[@missindependent5535]

Hmmm my milestone birthday over my child's wedding. Totally no comparison. Watching my baby walk down the aisle and be coming an adult is way the best birthday present any Mama could ask for. That is a happy birthday gift all on its own.

[@nyxx5357]

Right? My mom would've been elated, and I would, too.

[@pandawan4]

But it's not just one day. For the rest of her life, her birthday will overlap with the couple's anniversary and unless they work something out early on she'll never get to celebrate that day properly again

[@missindependent5535]

@@pandawan4 who cares? They're anniversary is usually a private occasion anyway. But if they wanted a big party or whatever might be fine with my birthday being celebrated a week early or a week later. I don't know if you have children but once you do their birthdays become way more important than yours. Having your kids remember your birthday is a beautiful thing all on its own and if her anniversary is always on your birthday and I guarantee she won't forget that. Happy birthday Mom is the second best thing it could say to you the first thing being I love you Mom.

[@katie85705]

@@pandawan4 I personally couldn't picture a more beautiful birthday gift than seeing one of my daughters walk down the isle to the person she loves and gaining their SO as my child in law. It'd also make remembering their anniversary even easier.

[@kimberlycarrigan8824]

@@pandawan4 why not? She doesn't have to celebrate her daughter's anniversary. My mom doesn't celebrate mine. If she did, that would be weird.

[@owl7072]

Story 1: "YTA he's being patient with you through your therapy" Why does being patient mean Op isn't allowed to be upset 🧍🏻 even an idiot would know that was the wrong bra size for Op and that it was too big. They're _married_ and he _still_ can't figure out what bra size his _wife_ wears? Either he's cheating and that was never for Op or he never cared enough to remember the most _basic_ shit like what bra size his _wife_ wears. "Once the weight gain starts"? At most Op could go up to a B cup and even _that's_ not guaranteed. If it was for Op, then he should have waited until he knew for _certain_ that she'd need new ones Edit: Man I was hoping he was just an idiot. Well I mean, he is an idiot but I was hoping he was just an idiot about bras, not an idiot who cheats.

[@tirunarajan2224]

Ya, OP has updated. they are divorcing. My prayers to OP

[@grinningweirdo4888]

Yea, she hadn’t gained the weight yet, how would he know with 100% accuracy that she’d be a C cup? I do buy bras for my partner and I know her size so I don’t get it wrong, any woman would have every right to be upset about it.

[@pippo17173]

honestly man, we knew exactly where it was going when I heard the *brand new* Bra size.

[@lauracottom7425]

I also want to say if this was a woman who slept with her boss everyone would be going off about abuse of power. This woman was his boss. They were on a break/ separated. I really love how people half ass listen to a story and then precede to give an opinion.

[@pansprayers]

I just wanna say that Reddit does, in fact normally point this out. I just love people who half ass cherry pick the glaring abnormalities that pop up, and use them as an entire submission to pretend that Reddit doesn't usually go after women like an attack dog.

[@ChaosCron1]

@@pansprayers I don't know what subreddits you are on but on almost every advice subreddit there's significant more animosity toward men than women in any situation. Almost like advice subs attract more female/younger users than others. Advice subs are the place where "break up with your boyfriend" is a valid response to any relationship struggles. I think I've only seen a few "break up/divorce your gf/wives" and those were in extreme examples like the husband who's wife went through a mental break about a phantom pregnancy. Maybe there was a few comments that pointed this out in this thread alone but I bet that those cements were buried.

[@GrumpyOldFart2]

Yeah, that really annoyed me when they kept saying “cheated on” and “affair partner”, especially after that one commenter pointed out that they had been separated at the time. But then I remember we get these narrations that have been combed through to get the best flow, and the most pertinent information, and there can be hundreds if not thousands of comments. And that those “cheater” comments might not even have seen the “reminder” comment. Although it did say in the main story that the married couple were SEPARATED.

[@kt-zn4yu]

@@pansprayers 100% agree with you. People just want to make men out to be victims of the patriarchy instead of the perpetrators.

[@NoxArcani-z4u]

2nd story. As a single father, this angered me because my daughter's mother vanished off the face of the earth and left me with a child. I had no idea how to take care of. I was lucky because my daughter had two sets of grandparents to watch her while I was at work. I now have a girlfriend who loves my daughter and wants to adopt her as her own, and my daughter loves her in return. Everybody is completely fine with making a baby, but when it comes to taking care of one, it's a problem.

[@Ax-xo4ux]

he needs to at least tell her "I dont want to be in the Childs life, goodbye" and pay maybe a token amount of child support (since OP says she's got the money handled) not just ghost them. you make a baby you take responsibility glad you have your little one, and glad your girls grandparents helped you out. wishing you, your kiddo, your GF and everyone else in your life the best

[@cptfwiffo]

Well, she should've told him properly too. It was her decision to have the child, and she almost ghosted him when she found out. Instead of being more open and prepared. Laying out scenarios and expectations in each case. They sound very much alike...

