The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Summarized by the Author

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Author’s Summary
This is the official summary of the mega-bestseller 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life' by me, Mark Manson. See below for chapter time codes.
Intro: 00:00
Chapter 1: DON'T TRY 02:43
Chapter 2: HAPPINESS IS A PROBLEM 06:46
Chapter 3: YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL 11:03
Chapter 4: THE VALUE OF SUFFERING 15:03
Chapter 5: YOU ARE ALWAYS CHOOSING 18:19
Chapter 6: YOU'RE WRONG ABOUT EVERYTHING (BUT SO AM I) 23:05
Chapter 7: FAILURE IS THE WAY FORWARD 27:31
Chapter 8: THE IMPORTANCE OF SAYING NO 30:33
Chapter 9: AND THEN YOU DIE... 33:41
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[@laraclou_et_cie]

Some singers leak their songs... This man leaked his whole book. He's built different

[@Pytliczello]

he just dont give a f@ck!

[@astarrfitness5565]

it's not considered leaked if it was published over 5 years ago

[@capri2673]

Well he's only doing it to sell his book. It's not charity. :)

[@bananahammock9227]

Lol

[@mikelisteral7863]

the book is a prank. hes trolling us all. its a trick!

[@thedingo8833]

A trick my mother taught me in social anxiety was to find the other person in the room who is clearly struggling and make it your goal to make THEM comfortable. You forget all about your own while your mission focused on a good deed.

[@rishabhjain2404]

So true, I feel I am an introvert. A few times in a social gathering, I have found people who are more introvert than I am and spent time with them. By the end of it, they would be happy and I would feel like an extrovert.

[@thedingo8833]

@@rishabhjain2404 😂💦🙏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@halobanh-cn3kw]

real@@rishabhjain2404

[@stephenw4720]

Plot twist: or we can say fuck you, I will make you as horrible as how I feel too. Evil deeds sometimes too ;)

[@ZomBMarketing]

I have to admit, that's pretty damn good....

[@chrisjamesbrian]

Bro - your book saved my life 5 years ago. I was 100% out of life sauce, and someone recommended this book to me and it absolutely changed my trajectory forever. Forever. Thank you So much for sharing this work with all of us, Mark.

[@dinaracoaching2023]

That’s so lovely 😊

[@rumpelztiltzkin3604]

This books a life saver for real

[@beingriyan4548]

How did you change yourself from a overthinker? May b you were like me nd even iam struggling to change myself of thinking to be reputed tips plz!

[@ndjubilant8391]

6 years a psychiatrist told me to read this book. In fact he lent me his copy. Thank you sir.

[@7860092]

@@ndjubilant8391what did it help u with? Social anxiety?

[@Marvin-Tucker]

I read this when i was 17. It pulled me out of depression, and gave me a direction in how I think and tackle my daily life. Im 24 now and live great and happier than ever. I love my job and surrounded by friends and family that I love.

[@saltyypc3778]

im that age now and just started reading it

[@ellyse1574]

This quote really resonated with me: “Side Note: As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them.” SO FUCKING TRUE 😳😳😳

[@hami4993]

plzzz tell me summ more qoutes :)

[@franksimmons9242]

I agree. On the lower end of the spectrum people are concerned so they can make adjustments to become better. They care about their reputation and narcissists love us because we give a damn. Learning how to navigate around them has been a satisfying challenge.

[@possessorofgreatness7620]

Concept of shadow summarized in a nutshell

[@CariMachet]

As a rule there are no rules and no cookie cutter packages for you to climb your lazy ass into > look some people are bullied and so your little “pattern” doesn’t work in that instance >>>> some people are actually innocent > when people are messing with philosophy they need to ask the questions in the extreme in order to really distill it

[@brightstar78]

@@hami4993 Sooner you start implementing boundaries in your life, sooner you'll be able to free yourself from narcissists and energy draining leaches. Boundaries will teach YOU how to respect yourself too.

[@suekennedy4716]

Im 66, you're letting me know how much i learned that i now need to unload to enjoy what time i have left!! Going to bookstore in morning and recommend this to everyone i know. Thank you

[@j.h3442]

I love that you're summerising your own book ❤ I wish all authors would do that 😅

[@SouthernBornSenders]

Mark doesn’t realize this, but he's making everyones day better.

[@savoury9970]

Nah he seems confident enough in himself. I’d say he knows 😂😂

[@annaheya2109]

@@savoury9970 I’d say he wants to 🤣

[@kirstinstrand6292]

At least us Normals.

[@aaabbb-py5xd]

Lol except Mark here obviously gave enough of a fuck to summarize his book

[@panizsalehi1968]

oh he does, he's well aware of it

[@yebzy]

Not even 20 seconds in "Well Fuck You" I like this man already

[@TheSeanpatrickobrien]

You like men

[@Shirazie]

@@TheSeanpatrickobrien I'm sure he is

[@ashleygarden6906]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tho_norlha]

0:17 lmao

[@skysevendz360]

why are you gay?

[@user-sb2wj5ic9x]

I feel like I've had this negativity leads to positivity mantra my whole life. "set the bar low so you thrive" vs "set the bar high so you fail" concept. People always think I'm some negative nutcase. Finally someone can put that into words and organized concepts. Thank you Mark!

[@khwezimvuyana4092]

🙏🏾

[@Combo-ASMR]

Maybe you are a nutcase evans. Jk jk😂😂 Have a great day!!!

[@ujean56]

I don't think I have ever been more wrong about a book title, ever. Thanks. You've won another customer. Imagine, helping yourself without cleaning up your room. I love it!

[@Bank-fl2dx]

Fumutts

[@ChrisPBacon-ex5du]

Dont judge a book by its cover😉

[@zxcvbnm3657]

He actually sounds nicer than i imagined

[@sharifallaw9570]

True. I thought the summary would be something that's really loud and angry

[@delhihiphopp]

He dont give a fuck about that .

