The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Summarized by the Author

[@thedingo8833]

A trick my mother taught me in social anxiety was to find the other person in the room who is clearly struggling and make it your goal to make THEM comfortable. You forget all about your own while your mission focused on a good deed.

[@rishabhjain2404]

So true, I feel I am an introvert. A few times in a social gathering, I have found people who are more introvert than I am and spent time with them. By the end of it, they would be happy and I would feel like an extrovert.

[@thedingo8833]

@@rishabhjain2404 😂💦🙏🏻👍🏻👍🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@halobanh-cn3kw]

real@@rishabhjain2404

[@stephenw4720]

Plot twist: or we can say fuck you, I will make you as horrible as how I feel too. Evil deeds sometimes too ;)

[@ZomBMarketing]

I have to admit, that's pretty damn good....

[@ellyse1574]

This quote really resonated with me: “Side Note: As a rule, people who are terrified of what others think about them are actually terrified of all the shitty things they think about themselves being reflected back at them.” SO FUCKING TRUE 😳😳😳

[@hami4993]

plzzz tell me summ more qoutes :)

[@franksimmons9242]

I agree. On the lower end of the spectrum people are concerned so they can make adjustments to become better. They care about their reputation and narcissists love us because we give a damn. Learning how to navigate around them has been a satisfying challenge.

[@possessorofgreatness7620]

Concept of shadow summarized in a nutshell

[@CariMachet]

As a rule there are no rules and no cookie cutter packages for you to climb your lazy ass into > look some people are bullied and so your little “pattern” doesn’t work in that instance >>>> some people are actually innocent > when people are messing with philosophy they need to ask the questions in the extreme in order to really distill it

[@brightstar78]

@@hami4993 Sooner you start implementing boundaries in your life, sooner you'll be able to free yourself from narcissists and energy draining leaches. Boundaries will teach YOU how to respect yourself too.

[@Dog3D]

I read this when i was 17. It pulled me out of depression, and gave me a direction in how I think and tackle my daily life. Im 24 now and live great and happier than ever. I love my job and surrounded by friends and family that I love.

[@quocvieth7278]

Congrats man, I’m 24 right now and read this back last year.

[@dmo848]

God bless n stay away from hard drugs.

[@someonefromearth5231]

That's amazing. I'm happy for you :)

[@Dog3D]

yash chauhan youre right. I misremembered. I had an bad breakup when I was 17 that put me in a depression for about two years until I started reading this and applying the philosophies . It was around 18-19 years old. I also turned 24 couple months ago.

[@Dog3D]

someonefromearth ❤️❤️❤️

[@chrisjamesbrian]

Bro - your book saved my life 5 years ago. I was 100% out of life sauce, and someone recommended this book to me and it absolutely changed my trajectory forever. Forever. Thank you So much for sharing this work with all of us, Mark.

[@dinara.mindtrainer]

That’s so lovely 😊

[@Fr3nzY_17]

This books a life saver for real

[@beingriyan4548]

How did you change yourself from a overthinker? May b you were like me nd even iam struggling to change myself of thinking to be reputed tips plz!

[@nikkijubilant]

6 years a psychiatrist told me to read this book. In fact he lent me his copy. Thank you sir.

[@7860092]

@@nikkijubilantwhat did it help u with? Social anxiety?

[@laraclou_et_cie]

Some singers leak their songs... This man leaked his whole book. He's built different

[@Pytliczello]

he just dont give a f@ck!

[@astarrfitness5565]

it's not considered leaked if it was published over 5 years ago

[@bananahammock9227]

Lol

[@mikelisteral7863]

the book is a prank. hes trolling us all. its a trick!

[@astarrfitness5565]

@@mikelisteral7863 the only one trolling you is your dad. Went to the grocery store and never came back

[@SouthernBornSenders]

Mark doesn’t realize this, but he's making everyones day better.

[@savoury9970]

Nah he seems confident enough in himself. I’d say he knows 😂😂

[@annaheya2109]

@@savoury9970 I’d say he wants to 🤣

[@kirstinstrand6292]

At least us Normals.

[@aaabbb-py5xd]

Lol except Mark here obviously gave enough of a fuck to summarize his book

[@panizsalehi1968]

oh he does, he's well aware of it

[@zxcvbnm3657]

He actually sounds nicer than i imagined

[@sharifallaw9570]

True. I thought the summary would be something that's really loud and angry

[@delhihiphopp]

He dont give a fuck about that .

[@the-pro-tech768]

Im sure he doesnt give a fuck

[@mattj1556]

i dont give a fuck about how he sounds, he is a great guy

[@beebsblue]

I agree, he’s so likeable! Just discovered his youtube channel and binge watching :)

[@LeeroyMotcher-Sanga]

Chapter 9.....that chapter saved me from depression and I'm genuinely grateful that I got a chance to read this book

[@ayoubaz7425]

Nothing but love brrother. It helped me too

[@ourhaven]

That's honorable, and now I want to read the book

[@Akshat-zw9gr]

fair play man

[@Freddyg304]

why

[@chozosapien3652]

"The problem is not what people think about you, its that you have nothing better to worry about" 🤔 that one got me😁👍

[@payelmondal6400]

Thanks for the line.

[@Joyjoyjoy4]

Me too!

[@meleshadgu3230]

Then the problem is solved

[@luckytv8541]

"Action leads to motivation." This completely changed my life. A million thanks Mark Manson!

