marriages that ended in 10 seconds or less - REACTION

[@user92248]

So on the wedding cake saga, here's a positive one for you. There's this video going round about a couple whose wedding cake fell while it was being brought out. The bride was understandably mortified, the groom however was more chill. He just grabbed a fork, started eating and called his bride over. The bride of course started laughing and joined in. Anyway, I've never seen a greener flag in so few seconds

[@Mehitabel18]

I think that was on one of Charlotte’s videos!

[@hayliebawek8445]

5 second rule!

[@loisma2356]

I mean the cake only fell on one side…

[@nicoleortiz9884]

@@Mehitabel18 it was lmao

[@GameChanger597]

Honestly what else can you do other than cry or be angry. Laughing or playing it off cool as a cucumber is about the only way to lessen the embarrassment.

[@michellegulden1052]

Cake faced bride: she's right to leave. He used his strength against her to do something he knew she didn't want. And, he planned it. What else is he going to do.

[@bottomofastairwell]

Nevermind that he did it in front of EVERYONE. If that's not an act intended to hurt and humiliate someone, I dunno what is

[@candigirl46]

Yes. This.

[@The_Bean]

Yes omg Even if it's stupid, a partner who cares will recognize the trauma and not do the stupid thing - Because it upsets her.

[@user-xe4rt3dd6t]

He held her head there. Wtf...

[@ajb3ww]

Huge red flag for him to do that after being specifically told not

[@Eyeball44]

3:16 I HATE THIS!!! Her issues? NO!!! It’s about boundaries!!! She had ONE firm rule. ONE. And he broke it JUST so he could humiliate her. That is not someone who should be her husband. That is a man that enjoys breaking his wife’s boundaries to embarrass and humiliate her. Her saying “no” means nothing to him- he went out of his way to break her consent and why anyone would think he deserves a second chance is a mystery to me.

[@texasgirl187]

You are right! This is about boundaries, and EXTREME lack of respect! It's also about physical aggression -- he basically assaulted her and humiliated her in front of her tribe and community -- smothering in a cake is on the list too, but the bigger picture is the aforementioned. Good to run, Girl, and don't look back. Treat her like poo on their first day of marriage? It won't get any better from there. What a tool.

[@rosielele]

I mean. Yes it’s about her issue… that’s the point. If she had issue with that, and you love her, don’t add to the pile? Like WTF are you a psychopath that you want your wife to panick?

[@haggisa]

@@texasgirl187He didn’t “basically assaulted her.” He just assaulted her. That was physical assault. I would annul the marriage straight away too.

[@sharoncooper3042]

The ex boyfriend? Hasn’t she been with her current husband for seven years?

[@LRWdesign]

Many wedding cakes are multi-tiered. There are wooden dowels that keep those in place. He could have seriously injured her. She could have lost an eye. Can you imagine him shoving her so hard a rod enters her eye socket?! Maybe even her brain?! He’s an AH and if others don’t see the danger he put her in they are AH also.

[@lehon481]

I saw a news story about someone who skewered their eye from being shoved into a cake. I believe it was a birthday cake if my memory serves me right...

[@persephonehades7547]

@@lehon481 I looked it up out of morbid curiosity. It was a birthday cake. The girl somehow healed apparently. I did not have the guts to actually watch any linked videos, though, and stuck to reading comments.

[@intuitive_duck]

Sounds like a Final Destination death. So crazy!

[@mitrolltv]

​@@intuitive_duckno murders in the movie, all accidents

[@Kait-tee]

​@@intuitive_duckFD 6: Death by cake 😋

[@jenniferkovalick2959]

My mom was a wedding coordinator for a long time and she told me long ago that smashing cake in someone's face is a bad omen. Most people that do it, in her experience, are divorced within 5 years.

[@Autisticbanmeforbeingdifferent]

Think that’s most people are divorced in five years anyway lol

[@Ruby-yn5fp]

With omen not being something mystical but just an indicator of bad judgment of character i would say

[@jenniferkovalick2959]

@@Autisticbanmeforbeingdifferent you're not wrong! Lol

[@OaklandNancy]

My husband and I didn’t smash cake in each others faces we just fed each other a bite in a spoon. We have been happily married for over 20 years. Lol.. I would have been soooo mad if he would have smashed the cake in my face, not to the point of divorce but he definitely would have been grounded from marital activities lol.

[@deirdrestatham5730]

I had a cousin do that to her new husband after he loving fed her a bite. They didn't even reach their one year anniversary.

[@jeancranston304]

I was married in the ‘70’s. We both hated the cake smashing of cake into the face of someone you love (supposedly) So we didn’t do it, to the disappointment of some wedding guests. Respecting each other was more important to us than pleasing some drunks. Respect is the foundation of a healthy marriage.

[@jennyfab312]

Why do people NEED to see this? When did it become a "tradition?" It makes no sense

[@lob1248]

EXACTLY 💯

[@lob1248]

@@jennyfab312I was wondering about that too. It is just so fckng annoying to even see it. Ugh 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@kokoro_suisen]

@@jennyfab312 because misery loves company, these ppl just secretly want the ppl to hate each other and fail in relationship to feel better about themselves. I remember the birthday cake smashing where a girl got her face smashed in her birthday cake that needed Support and therefore had sticks (wooden dowels) in it, yep it stabbed her eyeball... majority of ppl are straight up idiots... that what I learned when I was 7...

[@MartenKrueger-sx4me]

Absolutely!

[@Nurse_Kathy]

I told my Ex multiple times that even though it was a wedding “tradition” in his family, it was not a tradition in mine. The B&G feed each other a bit of cake to symbolize that we will be caring and nurturing each other, etc. I explicitly said that I did not want cake in my face and gave my reasons (ruined makeup, dress, etc.) He always laughed and said, “Nope, you’re gonna get it!” I could only interpret this as teasing because after so many cake discussions, HOW could he NOT realize how I felt about this? FF to the wedding and cutting of the cake. The Bride goes first. His four sisters and their husbands groaned and expressed their disappointment when I fed him a forkful and dabbed a bit of frosting on his nose. I turned to them and shook my head with a smile. No cake in the face for this couple! When I turned to face my groom, I caught a full plate of cake right in the face. I froze, horrified and in complete shock. My bridesmaids ran up and hustled me off to the restroom. They tried to clean me up as best they could with water and paper towels. Sticky cake and frosting was on my face, in my hair, on my headpiece and down the front of my gown. I cried and cried. I knew in that moment that I’d made a horrible mistake. I found out later that as I was being led to the restroom, my dad collared him and gave him a few choice words. The grooms father had to step in b/c for a few seconds it looked as though Dad might punch him in the face. 🤛🏻 I wish he had! The marriage lasted 2.5 years. Looking back, I should’ve ended it right then like the OP. But, at 23, I wasn’t confident enough to do it.

[@nom-nomnami1743]

Good on your dad for standing up for you! I ^still^ have strong reactions to my ONE hard boundary I asked of my ex husb not to do. Not precisely the same as no cake smashing. But I asked him SPECIFICALLY NOT to pack any of my things while I was still spending time with family and he'd decided he "needed space." I finally get back to our shared apartment and he'd shoved all my stuff in garbage bags and boxes. I don't like other people touching my things ^to this day^ and it's been like 12 yrs.

[@nxctem]

Have you commented this story before?? I feel like i’ve read it on another of Charlotte’s vids.Not a bad thing but I’m so happy you managed to get out of that relationship!! He’s absolutely terrible for doing that and I kinda wish your dad had gotten to punch him.

[@Rickettsia505]

Glad you got out early.

[@ASavageEye]

So let me get this straight, you BOTH were getting married but he was not allowed to follow his family traditions, only yours? The problem in the relationship was not him my dear, it was you! When you set controlling behaviour that soon in a marriage then of course it is going to fail. I also 100% guarantee you that the cake incident had NOTHING to do with why your relationship actually ended. Unless you are saying that you held a grudge for 2.5 years and then decided you were now angry enough about it to divorce him even though nothing else had happened in that time period?

[@nom-nomnami1743]

@@ASavageEye PFFFFT what a shitty take. I'm sure that more happened in those 2.5 yrs that caused the marriage to end. The cake in the face was just the first red flag.

[@amy129]

My husband and I eloped in DC at the Willard hotel during Christmas. During the cake cutting my husband was not only gentle he made sure he didn’t get any on my face . The best part of the reception, we ordered enough cake and even cupcakes to give to the staff and even hotel guests that walked by us. It was the most beautiful moment. Those memories will live with me forever.

[@gr33ngirlsea]

Awwn, I'd love to get wedding cake walking by a wedding! (And I can see myself wanting to share my wedding with absolutely everybody!)

[@OldJoeBlows]

Eloped and a reception with a cake and cupcakes?? Did I miss something??

[@ronhall5395]

I was super careful with my wife. I gently held the cake in front of her to.let her take a bite. I made sure not to ruin her makeup. Her, she took a big piece and smashed it in my face and rubbed it all thru my beard. Maybe I should have walked out at that point. It was not funny.

