Marriage counseling, our son’s 2nd birthday & our thoughts on 'Quiet on Set' | Ep. 63

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@MattandAbby discuss their new experience starting marriage counseling together and share their big plans for their son Griffin’s 2nd birthday. They also share their thoughts on the "Quiet on Set: The Dark Side of Kids TV" documentary and the allegations and criminal charges surrounding it.
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Chapters:
00:00 - Episode 63
06:50 - Our baby sleeps in our closet
10:37 - Organizing our son’s 2nd birthday
19:03 - Will our 2 year old remember his birthday?
28:30 - Why I rarely drink alcohol
38:36 - Our thoughts on “Quiet on Set”
1:05:11 - Marrying young just for s*x
1:15:30 - My existential tall person crisis
1:20:00 - We started marriage counseling
1:23:54 - Divorce is not an option
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[@brittanyhebert639]

Whenever my husband and I are in a time of crisis he always reminds me that “it’s not us against each other, it’s us against the problem”. Anytime we’re going through something challenging, that mindset helps us face it together! One of the best parts of marriage is having a teammate to handle all the curveballs life throws at ya💕

[@wondernessful]

I love this so much!

[@jodil1209]

I love that he does that. It's so very true!!

[@emilybaker2921]

Abby!!! I just want to say thank you for speaking on generational cycles of addiction. It’s not talked about enough and as someone who was recently so affected by my families alcoholic issues it’s so refreshing that you’re using your platform to speak about it. Thanks abby & matt for always keeping it real ❤️

[@SoniaRojo-xp5md]

I dont know if you’ll read this comment but DO NOT give griffin popcorn!! Popcorn is not intended for kids under 3 years old, not only can be it be a very bad choking hazard but the little skin from the inside can get stuck in their stomach from what I’ve been told. Better to be safe than sorry! We usually pack cheeze-itz or crackers/chips when we take our 2yr old.

[@sailorluna4000]

I give my kids puffcorn it’s similar in looks and the kids love it.

[@Lillieamariea]

I’d always chop off the popcorn seed that’s still on and only give them the puff top. They’ve never had a problem.

[@fayscreations]

Oh thanks for the info I have given my 2 year old popcorn on occasion so I’ll avoid it now thanks

[@ijaan108]

There’s puffed rice and puffed millets

[@RybugAndBros]

I think you all are so lucky to have your parents help so much. My mom just outright told me she doesn't want to help out with my kids more than 1 day a week for a few hours when I'm at work. Consider yourselves blessed.

[@steph3098]

Same

[@larac.8797]

Yup mine come once a week for about 4 hours and they are happy to leave. They come if I need but they could not handle being around them all the time.

[@mirandadiazlegge]

My mom told me “I’m finished raising my own children why would I ever want to go backwards?” Lol I respect it though

[@emmamyers6152]

Honestly it’s called grandparents yes our parents love our kids but they did the whole raising kids it’s their time to relax now and enjoy handing the baby back! That’s what annoys me about Abby is does her parents enjoy watching them 24/7 sounds exhausting.

[@madalynvanwormer652]

​@@emmamyers6152I'm pretty sure they don't watch them 24/7

[@planetluna9554]

Matt I really applaud your new openness and self reflecting! Seriously refreshing

[@dezhawalker180]

As a mom who has pics from the past 4 birthdays, its soooo cute also seeing the little friend group grow up along side of your own babies 🥺

[@Reeeeeeeeeeeeeed]

Please don’t confuse stimulant use with better focus. People with ADHD do not experience the effects the way that Matt is describing. Watch out for aggression, loss of appetite, sleeping problems, and ED. A lot of people get on it who don’t actually need it and end up with these symptoms.

[@jaord530]

These side effects also happen when prescribed dose is too high. I was prescribed 20mg adderall 2x a day. Horrible experience w/everything you listed and more. Got a good psych and 5mg 2x a day (1/4 original dose) is perfect for me. She said it’s very common. 😢

[@MScrista24]

Frrr

[@ButterflyElsy]

Right?! It sounds like he’s speeding!!!

