Marriage Be Hard Podcast | Kirk & Tammy Franklin

[@theultimatefoodie2666]

Kirk: I’m sorry y’all for cussing Tammy: Everybody know you cuss Me: 😂😂😂😂

[@dionneo6305]

❤this we need more as soon as you replenish your spirit soul and body this was great!!!!!

[@Callmeharlowe]

I knew Kirk was gonna cuss before it even started 😂😂😂😂

[@Wrappedinhisglory]

I didn't know he cussed. This was new to me😁😆😁

[@MsAlyssaBrionne]

Can I get a time stamp for this? 😂

[@theultimatefoodie2666]

@@MsAlyssaBrionne 26:44 😂😂😂

[@veewee3706]

This was amazing! I feel like I just went to a comedy club, church and a marriage counselor! 😮😊

[@droosyg252]

The perfect trifecta! 😁

[@shateraturner923]

Absolutely 💯

[@dfromtheblock1537]

😂😂😂 facts!

[@daytan21]

That's good !!!!

[@radiance4923]

😮i😮” you i😮l😮😅i

[@jeralynlangford1341]

Can we take a moment to acknowledge the vocabulary used in this episode?!😭 I love it!!

[@MisRedBonz]

Lmbo Kirk using all the big words!

[@xolakieshanicole]

I was thinking the same thing!!!

[@mamakarin8592]

You can tell he's an artist and a song writer!

[@farah3510]

Thought it was just me! Lol. I was like, that’s how he be writing all them meaningful songs. The words are in his spirit! 😂

[@ebonyhooper1180]

Yes 🙌🏽 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼

[@selfxcare]

Listen, I’m not married, not in a relationship, not dating…I’m not even sure if I still like men🤦🏾‍♀️ but this interview was so insightful and fun! I love when people can be vulnerable and raw, especially us Christian folks.

[@denissecortes8466]

yes!!!

[@paulettechapman4581]

Lolololol 🙃😉😂🤣

[@latoniaheard1152]

You still like men they don't always follow God's plan all the time but they still Loveable and that certain someone could be waiting to find the beautiful and blessed Kasmine.

[@l.j.bembry8763]

Healing is key. Becoming whole from the inside out is key. Learning to love God and ourselves is the greatest love of all. The Bible says: Love your neighbor as yourself.". Only then can we love others. Our obedience to God in a relationship and life is key. Marriage is between a man and a woman only, God's way. There is an online course called TOU which stands for The One University which is worth looking into. May God continue to bless u.

[@Followcanaryyellow]

😳

[@sheismebysarahlee6208]

This is SOOOOO GOOOODDDD First of all, I can listen to Kirk all day. He is filled with so much wisdom and he and Tammy are just so honest and real.

[@cherylturner2291]

💞💞💞💞Oh My Goodness!!! LOVED, LOVED, LOVED THIS!!!!!

[@canditate740]

Me too. I get so much from his commentary.

[@cachemoneydotexe]

Like a man giving birth to a vision 🥴

[@icysnow57cold64]

I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. It seems like it's impossible for men and women to emotionally connect with each other. Men and women's brains are wired too differently from each other. Women are more hardwired to be social than men are.

[@therealnonajones]

Wow. When Kirk said “Marriage was never second nature for me. Work was second nature. I fell into family,” I felt this on my SOUL. Wow. I’m the one in the marriage that has a million things going on at any one time because, as he said, “ideation is in my DNA.” Marriage is work for me because I didn’t have a model for it growing up, whereas my husband did. Phew. So good.

[@lovelylady9957]

Same here!!

[@maryluvsmusic9298]

Well said, & 🙋🏽‍♀️same here.

[@tumimasibi2366]

Me too. So hard I feel like I’m going crazy

[@wellswellness8973]

I am so excited for this series! I got my notepad ready! 📖✍️ My husband and I just celebrated our first year of marriage! 🥰🎉

[@Sweetgirlknox99]

My husband and I will be celebrating our first year of marriage too.

[@sjjuanita]

Absolutely they were speaking truth!!!