[@the-pro-tech768]

Im sure he doesnt give a fuck

[@mattj1556]

i dont give a fuck about how he sounds, he is a great guy

[@beebsblue]

I agree, he’s so likeable! Just discovered his youtube channel and binge watching :)

[@mohamedel-enani9379]

1- Death is certain 2- don’t overestimate your problems to make it unsolvable 3- you are not the only one on earth who have problems 4- don’t try to avoid the pain of your problems 5- being optimistic all the time is not the answer to all of your problem 6- you are not special in anyway you don’t deserve special treatment 7- don’t blame others on your problems this will not solve any of them 8- any problem in your life you are the one who is responsible for solving it not ignoring it even if you are not the reason of it 9-Don’t give yourself so many choices because no matter how good is your choice you will always think what would happen if you chose any of the other choices 10-stop spending money on thing you don’t need 11- you say that you have experience in so many things while the only thing you have done is scratch the surface of so many things to have experienced you must dig deep in each chance 12- don’t help someone because you feel you have to but because you want to , remember helping is an option not a must 13-remember death is certain so being shy , scared or confused is not necessarily ( sorry for the bad english )

[@payelmondal6400]

Best summary. Thank you very much. God bless you.

[@asivetawo3675]

Great English. We could all understand-that is the point of of communication. Keep improving though but great English! Thank you for the summary.

[@steniorodrigo5590]

Thank you, Sir.

[@jayman8974]

Thanks Mo

[@rigalaitheseer]

Thanks

[@brucecampbell8739]

We lost our youngest son in a car accident - 12 years ago - he was 22. It continues to be very hard to care about most things and give a fuck about understanding what we lost. Thank you, I've read your book twice ....... searching for some ways to find some peace.

[@Dove.Love.]

I'm so sorry to hear that 😢

[@sathancat]

I really liked this book. I listened to it after an especially bad 2 weeks of dealing with my panic disorder (from PTSD). It reminded me to focus on what's important and try not to grip too hard on to life, but go with the flow. Thanks a lot!

[@semari3333]

This is the kind of book that you need to read every year

[@TheWelchProductions]

Idgaf

[@Moonqueen303]

Every day

[@tumelomofokeng4526]

BIG TRUE

[@doncorleone8009]

every hour

[@putritiara9083]

For real i need to keep reminding myself

[@glennrobinson7193]

This guy's onto something. It goes against society's obsession with living comfortably, having lots of so called friends, and looking good in the eyes of others.

[@Sam-oq5cq]

IKR!

[@glennrobinson7193]

@rudy ruby Agreed, yeah I know but it seems to have escalated in the past few years wouldn't you agree

[@probonobeats1706]

Bla bla bla just repeating your dogmatic mantras that have been stated millions of times by literally anyone with a half working brain and you people are excited like its the revelation of the century. Perfect example of why you should always make books markerted to stupid people, anything will be news to them.

[@jont2576]

@@probonobeats1706 care to explain more? i agree most motivational/self help books are just common sense stuff regurgitated a million times over and over again.......but people act like as though its revelations from the gods.oh i read this man's book while driving to blah blah blah and it changed my life!!!!!

[@biterness2323]

@@jont2576 This is how guys like this become rich. They monetize peoples shortcomings by turning them into books with the information that has been regurgitated over and over again. Same with people like Jordan Peterson. They create an image for themselves to advertise their books. It 's all about making money. Nobody cares about depression of the others.

[@laurasampson9584]

I love the chapter 5 anecdote of the marathon--my mind is blown. This reminds me of the Rilke quote: “If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.” Thank you for this, now I need to read the book!

[@guywhoasked903]

omg i love this quote. Thank you for sharing it.

[@Hummingbird25]

Mind blown 🤯. I don’t think he realizes it but some of this feels like spiritual advice. I love the idea of acceptance of our current moment and finding value in both our positive and negative experiences. How perceptions or the story we tell creates our experience of our reality and how we are always making choices in life hence co creating reality ❤

[@zuriest4433]

It still boils down to the fact fact that life is more spiritual than physical.

[@chozosapien3652]

"The problem is not what people think about you, its that you have nothing better to worry about" 🤔 that one got me😁👍

[@payelmondal6400]

Thanks for the line.

[@xcg4278]

Me too!

[@meleshadgu3230]

Then the problem is solved

[@LeeroyMotcher-Sanga]

Chapter 9.....that chapter saved me from depression and I'm genuinely grateful that I got a chance to read this book

[@ayoubaz7425]

Nothing but love brrother. It helped me too

[@ourhaven]

That's honorable, and now I want to read the book

[@Akshat-zw9gr]

fair play man

[@Freddyg304]

why

[@vickywitton1008]

I am starting to become my true self and get rid of the baggage of the past that kept me where I was than I was, thanks to listening to this man. You have you keep moving and take risks and not try and stay safe all the time, which is what I have been doing

[@LothlorBass]

I love how you avoid going too deep into rhetoric and just say exactly what you mean

[@jamesd5241]

Me after first 5mins of this video - "Ha what an idiot, i can just watch this and get the book for free" Me at the end of the video- "Damn i need to buy this book"

[@MrFunLight]

First time I ended the book, I waited for almost 20 minutes, before I started the audiobook again.....

[@books-and-cats]

It is an enjoyable read. Very refreshing addition to the self help world which becomes repetitive and boring.

[@matttownsendpt6854]

Haha! It's worth the read, great book!

[@voyqge2409]

read it like twice haha

[@misodinamosa]

Thank you, because that 1st 5mins was really undermining. Happy you stuck it out, he is the best person to summarize his book 😊💜🙏🏻

[@yaboyjonez9476]

"If your always worrying about what people think about you. The problem is not what people think about you. The problem is you don't have anything better to worry about." - 2021 Motto

[@Ryosuke1208]

Yes, it's more important what you think of yourself.

[@AliBooneInvest]

love this.

[@michalena333]

"What others think of me is none of my business". I don't know who coined this phrase, but it could have been me

[@ChrisSmith-st7ig]

Fact....

