I Took My Father Out Of The Nursing Home Against His Wife's Wishes r/Relationship

[@Taizu314]

Aunt (repeatedly): “Did you get the plant?” Me: “Your brother is the victim of elder abuse and you’re worried about a stupid plant!? What kind of sister are you?” Aunt: “It’s a camera.” Me:” Oh shit! I stand corrected. Nice looking out for your bro.”

[@dramuckus]

Yea the aunt is a great sister for setting up the camera but she is a shitty aunt for not just saying it to begin with, how hard would it have been for her to say don't forget the plant it's a camera then they wouldn't have had to deal with that stress on top of everything else

[@alaaesong164]

The way my hair raised on my arm when that came up. I was angry i'm like ??????????? WHO GIVES A FUCK ABOUT A DAMN PLANT ESPECIALLY IF IT'S PLASTIC

[@13thMaiden]

I had a weird feeling when she focused on a 'plant', and then as soon as I heard it was plastic I was sure there was something up with it. I also wanted to know why aunt didn't alert the kids about the nursing home earlier, but still.

[@zerobolt9506]

It was obvious it was a camera or audio recorder when she first asked

[@AzraelThanatos]

@@13thMaiden She might have thought that, somehow, the wife got PoA there and telling the kids about it might have ended badly with them in jail over it with the father in a worse position if she said something. Putting the camera there could be her attempt to figure it out. Of course, there is a way that I can think of that happened at the nursing home my grandmother was in (it wasn't a bad place, but more of one sibling being paranoid about another sibling convincing the lady there to change the will)...he sent someone in a pseudo uniform and asked the nurse to sign and date some paperwork as a way to show that the lady got the decoration sent.

[@lizzyshepler517]

My jaw dropped when the aunt revealed the camera in the plant. 100% genius move.

[@Taizu314]

Same! I literally thought “Oh shit” when I heard that part.

[@t1995roger10]

Aunt went from Karen to gigachad in one fell swoop

[@Taizu314]

@@t1995roger10 I know right?

[@Krisna_K]

Would’ve been better if they could’ve used it legally! I live in a one party doesn’t state! So as long as I know it’s there I’m good! But just to be safe we have signs that our property is under video surveillance!

[@Loaves_of_Cat]

@@Krisna_K maybe op and the family can release it online and spread it to as much ppl as possible? Hopefully they’ll be able to run that place out of business

[@clairebear-96]

Lmao the aunt putting a camera in the fake plant! I knew something was up when she kept asking about the plant but wasn’t expecting that, too bad they couldn’t use it but i love her sneakiness 😂

[@ptaradactletime11]

I’m still glad they know what was happening to their father at all. In a lot of these cases there’s no evidence, the victims don’t want to talk about it and the families just have no idea. At least this way they can understand and better be prepared for any trauma from what happened.

[@Bijecarli]

"I'm not getting over on my kids" commendable, yes. Look out for your kids. But my god man where is your own self preservation? If she was bold enough to suggest stealing from his own kids, what exactly made him think she was ever going to care for him? Everyone is wiser in hindsight, but I'm in actual physical pain thinking about how EASILY this could have been avoided.

[@kaylaprice370]

I was thinking that he was sad and lonely after his wife passed. Grief does weird stuff to a person

[@Bijecarli]

@@kaylaprice370 Yes, you are too right. Painfully correct. What a tragedy.

[@AngelDeed]

@@kaylaprice370 being lonely is not an excuse to screw over your kids, she was honest and consistently terrible to them from the start. He basically choose her over the kids. Bet she is younger than him too. And now everyone blames her for everything and he is the poor victim. Pure misogyny. He needs to take responsibility for the bad choice he made and how he hurt his kids and himself with it.

[@katwiltz1134]

​@@AngelDeedI'm pretty sure that the relief from not dying at a nursing home when you didn't need to be there for 2 months I'd say time served

[@ineedhoez]

Exactly!!!!

[@veronicatoon5901]

As a CNA working at a nursing home, this is utterly horrifying, yet unfortunately much more common then people think.

[@FlamesofJagger]

Story 1: this is really disgusting. This woman has been leeching off their father and the nursing home has been working with her. I really hope that they can get through this and recover from this horror eventually

[@SailorMya]

Agreed, it is heart breaking...

[@toysruskid5074]

Between the bad checks and the other fraud, they have far more of a case. Sadly, in a lot of places, even with elderly protection laws, she can easily pass it off as him marrying a trophy wife and the costs that come with it. The absolute biggest thing they have going for them is the brother being power of attorney, but even with that, if she'd been living within means, she could easily have lied and said they told her he needed to stay.

[@Icalasari]

@@toysruskid5074 And people wonder why vigilantism happens

[@Indi_Waffle_Girl]

I'm having, like, a legitimately visceral reaction to this story, I'm so mad!! It makes me so mad, it makes me feel sick to my stomach. And like another commenter said, this is why vigilantism happens.

