How to Figure Out Who You Are Meant To Be

What the hell is purpose? Why does it matter? Where are we going? Why are we here?
I can’t feel my legs.
Purpose is a concept that’s often misunderstood. A lot of people email me about purpose, they come to me with questions about what their meaning in life is, how do they find their one true calling, how do they get a greater sense of meaning through their actions.
So it was with this never-ending stream of lost souls reaching out to a stranger on the internet trying to find their purpose that I thought I should probably make an entire course about how to do it.
This video is Lesson 1 from the Find Your Purpose course in my premium membership. I start off by sharing how much I actually fucking hate the term ‘purpose’, before getting very clear about what purpose is, and why it’s important. Ironic, amiright?
If you like what you see here, maybe consider heading over to my website and signing up for a monthly or yearly membership so you can check out the whole course.
You’ll thank me when you stop chasing your tail.
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[@izzy9403]

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how.”

[@joeschmoe4573]

-Viktor Frankl

[@frannybanny9683]

Men's search for meaning. One of the best books I've ever read!

[@lilshxv]

@@frannybanny9683 is it really a good read?

[@oscarmoreno2585]

​@@joeschmoe4573no, nietzche

[@0xmixo260]

Viktor Frankl quoted Nietzsche actually. @@joeschmoe4573

[@aliabdaal]

This is great stuff

[@oshawastaken]

legend

[@PankajKP]

Hello Sir!

[@skylerkistler1144]

Wasnt expecting to see you hear xD u make great content btw. Keep it up :3

[@mayankmahajan4496]

Ok

[@marjonanorqulova6878]

👍👍👍i like ur videos as well

[@davidp2888]

Finding purpose vs creating purpose. I’ve spent the last year trying to find a purpose; with that one sentence you spoke I now know I need to create purpose. Thank you Mark.

[@Azurethewolf168]

I’ve found one, acting on it has been the big issue in my life. I make plans, yet I never have the willpower to act on it.

[@aminerkin9844]

For me, it's maximizing my evolutionary desires: Money and b***es.

[@ministarbox9942]

​@@Azurethewolf168 if you are unable to find willpower to act on your purpose, then it's not your purpose.

[@ministarbox9942]

​@@aminerkin9844 Money is the hard part

[@ashriffshnr]

this!

[@Dan-mc7xg]

I'm fucked! My wife and I devoted our everything to each other, we were each others' purpose, and now she has passed away. Thank you for explaining the crisis I am going through.

[@jayamokan804]

Love to u brother ❤ stay strong 🫂

[@MZ-iq9nz]

Imagine if she was gone with someone else,,, like my ex dis, it hurts even more, because he is not dead -‘

[@catalhuyuk7]

Is the saying, “Better to have loved and lost, then never to have loved,” true? You’ve got this!!♥️♥️

[@fawazahmed4978]

@@MZ-iq9nzway to invalidate a literal death.

[@sandboy5880]

​@@MZ-iq9nz No... I'd rather never have loved at all than to feel the pain that I do now.

[@cluelessinky]

I’m in my mid 70s. I’ve had several careers, done well and am now at a point where I’m asking what difference did I make. You’ll never know if you have been an influence if you go out and actively seek the answer. In my case I was with a few fellows that I had worked with. We had been some situations that were quite literally life and death events I was their officer and I always believed that the guys were less than enthusiastic to have me command them. During our conversation they told me that they were glad to have me lead them because despite the fact that I was stern I’d always made sure that they would get home alive. At that moment I knew my purpose had been and continues to be to protect those near and dear to me. It’s good to be alive.

[@Jonifico]

Awesome! What was the job about?

[@MrThierryclement]

Beautiful goal, really, you can be proud ! And what was your job ? Army or fireman ?

