Marriage Be Hard Podcast | Marcus & Angel Tanksley **FULL VERSION**

[@positivity37]

I love how Angel & Marcus said their marriage isn’t hard. As a single person I’ve been afraid of marriage because people make it seem so difficult. They put my mind at ease a bit. Praying that I have a marriage that isn’t hard one day.

[@jeezfome3283]

They didn't say it was hard but the challenges that they describe is the same as everyone else. What is different is their approach to challenges and the way they view issues. Marriage can be hard but so is being single. Marriage is also extremely great and rewarding. I've been married for almost 14 years. My husband is my absolute bestie. It's great to have someone that looks out for me and always has my back. It's great to have someone to snuggle with, cry on, vent to, and most of all, pray with. marriage is sometimes hard but always beautiful.

[@katharine1285]

What a blessing it is to not describe your marriage as hard.

[@oedivci]

My husband and I had an amazing time together during the pandemic quarantine. For 4 months we were home and we loooovvvveeeeddd it. We realized that the external stress of the world was the only thing that causes us stress.

[@PRTEEGRL]

What I got from this interview is that marriage is hard...for some. For others, marriage may not be as challenging. Maybe it has everything to do the personalities of individuals in the relationship. Great interview. Every relationship is different. A scholar once said, love is like a fart. If you have to force it, then it's 💩. LOLOLOL Crazy but true.

[@mel.alisha2992]

I busted out laughing 😂😂😂😂😂

[@tamaramichelle4326]

Exactly … personalities have everything to do with it. Liss said her and Kev are total complete opposites so their marriage is probably a bit more challenging then others. My parents make it look like like a cake walk they just say you need to be friends but from watching them I see there is a lot of letting insignificant things go.

[@PRTEEGRL]

@@tamaramichelle4326 letting things go is the secret, I think.

[@tamaramichelle4326]

@@PRTEEGRL sure …

[@Sof1st1KatedDiva08]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@DonawaVi]

Melissa is so elegant and beautiful, coupled with how physical she is with her hands when she speaks - it’s just fun watching her speak

[@katrinathomas5531]

It’s not hard for them because they respect, honor & love each other. You have to be willing to do the WORK! BlackLove❤️

[@b4lde4gl39]

that introvert line from marcus is the realest thing i learned about myself this quarantine to be honest as much as i like staying in the house i do here and then like some socializing

[@prettysmile777]

The chemistry between these two couples is legendary! Thank you both for conducting such an incredible interview. I felt like I was a part of the gang! 👌🏽🙌🏾😊

[@ashleemurphy32]

Tank: I want to be around people so I can say I don’t want to be around people! 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Nicole0131]

When Marcus said he’d tell his younger married self to be fearless because after they had little Marcus the ambition left him… I began to cry, because that was exactly my thought process. I have a kid, gotta do the responsible things. I wasn’t expecting that cry. I really enjoyed this podcast, thank you 😊

[@Jordyncm]

I loveeeee seeing Marcus & Angel in this light. 10/10!!!

[@naefrancisco]

I understand challenging vs. hard. There’s some tests that’ll take more effort to overcome but enormous effort is not necessarily needed that would make it “hard”. Plus, Angel & Tank let each other be lol. That acceptance makes things a little easier and make them more open to express differences.

[@prettypursemedia]

I agree.

[@byBrieMoore]

Always a great time with you 4. But, man, when Marcus said Angel tried to break out relationship questions while they were on vacation, as a fun thing to do, and Melissa cosigned, I felt heard. I had the nerve to buy a question game for my husband. We played ONCE!!! 😂😂😂 I had the nerve to get an attitude when he wasn't going deep like I wanted him to. I don't understand why dissecting our relationship, and talking about deep feelings is not a good time. What is wrong with men? Lol.

[@mspayne32]

lol I actually thought of doing this but now that I read your comment I think I'll pass.

[@ShannanEJohnson]

I, too, wonder this question. It probably has everything to do with them not being equipped to grapple with their feelings because they are not allowed to feel as children. So, as adults, it feels like a chore to go deep, not like fun.