[@xxception6842]

+1

[@lifeisagame2023]

The do something principal

[@heybizzle]

Same

[@AndyVandercoy]

People don't believe me when I say this but it's true

[@Shinchan958-h9z]

@@AndyVandercoy can you please tell me how to implement this idea

[@Stephanie-is7bu]

the more you wanted to be happy, the more lonelier you'll be the more you wanted to be rich, the more poorer you'll be the more you wanted to be sexy, or desirable, the more you'll feel insecure just be satisfied on what you have, learn to accept things that are inevitable and learn how to appreciate the little things. life goes on Update: Hi! I suggest to read his book called, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck. If you did already, read it again. after that go back in here and watch the video. you'll definitely get why I said this. Anyway, thank you for the likes.

[@SandeepSingh-fj3il]

Nice, in life u don’t fxkin worry about anything in life u have to care about things

[@utkarshraj1745]

@la writerin not true ........its random and uncertain..... And differs for different people.

[@Longtack55]

Bollocks (English for b.s.) Alan Watts was a drunken misery-guts (more English.)

[@HollowBlast24]

Accept where I am in life? I can’t I want to grow and develop. I’m not comfortable with this even though I love myself

[@elwoodwarren-kuelgen8874]

@@Longtack55 How?

[@mohamedel-enani9379]

1- Death is certain 2- don’t overestimate your problems to make it unsolvable 3- you are not the only one on earth who have problems 4- don’t try to avoid the pain of your problems 5- being optimistic all the time is not the answer to all of your problem 6- you are not special in anyway you don’t deserve special treatment 7- don’t blame others on your problems this will not solve any of them 8- any problem in your life you are the one who is responsible for solving it not ignoring it even if you are not the reason of it 9-Don’t give yourself so many choices because no matter how good is your choice you will always think what would happen if you chose any of the other choices 10-stop spending money on thing you don’t need 11- you say that you have experience in so many things while the only thing you have done is scratch the surface of so many things to have experienced you must dig deep in each chance 12- don’t help someone because you feel you have to but because you want to , remember helping is an option not a must 13-remember death is certain so being shy , scared or confused is not necessarily ( sorry for the bad english )

[@payelmondal6400]

Best summary. Thank you very much. God bless you.

[@asivetawo3675]

Great English. We could all understand-that is the point of of communication. Keep improving though but great English! Thank you for the summary.

[@steniorodrigo5590]

Thank you, Sir.

[@jayman8974]

Thanks Mo

[@rigalaitheseer]

Thanks

[@semari3333]

This is the kind of book that you need to read every year

[@TheWelchProductions]

Idgaf

[@Moonqueen303]

Every day

[@tumelo4526]

BIG TRUE

[@doncorleone8009]

every hour

[@putritiara9083]

For real i need to keep reminding myself

[@suekennedy4716]

Im 66, you're letting me know how much i learned that i now need to unload to enjoy what time i have left!! Going to bookstore in morning and recommend this to everyone i know. Thank you

[@sparkdrive2900]

Only a few years left to live. Make the most out of it.

[@beautifulmoster1988]

Is rare to find authors who summarize their books giving exactly what the readers need to hear. Pls continue writing books , im amazed by ur talent. Greetings from Albania 🇦🇱

[@examtime4887]

Is country name essential to wrote

[@ujepagaz8495]

@@examtime4887 yes it is I want to know

[@examtime4887]

@@ujepagaz8495 but why

[@ujepagaz8495]

For research purposes

[@examtime4887]

@@ujepagaz8495 which research , are you from intelligence agency , then I say everyone should not mention their country's name .

[@glennrobinson7193]

This guy's onto something. It goes against society's obsession with living comfortably, having lots of so called friends, and looking good in the eyes of others.

[@Sam-oq5cq]

IKR!

Pff this mentality has been around for decades nothing new .nope.

[@glennrobinson7193]

@ Agreed, yeah I know but it seems to have escalated in the past few years wouldn't you agree

[@probonobeats1706]

Bla bla bla just repeating your dogmatic mantras that have been stated millions of times by literally anyone with a half working brain and you people are excited like its the revelation of the century. Perfect example of why you should always make books markerted to stupid people, anything will be news to them.

[@jont2576]

@@probonobeats1706 care to explain more? i agree most motivational/self help books are just common sense stuff regurgitated a million times over and over again.......but people act like as though its revelations from the gods.oh i read this man's book while driving to blah blah blah and it changed my life!!!!!

[@yebzy]

Not even 20 seconds in "Well Fuck You" I like this man already

[@TheSeanpatrickobrien]

You like men

[@Shirazie]

@@TheSeanpatrickobrien I'm sure he is

[@ashleygarden6906]

🤣🤣🤣

[@tho_norlha]

0:17 lmao

[@skysevendz360]

why are you gay?

[@e-genieclimatique]