[@sriku1000]

A very Calm video on why Existential emptiness creates bad parents kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@Iceboy_Ixe001]

"Happiness comes from solving problems" "Do something" (ACTION LEADS TO MOTIVATION) "You must be willing to reject other things in other to priotize what's important in your life"

[@jonelaren2550]

"People don't like hearing the idea that every problem in their life - they chose it." I feel personally attacked by this statement, but also... truer words have never been said.

[@Fettclone1]

That's one area where I disagree and it's easily refuted. No one chooses ongoing mental health problems.

[@aestheticallypleasingaesth8941]

@@Fettclone1 Careful now, there’s a fine line between mental health problems and the problems of situations that you have chosen (but probably haven’t figured out yet, that you chose them), that you ended up in. Mental health problems DO NOT completely apply to that statement.

[@kylegifford546]

@@Fettclone1 He explains that with a cancer analogy. You don't choose to have cancer but you choose how you deal with it. Same thing applies to mental health. I think that's short-sighted and not sure if it would actually help anyone with real problems, but that's his logic.

[@user-qo7vq6yx8q]

yes dude i chose to be born with disabilities physical and mental, be abused as a child, i chose to be born in a poor country and i chose to not afford to get treatment for this.

[@jonelaren2550]

@@user-qo7vq6yx8q ​ @수프치킨 I wonder why you have to take every generalized KZbin comment as a personal offense? I also suffer with shit - chronic backpain due to Bertolotti syndrome, I also have endometriosis and severe debilitating migraines since I was 12, not to mention depression since I was 19. I am not sitting here being offended by his video, rather I am referring to the type of problems he's obviously referring to - generic problems one brings upon one self - money, relationship, other hardships that have resulted as a consequence to previous choices. Try not to be offended by comments where offence is evidently not intended.

[@beautifulmoster1988]

Is rare to find authors who summarize their books giving exactly what the readers need to hear. Pls continue writing books , im amazed by ur talent. Greetings from Albania 🇦🇱

[@examtime4887]

Is country name essential to wrote

[@ujepagaz8495]

@@examtime4887 yes it is I want to know

[@examtime4887]

@@ujepagaz8495 but why

[@ujepagaz8495]

For research purposes

[@examtime4887]

@@ujepagaz8495 which research , are you from intelligence agency , then I say everyone should not mention their country's name .

[@meeckemann5692]

You are definitely one of the brightest stars of the "don't be afraid to give more if you want to get more" cult. I'll go and get a copy of your book right away!

[@EllieM_Travels]

I bought your book in 2019 thinking it was going to teach me how to stop caring so much, and I was pleasantly surprised to find out there was so much more to it! I’ve applied the ideas and principles ever since. Thank you!

[@clairexchoco]

The fact that he can summarise every chapter goes to show his clarity of thought and flow and how none of his chapters are filler chapters. Either that or he's really good at bsing. But I buy his bs so alls good.

[@mantankerous5844]

its not BS if it helps you.

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

One man's trash can be nother man's treasure...

[@debkski6084]

@@sakuranovaryan9261 That's PROFOUND. Why has this never been said before?

[@bigsmoke4754]

@@debkski6084 it has been said before , in the song Macklemore - thrift shop

[@sriku1000]

A very Calm video on why Existential emptiness creates bad parents kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@arthurdane8508]

'But what is Happiness? Its just the moment before you need more happiness' Don Draper

[@KiwikimNZ]

Happiness is a state of mine a choice we make. “When I get that job? When I get thin, when I get my life partner, when I’m rich” then I’ll be happy. Doesn’t work like that. Change your thinking full stop..instead of going through your day complaining about all the shit that happens to you, stop those thoughts in their tracks! Manifest your happiness, be present in the moment. Have gratitude for all of that that you have x

[@thebibleisinfallible2336]

happiness is temprorary but meaning is permanent

[@timpackert2431]

Who is this Don Draper? An Oracle of Great Wisdom?

[@brucelee4996]

@@timpackert2431 Mad Men. Loved that show.

[@lutaayam]

@@timpackert2431 might as well be

[@Smi7h1sH3r3]

when my dad died, I was 25 and it completely caught me off guard. The next few years were a struggle, some of the hardest I've ever had to deal with internally and yet, confronting death or perhaps having death confront me, did completely change my perspective on life and what was actually genuinely important in it. Somehow confronting my own mortality gave me a new appreciation for the simple act of waking up each day, tired as hell, with a job to go to with endless problems to solve (ha!), an appreciation that had never been there before. Really glad you as the author did your own fucking summary, hell yeah man, going to have to pick this up now and add it to the pile of "stuff I definitely totally 100% am going to read at some point".

[@evesperspective7662]

I loved your book so much Mark that I bought 10 of them and gave them to my children and grandchildren. The very highest and best to us all.

[@luckytv8541]

"Action leads to motivation." This completely changed my life. A million thanks Mark Manson!

[@xxception6842]

+1

[@lifeisagame2023]

The do something principal

[@heybizzle]

Same

[@AndyVandercoy]

People don't believe me when I say this but it's true

[@Shafeek258]

@@AndyVandercoy can you please tell me how to implement this idea

[@alysiahite12]

Instead of torturing myself by watching all of a movie in a movie theater that I paid for...I decided to get up and leave. I made the decision not to struggle watching something that was boring and was awful. I was proud of myself.

[@melseha3449]

As u should! U can be really proud of yourself ✨

[@djuraster]

people find ridiculous things to be proud of

[@dhhxhhfgbbvbggjfcjhfhhfghg2301]

You should have watched dude

[@calutron008]

I've walked out too, didn't give it much thought just just up and walked like how Marc went to South America, you might remember he says 'just did it' in relation to that. Sometimes we do have to way up the pros and cons of x y z thing but if i want a cup of coffee i'm just gonna get off my rusty dusty and make it no doubt no debate time for action. It may back fire what do i care.