[@AbigailJoannaGreen]

I was actually thinking about this. I had ADHD and that is not how I felt when I was medicated! it calmed me down, I was quiet and focused on my tasks. I didn't feel hyper or urgent about what I needed to get done.

[@dreamcrazy36]

@@AbigailJoannaGreen I don’t have adhd, but have used / abused the meds for focus, energy and at times weight loss. He’s hopefully just adjusting but yep acting a bit high .. adderall is strongly sought after for these reasons. Along with dex, concerta etc. Hopefully he doesn’t get the insomnia, I’d be up for days and get a whole room painted etc, house spotless

[@ashleythrift4730]

I love how genuine both of you are. My husband and I have been married for 17 years and are going through a marriage class within our church to be able to lead the same class in a few months. It has been such an incredible journey so far. Extending grace, communicating, and forgiving one another keeps a marriage so much stronger. Being careful with your expectations towards your spouse makes a huge difference. We`re all human and can`t expect each other to read one another`s mind so communicating those needs is crucial. Keep doing what you guys are doing!! LOVE YOU BOTH!! Also, Matt`s music is beautiful.

[@TheSouthParkOG]

Matt just go buy the computer and surprise her! She’s not gonna go get it and you know she’s love it and use it if she had it but she’s not going to go get it she’s a mom our brains won’t let us but we do like gifts we don’t have to think about 😂❤

[@roselee1974]

Totally agree

[@angelmeade6927]

Agreed.

[@destin.marie.]

Meat... Coming from a hunting family hunting is far more humane than processed meat those animals are borderline tortured their whole lives. Lab meat worries me if we're already worried about what GMOs do ...

[@taniastaeck5552]

LAB meat is concerning....

[@Vrsenese1095]

My husband and I did pre marital counseling and it was WONDERFUL! Now we know the tools we can lean into for our marriage and if we need more support and resources we know we can get help.

[@debbiej10101]

If you're getting this wired off of the meds I'm wondering if it the right med. I don't think you're supposed to get even more hyper. Be careful if its amphetamine they are sneaky addictive.

[@ZoesBlog]

For real.

[@katiehanson6253]

Same I had an addiction problem from meds prescribed to me.... and it's not fun to wean off of.

[@emmamyers6152]

Lmao amphetamimes are in ADHD meds!! Literally the whole point of the meds as someone with it. I have never felt addicted or wired up it literally helps me feel normal like you probably do without it.

[@katiehanson6253]

@emmamyers6152 yeah but sometimes people like me, dealing with other similar presenting issues (for me adult onset anxiety and ocd tendencies, aannnd fatigue, etc) I was prescribed the wrong thing...just trying to offer helpful info. I'm glad you found what works well for you. It's a blessing when that happens. 💛

[@EricaBaker2023]

If a doctor prescribes you medicine that you need for a certain problem, of course your body's going to get used to the medicine and your body will be addicted! It does not make you a drug addict, addicted. It's pretty crappy when people get shamed for taking something that they need and people say "oh no you're going to get addicted". If you need it and it works for you who cares. Heart medicine is the same way if you have to take it daily your body will get addicted, cuz you're used to taking it.

[@neysta2136]

Enjoying these last few podcasts with just the two of you again! little refresher from the interview ones

[@jessicaalsum]

I have 2 boys and something important to remember is that boys just have a ton of energy and it often seems very adhd when alot of the time society is just not set up for boys, its very normal for boys to be fully of energy and then in school settings they just label it as adhd when it’s just not natural for kids to sit still for that long. I’ve learned the more time my boys have outdoor the more regulated they are

[@laciepostle2130]

We took our daughter to the movie theatre at 2-2.5 and she did just fine. We sat her in between us and got all the snacks and treats and it was SO special. Do it, you won’t regret it. ❤

[@enidperez7982]

I would always take my son every weekend from the age of 4month and up, he did amazing but that’s because he’s used to loud noise, it never bothered him. My daughter is my second child and she doesn’t like loud noise so when we take her to the movie theater, it’s never like how it was with my son 😂😂😂 he have to bring out the phones/tablet just to get her distracted or ask my mom to babysit lol

[@clairesnelson9961]

63 weeks in and I'm here every week. You guys have quickly become my favorite podcast! Love the time and dedication put into it

[@tashaax1993xanimalloverx]

Sorry I do have to laugh at this..they literally have a convo and film it..probably the best easiest money maker out there 😂😂 do u realise how good they get paid for this social media stuff?.. why do u think creators end up moving into large hokes and quitting any jobs they has prior before social media...