[@BreakingSynyr]

I dream or itm

[@NemFX]

Story one: time for Mary to get the book thrown at her. Embezzlement, grand theft, abuse of an elder, petty theft, probably larceny, honestly just throw a literal book at her. She's dumb, sloppy, and going to see jail time if you can prove any one of the first three things I listed. Story two: NTA. If you were all forced to go, you could have all waited for the part where they say "are there any objections" and you all stand up at once and yell "he's already married" but instead, you chose the high road of removing yourselves from the whole mess.

[@heathermiller5765]

I couldn’t help but laugh when you said literal book, cause the mental image of her getting an actual book thrown at her head is hilarious 😂 At least that’s the picture I was getting lol 😁

[@NemFX]

@@heathermiller5765 pretty much :) Sometimes when things are that dumb, you have to resort to some childish tactics.

[@___LC___]

They typically don’t ask if there are any objections, anymore. That’s an old fashioned thing, when there was little access to public records.

[@NemFX]

@@___LC___ I still think having an I Am Sparticus moment would have been funny

[@heathermiller5765]

@@NemFX 😄😄😄

[@shadewolfe1231]

All the signs that the new step-mom was a bad egg were there. OP’s Dad just ignored them. I also find it curious that OP was able to call Dad in the nursing home so easily but he never once reached out to any of his kids to raise the alarm. That said, step-mom is a true AH and I’m looking forward to more updates!

[@charondusk5608]

Going off how quick the home was to cover their asses and other things OP mentioned, it's a high chance that they refused to let him contact anyone outside of allotted, highly-supervised times. It's all about control - They can't really refused a call IN without it raising suspicion, but refusing a call OUT is a whole different matter....

[@bunnyslippers191]

Dad told the kids the nursing home was monitoring his calls and that's why when they called him he would claim to be "too tired to talk" and would text them briefly. He may be one of those older people who don't like to text, or they might have been reading his texts and reporting back to Mary on them. There's very little privacy in a nursing home and it would have been easy for them to just stand there listening to every word he said. They may have even put his phone on speaker so they could hear both sides of every conversation.

[@deedeeschway9566]

The nurses who were in on it probably kept his cellphone. They likely did the texting and careful monitoring of calls.

[@lyndellrobinson3611]

@@deedeeschway9566 That's what I was thinking. That someone else was doing the texting and that they may have also kept him on sedatives.

[@WobblesandBean]

I get the impression he married a much younger woman.

[@paden1865able]

Mary sounds like a gold digging harpy and ought to be divorced ASAP. Get rid of that woman, period. If the doctors ruled him fit to go home and he left of his free will, it's not kidnapping. The man is being abused.

[@memeking7273]

I hope they get the money back from her. (I know they won't but it doesn't hurt to hope)

[@lancerevell5979]

Mary deserves major prison time for her felony crimes!

[@audreym3908]

I think you meant harpy, not happy.

[@paden1865able]

@@audreym3908 Thank you, bloody eyes betrayed me again...

[@shegeek5559]

@@paden1865able - or your spell checker. Mine has turned 'harpy' into 'happy' and even 'happy. Once, I made a reference to 'pot' in a text, only to have it add 'roast' to it as I hit 'send'. I hadn't noticed, and got a message back. "What the hell are you talking about?" I looked at my text. "Some ass just walked by smoking stinky pot roast " Aw, heck...

[@Mewse1203]

Story 2: NTA "family first" is all well and good except when family are assholes and you don't want to support that. OP has the right to not be a part of something they don't believe in. If others feel the same...well that's OK too. People don't want to support someone who disrespected that support in the past. The only person who fractured anything is Emily and her husband. The fact that no one wants to go should be a big red flag about how bad their behavior is. Edit after ESH: why should they have to put aside fun plans simply because of someone's wedding? It caused drama? No. What caused drama is forcing everyone to not show their real feelings towards Emily and her husband's actions because FaMiLy. Now that they have a choice to make their feelings known, he's not an asshole for letting them do so.

[@brigidtheirish]

I don't think they read the full story. That, or they don't think cheating is a big deal.

[@13thMaiden]

The ESH is stupid. So what if he opened up the invite, if those cousins wanted to go to the wedding, they'd not have signed up to get out of it. OP never forced him, just gave them an alternative they didn't have to plan themselves!

[@ShadowknightEX]

I think the ESH was because they invited people who were part of the wedding party. However it kind of feels like the cousins were going along with the wedding because the parents were more or less making them, so once somebody else they see as something of an authority figure gave them an out they took it because they didn’t agree with the story behind the marriage

[@paxthehedgehog7760]

I feel sick after hearing the first story. I work as a CNA in a long term care facility, and the idea of one of my residents getting mistreated like that makes me sick.