[@alexisbilbrew8592]

I am too‼️

[@camilliachatman5657]

Screaming 🗣CONGRATULATIONS

[@chocolatecotton]

Congratulations to both couples 🎉🍾

[@ByTheShepards]

It’s crazy how much this conversation has mirrored so many of the early Love Hour conversations! You all are so similar! Beautiful couples & a beautiful conversation!

[@stephnikkibb]

I was thinking this! I was wondering if it was intentional because it so perfectly called back to the early love hour days!

[@the.baddest.mitch1]

Facts...I thought Melissa was going to reference Melissa 2.0

[@faithconley4251]

I’ve been married for 6 yrs now and even though I have decent amount of people in my family who have been married for 20 plus years, they never would sit down with myself and my cousins and just talk to us openly as a couple. I’ve seen them angry and talking down about one another but never as a united front. So as a wife now I’ve been working and fighting alongside my husband to make sure we do it the right way, and it’s so refreshing to be able to watch a conversation like this that is full of so much love laughter and wisdom between husbands wives who are doing the work and showing up as a united front.

[@futuredent]

The adjective to describe how good this is has not yet been created. 🔥 As I’ve said for a long time, Kev and Melissa, your platforms are a collective, unorthodox ministry in a league of its own.

[@mizchellebell]

88 is a mi 9

[@trinimom7686]

I love what you said because this truly was powerful.

[@TerrinaJazzmean]

This was NEEDED! As a single woman it was sobering, inspirational, exciting, encouraging. It was ALL THE THINGS! I needed this! I loved this! It made being Christian a lighter space, it made waiting for marriage a more joyous place, and it made the goal of marriage realistic as opposed to a fairy tale. Thank y'all so much for this! I CAN NOT WAIT for the book!

[@niladamaris1316]

Yes i agree with you sis! I feel the exact same way

[@lwalker2849]

🗣️🗣️🗣️🗣️ preach!!! You reading my mind!!

[@dariansanders679]

You are somebody God loves you the right one will come thst black man is preparing his self for you

[@lillianneireri8121]

My sentiments too😍

[@theplug3102]

Y'all have definitely found your niche this is going to be a hit. I'm excited to hear all the interviews you guys have lined up.

[@vavoo5181]

“You said you were impressed with me, go back to that part” Tammy is hilarious 🤣🤣

[@selflove6050]

Kirk giving Kevin ammunition to cuss😂😂

[@danibkash5396]

😂😂😂

[@BeesOnMars]

The way he keep eggin Kev on🤣🤣🤣

[@tashastake8841]

I was thinking that too lol

[@michelleduncan4615]

Listennn...as a single woman still affirming at 46 that I am a wife and a mother, I thoroughly enjoyed this conversation and look forward to watching the others. It's so easy to get caught up in the fantasy and romance of it all when you haven't experienced it yet, so I'm always telling my married friends not to give me the churchy, Christianese packaged version but keep it real, raw with mud, dirt and worms! 😄

[@NumexP]

lol @ Christianese!

[@blackqueen67]

My friends were always saying ",You don't want to get married" I thought YOU did. I never understood that...I saw some good to be being married and I thought they would too since they were married 😌

[@valrice817]

Thank you all a million times! 54yr old and married for 32years. This gives me words to go with the feelings! #healthymarriage

[@danawilliams601]

Kirk Franklin is a wise man. I love his transparency and honesty. Kirk was spot on, people look at how long people are together and not the health of their relationship. GEMS💎💎💎❤️

[@eddiemurray3978]

This convo feels like marriage… the feminine and masculine perspective the laughs the seriousness it’s the building of one another service to one another that gets you through, marriage is beautiful it’s crazy how we live in different spaces different years of marriage but have many of the same struggles I am not a star but I function in the same manor. This was so good…

[@jessicaharper7784]

I thoroughly enjoyed this. I love how authentic Tammy and Kirk are. We need more of this.

[@everythingalyb]

This was…..wow!!!!!! It’s up there with the Tab & Chance Love Hour podcast interview. Top 3 couple interviews for sure!!! The parallels between y’all, the transparency, the inspiration, THE BEAUTY!!! 😍😍😍 Allllll the thiiiiiiings!!!! I thought I would multitask while listening, but this was mesmerizing. I couldn’t take my eyes off. 😩 Thank y’all for this! Can’t wait for my book to arrive. 📖❤️

[@sshorter728]

I thought the same thing!!!!!! This interview is a favorite for sure. I feel all the feels, just like I did after the Tab and Chance interview. The synergy between the couples was amazing to watch!