[@emmamyers6152]

I lose brain cells watching them.

[@jessicaelam3546]

My “wedding” was $250 for an officiant and his photographer wife. I had just had a near death medical emergency and even though we had only known each other for a year and a half we decided we couldn’t live without the other person. It was at a small gazebo in a park next to the beach. It was just my husband and our blended family of three girls. I wore a $10 white lace dress I got from the thrift store, the girls were in their Easter dresses, and my husband was in khakis and a white button down. We had written our own vows, said I do, did a small photo shoot, and then took the girls to a Mexican restaurant for dinner. and it was the perfect little elopement! 4 years later and we've bought our first house, gotten a dog, had a baby boy who's almost a year old and everything is still wonderful! these 10s of thousands of dollars wedding just baffle me.

[@jordynsteinbrink800]

Do not get a party planner for a 2yr old! It’s so easy, have child games indoor and outdoor. (Outside have a kitty pool, bubbles, chalk!) have drinks and snacks and cake or cupcakes. Aside from that get themed decorations. It shouldn’t cost that much! Also it’s been proven children that age will not remember. You will be 100% throwing the party for yourself. I’ve planned all my daughter’s bdays she just turned 5 and they always turn out great! Keeping it simple and at home is wayyyy easier for this age range.

[@trustinJesus_only]

Agreed 💯%

[@presleydrewery2729]

I strongly disagree that most Christians get married young for sex. That's actually a very messed up thing to put out there because it is not true. Christian marriages are far more likely to last over non christian relationships. The reason a lot of us get married young is that we take our relationships unbelievably seriously. We go into dating with the mindset that we aren't going to waste our time or the other person's. We are looking for something real and serious because we don't want to give part of our heart to multiple people. That's why, when we start dating a lot of times we get married young. My husband and I were best friends from the age of 10. We started dating at 16 and married at 19. Not for sex even though we did wait, it was because we knew we are going to choose each other every day.

[@as1209]

I came to say the same thing , when you are faithful to God and trust in Him to provide a partner, He will and He will bless your marriage. My husband and I knew each other for only 9 months before we got married and we’ve been very happily married for 5 years with two kids

[@presleydrewery2729]

@@as1209 that's amazing! My parents were similar. They were engaged after 3 months and married in 9. They have the happiest best marriage of anyone I know 25 years later.

[@tiannaangel6779]

I agree. I got married at 21 & never did I think “I’m doing this for sex”, marriage is far too important for me to ever consider something like it just for something temporary like sex.

[@lorineil5010]

I think Christian marriages last because they can't leave if they are unhappy. Christian marriage seems a bit more miserable.

[@lorineil5010]

I also think you notice such a different with the guests on the pod that are young married Christians vs the mainstream couples. People that aren't religious, meet and date, travel, live and marry and then possibly have kids... they seem more fulfilled, less naive and more content. Matt feels cheated out of experience and freedom and their naivety shows.

[@Forsaken_fury]

My boys are 5&7 (literally just had birthdays). They share a room, since the youngest was 2 (he slept in my room in a little bed so he didn’t wake his brother). But they do greet at night now. It’s an adjustment, but I love when i hear them whispering and giggling! 🤭 it’s so sweet. 7:46

[@lw5391]

Matt's medication sounds like it's not right for him. You will definitely see a difference with 20-40 minutes of taking the right medication. Abby will definitely be able to tell.