[@lj5781]

Cool, you should be!

[@emma-jane93]

Started your book a couple of years ago and just didn’t get what I was reading. This video is my first encounter since with your book and it clicked. It all clicked. Now I can’t wait to revisit your book. I guess I just needed to have reached a point in my life where I had grown enough to understand the book! Thank you 🙏

[@BraderGeoYT]

Listened to the audiobook multiple times months ago & bought the hardcopy recently to revisit the book, read it from cover to cover. It rewires my mind on how I view things in life especially dealing with problems in a discomforting manner recently & this book helped me by applying those lessons & change my mindset from time to time in this age of too many distractions. Thank you Mark for your work!💯

[@jaypatil4912]

Wanna be less miserable. Read this book. This isn't self help. This is life changing.

[@lol8q]

Mag kiti life change zali

[@Risheei]

Kay re donya, kuthe firto

[@rajyavardhansingh4491]

Kya?

[@True38]

I never gave a fuck. Even when I did.

[@TheWelchProductions]

I forgot a lot from the book. That's the problem with a lot of self-help books. Unless you actively apply what you learn to your life, it won't be of much help.

[@Stephanie-is7bu]

the more you wanted to be happy, the more lonelier you'll be the more you wanted to be rich, the more poorer you'll be the more you wanted to be sexy, or desirable, the more you'll feel insecure just be satisfied on what you have, learn to accept things that are inevitable and learn how to appreciate the little things. life goes on Update: Hi! I suggest to read his book called, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. If you did already, read it again. after that go back in here and watch the video. you'll definitely get why I said this. Anyway, thank you for the likes.

[@SandeepSingh-fj3il]

Nice, in life u don’t fxkin worry about anything in life u have to care about things

[@utkarshraj1745]

@la writerin not true ........its random and uncertain..... And differs for different people.

[@Longtack55]

Bollocks (English for b.s.) Alan Watts was a drunken misery-guts (more English.)

[@HollowBlast24]

Accept where I am in life? I can’t I want to grow and develop. I’m not comfortable with this even though I love myself

[@jaywbell2002]

@@OnlyLyricsMatter this must have come straight out of a holy text

[@kikivon3501]

I absolutely loved this book!! His take on many many aspects of our society, like toxic positivity are absolutely spot on. I am continually reminding my 15 year old son, that life is just a series of problems to solve, you want to upgrade to better problems.

[@Loverofartsandmusic]

I watched your documentary on Netflix and your life story on how you end up writing that book. I realized I met the person who sounds like you. I hope he finds who he really is soon and find the fell in love with the right person. I wish him the best.

[@mdpurisima06]

This book has completely changed how I see life. From having a “victim” mindset to becoming fully responsible for it. Thank you Mark Manson.

[@drakedbz]

Regarding chapter 5: One of the things I've learned to do over the last few years is to not be mad about spending time doing things that aren't actively stimulating. I've had to learn to enjoy to take things at a slower pace. To revel in the calmness. Going for a walk or drive, laying in bed lost in thought, those kinds of things. If I stress about the time that I'm "wasting", I'm just going to be unhappy. If I instead realize that there is value in calm, I enjoy that time much more, and come out the other side without all that extra stress. The only person that can choose whether your experiences are positive is you.

[@m.scotsimpson5725]

Awesome insite! It’s hard to be still for a lot of us that derive their value or worth but what or how much they “accomplish”!

[@vaniadnascimento]

I have a hard time doing relaxing things cause i always feel that its not productive. Thank you so much for your comment, its like a light at the end of the tunnel.

[@Fantasy_booklover]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@DKdkdante]

I understand this value I love this value in myself but it just doesn't exist around me, including best friends will rush me all the time. How do I deal with that? I am definitely getting this book 🦋

[@DKdkdante]

Also it seems society and Friends make me feel guilty that I'm not the Energizer Bunny

[@gonndirwas9605]

I totally subscribe to your thesis in min 05:03 I dealt with Post COVID the past 2 years and I have accepted and dealt with my situation. Experiencing deep thankfulness each day for every little thing that went better. Today I am able to live a ‚normal‘ live again and still I find thankfulness in any moment which gives me the gift of unbelievable happiness about e.g. the beauty of nature surrounding me, having people around me, …

[@Ek70R]

I remember reading your blog many years ago before you had a youtube channel. It always resonated deep within myself and helped me change the way I think about life. Thank you for this book and for putting out all of your ideas into the world.

[@WhentheBehelitScreams]

“It drops a lot of F bombs, a lot of people like that, some people don’t. “ You missed a great opportunity to say, “Who gives a fuck”

[@raiyue_]

The student becomes the master

[@rome-tk5vd]

lol na that would’ve been lame

[@jakhongirabdukhamidov2796]

I watched that part twice to make sure

[@glennoc8585]

Swearing was not uncommon in days of yore. Somebody or some collective group decided how we should express ourselves.

[@MrMan-ko5fw]

@@glennoc8585 most likely the church

[@adriansherlockdamondark.1094]

When I get upset, my wife always asks "why are you shouting" and I always reply "I'm shouting because I'm wrong". And then we chill and laugh. Realizing you're wrong and being cool with that is very important.

[@hellomedian773]

Damn it's so fucking true

[@MRB39919]

God if only more people thought like that!! I’m definitely working on it!

[@michelleobrien9791]

that made me laugh out loud. I know when I am correctly accused of shouting I recognize that I am wrong for doing so and I try to stop - because I want the other person to be in the wrong, not me. So mine is more a case of I don't want to undermine the point I'm trying to make by changing the focus to how I'm expressing it.

[@ogheneroagabi2631]

this is beautiful, lol

[@ladyhawk5653]

Who is harder on you than YOU? No one

[@something1162]

A profound and beautiful message, I didnt know this was what the book was about, I have to read it through now. And respect to you for summarizing your own book- for caring more about people getting the message than the copy ❤

[@JD-xd4sy]

Thumbs up for number 5! This is actually the constant factor in suffering people I meet in my job as a social worker within psychiatry. People are sad and mad for feeling completely out of control - but it's mostly them being victimized by themselves. It was also the most important for myself, when I realized it's possible to actually respond to situations consciously and not just react. Problem is, it's very easy to forget...