in brief : The video is a comprehensive summary of his book, presented by the author himself. 1. **Chapter 1: Don't Try** - Manson starts with Charles Bukowski's story, emphasizing that success can come despite flaws. He introduces the concept of the "backwards law," suggesting that the pursuit of positive experiences is counterproductive, and instead, embracing negative experiences can lead to positive outcomes. 2. **Chapter 2: Happiness is a Problem** - This chapter discusses the Buddhist concept of dukkha (suffering) and the evolutionary usefulness of suffering. Manson argues that negative emotions are signals for action and that happiness is not the sole purpose of life. 3. **Chapter 3: You Are Not Special** - Manson talks about entitlement, using a story about a con man named Jimmy. He explains two forms of entitlement: grandiose narcissism and victim narcissism, and criticizes the culture of exceptionalism fueled by social media. 4. **Chapter 4: The Value of Suffering** - The focus shifts to values, using the story of a Japanese soldier from WWII. Manson discusses good and bad values, emphasizing that good values are reality-based, socially constructive, and immediate and controllable. 5. **Chapter 5: You Are Always Choosing** - This chapter is about responsibility and choice. Manson uses various examples to illustrate that we always have a choice in how we perceive and respond to situations. 6. **Chapter 6: You're Wrong About Everything (But So Am I)** - Manson discusses the importance of uncertainty and open-mindedness. He uses personal stories, including one about a cyber stalker, to show the dangers of extreme certainty. 7. **Chapter 7: Failure is the Way Forward** - Here, Manson argues that failure is a crucial part of success. He introduces the "Do Something Principle," suggesting that action leads to motivation. 8. **Chapter 8: The Importance of Saying No** - This chapter deals with relationships and the importance of setting boundaries. Manson emphasizes the need to say no and manage conflicts for healthy relationships. 9. **Chapter 9: And Then You Die** - The final chapter discusses death and its role in clarifying what matters in life. Manson shares personal stories and reflects on how confronting mortality can bring clarity and meaning to our lives. Manson concludes by tying together the major concepts of the book and encourages viewers to read the book for a deeper understanding. He highlights his use of humor and profanity in his writing style and invites viewers to subscribe to his channel for more life advice.gpt4

[@smileyface5908]

I read an article you wrote. It was called “stop trying to change yourself, change your actions”. Really hit home. Brought me here. Thanks for your work.

[@rubenchris6703]

where can i read that?

[@reneesoli5345]

I'm working on Be Still.

[@theartskee4291]

I wish there’s more authors who would summarize their own book in this way. I understand it more when it is explained to me tbh. I have a hard time reading and comprehending written words so this is very helpful 😊

[@zestysupreme9482]

You should try the audiobook! Audiobooks help me get through the whole story, but also my reading comprehension isn't the best either

[@bellareid3488]

Ryan Holiday does it... I find his stuff really good.

[@rahulg.c4861]

This was the first self help book I read and after this I got into reading habits. Thanks Mark for such an awesome book all the way from NZ

[@ximakangaroo-videogamesmor4220]

Same bro same!

[@JaysonT1]

@@IAmMarkManson What is your advice for old timers who missed the mark?

[@Mars-mr5wt]

Same here..

[@masternobody1896]

@@IAmMarkManson hey this should be family friendly you will go to jail for saying f word

[@otherstaff8876]

🙌

[@saqtah]

Respect for this guy, watched the whole video and he never once complained about his hand situation. Just talked about his passion, family and work.

[@erickbravo6070]

More authors should do summaries like this about their books! This was amazing dude and I do wanna check out the book now, sicc content keep it up.

[@rasheemthebestfirstone3274]

Read the book already might reread and you’re they should it would be smart for the viewer and for general content

[@yaboyjonez9476]

"If your always worrying about what people think about you. The problem is not what people think about you. The problem is you don't have anything better to worry about." - 2021 Motto

[@Ryosuke1208]

Yes, it's more important what you think of yourself.

[@AliBooneInvest]

love this.

[@michalena333]

"What others think of me is none of my business". I don't know who coined this phrase, but it could have been me

[@ChrisSmith-st7ig]

Fact....

[@sriku1000]

A very Calm video on why Existential emptiness creates bad parents kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@KeemoRicablanca]

00:00 - Introduction 02:40 - Chapter 1. Don't Try 06:46 - Chapter 2. Happiness is a problem 10:58 - Chapter 3. You are not special 15:01 - Chapter 4. The value of suffering 18:15 - Chapter 5. You Are Always Choosing 22:58 - Chapter 6. You Are Wrong About Everything (But So Am I) 27:29 - Chapter 7. Failure Is The Way Forward 30:31 - Chapter 8. The Importance of Saying No 33:37 - Chapter 9. And Then You Die

[@WZRDr]

I really don't give a fuck, but hey thanks

[@jacquelinedonath4605]

Thank You

[@dhanyarajan5496]

Thank you ..I appreciate this.

[@TheSeanpatrickobrien]

I hate timestamp people

[@jacquelinedonath4605]

@@TheSeanpatrickobrien Truth, it wasn't necessary

[@rahulchabbi1338]

Man this author is so relatable about the things we face in life and gives the most basic simple solutions to it.

[@clairexchoco]

The fact that he can summarise every chapter goes to show his clarity of thought and flow and how none of his chapters are filler chapters. Either that or he's really good at bsing. But I buy his bs so alls good.

[@mantankerous5844]

its not BS if it helps you.

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

One man's trash can be nother man's treasure...

[@debkski6084]

@@sakuranovaryan9261 That's PROFOUND. Why has this never been said before?

[@bigsmoke4754]

@@debkski6084 it has been said before , in the song Macklemore - thrift shop

[@sriku1000]

A very Calm video on why Existential emptiness creates bad parents kzbin.info/www/bejne/rJXag2mpi7eoos0

[@mdpurisima06]

This book has completely changed how I see life. From having a “victim” mindset to becoming fully responsible for it. Thank you Mark Manson.

[@ujean56]

I don't think I have ever been more wrong about a book title, ever. Thanks. You've won another customer. Imagine, helping yourself without cleaning up your room. I love it!

[@Bank-fl2dx]

Fumutts

[@ChrisPBacon-ex5du]

Dont judge a book by its cover😉

[@EllieM_Travels]

I bought your book in 2019 thinking it was going to teach me how to stop caring so much, and I was pleasantly surprised to find out there was so much more to it! I’ve applied the ideas and principles ever since. Thank you!

[@Ayundaru]

a friend of mine gifted me your book. It changed my perspective on a lot - especially standards (the metallica/megadeath anecdote)... Your book had a huge impact on me. Thank you!