[@janglesthearsonist5265]

Story 2: NTA It sounds like OP and his cousins aren't close to Emily but made an effort to get to know her first husband. That means they already did the whole wedding jig for her once so I don't think any extended family members are obligated to attend "Wedding Part 2: Infidelity Boogaloo", especially when you throw in the part that no one seems to like both bride or groom. The cousins fulfilled any obligations that the older generations feel they have by attending the first wedding with and building a bond with the first husband. I hope they enjoy Florida, especially Emily's former husband and his "friend"!

[@susangrossi5795]

Story one- they need to have him see a new dr. to have medications evaluated the nursing home could have been giving him meds that would mess with his cognitive functions

[@Cel3ere5]

The fact you're absolutely correct is so disturbing., He also needs to see a Neuropsychologist and a speech therapist for some idk, actual rehab... This story is beyond repulsive. I'd be making a permanent home in that director's asshole and the state's until they shut it all down. I'm wondering if any of these can be brought up on criminal charges?

[@HackiePuffs]

Holy cow Mary is a walking talking hazard. It takes a special kind of evil to take advantage of someone’s mental health problems to get what they want knowing that they can’t stick up for themselves. I feel so sorry for OP’s dad and I’m glad the family has each other’s backs.

[@packergeek10]

So many red flags. It's amazing what people will ignore when feelings come into play.

[@lancerevell5979]

She is definitely a coniving golddigger! She is actively trying to take everything OP's father has.

[@PrimateProductions]

@@packergeek10 what do you mean 'red flags'?? That usually refers to things people are seeing but ignoring...they weren't seeing any red flags! As soon as they saw something they acted on it immediately!

[@shawnesmith5364]

@@PrimateProductions There was, I’m surprised that the father did do something sooner. - she was jealous of her stepson getting a car that he paid/ saved for, while she couldn’t get the car she want the husband to buy - She wanted her husband to take inheritance money from he’s kid that from their mom. - She didn’t tell the children that something had happened to there dad claimingit wasn’t serious enough. I’m trying to figure out why the fuck op dad would stay with a women that a walking red flag.

[@AngelDeed]

@@PrimateProductions read it again, the wife was honest and consistently terrible to the kids from the start. And dad still choose to stay with her. He needs to take responsibility for the bad choices he made.

[@shebakoby]

First story: OP's dad is way too tolerant for his own good. He may be a very nice man but there's such a thing as too nice, especially where it concerns *clearly* toxic partners. I don't know why he loves Mary, but Mary is clearly some form of Cluster-A/B disaster who is charming enough around her husband, that she fooled him into thinking she actually loves him and he is also too scared of being without a partner to see her for the gold-digging, possible narcissist or sociopath that she is. Only a truly unhinged, proven gold digger would throw a fit over money that has nothing to do with her. "After everything I've done for you-!" is classic narcissist/toxic wording of an abuser. Too bad it took being abandoned in a nursing home for MONTHS for the father to see the light.

[@damien678]

I worry for my main partner. We're poly and he's super kind, and I'm scared of someone taking advantage of that.

[@zachcrawford5]

The dude had a stroke so it may be difficult for him to properly think through complex situations (not saying he can't, but it could be exceedingly mentally taxing to do so and impossible when he needs a snap decision). He might be defaulting to an overly kind and tolerant nature as a defence mechanism. People are more likely to look out for you if you are a least kind and tolerant of them. He also may have a hard time recalling other people's recent past behavior, or wondering how accurate each of his own memories are making informed character assessment very hard.

[@shebakoby]

@@zachcrawford5 yeah but this started long before the stroke

[@shegeek5559]

@@zachcrawford5 - Yet he was clever enough to be very careful about speaking to his kids on calls. Not all strokes render the patient mentally impaired. On top of that, when informed that he couldn't kick her out of his house, then made aware that one of them had to spend the night elsewhere, he told them he'd been left in a nursing home for two months, it is *his* house, not leaving, thanks! No, his mind was still on the ball.

[@haweka9007]

Last story : I genuinely don't see how having a large family party on the same day as an adulterous wedding is an AH move. I hope they go and have the time of their lives

[@lorifiedler13]

This. Word got out and younger family members asked if there was room for them. OP didn't send out invitations.

[@nilianstroy]

@@lorifiedler13 and it was actually op's mother that let it out, one of the older generation members, people blaming op for it definitely didn't read properly...

[@swisstroll3]

If you don’t support your family when they are wrong, they probably won’t support you when you are wrong. So you might pay a price for not going to the wedding. But it is no big deal. Emily cheated early in her marriage, and they are both cheats, so there will probably be a lot more marriages to come. You can always go to Emily’s next one, or the one after that.

[@SkyEcho751]

I ******* Hate that some places believe that it shouldn't be allowed to use secret recordings in nursing homes to show their wrong doings.

[@fhuber7507]

2... NTA 100%. Stating the FACT that you should decline if you don't support the wedding should be on a neon sign bigger than the deck of an aircraft carrier. The people fracturing the family are the people who cheated on their marriage vows. I love the idea of the "I don't support their wedding party."