[@gr33ngirlsea]

@ronhall5395 Oh wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you! That was absolutely not cool.

[@jenniferbond7073]

@@ronhall5395horrible horrible, it would never cross my mind to humiliate my husband like that. I trust that marriage didn’t last?

[@bilb5262]

1:11 The man and woman in the story got divorced not because of shawarma but due to the man's unwillingness to pay for necessary things. In Arabian marriages, the man is expected to spoil his wife, but with a logical amount. If it's something unnecessary, the man can reject it, but if it's necessary like food, the man should pay. The woman asked for a divorce as the man didn't pay for food and showed that he was selfish.

[@blkgm7005]

That is totally understandable, esp when those are known standards and expectations. But, it would also be a huge 🚩for ANY wife if that is how u are starting the marriage…esp if she isn’t working and dependent on her hubs for support.

[@RodrickMarsMoon]

"Men that accuse of being a gold digger have no good to dig!" I KNOW, RIGHT?!! I remember this guy in my country whining about a woman, calling her gold digger (I've seen both their life situations, he's far from having a right to call her that), because, wait for that, he paid for a Burger King for her, which HE insisted to pay!!! The audacity...!

[@timeless9820]

Remember this. anyperson that gets ttigger/angry at you for something that has nothing to do,with you or you've never done, it is about the reflected their problems on you and what they would do to themselves to fix it cuz by "fixing you" they fix themselves.

[@RodrickMarsMoon]

@@timeless9820 That's a interesting way to see this 🤔.

[@honestyisadyingvirtue]

​@timeless9820 Problems are rarely ever so black and white to be able to just boil it down to simply being a them problem. But sure whatever you need to tell yourself.

[@Purplethingyt]

I hate this so much! Do you or do you _not_ want women to pay? And they say women are the complicated ones...

[@Just1Nora]

​@@timeless9820I agree with you. We often say that a cheater always suspects cheating and a liar suspects everyone is lying to them. Question the motives of someone like that. Perhaps Sameeha's husband had dealt with a gold digging woman in the past, it might have even been a family member's relationship, but it's not fair to immediately suspect that of a completely different person.

[@Racingirl911]

A few months ago on Reddit I read about that lady who got her face pounded down into the cake. She had made it perfectly clear to her fiancé that she didn’t want him to smash cake in her face. She also told him about her extreme fear of not being able to breath which was due to a frightening experience she had had previous to to her wedding. So, even after all of the PROMISES that he gave her, he went ahead and not only smashed her face into the cake, but he also held her head down in it for a little bit. The main message Reddit (and me) gave her was to leave him IMMEDIATELY! That was a form of abuse he did, and she’d never be able to trust him on ANYTHING after that! (His word would mean nothing) I’m glad she’s getting a divorce!! 👍🏼👍🏼 YOU GO GIRL!!!

[@GameChanger597]

I'm not one to support divorce over issues that don't involve abuse but I agree this was an act of abuse and he's likely a narcissist. She was right to leave him!!!

[@matematicarka]

I'm so glad she left him! If he couldnt keep that kind of a promise, what else he couldnt keep? I had an extreme fear of being alone outside at night and dark in general, I am scared of being attacked. My ex fiance would jump out behind things in his yard to scare me and then get surprised that i had a panic attack, or he would turn off the light while i was in the bathroom and leave me in complete darkness. I dont know why i didnt leave him then and there.honestly, i cant answer now that i think about it. i think there was this sunk cost fallacy at play , and i kept making excuses via the smaller nice things he would do. (also due to my parental figures i equated abuse to love, some psychoanalyst would probably say that) There's always someone out there who is better for us - and if we happen to not meet them, being alone is still manifold better than being disrespected and outright abused

[@nursenicole222]

Yep, control issues would have escalated from there on. No knowing how bad it would get. Life is too short to spend with a narcissistic abuser.

[@GwendolynPorter-w6c]

Annulment is much better! That means the goofy groom never existed!!! I wish I knew her! I'd buy her a bottle of Dom Perignon champagne 🍾🍾🍾!

[@waffleaffle231]

AND there are usually dowels in wedding cakes! Literally wooden or plastic sticks IN THE CAKE. You could stab someone's eye out! I'm genuinely terrified of having my face slammed into a cake because of that

[@heidicowles3559]

My mom is a professional cake decorator and has been doing weddings for 45+ years. About 95% ( no joke) of weddings where the groom smashed the cake in the brides faces have ended in divorce 😮

[@dunementat2191]

And the “Petty Divorce” award goes to the medical student in the second story. Turning a $15K loss into a $125K gain is slick.

[@user-blob]

Yes. Loved this story. Bloody good for him 👏👏👏

[@twiceshy9773]

That was BRILLIANT- lol I am in awe

[@ajb3ww]

unless those loans were taken out while they were married, I find that kind of hard to believe.

[@rai1879]

​@@ajb3wwI mean he said it was a state law

[@jacquelinemarie9655]

I can’t even imagine the level of patience he had. He is a MONK.

[@Isabella66Gracen]

The face in the cake thing is big to me, in the sense that it's an issue of trust. My husband and I do not prank, frighten, harm, embarrass😮 or humiliate each other in the ways in which we are most vulnerable. We promised each other this, to protect and have each other's back. Been married for 28 years and we've never broken that trust. You've got to have that.

[@Marynicole830]

Yup. Pranks and joking are great and i have a dry sense of humor but there are places even my sarcastic ass wont go. Not everything is fair game and its not a good joke or prank if the target isnt laughing along with you, its just bullying.

[@4WingedAngels]

Trust, and knowing when and where pranks and jokes are appropriate, is exactly how we made it 40 years together.

[@ronhall5395]

It is actually a statement he was making. He is in charge and he will do as he pleases. Time to walk away.

[@Elizabethselby]

Totally did not respect boundaries. She should have left.

[@mflyn801]

I know it's not the same thing but I told my husband no April fools day pranks or jokes. He didn't

[@anjelica948]

That last story gave me a flashback to my last job. I read Tarot cards, and a few people from my job found out and asked for readings. Word eventually gets around, and eventually one of the managers actually asked me for a reading- a woman who I had only spoken to a few times, and the main thing that I knew about her was that she was seeing another manager in the same store- but that He was a married man with kids. So, I do the reading, and of course that comes out in the cards. Now, I’m kind of trying to play it off lightly, because I assumed she knew he was married. Literally EVERYBODY else in the store knew he was married, apart from her. The reading really devastated her, and I tried to tell her “Leave him, its not worth it. He’s a liar and that will never change.” But the heart wants what it wants I guess because she kept seeing him- until his wife found out, and we had to get the cops called before a fight went down in the parking lot. And yes, before anybody asks- this was at a Walmart 😂

[@lizzykayOT7]

I stopped reading years ago when I uncovered family being in debt. I wanted to stop and my uncle was like how did you know, continue. I wwas way to young to handle it. I'm older now so I think it'd be okay for fun.

[@anjelica948]

@@lizzykayOT7 Yeah, it’s weird as hell when you uncover drama or secrets. There was one reading that I full on did stop, bc I was getting a very Nasty vibe- like a serious crime had been committed. I pretended I had to take an emergency phone call and never read for the person again.

[@snakesonaframe2668]

I’m asking this out of curiosity, not malice. How do you get such specific information? I thought tarot card readings were generally more vague than that.

[@anjelica948]

@@snakesonaframe2668 It genuinely depends on the reader’s skill, and how strong their intuition is, plus, specific cards often do carry specific meanings. For instance, in this situation, when I read for my coworker, I probably had the 7 of Swords, the 10 of Pentacles in Reverse, and possibly the Page of Swords in Reverse. The 7 of Swords specifically indicates deceit and dishonesty in a person. The 10 of Pentacles is usually a card of prosperity and happiness, specifically in a person’s home life, and is sometimes known as the ‘marriage card’. But in this case, the reverse was drawn, showing that its meaning is upside down here, meaning an unhappy, ill equipped home in turmoil. And the Page of Swords can indicate a curious, playful person who might get a bit too carried away in their pursuits, but in reverse, this directly points to someone who is deliberately scheming and manipulating those around them for nefarious and selfish means. It can also indicate being spied on. Seeing these three cards, I can immediately detect that someone close to the person being read for (the Readee if you will) has a Dishonest and Manipulative person circling close to her, and that person is either disrupting her home life’s peace and happiness, or his own is disrupted and nearly ruined, bc of his actions. This is where I would usually ask for clarification to see if the negativity was coming from the Readee, or someone within her vicinity. Tarot reading obviously is not a science. There’s a lot that goes into pulling meaning from the cards, but also yourself, and the person you’re reading for. As a reader, one of the most fascinating, and sometimes frightening, parts of Tarot reading, is simply sitting with all that energy passing between you and the person your reading for, and honing in on the message that needs to be heard, via intuition. To me, it’s endlessly fascinating.