[@raginald7mars408]

..as a Good friend of YOU - Please give ME now this wonderful Book! I don´t give a F****buying it. Lesson learned - from you! Great!

[@raginald7mars408]

@Stephen Kim NOW I am!

[@MultiStar84]

Did it actually help you though?

[@jasonlieberman4606]

Metallica and Megadeth anecdote?! Everything I hear about this book increases my interest in it.

[@Loadinger]

Yeah! I still have 30 pages left to finish reading it

[@drakedbz]

Regarding chapter 5: One of the things I've learned to do over the last few years is to not be mad about spending time doing things that aren't actively stimulating. I've had to learn to enjoy to take things at a slower pace. To revel in the calmness. Going for a walk or drive, laying in bed lost in thought, those kinds of things. If I stress about the time that I'm "wasting", I'm just going to be unhappy. If I instead realize that there is value in calm, I enjoy that time much more, and come out the other side without all that extra stress. The only person that can choose whether your experiences are positive is you.

[@m.scotsimpson5725]

Awesome insite! It’s hard to be still for a lot of us that derive their value or worth but what or how much they “accomplish”!

[@vaniadnascimento]

I have a hard time doing relaxing things cause i always feel that its not productive. Thank you so much for your comment, its like a light at the end of the tunnel.

[@Fantasy_booklover]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@jessmb9750]

“What am I willing to struggle for?” - this was the question I asked myself last year before diving into the academe and pursue my master’s while I am currently working full time. This helps me a lot to figure out, whether I like the process or I just love the end-result. Here I am, on my second semester, hustlin’, but not complaining coz that’s the struggle I want in my life. Thanks M.Manson for profoundly explaining these principles thru your book! 💙

[@TheSammz411]

I had a similar experience but with undergrad. Full time work, full time schooling, and no stability. That question changed my view on everything.

[@booshank2327]

Nothing.

[@not_so_sahaj]

Every sentence he says, feels like a quote to be put on the wall and see daily. I'm amazed by how much wisdom he carries.

[@superman1234567826]

I remember readin your book when I was in a mental hospital a couple years ago when one of the doctors recommended it to me. It actually really helped me through a dark time in my life, thank you for that.

[@ropy89]

hope you got better ! Kudos for the user name :)

[@superman1234567826]

@@ropy89 Thank you! yes doing much better!

[@jamesd5241]

Me after first 5mins of this video - "Ha what an idiot, i can just watch this and get the book for free" Me at the end of the video- "Damn i need to buy this book"

[@MrFunLight]

First time I ended the book, I waited for almost 20 minutes, before I started the audiobook again.....

[@books-and-cats]

It is an enjoyable read. Very refreshing addition to the self help world which becomes repetitive and boring.

[@matttownsendpt6854]

Haha! It's worth the read, great book!

[@voyqge2409]

read it like twice haha

[@misodinamosa]

Thank you, because that 1st 5mins was really undermining. Happy you stuck it out, he is the best person to summarize his book 😊💜🙏🏻

[@marssinner8707]

“Modern masterpiece” “advice that doesn’t suck” The self confidence I love it I aspire to be this proud of my art/work some day

[@andreagardndr]

The most deep, interesting, coolest people I’ve met have been in Recovery. They’ve gone through the trenches, have empathy and I think are the most beautiful people. I have 8 years sober from heroine amen. Thank you. Going to buy mad love and ✊

[@philkim8297]

They have got the best stories

[@saycog1084]

I have a personal solution for when my mind is going nowhere or somewhere it shouldn’t. I tell myself, do something you’ll be proud of once you’re done. It can be anything like washing the dishes I’ve been postponing to do. I end up doing more than that and as a result feeling great

[@minkademko2335]

Love the "backwards law". I've been living my life this way (50 adult years) and didn't realize it. Don't sweat the small things, but know that just about everything is a small thing in the grand scheme. Procrastination might mean that the task isn't so important. And live in the present. I'm happy with not over- defining life and death. I watch for opportunities that present themselves.

[@brightstar78]

Great message, especially, for the young people who feel under pressure to become "someone". "If Everyone were extraordinary, then by definition No One would be extraordinary".

[@icehot900]

No one is extraordinary, some are just more than others

[@icehot900]

@@brightstar78 making a person stand out... more, or less, than somebody else.

[@GothicDemon2012]

After suffering an eating disorder for a year and worrying about what my family thought of me and then my mother just passed away aged 91 and the family builled me badly. I am 60 years young in a few days and with your book these last few months has helped me become stronger mentally not perfect on book number 2 I am going to beat this demon thank you

[@mahendramahey8166]

My first ever KZbin comment, which means you have touched me a lot, thank you Mark, loved the summary, and getting the book today, there was absolutely nothing I could disagree with, it must have been a hell of a journey to collect all that wisdom.

[@chloes5043]

Someone gave me this book in a hostel in the middle of nowhere in New Zealand and it changed my entire perspective on life. I read it once a year to keep things in perspectives. Great book.

[@lo-siento-wilson]

well, idgf

[@jaxstorey6734]

I do hope you enjoyed our gorgeous country, French...or are you living here in NZ :o)

[@irinasarnetskaya1]

There’s a guy from NZ in this comment thread, I wonder if it was him.

[@jaypatil4912]

Wanna be less miserable. Read this book. This isn't self help. This is life changing.

[@lol8q]

Mag kiti life change zali

[@Risheei]

Kay re donya, kuthe firto

[@rajyavardhansingh4491]

Kya?