[@tinycrimester]

drunken "cheater" story: i'm glad the commenters brought it up, but if things happened the way he described, that guy was SA'd, 100%. also this guy had changed everything about his life to be with this woman and acted completely crushed after the incident. doesn't seem like a cheater type. boys really need to be taught about consent and bodily autonomy in the context of their own bodies too. EDIT: also OP sounds like a demisexual. not judging others' life choices, but not wanting to sleep with people unless she's deeply in love.

[@marz6499]

re: the story about the “affair” w his BOSS. Umm if it was the other way around the obvious power dynamic of that encounter would be noted but no one is mentioning it here

[@delab13]

Also, it wasn't even an affair, but a separation. It's tough being a man, even when you are a single father that does everything right people still want to call you the AH

[@viricute4863]

First guy was obviously cheating.... no way was this for her. This was for the other woman.

[@thomasjoseph5876]

I know, right??? Good Lord, even an idiot could figure out there is no way short of surgery (and many Docs wouldn't enlarge them that much) that AA boobies could become C cup behemoths (on her small body that is what they would be like lol). An increase that large could create unnecessary back issues.

[@thatoneguy9816]

Not really

[@wolve2k]

@@thatoneguy9816 that didn't age well, yeah he was cheating. they are divorced

[@thatoneguy9816]

@@wolve2k be sure to tell me in two years what kind of failure you are in life and if you ever found your father.

[@RylieRiddle]

S1: Yeah no, if she's a AA then even an idiot man could tell a C cup wouldn't fit her. And buying lingerie for a potential weight gain is dumb as shit. What if she doesn't even break into a B cup? All that money wasted. The fact they've been together 12 years says he's lying even more to me.

[@kimbailey974]

Its was not for her lol eas for d other woman

[@magnarcreed3801]

I mean I’m a small breasted woman so I’d probably misguess too XD

[@thomasjoseph5876]

LOL that's exactly what I said. "Even an idiot man knows there is no way a woman goes from AA to C cup without surgery and even then, a lot of Doctors wouldn't go that big of a difference because of possible health issues with the woman's back, neck, and shoulders with a body frame as small as she has.

[@pamelalaub6204]

It was obvious it wasnt a gift for her. If it was a gift it would have had tags and been in a gift bag. The loyal wife was naive.

[@AuntLoopy123]

Besides that, it's not just the cup size. You need to get the right band size, as well. There is NO way to figure that out in advance. He might not know that, it's true. But that's just a single red flag. Time to look for others. Oh, look. She found others. Color me surprised.

[@LisaApril]

Boy, I hope op who found the bra in the wrong size for her, lives in a state where she can sue for compensation from the woman for alienation of affection, and I hope she gets a lot when she divorces her husband. I hope she doesn’t live in a no-fault divorce state. The husband is a liar, but he’s so much worse than a liar.

[@pansprayers]

As someone who's sued - successfully - for *loss of consortium* (it's not AoA) unfortunately, I can say right now no lawyer will took the case, and if they did, run away from them. I won because I had DNA tests. Even then, there's a cap on the award amount and it's rarely enough to cover the attorney fees. I had to sue to get my children's support moved to the front of the line (those NICU bills aren't paying themselves), otherwise it's not worth it.

[@squirrel670]

Who's even to say she knew. Only guarantee is husband is trash. Op shouldn't even waste her time, unless she finds out something where she should take action

[@RuminatingRaptor]

@@squirrel670 Exactly. I’m so sick of this ridiculous attitude of blaming the other woman. He’s the one who took vows and broke them. Blame the cheater.

[@RuminatingRaptor]

Lisa, you seriously need to wake up and rid yourself of the internalized misogyny that has you blaming the other woman when HE IS THE ONE AT FAULT. You act like women can put men under a spell or something. 🤦🏻‍♀️ He’s the one to blame. Period!

[@AuntLoopy123]

@@squirrel670 I used to have a roommate who was engaged to be married, and so happy and planning the wedding, and hearts and flowers, right up until the day she found out he was already married, with children. Not all "side-pieces" are "home-wreckers." Sometimes, they are being WRECKED, right alongside the spouse. My favorite infidelity stories are when both wronged women find out, get together, and work together to get revenge on the man, and end up as best friends, raising their children together as "sisters," and the children as "cousins."

[@natekolodziejski]

My grandma went to HR about her supervisor only when she quit/retired. Word got to her that she got the ball rolling on the reports that got the supervisor fired. Probably the worst that happened while she was there (which is why she quit) was when her supervisor denied her time off when she had shingles... She was a housekeeper in a retirement/nursing (the are different departments within the facility) home.

[@amandab8433]

WRONG BRA UPDATE . 😔 Edit2: So I left it yesterday as an open ending as needed to collect my thoughts and understand the next steps, but as I logged in now I received many nice messages and comments, and honestly I am very grateful to you all. To all wondering what happened after yesterday, we have decided that divorce is the only option. Sadly my "thoughtful and understanding" husband fell out of love with me a few years ago and didn't want to hurt me by telling me that. It sucks but things happen and life goes on. I will travel to stay with my family in another country for a few months to get myself together and proceed with a divorce. Jeremy and I have decided to split semi-amicably and I am looking forward to all that is to come with my AA cups and 3 beautiful dogs that I am keeping. As I wrote my AITA about the bra, that's the last thing I thought would happen - that strangers on the Internet would know something I didn't even have a single thought about. So I guess thanks for that.