[@TheOddLia]

The thing is, if someone can’t respect your boundaries over not having your face shoved in a cake, imagine all the other boundaries they wouldn’t respect. I’d immediately run away and never look back.

[@bottomofastairwell]

Right? Like if dude is totally cool with upsetting and humiliating her, and potentially causing her serious injury (coz theres usually things like wooden rods or dowels on wedding cakes for stability that could easily take an eye out) on her wedding day, in front of EVERYONE, like, what's he gonna do behind closed doors? That's not a prank or a funny joke. That's an action deliberately taken with the express intent of hiring and humiliating her on what should be one of the best days of her life. So no, absolutely not. It's not about cake. At this point, it's about safety. Run for the hills and never look back

[@user-xe4rt3dd6t]

At least that monster gave her a warning

[@MzClementine]

​@@bottomofastairwellOh I told my husband. You dare dare put cake in my face. Smoosh it on me in any means. Not only will I grab the whole cake. And throw it at you. But I will literally divorce you. And I might get in trouble, because I may beat your ass. Do not. And I repeat, do not do that to me. Whenever he fed me the cake. He very delicately. Politely fed me the cake. His sister's had attitude.. Honestly I didn't even want a cake. Long story.. And one of his sisters got me a cake. She went to reach for the cake. I grabbed the cake cutter and smacked her hand so quick. I said don't even think about it. The bigger you are the harder you will fall. She was about 600 lb then.. She said is that a threat. I said no darling that's a promise.. My husband and I fed each other the cake politely. We've been together for 23 years, married for 20.. And I told my husband. We will get married and I will divorce you if you do that to me. He said Are you serious I said I'm not kidding. I find that very disrespectful. I don't see it as tradition in any means. If you insult me, and don't do as I ask, We will get divorced. I had a shotgun wedding too. He never understood that. I kid you not we just had our 20th anniversary. My husband says. Why do you always call it a shotgun wedding. I said you walk around with technology in your pocket and you still don't know what that means. Look it up. He did. He said nervously. Oh my gosh. We had a shotgun wedding. I said yep. At the altar. I said to him, because I felt forced. Completely and utterly. I said to him, till death do us part. If you part, you're dead. The lady double took me. And my husband said. Sweetie. We're getting married. I laughed, and said I know. I said, if you part. You're dead. Haha.. I meant it. Standing here having a shotgun wedding. The lady looked at me with huge eyes. I'm pregnant. I'm pissed. Although we were engaged for 8 months prior to me getting pregnant. As soon as I got pregnant his mother and my grandmother the same age. Got to have a wedding. Cannot have a bastard child. Oh my gosh. I was not going to allow those evil biddies to proclaim that my child was a bastard. Nope. So I was forced to get married. And I kid you not. My stipulations. Death till you part, I'm cool with that. Part before you're dead. You're dead. And no cake in the face. I also added in, when he was kind of nervous. Telling me we're getting married. I said, you know my mother has been married six times. Married one man twice. I'm not kidding. We've been together 3 years. I was hoping to do this for a total of two more years but here we are having a shotgun wedding.. The lady officiating our wedding was like Oh my God there's guns and I was like no Well maybe. They are southerners.😂😂😂 And I'm pregnant. So could be.😂🤣😆 I'll tell you marriage hasn't always been easy. But I'm grateful for learning some information from my great aunt Violet. Married 70 years. She said, he's going to break your heart. 99% of the time the man always breaks a woman's heart. But let me tell you this. If he can learn to eat his ego. And you can turn his head towards the greatness he can be. You too will have a marriage for 70 years. And she was right. She was absolutely right. I didn't want to wind up like a statistic. And shocking, my husband worked really hard to keep my relationship. I've always joked around with him, you're lucky life forced us into a marriage. Because if I didn't have those sacred vows. We probably wouldn't be together.. It was a blessing in disguise. For the both of us.. I couldn't have predicted this long ago. But I literally married the man that made all my dreams come true. Every single one of them. What a serendipitous thing.. everything has fallen into place. So well. I'm so grateful.

[@ravenspirit9208]

Technically the marriage isn't "legal" until the license is filed, this can be skilled quickly

[@ASavageEye]

@@MzClementine So all I got from that essay was you telling women to take the man they get and change everything about him until he becomes the man you WANT. And women wonder why more and more men are staying single and refusing to get into long term relationships, or why so many of them end up cheating with a woman who does NOT try to control and manipulate them. Oh and smushing a bit of cake into your partners face at the wedding is a VERY long standing tradition that goes back hundreds of years and in many different countries. It is NOT a sign of disrespect. The idea of it being disrespectful only came about with new age feminism when they decided that no man is allowed to do anything that could be considered fun. By tradition BOTH partners should smush some cake on each other.

[@melhenline8438]

When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time. - Maya Angelou

[@MaikaClarke]

I am a trained pastry chef. I think more people are aware of this fact given all the cooking shows. But wedding cake layers are heavy, and you have to support the upper levels. That means putting straws or wooden sticks inside the cake. So if you shove someone's face into a cake you may be shoving wooden stakes into their face. If things go really badly someone could get really hurt. Smashing a biteIs much safer, but grabbing the back of their head and shoving is dangerous and cruel. However doing either when your partner has specifically asked you NOT to, is a deal breaker for me. (edited for clarity, before I said smashing the cake bit in the face was 'fine' when I really meant it was physically safe.)

[@silverpurkat]

Yes that’s what cross my mind. My mother is a retired wedding cake maker and I grew up around her making cakes when I was a kid. When I see videos or hear of someone getting their face mashed into the wedding cake I think of the poor person (most likely the bride) getting her eye(s) seriously injured even possibly of blindness from the wooden sticks impaling the eye.

[@Nona-ue1rd]

Saw a video of that happening to a young woman on her birthday I think and she got a wooden stick jammed in her eye socket! I believe she was ok but Jesus Christ!

[@TheNinnyfee]

Smashing isn't fine, either. The bride has spent hours getting ready and looking good, and you ruin all of the professional make-up with cake. Apart from the disrespect towards the baker.

[@DPryorAustralia]

Yup that would have been IT for me too ~~~

[@suzannethompson5895]

Since I was a little girl I said thats it annulment‼️💯

[@lizthedisjointedzebra692]

That second story was borderline battery. Actually GRABBING her head and then HOLDING her there??? No, that's insane, I would be traumatized

[@Mama_Bear524]

I wouldn’t say borderline. That IS battery. It’s so violent.

[@lizthedisjointedzebra692]

Yeah, I think so too, but some people get super nitpicky, "well, ACKSHUALLY, legally speaking that isn't battery due to blah blah blah" lol.

[@jill7759]

I hate that cake in the face nonsense. I could never see the attraction. Any decent partner ought to know when you’re serious about an issue and accept that, even without her history. Breaching that trust is a deal breaker.

[@LPnerd]

I would have no shit reported him to police.

[@christineboos6435]

It is assault for sure as it only involves threat and fear of injury. Battery includes mental trauma, though harder to prove. Any bruises or pulled out hair? Battery.

[@dustydo8048]

The cake incident is about CONSENT. This man made plans to breech her consent in front of everyone, imagine how easy he would cross those boundaries behind closed doors. 🚩🚩🚩

[@klarisakivlin9433]

Exactly! 100% he crossed the boundary she had clearly set out. Thought he was smart doing it way she hadnt described. So sly and mean.

[@LianaAceve-mp5ec]

Especially the fact that all of it cost lots of money as well as the makeup that she got done

[@Honey-cl9oh]

Or what he would do to their kids for a prank

[@user-nd8lc8lf4o]

I'm absolutely with the woman who got her head shoved into the cake. That's assault. Not a good beginning.

[@bcgoette]

Shoving her face in the cake was a deliberate sign of disrespect. What a creep!

[@Isisblitz88]

Love how the bride gave very clear boundaries and he just planned around it. I would feel the same way we're done, trust is broken and it's over.

[@johngardner4096]

Exactly so.

[@Ciela531]

For those wondering, yes it can be quite dangerous to shove someone’s head into what was likely a multi-tier wedding cake. They often have stands/ plates in the middle of the cake supporting each layer that you don’t see from the outside but could easily cause some damage were one to fall into it/ have their face shoved in it. So yeah, don’t ever do that. Glad the bride sounds physically okay. 2:48

[@fibanocci314]

If he planned it, there's a possibility he told the cake artist who made sure there wasn't anything dangerous. It's a slim credit, given the situation, but credit nonetheless?

[@cristela4034]

@@fibanocci314I doubt he thought about that, the bride was just lucky she wasn't hurt. Seriously, this nonsense of shoving people into cakes must stop.

[@soumya5832]

@@fibanocci314 if he actually cared he wouldn't have shoved her face in the cake

[@Ciela531]

@@fibanocci314 We can only hope 😅 Though he clearly didn't care much about how his wife felt so I don't really see this type of person thinking to care about that as well...