[@theartskee4291]

I wish there’s more authors who would summarize their own book in this way. I understand it more when it is explained to me tbh. I have a hard time reading and comprehending written words so this is very helpful 😊

[@zestysupreme9482]

You should try the audiobook! Audiobooks help me get through the whole story, but also my reading comprehension isn't the best either

[@bellareid3488]

Ryan Holiday does it... I find his stuff really good.

[@neosandy]

"Regret for things we have done can be tempered by time, Regret for things we did not do is inconsolable"

[@e.a.jeanson2772]

If that was your quote, damn I needed to read that so thank you and continue remaining positive and strong 💪. If that wasn't your quote, still thanks and I'd like to know who originally said that.

[@honkhonk5181]

Yeah, totally. Try having your name slandered or being thrown in the can because some vindictive gf makes up a lie about you. Some things are in fact better left undone.

[@neosandy]

@@e.a.jeanson2772 I'm sorry I forget who said it, it was taped to my fridge for years ✌️

[@CrakenFlux]

failing to do something is doing something.

[@nodangles6983]

@@CrakenFlux Holy Sh!t. I never knew my life could be summed up so concisely.

[@MathildaMolanderMolin]

Hi! Honestly this book is on my top 5 books i've ever read. I remember feeling a little lost and being angry at life at that point in my life. It made me think of my life in a diffrent light. I think it was around chapter 7 i started to cry. It was late at verry worm night, in the middle of rushing traffic. It made a huge impression and I could not stop crying. Every word souded like the bible i never had until then. I will read it again some day. But i just want to say thank you for it. It has changed alot for me. 💜

[@johnbelville4566]

It is strange that we forget that we are actually built to suffer! A natural birth is not just painful for the mother, but also for the baby. It makes us resilient. When we learn to walk, we fall over and hurt ourselves time and again, but we get up and try again until we master walking. It is important that we are allowed to experience that pain. We must learn by ourselves - maybe encouraged by our parents but not be treated like fragile but robust beings that can navigate through life. Pain and struggle are necessary for survival. A butterfly must struggle to leave its chrysalis by itself. If we "help" it along, it will be too weak to survive.

[@smileyface5908]

I read an article you wrote. It was called “stop trying to change yourself, change your actions”. Really hit home. Brought me here. Thanks for your work.

[@rubenchris6703]

where can i read that?

[@reneesoli5345]

I'm working on Be Still.

[@rahulg.c4861]

This was the first self help book I read and after this I got into reading habits. Thanks Mark for such an awesome book all the way from NZ

[@ximakangaroo-videogamesmor4220]

Same bro same!

[@JaysonT1]

@@IAmMarkManson What is your advice for old timers who missed the mark?

[@Mars-mr5wt]

Same here..

[@masternobody1896]

@@IAmMarkManson hey this should be family friendly you will go to jail for saying f word

[@otherstaff8876]

🙌

[@93Hiroko]

I didnt want to admit that I felt that same daring meaningfulness about hanging out on a cliff. It was too scary to think of explaining why I liked the danger of potential death, while accepting that without fear or intention to do it.

[@jeannegenero]

I love the book actually best self help book I've read so far. I like how the words just slaps the truth across your face and then it suddenly hits you hard. You then realize how hard you are to yourself. Yeah...I feel liberated after reading the book. The first three chapters are my fave. Thank you so much Sir Mark Manson.

[@KeemoRicablanca]

00:00 - Introduction 02:40 - Chapter 1. Don't Try 06:46 - Chapter 2. Happiness is a problem 10:58 - Chapter 3. You are not special 15:01 - Chapter 4. The value of suffering 18:15 - Chapter 5. You Are Always Choosing 22:58 - Chapter 6. You Are Wrong About Everything (But So Am I) 27:29 - Chapter 7. Failure Is The Way Forward 30:31 - Chapter 8. The Importance of Saying No 33:37 - Chapter 9. And Then You Die

[@SuperLadiesman619]

I really don't give a fuck, but hey thanks

[@jacquelinedonath4605]

Thank You

[@dhanyarajan5496]

Thank you ..I appreciate this.

[@TheSeanpatrickobrien]

I hate timestamp people

[@jacquelinedonath4605]

@@TheSeanpatrickobrien Truth, it wasn't necessary

[@marssinner8707]

“Modern masterpiece” “advice that doesn’t suck” The self confidence I love it I aspire to be this proud of my art/work some day

[@barshamajumder6617]

I love that you're summerising your own book ❤ I wish all authors would do that

[@feralkat9370]

It shows Character and Confidence that Mark credits others along the way for certain concepts and ideas in his book be it Emily or Buddhism or his Maths teacher. Atomic Habits writer James Clear isn't at all clear about whose shoulders he stands on, be it BJ Fogg (Tiny Habits) or Buddhism or Anthony Robbins, etc. He takes ALL the credit in his interviews and talks. Put me off him completely, as he just regurgitated existing ideas in a more practical way.

[@romerider1000]

I read your book 2 times and I’ve listened to it on audio book 6 times. I was going through a difficult time, with my kinda girlfriend, work, having too many options I couldn’t choose what to do. I drove to the Eclipse Festival in Oregon in 2016 and listened to it 3 times on the way there and 3 times on the way back. That trip changed my life. Your book changed my perspective. Long story short I’m the type of person who’s super prone to depression. I’ve been on anti anxiety meds for years, I’ve tried every single variety of anti depressants since I was 14 years old. The subtle art of not giving a fuck truly got me off medications and I finally learned to accept that Ill always have to eat a shit sand which. But I’m happy now choosing the shit sandwich I want to eat. It was all the therapy I ever needed. Thank you.