[@ismaharry]

"It's not about finding a purpose, rather, about creating and maintaining it" - Some Wise Man

[@zdravkochorlev8540]

My head is exploding with questions and uncertainties... and when I found your video or article, it just get better and better. I read two of your books and they are priceless

[@h1ghnezz]

I thought they are $ 19.99

[@snappyapple03]

@@h1ghnezz HAHAHA

[@hypcro]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:00 🤔 Purpose is often misunderstood, and it's a common question in personal development about finding meaning in life. 01:52 🌟 Purpose is crucial because it impacts motivation, relationships, and overall well-being. 06:05 🚫 There's no one true calling; you can have multiple purposes in life, and they evolve with time. 07:57 🧠 Purpose doesn't solve everything, but it's necessary for contentment, relationships, and motivation. 10:51 🤝 Purpose is inversely correlated with selfishness; sacrificing for something greater than yourself gives life meaning. Made with HARPA AI

[@EmbraceTheStruggle24]

Knowing who you are, believing who you really are, who you really want to become, and how others view you are vastly different from one another.

[@TheHumbleCarpenter]

Mark, I can't tell you how close to home this is hitting. It is a HUGE breath of fresh air to hear you speak on this topic. Sometimes it is simply the manner in which an argument is presented that makes it so impactful, and there is something about the way you are presenting these topics that is hitting me right at my core. Thank you and looking forward to hearing more.

[@JosesBWK]

just like that man, well said. touching my heart too

[@binauralfortune]

this is probably the best definition of "purpose/meaning" I have found in the entire internet. No amount of religious parable, or Jordan Peterson intellectual explanation, or nootropic recommendation, none of that explained it like... purpose is the feeling that you aren't wasting your time doing stupid shit. When your time is well spent and you feel that what you are working on is challenging and meaningful to you in that moment, then you have created purpose for yourself. Love this! It's real and practical. No woo-woo cosmic religious bs.

[@denniswenrich6221]

This is a breath of fresh air. We put too much weight on ourselves and I love reframing it this way!

[@miyannaable]

I've been re-building my life after rehab (for about 8 years). I was a pro sax player for many years, which were great when I wasn't wrecked. But I lost a gig due to drinking that I very much enjoyed, and when that ended, I felt as if my life was over. I almost drank myself to death over this and losing a boyfriend. After working on myself for a couple of years, I found that I preferred guitar over sax. I also learned how to make wire wrapped jewelry. Both have become incredible activities, helping me to reinvent myself. So, I can completely relate to this video, because I lost what I strongly felt was my "purpose" in life - and with a clear head, I found that just thinking of myself as a "sax player" had been holding me back from doing the things I love even more. Awesome video, as always!!

[@TheMemoryPolice]

My sense of purpose was raising my child as a single mom.But he is going to college soon and im feeling lost and scared to be on my own

[@Shafeek258]

Well how are you now 😊

[@moveonanddream1111]

I don’t know what you are up to now but I would suggest find multiple things that make you feel fulfilled and do those! Like he says at 5:34 but hey if you can raise a whole human being you can do anything! 🎉😊

[@AnaPereira81]

This video would have saved me so much self inflicted misery 10 years ago! Thanks Mark for you valuable contribution on expanding the individual consciousness 🙏

[@clintjensen7814]

Great video! I learned recently that my purpose is me, it's that simple. If I work on me, everything else gets easier and easier. This realization was life changing! If you're searching for a 'purpose', it's you, and it always has been.

[@jocelynsee8313]

lol I don't think you understood his point very well

[@xyzv8640]

How about caring about other people at some point?🤔

[@clintjensen7814]

@@xyzv8640 That's the point, you can't help others until your own house is in order. Once it is, then helping others is the next step.

[@JoePAcalaughs]

You're correct.

[@ceasarinvictus3857]

@@clintjensen7814what if helping others will help you later on?

[@Jedirn69]

Agreed. It's so personal to every individual. Everyone has worth, but not everyone has purpose... and that's okay.