[@shegeek5559]

I can support that.

[@charondusk5608]

As soon as the aunt was insisting they get the plant when they went to pick up the dad's stuff, I knew what it was and why she was so insistent. It disgusts me how these bastards can get away with these things and face no repercussions over it - reminds me of that movie with the conwoman who'd get PoA over vulnerable elderly folk and then shove them into co-operating nursing homes to rot - it just makes my blood boil and wish we could do to them what happened to the woman in that movie.... Mark, look into some of the controversies in nursing homes here in the UK. It's disgusting and these "so-called health professionals" are an insult to the health sector.

[@stoopingfalcon891]

I actually laughed at the 'it's a camera'... Genius Aunt! Legal or not, put it out there in the net, it's there forever.

[@vulpixle9659]

I actually have a awful nursing home story so for context we live in Arizona my mom has worked at a couple nursing homes my mom wasn’t at a training thing in Phoenix this was during the summer and weather is easily in the 110F territory on that day in 2013 the power went out at the facility and they had to evacuate the patients do to the heat well the idiots forgot a patient that poor woman pretty much baked alive in the heat

[@flavialm1]

That's why I believe that unless is anything pornografic, then recording should be one party consent always, that's how it is in my country, I'tm allowed to record anything I'm involved with.

[@charondusk5608]

@@stoopingfalcon891 Same! Maybe it's from watching too many shows like Watchdog and Rip Off Britain, but as soon as she mentioned the plant, I was like "Yeah, that's not JUST a plant". And while that's true, it sadly opens OP and her family up for lawsuits from the home... :/

[@charondusk5608]

​@@flavialm1 Here in the UK, it IS legal for someone to put a camera in a nursing home so long as it's with the intent of protecting a loved one, and only need the permission of the room's occupant (the loved one) to do so, even in privately run homes that forbid recording. It's how so many nursing homes have been caught doing illegal shit.

[@WhitneyDahlin]

I don't even have to listen to this story to say NTA. I'm an in-home geriatric nurse and it breaks my heart when family members throw their loved one who is totally capable of living alone in a nursing home. There's nothing I can do about it and it really breaks my heart. Makes me very sad. I had one Karen who was literally living with her mother who was totally capable of taking care of herself. the mother had a stroke 20 years before so she couldn't say more than 20 words but she was all there mentally. but that was why her daughter got power of attorney. and her daughter was getting a divorce so she was already living with her mother and didn't have a job and when her mom fell and broke her hip she just needed help getting to and from the bathroom. and the daughter refused to do it and asked me to leave my husband and move in with them to take care of her. obviously I couldn't do that and then the daughter put her in a nursing home and sold her house. broke my heart and this was 5 years ago and I'm still furious about it and will rant to anyone who listens.

[@thatoneguy9816]

jumping to conclusions

[@rubymeaddle]

Plenty of people cannot care for family members

[@nathryl03]

The situation you just described made me furious. You are welcome to vent to me about it.

[@damien678]

power of attorney is an incredibly scary thing to give to the wrong person

[@WobblesandBean]

Excuse me? She had a stroke AND a broken hip! That's well outside the range of care for most people, let alone a single woman in the middle of a divorce. What is WRONG with you?

[@lucialovecraft]

I use to work as a housekeeper at elderly homes. It was so depressing seeing these adults just left abandoned. I use to talk to an old farmer about his sheep and cow, lovely man. And another was an elderly lady that got upset she broke her rosary beads. I set time aside to help repair them for her and just talk. She always looked forward to when it was my turn my do her housekeeping. I miss there, I missed talking to the residents

[@GabrielleHayes1921]

I'm so mad that my state is one of the ones that doesn't legally allow family cameras in the nursing home without permission, it's BS and every state should be legal for it

[@alucardzutain6062]

Every State? I feel that. We in Germany can record, but it will dismissed instantly. We have 16 small States and NOONE can put Dashcams on Cars....like the bare minimum. This is just Police Corruption, so we Citizien can be dismissed easily...

[@fangchick93]

The first story breaks my heart. My mom used to work in nursing homes until her back gave out and there were so many cases of families dumping their elderly relatives and never checking on them, but that the nurses were complicit? Freaking hell, there's a special place in hell for those nurses

[@manxiefeathermoon9888]

Good on the Aunt to give the dad a camera that was disguised. She is so smart

[@UchuKejiMovan]

A minute in and stepmom is already a HUGE AH I'm guessing dad ignored the 🚩s his wife as giving off and still married her smh

[@zoehicks880]

It breaks my heart hearing about all the elder abuse that goes on in nursing homes. My great grandma would complain the staff at her home were mean to her, but at the time we hadn’t heard of such reports and chalked it up to her dementia. She’s since passed, and only recently have I learned how awful the staff can be in these facilities. I wish we had done more for her :( Listen to your loved ones folks..