[@Livingshadow2009]

So sorry to hear about that. Hope you are doing well.

[@EvonneLindiwe]

💐 Hug. I’m glad you’re going to be with family right now.

[@hiphopapotamus6913]

The moms bday party story: something like this actually happened to me lol. My mom loved to ask for favors and once they were done, she would start a fight with the person helping her (she would always come up with random grievances from years ago to bring up and bitch about) then kick them out and not pay (she would always ask so if it was a big favor then she would pay…they were always big favors) it became a pattern and everyone she used to call for help stopped answering (she only called family as anyone normal would have and HAVE told her to kick rocks) she then called me crying calling me disrespectful and asking why no one will help her in her time of need. I told her cause she’s a con artist that got ppl to remodel her apartment for 1/4 of the cost it would have been and didn’t even pay the 1/4 she owed because it was “family helping family” (she ever helped any of her children and was a extremely neglectful parent) I told her she was dead to us. I haven’t spoken to her in years

[@paulastiles5507]

Sperm donor story - total YTA. It's funny that OP loves to downmouth his own brother when he himself is so strikingly selfish and empathy-free. I get that maybe the kid wants to rush things, but adopted kids often do. They've built up all of these fantasies and expectations and of course, reality is usually quite different. On the other hand, it's not Jake's fault that he just found out his bio family is a bunch of walking refrigerators.

[@tylergropp2394]

I use to be religious and was against lgbtq as well tell my brother came out. Was hard at first but ended up loving my bro more then my religion. Giving those ultimatums would have made me sick. Glad you stepped up for your daughter and made it work for everybody!

[@hjax5]

The story about the security guard....just another example of weak men trying to flex their manhood because they have no self-esteem and need to use their job to try to feel dominant...makes me sick!

[@lindahoward7309]

Was he just flirting?

[@lorifiedler13]

If so, he sucks at it.

[@ireallyneedsleep6239]

@@lindahoward7309 How in the fuck was that flirting??? How would that had made him attractive to her?

[@DespairDoctor]

And trying to treat her like a child and tell her brother to keep her under control, sickening.

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

He can not deny a person access to a hospital because they did not smile, that sounds wrong in every way! I would refuse to acknowledge him and just go in. I would assume that a person that looked sad or distraught going into a hospital had a good reason.

[@frozenheart7133]

Story 2: sounds like my ex. My teenager acts similarly. My ex doesn’t care what he does as long as he doesn’t have to put in any effort. When he was with my ex last, my son just left and my ex didn’t bother to ask questions or care. He showed up at my house after midnight tripping on acid. My ex will never see my son again.

[@AllistorMichelle]

i think everyone should practice their psycho killer smile for this security guard. he wanted a smile, give him the creepiest smile you can muster

[@nyxx5357]

Widen your eyes until they're bulging out a little, let a manic, toothy grin spread across your face, and tilt your head as far as you can to one side without discomfort. Do all of this slowly and simultaneously, while making direct eye contact with the intended target.

[@nyxx5357]

A slight eye twitch or head jerk helps, too.

[@lorifiedler13]

The Wednesday Addams smile. The painful one

[@acatnamedm4529]

Geeze, OP, he's cheating.

[@YancieMomofmanyx]

Op

[@justlikethewizard]

The one about the guy who was drunk and ended up "sleeping with" the other girl - that reply is so right. I feel so bad for that bf :( he deserves love and help, it definitely is assault. EDIT: UGH that poor guy :( to have a terrible friend do that. To have someone you trust, it's so common with assault and I hope that he is okay. Just because he's a man doesn't make him not a victim, I'm happy OP seems to understand that now.

[@Keyonne88]

Yeah; if my husband told me that happened, I'd be marching over to talk to them about it, finding out their side, ripping them a new one, and probably pushing my husband to press charges. If his story is true, and it sounds like it is, he was RAPED. I'd be so angry at THEM not asking whether I should give my husband a second chance.

[@suehirsch6545]

Re OP's son who screwed with the girl's emotions: In response to my son saying that apologizing was the most embarrassing thing I'd made him do, I would have told him that I was never going to take him to the beach again until he stopped embarrassing ME by being a jerk to other people. To the kid's Dad, I would have said: Don't like the way I handle discipline, then straighten up and start disciplining so that this doesn't happen. NTA BTW.

[@papasalvo]

Okay this was to funny not to tell everyone. I'm not watching the video just listening whilst I work. When we get to 20:16 and the op finishes the question of can a guard deny me access I get an add that's just the sounds of a book being put on a shelf and the clinking of a spoon in a mug I honestly didn't know it was an ad cause the timing was so perfect and I was expecting markee to sip the tea then go in on this one hahahaha I was disappointed

[@Louise-ls4jv]

This has happened to me so many times! An ad has popped up and I've listened to it for 30 seconds before realising it isn't part of the video

[@madihaq2252]

S1: OP's mistake was to ask her husband about the lingerie WHILST HE WAS IN THE SHOWER. She did not get to see his reaction and it gave him time to react, recollect and think of an escape line by the time he came out.