[@True38]

I never gave a fuck. Even when I did.

[@TheWelchProductions]

I forgot a lot from the book. That's the problem with a lot of self-help books. Unless you actively apply what you learn to your life, it won't be of much help.

[@learnwithg.k.s.5481]

I am 18 .....my class teacher after seeing my problems gifted me this book. I, a fool because I had exams kept it. To be read after they are over. But now I have a complete different perspective toward my life. I try to implement those learnings of this book. I do vipashna( a meditation technique) and this book is like theory part of it. Completely in shock after reading the reality of this life. I pray for your better health Mark brother. You have changed life of many forever. An evergreen book. Thanks to my Class Teacher (Rohit Yadav). If he would have just dictated the name i would have forgotten it and kept looking at it in my read list but he gifted it to me. So I was more motivated to read it. An extra step to make that action happen by my Sir.

[@romerider1000]

I read your book 2 times and I’ve listened to it on audio book 6 times. I was going through a difficult time, with my kinda girlfriend, work, having too many options I couldn’t choose what to do. I drove to the Eclipse Festival in Oregon in 2016 and listened to it 3 times on the way there and 3 times on the way back. That trip changed my life. Your book changed my perspective. Long story short I’m the type of person who’s super prone to depression. I’ve been on anti anxiety meds for years, I’ve tried every single variety of anti depressants since I was 14 years old. The subtle art of not giving a fuck truly got me off medications and I finally learned to accept that Ill always have to eat a shit sand which. But I’m happy now choosing the shit sandwich I want to eat. It was all the therapy I ever needed. Thank you.

[@Sammyli99]

get off the tabs, whatever....! enough natural stuff that has no sides, stop listening to pay-as-they-prescribe doctors. Life is a bitch, and life is beautiful, expect both, deal with both humbly.

[@jasonpowell291]

This was so well said, & truly inspiring

[@pida9669]

Well said! I believe that in life we are destined to have as many unpleasant (i.e. painful) experiences as we have pleasant (i.e. pleasurable, happy) ones. So, the more choose to "take" pain (e.g. hit the gym, tackle stressful/difficult projects), the less we will "receive" unwanted pain (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). On the flipside, the less we indulge in unnecessary pleasure (e.g. sweets, recreational drugs), the less we will suffer unwanted pains (e.g. anxiety, depression, chronic pain). I've recently published a 100% free, evidence-based book called The Sudist Way that dives deeply into these ideas and how to use them in day-to-day life to live life to the fullest and get rid of chronic anxiety, depression, and pain naturally without medication. You can read it for free at sudism.org/the-book-of-sudism/ or major online bookstores. Take care...

[@AniishAu]

Most inspiring comment here! it brought tears to my eyes. If Manson achieved absolutely nothing else in life, his impact on yours is the most inspiring success anyone could wish for. Your life story, your struggles and realisations are truly unique... take your shit sandwich and shake the crap out of it...to _your_ success! ...

[@bollejoost]

@@Sammyli99 yes, there's medication that's bad, or that will have negative effects. but I do want to make the case to you that it is not as black and white as you are saying. before I got my ADHD medication (not amphetamines) I genuinely could not focus on something of my choosing for longer than 5 minutes. that is not an overstatement, I physically could not, no matter how many times I tried. now with the medication I can actually pursue college, I can watch this video without a problem. I can positively say, medication changed my life. now I agree with you, some anxiety, ADHD, depression meds will definitely fuck you up. but if you really need them, they might be your way out.

[@lcnick2090]

What i love about him is that he looks and sounds exactly as i expected when i read his book.

[@arthurdane8508]

'But what is Happiness? Its just the moment before you need more happiness' Don Draper

[@KiwikimNZ]

Happiness is a state of mine a choice we make. “When I get that job? When I get thin, when I get my life partner, when I’m rich” then I’ll be happy. Doesn’t work like that. Change your thinking full stop..instead of going through your day complaining about all the shit that happens to you, stop those thoughts in their tracks! Manifest your happiness, be present in the moment. Have gratitude for all of that that you have x

[@thebibleisinfallible2336]

happiness is temprorary but meaning is permanent

[@timpackert2431]

Who is this Don Draper? An Oracle of Great Wisdom?

[@brucelee4996]

@@timpackert2431 Mad Men. Loved that show.

[@lutaayam]

@@timpackert2431 might as well be

[@MohnishF]

This is one of the most iconic thing I've seen on KZbin ever 🫨💥

[@thayanhtienganhvacaccon969]

Hi, My name is Anh from Vietnam This is the first English-language book I have ever bought in my life to improve my reading skills in English And it turns out to be a great wealth of counter-arguments with advice from self-help books I've read before. I appreciate your thoughts as well as your arguments in this masterpiece that have really change my life. Thanks a million and hope to see your new books!

[@richardj.magoma7804]

Well done.

[@j.h3442]

I love that you're summerising your own book ❤ I wish all authors would do that 😅

[@andrewjditton]

I enjoyed your book so much Mark. At the age of 51, I wish I’d adopted the philosophies at 18, and wouldn’t have wasted so much of my life with unhealthy values. I now continue to feel liberated and - yes - happier in a good way since reading and re-reading this book. I am of course pointing others in its direction and trying not to get wound up if they don’t read it and choose to stay stuck. That’s their choice. So it’s a huge THANK YOU from me.

[@arnaulfeike1474]

Thanks. Good video. I'm never 100% sure I can make money. Never place 100% of your savings in just one type or type of investment

[@gyorgyikestefania5801]

Every investor's dream is to find a strategy that guarantees, if not 100% success, at least 99.99%.