[@princesspanda12012]

we all need an aunt like that Wedding story. NTA. Also, if OPs family is traditional Italian American most likely they would be Catholic and Catholics don't support adultery AT ALL

[@Vipre-]

No one is entitled to have anyone attend their wedding, they're not entitled to complain about what anyone else does instead of attending. GFY for the couple, older relatives included, and NTA for the OP.

[@builtontherockhomestead9390]

My aunt had power of attorney for my mom, but stole thousands from her. I have no sympathy for these kind of criminals. No excuse for such greed. Mary belongs in prison.

[@roelthas]

NTA for the last one, the one bringing drama into the family is the cheating garbage of a cousin.

[@stoopingfalcon891]

Glad to hear it was the brother that had POA. I would hate to think what the wicked witch would have done if SHE had POA. Mary won't go down easily I think, but looks like the family has his back.

[@oldgreggsmadmemes4431]

You can't use the recording in court BUT you can post them to the internet with only facts to let people know what's up

[@deedeeschway9566]

Yeah. I was wondering in what contexts it can be used. It can’t be used directly in a lawsuit or criminal case against the facility/private company but can they use it in other ways? Like if they put some footage on the internet or get an article written and the company tries to sue them for slander or some such.

[@MissSasuKiss]

Depending on where you are it's illegal to post it online, especially since the other party said no to the recording. And the last thing op wants is a reason for them to sue her. It might just end up hurting their fathers case.

[@candypettynettie487]

Yup!!!

[@Citizenesse8]

Exactly. That's what I would have done.

[@83gemm]

Might be illegal in a slander way if it was obtained “illegally.” My state doesn’t have a lot going for it, but I’m so glad it’s a one-party recording state.

[@DWPersianExcursion]

I'm also 34 in July, this breaks my heart, my father was in the deepest desperate moments of dementia, and his poor body was in the shape of a pretzel, my heart hurts so much that we had to send him to a nursing home, I am actually weeping over the subject. He's now in heaven,and I still feel so guilty

[@naturalbaby]

I'm going to be that guy and say She disrespected his kids and he stayed with her, what the fuck did he expect? He 100% brought this on himself.

[@originalv5107]

First story is prime example of why there needs to be One Party Consent across the entire nation when it comes to recording conversations and setting up cameras in nursing homes.

[@dm9078]

The second guy knows he’s TA. But it’s definitely JTA. Justified TA. His actions are deliciously petty. And as the kids say, I am here for it!

[@trainerlesseevee478]

Sadly, elder abuse is far more common than people realize. ESPECIALLY if the elder has a lot of money.

[@ariannewingard1660]

I have a sweet old grandma who deserves the world and nothing gets my blood boiling than elder abuse stories .

[@GMWILD87]

OP in story two had a hell of a lot more tact than I would have I would have said I don't support people who cheat on their spouses divorce them just to marry the affair partner.

[@dm9078]

Sounds like the wife is much younger than him. It should be pointed out that dear old dad stayed with a woman who wanted him to steal from his children. Just saying. If your lawyer tells you not to meet with someone listen to your lawyer.

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

Thank God someone else said that, thought I was losing my mind. Did no-one else think "Dad's a bloody fool!" after she showed almost right away how unscrupulous she was?

[@Sir_Gerald_Nosehairs.]

Is Dad a bit of a halfwit, or is "Mary" a good bit younger than him so he put up with her being an obvious gold-digger? Almost immediately trying to steal part of the inheritance his late wife left the kids so she could get a new car should have clued the silly old duffer in that this wasn't someone with an awful lot of scruples.

[@rumooooni]

Exactly tbh he got lucky his kids didn't ditch him because of marys behavior thoses kids love him a lot

[@shegeek5559]

She could easily have framed it as "borrowing" the money, we can put it back later. He just didn't want to be alone. It just happened he picked the wrong person to not be alone with.

[@AngelDeed]

@@shegeek5559 he "just" didn't want to be alone so he choose to be with someone who hurts his kids. Yeah, that's not an excuse and not a good father. This is partly his fault.

[@maggpiprime954]

The first family, oh man... I hope they succeed in complete reparation for their father. Good grief. The 2nd story; well, why would Emily want a bunch of sour faces and lackluster interest (at best), or big soap opera drama (at worst) at her wedding? What an idiot.

[@heathermcdougall8023]

Emily's dodgy boring wedding to the married cheater, or a great beach house break? Sorry! The beach house wins every time.

[@ArcaneNim]

Story 1: when the aunt started asking about the plant, I suspected a camera. It isn't out of the realm of possibility for someone to just be weirdly obsessed with the truck, but something about it made me wonder.