[@Dohyden2]

"If it weren't for you the sign wouldn't be necessary" The wife almost certainly asked OP to have a conversation with his mother about boundaries and he did not do that. OP is withholding info

[@barbstrickland1417]

The wife didn't have to be disgusting she could of used a little class when writing the mil the little message.

[@83gemm]

It is crazy to me how many stories there are where OP is terrified that something they did was wrong, or that their partner doesn’t like something about them and Reddit is immediately like: Um… cheating. Then the OP says, “That never crossed my mind.” Of COURSE the first guy was cheating. You found expensive lingerie hidden in his bag after a trip that wasn’t anywhere near your size. But her first thought was… oh no… he doesn’t like my body.

[@TheIronwil]

It’s sad that a man who is taken advantage of while drunk/high is seen in a completely different light as when this happens to women. However, I understand how OP came to this initial point. This was a dirtbag move on his friend’s part.

[@gonebattygoth]

As a snake owner. Who loves his snake so damn much. What the school did to that kid is not okay! Not to mention, stressful for the animal AND the kid.

[@co7314]

It is never okay to force/coerce someone to have sex against their wishes.

[@Star_Joker]

I immediately knew that the husband was cheating on OP. I may need some time away from Reddit, as its made me cynical.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

Cynical or just a realist?

[@jeriko_studios]

That story where OP's partner got effectively raped by a friend and their partner made me genuinely cry hearing it again, I know what thats like, to have people force themselves on you, and the only thought I had was "no no its the one where he got raped" over and over

[@IamJenJen101]

This isn't even the first story I've seen where a guy was sexually assaulted and begged for forgiveness like he cheated. It disguises me that no one even considers that he didn't give consent and that the woman say they can't trust them anymore. We need more social awareness of rape.

[@IamJenJen101]

Not really to say I hold it against the women though. I don't really think it's their fault. I think it's how we're conditioned socially. I'm glad younger generations have fresher views that include more then women can be sexually assaulted.

[@toniclarke7398]

Are you living in every day I'm not convinced he was raped why I'm not pressed charges if he had said I don't want to relive this that would be one thing but his answer to not wanting to press charges was he didn't want to wreck his life and they and the parents are family friends does he think his parents would be okay with him being raped by their family friends child or his significant other

[@IamJenJen101]

@@toniclarke7398 the reality of rape is it's most often a crime with two witnesses. One saying there was consent and the other saying there wasn't. Most rape cases do not get prosecuted as evidence is simply lacking. On top of this, most rape perpetrators is someone the victim knows. When an a allegation like that comes out, between that social group there are now automatically two sides. The victim and the accused. Most people will believe one side or the other, and regardless of whichever they choose their is now a divide in that group. This potentially divides families. Weather the perpetrator gets legally persecuted or not there will be those who believe the victim is ruining the guys life for no good reason. The amount of people that believe this comes down not to the facts, but it's how likely they are to sympathize and believe the victim. Depending on this for coming forward with rape allegations can mean running your life, dividing your family, dividing your friend group. These allegations can follow you for the rest of your life. At first HE didn't even believe he was raped, how likely are the people in his life, the social circle that surrounded a person who believes men cannot be raped, how likely are they to believe him?

[@IamJenJen101]

@@toniclarke7398 I mean hell, you don't believe he was raped. How many people are likely to think like you?

[@IamJenJen101]

For future readers this is what I was responding to: "Are you living in every day I'm not convinced he was raped why I'm not pressed charges if he had said I don't want to relive this that would be one thing but his answer to not wanting to press charges was he didn't want to wreck his life and they and the parents are family friends does he think his parents would be okay with him being raped by their family friends child or his significant other"

[@izzisart]

Hospital security guard: That guard was INSANE. They're at a bloody hospital. For all he knows, she could be there because her sister is dying of cancer.(not that she is, but he doesn't know, and has no power to say regardless.) Why the hell would he expect her to smile? He's a power-tripping misogynist. What a creep

[@tinasmith3844]

The boyfriend that "cheated" with the best friends girl was the victim of a sexual assault. He needs to file a police report against both Max and his girl.

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

THIS! This is flat out rape. To think that he was set up by his “best friend” as well is so so scary.

[@dianeghazaryan4773]

well he didn't try to stop it now did he?

[@ashleyduckworthyt3224]

@@dianeghazaryan4773 He was drunk AF and couldn’t consent. You sound like a rape apologist

[@dodgeme1986truck]

​@@dianeghazaryan4773possibly date r*** drugs?

[@hungrymusicwolf]

@@dianeghazaryan4773Shock, fear, and being drunk can all cause you to be UNABLE to react. That does not make them any less of a victim of rape.

[@kathyhallock2528]

The homewrecker story, sounds to me like the best friend may have set him up to destroy this relationship!