[@НиколаТесла-э5ю]

Glad that I'm subscribed to this God-level channel. In the last few months (maybe even a year), I had that strange and (somewhat) scary feeling of total emptiness and meaningless in my life, but also in everyone's life (meaning that I think everyone is living just to be alive, without any purpose in it), like it's so werid to feel that, that i cannot describe it with words, it can only be felt... But books, especially the works of Dostoyevsky, Pushkin, Tolstoy, (some different genre from the Eastern philosophy and literature) Shakespare and also the philosophy from Renè Descartes had created some sort of a (life) path, fully meaningful and also with a lot of secrets(many philosophical, many in other subjects) who are yet to be discovered, by me(becasue that "path" is a thought-creation of mine) in my brain, and they can be only discovered by experience(by feeling it, by interacting with it, and something similar)... Long story short, I want to thank you(and your work) for introducing me to that "path" which I created only by thoughts. I'm sorry if this is a long comment, but I had to express my feelings to someone/something... However, Thanks a lot !

[@DaLuggy]

Had kinda the same experience but different approuch on it... feel free to get in contact to exchange ideas!

[@mr.knownothing33]

Nice bro! I feel the same way too. Like even the concept of celebrities, in the end they’re going to die and not be remembered. Existentialism is a gift. Like Goku means “aware of emptiness” in Japanese. We’re all on our hero’s journey 🏔 the path is the point not the destination

[@tomcotter4299]

I know exactly what you mean. I have a bad habit of viewing everyone around me as empty and completely unconcerned about the purpose of their life. The reality is that I’m really just depressed about my own lack of purpose and projecting it on to them.

[@CamStubbs]

Great timing … it must be in the collective thought right now I have been getting many not even sure “what is my purpose?” Is the question they even need to ask … Thank You “I want to find a meaningful use of my time” covers 90% of those I’m helping currently 💪

[@aznargo]

This is great! I told my best friend a couple of years ago that asking the "meaning of life" is a very juvenile question, in my opinion. I told him that the meaning of life is what you make it to be; it's not something that literally falls into your lap or where you have an epiphany and you're set for the rest of your life. It's something that we are continually figuring out, and can create for ourselves. Thanks Mark!

[@yasshilpi6427]

Thank you Mark, I just understood something after watching this video. For 30 years, my purpose was to save someone I love. After she passed away, I am trying to create a new purpose, something to wake up for, feel proud of....

[@Βασιλικηνικα-β4θ]

It’s takes time to find your purpose but it’s important to have everyday passion in little things and then slow you find what is this to wake up every morning

[@nathannelson]

This is great - it's common sense but if you're in a place where you're asking questions of yourself like this, it's really useful to be reminded.

[@ghastlybaker117]

Purpose: deciding that something is important and doing it because you feel it is important. Purpose can be found anywhere. People actually mean "I want to spend my time on important things." More than efficiency tactics or strategies, it is important to establish that something is important before it is worth dealing with. Purpose is an ongoing creation. You can have many purposes in life. Purpose changes and evolves through time. Purpose doesn't solve everything. It gives meaning to deal with most things. Creating purpose: Spending your time and meaningful challenges. Long term purpose is something that you see as bigger than yourself and something you are willing to sacrifice things for. Values, perspective.

[@brendasalvatierra2869]

My new purpose is creating my purpose in life 💡

[@alexrock4113]

There are only individuals in this world so there is no general formula for purpose. I observed myself as my life goes on and figured out what makes me happy. Rescuing a dog or a cat gave me more happiness that any amount of money could. Helping a friend or a girlfriend becoming the best version of themselves made me very happy. Sharing happy moments with someone becomes real happiness to me more then me all by myself living the same exact happy moment. Building a life with equal partner can create bond and happiness that money can’t bye too. Some people are surgeons saving lives every day on the operating table it’s not money it’s the life they saved that day that makes their soul happy when they go to sleep at night. Some people build a beautiful car and are happy that the car they had built made so many people happy. Some people draw beautiful paintings and they become timeless wonders for future generations. Observe what makes you happy and keep on doing it.