[@ceciasa3376]

Story 1: I would be so enraged if this happened to someone I love. It's so disgusting that OP's Step-mom, plus an entire nursing home, was doing this. I would fight tooth, nail and bullet to expose the lies and abuse for whoever in my family would have gone through this bullshit. NTA and I hope OP and her family gets back at both the soon-to-be-ex-step-mom and that nursing home. Story 2: OP has a right to feel the way he does and if he doesn't want to support this wedding, then he doesn't have to. They may be family but family shouldn't support immoral behavior from each other. Plus, he didn't force everyone to not go to the wedding; He just started something for himself and everyone who heard about it asked if they could tag along, and he said yes. That's all this was. NTA thru and thru.

[@a3s1r1986]

OP: Why do you want this plant so damn bad??! Aunt: It's a camera Me: ... Why. Did. You... NOT!! LEAD. WITH. THAT!!!? Freaking loved Story 2. They couldn't have snubbed that homewrecker any more than that even if they had gone up to her the night before the wedding and told her "We're taking the ex and we're ditching you."

[@tracybarber-kier1669]

2. Tell the older relatives that they wouldn't want you there anyway, because when the officiant asks if anyone objects, you would be jumping right up in front of everyone.

[@kimberlyterasaki4843]

Sounds to me like she was playing the long con; I'm almost wondering if the nursing home is a racket built around the young(er) nurses abandoning their older husbands at the homes. Obviously, we don't know if the father is older than her, but the fact that she just so happened to abandon him at the same home she used to work at speaks to her having some kind of assurances that he wouldn't come back.

[@frith.calluna]

Oh how I hope story 1 makes it to nuclear revenge one day. With the amount of crimes she commited, I hope OP and the rest of the family can get some justice and hopefully some good ol' stone cold revenge!

[@thebirdchannelforfans623]

Agree! Also, looking at your username, are you Dutch? I’m learning the language. "Spambots not Welcome "

[@minecraftmum3436]

Oooh, I so get what OP said about being on fire and being prepared to go to jail for her father. My dad was very protective of his independence but his doctor was basically writing him off as he was over 80. He came to see me in a real state and I immediately took him to emergency care who then referred him to the hospital near where I live. Basically he was very poorly and I was furious. Long story short, he moved doctors, his health vastly improved and his original doctors surgery was shut down. I still get angry thinking about it now and it was years ago now!!! As for story 2, I've been thinking about the verdicts that OP was an AH for organising the trip for the cousins but I've come to the conclusion he actually isn't. I get where the commenters are coming from but that's a very clear comment on the whole cheating thing. The older generation does have a habit of covering up things like that and pretending all is fine because FAMILY and ignoring the hurt and injured parties. Emily will be left in no doubt what her family think of her infidelity

[@shegeek5559]

Re: Emily. I haven't decided if this was a play stupid games, win stupid prizes situation, or a literal FAFO situation.

[@nareegreel]

Story 1: this is the OPs dad's fault. She told him who she was and he still continued their marriage. These men always marry these awful women then act surprised Pikachu face when they are indeed awful. Glad OP sort it out though and saved her silly father. Just happy that the dad didn't allow evil stepmother to ravage the kids inheritance from their mother, he did that right at least.

[@OZARKMOON1960]

Hope at some point Mary gets her due and that OP, her siblings and especially her dad are getting on much better now. At least OP is in same town to watch over dad for now.

[@lovelywolv]

Story 2: NTA The OP isn't throwing a "rival party" nobody wanted to go to the wedding in the first place and didn't want to waste their time off. Just like they said no to the wedding they can say no to the trip. It's not a competition. They just aren't supporting adultery and are making a point.

[@janejane6754]

Story 1. They're such good kids such a heartbreaking story.

[@immortalsofar5314]

Last story, OP's alternative non-wedding getaway makes him no more an a-hole than I am. Which probably means they are but it's the kind of a-hole I can live with. I'm not a nice person but I'm very protective towards those who are, especially when they are being shafted by the other kind of a-hole.

[@katwiltz1134]

Your words actually really spoke to me because I don't think I'd be able to live in it . I am very protective of people trying to help others. Rather vicious about it also. Sometimes I think we're put into the world maybe not to lead the flock but to protect them

[@crowdemon_archives]

I would honestly just join the beach party myself too ngl

[@necilya]

1st story: They need to protect their fathers health. Keep him out of the mess and just bring him happiness. Don’t let him get stressed about all this

[@clydethehobo2687]

Yikes, this is the most shocking and upsetting story I've heard on this channel in a while. Super NTA and I'm looking forward to the future updates. I wanna know how deep this rabbit hole goes.

[@kaylaprice370]

right?! I want them to sue and press charges on everyone involved in this. that place would get shut down

[@porter0311]

I hope there are more good updates on that first story. Can't wait to hear about that monster getting nothing and hopefully ending up on the streets where she belongs. It literally takes no effort to be a decent person. But takes a LOT of effort to be a monster as she is/was.

[@Bijecarli]

Also weddings made from adultery shouldn't really be supported. It's ironic that the older generation supports this wedding when it basically is glorifying the destruction of two families.