[@BriannaEvans-xd3qw]

I highly recommend watching the videos from the glass wall project. As someone in Agriculture its so disheartening to see false information spread on such a large platform. I love listening to you guys, and will continue to! Just wanted to put some truth into things. Also, per USDA and FDA laws any chickens used for meat purposes cannot be given hormones or steriods. Would love to chat with anyone wanting more information!

[@Housewifeforhim]

“You’re out here acting like you’re a vegan”😂

[@ls8609]

I love your family and podcast!! Y'all are so open and I love it so much you make everyone's day so much better! ❤❤

[@user-kr1ef1ri3z]

As a single mom I will say that I did not choose or hope for this life, but I am doing my best everyday and I do not miss a beat when it comes to my son. At times it can be isolating but podcasts like this make me feel happy and less lonely. Thank you for spreading your light.

[@CriminalFinds.]

You’re doing amazing :)

[@alysanostrand]

I absolutely love the podcasts with just you two!!❤️

[@dakotahboyer8274]

I enjoy y'all's content but whatever this new medicine is just isn't working. If you're even more scatterbrained how is that helping. Poor abby trying to redirect back to the subject over and over😂

[@Sunflowers36]

Agree! He’s SO hyper and all over the place and talks extremely fast.

[@cw4350]

Omg calm down. It’s a podcast. It is plained. People r getting famous on podcasts. They r probably nice people. And he is concentrating more n tasks on more than one. That’s how I am on my medicine. God people r so annoying

[@kaylayost1453]

I dont think he's taking it every day which is the problem, i think it needs to be taken daily to have overall effects

[@Chelsea-ph6cs]

He said in one of the recent videos that he hasn't even taken it yet. She doesn't seem to agree about medication so I think that's a big reason why he hasn't actually taken it

[@sutherlandbrook3205]

Do you even realize how rude that is to say to/about someone?

[@lizetsanchez9304]

I LOVE these longer podcasts 😁🩷!

[@Reeeeeeeeeeeeeed]

If his medication amped him up then he’s not actually ADHD.

[@lucystafford3469]

He is talking so fast in this episode! It seems his meds are defs amping him up!

[@ButterflyElsy]

Exactly my thoughts….

[@dreamcrazy36]

Seems very amped to me. He could just be happy he’s feeling better, but never seen an episode so far where he talks more than Abby lol when it’s one on one

[@jodil1209]

My husband spent the first 2 weeks after starting meds for his adhd absolutely doing so many things. It was like he was amped up. After he got used to the medication he wasn't like that anymore. It took a couple of weeks.

[@Sav1010]

This is not true, and blanket statements like this are harmful. It could be any number of reasons, including that he has not had an acclimation period or even that the dose is not idealized for him yet, starting too high, low tolerance, or standard release vs. extended release and fit for his lifestyle. There are also second and third line treatment options for adhd for a reason.

[@debbieschmidt1661]

I purchased the sleep sacks after listening to Abby last year, used the discount, got the 0-6 and 6-12 sacks for my daughter's Christmas gift for her soon to be baby boy. She had her son in Feb. She loves the sleep sack always uses it at night time to give him that hug that Matt is talking about in this video.

[@AK-ci5eg]

AAP warns against using weighted blankets/sleep sacks for babies!

[@ellyne3863]

I know it’s nice to have family around but man having in laws LIVE with you sounds like an absolute recipe for disaster. Yes it’s going to be harder not having the extra pair of hands but to thrive as a couple - you really need your own house, your own space.

[@ls8609]

That is not a disaster your not then and let them do what they want! It wa sprobabsly the best thing for them for a little bit and they still have there own room and space

[@kikinielsen1768]

Multi generational housing has always existed in many many different cultures

[@kathrynlehman6138]

Hunny I feel like they're thriving...

[@melisa8256]

I think it can definitely be hard but it can also be wonderful. As long as everyone has a little private space.

[@Madi-ls5uu]

@@kikinielsen1768there are plenty of people complaining about it from those cultures. As their economies improve, multigenerational housing decreases

[@rebeccapatterson8049]

Matt, I found that doctors really shoot high on the dosage for ADHD medication, you might want to experiment here and there on a smaller dosage. I was on 20 mg for years before I tried it on 10, and had the exact same results on 10. Good luck!

