5 Harsh Truths That Will Change Your Life

Breaking down the five most important truths that have impacted my life. Hopefully they'll impact yours.
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00:00 Introduction
01:30 Truth #1: Humans suck-try to suck less
08:44 Truth #2: Pain is inevitable-suffering is optional
16:43 Truth #3: Everything you believe will one day fail you-this is how you grow
24:25 Truth #4: You don't deserve happiness-you don't deserve anything
30:32 Truth #5: Everything you love will one day be lost-this is what makes life meaningful
35:55 Summary
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[@nelsongigstad3961]

This podcast had a very special meaning for me. A week ago I received a phone call that my son had been found dead in his apartment. This is something no parent should have to go through. What I heard Mark say is that death is a part of the experience of life. We can't experience life without experiencing death. This brought a sense of peace to me. Rather than fighting the grief, I can embrace it as a human experience. Erik is gone, but his memory can never be taken from us. Thank you, Mark, for helping me through this time.

[@MTMYOU292]

I'm sorry for your loss😢

[@pas_du_tout]

Sending you a hug😢

[@FernandesBrunoPT]

Sorry for your loss

[@nelsongigstad3961]

Thank you.@@MTMYOU292

[@nelsongigstad3961]

Thank you for caring.@@pas_du_tout

[@rohitsasmal8146]

1:32 Human suck, try to suck less 8:46 Pain is inevitable Suffering is optional 24:25 You don't deserve happiness you don't deserve anything 30:34 Everything you love will one day be lost This is what makes life meaningful 16:47 Everything you believe will one day fail you This is how you grow

[@DarkPesco]

Dude...stop it. Really, stop it. Seriously, STOP IT!! . 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@Selsmittenxo]

😢😢😢😢

[@TiffanyNg100]

1:51 I’m wrong so I just correct all my wrongs

[@Oxymoron666]

I like your style. Thank you very much. You suck less than me.

[@steniorodrigo5590]

Thank you very much, my friend.

[@carlrowlinson2833]

A general rule of life that's made living a lot easier for me: Never assume malice when incompetence explains the same thing. It's a lot easier to think about people not paying attention rather than thinking they're deliberately fucking me over.

[@thelordmemnoch]

I don't know about this one. I have always thought this way and for the life of me couldn't understand why things weren't going better for me. Once I started attributing malice, rather than incompetence, not only did their behavior change, but my tolerance to them as well. I think the difference is between an isolated incident and a consistent pattern.

[@promiseobieshi4367]

You are my life saver...just lost my dad, knew k had find comfort here

[@whitenbald]

Drew told me that you should give him a raise per golf clap

[@saurabhpawar7111]

"A Life Ends, And Because it Ends, You Should Make it As Good As possible.'' This line hits so hard. Thank you mark for this Amazing Session😍

[@dbutler9028]

Welcome aboard the pain train! Love it!

[@fulltilt151]

12:00. My therapist said something similar. "Stop shooting yourself with the 2nd arrow." Something 'bad' happens. "Ah, I forgot I needed to do before ." So instead of saying "fuck, I'm such a dumbass" (my default), don't shoot yourself with the 2nd arrow. "I forgot X. I got a lot on my plate, let me see how I can fix this" You get the point. So I have to remind myself when I fuck up, don't start piling on myself...

[@Skydiver1257]

What drew said around 20th minute that he is proud of a hypothesis he came up with is also what Julien Blanc explains in his seminars about the "Im not good enough or not attractive enough" and what that does to people at the long run is quite a good find of idea to explain im also proud of that..

[@dad-ms8mz]

1 You are not special. 2 you will die after few years. 3 Some things cant be controlled. 4 You doest matter for the universe. except close relatives they too will start laughing after few months after you die. 5. There is possibility of bad , and injustice happening to u no matter how good you are.

[@agentsmidt3209]

"We are not good, we are optimized for self preservation"...A tattoo worth having.