[@josephbons1]

This is just a valuable lesson about who in your family condones cheating. OP just learned who to stay away from.

[@jamestown8398]

STORY #2 NTA. I can’t believe anyone would call OP an ah. He doesn’t want to go to the wedding, cousins don’t want to go to the wedding, and since they’re not going they have the right to use that time for something else - like a trip to Florida. If this hurts Emily then that’s just a little karma for cheating on her husband with another woman’s husband. “Family is family” - not when it comes to cheating.

[@evavocative6975]

HOLY SHIT... The daughter being upset that the aunt is so worried about a "damn plant" until aunt knows they are alone enough to tell them it's a CAMERA. Wow, good for that aunt being such a planner to get that into the father's room! WAY TO GO AUNTIE!

[@Keyonne88]

"No you can't record" "Then this meeting is over, have a good day"

[@dakotagarcia7781]

the second story remind me of when my mom and step dad got married. My step dad sexually abused me, so I straight up refused to attend anything of theirs and denied his attendance to ANY of my important events like graduation, birthdays, etc. People said I was being a bitch for holding a grudge against a step parent bc everyone thought I was just salty my mom remarried and my mom went along with it. Finally I had enough and told anyone who asked " I'll never invite a pedo to anything of mine. " If they asked me to elaborate, I told them to ask my mom why I REALLY left the house at 16. why I was such a bitch from ages 9+. shit. blew. up.

[@truthseeker9249]

SO WHAT HAPPENED NEXT???? Did your step-bitch get in trouble? Did they get disowned by everyone around them? Did they both harass you for telling the truth and ruining their reps?

[@phoenix5044]

What happened after shit blew up

[@dakotagarcia7781]

@@phoenix5044 she got completely estranged from the family bc she actively hid the fact her husband was a pedo while she baby sat all my little cousins

[@cynthiaholland13]

I'm so sorry that happened to you

[@19WolfGirl74]

I’m sick with the flu and having trouble sleeping. I remember listening to the first story and the update but then all goes blank. I’m fairly sure I fell asleep listening to your voice. Thanks! I managed to sleep for a few hours for once in like 3 days

[@bigz3483]

OP's Dad needs his eyes checked because he missed all the red flags when he married Mary

[@clairebear-96]

Happy friday y’all! I love fridays bc my shift starts at noon instead of 10 (when these videos come out for me) which means I can watch it immediately while doing my after-shower routine (also the only day of the week when I have time to wash my hair before work which i love bc it makes my curls so crazy lmfao) Much love y’all and have a great weekend!

[@louellacharlton4425]

Tyvm Mark. Story 1. They should go to the best TV channel in area and newspaper and ask them to find out! Most have investigative journalists on staff that will help. Nursing homes cannot stand having their bad deeds known! This could let the public know so no one else suffers at the hands of monsters. Also no trouble for taping conversations. Stay safe please Peace

[@GIChiyo]

Release that footage, go to the press, destroy that nursing home's reputation

[@deijix]

I thought maybe the plant had been his first wife’s/OPs mother’s and the aunt wanted to make sure it was still alive and taken care of but when it said it was plastic I was like… ok what kind of sister are you worrying about a plant instead of your brothers safety? But then she said it was a camera and I legit audibly said “OH SHIT!” Lmao🤣🤣

[@kaylaprice370]

if I was OP I would sue the nursing home and the wife for everything they are worth. there are mountains of evidence that shady stuff was going on. all the credit cards, expensive traveling, gambling and stealing his crap while he was in the nursing home after being told from the hospital he could go home. I hope for updates!!

[@Betty_Virago]

A similar situation happened in my family, except the elder abuse was from my sister. My parents died in lockdown in separate care homes. You can’t imagine the levels someone will go to, my parents weren’t rich, thankfully my mum had written a will making my oldest brother executor and he managed to get some legal control. I’d tell you all about it but I said something online before and got a solicitors letter telling my my sister will sue me if I say anything. Yeah, she sometimes creates a fake Facebook account and pretends to be a friend to get info about me. Thankfully, while I couldn’t get protection for my parents I got police involved with her abuse to me and she can’t contact me. Feel a bit safer but you always have to watch your back.

[@RosensDragon2140]

As heartbreaking as story one is, all I can think about is that the dad knew this woman was money hungry back when his daughter was a teenager and she tried to get him to steal the kids' inheritance. But he stayed with her out of 'love'. Decades ago she made it clear she wasn't in love. I'm glad the OP and her siblings were able to save him, but now he's looking at his retirement years being left financially ruined, and having lost many sentimental things to this woman because he ignored the red flags. I hope others take this as a cautionary tale. Don't stay with someone who's clearly greedy just for love. If anything happens to you, they will ruin you and leave you for dead.

[@cynthiaholland13]

She was probably young and "hot"

[@madisonl3401]

Happy Friday everyone! Hope you and the Floof Nugget have a wonderful weekend, Mark!