[@mycupoverflows7811]

Yes wooden dowels hold the tiers together sometimes. Could lose an eye.😢

[@mbourque]

2:03 this is actually seen quite often in new marriage couples counseling. The 'cake in the face' stunt is a very high contention event. Additionally, how that plays out can be one of several indicators (although a good one) about how the relationship health is doing. IF it's playful for both parties and doesn't seem aggressive, then the playfulness is good, BUT if it's aggressive or contentious, then the relationship (marriage) will quickly end. ALSO, if a boundary is set BEFORE the wedding, and this is one of them, THEN the spouse violates that boundary, they are likely to also violate OTHER boundaries in the future. ESPECIALLY if they KNOW that you have a problem with it before it happens... this is NOT a good sign that the marriage will last...

[@jennathompson4242]

Exactly, my parents have adorable wedding photos of both of them laughing, with frosting smeared across their faces. It's super cute, and they're clearly having fun with it, but a violated boundary is a violated boundary.

[@ASavageEye]

Smushing a piece of cake in someone's face because you think it is funny is NOT a violation of boundaries and does not indicate anything about the future of the marriage. I would bet every penny I have that if it was the woman who did it and the man complained everyone would be calling him names and saying it was just a joke. I am going to assume, because you gave the indication, that you are a couples counsellor. If not then everything you said is a total lie anyway but I dont want to assume that. If you are saying that you get loads of couples coming to you with this issue and that your automatic assumption is the marriage is now doomed to failure then YOU are a very bad counsellor and in dire need of retraining. If you cannot even help a couple get past something this small then how could you ever hope to get them past something serious like losing a child or one partner cheating?

[@nokoshadung5257]

​​@@ASavageEyeYou keep commenting this nonsense and people keep telling you how and why you're wrong, but you're ignoring it. It's about boundaries. If your partner can't respect your boundary with one thing thing, that could potentially harm you, then obviously they'd likely not respect other boundaries. And clearly, in most of the recent videos we've seen, it wasn't playful smashing of the cake on the mouth, the men literally did WWE level take downs on their wives to do it. Some bride even had her face cut, so no... it's not the version of the tradition anyone is used to. If I say no cake smashing in my face before the wedding and my partner does it, then that's akin to assault.

[@user-xe4rt3dd6t]

@@ASavageEye incel

[@user-xe4rt3dd6t]

@nokoshadung5257 he's ignoring what people are saying because he's the type to ignore boundaries and find humiliation entertaining, just like the man in the story.

[@danielx555]

That first story is insane. I was raised by accountants and one of the things that my parents taught me was that it's fun to buy things for other people. It's actually a good feeling when you buy food for your friends, or your spouse, or a homeless person. It's what we're supposed to be doing with our money. Not in a way that damages us, but I pay for meals all the time for everyone including the love of my life.

[@alyzu4755]

Story 2: That's terrifying! He knows she has claustrophobia because of the accident, she specifically asked him not to do it, and he planned it all out and did it anyway. (Nevermind that if the cake was layered there were probably dowels in it that could have injured her.)

[@jenniferdaniels701]

At first, I was thinking this was a different story about a bride who didn't want the cake smashed in her face because she got a cut by her eye from someone doing that to her on her 16th birthday. Yeah, injuries can happen, and was he trying to trigger PTSD from the accident? Groom is TA.

[@TanEbear]

Dowels? Like for stacking the layers?

[@NoraGuy]

I was (briefly) stuck in my car after totaling it, so totally understand how someone could develop claustrophobia. Plus, think of the ruined dress, makeup, and hair and the fact that you just humiliated your partner in front of a room of people. 👎

[@shawnycoffman]

And people all around her are telling her she's the one who overreacted. Why are these people protecting the perpetrator?!!

[@rebeccaewen-rome5585]

That's a comment I've made b4 on this topic, it's the boundaries and the potential of having a dowel driven betwix your eyes either way it s NO NO isn't it

[@lisalooft-ps2zr]

Honestly, the second story with the bride getting her face shoved into the cake, sometimes those cakes have wooden dowels in them to stabilize the layers. He actually could have seriously injured or even killed her if a dowel went into her head. He got lucky with just a divorce

[@QUEERVEEART]

thank you, that fact always horrifies me

[@marieh185]

When I was getting married I told my soon to be husband that I did not want him to shove the cake in my face or up my nose or anything. He said, "Oh, but it's funny when people do that." I said, it's not for other people, it's for us and I'll feel dumb and messy and uncomfortable. Luckily, unlike this weirdo, he wanted to be married to me more than he wanted to make other people laugh at me. The people in these stories are crazy!

[@cherylanne6549]

I am extremely claustrophobic. My heart is racing at the thought of having my face held in a cake. I would never give that guy a backward glance as I ran away.

[@supotter377]

I am so claustrophobic that I have broken several necklaces when I panicked from not being able to get them off. If someone did that shit to me they would have a few broken bones.

[@theultimatereductionist7592]

I STRONGLY sympathize!@@supotter377

[@anachodiev3076]

I am from Belgium and it is a tradition for the bride and groom not to spend the evening/night before the wedding together. Mostly - even when you already live together - both go their respective parents home for the night before the wedding. It’s actually quite exciting to be separated and rediscover each other as husband and wife on the big day!

[@NellFace]

I'm in the US, and maybe it's just in my friends and family... but everyone I've known (brides including myself) spent the night before the wedding with their bridesmaids. I found it weirder that she spent the night *alone* before her wedding.

[@dianaolivia2947]

In my country, the bride and groom aren't supposed to meet for 40 days before marriage. In the 40 days, there's a lot and lots of traditional ceremonies, and the brides are being pampered by her families and the spas are being booked by her families for her to do the pampering, for 40 days, so that she can has the glow in her wedding day.

[@jeanams07]

This is thevtradition in the US too. Sometimes it will be with their parents and sometime it will be with the wedding party (bride with bridesmaid's and groom with groomsmen), since they will all be getting ready together the next day any way.

[@jenniferlisow2901]

I live in Michigan & it's not uncommon for the bride & groom to not spend the night together before the wedding. I spent the night at my bridesmaid's house.

[@chelsiemilstead4069]

@@dianaolivia2947That is incredible

[@WickedLovely121]

🤣🤣🤣🤣 "I am more nervous than a blowfish in a basement full of balloons" HILARIOUS!! 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@areneesouder]

How could you ever trust someone again, after they've shoved your face into a cake, especially after expressing that you don't want that, plus all the costs, and the work getting ready for the wedding. I think heading straight for divorce is the exact answer. No excuses.

[@user-xe4rt3dd6t]

He's declaring himself a sadist.

[@red0421]

He's also risking her safety shoving her head into the wedding cake like that. Layered cakes (which wedding cakes typically are) tend to have supporting rods in them to keep the layers together. A LOT of people have had to go to hospital due to facial injuries from these rods after getting their face shoved in a cake. You can have nerve damage in the face, possible blindness in one eye or even lose the eye and if the rod pierces far enough into your brain? You can have brain damage or even death. Sounds dramatic I know, but it's the truth.

[@ASavageEye]

@@user-xe4rt3dd6t he is declaring himself as someone with a sense of humour and he is the lucky one because now he is not stuck in a marriage with a woman who hates his humour.

[@pathetic-traveller06]

​@@ASavageEyeIf someone is telling you not to shove cake on their face but you do it anyway then don't be surprised if they're pissed.Not respecting your partner wish even though they kept telling you to not do it is not playful or having a sense of humour.

[@carmy2155]

@@ASavageEye did we watch the same video? The woman has severe claustrophobia after having been in a car accident and that’s why she didn’t want her face shoved in cake - because it reminds her of said car accident which was traumatic enough to leave her w a phobia. This wasn’t a “oh it’s not funny!!” thing, this was a “please don’t do something that I find traumatic” thing and he couldn’t even respect that. The husband was a dick, plain and simple.

[@SLP828]

My first husband said something about me being in it for "the money". Mind you we had separate everything, bills and bank accounts. I had been a pretty successful model so I told him if that were the case, I would've went for someone with real money. He never said that sh*t again. 😂

[@adaaaaa777]

My ex was the same , saying something that women only want money etc ,while he never even bough me anything apart of cheap bday gift, and was so broke in general. So I asked him if women are so about the money , then why I'm with him while he's so broke? He shut up. It's true want they say (and Charlotte said), that those who accuse for gold digging have no gold at all🤦🏻‍♀️

[@GameChanger597]

It's not very smart of them to not have already assessed the situation knowing you were doing well on your own already and that he wasn't wealthy to begin with. What an embarrassment saying that out loud and then getting checked for it lol

[@SLP828]

@@GameChanger597 Truth ! 😂

[@ACollectorNotAHoarder]

Every time your husband expects you to cook or clean, you should mention that it seems like he's "in it for the free domestic labor."