[@AceofBase2024]

Lol he needs less

[@ashleyr.6953]

His dose could be either too high or too low. If he is still showing adhd traits and she cannot tell the difference, his dose is likely too low. But a high dose can also exasperate those same traits. Most doctors usually start low and go up. It’s a controlled medication, it can be brutal to get a doctor to go higher in most cases…at least in my experience. I think the odds are either his dose is too high OR too low, but either way it’s not the right dose. Edit for more data

[@jaord530]

Same! My psych said it’s so common! My best dose is 1/4 is what I was prescribed

[@lexigray473]

YES! Mine started too high.

[@1framepausebutton]

We became a couple on 13 March and got married on the 13 September of the same year. We have been happily married for 22years . I don’t regret getting married at 22 after being together for 6 months. It was the best decision ever.

[@peterwilliams6361]

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

[@DailamiPuang]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i was in a similar situation, my relationship of 12 years ended, but i couldnt just let her go i did all i could to get her back, i had to seek the help of a spiritual counselor who helped me bring her back

[@peterwilliams6361]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach her?

[@DailamiPuang]

Her name is chamani White, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@peterwilliams6361]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@savannaaustell5824]

Let me know if that worked out for you! Good luck!

[@jadesabrillya8767]

If you’re from Arizona, definitely think about Great Wolf Lodge for Griffin’s birthday! Babies love that place!!

[@Kk-us9qi]

I’ve been there every summer since it opened and we haven’t gotten sick. Wash your hands and shower after you’re done 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@larac.8797]

Eh kids get sick not going so just go. 😂😂😊

[@catlady4799]

@@siennakay3922 Very true.

[@user-li1dt9of7k]

As a therapist, the reality is that most of the time by the time couples enter MC they’re already doomed. It really would be nice to see more new couples entering more often.

[@80len]

You guys are so awesome sweet and humble at heart! 🥺🥰I love the way you guys share your relationship story and how you pursued one another and how sweet and innocent it was, it truly shows how much love and care you had for each other and the fact that you both waited til marriage and pursued marriage and are still keeping marriage as something to be honored and celebrated is such a beautiful thing that is admirable for generations to come! 🥹🥰 It is evident that God’s favor is with you and it brings my heart joy to know there are couples like you that seek to make wholesome content to share and to also be vulnerable about the hardships that you guys go through as well! Praying for you both to continue steadfast and strong as you spread love and joy to others with your content! 🥹🙏🏼🤍Sending you and your sweet family lots of love Matt and Abby! 🥰🥰🩵

[@user-we8kg7ib6i]

Fave podcast. Love when its just you two.

[@catL156]

Sooo happy to hear you guys are going to home ed your children, it's really is the best way for children, a massive well done to you both❤❤

[@melissastamp1906]

Abby talking about how she likes to eat cows and pigs and chicken made me LOL! Made me think of that one song in Mulan

[@graceweigandt8667]

Abby I love hearing you talk about books!

[@ambergildon5363]

As a fellow Adhd'er As you continue your meds you will start to balance out. That first few weeks is different.

[@Kendall--]

Love your podcoast guys this episode was awesome ❤

[@alizesavim5688]

Oh its so nice listening to y'all right after a class 😌

[@kathrynlehman6138]

About one hour and 9 minutes in and I really appreciate this view point on relationships thanks

[@kategrossi8717]

Please dont get rid of the book stuff in episodes! I love books and would love to hear Abbys view on books. ACOTOR series is sooo good Abby and they just keep getting better. All of SJMs books are good!

[@kelleypritchard]

Good thing you have a bestie that LOVES to plan parties💜

[@sydneygoldberg8940]

Abby- I also have a 2015 MacBook and I actually found a site where you can order a replacement battery. I did it and my Mac runs quick as if I had just gotten a new one. definitely worth considering replacing the battery

[@emmmz5532]

Can you share the website? Did you replace it yourself

[@babydemon666]

@@emmmz5532wondering the same

[@kianna270]

Same here mine is only from 2018 but it was already giving up on me, I replaced the battery good as new .