[@karensutton2886]

I love and want more of Angel and Marcus!!!!!!!!!!! I really appreciated that Angel and Marcus confidently and comfortably said that for them marriage has NOT been hard.

[@celestewilliams2205]

​I love the dynamic. It is always the authenticity between these couples that have me smiling

[@dawnfoster1071]

I think it is all about prospective. Life is not always hard but there are challenges we all face. If you go into each challenge thinking it will be hard, it will be hard. If you are married to someone who is willing to put in the work with you to get through the challenges then it isn't hard

[@nunayodangbizness8403]

I realized listening to this that the Tanksleys neither have a problem verbalizing themselves whereas Melissa fully bought into the idea of not being a nag & swolloed her emotions which led to the volcano of emotions.

[@firstname8348]

Exactly. Angel knows exactly who she is, not sure if Melissa does.

[@karensutton2886]

@alana terrel YEEEES, lots of unlearning - that word leaves room for compassionate understanding of her position!

[@Lizzytrixx]

Through Here’s the Thing podcast I’ve come to really loveee Angel! Looking forward to finishing this episode 😆💞

[@oedivci]

Thank you for acknowledging that some marriage are blissful and not always a struggle.

[@chefdeena]

57:34 I've STILL not recovered from the Khalief Browder story...Liss, that was a ⛔️WRONG TURN if I've ever seen one!!! CHILE! 😮‍💨 On another note, this book tour episode was BANGIN!!! Therapy is important! BRAVO! 📕📕📕👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥❤️‍🔥

[@brangeeellis3083]

I'm telling you, that story had me ready for a revolution...televised or not (see what I did there) 😏

[@chefdeena]

@@brangeeellis3083 YES!!! And I'm all the way with you!!! 😤✊🏾

[@LaceyMasonMusic]

You all are two of my most favorites couples to-date. You represent two completely different types of marriage that I’ve seen over and over not work and yours DOES. The things that slowly grew, fear and walls within me made me not even want it. I’ve learned a ton listening to the four of you throughout the years. The standout for me is, if we care about the things that mean something to the other person and not so much “but this is the way” big moments won’t always FEEL so big and draining. And TANK…. the way you speak about your wife and the way you respect HER, not even y’all, HER… thank you. You will shut it down for your wife and she doesnt always have to be Superwoman for y’all!!!! Whoo!!!!! Talkin about giving a woman hope!!! I’m good being patient with results like yours.

[@mrstrinas]

These conversations are soooooo gooooddddd!!! Please in the next, elaborate more on how over the years the couple navigated finances, because I feel like this topic is always a subject within marriage at any stage, 1 year, 10 year, 30 years.... But overall, this series is AMAZING!!! Thank you! Signed- BlackMARRIED10years :)

[@sheriproctor3029]

Hearing their experience during quarantine makes me think about how important your attitude towards situations affects not only you, but also those around you. Imagine if Tank found it hard to be around his family and voiced that..how would angel view being in quarantine with him. It could have led to a negative perception about being stuck in the house with him...just a thought.

[@charvetteisflyy]

I LOVE!!! This entire group!!

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

Melissa know she be dressing! How she ain’t had a world of modeling offers yet?! So beautiful, radiant and elegant!

[@moniquej.8816]

Awww yay, the full version!!! Thank you!!

[@amcclain1989]

The option to be an introvert. 😂😂 I felt that Marcus.

[@r.e.a.lquintessential4126]

Maaaan Kevin was tired as all get out!!! 🤣😂🤣😂 but he held up pretty well.

[@TamiaPeach]

I just came here to say, Marcus says “expert” the same way Angel says “x-men”! 😂 33:05

[@use2bscanndalous]

I agree with them my marriage hasn't been hard. I'm blessed.

[@allthingsmarriage4705]

Kev sounds like my husband lol "Tell me 17 things I don't know." He says things like this all the time.