[@Японец-о8х]

It is necessary to create a meaning for one's existence from something, the goal is to give meaning to one's existence, because the "goal" pursues a fictional achievement that can be achieved only through some actions, and inaction will lead to complete apathy and loss of oneself

[@ginalatreille2522]

What is most difficult is balancing your devotion to each meaningful person in your life including yourself. Some will get less and some will get more and you just have to make the best of that time and it's not easy to accept but it's necessary.

[@nn9tnataor947]

🔥🔥🔥We are lucky to have Manson as life adviser in this generation and last but not least his life advice doesn't sucks🔥🔥🔥

[@MoriacMumma7]

Wow! You are so well informed. It's great to see you sharing your symptoms about this condition & the way it affects your life. And with such a positive attitude. I was 30yo when diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis. Another invisible condition with many people not understanding the chronic pain & chronic fatigue. I'm 46 now. I've had multiple surgeries to correct deformities in my hands & feet. I wish you all the best on your journey. Stay as fit as you can because it's very hard to build yourself back up.

[@xavierfrenchforall]

I love that you can get rid off all the bullshit in self help. It's often so fake and actually hurts people because it's just a single empty receipe....... You actually are HELPFUL

[@estefanialondono7167]

I love how you explain this everyday existencial crises bite after bite.

[@nomakhosindawo8196]

I am glad I find some who breaks the social construct behind purpose. Most people be like look at your strengths and weaknesses and you find your purpose and I am sitting there like "but I don't even know if my strengths would be my purpose" 😭😂

[@wagenna]

I am a borderline with strong narcissistic traits and I found intrinsic motivation during a severe crisis. Now I love the process of emotional growth, therapy, working through trauma and becoming non-toxic etc. and am working towards my dream-life. I used to be manipulative and not disciplined, now I get up early, have routines in place, pay off my debt, am accountable and spend my time meaningful instead of getting drunk everyday. I found a purpose in growth.

[@nemo9540]

I hate the term "purpose" too, I thought I found my purpose in life 18 years ago when I decided to take my teaching degree and rebuild my life to give my wife and boys a better life. Sadly all that got shot down when I was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer so now I feel I have no purpose in life and often feel so lost, but hey shit happens doesn't it.

[@janvincentvillalon1538]

Mark, these vlogs, books, and wisdom coming from you that help and motivate many people is your "Main" purpose.

[@Icanfigureitoutintime]

Mark you do a great job of crushing our need for support and hope. But still manage to tell us it's supposed to be that way. "Hey we're all stupid for being alive but keep doing it!"

[@rajcan2008]

Finally found the meaning of ‘purpose’ that I could relate to.

[@jclgts10]

To find purpose means what you are going to do with your life. In what you prefer to work at . This is what I understand of it.

[@Jason-sj7xi]

This is fantastic Mark. Your take on this, and particularly its inverse relationship with selfishness and narcissism, is a brilliant, social commentary.

[@t.n.patronis4098]

Man, this is why people fall apart after they retire or are laid off. If they have nothing but work give them their sense of purpose, they will be consumed by the idleness.

[@jisootaehyung30]

god I love ur yt vids so much and the very fact that you dont say cliche shit and actually have evidence to back ur claims is honestly so cool

[@MaurDL]

After watching the recent vid on love, it's interesting how the beginning of this vid shares a similar concept in common: "purpose is not enough".

[@skwagwok4097]

I had the exact same thought!

[@yme4071]

The 'losing the one purpose' thing just happened to me. I didn't even realize what was going on until it wasn't there. Now I know, and wow does it slap you in the face when you figure it out. Thanks for the validation and insight Mark. Truly appreciated.