[@elondoriafa9883]

That's exactly my experience 😱 this was just everything

[@stephenlogan619]

I needed Every Part of this. Thank you Kev, Melissa, Tammie, and Kirk for your honesty.

[@lilshonnie17]

as a single woman this has been very insightful probably one of the best podcast eps that ive heard in while WELL DONE BOTH COUPLES

[@divangzsineli5659]

This conversation was too good for words. The chemistry between the hosts Kev & Liss and the guests Kirk & Tammy is crazy. It didn't feel "interviewy" at all but a good conversation between old friends. The way they relate to each other with similar great life & marriage experiences that bring out wisdom. This was so beautiful guys. I've always loved Tammy but in this conversation I LOVEDDDDDD her. Liss found her twin she was like "this is me" so cute. Well done, looking forward to more conversations.

[@ericawoods5694]

I love the vulnerability. Christians can be so uptight it's crazy. Love this!

[@lamentexhort]

When I say Mrs. Tammy is an entire force to be reckoned with!! I love her quick wit, intelligence, and realness and Uncle Kirk’s great wisdom, emotional intelligence, and comfortability in her flourishing. And Kev and Melissa, always so generous, genuine, and insightful with us. I pray their reward is even more than the priceless chemistry and relationship being cultivated between them and the Franklins😊

[@docjodi]

Okay but I want a whole show/series of you and the Franklins talking about the book. More. I need a 6-part series.

[@shanbraz6011]

I love that she acknowledged that people are obsessed with how LONG someone has been married but they don’t take the time to actually THINK for themselves about whether the marriage is healthy or not. I think people believe lies about marriage and one is that length of marriage somehow guarantees health. People really need to start thinking for themselves for once. Sounds harsh but peoples u willingness to question what they’ve been taught is leading to their failure and them also teaching others terrible concepts that aren’t actually helpful.

[@chrisakamistatalent8815]

Y’all know I’m wit the stagekrew. And I wanna say. This is one of the many reasons why I follow y’all. It’s healthy conversation and black love all in wrapped up in one.

[@CoachTurp]

I scrolled all the way down here just to hear a brother's perspective.

[@chelsssmmm]

Yes, I agree :-)

[@douse89]

Oooh when Tammy spoke about getting into the psyche and emotion of a man and learning his ways but not getting it in return. Ugh that hit home. That has always been my problem in my past relationships and dating and I’ve always assumed it was me simply picking the wrong men but to know that it can still be an obstacle to work through even in a marriage is really eye opening. This is so good and I’m definitely going to continue to watch more episodes and I’m buying the audiobook. ❤️

[@00ashantii]

FORREALLL!!!

[@djunajones9714]

This was the most real faith based marriage conversation I have ever seen! This was absolutely amazing!! This is MINISTRY!!! Kudos!!!!

[@carolynp5916]

OMG I ABSOLUTELY LOVED THIS CONVERSATION! I don’t know why at 49 yrs of age and still single, God is drawing me to these marriage podcasts. I absolutely love you guys! My single self will be buying the book tuday!

[@StephDGlenn]

Same, chile....same

[@shemireyahlilly5521]

I'm 48 so I definitely understand

[@tracyb246]

It’s prep. Get ready 🙂

[@Neenja7]

46 and single too, and I understand too🙏🏾

[@julesm7791]

I'm learning from my own life experiences that being single was something that I had to experienced with God and myself that church haven't taught me. I'm 54 and believe that I more ready for marriage than my younger years.

[@imi_xo]

Sooo amazing to see/hear how marriage sanctifies and keeps people safe! How God puts 2 people together as a circuit breaker for when possibly sinful traits are getting too much - e.g. selfishness, or tuning out others' feelings/thoughts. You always have to come back to your wife when work is over - and exercise that muscle of selflessness that got weak in the workplace!!!

[@KayQhosa]

Yes!!!