[@angeljosephs30]

😂😂

[@milkan.8552]

Lessons: 1. Therapy can change the trajectory of your marriage to the better if you lean into it. There are also limits to therapy. 2. Quarantine did expose many fractures in relationships which had remained hidden due to busyness of life. Hence wise to go for therapy to resolve some of the uncovered fractures. 3. Marriage doesn’t have to be hard. One couple’s experience doesn’t have to be your experience. Marriages do come with challenges. It’s how you navigate through them that can shape your perception of your marriage. That doesn’t necessarily have to translate to all marriages. 4. Have fun, travel, explore the world as a couple. Once you have kids, the carefree, go anywhere, anything goes attitude about life changes. You can still travel with children but it’s not the same as just the two of you.

[@heartspa1823]

Love this interview.

[@LorenaHarper]

Glad i ran across this series. These are all great. Good to hear from different couples 😂❤

[@mrserwin08]

Thank you so much! I watched the first one and was like Noooooooooo!

[@t.j.8891]

What Marcus said around 9:10 is me. I'm an introvert with extrovert tendencies.

[@nothks0]

Love this series and I loooove the Tanksleys!!! Y'all keep this up! 🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬

[@abster4709]

The last part got me, I got married at 23, had a baby at 24, I'm 29 now and I totally feel like I wish I had more "fun" with my husband but we're just so serious like Angel said.

[@tealiciaharbin7515]

Yes thank you. I kinda felt cheated when it shut off. I went back to somehow stretch it out when it kept cutting off. LOL. Thank you guys

[@kdaonne1]

Thank you for the full version 🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🎬🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋🦋

[@fdoctor79]

Marriage is what you make it. And you get out of it what you put in it. Tfs and reloading this interview.

[@Lodeenie]

Little Marcus is going to raise Amar! I love it

[@cj10109]

Angel and Marcus actually like each other. That’s why it’s not hard 😂😂

[@Mzviola29]

I was very much sad that it cut off and I didn’t know what happened! I love these interviews they get me thinking and considering ❤❤

[@iamednaj6159]

I'm the same too, I tap out within an hour on everything!

[@tw6361]

That was the first PINE CONE to fall! 😂😂😂 I enjoyed this interview!

[@Trice_Marie84]

Thanks for the full version!

[@MarianDrayton]

YAAAAAAAY!!!! 🍾🎉🥳 🔥emoji! ✋🏾emoji! 🤣🤣🤣 I was hoping to get the end of the interview!

[@CorettaJG]

Still so happy I got to say hello to y'all in Houston!! Thanks for this conversation.

[@jl9480]

I think both Marcus and Angel have the personality types that can get over certain stuff quickly. And they don’t have competing expectations of what marriage should look like. They never had rose colored glasses on about marriage like Kev and Liss (and most of the rest of us) did before and early in marriage.

[@nc3919]

Thanks so much for this!

[@harmonious.balance]

I have to be honest to say I was hesitant about watching this series. I'm not married but desire to be and I've been fortunate to have witnessed up close good and healthy marriages. Not perfect but good and healthy. I wasn't too keen on listening to how it's so hard, when it's actually good and beautiful. Meaning the good outweighs the bad. Of course that's not the case for everyone, but it's also not bad for every couple. Social media can be a front, but everybody's not frontin. Alot of people are naive, but many do understand the hardships of relationships and life in general. Also I don't think the idea of "relationship goals" is not entirely superficial. People know it's hard but can be good and worth it. And we all want to find the person to do the hard with. Having said all of this, I've binged the series and very glad that the narrative is balanced out. It has been been a blessing for me to watch.

[@harmonious.balance]

@alana terrel I don't disagree. The angle that I'm adding to the conversation is that many people know that marriage, and relationships can be hard, but to see others still manage to work through the hard, the ups and downs, such that the good outweighs the bad...to say they want that too, is not naive. The other point to add is that for those that have followed these couples, this isn't the first time they've talked about challenges, so many have listened and heard their stories and still want what they have, because what they have is actually good.

[@sjmillercreates]

The way I laughed out loud, "oh little Marcus is going to raise Amar"😂🤣🤣🤣 we have a plan.... deep belly laugh!