[@jessicatapia9049]

I'm so happy that you correct the phrase... Create purpose, not finding it. It's something you build actively! And it's not a single one, you can create and eliminate as much as you want, and you don't need to "find" it at a young age. Sometimes people after "finding their purpose" suffers more because they feel stuck with it, like they liked baking cakes in high school, though that was their purpose and now feel the obligation to bake cakes their entire life

[@pertinentissueswithDY]

I have never viewed it this way. It's really relieving to get this clarity. Thank you 🙏🏾

[@Theembodimentchannel]

Been teaching purpose work for ten years and this is SOLID :-)

[@elbekyusupov9684]

These days, you're the only person who makes sense to me. I know you possibly will not be the only one forever. Anyway, thank you for making my life better. not easier/not happier/no, but u made me hopeful and excited about the reality (whatever the reality it is) the world has to offer. Thank you from Uzbekistan🇺🇿, my truest mind-fuckers)

[@Ike1129]

4:30 Great Job associating the truth behind purpose with the word sexy. "The truth of what purpose is isn't sexy or marketable." 😂 Mark Manson Aurelius speaks!

[@alexf7414]

Self contradictory. Everything is subjective in our life

[@HawkMcDork]

Yes! Just riffing on resonation here : as other people have pointed out from what you're saying, 'finding' your purpose is a wack concept, it's a personal choice of doing what You find to be important. i relate this to finding your Soul Mate as well: We have many, love takes work (not destiny), and if/when your spouse dies, your love life doesn't have to be over because they were The One. the pre-determined destiny mindset is detrimental and I think it's really sad that our culture is full of its notion because many people waste a lot of time Looking when they would 'find' themselves happier and more fulfilled by Creating. Not to mention they would probably treat others better because they realize the control they have to take in it all. also, Cal Newport "So Good They Can't Ignore You" debunks the idea of following your passion; most people "find purpose" by doing something they're good at that helps others (it was built, not found).

[@rayren4754]

Mark, I feel that you have really changed throughout these video series you made, wow, that's amazing.

[@healthclub2333]

I watched two of your videos this month and I can't deny that you're good, you just got one new subscriber today...

[@amandadearest]

Thank you, Mark Manson! I needed this. I laugh at this video and then I laugh at myself because it’s so true. Not laughing at myself because I felt like the worse human being in the world but because this is just plain simple.

[@abongileskontya6685]

How I wish this was the first KZbin video I ever watched. I think this is the best video I've seen so far. Thank you!

[@darrylday30]

Purpose… stuff we do to to make us feel like we’re not wasting our lives. Then we die.

[@siyabongakwanele]

I always skipped this video because I feel the exact same way as you about this topic of purpose. I'm glad I finally watched it because it isn't what I expected.

[@flowmovementtherapy2096]

For me, finding purpose was super easy. I have had many things that have given me deep purpose. The challenge was not being 'chosen' to apply that purpose despite a deep need to use my purpose to make a difference. It was a source of deep emptiness many times in my life. The solution to that was to 'choose myself' or 'hire myself' when I wasn't been chosen or hired to do those things. I was able to find a way to apply that purpose by creating my own opportunities.

[@afsanehtajdar6821]

That was wise enough to ponder. Thank you .🙏

[@jenicksraja4699]

Mark, ur thoughts have changed my life man..

[@kathleenrivard2881]

Life, is what you make it. Life, is what you do.

[@ikasugami]

Purpose is something you create, and you maintain, and sometimes you lose and have to create again. ❤

[@xaviergarcia8274]

Huh? If I lose it.....swear to God, Ill lose it.

[@shotokhan1992]

so i am the exact type of person you explained at the end there - always chasing the next high, starting drama, struggling to maintain relationships. but idk what else to do. i try to help people out whenever i can, i go to the gym almost every day while also training someone there, i spend my down time studying or creating, i don't hate my job, and i became a landlord last year have the things that i do just become habits that i'm not actually sacrificing anything for at this point? i don't get why i'm still struggling with these things when i've achieved so many of the things i've set out to do

[@highliving-animatedvideos5831]

Love how MM is able to break things down in a simple way, yet making it very engaging 🚀🌙

[@benmountfort]

I agree, except sometimes you have to completely shut off and be selfish before you are selfless, otherwise it just creates a whole lot of resentment towards yourself and others

[@rosiehung2457]

His honesty and cursing just makes him so relatable. 😆

[@demigod8522]

My biggest struggle throughout my life has been motivation because I've struggled with Gaming Disorder since I was a teen and just being addicted to dirty sources of dopamine on a screen. I'm chronically lacking motivation to do anything despite wanting to find a sense of purpose and get out of this depressive rut

[@deej-danielspiralringprodu8908]

God damn it you're making me need this course.