[@Sammyli99]

get off the tabs, whatever....! enough natural stuff that has no sides, stop listening to pay-as-they-prescribe doctors. Life is a bitch, and life is beautiful, expect both, deal with both humbly.

[@jasonpowell291]

This was so well said, & truly inspiring

[@pida9669]

Well said! I believe that in life we are destined to have as many unpleasant (i.e. painful) experiences as we have pleasant (i.e. pleasurable, happy) ones. So, the more choose to "take" pain (e.g. hit the gym, tackle stressful/difficult projects), the less we will "receive" unwanted pain (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). On the flipside, the less we indulge in unnecessary pleasure (e.g. sweets, recreational drugs), the less we will suffer unwanted pains (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). I've recently published a 100% free, evidence-based book called The Sudist Way that dives deeply into these ideas and how to use them in day-to-day life to live life to the fullest and get rid of chronic anxiety, depression, and pain naturally without medication. You can read it for free at sudism.org/the-book-of-sudism/ or major online bookstores. Take care...

[@AniishAu]

Most inspiring comment here! it brought tears to my eyes. If Manson achieved absolutely nothing else in life, his impact on yours is the most inspiring success anyone could wish for. Your life story, your struggles and realisations are truly unique... take your shit sandwich and shake the crap out of it...to _your_ success! ...

[@bollejoost]

@@Sammyli99 yes, there's medication that's bad, or that will have negative effects. but I do want to make the case to you that it is not as black and white as you are saying. before I got my ADHD medication (not amphetamines) I genuinely could not focus on something of my choosing for longer than 5 minutes. that is not an overstatement, I physically could not, no matter how many times I tried. now with the medication I can actually pursue college, I can watch this video without a problem. I can positively say, medication changed my life. now I agree with you, some anxiety, ADHD, depression meds will definitely fuck you up. but if you really need them, they might be your way out.

[@UwU-cw7lz]

3:00 yes!!!! Negative examples are, to me, way better than positive examples. Because it doesn't make me delusional and forces me to make my own image of what I truly want.

[@anikashtan]

I read this book in high school, I remember being impressed by it at a time, but still kinda forgot what exactly it was talking about in the last years. A lot of things happened since than: enrolled to uni, dropped out of uni, the war in my country started (all else follows), I moved more than 5 times in the last year and a half, ended up at the opposite side of the Earth and started studying again... Well, so again, I forgot what the book was about and kind of didn't think it affected me that much. But watching this video made me think "wow... I adopted a LOT of principles from it", and honestly it helped a lot. All this talk about how negative experiences form positive ones, accepting failure etc, when your life turns in a mess you never could even imagine - these principles help you to keep going So yeah, I guess I wanted to share this and also thank you for putting creating this book

[@Ayundaru]

a friend of mine gifted me your book. It changed my perspective on a lot - especially standards (the metallica/megadeath anecdote)... Your book had a huge impact on me. Thank you!

[@raginald7mars408]

..as a Good friend of YOU - Please give ME now this wonderful Book! I don´t give a F****buying it. Lesson learned - from you! Great!

[@raginald7mars408]

@Stephen Kim NOW I am!

[@MultiStar84]

Did it actually help you though?

[@jasonlieberman4606]

Metallica and Megadeth anecdote?! Everything I hear about this book increases my interest in it.

[@Loadinger]

Yeah! I still have 30 pages left to finish reading it

[@erickbravo6070]

More authors should do summaries like this about their books! This was amazing dude and I do wanna check out the book now, sicc content keep it up.

[@rasheemthebestfirstone3274]

Read the book already might reread and you’re they should it would be smart for the viewer and for general content

[@user-jb3sg4xb5e]

One of my favourite chapters is when you say the concept that you learned from you teacher,and that if you don't know what to do just do something and then things will be more clear. I actually overthink and i have social anxiety and because of that i don't pass to action and do nothing,although i want to. So this resulted to me important and i understood that i should pass to action and do something without overthinking it.

[@charlenepalicpic4848]

"If there's gonna be a summary of the book, it should come from the MASTER" AMEN!! 😂🙌🙌

[@deuceswild6350]

As we should know,never outshine the master. Especially the master of not giving a fuck lol.

[@feroshus1servin522]

Ur stupid

[@feroshus1servin522]

@@deuceswild6350 ur stupid too

[@chloes5043]

Someone gave me this book in a hostel in the middle of nowhere in New Zealand and it changed my entire perspective on life. I read it once a year to keep things in perspectives. Great book.

[@RonaldSterijuanna]

well, idgf

[@jaxstorey6734]

I do hope you enjoyed our gorgeous country, French...or are you living here in NZ :o)

[@irinasarnetskaya1]

There’s a guy from NZ in this comment thread, I wonder if it was him.

[@punisherpr]

I have forgotten how great your book is. Im gonna listen and read it all over again. Thank for this, I really needed it.

[@user-kb1mi1mu9j]

Your book is a very good tool in rehab. My counselors actually ordered a bunch of books and put it in their lesson plan. Love this book!

[@jessmb9750]

“What am I willing to struggle for?” - this was the question I asked myself last year before diving into the academe and pursue my master’s while I am currently working full time. This helps me a lot to figure out, whether I like the process or I just love the end-result. Here I am, on my second semester, hustlin’, but not complaining coz that’s the struggle I want in my life. Thanks M.Manson for profoundly explaining these principles thru your book! 💙

[@TheSammz411]

I had a similar experience but with undergrad. Full time work, full time schooling, and no stability. That question changed my view on everything.

[@booshank2327]

Nothing.

[@CyanCooper]

“Your actions actually don’t matter that much in the grand scheme of things…“ A bestselling author summarizing his book in a viral video.

[@jasonlee6227]

I'm sure it comes as a great shock to those who somehow think that they are the center of the universe.

[@jollyjm]

Bestselling author in the English-speaking Western world, which is not that great a number. Like Einstein said, 'everything is relative.'

[@mybeautifuljourney7540]

Serendipity!