[@kaelamayzus9180]

“Schedule some fun stuff with you later” 😂😂😂 I’m dying

[@user-bl9bh6xq4q]

I watch every single week at 12:01AM exactly lol I love this podcast

[@ZaneMaat]

BRO ME TOO RIGHT NOW

[@KristenLynn]

ACOTAR is literally my fav series of all time!! The first 3 books literally own my heart! 🤍❤️ I love the book talk!! 📚 also once you finish ACOTAR series, defs recommend the throne of glass series!!

[@jennbatchelder9950]

Privilege is abundant. Own it, don’t downplay it. I appreciate your relationship and you are privileged

[@jessicanoble1834]

I’m on the same page with them on catering food for kids’ parties. I made the mistake of trying to save $$ by baking the pizza myself for our daughter’s 1st birthday party. I felt like I was running around like a chicken with my head cut off cuz I had to keep baking the frozen pizzas cuz we only had 2 pans 🤦🏻‍♀️ For her 2nd birthday, we ordered pizza from Dominos, and we’re likely to do that again for her 3rd birthday 🥳

[@jennj]

If you guys don’t have “one happy dude” for Auggie’s 1st birthday, I will have words. 😂

[@Raisingwildminds]

Matt: We shouldn't rely on substances Also Matt: Moving at the speed of light on stimulants (ADHD meds) 😂😂 No hate! Just gave me a wee chuckle.

[@AceofBase2024]

Haha yah

[@luipenedou]

They will remember if you take pictures and show them to them often. 😊

[@wellhavenco]

Matt seems WAY more talkative and fast-paced now that he's on ADHD medicine... I feel like he was constantly speaking over Abby... I hope the medicine ends up being a good thing, but I would be wary and cautious.

[@leeareed4044]

He is a horrible listener and interrupts her all the time! So inconsiderate!

[@wellhavenco]

@@leeareed4044 I really think it was the medicine

[@melissalaw6634]

​@@wellhavencono, he did this before the meds. He's on hyperspace now, doing it even more.

[@amberstruebing2126]

He don’t even tak his ADHD med everyday like your supposed too. He said in this video, he just takes it on days he needs to focus…. It does drive me crazy he never lets Abby finish her thought. Chill Matt.

[@wellhavenco]

he got better towards the end of the video, the beginning was mainly what I was referring to.

[@KellyBurklund]

Matt is talking a mile a minute. I’m exhausted just listening to him. Something’s not right.

[@sydneylauber2824]

So funny! My son is doing the same theme “Two Infinity & Beyond!”. Also no popcorn until like 5, one of the top 5 choking hazards for little ones under 5. ❤

[@Soccergirl7Naedene]

ADHD medicine is supposed to slow you down and if it does the opposite, maybe you don’t have adhd? I could have my facts wrong but I taught many children on medication and it certainly didn’t make them like that

[@colinoswald2]

Ritalin slows kids down, but speeds up adults…

[@AceofBase2024]

Yes he is on speed

[@lucillerenaud8114]

Obviously it is your guys choice for popcorn but the recommended age is 4 and up. My daughter gave it to her first two kids by 2, and they would start choking on it, so her last three she waited until they were 5 yrs old. I'm not a popcorn eater, so I didn't buy it for my three until they asked for it around 7 to 10 yrs old. Edit: When it comes to corn products like puffs, twists, and Fritos and Dortitos, ect is different because they don't have kennels or hulls to choke on.

[@melisa8256]

There was a brand that makes what they call puff corn. It doesn’t have any of the hulls that regular popcorn has, it’s softer than a Cheeto Puff so it sorta melts in your mouth. I think that’s ok to give but not until 2-3.

[@teeandkids937]

Popcorn twists and as soon as babies have teeth they can start eating small bite sized chunks of what we eat.