[@delivertus4romnesha328]

Whew. I’m engaged and a cancer too and this was soooo good. Gonna rewatch with my fiancé.

[@coachmelonie1574]

I still believe they agree marriage be hard because she said she agrees marriage has its challenges and to me that is the same thing. You still have to be intentional in how you treat, interact, and rely on each other

[@tanoawilliams3712]

I love everything yall do. I can relate to Marriage Be Hard!

[@nunayodangbizness8403]

Thank you for this!!!!

[@joyastewart8906]

Thank you for the full episode ❤️

[@22221mm]

I love how Liss always takes to healing and growth.

[@mj6719]

Melissa, tell me you’ve been around Tabitha Brown w/o telling me! “Very good!” 🙃

[@Louisiana2Texas]

When you're equipped and equally yoked- marriage isn't hard. I truly enjoyed this conversation. 15 yrs in - they mentioned their marriage isn't hard - I wish to experience this

[@Chastidee]

Tank: That was the first terrifying thing. Me: "Terror nights", what? Melissa: 🗣️THE FIRST PINECONE TO FALL! 🗣️

[@chefdeena]

Where is this 😅 please place a timestamp 🙃

[@Chastidee]

@@chefdeena 😆 23:01

[@GodsFavoriteGirl7-1]

Thank YOU!!!

[@toyaleedaniels]

The first pine cone to fall

[@jamaicanbeauty1588]

Loved this 👏🏼👏🏼. Me and my hubs need therapy

[@TScott359]

Do it! There are so many options now for in person, online, or by phone. You two are worth the investment. 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@anneugene3588]

Killing them softly is on KZbin, I believe I contributed to half the views

[@dellanixon7657]

I Love you Guys!! ❤❤❤❤

[@Lee-wr4cd]

Can you interview Jordan Sparks and her husband?

[@Krysmarsh]

Same Angel and Marcus. We spent our military leave going home to visit instead of traveling and living our best childless lives. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@nicolesmith4312]

I’m my twenties I felt like I was enjoying them… until now that I’m 42….I’m like man I didn’t do much in my twenties. 🤷🏾‍♀️🤣

[@shawnyarbrough2642]

I absolutely adore friendship and camaraderie of these two couples (tbtb) 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾💜

[@drkaryeroe]

So much!

[@crespeakslife]

Subscribers just risin Liss! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@jenvaldeus]

❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@avaholloway32]

I'm confused by the Tanksleys saying Marriage ISN'T hard, but hard and challenging are synonyms.

[@techsupport6797]

Yaaay!

[@MisterCoachDriver]

✌🏾

[@ronchellemack6395]

It just cut off again 😮

[@ronchellemack6395]

Nvmnd user error

[@ReadingwithMillie30]

You’re asking 20 year olds that live in California so I feel like it’s a little different than 20 year olds in other states

[@phebetaylor4488]

I need y’all therapist name!!!! #SignUsUpNow

[@kimberlypenniman4395]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@ConnorEsq]

Wow, I’m very surprised by Angel and Marcus. I have to admit, I certainly had a misconception about their marriage based off of their social media personalities. I actually thought their relationship would be a volatile one and when I saw they were going to be on this show, I immediately thought to myself “oh this will be some good tea, they’re about to tell us how to overcome infidelity and massive hardships in a marriage”. But after seeing this it was pleasantly surprising and I feel horrible for prejudging their Union like that.

[@mzspeshlz]

I’m intrigued as to why you thought there would be infidelity, for what I’ve seen of them i would never have thought that was part of their story.

[@tboogie38]

@@mzspeshlz Same. They are very honest and dedicated to each other.

[@angel1202003]

looool

[@mollydays1331]

Love Kevin and Melissa Growth . Marcus has not found his place yet.

[@drkaryeroe]

He is doing fine, and growing into it.

[@mollydays1331]

@@drkaryeroe The key word is YET. And that’s ok. Thank you for letting all of us know How is he doing.

[@tboogie38]

In what way? I found that he has grown tremendously from Angel’s earlier vlogs.