[@zosiasmok664]

I always wonder... I listen to this podcast the second time and every time it struck me. "Why are you saying these truths are harsh and dark?" When I listened to it, it was actually optimistic. 1. Humans suck, try to suck less If everyone is bad, it means that you/I are/am not as bad as I could think. There are worse people, there are better people. It gives freedom to act at one's own will, on their own accord. As long as a person have a need to be "good". This can actually help in being calm. In seeing clearly, not to be tied up by anxieties. 2. Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional I can choose my pain. And when the pain is choosen, you don't suffer. So if suffering can be excluded then there's not so much to worry about. 3. You don't deserve happiness, you don't deserve anything I don't deserve bad stuff either. If I don't deserve suffering, then why bother? It's better to go ahead and keep trying at one's own pace, on one's own rules. Everything I do is just what I do. Not what I deserve or not deserve. 4. Everything you love will one day be lost - this is what makes life meaningful Conclusion for me is simple - if life, if time, if moments I spend are meaningful, that's enough. Nothing should last forever. 5. Everything you believe will one day fail you - This is how you grow It's like science. You test things out, check if they work - try to get better results, rinse and repeat. If there is growth it will never be boring. There's nothing worse than stagnation. So yeah, maybe it's me who have dark visions on life XD, but it works for me so I couldn't care less about it, haha. Thanks to anyone who read this.

[@sadboy1122]

I'm on lowest point of i can ever imagine right now i need to hear this , thanks mark

[@movement2contact]

Don't be sad, sadboy ✊🥲

[@okabeokuyasu2505]

I was at my lowest too just after covid. So much growth followed, it sounds cheesy maybe but it's the truth. The bigger the grief the bigger the potential growth. But you have to turn the tables thought, by face the primal cause of your state below the surface. For me it meant getting in a serious long term therapy, i think many people should to just like he said in the video. Unraveling past conditionnement. I'm the strongest version of myself now, life is good

[@tomrhodes1629]

Then you'll like this....The Number One Absolute Truth that will change your life is so amazingly good and wonderful...that men have instead lied to themselves and denied this Truth, masochists that we are! What is that Number One Truth? YOU ARE NOT A "SINNER" AND NO ONE DIED FOR YOUR SINS...because "I have said ye are gods" as "the Kingdom of GOD is within you"!! You have simply forgotten Who you are (a son of GOD) and THAT is the "good news" of Jesus Christ that men have corrupted into the bad news of the anti-Christ, which is entirely untrue! The biblical prophet Elijah has returned, as prophesied, and testifies.

[@movement2contact]

@@tomrhodes1629 What other fairy tales are you a hardcore fan of...?

[@AnastasiaFalisha]

Being single is pain, being in relationship is pain. Being close to toxic family is pain, being far from toxic family is still pain. Being lazy is pain, being hard work is pain too. Being surrounded by people is pain, being alone antisocial is pain too. Being in distopia is pain, but being in utopia also more painful. Life is suffering in every aspect of things. Choose your pain that you think is worth of the suffering 👊. Everything happens is not your fault, but for some reason your reactions still gonna be your responsibility. You are not a victim. It's your challenge to be accomplished. Don't too obsessed with happiness, more happiness means more pain to pay off. Don't be sad with pain, more pain means more happiness and more meaningful. Life is always gonna be sucks a little bit. Try to enjoy suffering so you could suffer less.

[@_SliK_]

I think Mark would enjoy ‘The Boys’.

[@blakebunch4485]

"we don't know what's lucky until the story is over" reminds me of the "Chinese Farmer" ... Alan Watts Maybe

[@charlesmuller120]

As a High School PE teacher for 30 years, my students knew if they had me as their teacher they would need to "earn their balls" as I would say to them!. I was the black sheep out of our PE Staff who would simply take them to the gym, grab the Basketball rack and volleyballs and let the kids have them and then the teachers would chat. My students knew that they would have to earn their balls: 5 min warm up jog, stretch, calisthetics, planks, and top off with sprints and then they "earned their balls". Most of the time I did the workout with them. Nothing like getting paid to workout! And if it wasn't Friday, there was drills and skills to develop. I had so many students over the years come back to thank me explaining how my mantra of "earning your balls" applies to all of life itself for the feeling of earning your stuff and the feeling of Happiness(contentedness is a better term which is more sustainable as happiness is fleeting!)that comes with being self made. Earn your shit and you'll be content!

[@michelle_cen]

Great PE teacher!! Props for working out with them at the same time - it's extra motivating for them!

[@timcentralpointinvestigati6683]

Awesome! Agree with ya. Could ya imagine the “balls” Comment in todays society?

[@karenbush5451]

I heard you say in an interview that you are more than one year sober. It seems like some of your writing and thinking in the subtle art was leading to that - about us all seeking to go from high to high and how ridiculous that is as a goal. I think a lot of us would love to see a podcast episode in which you discuss your journey through sobriety and what was hard and why you maintained it and how you are feeling now as a result of it.

[@kaitlananderson4302]

Pain doesn't always go away, as in living with chronic physical pain..but I guess I can still choose how I react to it.

[@karinturkington2455]

Great video. Just what I need to hear.