[@Queen_Of_Discord]

Lmao we went from "my widowed mother is emotionally abusive, manipulative, and fetishizing our relationship" to "lol what would happen if I just walked into a random McDonald's and just started working?"

[@JMac7395]

S2: There would've been no right way to tell him without it being awkward. That being said, please do not make excuses for his original reaction. Instead of verbally responding his shock & displeasure, he chose to react like an emotionally immature teen. This is a peephole into his true character. OP was dating him for a few months. People tend to hide their true nature in the early stages of a dating relationship. What if OP had gotten pregnant by him again? He would've most likely abandoned her. OP & her daughter dodged a bullet. I hope OP make no attempts to pay for his presence on behalf of her child. It'll backfire on OP should the situation become legal. It will also backfire on the daughter. The deadbeat will make her feel unwanted since he doesn't want to be around her to begin with.

[@katie85705]

His reaction is definitely childish. I went through a similar experience though with my youngest. When I find out I was pregnant his immediate reaction was me to get rid of "it". We had a big fight where he insulted me and well let's just say it was a pretty bad break up. I grew up without ever knowing my father so I figured I'd give it my best shot. I sent him updates throughout the pregnancy. Letting him know how the pregnancy was going, ultrasound pictures how the baby was doing and even the date of the scheduled c-section (I have to have c-sections due to an emergency one with my oldest). I sent pictures of her after she was born, let him know how she was doing and just regular updates. He never responded back until she was 4 months old. He met her shortly after responding and actually started becoming a father. It took another month for him to tell his family who were overjoyed to meet her. Not long after meeting his daughter he ended up with cancer. It was really bad and almost killed him, he was weak and the cancer almost killed him. He went into remission but 2 weeks later it came back and he passed when my daughter was 2 and a half years old. I can now honestly tell my baby girl that her father loved her, I have pictures of them together and she even has a stuffed animal that he gave her that she sleeps with every night. She's now almost 4 and her grandparents, aunt and her aunts uncle love and cherish her. Yes his initial reaction was highly immature and even hurtful but I understand his reasoning behind it. He previously had 2 premature babies that passed away and the mother only let him keep 1 picture of each of them. He also had a son who the mother chose to give to her racist parents. Everytime he went to see his son the grandparents would call the cops on him. He was only 18/19 at the time so he had trouble fighting for custody and eventually gave up. His son thankfully though did find his dad's family shortly after his passing. Me doing my best to let him know about his daughter showed him that I wasn't going to just take her away from him and that I wanted him to be in her life. I have no regrets other than the fact that her father is no longer with us. My heart breaks for them both but at least they got a couple amazing years together.

[@tinazimmer4304]

I do understand why the guy in the second story didn't respond, it does make sense. And I understand how your daughter's father had that same response. And I'm actually really glad that even though he didn't respond to you for the first few months you kept in contact with them. It's probably exactly what he needed to be in your daughter's life. Your story is so heartwarming but also heartbreaking at the same time. I am so sorry for yours and your daughter's loss. ((HUGGSS)) please accept my internet hug from a complete stranger. And I absolutely wish the best for both you and your daughter moving forward and I'm really glad that your daughter's father's son was able to reach out to his family, And my heart breaks for him as well and for his two daughters that were denied access to him.

[@lorifiedler13]

Is it possible that he is talking with a lawyer too? OP should let him know about the move and keep the lines of communication open. But still live her own life with her daughter.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

To those who have been cheated on, don't forgive them, just forget them, you'll never ever trust them fully again.

[@Reality_TV]

Story#1: Girl! That bra was NOT FOR YOU! LMAO! He isn't that clueless! That has affair written all over it!

[@k.stacey7389]

“My boyfriend was raped, should I give him a chance?” Wtf?!

[@lkayh]

The “surprise-you’re my baby daddy” story. Did she make clear that she did not intend to seek child support? Could be he bounced because he was afraid she’d do that? That additional comment about reaching out to the family lawyer might have made him think she might. Also, while I think it’s obvious that she didn’t track him down, he might wonder if their whole relationship was based on false pretenses. I’m pretty sure he was just stepping back while he figured out what to do. Could also be that if he contacted his own attorney he was advised to step back.

[@tinazimmer4304]

I absolutely agree and since I just recently found this channel I've been scrolling through the comments to see if anybody had posted an update... ugh

[@deannorwood287]

The one story this man was legitimately raped call the cops and press charges he even said himself he was 2 drunk

[@mweathers79]

S7: my dad died unexpectedly too. Mom was a mess for a while. She pulled the “your leaving me too” when I told her I was moving back out to start my life with my wife. Now, 20 years later, two houses, two kids, and several career advances, my mom lives with us. It can be rough sometimes but ultimately it works well for everyone. Mom needs her own life and needs to respect her kid’s boundaries.

[@eponymoususer8923]

How did she not immediately get suspicious about lingerie that’s the wrong size?

[@lorifiedler13]

She Was an optimist. Was.

[@mesiagamer5217]

Health issues can mess with ones head.