[@somemoresomewhere1262]

Ironic.

[@mamolewamodiba9159]

This book is like the bible but better in the sense that it is about current real life issues. It teaches us about life in general. Helps one with the struggles that we encounter in life. Helps me with my journey to becoming a better version of myself.

[@e-genieclimatique]

in brief : The video is a comprehensive summary of his book, presented by the author himself. 1. **Chapter 1: Don't Try** - Manson starts with Charles Bukowski's story, emphasizing that success can come despite flaws. He introduces the concept of the "backwards law," suggesting that the pursuit of positive experiences is counterproductive, and instead, embracing negative experiences can lead to positive outcomes. 2. **Chapter 2: Happiness is a Problem** - This chapter discusses the Buddhist concept of dukkha (suffering) and the evolutionary usefulness of suffering. Manson argues that negative emotions are signals for action and that happiness is not the sole purpose of life. 3. **Chapter 3: You Are Not Special** - Manson talks about entitlement, using a story about a con man named Jimmy. He explains two forms of entitlement: grandiose narcissism and victim narcissism, and criticizes the culture of exceptionalism fueled by social media. 4. **Chapter 4: The Value of Suffering** - The focus shifts to values, using the story of a Japanese soldier from WWII. Manson discusses good and bad values, emphasizing that good values are reality-based, socially constructive, and immediate and controllable. 5. **Chapter 5: You Are Always Choosing** - This chapter is about responsibility and choice. Manson uses various examples to illustrate that we always have a choice in how we perceive and respond to situations. 6. **Chapter 6: You're Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)** - Manson discusses the importance of uncertainty and open-mindedness. He uses personal stories, including one about a cyber stalker, to show the dangers of extreme certainty. 7. **Chapter 7: Failure is the Way Forward** - Here, Manson argues that failure is a crucial part of success. He introduces the "Do Something Principle," suggesting that action leads to motivation. 8. **Chapter 8: The Importance of Saying No** - This chapter deals with relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. Manson emphasizes the need to say no and manage conflicts for healthy relationships. 9. **Chapter 9: And Then You Die** - The final chapter discusses death and its role in clarifying what matters in life. Manson shares personal stories and reflects on how confronting mortality can bring clarity and meaning to our lives. Manson concludes by tying together the major concepts of the book and encourages viewers to read the book for a deeper understanding. He highlights his use of humor and profanity in his writing style and invites viewers to subscribe to his channel for more life advice.gpt4

[@saycog1084]

I have a personal solution for when my mind is going nowhere or somewhere it shouldn’t. I tell myself, do something you’ll be proud of once you’re done. It can be anything like washing the dishes I’ve been postponing to do. I end up doing more than that and as a result feeling great

[@terehayakawa]

Someone: "Everyone is special" Mark Manson: "nobody is special"

[@katereznikov8792]

I love your book. Glad that I finally saw the person behind all these very important for me thoughts. The book came to me when I needed it the most. It was a perfect reinforcement for me to stay strong on the chosen path. Boy, was I happy I did! Thank you. Thank you very much! All the best to you!

[@andreagardndr]

The most deep, interesting, coolest people I’ve met have been in Recovery. They’ve gone through the trenches, have empathy and I think are the most beautiful people. I have 8 years sober from heroine amen. Thank you. Going to buy mad love and ✊

[@philkim8297]

They have got the best stories

[@hlogilehlogonolo5438]

“Three and a half kids”😂😂

[@sacrificiallamb3637]

thought it was just me 😹

[@basedbigmitch7887]

Right??? 😂

[@jeyhunnasibbayli_]

up until the end of the video, my brain still on that sentence :)

[@moazzammattu3376]

Hahaha

[@jeiddoromal4804]

yeah me too it was funny

[@billmckelvey5003]

Great job👍I’m a cancer survivor. 71 rounds of chemo, 25 days of targeted radiation, 4 surgeries and a near death experience. Being surgically disemboweled was the best part. Colorectal cancer 2nd most deadly of all cancers. Quitting is a fate worse than death. I’ve been mostly bedridden for going on 20 months now. I would recommend your book✌️

[@creativecorner4715]

Omg ... Thankyou .. n more strength to u. I'm working on colorectal cancer so... Cn relate

[@drugvash4899]

Good luck to both of you!

[@emvega82]

Bless you bro. 🙏🏽

[@Katmandu29]

God do a miracle in his life! God bless you with many more years, Bill.

[@ericdixon1884]

Prayers. Update

[@marialovell6967]

Here’s one for you: I was talking to my 16 yr old daughter, worrying that I may be about to wear the same outfit on Christmas Day that i has worn the previous year. She just looked me dead in the eye & said “Mum, if YOU can’t remember what you wore, why on earth do u think ur outfit choice was important enough for someone else to remembers(?!)”. I think my work here is done!

[@kea5763]

Except,,,it might be noticed in the Christmas photos, LOL (she could switch an acessory, might do the trick) haha

[@shansyed8899]

Never thought we'd get this book mansplained to us a thousandth time.

[@datlyze1776]

“Three and a half kids” Ok. I like the author a lot already.

[@baby-fb9rr]

maybe he meant someone with three kids and the 4th one being in labor and only having half of their body out of the womb, in that case it would sound logical ig

[@themudpit621]

for using the forty year old cliches? OK... you do you....

[@arwynsadler3805]

@@baby-fb9rr or one of them doesn't have legs

[@annahattis9355]

haha he means a national average of kids people want. Sometimes average number come out with decimals

[@ericmalcolm7032]

@@themudpit621 Another SNARKY comment- how PROFOUND.

[@brivnii]

The problem is not what people think about you, the problem is that you have nothing better to worry about than what people think about.

[@jont2576]

thats the summary?

[@dotdashdotdash]

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[@fittomakeup9890]

Amen!!!

[@hiro6406]

@@jont2576 summary of second chapterp

[@MrBlue5tar]

That's not true for everyone

[@kraenk12]

I don’t want to be special. I just want to be myself. Thank you!