[@MarkNarrations]

We're all good Madison and you? 😊

[@madisonl3401]

@@MarkNarrations Doing great! Thanks for asking! Post a pic of your sweet girl sometime this weekend if you can please! We love her so much.

[@blandoatmeal1273]

I'll never understand 2 party consent in cases like this and how footage of abuse can be discarded just because the abuser didn't consent to the video being taken.

[@KG-VanityInKnickers]

My OWN mother did something similar to my dad. It took my sister and me 2 years to find him as mom had stashed him hours away (we lived half way across country).

[@Dawghome]

It appears there seems to be many abuses of people having their freedoms and liberties being abused in the USA and I truly hope for all those affected by these behaviours and actions. It's so incredibly heartbreaking and sad. I wish all those the best and hope America to focus on sorting this out for the best of everyone concerned!

[@maddiehail7991]

First story hits close to home. My grandfathers girlfriend took advantage of him in his dying days. She has squatters rights over the house and everything. She’s got photos and heirlooms that my mom and uncle were never able to recover. I hope that shrew gets what’s coming to her

[@Siinwu]

story1: well that evil stepmother story went from o to 100 almost instantly, i hope she faces jailtime soon. there so much she has done jeebuz

[@greytala]

I really hope we get an update on story 1 SOON! This woman and everyone at the nursing home should be facing charges and jail time. The nursing home she be reported and shutdown. I wish it was still a hanging offense for her crimes. I really really really want to see justice on this story.

[@LaineyBug2020]

Story 2: NTA by DOJ (default of justification!) That's a new judgment I just came up with. Technically yes, the holding a rival event is an AH move, but her actions justify the needs of drastic measures!

[@tigerslick1111]

The dad sounds like a coward who got what he deserved. He chose to stay with her after she tried to convince him to steal from his children. That deserves worse

[@FlamesofJagger]

Hey Mark. Listening at work, putting stuff on the shelves. Much love💘💗💖💕❤️💜💙💛💘 Have a great day

[@Shenn3165]

Daughter should have gotten a lawyer asap.

[@jennilynne1977]

I hope everyone is having a great day/afternoon/night! I'm in the process of moving into a 3 bedroom house from a one room with a bathroom "apartment". Peace, hugs and love everyone!

[@melissareid640]

My God what the hell this is elder abuse. Mary stole his house and whatever possessions he had. Press Charges Against Her have her arrested!

[@johnpexton9208]

Working in a hospital that has a nursing home attached to it and it’s heart breaking most of them have no hope and they look absolutely miserable. Most of the families do not come visit and they look shattered

[@divedweller4295]

Two party consent is absolutely evil. It never does anything good.

[@happymama2793]

Why does the blushing bride want them there? Because she wants her ex husband to think her family supports her actions.

[@Swnsasy]

He needs a will and make sure she gets NOTHING!! I am so angry that she can be that cold and vile... Don't trust that vile creature with anything ever... They abused him and I'm just red hot still! Mary needs to go, divorce whatever just make her go! I would _NOT_ want people at my wedding that didn't want to be there. I live in Florida so come on down! Lol.. Emily is marrying a man that they both cheated on their spouses. I would not go because I do not agree with cheating.

[@Lily_of_the_Forest]

Ugh! I hate gold-digger stepmothers. Men, STOP choosing gold-diggers over your own children.

[@ajzephyros7454]

I'm currently in a finger splint, but at least I didn't end up needing stitches or more. Hope this helps make my day better.

[@dailydoser1309]

Yo mark.... you better keep an eye on that first story!! Im watching for it now!!!

[@EllieC130]

Story 1 reads like a fucking lifetime thriller.

[@davidkristahay]

Emily had her family at the first wedding. I do one wedding per family member, that’s it 🤣

[@SilverMKI]

I regularly go into nursing homes all over the country; can't say I've ever been in one I would ever want to live and be cared for in. My family is aware that I will be after a one way trip to Switzerland if it gets to that point.

[@alymay6849]

"she used to be a nurse at the facility" ah you don't need to say more

[@umustbkrayze]

Story 1 I think they should release the video online, because once it's out online it's out forever. Like go to a state that it's a one party consent and upload there (dont know if it's legal, but those other reddit stories with cheaters and they release the video to get revenge by releasing the video in a state where it's not illegal to.) so maybe they can do the same with the nursing home video.

[@queenashantee1957]

WHEN WE ARE YOUNG WE LISTEN TO OUR PARENTS... WHEN WE GET OLDER THERE COMES A TIME FOR SOME PARENTS TO LISTEN TO THEIR CHILDREN.... !!!

[@robertbishop5158]

Story 2 not attending a wedding is his Decision telling what he is doing on the Day is his decision. Others wanting to go along is their decision Everyone knows who is attending the trip Others that want to attend this wedding is their decision, if they want to condone Infidelity is their decision. Their the ones Breaking up the family. He should hold Up a mirror to them and show their hippocrasey.