[@tabytha7636]

Ummmm am I the only one that doesn't feel even slightly satisfied with how the girlfriend treated and is still handling the situation of her boyfriend being R#ped!? Like this man was taking advantage of and his first reaction is to treat her like a queen and her reaction is to not really do anything for him and then when she finally realize and accepted that he was R#ped She doesn't do any good for him like she isn't treating him like a king and trying to help him. Yeah she suggested the police but she's not doing anything that guys would do if their girlfriend was in this situation. It just seems like she still using the high body count as the reason why he shouldn't be treated extremely special right now.

[@masterchefmarshall]

Bro this is a real thing. I am extremely pissed off at this. How is this not seen as rape. I'd immediately call the police and help my partner get therapy. What the fuck. This is so fucking shitty. She is an asshole. I know that she's hurt. But she isn't being supportive at all!

[@diene4music836]

I’m incredibly frustrated by the situation as well. Unfortunately our society down plays the effects and reality of the trauma of SA on men. I think it was hard for both of them to come to terms with what happened and the choice of words by the BF. I really do hope they both get the help that they need and when he is ready for it he can work through the trauma. It also seems like she is unsure on how to help him. But they may also not be giving all the details.

[@Tijggie82]

Wooooow, I honestly thought he was just an idiot. That's so sad.

[@lillithherondale1972]

I'm a security officer, no, you cannot deny someone access because they didn't smile. you can't do "tone police" unless they're acting hostile/aggressive. not smiling doesn't meet that criteria. That's something to bring a complaint up to because it's absolutely not appropriate.

[@tashasimmons747]

Thank you. So true.

[@TheNormExperience]

Thank you! Absolutely true! I can’t help imagining this “security guard” trying this on someone heading into the ER crying in absolute agony, or numb and in shock from the call they got telling them a loved one is in the hospital and they have to come immediately, running into this guy and….oh it just got me steamed!!! I really, really hope OP reported it because this was not ok. So many people wind up in a hospital on the worst day of their lives, and absolutely none of them deserve to have some absolute ASSHOLE like this trying to deny them access to a public hospital because they aren’t chipper enough for him!Like, are you freaking kidding me!?!

[@Munthegun]

Bro that second story is bonkers

[@lisadial9740]

Re: the widowed mother story, nobody has mentioned what is the biggest red flag in my opinion. The husband stated that his mother was his best friend in the world. WTF! My ex-husband is a spoiled rotten, not too intelligent mama's boy, but even he had enough sense not to say anything like that out loud. I am not religious, but realize that many people are. I know enough about the Bible to be aware that when you marry, each partner leaves their family to begin a new family with your partner (remember the story of Ruth?) Your partner becomes your best friend.

[@tegantalks9612]

1:21:19 mom in this story honestly reminds me of my toddlers when they are trying to delay their bed time lol

[@senecafirst7333]

When he whispered “get out here with your creepiness” at 1:50:57 I dunno man I blushed

[@Grinchier]

One night stand father story - why is the guy supposed to immediately react positively to something like this? Lots of women freak out when they find out, and do not tell their partner 'till they're ready'. Instead of talking to him, she sent him a thread where she states she doesn't need him and kid has two father figures. Charming. He's just found out he's a dad, has missed out on her early years, and .. he's not needed. Doesn't sound like a great situation to dive into. Maybe he will stay no contact, but it's interesting how so many think it's ok for her to casually dismiss the need for him. Child doesn't need to know real father apparently, and he has been replaced anyway. Hope he reaches out again.

[@amerlin388]

After the hospital story, the commenter who wrote, "This is what unions are for..." made me laugh. It's the union's job to protect the miscreant and his job regardless. A worker at the steel mill was reinstated after being fired for bringing a pillow in and sleeping in the cab of his (in-plant) truck. Their argument was the employee was never explicitly told he couldn't bring a pillow in to work.

[@merpasakiejingu]

My sister works for the USPS, which is unionized and some of the people she works with, the stories she's told me. Laziest pieces of crap, but can't get fired until going through the long drawn out process of reprimanding them. So they still have a job, while not working because unions were put into place to protect workers, even the shitty ones. Unions are a double-edged sword

[@ShebaMetaluna]

I feel so bad for the kid trying to learn more about his bio relatives, but it is something I can really relate to so I am probably biased. I hope at some point he finds some paternal bio relatives that are more open to talking or friendship.

[@goldstarburst1984]

Finally have a story to share. that "ask out prank" happened to me in middle school. I, oblivious to the prank, believing this guy i barely knew asked me out, happily replied "no thanks!" He froze and was like 'i was just joking' to which my Neurodivergent-butt just shrugged and enjoyed the rest of gym class.

[@joybernard7359]

I told my girls that as much as I enjoy my time with them I am their mother, not their friend. And when angry and shouting “ I hate you” I would respond, “ well I love you and it’s my job to raise you to be a decent person, not to be your friend”. You need to go to family councilling. Where I live if couples are divorcing with children- they HAVE to go to a course at the courthouse to learn about divorced parenting. If you don’t take it you can’t get divorced. I think it’s a great idea!