[@ladyhawk5653]

Being a wife and mother for many years now empty nester,. Who am I ?

[@anneq4792]

I'm so glad our teacher tasked us to watch this one. I've heard of this book and seen people post about this that's why maybe I've come to lose interest in seeing what this book is about because of it being so overhyped by people. However, watching this summary and putting on the effort to actually watch it and understand every word he said was such a positive and comforting experience. I've definitely learned some concepts helpful for my development and defined experiences I've gone through in life.

[@superman1234567826]

I remember readin your book when I was in a mental hospital a couple years ago when one of the doctors recommended it to me. It actually really helped me through a dark time in my life, thank you for that.

[@ropy89]

hope you got better ! Kudos for the user name :)

[@superman1234567826]

@@ropy89 Thank you! yes doing much better!

[@minkademko2335]

Love the "backwards law". I've been living my life this way (50 adult years) and didn't realize it. Don't sweat the small things, but know that just about everything is a small thing in the grand scheme. Procrastination might mean that the task isn't so important. And live in the present. I'm happy with not over- defining life and death. I watch for opportunities that present themselves.

[@timhett2439]

Thanks for sharing this, really enjoyed watching. I would love to see a similar video for your first book 'Models'. I'm in the middle of reading it and it's been super eye opening and helpful for me. I know for a fact that once I finish it, a video summary like this will be perfect for any time I need a refresher on the core concepts. Anyways, I appreciate the content, keep doing what you're doing :)

[@lesleystone7873]

I like when YT gives me relevant content in my feed😊. Book was gifted. Immediately clicked on this summary. Thank you, Mark! Appreciated..

[@francescaverdi2555]

I’m an artist - if “stuck” I ask someone to come into my studio, define the problem to them and without fail the answer presents itself. Always!!

[@lauren-rozannaobrien9025]

I’m 25 years old and this is the first book that I ever read in one sitting, I actually couldn’t stop, I’ve also never read or seen any type of “self help” like it, completely bullshit free, straight to the point and humour to add a little ✨spice✨

[@SeptemberSkyHD]

omg same here, 25 and first book that i actually treasure and read regularly :D

[@PolntBlank]

I love finding books that engage you and align with your life so much at the time that reading them becomes an addiction!

[@SeptemberSkyHD]

@@PolntBlank LOVE THE USERNAME :D

[@Sammyli99]

this is actually scary...we have 500 million 20 somethings, who's longest read is a donald trump tweet. (small caps for a big head re DT)

[@PolntBlank]

@@SeptemberSkyHD dank je vel! September is my month...

[@slimelove3493]

Wow this just cut through most of the bs I feed myself everyday w regards to my family, addiction, denial, problems etc: “The pursuit of positive experience is itself a negative experience. The acceptance of a negative experience is itself a positive experience.” With my fam, my addiction, with everything. “Negativity is actually the path to positivity.” Because it’s honest its the Truth and not living in denial and forcing false harmony. I’m buying this book.

[@gatsby1909]

When I think of that story with the cyber stalker, what she believed was actually somewhat true. She said that Mark and her will “cure death”. Surely Mark’s book has made people look at life differently, giving them a better life to live so using her story in his book, he has “cured death”.

[@NadyaPena-01]

Thank you so much for this summary. I can relate to chapter 3: You’re Not Special. I firmly believe that bad things can and will happen to me the same as any simple human. Though it makes me a bit anxious, it also propels me forward. I had a personal tragedy recently where my baby daughter passed away. For a parent it doesn’t get much more traumatic than having to survive a child’s death. People were wondering why I didn’t seek out support groups and after thinking about it my answer just came to me. A lot of people who’ve suffered like this often dwell on the question “why?” They ask why it happened to them and what they did to deserve this or some variation of that. My thought was more along the lines of why NOT me? There is nothing special about me that would make me or my children immunity to sudden death. It was a lot of pain but I needed to unpack it my way, and I did. I didn’t sugarcoat, I didn’t try to justify it, I didn’t ask why me, I didn’t blame anyone. This happens to thousands of parents a day and I am just one of those unfortunate ones. I figured out a way to move forward with the pain. Now I hug my remaining children tight each day knowing that tomorrow is not promised to any of us no matter how awesome we may be.

[@juliaxiao5320]

Underrated comment

[@usman3437]

What happens when people say Why Me? They dwell on the path of sadness in their lives. They don't build connection with other children and so vice versa. You did the right thing!

[@mcalad6255]

Wow, thank you for sharing this approach 🌟. Totally resonated with your perspective.

[@rakap4346]

"Why not me" that made me think a lot. Thank you for sharing your experience and I am sorry for your loss.

[@morningstar3155]

As ax lzazazalaza sax zazlpzzz🙂🌞

[@ironheart191]

You're already published in 45 languages which accounts for all the publishing industry there is, likely a bestseller in 18 of them....but you still wake up, set the lights, and record. Kudos ma man!

[@books-and-cats]

Absolutely

[@floralfancy7814]

A somebody who is so anxious because of what people think about me I would personally love to read your book.

[@denniskielton2447]

That rewrite the problem thing is serious gold. I totally forgot about that from math class which is crazy, because that's it's half a thing I usually hold onto. It's something that I still do it all the time, look at things from different angles, but I totally forgot about being told to rewrite the problem in math class and how good of an example it is. What I usually say to my music music students is: "just practice for 5 minutes, right before bed or while watching TV." Because guess what happens when you try to set your guitar down after 5 minutes, it's not easy. "Walking towards the person" is a great example too. One way to make sure you finish that song or put out that video, is to announce it publicly. I saw a picture a bit ago that put it well too. The first part was a cartoon "motivation" (looking like a pretty lady) telling you 'you can do it' and the next one was "reality:" motivation being a small little guy, flipping the switch to activate the much bigger guy, named Discipline. Sometimes all it take is that first step forward, to start falling in the right direction