[@MarcoSanderCoaching]

I found this video through suggested videos. Very informative! It really added to my understanding of a "life purpose" and inspired me to work on a documentary about it. Thank you! Please keep it up - just subbed!

[@jerrys1]

Your “purpose” is the unique way that you choose to add value to other people’s lives.

[@maxprivate3805]

I found my porpoise at Sea World.

[@Poppomatic64]

Omfg the inverse correlation with narcissism or selfishness…. Gosh So worried that that’s me it totally could be. I’m 26 and I can tell I’m changing a bunch

[@Boohoo19999]

Yes you are back!!! Thank God.

[@PARTYManagementARG]

Even if you had your dream job, you will hate it 30% of the time. Gold phrase. We are tought that we can be "happy" alllll the time, thats bullshit, the mood is a wave with ups and downs.

[@aseriouslollygagger5734]

Your videos always give me another perspective and I really appreciate it. I recently left my husband of 20 years due to abuse. He bought the company I've worked for 15 years, I was the office manager, made friends with my crew. When I left he soon fired me and gave full custody of our daughter to me. She still gives me purpose but everything else I built over the last two decades is gone. I have to start over from scratch and it is overwhelming. Now I can't even work in my field anymore. It is a lot to deal with, so I'm in therapy and watching these videos between visits.

[@bachintsingh4477]

Hey man I saw your one video on how to be miserable and I related to everything that was there it all the mind I wanted complain and wanted but reality is I can't I saw that video and realised that I am the one who wanted to watch and it will take a lot of time to me to understand nobody can could infleuence me I only wanted to not work hard I will try to learn from your video thanks man

[@Немања905]

After almost 40 years of life I can say that I figured out my purpose its is to love and reapect my self and be useful and source of good for other people around me.

[@shamusenright5387]

Slavoj Žižek makes a similar point about constructing a narrative after the fact and calling it wisdom.

[@DemetriPanici]

I hope that It’s going to be a great 2022 for all of you!

[@paulndorosh]

One thing that he mentions kind of quickly, but may help to bring some clarity, is the question, "What do you do that you are willing to sacrifice something for?" This may be a bigger pointer than it seems at first. For example, would you do your job if you weren't getting paid or paid less? Some people may say 'yes'. Look at the activities you currently choose to do and what you give up to do them. Sometimes it's money, sometimes it's time, sometimes it's comfort. Maybe all of those.

[@MTB_Rider_96]

LOL, Only people that don't actually understand human life ask that question! I agree with Mark that I HATE the word "Purpose". The thing is that we are "Mostly" Hairless, Evolved Primates (Fortunately with opposable thumbs) that happen to have larger brains than any of the other primates. I can only see one real primary purpose for ANY Human, to ensure the continuation of the species. Which is the same "Purpose" all living things on this planet have. Again, we are Evolved Primates, you don't have an actual purpose, so live your life and be kind to Everyone, do something good for someone else. Because this is it, when you die, it's done, over, lights out, so have a nice day!

[@Luna-sz9uq]

Your purpose is to find purpose 😅

[@TheIllerX]

I quite like Mark Mansons material. His books about "f*cks" really hits the mark. It made me see things in a new way, especially the things related to purpose and meaning. The titles might give the impression of something more immature, but the books contains quite emotionally deep stuff. In this video the line "A sense of purpose is inversely correlated with narcissism" really hit the mark. I know I am quite egocentric, focusing too much on my feelings instead of caring about things outside of me. Not exactly narcissist, but a leaning a bit towards that direction. And when I think about it, Mark, is quite correct here. The more I focus on just my feelings and forget about to care things around me, the more miserable I feel. To have something outside of oneself one deems important really helps to make things happen and ignore all kinds of minor emotions and annoying thoughts inside yourself.