[@enlightenedterrestrial]

"Remember death" was totally a cliché 10 years ago, even more. I mean that was exactly when YOLO phrase was so popular.

[@chrisrudkowski4329]

Thank you Mark. Thank you.

[@66norko66]

Great stuff! One wish though, maybe a little less cutting with camera, in one point so many cuts did make me dizzy :D

[@_nils]

Good stuff!

[@darshilmali]

Hey Mark, A good podcast really, but just wanted to say that the thumbnail's misleading and even the title. I felt put off when I actually opened the video as I was expecting just you to be talking to the camera, but then it turned out that it's a podcast with a guest. I would suggest you put your guest's face on the thumbnail too, and make the thumbnail suggest that it's a podcast.

[@alocarmonab]

I always watch your videos Mark, I'm introducing my friends to your content Hola desde México 🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽🇲🇽

[@mahlas5778]

The first time I heard about your book was when somebody recommended it to me. That somebody was a stupid person (in my opinion - not good of me to think like that), so your book was immediately also stupid. When I saw it in the bookstore, I thought: "I'm never going to buy that stupid book." Now I can really laugh about it.

[@kritikaajaani]

He is the Best out there! I am a big fan of him since I came across him! He is literally real, practical, rational and straightforward!❤

[@mateuszskrzypek5393]

Thanks guys 🎉

[@michaelbenjamin6273]

new haircut looks dope 💯

[@handle_the_handle]

You can't have pain if you weren't born

[@ZachBratland]

Way to hit a Million a mark !!

[@kristjankomel3453]

You are great guys, thank you

[@Daniel-vu4qu]

Bro is bumpin Bring the Horizon for the intro, No fucks given on royalties 😂

[@stacybradshaw4818]

Thanks y'all💜💥🔥

[@R3C-P]

did NOT expect bring me the horizon as the opening song. NICE

[@hackedaminations6893]

FACTS!!

[@noname9583]

Great

[@rainbowgirljules]

How is it possible that you can love someone you've never even met? I love you, Mark Manson.

[@ProTroll69]

I noticed the Gorilla on the first go. Wondered how anyone could miss it.

[@BabarMalik_]

The problem is once you have seen the gorilla, you can't unsee it.

[@danvilcu1458]

Great video.

[@paulallen6336]

This was like a therapy session. "The I'm available for children's parties" sent me 🤣. Yet, it's true. I wish someone had told me life can and will be utterly awful sometimes. My expectations would have been lower, so every good thing would have seemed so much better. Enjoy the sunsets, and romance when you can. Pet a cat when you see one. One day you won't be able to.

[@carmenlatham4136]

One thing I don’t agree with is the “go to therapy “ That does not help victims. Makes them worse. My opinion

[@ChickpeatheTortie]

At 12.42 The Chinese have a saying "if you snag the sapling you scar the tree'

[@zerosoma33]

4 “ LORD, remind me how brief my time on earth will be. Remind me that my days are numbered- how fleeting my life is. 5 You have made my life no longer than the width of my hand. My entire lifetime is just a moment to you; at best, each of us is but a breath.” Interlude 6 We are merely moving shadows, and all our busy rushing ends in nothing. We heap up wealth, not knowing who will spend it. 7 And so, Lord, where do I put my hope? My only hope is in you. (Psalm 39; 4-7)

[@michellegracerobinson3297]

I love the part about grieving an identity and that everything will fail you eventually. I have felt like I've reached another place in life where I think everything in my coping toolkit is just not working. Reframing that as a known part of growth has made it slightly more bearable. Thanks!

[@colinlischy8888]

Very nice!!

[@Whitetysnowny]

The suffering part is what Buddhism has always stated too.

[@sanjlon4522]

Interesting video!!!

[@oliviergagnon2592]

Super good thx

[@IamJaysonJayOracion]

Thank You

[@hourblood2974]

One of the best podcast I listen through, it reminded me to pick my poison in life. Choose the good Pain over the bad pain

[@MuhammadSh1]

1:32 was really a good point

[@DanDanTheFireman]

Well done. The banter, conversation, strong topics... Well done.

[@emptylikebox]

I agree with number 4, and that's why I think it's so much better to believe in the law of jante: that you are not special. Because the problem we have nowadays is we think if we did something good, if we believe we're a good person, or we worked hard then we should deserve "happiness" or for great things to happen, only to end up disappointed in the end. it creates a ripple effect in our lives such as envy, bitterness and hate (towards others) and depression.

[@m2pozad]

Human inhumanity has been tested. The surprise was how many could be influenced to perform inhumanely. But most definitely there are those who cannot be convinced or even coerced to be cruel. If the world were like Germany in the 30s and 40s it would not be here today.