[@JingyiQing]

What sets John Joseph apart from other account managers is his ability to comply. His managerial skills are second to none. With profitable weekly signals, one can only be grateful.

[@daviniafelipe4412]

Who is this man everyone is talking about? Is there any way to contact him?

[@jeanneberengere8063]

I would love to try it. Is it reliable?

[@T.Dargay]

I m a Buddhist monk. I was amazed you writing about Buddha like story as a living life lesson.

[@mikef2813]

I’m a Buddhist. I read it and felt I was already living this way.

[@jasonlieberman4606]

@@mikef2813 was the read still worthwhile to you?

[@mikef2813]

@@jasonlieberman4606 yes, it didn’t serve the same purpose for me that it might for non Buddhists, but it’s a worthy reminder.

[@neosandy]

"Regret for things we have done can be tempered by time, Regret for things we did not do is inconsolable"

[@e.a.jeanson2772]

If that was your quote, damn I needed to read that so thank you and continue remaining positive and strong 💪. If that wasn't your quote, still thanks and I'd like to know who originally said that.

[@honkhonk5181]

Yeah, totally. Try having your name slandered or being thrown in the can because some vindictive gf makes up a lie about you. Some things are in fact better left undone.

[@neosandy]

@@e.a.jeanson2772 I'm sorry I forget who said it, it was taped to my fridge for years ✌️

[@CrakenFlux]

failing to do something is doing something.

[@nodangles6983]

@@CrakenFlux Holy Sh!t. I never knew my life could be summed up so concisely.

[@sadiatalukder4007]

Agreed with everything you said, especially in regards to happiness. Everyone's chasing happiness, no one wants to experience suffering. Suffering is necessary and it adds value to your life. Your goal should be contentment not chasing happiness.

[@michaelperez265]

Been suffering till this day but it does keep me in check on how to care about people and show love and be overall a better human being but at times i find my self completely alone but hey we keep trying right

[@nolimitationsgee3437]

@@michaelperez265 Yea, we keep going. 💯💪

[@Ranisa12]

everything he says just makes so so so much sense. he told all the major dilemmas i have faced in life. and the downward curve ...my god.... wonderful.love mark manson

[@l.w.paradis2108]

If you want to stay reasonably safe, stop falling for guys like this.

[@laniechrisgardnerasl8639]

My math teacher once told me (which helped SO much throughout my life) was that if you don't know the answer to the question, plug in all the information that you DO know..Game changer!

[@victoriabower5816]

Your book is genuinely life-changing. It's radical, refreshing, and generous of you to spend the time sharing these life lessons with the world.

[@hisukahasuka9468]

Marcus Aurelius better

[@Amanita._.Verosa._.]

​@@hisukahasuka9468Subjective.

[@karleyj9706]

​@@hisukahasuka9468 Wasn't he the one who said, "Everything is an opinion, not a fact"?

[@captaindip6970]

don't worry , he's also generously getting paid for generously spending the time sharing his life experiences with us

[@NadyaPena-01]

Thank you so much for this summary. I can relate to chapter 3: You’re Not Special. I firmly believe that bad things can and will happen to me the same as any simple human. Though it makes me a bit anxious, it also propels me forward. I had a personal tragedy recently where my baby daughter passed away. For a parent it doesn’t get much more traumatic than having to survive a child’s death. People were wondering why I didn’t seek out support groups and after thinking about it my answer just came to me. A lot of people who’ve suffered like this often dwell on the question “why?” They ask why it happened to them and what they did to deserve this or some variation of that. My thought was more along the lines of why NOT me? There is nothing special about me that would make me or my children immunity to sudden death. It was a lot of pain but I needed to unpack it my way, and I did. I didn’t sugarcoat, I didn’t try to justify it, I didn’t ask why me, I didn’t blame anyone. This happens to thousands of parents a day and I am just one of those unfortunate ones. I figured out a way to move forward with the pain. Now I hug my remaining children tight each day knowing that tomorrow is not promised to any of us no matter how awesome we may be.

[@juliaxiao5320]

Underrated comment

[@usman3437]

What happens when people say Why Me? They dwell on the path of sadness in their lives. They don't build connection with other children and so vice versa. You did the right thing!

[@mcalad6255]

Wow, thank you for sharing this approach 🌟. Totally resonated with your perspective.

[@rakap4346]

"Why not me" that made me think a lot. Thank you for sharing your experience and I am sorry for your loss.

[@morningstar3155]

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[@kikivon3501]

I absolutely loved this book!! His take on many many aspects of our society, like toxic positivity are absolutely spot on. I am continually reminding my 15 year old son, that life is just a series of problems to solve, you want to upgrade to better problems.

[@jonelafilms]

"People don't like hearing the idea that every problem in their life - they chose it." I feel personally attacked by this statement, but also... truer words have never been said.

[@Fettclone1]

That's one area where I disagree and it's easily refuted. No one chooses ongoing mental health problems.

[@aestheticallypleasingaesth8941]

@@Fettclone1 Careful now, there’s a fine line between mental health problems and the problems of situations that you have chosen (but probably haven’t figured out yet, that you chose them), that you ended up in. Mental health problems DO NOT completely apply to that statement.

[@kylegifford546]

@@Fettclone1 He explains that with a cancer analogy. You don't choose to have cancer but you choose how you deal with it. Same thing applies to mental health. I think that's short-sighted and not sure if it would actually help anyone with real problems, but that's his logic.

[@身赤-w3w]

yes dude i chose to be born with disabilities physical and mental, be abused as a child, i chose to be born in a poor country and i chose to not afford to get treatment for this.