[@HollyAnn8705]

The reason for this is that they can aspirate unpopped seeds, which can lead to an infection in the lungs. An ER dr told me she’s seen this several times. Hulless popcorn is fine.

[@bubblesandmilk]

a coworker of mine lost her 5 yo son because he accidentally aspirated popcorn and got a lung infection, he didn't even choke or anything, he only briefly coughed and was fine afterwards until he started getting sick :(

[@sterlingmatsui154]

@@melisa8256 Trader Joe's here in Surprise, AZ, has that "Puff Corn" that seems to just melt, with zero kernels!!

[@enulty23]

Most resources say to wait until 4 or 5 to give popcorn to a child since it is a huge chocking hazard. Hope that is helpful!

[@tialarason8432]

Yes!! I’ve seen horror stories. To each their own, but my kid won’t have regular popcorn for a long time. 😅 but I’m a little crazy

[@10nurse29]

I LOVE the book talk!! ❤

[@MsSNLmusic]

Okay so I love the book talk! Can we have a regular book segment? I’m always looking for more to read!!

[@bubblesandmilk]

be very careful with popcorn, my coworker's son sadly passed due to eating popcorn, he didnt even choke or nothing, he just coughed, they gave him water and he was fine at first and then got an infection because he had popcorn in his lungs. He was 5

[@SoraMTeichman]

You may not actually remember things from before age 5 but it goes into your psyche, they are some of the most important years for healthy emotional development.

[@sierrabregman]

The black pillow as big as Abby next to her is really sending me 😅

[@Hairby.stephmarie]

my favorite podcast, love wednesdays!

[@Barbaravanderver]

Marriage = GRACE. If you can learn that it will take your marriage to new height’s.

[@digimonfrontier2011]

My brother only remembers from five as well but my husband and I can remember things from when we were two. I agree with Abby.

[@LaurenM0728]

Abby's "well ya knerrr" lmaooo also me googling "do short people live longer"

[@lyndabird9401]

In 1980, we were poor. Our first babe slept in our walk in closet. We moved the clothes to one side and slid his crib under the other side. It had over head light and we hung his mask bile on the clothes rack above the crib. His changing table was right outside the door. Perfect little set up.

[@marissazelensky26]

I love yall videos every week! My fav podcast and I want to be on y’all’s podcast so bad

[@alishahummel9163]

Popcorn is a choking hazard until the age of 5. To be honest, as an adult, I STILL choke on popcorn at times 😂

[@angelmeade6927]

Her calling him Woody 😂😂😂 Y’all are so sweet ❤❤ I love you both! Your wholesome content is what we all need ❤ Thank you both giving me something so wholesome to watch. I’m 45 and raised my 2 boys all on my own, so I love to see someone find their soul mate in high school. Y’all hang in there and you have a blessed future ahead ❤ God bless you both

[@tashabowley8549]

In our house we call hot dogs 'mystery bags' hahahaha I'm with you Abby!

[@michellebrock1000]

I also just finished ACOTAR and am starting ACOMAF! I would love to hear more of your thoughts about these books Abby 😁

[@Miss.SarahRobyn]

Abby my heart goes out to you! Dang you put up with so much! 🩷

[@LaraPlowe]

Idea for the party- we rented one of the big bounce house water slides for our sons’ 1st and 3rd birthday (they’re two years and a day apart) and it was a huge hit since they’re July babies as well! The next year we rented a table at our local splash pad and that was super super fun too. So those could be something to think about instead of a pool party with little kids! Heads up for the popcorn convo , popcorn is super dangerous for kids under 5-6 years old I believe.

[@hannahcampbell8196]

Something that really made me feel icky about Nickelodeon after watching the documentary is the fact that all these shows were written exclusively by men for mostly teenage girls. The first episode of iCarly features Carly and Sam talking about their teacher's "pointy boobs," there's an episode of Zoey101 where Logan laughs about the word "breast" when they're talking about eating chicken breast, etc. There's another episode of iCarly where Carly says, "I'm getting curvier everyday" and Freddy says, "I know." I get that these are things that teens would say anyway, but it feels icky to me that grown men wrote the dialogue for teenage girls to say about their bodies and the bodies of other teen girls.