[@SLP828]

@@ACollectorNotAHoarder I divorced him and have a good one now 😊

[@boogoodie]

In the first video, my husband was exactly the same. I got pregnant as soon as we got married. My husband was horrified, even though we agreed to start trying from our wedding day. It was more a symbolic thing for me, but I fell pregnant right away. I was thrilled, my husband was totally aggressive about it. He never forgave me for falling so quickly. He was cold as ice from that point. Like I had any control when I would fall pregnant. We had been together for 8 years before we got married, so having a baby right away wasn't a big deal, for me anyway. After that he was just like that bloke in your first video. I felt like I was a homeless person, that had no money. I had to ask his permission for any money or if I could go out, which was usually no. As far as he was concerned he went out to work, so all the money was his. Didn't matter that I cleaned house, cooked dinner, cared for our son, did his washing and everything in between. Needless to say after 4 years of marriage, I left with our son and haven't looked back. On top of all this he was abusive with me and my son. He was only 3 when I left my ex and I raised him alone. I've never remarried and never will. I like my own company and my own money, choices and peace. I answer to no one and love it. Relationships are pointless and overwhelming. Living under my own rules and choices, I will never give up. I have my son, 25, and my 2 Cavalier King Charles spaniels, that's all the love I need and it's unconditional. ❤❤❤❤

[@charlotteargabright409]

Sounds like my ex

[@marianpower6711]

Well done,glad your both doing fine,.😍😍

[@serahloeffelroberts9901]

What you describe is slavery and that is against the law. I'm glad you are now free.

[@jpbaley2016]

It may have taken three years of his abuse but you developed a shiny, stainless-steel spine in the process. One thing though, it really wasn’t you getting pregnant that changed him. This is what he was always like and he used you being pregnant and having a child to double-down his perceived ownership of you. Many women in the same predicament also indicate how different the man was when dating and how controlling, manipulating, and abusive ( financially, mentally and/or physically) they became after marriage. Glad to hear you escaped and made a long and happy life without him.

[@toulousegoose1150]

I'm so proud of you for getting out; both for you and for your son.

[@I-dont-want-to-]

Would love to see merch that says, "How are you not EMBARRASSED!?" One of my favorite things Charlotte says.

[@Lovie1313]

The AUDACITY!

[@Amy_the_Lizard]

That's a great idea!

[@trijniet]

& HELL NO

[@autumn1734]

& Absolutely Not!!!!

[@kasm_nME]

​@@autumn1734yes! I find myself thinking this in her voice often😅

[@grahvis]

The last one reminded me of the court case where a wife admitted attempting to kill her husband seven times. In court, the husband stated how he never realised the spark had gone out of their marriage.

[@akherousia]

He had the spark so he thought she had it too. Clingy people don't realize that others have their own feelings and emotions.

[@ellencook1658]

😂

[@shawnycoffman]

Oh good gravy... 😆😮‍💨

[@Authenticallyathena]

Lmao, she tried to take him out 7 times and he didn't realize the spark was gone? How damn disconnected was he?

[@vilena5308]

@@akherousia Sounds like one of The Addams family movies...

[@stacie1199]

From someone living with ptsd, his minimizing her anxiety and disrespecting her boundaries is a very big deal.

[@Good.Morning.Petty.Potatoes]

Morning Petty Potatoes! ❤ My mom dumped her first husband because he started treating her like a servant/50's house wife. She had a full time job, was raising 2 kids. She didn't have time to wait on him while he just sat around watching tv. She divorced him within a month.

[@lady_p5897]

⁠it's 6pm where you are at. Not where he/she is. Please

[@andreaturner7207]

@@lady_p5897agreed

[@korosilverwolf]

@@Trix-fn9ih not sure youre old enough to be on the internet if time zones is a concept you havent encountered yet.

[@georgiasam8045]

Well, it is morning for a lot of us.

[@Lav_Pixie2007]

Why are y’all so pressed abt this lmao

[@cookiekun7595]

The cheating girlfriend story give me the biggest "I can fix her" vibes.😂😂😂😂

[@jeanams07]

Or he is so insecure and codependent that he will completely destroy and sacrifice himself to not have to be alone. It's really sad. I've been there with ex-boyfriends, but I always ended up leaving when they eventually betrayed my trust to the point where our relationship wasn't salvageable and thankfully never married them. Despite being engaged 3 times, lol. Fortunately I eventually got my shit together and worked through my childhood abandonment issues and insecurities. And as a result my incredibly supportive, loyal, and all around awesome partner and I will be celebrating 10 years together in December.

[@emilyseger1421]

Or she’s insanely good looking. I have seen this happen over and over again. Francesca from all those Netflix dating shows comes to mind.

[@Kait-tee]

😮I know someone lk this! His gfs have psych issues (no joke)

[@mumplaysthesims8396]

Absolutely 💯

[@kathydurow6814]

Hero complex. Hope he's learned/gets therapy.

[@shaylataylor9525]

For the schwarma lady, good on her. She read his behavior like a book and saw all the red flags immediately. she saved so much time.

[@daphne8406]

I am from the Netherlands and we are notoriously «frugal» (or cheap) 😝 The thought of someone wasting such an expensive cake by shoving it in someones face will make my whole family clutch their pearls and get their pitchforks ready. Even my dear old granny who went through the hunger winter of 1944/1945 would rise from her grave to do some serious haunting because of that food waste! 👻 Also, it is dangerous (dowels in tiered cakes) and disrespectful to the max when someone explicitly told you not to do that 🤷‍♀️ Yup, now the cake is trash and so is the spouse.

[@Flinabin]

Yep, same in France !

[@obnoxiousbluebird6634]

I remember I was at an event, and some people were trying to get me to "hook up" with this guy there. They told me he was 22 years old and still a virgin and they just couldn't figure out why because he was also an official millionaire. I talked to the guy a bit to be polite. He wasn't a BAD guy, but he had low social awareness, zero respect for anyone he saw as "beneath him", a very monotonous personality, zero interests. When these people asked if I was going to hook up with him I said no, and they were like "what the hell is wrong with you girls?" and I replied "Wow, it's almost like it's bullshit that women are all gold diggers, isn't it?"

[@JINXIENG]

🤣🤣🤣 I can imagine the looks on their faces when said this

[@unclericosfootballcamp2854]

Sounds like he was a bad guy

[@morganablackwater2017]

Change people you hang out with... If they too dumb to figure out he is the one whos the problem I think they should go 🤣🤣🤣

[@abiean222]

@@morganablackwater2017 seriously, if every girl is rejecting him, then obviously he is the problem.

[@Marilyn2401]

That sounds like a made up story to get laid tbh

[@dagmar9019]

I had the same conversation with my husband about the cake. I told him if he did than I would leave the wedding. He didn’t and the wedding was great.

[@brigitteschultz1552]

Husband and I didn't need to have that conversation, cake smashing just didn't happen. Married 30 years when he passed away. Miss him every day

[@hardboiledmahoney3273]

My husband's idiot friends kept telling him to push my face in the cake. I told him AND his friends that if he did, the lot of them will be taken out of the reception hall wearing toe tags. He didn't do it.

[@michelleelmore3974]

@@hardboiledmahoney3273I love that because let me tell you not only would my dads side of the family tried to take out the groom if he’d done that my bridesmaids would’ve cussed them out and tell them to stfu 🤬 ! This ignoring your partners one request going into a wedding is a huge red flag 🚩

[@stevensiferd7104]

Regarding the guy trying to get his wife to sign the divorce papers: If she continues to ignore him, he should show up at her wedding with the papers and a deputy sheriff. When the minister asks if anybody objects, hubby #1 should interrupt and tell her that she either has to sign the papers now or the deputy will arrest her for bigamy the moment she says "I do."

[@dunyazade]

Epic!

[@irairod5160]

No, I would wait for her to say "I do," and THEN arrest her. 😈

[@mkmk1993]

At a family wedding, there was a fun cake fight at one of the pre-wedding event. I wasn’t there but I know it was done in good fun, and lots people were taking part. One of my cousins got cake in her eye and has affected her sight ever since. So yh, cake in the face has consequences!

[@morganablackwater2017]

Its also wasting food

[@TheWestlandgirl]

Its also low class. I mean srsly? A cake fight?? 🤨🤯

[@pearpo]

It is not over reacting to be humiliated at your wedding. Exactly. It’s hatred.

[@moonbounce17]

My husband has always known that if he wants me enjoy an outing there needs to be food 🤣 I respect that first lady.

[@LazyIRanch]

I had to look up shawarma to see what kind of dish it is. Oh honey! She was right to leave him! Shawarma is a lot like Greek Gyros but served with pickled vegetables instead of onions and tomato like the gyros. Looks delicious! He really had no excuse not to buy her one!

[@VongolaChouko]

@@LazyIRanch It's extremely cheap too. It's not like she asked for some 5-star bullshit dish that can make anyone broke with just a single bite.