[@LisaApril]

I’m looking at houses and I refuse to live in a hoa. I like everyone to live free.//the exposure therapy story is too serious to just accept a new class and apology for. I would have complained to the board licensing therapists regarding the schools practice and put the teacher and principal on blast so they are removed. They don’t belong in education.

[@randomaccount-dq1jq]

Why the hell would you go and randomly work unpaid at another Mcdonalds apart from wanting to steal from the safe

[@oliviagore7067]

That sounds like autism.. high functioning. I was caught by that story too. I have two brothers that are and routine is a must. My oldest brother will get up every morning and put on the uniform of the a job he no longer has often. He will go out all day looking for work, eats and volunteer at the soup kitchen when he doesn't find it. He just wants to be with other adults that won't question him about everything like the family at home. He wants to feel like the grown up man he is and for him that means working.

[@cre-k8-ive]

Oh. My. God. The "exposure therapy" one makes me burn with frustration. As someone doing exposure for a fear, that's not what it is. Not only was there no mental health professional present, but if there was, this would be malpractice. My care provider emphasized that if I'm having anxiety, I should stop. The point of exposure is to learn that you can experience the scary thing without much distress, so continuing when overly scared can be counterproductive. This family should sue them for practicing medicine without a license, neglect of the child, and emotional damages for worsening the fear and the trauma that comes from being hurt by a caregiver (which legally is what the school and teachers are).

[@lucasdieugenio507]

"HOW DARE YOU NOT REMEMBER WHAT YOUR ONE NIGHT STAND LOOKED LIKE!?!?! I WOULD REMEMBER THE FACE OF EVERY ONE NIGHT STAND I EVER HAD!!!!!!"

[@Mario-SunshineGalaxy64]

I absolutely love the interaction in the comments of the affair kid story, very amusing.

[@lisasteele661]

Not smiling is NOT legal reason to keep someone out. I have had a friend who could not smile. Look up Parkinsons. Most times trying to smile can look like they are sneering

[@FallenAngel3685]

The story about the son who asked the girl out as a prank hit soo damn close to home for me. When i was in highschool, i had quite the crush on my sisters best friend and our next door neighbor. Because she was best friends with my sister, and my neighbor, we had many common friends and hung out together quite often. Although i had never told her, i was sure she knew that i had feelings for her. One day a group of us were hanging out when out of nowhere she asked me "Do you want to be my boyfriend?" I had been trying to grow the courage to ask her out since middle school, and was shocked that she was asking me. It was like a dream come true. I finally managed to stammer out "of course, ive had a crush on you for years". I will never forger her reply... "ok, i just wanted to know" as her and a few of the girls in the group giggled and walked away. It crushed my soul. Feel so sorry for the girl in that story. Im sure it was anything but a joke to her.

[@kellypatterson8506]

Story about Max and Home wrecker there's a Word for what they did it's called rape

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

It's not rape, but it is sexual assault.

[@kellypatterson8506]

@@trippinggauntlet4520 same difference, the legal definition of what is rape vs sex assault varies from state to to state. My basic point is if someone has sex with you without your consent it's rape, don't bother me with technical details.

[@trippinggauntlet4520]

@@kellypatterson8506 well it isn't here. So don't bother me with your nasty attitude.

[@co7314]

Wow the "three kids by three different men" person... why do you think she isn't going to drain you dry then kick you to the curb? She's irresponsible and a user. The OP should never have gotten involved.

[@myownsidekick]

Men may be oblivious about womens clothes size, but they know the difference between an a cup and a c cup.

[@Dohyden2]

You say you would say F.U. to the hospital security guard. But in reality when you are visiting a loved one in need the last thing you will do is say / do anything to slow down the process of getting to them

[@ViixenVox]

For the guard story: ITS A HOSPITAL. people are not always going to be cheerful at a hospital. Their loved ones could be seriously hurt or sick in there. They could be going in to say their last goodbye. You cannot deny access based on someone's mood, unless they are causing a huge scene and hurting (physically, or verbally) the people around them. This feels very much like guys pulling the "you would be prettier if you smiled" card, but in a weird power trip kinda way

[@mrs.h2725]

He was uh hundred percent being a sexist pig who thinks all women have to perform for him like a well trained dog, and was using his position to punish her for not barking on command. I’ve dealt with that plenty of times, as a decent looking gal who’s worked in the medical field for a couple decades. I can’t count all the times some guy has said something about how much prettier I would be if I smiled for them. It’s gross, and an immediate sign that I want nothing to do with that dbag. The irony being that I’m naturally very smiley, so the few times I’m tired from a 12 hr shift or just had to kneel in a puddle of piss or vomit in the ER to place an IV and obviously not smiling some ahole thinks he should call me out for not being perpetually bubbly lol. F off with that.

[@kellyalves756]

Yeah, that guy needs to be off that job. Hopefully if OP couldn’t bring themselves to follow up, the sister did. And if they ever have to pick sis up at the hospital again, phones out, record on.

[@sleepingkirby]

28:38 My dad was harder on me than my mother. Granted, both of them have their own/other issues, but... you know that trope of "You'll thank me when you're older"? Or "You'll understand when you get older"? Well... at least with my dad, it was true. Not that he was always right but dealing with harsh/real consequences early on on a smaller scale is EXTREMELY helpful and beneficial and, I feel, made me a better person.