[@lisafletcher-morisseau7315]

This was sooooooo goooood! The way in which Kirk and Tammy allowed each the other the space to talk and listened. I loved how Kirk kept redirecting to a God centered view and when he spoke about his vision in worship about how he sees people arriving at the gate to meet Jesus was just beautiful and so true. We don’t arrive perfect we get there because of the endurance of what we have been through and through Him we are made perfect on that day. This interview was was excellent.

[@majorconsultingllc9074]

My husband and I just finished watching this after tears of constant laughter. I married him at 21 and it's been 18 years and we truly enjoyed listening to all of you. We can relate on ALL of this. Thanks for being so transparent. That's my favorite part.

[@Tey816]

This interview was absolute gold. I was interested all the way thru. I smiled, I laughed, I eared teared up, I agreed; it was a gamut of emotions. A well of knowledge that overflowed. This was excellence.

[@fdoctor79]

Although I am single, I am soo grateful for this series. In all thy getting, get understanding. I appreciate the transparency, vulnerability, and humor expressed by both couples. Tfs

[@rearends79]

I was just thinking as a single woman of the slightly more seasoned variety (43), this is blessing me!

[@ericadortch]

I am in tears because of the humor, the honesty and transparency, the gems being dropped and the experiences.

[@TryphenaWade]

This conversation is a GAME CHANGER!! First of all, Kirk and Tammy, THANK YOU for being so real (down to the cussin' cuz that's real)! I'm thrilled that so many married church folks are talking about marriage in this very REAL way. We have to shatter the fairytale! There's an idea that marriage is no longer relevant or desired but there are many of us out here who still desire marriage and NEED these kinds of real conversations! I can't thank you all enough.

[@actormiabible]

Immediately followed Tammy after this interview. I’m ecstatic she found her voice.

[@14ldaniels]

These conversations are so needed. As a single woman, I listened to help prepare me for my marriage. Thank you!

[@SamriBliss]

You’re doing great work for the black community including for those of us in the diaspora.

[@AnnyKeyz]

Melissa is a gem! ❤️ Loved Tammy and Kirk Franklin. Positive, uplifting, good heart. Thank you so much .

[@NThando]

I swear this is a moment of deliverance for so so many of us. Especially black people who have never seen married people in Christ, who are honest and transparent. We’ve seen the divorces, the adultery, the resentment and also the Instagram pics but never REAL people who are still in the ring. So grateful for this episode. God bless these two unions.

[@tdroney1]

This interview was soooo good. I kept pausing to go share the discussion with my husband throughout the whole show.

[@kimpellrichardson9448]

OH MY GOD!!! This soooo sounds like my marriage. We are at 22 years and MARRIAGE IS HARD!!!! I tell people all the time, it's easy to say I want to get married, but are you a person who will work or a person who quit and give up all the time, because marriage is work, grass is not greener on this side. AMEN! I LOVE THIS MESSAGE!!!! I RECEIVE EVERYTHING YOU ALLL HAD TO SAY. YES I AM SCREAM, BECAUSE THIS HIT MY SOUL!!

[@talithasuya8908]

I don't have the energy to go into the details, but I want to say that even though marriage is not in my future, this was deeply healing to me in a number of ways. Our God is so gracious.

[@monaharvey4599]

OMG!! This is one of the best interviews I have seen you all do. And to think, I didn’t think y’all could top the Tab & Chance interview. I never knew much about Tammy, but I love her now!

[@TheRawRoarPodcast]

My thoughts and feels exactly. 🙏🏾

[@charcrawford3961]

When Kev said “danger , she smashed the homie”. . . Memories of my childhood and the Love of Ray J popped in my mind 😂😂😂

[@Pretti_Me]

This conversation was EVERYTHING!!! The transparency and vulnerability that all of displayed has given me a new perspective on marriage. I think if I heard these things before I probably wouldn’t be divorced..God’s peace and blessings to all of you.

[@glois80]

I still aspire to be married and your podcasts and book has really helped me and it has helped me communicate better in my new relationship

[@paulab834]

I told the church when I 1st was baptized that Being a Christian is hard...preach!

[@onlyoneshala8003]

BOL “we heard the tape”. Omg I spit my water out.