[@shahdganayim1100]

Loved this

[@umblnc]

Good points, but I don't agree with the last one: "Everything you love will one day be lost, this is what makes life meaningful." Life could be meaningful even if you were not going to die, if you know how to make it meaningful. And it can be meaningless even if you know you are going to die. For some, exactly that makes it meaningless.

[@gangmgang_]

The reason I resonate with you as a person Mark is that I listened to your audiobook 5 times in the past 3 months and I really had an lightbulb type of moment and said to myself damn. it wasn't the lack of knowledge or my unwillingness to work hard on anything I wanted to pursue it was thinking that I needed to follow anyones "path to success" and I cried realizing that at 23 years old but now I am more happier and less stressed without having the need to people please and be overly nice as I had been in the past so thank you so much for being who you are and making me love myself more with the flaws and narratives I've said to myself in the past. 💯💙🙌🏾

[@nathanwarner3383]

hey brother I would love to ask how u absorb the material while listening to the Audiobook?

[@gangmgang_]

@@nathanwarner3383 my bad for the late response my G I won’t even lie to you during the time I was listening to the audiobook repetitively I had already was into audiobooks 3 years prior but at the time I was homeless at 24 and didn’t understand why the shit I was going through kept getting me burned to sum it up. You can be kind as a man but remember the only thing people love unconditionally are: Women, children, and pets so your worth as a man is only what you can provide also remember that everyone has 24 hours in a day in that 24 hour period you can either make your life or break your life. Hope that helps! 💙💯❤️‍🔥💎

[@snsubhrajit289]

Thanks❤

[@caesarcleveland413]

I'm curious - The last guest on the podcast claimed that people are happiest in this order (unless I understood her wrong) Men with children, women without children, women with children, then men without children are the least happy. I found this baffling, so I went back and listened to it 3 times. When I got home, I googled it, and find NOTHING to support her claims? What am I missing?

[@BarryMcColeman]

Thank you

[@jerbear97]

holy shit is that a BMTH intro

[@maryloupodlasiak74]

Another great podcast. I started watching Mark after recovering from cancer and experiencing a 180 in my attitudes and beliefs about life. He makes sense of struggles no matter what you are facing.

[@StoneRiderM3]

I just lost everything. And my family

[@tomrhodes1629]

The Number One Absolute Truth that will change your life is so amazingly good and wonderful...that men have instead lied to themselves and denied this Truth, masochists that we are! What is that Number One Truth? YOU ARE NOT A "SINNER" AND NO ONE DIED FOR YOUR SINS...because "I have said ye are gods" as "the Kingdom of GOD is within you"!! You have simply forgotten Who you are (a son of GOD) and THAT is the "good news" of Jesus Christ that men have corrupted into the bad news of the anti-Christ, which is entirely untrue! The biblical prophet Elijah has returned, as prophesied, and testifies.

[@dreamisover9813]

Didn't expect to hear Bring Me The Horizon in the intro, awesome haha

[@nobodyknows3180]

BElieve THEre is GOOD in the world.

[@keithjaysonromero4974]

Love you dude..

[@joedodson1008]

Harsh truth number 6...having rich parents makes traveling around the world just because and then writing mediocre waiting room books a job.

[@Ericaaaaaaaaaa]

When someone cuts me off in traffic, I think, "Oh, they must really have to poop. Godspeed!"

[@adelitaserena4777]

This is like a strong cup of coffee ☕️

[@rakusko33]

Please never stop making videos and writing helping people all over the world go through their lives like me. Thank you. Greetings from Lima, Peru.

[@wong40k42]

That part about victim olympic and the sudden start of an anthem was glorious 👍

[@Musikwagner]

This SO GOOD

[@Linda-bq7eq]

My most painful mistakes were my greatest lessons. They’re the lessons that stuck, that I always remember. Terrible when they happened but they’ve saved my ass a thousand times.

[@dannymathis7275]

Loved this!!! You guys rock. 1 fuck given...

[@afnanbabikir2098]

“It’s the victim olympics” 😂 I felt that. I want to start learning from pain instead of indulging in it.

[@aguynamedryan395]

Oh yeah, I used to do it so bad when I was younger. Got friends that still do. Like almost out shitty eachother when we're talking about our lives. Then one day I was like, fuck why am I trying to convince people my life sucks like i want to be unhappy, that's fucking messed up.