[@toulousegoose1150]

​@@LazyIRanchIt's delicious. If there's an Arab restaurant around you at home or travelling give it a try! It's kind of like BBQ but with different spices. The Iraqi version is my favorite. Their bread is flat but it has the texture and chewiness of a bagel.

[@stephs3098]

Love you Charlotte! My ex called me a gold digger after I broke up with him. He put me in debt and I had been supporting him for over a year and a half after he got injured.

[@what_equals_42]

Sounds like he was just projecting.

[@DM-ll8kl]

​@@what_equals_42I second this comment!!

[@stephs3098]

@@sparklemotion8377 dumb and in an emotional (nearly physically) abusive relationship. Turned out fine in the end. Wouldn't have met my SO and moved to a house we own far away with our second kid on the way. Sometimes shitty choices get you where you want to be 😂

[@moodmeditation4458]

@@sparklemotion8377 Fear of being called golddigger? It's women's right after marriage for her husband to provide for her and their new family women are put through 9months of labour for.

[@kinnkitz8011]

Second story about the cake actually made me think back to a Dating Sim I found on Steam that has a moment in the DLC Wedding Day where this is brought up in the planning steps of your wedding. It’s called ‘Our Life: Beginnings & Always’ and as mentioned before it’s a Dating Sim game. If you decide to get married then you get to meet up with a wedding planner that helps out but he has a strict rule about boundaries and if your partner says they don’t want their face in cake and the other partner wants to do it anyway that the wedding planner himself would call off the wedding 😂 it’s an awesome little bit and I love the game devs / writers put that in

[@nerdywitch29]

I love charlotte’s videos. I haven’t been feeling good lately, but watching her videos make feel better.

[@therealdachshunddjangosmom]

Hope you’re better very soon❤

[@CharlotteDobre]

I'm so glad!

[@Just1Nora]

Sending you positive energy, friend. ❤ I hope your situation improves.

[@jeanams07]

Same! Sending a massive amount of healing energy and big hug your way. I know how tough this time of year is, mentally and physically for so many.

[@xantallfarwood]

This reminds me of the story from my mother's first husband. One Sunday morning she was getting ready to go grocery shopping, her husband hadn't been home for 2 weeks. He did this mom believed she had to stand by him, whatever. When her front door came whipping open. Her best friend storms in and yells; "Have you seen the paper?!" Before my mother could answer she continued. "Clearly you haven't because I got here first." She proceeds to slam a section on the Sunday paper down and there is a picture of my mother's husband and some young woman announcing their marriage. Her father was some rice farmer and really proud his girl found an upstanding man to marry. They were gonna have a blow out wedding. Mom looked at her best friend and sighed getting up. "Thought I was gonna have a day off." They got in her friends car and drove the hour to the woman's house/farm. At the door they met the farmer and his daughter. Mom's husband wasn't there. Holding up a photo of my 5 siblings (I wasn't born yet) mom said; "Look hunny if you want him you can have him but you need to have him file divorce papers first and sign complete custody of the kids to me." Mom said it got super quiet as the farmer got red in the face and the woman was holding back tears. Obliviously they didn't get married and her first husband showed up at her house 3 day later with a black eye and several bruises.

[@drksmdbdjdbsjdjndjssefikdm414]

This is the best story I’ve ever heard 😂

[@BayouBarbie504]

Good for your mama and the farmer and his sons I’m sure!😂

[@mimicleveland7607]

So sad they did not have pigs or a wood chipper.

[@skyrocket2041]

I was a guest at a wedding, were the bride went nuts at the reception, ripped her wedding dress from her body revealing her tatas... Started when the bride decided to say an unprepared speech, proceeded to slate her mother and sister for moving to another country, basically said she's successful despite them. Never said a word about her husband, bridesmaids or anything to do about the wedding. People were stunned. Soon after went outside for air, followed by husband to see if she was okay. Gone for some time her MIL went to get them back inside because all the guests were waiting. The bride, proceeded to yell and swear at the MI. The husband told her not to talk to his mother like that. The bride flew into an even crazier rage... the husband and his mother got in a car and left the wedding while the bride was throwing chairs and smashing flowers, she ripped her wedding dress from her body reavealing her 'assets'. The brides father covered her with his jacket and baby locked her in the back seat of a car and that was the end of the marriage and wedding. All before mains were served. It was a SHOCK to say the least.

[@Spaceystace]

That was truly a spectacle , I’m sure!

[@dinasilva9263]

At this point Charlotte is an expert on weddings. At least she knows everything you should not do because all these vídeos she has to watch. 😂♥️

[@Virgomamatoacapricorn]

I found her trying to learn how to help my best friend with her wedding haha and I have learned a lot, research in an innovative, entertaining way 😂

[@adox8574]

lol not at all her takes are pretty stupid and explains the marraige and divorce rates. That being said she is still awsome.

[@mhartm93]

When I was 6 months old, I experienced a terrible trauma. For my entire life, anything that covers my nose or mouth, sends me into a panic attack, fearing for my life and seeing everyone as a threat to me. So, while it’s not exactly the same as this bride, I can empathize with the fear of being pushed face first into a cake and held down. I would’ve been terrified. If he loved you, he wouldn’t have done that. Boundaries are a must, they are important and if he can’t respect this one, what’s going to happen with something even bigger? 4:02

[@_Julia.K_]

how did you survive pandemic years with masking?

[@mhartm93]

@@_Julia.K_ Honestly? One day at a time.

[@_Julia.K_]

@@mhartm93 😔😔😔 At least it's over

[@CarnivoreChristina]

Same here. I HATE when anyone touches my nose and mouth. I freak out a bit. I would have divorced next day.

[@jet6110]

​@@CarnivoreChristina so you don't kiss people lol

[@outstretchedwings]

Knowing that someone is afraid of something and using it against you in a prank is like deliberately giving someone with a severe allergy something with said allergen in the hopes you'll "catch" them lying about it.

[@deirdrestatham5730]

I just celebrated a 14th wedding anniversary. We didn't smash cake in each other's faces. Every couple I've seen do that in the last 20 years are now divorced.

[@andreaturner7207]

Charlotte on a Saturday!!! We don’t deserve her, yet I appreciate so much the work she puts in and her team to keep us entertained!🥔👑

[@AOSwmaranda]

Well she is moving so prolly a bonus episode as she may ( with good reason ) need to not post for a few.

[@JinSakai_Kuroudo]

It’s all filmed on one day you know, these things aren’t live

[@andreaturner7207]

@@JinSakai_Kuroudoyes, it’s not live, yet the amount of work to ensure a video per day comes out takes enormous work between her doing all the reactions, all the editing, etc on top of running everything for this business behind the scenes, it’s incredible of her!

[@cheriwasme27]

I thought she posts everyday 🤔

[@harleyme3163]

we dont deserve her LOL like men NEED women... in fact the new thing is women marry men for theye money..... my best friend got nailed by one, now he's paying $700 a month for nothing... a bitch that simply said in court "he hit me" he didn't and there was no evidence... yet the man always gotta pay.. well guess what, I'm on my last legs and you wanna correct that, does she have natural gas heating ? perfect, those things blow up ALL the time.... :-)

[@starmoalitiny]

11:48 I love how adopting a puppy is included in the proof of their love story

[@annie9map]

About the separate rooms thing: in some countries it's considered bad luck to see the future spouse the day and night before the wedding, so it's not uncommon. Have a good day everyone:)

[@KTKaute]

People don't realise how much resentment builds up when you keep dealing with the same problem and they don't resolve it. Then when you finally have enough, they blame it on the one thing that just finishes it off rather than the pattern of behaviour

[@umbreoniteUwU]

That second story makes me think of my first bf. He had a well paying job, and told me he loves to use that money on other people. He doesn't buy much for himself, so he likes to help others feel appreciated by buying them things. I told him that was fine, but that i was never EXPECTING him to spend money on me, so if we ever broke up, hed better not throw it in my face, since he was doung it willingly. We were together about 6 months, and our biggest expense was our 2-week Alaska trip, where we split expenses. It was probably a 3 or 4 thousand dollar trip, and i paid about 2k of that. Aside from that, we spend money on things like groceries, a weekend trip to see a friend a few hours away, and adopting a puppy. When we broke up, he told me he had "wasted" 10k on me. A week later, when he called my crying to get back together with him and i refused, it suddenly bumped up to 15k wasted. A month later, he told me i had drained his savings of $30,000 that he had been saving for a house 😂😂 "I had $30,000 in this account and now its empty! All wasted on you!!" 😂😂

[@sarahmckee3914]

Love the new filming set you have set up! Thanks for helping me through some very dark days medically and mentally that I'm currently going through. Means the world to me

[@Fluffy-Fluffy]

Hope things will turn brighter ❤

[@StrangeFacinations]

Hope you have a great day.

[@akherousia]

I just want the flamingo back :)

[@heathercook9466]

You are not alone, my friend. I suffer from severe anxiety and rarely leave the house. Charlotte’s videos help keep me out of a depressing state.