[@unlockevidence]

I think this is great advice but I think maybe put more simply, finding purpose can be boiled down to this: a sense of being apart of something or contributing to something bigger than the self. Bugger than the self-assured significance of our own problems. That's why phrases like "I found MY purpose" comes off as somewhat insincere or misguided. When you think of a person that you'd describe as living a life with purpose, more often or not that person's actions are, at their very core, driven by contribution.

[@Shafeek258]

Can you please explain it in simple words

[@CathyyBro3811]

Honestly thank you for doing the work. This makes things clear enough to execute on it

[@Stringz]

My purpose is music, but I have pain issues that get in the way. But I found ways around them… to an extent… to make it all worth it… but I still am missing some pieces which might end up killing me off. So instead I just left a bunch of shit that’s not even close to my actual potential each year I thought I might die. I forget what I was going to say now. Perhaps I was never supposed to come close to fulfilling my potential, I’m the only one who knows it anyway. I knew my purpose or the original purpose all the way back when I was 16 and that was 20 years ago now. Perhaps that is not my purpose. Perhaps there is no actual purpose anyway. Maybe it’s something we ascribe to life for meaning, but it’s not real, or maybe it is.

[@shobitha-v8h]

it's not about finding your purpose but creating it 👍

[@avikchatterjee1945]

Such a great eye opener kind of video mark. Thanks a lot.

[@martinh8784]

Learning to proactively listen was one of those "in the short term is sucks". In fact, it took me years to become "unconsciously competent" in it but - it was worth it to improve my relationships.

[@quynhanh3067]

this is the first self-help video that actually helps me, thank you!

[@bryandraughn9830]

I used to think that performing music was my purpose, but now I can't even figure out what i was thinking. It was a huge pain in the ass with very little reward.

[@BeeKaye]

Great stuff! But a lot of people are unhealthy. They eat crap food and drink crap drinks. If they don’t feel well enough to focus on anything, or they simply can’t focus. Or they aren’t motivated to do much of anything, and they feel hopeless. Until you optimize your health, you can’t move forward to your purpose. You just drag yourself through your day because you know you have to. The lowest performers and the people who are often sick and call out, are nutritionally unhealthy. I gave a 40 year old team member some multivitamins and probiotics and encouraged him to wear his glucose monitor and eat better and two days ago said he feels a lot better now, like when he was a kid. He’s more engaged, happier and focused at work and hasn’t had to exist on antacids and pain relievers. Imagine that.

[@PoppyKat72]

Yep you're right. That's me

[@GlitterbillySav]

Mark just freeing peopled not even charging them 300 a visit. I appreciate this!

[@aliciabodington3272]

This is very informative. It clicked finally after suffering in this topic for many years… I appreciate your insight and perspective and thank you for sharing it😊

[@lindawilson4625]

I love your no nonsense, cut the B.S. style of your messages :-) Anxious, hand wringing people of all ages really should watch your channel.

[@willmon19]

People with narcissistism have a really hard time though giving up the act that they are the center of the universe. I think the only time they would ever do so is that they feel that they are at risk of them feeling like they are on a pedestal and are better than everyone else. I think it is as a result of being treated a certain way most of thier life and it imprints on them and they just can't let it go to move on and live a much better life.

[@busraozdemir4676]

Your describtion of purpose is very similar how Viktor Frankl defines meaning. He calls it 'meaning, here and now'.

[@pauldicksonojukwustudios]

Create beauty in every thing you do.

[@RealJamieBarclay]

Purpose is found by going through events that are meaningful to you, regardless of how pleasurable/painful they are.

[@edensreddove2398]

Well I guess I'm fucked. My husband passed away back in March of 2023. And he was my purpose in life. This has left me feeling lost and alone not knowing what to do with myself. It's a pretty insensitive statement with no direction, but thanks anyway. I hope you never have to suffer such a meaningful loss.