[@morganunderhill4106]

Icarly when Carly is getting Freddy out of the shower when he broke his leg, and then the other episode of Carly dating the “older bad boy” , her getting her toe stuck in the faucet, Spencer babysitter being weird w him. On Zoey 101, when they are decorating the thing in men bathroom, when Quinn made her Boobs bigger.

[@KristiannaRose]

Matt, breathe! Slow down a tiny bit… wow

[@cristinamerlini]

Im so happy for you guys in all things (been here since the very very very beginning on TikTok when you got married) it’s insane! I feel like you are my friends but just leave far away!!! The ADHD medicine I also thought would make the person “calmer and slower”, but I’m happy it’s working out for you Matt ❤❤❤❤ and yessss Therapy before getting married and after not only when things are hard 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼 married since 2011 and together since 2003! ❤ therapist give us a different way to process or “act” on specific issues or things… 100% agree with you guys!!

[@indigobloom8971]

Also " I can read my books abby dont worry no activities,* five seconds later * WE COULD JETSKI" 😂😂😂

[@destin.marie.]

Just bought house across the lake thanks Abby would LOVE more recommendations ❤

[@sophigrace8680]

Hey Matt & Abby! I would love if you guys had an author on the podcast! I love books, so Abby, your book updates are never boring

[@nicholearmistead5209]

Our little one slept in our closet for the first 5 months. It's dark, close enough for us to hear her but far enough that we don't wake her.

[@livlovelyolivia1169]

The way Matt always says TAGTEAM. Cracks me up😂😂😂 just say we could be a duo instead😅

[@jessicanylander7842]

Abby your book talk was my favorite part!

[@VeryHappyStrawberry]

Keep the book reviews coming!

[@joleejo82]

Abby we love hearing you talk about books and your reviews!

[@jcmphreek]

Abby can absolutely do voiceover on the iPad, but the M2 MacBook Airs are such an amazing deal rn it’s hard to justify an ipad over it

[@kristinraeee]

Fellow Gilbert az gal here, if you have a pool party with littles, absolutely get a lifeguard! It’s so stressful because there is no way you can watch every kiddo. Especially if there are rafts and floaties in the pool!

[@danielledaves8921]

Omg, Abby you need to do a follow up after you finish book 2 of ACOTAR. And let us know what you think. Also, Fourth Wing was awesome. HIGHLY recommend. Love you guys

[@ashleyp4513]

I get so upset too, Abby, when my husband says he'll die first. His dad had a heart attack and died at 53. So my husband is 36. He tells me that I probably only have less than 20 years left with him. It scares so me so much because he has a few others in that side of the family that died in their fifties. Our kids are 8, 5, and 2 months so that would be so sad that our youngest would only be 20.

[@lesliegossett1192]

No joke my son remembers more from our Disney trip when he was 3 than I do

[@MadelynBendickson]

When I got on my meds I definitely mellowed out but my focus was so much better. I never noticed getting faster tbh but faster in the I got my work done faster because I was much more focused on what I needed to be focused on

[@indigobloom8971]

ABBYS FACE WHEN MATT STARTED FRONTING AS VEGAN 😂😂😂

[@janetrucker1962]

Matt, I don’t know if you realize this or not but you cut Abby off a lot when she is trying to talk lol

[@dreamcrazy36]

He’s flying

[@melissalaw6634]

Right! It is so annoying to listen to. I can't imagine how annoying it would be for her. And then most times he is cutting in just for nonsense.

[@Raisingwildminds]

In my experience, kids are so used to eachother that they don't (usually) wake eachother up! One could be screaming and the other is snoring 😂

[@sailorluna4000]

My 2 year old and six month old are in our bed room and it’s true they never wake each other up

[@michellebruno4379]

So true you cannot be careful enough with your kids. My husband worked in law enforcement and because of all of the situations he encountered, we never let our children sleep over at anyone's house. It happens all the time and the people you would never believe, family included, could betray you the most .