[@jonelafilms]

@@身赤-w3w ​ @수프치킨 I wonder why you have to take every generalized KZbin comment as a personal offense? I also suffer with shit - chronic backpain due to Bertolotti syndrome, I also have endometriosis and severe debilitating migraines since I was 12, not to mention depression since I was 19. I am not sitting here being offended by his video, rather I am referring to the type of problems he's obviously referring to - generic problems one brings upon one self - money, relationship, other hardships that have resulted as a consequence to previous choices. Try not to be offended by comments where offence is evidently not intended.

[@sathancat]

I really liked this book. I listened to it after an especially bad 2 weeks of dealing with my panic disorder (from PTSD). It reminded me to focus on what's important and try not to grip too hard on to life, but go with the flow. Thanks a lot!

[@devashrikulkarni1337]

This is one book that i'd keep coming back to, because it throws facts on your face instead of providing impractical solutions. It was a major life changer for me in my teen years. Thanks!

[@dontyouknow9687]

Wow , if youtube didn't shown me this video randomly on my youtube then I would have never known that this guy have a youtube channel with fucking 2.5 million subscribers. It has been 2 weeks since I started reading your book and I am so much engage with this book that I read it every day . Thank you

[@alysiahite12]

Instead of torturing myself by watching all of a movie in a movie theater that I paid for...I decided to get up and leave. I made the decision not to struggle watching something that was boring and was awful. I was proud of myself.

[@melseha3449]

As u should! U can be really proud of yourself ✨

[@djuraster]

people find ridiculous things to be proud of

[@dhhxhhfgbbvbggjfcjhfhhfghg2301]

You should have watched dude

[@calutron008]

I've walked out too, didn't give it much thought just just up and walked like how Marc went to South America, you might remember he says 'just did it' in relation to that. Sometimes we do have to way up the pros and cons of x y z thing but if i want a cup of coffee i'm just gonna get off my rusty dusty and make it no doubt no debate time for action. It may back fire what do i care.

[@lj5781]

Cool, you should be!

[@Sebastian1979XD]

My wife read this book a while back and I've seen her going back to this every now and then at night. The title was hilarious but I couldn't muster the energy to read it. Then KZbin randomly puts it on my recommendation list and holy shit, I gotta read the whole book now haha thank you algorithms and thank you Manson 🙏

[@manishaveluri5764]

The 9th chapter: Death, really moved me. It literally switched my mindset as soon as I heard it. This is some really powerful stuff. I am grateful for this information. It quite literally changed my perspective on life.

[@brucecampbell8739]

We lost our youngest son in a car accident - 12 years ago - he was 22. It continues to be very hard to care about most things and give a fuck about understanding what we lost. Thank you, I've read your book twice ....... searching for some ways to find some peace.

[@Dove.Love.]

I'm so sorry to hear that 😢

[@BetterDays_Now]

I'm sorry for your loss.

[@learnwithg.k.s.5481]

Hello....so sorry to hear this. I have a solution for your problem. Vipashna is a meditation technique. It is taught in a course of 10 days. You'll have to maintain noble silence for 10 days and food and accommodation will be free. In our country, India, there are it's centres in each state. I have not more idea about your country. Try to search it and attend a 10 days course. I am damn sure. You'll be out of it. Be happy. I am from India

[@marcoflores105]

🙏🙏

[@laurasampson9584]

I love the chapter 5 anecdote of the marathon--my mind is blown. This reminds me of the Rilke quote: “If your daily life seems poor, do not blame it; blame yourself, tell yourself that you are not poet enough to call forth its riches; for to the creator there is no poverty and no poor indifferent place.” Thank you for this, now I need to read the book!

[@guywhoasked903]

omg i love this quote. Thank you for sharing it.

[@vaishnavi4061]

"Happiness comes from solving the problems in your Life. "- Mark Manson

[@abdirashidhussein339]

❤

[@ironheart191]

You're already published in 45 languages which accounts for all the publishing industry there is, likely a bestseller in 18 of them....but you still wake up, set the lights, and record. Kudos ma man!

[@books-and-cats]

Absolutely

[@Snow-r1p]

14:33 Ty for posting your book bro it really helped, just gonna save this swagger quote for anyone else who needs to come back to it too

[@eltechnica]

I’ve read the book 3 times several years ago. I still struggle with some things but this was a great refresher. I believe this book allows me to see just how important it is to focus on who you will become, versus who you were or have been.

[@abrdirect_]

Hey Mark, your book is a masterpiece. I've lost count of how many times I've listened to it and still learn from it every time. By the way, the guy who reads your book in the Spanish version in Google play, is a crack, he makes your book more enjoyable. Thanks from Mexico, man.

[@g-loveuniversity9066]

I was just thinking that I HAVE TO read this book. Now I'm going to do it AND learn Spanish!

[@soberanisfam1323]

You have lowered your standards for masterpiece

[@Neonseasnake]

@@g-loveuniversity9066 was thinking the same

[@gisselfrancoreynoso3805]

Abraham, can you shared the app, I wanna listen the book in Spanish too

[@abrdirect_]

@@gisselfrancoreynoso3805 Hola Gissel, es la app de Google Play Books, lo encuentras en español. Vale como 10dls, pero vale la pena comprarlo.

[@brandonchism6960]

This book is one of the best gifts I've ever received and I genuinely enjoy going back to it from time to time... Thanks for this contribution.

[@d.gregorybrown7779]

very nice "rewrite the problem" I like that better than "start the journey" , thank you.