[@livvvv.25]

TIME STAMP 😭😭

[@theboyersworld7842]

When Kev said, "Ballerinas have bloody toes." I cried. Thank you all for having this sit down, and sharing it with us. This was right on time. Just got the book. Excited to dive in!

[@winniewalker4402]

Love. Love this! Love the intention, honesty. My husband and I have been married 31 yrs and wish we had this when we were going thru. The help its going to give newly married couples will be great if they listen and take the advice. As a "Christian " and going to couples retreats was never like this and the truth was never told! The older couples thar were married 45-50 yrs only told you don't give up when it gets hard, pray and you'll make it thru. So keep up the good work and open and honest conversation! Blessed

[@deefrink4963]

This was so NECESSARY! I loved every moment every word and every laugh. This is INCLUSIVITY at its finest!

[@theultimatefoodie2666]

Wow…my husband says the same thing about giving me everything God forbid we separate. In my eyes, he’s Superman & always has been! ❤️

[@1rbroadna]

I'm not married and I enjoyed this conversation. Real talk

[@thooker7252]

Loved this! The Franklins can write a book on seasons of marriage.

[@MO-hn1rz]

this is great! seeing heallthy and REAL conversations about marriage.

[@rlverdejo]

Thank you thank you thank you …. THESE ARE THE HONEST CONVERSATIONS NEEDED… for marriages tahday!!! Keep on keeping on with this . This is ministry!!!

[@empowerher-z5n]

It's the tahday for me 😊😂

[@vanessaosei-bonsu8603]

I’m just binge watching all of these episodes during a free day off and I want to say thank you so so so so much for these conversations. The teachings, laughs and moments of love through your own personal stories & the lives of your guests are such a treasure and I can’t wait to read your book. This has been my favorite episode so far ❤️

[@ToniPSmith]

First off, CONGRATULATIONS on the book.. And this interview is everything!!! As a woman who has been married twice and now in the dating world over 50 this is giving me life... I have the same sentiments MARRIAGE BE HARD!! So kudos to yall for being transparent and letting the world know being in a CHRISTIAN MARRIAGE be hard...

[@shirvernegriffin7876]

To Quote Mrs Franklin” This is so needed” Love this and Love you Both. Real Grown up truth on Marriage,

[@vanteniakelley8144]

This was definitely one of the most authentic conversations concerning covenant marriage and I loved every moment of it!

[@latoyanewson545]

This has been one of the best conversations EVER!!!!

[@MsFrizzy]

The Frederickses and The Franklins. Fr Fr. 🫶🏾🫶🏾 Great talk!

[@bryansl0587]

I made it for the premiere, but we still REWATCH GANG GANG out here!!

[@TheNhla]

This was amazing!! All 4 of you were dropping gem after gem left, right and centre. Thank you for continuing to inspire us black folk ❤❤

[@cocolester1000]

Omg love the transparency ❤️‍🔥🔥❤️‍🔥🔥❤️‍🔥🔥❤️‍🔥🔥

[@khiananelson984]

This was absolutely wonderful! Thank you for the Fredricks and Franklins for your candidness and transparency. ❤

[@moyagabo]

What a gift this conversation has been. A true gift

[@jenniferl.jonesmaom7347]

This is so good. My books are to be delivered today. Bought one for my nephew and his wife. So excited.

[@danelliacoleman]

Omg, I had this conversation with my husband about having a voice now at 43 and I say what I have to say now when before I wouldn't have said anything. This is conformation for my soul. Thank you Lord for this word. The entire conversation is healing.

[@lynnbill]

Very good always enjoy interviews w/Kirk Franklin he seems so genuine and real. And Tammy as well she always seems honest and genuine. Beautiful couple in and out 💗😊

[@reikomyles1495]

I really appreciated and enjoyed this interview. Everyone's heart felt testimonial truths, a language that people can fully understand and relate to. I respect the raw transparency. The open discussion of mental health and the need for therapy. I relearned all over again, our sinful selfish nature the root of brokenness will always need Holy mending, hardcore self improvement, and giving ourselves grace. Not an easy task, but the blessing and rewards that come from fighting the fight of good faith and dying to sin every day as long as we got breath in our bodies, is worth the sacrifice for our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ.🙏♥️⛪

[@carlottad2139]

OOOMMMGGG!!!!! I want to comment about so many parts of this episode, y’all had me cracking up, thinking deeply, taking notes, eyes watering thinking of the grace of God! My fav was the image Kirk painted of us finishing our walk all wounded coming to our Father to be completely and forever healed😭😭 Buying the book for sure!!