[@arghya_333]

Yeah, I realized that after a certain point in life me and my friends started taking pride in getting lower marks. "Bro you are a topper, you don't enjoy life, look at me I barely passed without studying." Sure, enjoying life is important, but so is doing things that help you maintain that enjoyable life. Failing and repeating a semester will make your life more miserable than it is.

[@_AntaraChowdhury]

​​@@arghya_333can't judge them on that, they are kinda choosing their own pain as well, they'll learn from experiences at their own pace

[@kbronx64]

Dark is 👍. We need dark truths in our lives to remind ourselves to constantly recalibrate our compass. Love it

[@1cpapana]

I like victim Olympics, level up from what I had it set too as the “saddest story Olympics”. The worst thing about dissonance is that we all suffer from two truths in the same space that appose each other. How did that happen!!!

[@Xxxxxrrr6464]

Thanks

[@sithusoe8153]

These are the fucking truths about what is life.

[@pip000hi17]

31:24 if you listen really close, you can hear GeGe laughing in the background

[@beths8998]

If I see someone speeding down the highway or running a red light, I think "damn, they must really have to poop". 😂

[@shre4953]

Okay I wanna share an experience. So a few years ago I was in “love” with this guy, and he wasn’t like the best person on planet but wasn’t all bad either. Was a pretty good friend and encouraging to people but obviously did have flaws. We separated after a year and I started blaming everything on him like how he effected my self esteem or how he made me feel not good enough and I started telling people all these things how he upset me so much and blah blah, a few weeks ago I looked back and I realised, he never did anything wrong he never came to face and said you’re not good enough intact it was him who was taking initiatives always, it was me who thought I’m not good enough for him. I blamed the reason of separation on him too but now I realise that I slowly fazed him out of my life. And that realisation sucked, cause I based so many things in my life around that, like how I deserve sympathy or how people hurt me and all of the shit mark talks about in glorification of pain. But it was fruitful as well, cause I started working towards it, for example not telling people how shitty he was and how I deserve the world but nobody gave it to me and started appreciating people more, that maybe they don’t stay with us forever but they teach us important values.

[@rikubear6549]

For me my story unraveled in my 20s by joining the military all my life i had been trained and had the story of. I am a warrior. I literally fight for the things i believe in. I also had the story that warriors keep the peace by protecting the innocent. That narrative was shattered to pieces on my deployment to afghanistan for sooo many reasons. I realized that I wasnt defending the innocent. I was defending the war profiteers. I also realized that by killing and fighting in a war i was actually causing more violence. Violence does not beget peace. Its quite the opposite. But ive been told this lie my entire life. And american society is complicit in this lie 24-7. This experience changed my life for the better and now i have a totally different story and identity but i also didnt discard the good warrior ideals i reconciled what it means to be a peaceful warrior. ❤ its why enlightenment just means so much to me. I got out of the military and a couple years later became a middle school social studies teacher.

[@MinorScalesMajorFuckups]

"nobody notices the gorilla at the first watch" is also flat out not true. At least generally, or were you pointing to a certain weird study where noone noticed?

[@LeeLikesFrenchFries]

I have no idea who the fuck you are and the algorithm just plopped this into my queue. But your topics are interesting and on point for this phase in my life. I very much look forward to listening to your next podcast!🎉

[@Tiger_III]

Life isnt short enough

[@mikpearl]

Give Drew a better recording setup. He is making you look good. Make him look good.

[@heydave56]

thank you

[@juanpiedrahita5371]

Thank you Mark! 🔥

[@user-cp9hy2ky6z]

Some very wise words here.

[@surajparameswaran6353]

5:14 vin diesel bit was awesome😂

[@gagebell5602]

there was legit 7 ads in a 30 minute video i hate this platform

[@reflectionOfLyf]

Mark’s words have helped me turn around my life. I like these kind of videos where I can relate to myself. He is talking about all of us.

[@nicolehuber5522]

Now I know why I hate superhero movies and the newer version of Mulan.

[@wheresallthezombies]

Grieving an old identity is definitely something I’m going through. That guy was a nightmare but death is still sad. Now I feel like a completely different person. All for the better. It was a 3 year process to get here. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done and still going. I do need to work on my financial situation though. That last guy got me into a real pickle.

[@nickbecerra9580]

Nice too see you back Mark! I just finished listening to Love is Not Enough so I needed a new Manson audio thing for my drive home! Looking forward to your next irl vid though, the last two were pretty inspiring!

[@nickbecerra9580]

@DontReadMyProfilePicture.57 Ok, I won’t

[@andrewanderson6618]

"Choose your problems " great statement

[@sposwellness8653]

Tune in next time!