[@NorthMountainFairy]

We’ve been married a month and a half and you DARE to ask for a beverage AND food. Outside the house?! That you didn’t make?! GOLD DIGGER!!!! My eyes rolled sooooo hard at this dude they almost stuck.

[@GypsyWahine50]

That guy who stuck his ex with his student bills.. 😭😂💀 That man is my hero & I want to be his friend. 🥰 I’m a Christian and that was petty but I would have put the nail in the coffin too. 👏🏼 Well done, sir.

[@andreaturner7207]

Merch ideas sounds fun!! I always loved: “Absolutely Noooooot!” and “May all your Delulus Come Trululu”

[@rebeccariehle2764]

I quote Charlotte all the time 🙌

[@GellaHumbug59]

And… “How are you not emBAAARRassed??!!!”

[@andreaturner7207]

@@GellaHumbug59yes!!! That would be so good!

[@darkmatter5940]

I love, "May all your delulus come trululu" 😂😂😂😂

[@AtlasAdratica]

YES!! THIS!!

[@TacseraEpSekahs]

Oh! Charlotte decorated her room so well that it actually took me couple of minutes to notice it's a new place. Looks wonderful, Charlotte, you're a gem ☺

[@susanbissell6319]

I hope Charlotte bought a house this time. From day one she had problems at the condo she bought with the neighbors.

[@jenn2839]

The student loan dept one was absolutely awesome Someone make this a movie

[@valerief1231]

Imagine being a coworker of the last guy, knowing he is attracted to the office 304, knowing she has the morality of a 80’s day time tv character. Some people really have to do everything the hardest way possible.

[@jessicaaye3738]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤺

[@badkitty4922]

I have to say that when the guy waving the big red flag said "I'm more nervous than a blowfish in a basement full of balloons." I laughed so hard that I had to rewind the video because 1: I HAD to hear it again. 2: I missed what Charlotte said afterwards. 😂😂😂😂😂

[@Louc72]

I'm so glad to see the comments condemning this creeps abuse. I grew up in a very abusive home where I was the punchbag. When you ask an abuser - no matter how gently or carefully - not to do something because it will cause you distress, they start planning how to do that very thing. They get people on board to gaslight you and tell you that you're out of order for attempting to hold them accountable (you're over-reacting/too sensitive/making a big deal out of nothing) and start to act the victim. Staying in the marriage with this abuser would have been more of the same, getting worse and worse over the years. What a strong woman to stick to her guns and get away from a "man" who would abuse her and humiliate her in front of her whole wedding crowd in this way. Nobody needs a partner in their life who enjoys seeing them hurt, anxious, upset and humiliated. I mean, what is the next thing he will shove her into? The doorframe? The wall? His fist? As for him? Hell mend him. I have nothing but sympathy for the next unsuspecting woman who is lumbered with him.

[@jtmoomin2296]

The last story..... sometimes people are so lacking in self-belief that staying with a person who treats them like dirt seems like the best they can do in a partner. Never settle for someone who looks at you as a soft landing.

[@tomntammybrown3817]

My parents had a very contentious divorce so I was determined that I would not get divorced. I almost left my ex several times before I actually finally got out of it. I should have left him the first time I almost did. He would spend all of our money and insist that I work second and sometimes even third jobs then complain that I was never home. Just because I had the college degree he felt that I should take care of him. I actually lost my profession because I couldn't take the classes I needed to take to renew my licensing. After I lost my position he actually said to me that I had to find a way to make the same amount of money that I had lost for us. I started working 3 jobs and still came up short of my former income. He refused to get a second job or a better paying one saying I just wasn't trying hard enough to find a new position in my field. I had applied all over the state, but because of the hiring policies for my profession at that time I was overqualified and couldn't find one. We would have had to move to another state to find one and he refused to do that. After a couple of years working 3 jobs my doctor told me that if I didn't get rid of some of my stress I would be dead in 3 to 5 years of a heart attack or stroke. That's when I finally got the nerve to leave him.

[@catabat49654]

Speaking as someone with personal experience in this, financial betrayal from someone close to you whom you fully trust is some of the worst emotional and psychological pain you can experience. My heart goes out to the OP in the “proxy sugar daddy” story

[@bethmoore7722]

I’m 70, so I was brought up only considering physical abuse as a problem. While I’ve experienced that, I had no idea what financial abuse was. Unfortunately, I didn’t figure it out until I’d lost nearly everything.

[@athena_cr]

Exactly, I have an uncle, he was this well off, generous, and loving bachelor, someone who would give it all for someone he loves. He met this woman and fell inlove with her, even adopted her daughter and provided for them, paid for her tuition to start elementary as well, now my uncle is very different, he couldn’t even help asking his siblings for money sometimes nowadays, and the woman cheated on him after she gave birth to their son.

[@hamstergal643]

As a single mom, i am wary of anyone willing to marry a man when they have a daughter. I am absolutely petrified of her being abused or anything and so if she is too welcoming to date you thats a huge flag. It should be a long process of moving slowly @@athena_cr

[@esmewvimes2901]

As someone who spent 10 years being gaslighted by a narcissistic sociopath, your manipulation of that gold digging tick feeding off you was a thing of beauty. Beautiful.

[@persephonerisingpisces.]

Congrats to Charlotte and Mike for getting a new place together and thank you so much Charlotte your videos make me so happy especially when I'm having hard days

[@mathilde1212]

I missed this point. when she do say ?

[@persephonerisingpisces.]

In her insta account and and I think one of the latest videos (can't remember which one)

[@hannalevy2507]

14:23 it’s actually common in a lot of cultures not to see each other the day before the wedding. In my culture we don’t see each other a week before although you can speak on the phone while others don’t even speak on the phone for the whole week prior even speaking through messengers. When I married my husband we didn’t see each other for the whole week before and it made our wedding day so much more special and exciting it was one of the best days of my life! ❤

[@jenniferwilliams9548]

I LOVE THE CASINO REFERENCE @ 6:15 !!!!! Such a great Movie/ story, one of my favorites!!! ❤

[@yukimasahiko]

My sister in law told me, her family’s tradition on birthdays is throw cake in ur face. I looked at her, and told her. “A person does that to me, that’s it” I don’t like being touched, let alone someone shoving cake in my face.

[@onerva0001]

That sounds absolutely disgusting.

[@jeanams07]

Yeah it is a weird thing in a lot of Latino families too. I have seen so many videos where someone gets seriously hurt because of it you would think they would have evolved to be smart enough to not do it anymore.

[@awg7068]

@@jeanams07 bakers use wooden sticks to keep the layers from sliding off. Very much like kabob skewers.

[@tracylangsley4064]

Congratulations in your new home I hope you n Mike have many happy years there😃

[@StrangeFacinations]

I hope eventually we hear about her wedding plans!

[@geelee737]

14:29 In the UK it is generally traditional to spend the night before the wedding apart, I believe. All of my friends have done that. Often the bride stays in the hotel or at her parent’s house and gets ready there.

[@HeVn7LaO]

The surgical resident…what a GOAT…man had stuck with long game and had won in life…less student debt lol

[@catherine-eggallergyinmd]

I'm glad my husband's best man told him it was bad luck to smash cake in each other's faces. I straight up told him if he tried that I would rip up the marriage license then and there (you gotta mail it in to make it legal)... Not that he would have gotten very far as my father and brother would have taken care of the problem 😅.

[@wiggilytaco7570]

“How deceitful someone can be” I can understand that. I’ve never been cheated on but I have seen cheaters/manipulators get sympathic sweethearts to melt. They know all the right words to say and the perfect crying face that only gentle souls feel compelled by. Something ppl like me see as disgusting, someone else sees a broken person needing help. So if you have any tender hearted friends out there, toughen them up cuz they are insanely stupid

[@CarlosDesmithy]

My cousin had a great idea for cake moment with her new husband. MOH brought out a makeup removal wipe. She took off what she had on one cheek. Best man brought Groom a towelette so he could clean his cheek. After they made a safe spot. They tapped a bit of cake on those spots. And kissed the small amount off. It was sweet and romantic. After the cake cutting bride did her makeup touch up and night went on. No drama and no smashing.

[@heatherduke7703]

Um, ew? I don’t want to watch them licking each other’s faces either… What’s wrong with just feeding each other a bite of cake?? There’s no need to jump through all these hoops to “respectfully” smear cake on their faces…

[@CarlosDesmithy]

@@heatherduke7703 a single lick does not "licking" make

[@Valerianroots]

I think it sounds sweet!

[@sunnie734]

Far too much hassle for nothing.

[@CarlosDesmithy]

@@sunnie734 I mean, fair enough. But compared to other cake smashing incidents. Or possible fiasco. This was definitely easier ont he day lol 😆

[@lenlaegrim]

No bc the first woman agreed to a traditional arranged marriage, probably with the promise of a husband who'd take care of and provide for her in exchange for all the labor she'd be required to do at home (and companionship and all of that too, but arranged marriages have a transactional vibe to me idk), and not only does this man not wanna leave the house, he won't buy her some food? When he's probably having her cook and clean for him every day?? Sir...