[@anp0731]

O my goodness yalllll are speaking and preaching and telling ALL the TRUTH!!!!!! Thank you for the real real!!

[@synthiawebster2611]

Wow!!!!! Thank you, all 4 of you for your honesty and bravery to share the realness of being black, married and Christian. May God bless your ministries and marriages. I'm buying the book 📖 ‼️Love you guys🖤🖤🖤🖤

[@omegapeter6249]

Kirk 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾. I loveeeeeeeeeed every bit of it en the uncomfortable conversations en topics too that are suppressed in church environments... I could watch this over en over... Never gets realer than this y'all.

[@mrserwin08]

This is so great! Congratulations Fredricks!

[@thekeishamarie]

This, I needed 3 years ago 🙌🏾

[@pamcochran2546]

Love the conversation it's so needed in our community. 💙

[@Jay-v7y8x]

This was an amazing interview. Kirk and Tammy Franklin are so cute together. I admire how open and transparent they were throughout the interview. May God continue to bless their marriage. Blessings to Kevin and Melissa Kendricks as well!🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽

[@dionment]

Kirk preached a whole word and then some: "Welcome to church, no human allowed"

[@droosyg252]

A WHOLE word!!!

[@martinavoltus7589]

Don’t that sound like a whole new Kirk album?

[@BreenyLee]

this was EXCELLENT!

[@GoodLifeDivaTV]

Loved this conversation! My husband and I have been married for 25 years. I so appreciate you sharing the evolution that happens in marriage.

[@tiamaria44]

I have been a Kirk Franklin supporter since age 12. Stood up for him thru Stoomp...Revolution ..1nc...Family Gp...rebirth. I am his biggest supporter. He is wise and candid and shows ...shows what the gospel is about. SIN and salvation. Love love love this quad of panel conversation and realness. Love it! Lots of good nuggets.

[@stacy-annsubahwon9414]

I loved this conversation so much! This itself is a seed to be planted for singles, those who are dating, and already married. The transparency will help a lot of relationships flourish.

[@silverbackgorillagang]

Elders Have Told Me Marriage Is What You 2 Make It 💯

[@marshellbrown9641]

I love couples who are honest about marriage this was good thanks Kev and Melissa, Kirk and Tammy

[@Parkerlashawn_7]

I’ve watched them in many interviews and never heard them in this way. Laughed, learned, and appreciated the openness. Great conversation!

[@Swhitemu]

This is beyond amazing!!! So powerful to see transparent christian couples.

[@pullencq]

As a single black woman this was better than any other "relationship/marriage I've read or listened to. I'm in the Patreon so I reserved my audio book when it was announced. I wish I could see you when you are here in Chicago but I can't but this conversation is SOO needed for black Christian people that aren't given the right tools to be ready for marriage or stay in a marriage . I hope this births the next podcast or conference surrounding this conversation and/or topic. Most Christians are too caught up in the presentation of marriage to give a real authentic perspective on marriage.

[@adb7771]

This interview was EXCELLENT! Thanks to both couples for your honesty and transparency. May the Lord continue to bless you all richly.

[@corinalebrun6806]

59:35 we always have this grace in Christ. It’s about LEANING into it and receiving as it as we live.

[@thekingcrawleynetwork6665]

That “you seen me putting lotion on my legs “ made me real life holler out laughing….so real😂😂😂

[@elondoriafa9883]

Can KZbin super share this video, I can't believe this is not sensational or viral video yet. I feel like everyone should watch this video in It's entirety. So well done! I feel motivated to fix my diet and just be kirk franklin, soo good!!

[@DrKellie247]

Liss: I am married to a kite. I am perpetually the string. The conversation about the broken off switch and selfishness resonated with me in ways I cannot put into words. (16 years in the game)

[@kemorareaves-eastvalleyrea2807]

This was everything!!! Liss spoke to my soul at the 54:40 mark about the impact of her parents argument style.