[@muhname6052]

Lucas: why is ESH singing the mom praises? No. The husband gave her an a choice. Time living with the son or keeping the marriage. She didn't choose Lucas. ESH buth the order is the husband, mom, and then the OP. Mom can cry into the sunset.

[@michellemybelle1231]

If your wife has to make a sign to keep Mommy out of your bedroom, you are a lousy husband. Mommy needs to get over her crap and get her own life. Plenty of people are widowed and don’t manipulate their kids because “you’re all I have left”. Don’t be shocked when your wife walks away and trades up for someone without Mommy issues.

[@wrenchbender66]

Ok, on the age difference story. It's not always a bad situation. My husband and I were about the same age as OP and her boyfriend when we started dating. We were married less than a month shy of 33 years. No, we are not divorced. He drowned in his own blood on Easter Sunday. It was very traumatic. He died in my arms. All the images and sounds sometimes jump up out of the blue. My therapist says it's how PTSD works. All the time. So don't even think it's age that is the problem or that all people with that age difference are hiding something like that.

[@littlegreycat]

If i was that Mom 1:09:38 I’d leverage my children against that businesses and take my kids. I don’t think she realizes how bad this situation is and how much damage this is doing to her relationship to her son.

[@candaceowens455]

The guy that went to his friends house sounds like it wasn’t consensual. Just because your a guy doesn’t mean it wasn’t rape

[@cynicalminion]

2:24:51- yeah... everytime i hear this story, that stands out immediately... there is NOTHING about the behavior OP experienced from the new son-in-law OR his parents that would indicate that they had ANYTHING to do with the situation between the sisters... in fact, them SPECIFICALLY wanting to talk to OP and her OTHER daughter makes me suspect that the bride has been doing everything in her power to keep that meeting from happening, and that the wedding was the one time and place that she couldn't...

[@murielross9288]

If the security guard had spoken to her I would believe it's could be legal. What he did and how he handled was clear misuse of any power that idiot had and I would become Karen and get him fired for stupidity.

[@lorifiedler13]

Telling ops brother to get her in like and make sure op smiled at him, the guard. He's a prick, an AH, and beyond misogynistic.

[@chloecook4511]

The guy who had an affair with his boss --if this were a woman who had the affair with her boss, everyone would be talking about the dynamics of this relationship. In this case commenters are blaming him for thr affair and not commenting on her perceived power in the relationship. It was her choice in staying with her husband to the detriment of her relationship with her son.

[@Nursern1974]

OMG you need to report this incident to the hospital. Just tell them the details and that you felt his behavior was creepy. The idea of your brother controlling your behavior is beyond strange. You have your brother as a witness.

[@shahana_style]

LMFAO @ the McDonald's story. Like WHY lol just WHYYYY lol

[@jdd9993]

The hospital security guard needs to be fired or reprimanded at the very least.

[@jaymevosburgh3660]

Wow! At first I was thinking that if the son liked his dad & stepmother so much you should just give him over to them... But wow I did not see that coming. Not at all surprised! Cheaters usually keep cheating. Really sucks the son had to find out his dad is actually a massive turd the way he did but it honestly needed to happen, and better sooner than later. Therapy cans & does help a lot.

[@ytl9558]

That's a good HR team for the hospital!

[@garnetj69]

I can't believe that security guard had the audacity to comment on why someone entering the hospital wasn't smiling, first off no-one is required to smile unless they are working, in your private time it's your business only, secondly most people entering the hospital are there for either a visit to a sick loved one or because someone was dying or because they themselves are sick.

[@Allantitan]

A 2 week suspension from school should only be used if there’s an investigation involving the police and even then it’s pushing it

[@laurenludovico2301]

Hold on did anyone catch that OP in the bra story has been with her husband for 12 years, if she is 29 and he is 34 that means they first got together when she was 17 and he was 22. He was problematic since WAY before this story even took place.

[@paulinadeboer3604]

I realy like this long reddit story's i put them on when i do choirs.

[@mweathers79]

S10: the minute she said he lived 30 minutes away and it was too inconvenient to go back and forth, I thought “he’s married”.

[@xxKuroKajixx]

Licensed insurance agent here. That woman with the snake has a very good case to sue. You CANNOT practice therapy without being a licensed physician/therapist. And you must have gaurdian consent to do therapy with a child. That is just so so so insane. The fact that the school acted in bad faith and probably lied about it, means their liability insurance most likely WILL NOT cover any lawsuits. lol sue the hell out of them.

[@low-keydrama1260]

The security guard smiling story: Talk about power tripping and this guy is supposed to help keep people safe.Sometimes people are just tired, stressed, and are in no mood to "smile and act cheery".

[@CAFEAULAIT32]

Just to let you know, my ex went through the same thing! I stopped him from loaning money to his best friend. His best friend knew he didn’t drink, but BFF got him drunk and set him up with a girl he knew. We broke up.

[@thepridefulprincess]

You broke up with him because he was raped?