[@14CB-v2k]

Great job👍I’m a cancer survivor. 71 rounds of chemo, 25 days of targeted radiation, 4 surgeries and a near death experience. Being surgically disemboweled was the best part. Colorectal cancer 2nd most deadly of all cancers. Quitting is a fate worse than death. I’ve been mostly bedridden for going on 20 months now. I would recommend your book✌️

[@creativecorner4715]

Omg ... Thankyou .. n more strength to u. I'm working on colorectal cancer so... Cn relate

[@drugvash4899]

Good luck to both of you!

[@emvega82]

Bless you bro. 🙏🏽

[@Katmandu29]

God do a miracle in his life! God bless you with many more years, Bill.

[@Eaglemadhatter]

Prayers. Update

[@sleepybeats9248]

Mark Manson : Best selling author, underated philosopher and a very helpful person in my life

[@albertolingan]

This book is fantastic. It's what I've always wanted to find materialized into words and thus actions. You're amazing, man. Thanks a million

[@ri5hipat]

Your book has really helped me get out of a dark place in my head. It changed me in a positive way and I am thankful for this, Mark 😊

[@Hummingbird25]

Mind blown 🤯. I don’t think he realizes it but some of this feels like spiritual advice. I love the idea of acceptance of our current moment and finding value in both our positive and negative experiences. How perceptions or the story we tell creates our experience of our reality and how we are always making choices in life hence co creating reality ❤

[@NoTJuB543]

It still boils down to the fact fact that life is more spiritual than physical.

[@julienromera7916]

I remember when I read this book during summer 2019 I was in a bad place mentally and it literally shook me ! Thanks a lot Mark.

[@herbpalmerjr5562]

we get to decide what success is #lobsterlabmedia

[@francescaverdi2555]

I’m an artist - if “stuck” I ask someone to come into my studio, define the problem to them and without fail the answer presents itself. Always!!

[@OConfuso24]

I’m from Brazil. This book was the first book I read, and I liked it so much that I decided to look up the author. That’s when I discovered you had this channel, so I came to see if you had any videos talking about your own book, and here I am. You did a great job. One of your best creations. Feel proud and happy about it. It’s a shame your channel isn’t in Portuguese, haha.

[@Juju-oc9uf]

I printed a quote from your book, "Life is a never-ending upward spiral. And if you think at any point you’re allowed to stop climbing, I’m afraid you’re missing the point. Because the joy is in the climb itself.", in an A4 size paper and posted it on my wall just to remind myself everyday to love the process itself of me becoming an architect someday. It makes me appreciate the PRESENT more. Thank you

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[@mannythegrandfather2291]

Mark Manson, changing lives, one book at a time 🙏🏾🙌🏾

[@LatinTalents]

Thanks for making a summary of your book. As you mentioned, the main goal is knowing our priorities. By choosing where to focus our time, money and energy, one learns to avoid anything that goes against those values.

[@l.w.paradis2108]

When I got my new Volvo 20 years ago, it made me happy. It solved my problem of feeling safe in my car. The problem was solved instantly.

[@CarlosGarcia-od9oh]

I don't know if you'll see this comment, but i got this video recommended just when i needed it. Just made me feel better about something thats been haunting me for weeks. Thank you!

[@lostboi1531]

Read the book it's even better

[@miariley8301]

I’m happy for you

[@ajohonly3721]

This book and can’t hurt me by David Goggin really have changed my life.

[@louispollenz4836]

Just read Can't Hurt Me. I agree it was awesome!

[@rasheemthebestfirstone3274]

@@louispollenz4836 💯

[@rasheemthebestfirstone3274]

💯

[@NairaBRDE]

This was one of the nicest books I read in the last times. The point of "Finding a problem you like" was really an eye opener.

[@jeannegenero]

I love the book actually best self help book I've read so far. I like how the words just slaps the truth across your face and then it suddenly hits you hard. You then realize how hard you are to yourself. Yeah...I feel liberated after reading the book. The first three chapters are my fave. Thank you so much Sir Mark Manson.

[@justdriftingthroughlife9378]

I've found in my 48 years on this planet that my happiest times were moments of pain and/or some sort of discomfort because at that moment there was a chance of either succeeding or failing whether it was striking out with a woman or something physical where I had no choice but to overcome that obstacle. Those were moments where I grew as a man.

[@Sammyli99]

bounce that bitch, exactly....and listen to good peeps, key is don't over romanticise the good shit, and constantly playback the bad. Just clip it all in the neutral bin.

[@JstJaybeingJay]

"what am I willing to struggle for?" That's by the way, is the true meaning of Passion. not something you have "fun" doing. What are you willing to suffer for? That is your passion.

[@Nomorref]

This book honestly helped me to reduce my anxiety

[@Loadinger]

Anxiety comes often because of social media and spending much time on the internet... You better live life in real.

[@gloverelaxis]

i'm so sorry that you're so incredibly stupid that this book means anything to you

[@clivewells7090]

Glad to hear it, you should be lovely and relaxed, until you have to run a marathon to save your family! ...meh.

[@shelc6652]

That's awesome to hear

[@6cooch9]

@@gloverelaxis you’re so incredibly rude. I hope you sort out your insecurities that moved you to write this tasteless comment.

[@jedhaslam4108]

"If there's anything that I'm like an extremist about, It's responsibility" -22:57 This right here, this earned you a follow sir and much of my respect

[@submissions72]

This is literally one of the greatest book ever written. Thanks Mark!

[@Rachmel1980]

I had the same insight recently when I faced a nervous breakdown and subsequent insomnia from hell. Fear and avoidance of suffering keeps you in a prison and it’s only through the willingness to accept and experience suffering that we are set free from that fear. I enjoyed the video breakdown of your book.