[@VongolaChouko]

Almost sounds like he wants a slave and not a wife, right? Disgusting.

[@kimberlyloranger8321]

That story of the bride getting her face shoved into a wedding cake by the groom feels the same as being a kid getting your head shoved under water by friends or siblings. In my case it happened once with a friend in junior high in a pool (and I was very chlaustraphobic) , but I stopped talking to her afterwards. With a sibling, he did that once when we were both under 10 yrs old; he was around 8 and I was like 5, but we're pretty grown up now and have both matured a little, so meh. I can't imagine what went through that woman's mind when she just married someone and they shoved her face in a cake when she explicitly told him not to. I'd divorce him too. And call the police. Maybe not in that order.

[@Rikrobat]

I do empathize with the OP of the last story-obviously cared a lot for someone who didn't deserve it-but I also agree that there's a point where someone is being wilfully obtuse to a situation.

[@shawnycoffman]

Agreed. Willful ignorance can be devastating. This poor thing is so full of sunshine and rainbows he shits Skittles. Very emotionally immature. I'm sure it's sweet to a point but you got to understand and know how to walk through the storms.

[@LBellatrix]

@@MMathis-cu7ewCame here to say exactly this. 👏👏 He probably didn’t think he could get anyone better-looking which was why he ignored all the red flags. I wish I could feel sorry for him but… 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@lorrainemcgrail6315]

What do you want to bet she’s hot?

[@MarshmallowCUPCAKee1]

Agreed, idiot knew she was a cheater but still somehow wanted to marry her? Dude needs to grow up and learn from this!

[@candacemattila2333]

Or he could be sexually obsessed with the cheater. The fact that she could go from man to man proves she has some kind of rizz. I found myself in a similar situation (thankfully I got out of it in 6 months) and he was VERY persuasive and backed it up with mind blowing sex.

[@sharonparker4427]

She never lets us down with a new video! I seriously am so glad I discovered her chanel. I've been a fan ever since, and I think I've watched and rewatched them several times, never fails to entertain. And one thing I notice is she actually pays attention to the situation and gives back good feedback. Some creators (not a bad thing) will read the post and then misunderstand what they read and roll with it. Never noticed this with our POTATO QUEEN! 👏👏👏🤗🤗

[@TheGreatPapyrusSpaghetti2697]

“ZERO GOLD” Is now my favorite Charlotte quote. 🤣

[@SamiMichelle]

Merch Suggestion: more options that aren’t velvet. I can’t even touch velvet without dry heaving because I have an aversion to fabrics but I’ve been DYING to get a track suit ❤

[@angelacameron4086]

In Britain is still traditional NOT to spend the night before your wedding with your partner, but with your family or bridesmaids. Maybe he's British? So it wasn't weird for her to stay elsewhere. Loving your channel Charlotte, keep them coming hun xx

[@whatisthisalgorithm]

I'm from the States and I was aware that this happens. It's an old superstition that's still a part of tradition. I'm bot sure about locations, though.

[@alisonpendlebury-brown7885]

Yup! My husband spent the night before our wedding at his parents house.

[@marchenning5037]

South Africa here also tradition not to share a bed the night before the wedding

[@tiryaclearsong421]

That's pretty common in much of the US too. Though it is considered pretty old fashioned, but the southeast is holding on to it at least. Pretty much all of my friends went to their parent's place before their wedding and then came back to the couple's shared house after.

[@SingingSealRiana]

Same in germany

[@rylandvanmeldert]

Can we get stickers that say "How Are You NOT EMBARRRASSSED" please? :) Those are such funny moments have become my favourite from you.

[@RaelynnHamilton]

My ex husband cheated on me 2 weeks after we got married. I forgave him, and he continued to cheat on me throughout our 5 years of marriage. Its definitely true that ONCE A CHEATER, ALWAYS A CHEATER!!

[@mickk8519]

You're very correct, let us get away with it once, and we will most certainly do it again.

[@cremebrulee4759]

Cheating only 2 weeks after being married is a red flag that should be believed.

[@NikkiNicole-qy2nn]

I don't think that's always true, my now husband cheated on me one time 21 years ago and has not done since.

[@Ale-yl4wd]

@@NikkiNicole-qy2nnhow do you know

[@NikkiNicole-qy2nn]

@@Ale-yl4wd because I trust him, because we share everything. He doesn't even leave the house (not even for work as he works the farm here), because he's such a homebody.

[@sally3969]

In the last story, she probably despised him more for being so desperate to get together with her despite knowing that she was a cheat. I found it really hard to empathize with him too. The ones I feel sorry for are his relatives who flew in from overseas. A waste of time and money.

[@jeanams07]

Yeah, him saying he was blindsided is nuts. He was just an absolute ignorant idiot. Enabling people doesn't change them. She obviously had no respect for him, and I can almost understand why since he had absolutely no respect for himself.

[@abiean222]

the dude had 3 examples that she wasn't a good girlfriend and he still married her! dude, she cheated on you twice! once is one thing and can be worked through if the both of you try, but twice? that there is proof that she would never change and then you went and married her! i have no sympathy for him, what an idiot.

[@RachelTV3]

I don't have any sympathy for him, he decided to start dating someone who condoned/actively participated in cheating, then to stay with her and even marry her after she cheated on him, twice. He wasn't blindsided, he was an idiot, and he got what he asked for.

[@barrymayson2492]

Relationships are like fine china once broken, you can put back together but you can't hide the craks. I have learnt this to be true even in friendships . My life is important to me and i don't have time to try and paper over cracks .

[@Mystearicia]

I am loving the new filming room for you Charlotte 😍👏🏻

[@kylaarmstrong-benjamin8066]

SAME! Loving the colors and the chill vibes ❤

[@CharlotteDobre]

Yay! Thank you!

[@Birdbike719]

Looking forward to a tour of the new house (but, of course, only if you want to)

[@baileybrian9560]

i once got into an arguement with a guy because i wanted to send money to an ex, but it was specifically for a vet visit for the dog because her ears were swelling up and she needed an emergency vet visit my ex couldn't afford, and i loved that dog

[@moonhunter9993]

I think it's ok if the guy knows...

[@daisy9910]

You were up front about it. If it was your money, then that's your business.

[@alesabelen1558]

the dog is an entirely innocent party that needed medical help, you were in the right to send the money

[@starrusleton7803]

I posted this on another post earlier, I find it funny you asked this 😅 MERCH IDEAS INCLUD; 1.)TURKEY JUDGE, WIELDING A GAVEL AND THAT HAS YOUR HAIR 2.) YOUR TINY (toy) HANDS And of course 3.) A "ARE YOU NOT EMBARRASSED" SHIRT/HOODIE and 4.) A "MY FLABERS ARE GASTED" SHIRT/HOODIE xD Xx

[@anakaliaeastwood]

My husband did the cake thing to me at the reception after I BEGGED him not to when he kept joking about it. I should have ended the relationship right there because his disregard for my feelings and happiness became par for the course during our marriage.

[@Tiffany-bl4ly]

yeah same for me 😞😡

[@user-xe4rt3dd6t]

It's like they're declaring who they really are. Too bad so many women feel pressure to stay.

[@daisy9910]

Lesson learnt I'm guessing. I hope he's out of your life now.

[@anakaliaeastwood]

@@daisy9910 I filed for divorce 4 months later. :)

[@daisy9910]

I'm glad to hear. I hope you're living your best life.@@anakaliaeastwood

[@malibuurayne4663]

My mom was upset I watched this video by myself she got super dramatic and said “How dare you take away the one thing that makes me happy”😂😂😂

[@Midorikonokami]

Aw Hun, that's her bonding time with you! She probably looked forward to it all day. Have a tiny bit of patience next time ok 💖

[@malibuurayne4663]

@@Midorikonokami she meant in a joking way lol we mess with each other a lot she acted like she was gonna faint lol

[@Midorikonokami]

@@malibuurayne4663 awwww, that's so cute 🥰

[@Katniss2009]

It is customary in traditional weddings, especially in the Catholic church, that the bride and groom spend the night before the wedding apart. They are not supposed to see each other again until they meet each other at the altar. Thats why the bachelor and bachelorette parties used to be after the rehearsal dinner the night before, and all the bridesmaids would stay with the bride, and the groom his groomsmen. But in more recent years no one does the party the night before the wedding anymore because they prefer to actually make it to the wedding and not be puking into a toilet bowl all day.

[@rosemarybelore6622]

Congratulations on your new place with Mike 🎉 Your new room is so big! Plus no neighbours telling you to quiet down 🙄🤣 Love your channel and look forward to watching your reactions to the videos lol Have a great long weekend and Happy Remembrance Day Lest We Forget 🌺